Inner freedom is a state when, under any circumstances, we choose what is good and suitable for us. And the mirror of our freedom is relationships with other people. How to free your soul from the negativity that limits inner freedom and learn to be happy? Let's talk about this today with Angela Kharitonova, a practical psychologist.

I am a serious person, I work, I have a wife and a son. In a day I manage to do so much, change my mind, go through so much that I come home squeezed out like a lemon. And here I need to check my son’s lessons, watch the news, I worry about everything that is happening in our country and in the world, prepare for the next working day - thoughts do not let go for a minute. Now many people are talking about inner freedom, joy from life, about hobbies, traveling ... How can you carelessly flutter and enjoy life in our time, when you literally live according to a schedule, you only allocate 6 hours for sleep? What kind of freedom are we talking about?

Peter, 43 years old, Tula.

Probably, we cannot be 100% independent of circumstances, living in society, having a job and a family, but our inner freedom can approach this figure. The question is how much a person needs this freedom. Many people like to be dependent on someone, on various circumstances, because then you can not take responsibility for your life, you can complain, suffer, suffer - and life will seem full. But in this case it is filled with negative emotions, stereotypes and dogmas, as if a person carries a huge backpack with bricks and is afraid to throw them away, because he considers them necessary. What kind of lightness and freedom can we talk about here? Inner freedom is when we discard the beliefs that we created 10-20 years ago and live according to the call of the heart. When we consciously choose emotions and states, we do not judge ourselves or others, we do not divide people and events into good and bad, when we stop thinking only about ourselves. Many live in a constant desire to "be", "appear", "fit", which makes them terribly unfree.

Why do we need freedom?

For many, freedom is associated with permissiveness. Freedom is needed not for this, but to live your own (not someone else's!) life, experience inspiration and live creatively, joyfully, in order to be happy and share happiness with others. Imagine the world as a single organism, where each person is a cell that receives nourishment from this large organism and serves it. The world cannot be perfect, but the world, like a person, is just and right. If we are free, we can live in unison with this "organism", take the energy of inspiration from it and do the right things. And feel contentment and happiness from it.

How to get rid of negative conditions

We should not assume that our reaction to events is predetermined and we have no choice. For example, we are told something unpleasant - we feel resentment or anger, we lose some thing - we inevitably worry. And few people know that we can choose our emotions and states, we can give up resentment, anger, etc. These reactions are just a habit. But you can break any habit and form a new one. First, first find a few life beliefs for yourself that will help you relate to people and events in a different way. Any life events are always needed for something, always reasonable, we just do not immediately understand their meaning. Therefore, do not be disappointed if something did not happen the way we wanted: the plans of the Universe are always wiser than ours. Second - just make a choice in any situation, how you react. Even if you have already begun to experience negativity, you have the opportunity to change everything at any second. And when you learn to control your emotions, you will have a special taste of life. You will automatically choose joy, happiness, harmony, gratitude, love, and you will no longer be able to choose negativity. You will be free from a huge heavy burden.

How to get rid of intrusive thoughts

Negative thoughts immediately lead to negative emotions. They thought something bad - the emotion automatically turned on. To prevent this from happening, learn not to take all thoughts seriously. There are important thoughts, there are empty ones, about everything and nothing, but there are harmful ones. Harmful ones usually arise when we hang some labels on ourselves, people and events, divide everything into black and white and become not free in behavior. Try to be different, expand your range of behavior. Learn not to judge people. Nobody! It's none of our business, really. Do the same with events. Something good can come out of something bad, and vice versa. Accept life as it is. Life speaks to us in the language of events, and each is needed for something. Observe events, research them, learn from them, but don't judge. By learning to accept everything as it is, you will become even more free.

How to get rid of limiting beliefs

Often limiting beliefs begin with “I (shouldn’t)”, “I never/I always”, “I can’t/can’t”, “right/wrong”. Watch your thoughts. Perhaps some of the beliefs are no longer relevant to you, but you still follow them. Write down your beliefs on paper and analyze. Replace the word “should” with the word “want”, if it doesn’t work out, then it’s time to change your belief! Ask yourself the questions: “Is this really true?”, “Always?”, “Could it have been different?”, “When did I have this belief?”, “Is it relevant now?”. Reevaluate your beliefs. And the more beliefs you soften or abandon altogether, the better. This does not mean that you will become irresponsible, just that you will be able to act adequately to the circumstances. I'll give you an example. A frequently ill child, for whom his parents were worried, put a label “I am in poor health” on himself. And now he is 40 years old, except for acute respiratory infections and the flu, he was not sick with anything, but he is still convinced of his poor health and panics at the slightest runny nose. Or - a guy in adolescence formed the belief "girls don't like me." The “guy” is already 35, he is a courageous handsome man, he has a good job, but his personal life has not yet worked out - low self-esteem and distrust of women have played a role.

If you let go of negative thoughts and emotions and limiting beliefs, you are free! And, believe me, they will definitely be replaced by joy, happiness, inspiration, love of life.

Independence and the desire to be yourself. These topics worried me all my youth and all my subsequent life… Freedom?!? Where are you? When will I be free and happy?

I fought for everything I could: for the freedom to have my own opinion, for freedom from restrictions and rules, while creating new rules and frameworks for myself ... I fought ... With whom? With what? With windmills invented by me, I fought, in fact, with myself ... With my desire to live, to desire, to love, to be here on Earth, just to live ...

I fought for freedom, not realizing my true freedom, limiting myself in this freedom, constantly focusing on an illusory lack of freedom ... Such discord occurs when we refuse to recognize responsibility for our lives and do not want to honestly look inside ourselves.

Living with my mind, like Don Quixote, I fought with windmills, thinking that freedom is in external conditions and in order to be happy it is important to change these conditions and then the long-awaited feeling of freedom and joy will come ... And so, in my zeal and resistance, I reached to the very edge, when my mind was quiet and inner devastation came ...

There is a state of surrender and a desire to feel compassion and love for yourself.

Love for myself… This was the beginning of my freedom… Freedom was for love, not for struggle. And it was for me to open up to a new feeling of love, love for myself, love for life, love for my manifestations and desires, for my body and all my choices ... And this became the shortest way to realize freedom within myself!

I have finally discovered my new freedom. She didn't have to fight anymore! It turned out that she was always inside me. I happily began to dive into myself and discover inner treasures and diamonds! It became easier and easier, and the feeling of inner freedom settled in my heart forever, or rather, I just remembered what it is to be free, revealing many images and getting to know everything in life anew in immersion in THAT.

What is freedom now for me:

• Freedom to choose what thoughts, feelings, states to live as your experience.
• The freedom to accept the freedom of choice of other people.
• Freedom to be yourself. Show your individuality and charisma, allowing other people to express their uniqueness and uniqueness.
• The freedom to be honest with yourself and others.
• Freedom to realize responsibility for your life and the realization of all your desires.
• Freedom to live from the heart! Be spontaneous and flexible and accept life as it is!
• Freedom to love yourself. Respect and recognize yourself as different.
• Freedom to live in the present. Let go of your past by accepting the benefit and value of all your past actions with gratitude.

“This is all wonderful,” you say, “but what if you are up to your neck in the lack of freedom and limitations of the mind and society, where to start now?”

5 steps to inner freedom from anywhere in life

• 1. Any experience we live begins with a decision to live this experience, with a choice, even an unconscious one, but a personal choice. Therefore, the first is decide to live a free and happy life! Allow yourself this at the level of feelings. With the help of this you can do it comfortably and easily.
• 2. Reflect on how honest I am with myself on various issues. Honesty is a powerful tool for all your transformations and improvements.
• 3. Freedom = responsibility for your life. Responsibility is the wings of freedom and joy in our life. Start taking more and more responsibility for your life every day and give yourself time. This is a process. Be patient and compassionate with yourself.

The habitual way of thinking will sometimes return, and here it is important to smile, accept your feelings without hanging in them, and switch to choose new thoughts that inspire you. I know for myself, feeling free, you understand that you can move mountains! After all, by taking responsibility for a particular situation, you automatically recognize your power to change it!

• 4. Reflect on your energy unity with the world and see the relationship of your inner state with what you have and receive from life. Everything always comes from the inside out.

It is not easy to admit that if a neighbor swears at you or the key is broken in the keyhole, this is a continuation of your internal state and discontent ... However, honestly admitting that it is you who create everything in your universe, you turn your attention inward and begin to consciously choose thoughts and feelings like the building blocks of your life. You are the builder of everything around!

• 5. Only out of love for yourself, make all the new actions and all the choices that will allow you to anchor your results and intentions in the physical world.

Go in for sports, dance, enjoy sex, read inspiring books, participate in trainings and communicate with interesting people, and just live, living each of your experiences, realizing the freedom of your choices in all manifestations of life!

Remember, you are the most important person in your life.

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The concept of freedom includes many aspects: free will, social freedom, philosophical questions. In this article, I will touch only on the psychological concept of freedom.

What is inner freedom? What prevents you from acting in accordance with your desires and needs, and what to do about it?

inner freedom- this is the ability of a person to make a conscious choice in various situations, which is determined by his needs, his understanding of what is needed. This choice should be based on awareness and be only your own. It seems to me that the best films or books (there is a rating) are united by the desire for inner freedom. When the hero, despite the obstacles, takes an important step in harmony with himself.

Sometimes inner freedom is associated with detachment, indifference to what is happening around. It is rather a psychological defense, ignoring, avoiding problems, rejection of what surrounds, inability to adapt and interact. A person needs emotional contact for happiness - this is his basic need. This means that avoiding such contact cannot be a blessing, no matter how sophisticated individualism justifies it.

There are no independent people. Everyone has obligations. Being internally free does not mean ignoring your obligations towards others. Conscious necessity compels them to follow. The desire to give back the money that he borrowed coincides with an inner conviction and does not limit inner freedom in any way.

But there are things that are not accepted internally, introjects received in various ways from other people that have not become their own beliefs. Most often they are from childhood from parents or other significant people. They dictate how to act or react in different situations. And then a person, like a robot, is programmed for reactions and actions. He wants to do it differently, but something (usually unconscious) prevents this. It's like someone else is doing it for him. He does not choose and does not have inner freedom.

Mom tells her daughter - stay at home, there are many dangers and bad people on the street. So she is saved from her fears for her daughter. School, institute, only the most necessary communication. The daughter successfully carries out this installation, and by the age of twenty she does not know how to communicate at all, she is afraid of being among people. She is dependent on this life scenario, it leaves her no choice, limits her inner freedom.

There are such restrictions in the life of every person:

• the framework of morality, imposed from the outside and not accepted internally,
• parental "don'ts" are like red flags you can't jump over,
• addictions, with the help of which psychological trauma is recouped,
• traditions,
• false beliefs,
• fears...

You can not do it this way. And why, exactly? Maybe this is someone else's "no"?
The more restrictions - the less internal freedom.

Often such a limiter is a comparison:
The neighbor has more money, he is cooler.
My friend has a better figure.
I know less, I will not be accepted in this company.
Comparison takes a lot of energy. A person is constrained, shy, if he considers himself worse - or arrogant, aggressive, if the other seems weaker. However, the opposite also happens. The main thing is that the motives of behavior are controlled by their own complexes. It doesn't matter what others say or think. They are basically concerned with the same thing. The main thing is internal harmony.

Sometimes interests overlap and a compromise needs to be found. My freedom ends where another's freedom begins. You have to get along somehow. A free person respects someone else's personal space, because for him it is a value.

It is easier for an adult to defend his rights. But parents are not chosen. Children have to pay for their mistakes in education. The mother decides to fully devote herself to raising her son, sacrificing her personal life - and for the son to properly adapt in the world, a harmoniously developed adult is needed nearby, and not a victim. The tyrant father suppresses the will of the child, deprives him of independence - as a result, the ability to hear himself and make decisions does not develop. Yes, the starting conditions are different, but everything can be overcome, if there is a desire.

The importance that is sometimes attached to actions in life can interfere with the decision. A young woman realizes that she does not want to live with her partner, they are just completely different. In addition, she endures physical and psychological abuse, and the situation does not change for a long time. Divorce is the only reasonable step. But divorce is too serious a step for her. Behind this is the false belief that marriage must be done once and for life. Her grandmother told her about this, raising her finger and very significantly. Without taking this step for many years, she suffers, depriving herself of possible happiness, losing precious time of her life that cannot be returned. Every day is unique.

Dependence lies on the other pole of freedom. Dependence on someone else's opinion fetters, reduces the number of behavior options. "Everyone does it, it's customary, and you should." It is very difficult to overcome this imposed from the outside. Advertising hammers in the choice of goods, services, even people.
You need to dress like this - it's fashionable.
The car must be expensive - this is an image.
You need to relax in the Maldives - it's prestigious.
Is it necessary for a particular individual? The flow of information is overwhelming. It is worth listening to yourself, understanding your true needs, making your own choice. This is inner freedom.

The smoker is addicted to the cigarette and as long as he smokes he has no choice whether to smoke or not. But there is a choice to quit smoking. The fewer dependencies, the more options to choose from. The smoker in the break will go to smoke, while the non-smoker has different options. The first step to overcoming any addiction is admitting it. By getting rid of addictions, you expand your space of inner freedom.

Sometimes it seems that there is no reasonable solution. This is the result of the work of internal "taboos". Search activity helps a lot here - active behavior to find a solution in the face of uncertainty in the result. There is always a choice: accept the lack of a solution or continue searching for it. Inner freedom presupposes the existence of a choice, which means that if you put up with it, then there is no more freedom.

"Success is the movement from failure to failure
without losing enthusiasm.
W. Churchill (Nobel laureate in literature, by the way).

All great accomplishments include a phase of failure. But search activity sooner or later leads to the achievement of results. Without it, inner freedom is limited.

Inner freedom, like freedom in general, requires courage, as it implies responsibility for one's life. For many people, this is an unbearable burden. E. Fromm writes about this in his book with the telling title "Escape from Freedom".

Freedom implies responsibility. These concepts are inseparable. It's easy to be irresponsible. There is no need to make decisions if you trust a god, a ruler, a wife, or a neighbor. Then you can just go with the flow, nothing depends on yourself, you don’t have to answer for yourself, and there’s no need to talk about any freedom. Yes, and I don’t need it - someone will say - and so it’s normal. And that is also a choice. To each his own.

Some decisions are easy, others cannot take a step without evaluating this step from all sides. It seems to them that they must certainly take this step correctly. However, there is no objectively right or wrong for a person., if we are not talking about moving towards dependencies. He is both an object and a subject at the same time. Any external view is superficial.

From the outside, it seems that a successful doctor who suddenly quit a prestigious clinic and began to make and sell dolls has committed an absurd act. But if you consider that she dreamed about it all her life, and entered the medical institute at the insistence of her parents, then the picture changes. Now she is finally doing what she loves and enjoys it every day.

It is difficult to find and comprehend your limitations, but the process is greatly facilitated and accelerated if you can successfully deal with at least one. There is an experience of success that gives rise to confidence. To circumnavigate the globe, one must take the first step, says Chinese wisdom. Thus, "squeezing the slave out of oneself drop by drop", the space of inner freedom is born.

Isn't that why we feel joy when someone overcomes his limiter before our eyes and makes a free choice? A classic example: the film "One Flew Over the Cuckoo's Nest" where the final episode is a symbol of a breakthrough to inner freedom. Such moments give rise to experiences that help to rethink the episodes of one's own life, giving a special, incomparable feeling of flight, insight, a sense of one's success.

A person who has inner freedom is characterized by a light, perhaps slightly ironic attitude to life, and also a sense of humor. Remember the phrase of internally free Munchausen:

I understand what your problem is. You are too serious.
A smart face is not yet a sign of intelligence, gentlemen.
All stupid things on Earth are done with this facial expression.
Smile, gentlemen! Smile...

A free person lives in harmony with himself. He does his favorite job, he goes home with pleasure, because a person close to him is waiting for him there, he can change his life if something goes wrong. He has a space of choice - inner freedom. There are such? Of course there is, and there is always something to strive for.

In the world, not everything is in the hands of man, life is finite, there are tragic accidents. Sorrow and loss cannot be avoided, and the happy also weep. It is an existential given, it cannot be changed. But within your life there is always a choice. Inner freedom brings you closer to the understanding of your destiny, allows you to feel the world in its entirety, this is finding yourself real.

This, in our opinion, should be the goal of education: the inner freedom of a person. Raising internally free people, we bring the greatest benefit both to our pupils and to the country striving for freedom. There is nothing new here; take a closer look at the best teachers, remember your best teachers - they all tried to educate free ones, that's why they are remembered.

There are no independent people. Everyone has obligations. Being internally free does not mean ignoring your obligations towards others. Conscious necessity compels them to follow.

If you do not understand what conscience is, then you will not understand an inwardly free person. Freedom without conscience is a false freedom, it is one of the most severe types of dependence. As if free, but without conscience - a slave to his bad aspirations, a slave to the circumstances of life, and he uses his external freedom for evil. Such a person is called anything, but not free.

Notice an important difference: it doesn't say that he's not free from his conscience, as is commonly said. Because there is no conscience. Conscience and their own, and common. Conscience is something that is common to each individual. And what is is rejected by the soul. So I rush about ... in any decision I will be uncomfortable.

For people, freedom is the fundamental basis of life. It is glorified, glorified, a lot is said about it, and people are ready to sacrifice a lot for the sake of touching this state. Someone really succeeds, and the person is transformed, shines with love, joy, light and goodness, and for someone it becomes a horizon. A person constantly strives for it, sets new goals, achieves them, but there is no joy, happiness does not come. Happiness is not temporary, because it is not happiness if, with a change in external conditions, it ceases to be such.

In fact, it is inner freedom that is real freedom. Inner freedom is such a state of a person in which, under any circumstances, he is free to choose what is good for him. What is a free man not free from?

real life and freedom from the past

In order to know what real life is, a person must first of all know the real himself. This is, first of all, inner freedom, which gives an extraordinary perception of life and the surrounding reality. Quiet, calm, measured, coming from within, from an internal inexhaustible source.

True freedom is the freedom that leads to a world where there is no death, where there is no pain, where there is no suffering.

After all, then their image sits deep inside, and we are used to using it in any life circumstances. Until they grow up, because caring parents and strangers begin to teach them the norms of behavior. Often, according to my observations, it looks like this: "Don't do this, otherwise everyone will laugh at you now." And the kid who heard the groovy music at the bus stop has to stop dancing to the beat, because it's embarrassing and those around him will look at him, and even laugh.

But we recognize it by the sense of justice (with - the truth), which each of us experiences when life is true. And everyone suffers when justice is violated - when the truth is violated. Conscience, a purely internal and at the same time social feeling, tells us where the truth is and where the untruth is.

To recognize oneself as a slave is unpleasant, uncomfortable, painful for pride, but without this one cannot find inner freedom. Conscience forces a person to adhere to the truth, that is, to live with - the truth, in justice. You take care of your loved one - because you love and appreciate him, but where is there even a drop of freedom and what is it expressed in?

Finding inner freedom ~ Self-development without tricks

Just after returning from vacation, “shaded, looked from a distance”, thoughts come like this: self-development should not go along the path of breaking oneself, but along the path of as much liberation as possible. But for some, in order to realize this, it is necessary to go through life alone more often. Tyrant - the father suppresses the will of the child, deprives him of independence.

Dependence partially deprives us of the right to choose, limiting our actions and opportunities in general. On the path of self-development, this is a significant obstacle that will prevent you from breathing deeply and boldly declaring that you are a free, conscious person. I recommend reading several articles that I devoted to this particular topic: “How to get rid of gambling addiction”, “Gambling addiction” and “Alcohol addiction”.

And in order to weaken the overseer, you need to be strong. Strong in spirit. Be aware of and control your aspirations, desires and other motivations.

If a child does not know oppression and learns to live according to his conscience, all worldly, social skills come to him by themselves, about which so much is said in traditional theories of education. In our opinion, education consists only in the development of that inner freedom, which even without us exists in the child, in its support and protection. This is the main thing in education.

Sometimes inner freedom is associated with detachment, indifference to what is happening around. Rather, it is psychological protection, ignoring, avoiding problems, rejection of what surrounds, inability to adapt and interact. A person needs emotional contact for happiness - this is his basic need.

The importance that is sometimes given to actions in life can get in the way of a decision. In addition, she endures physical and psychological abuse, and the situation does not change for a long time. Divorce is the only reasonable step. Without taking this step for many years, she suffers, depriving herself of possible happiness, losing precious time of her life that cannot be returned.

Still, the recipe for self-development outlined at the very beginning in general is much better! Perhaps more difficult to perform, but at the same time simpler in essence and more natural. A reasonable, conscious attitude to life makes legions of techniques and "secrets of success" unnecessary.

The inner freedom of a person, a sense of harmony is the need for a happy and fulfilling life. According to the rights, every citizen has the freedom of choice, self-realization, but do we feel it? Often in the turmoil of events we cannot feel freedom - the possibility of self-expression, inner flight, independent choice, absence of fear.

How to find inner freedom? In the article we will consider the concept of a free person, how to find harmony within yourself?

Inner freedom of the individual

The problem of inner freedom is as old as the world. For many centuries, people have been striving to know their essence, peace, to find freedom, harmony. Why do we often feel like prisoners of life, we refuse opportunities, we are afraid to decide on changes, to go towards new discoveries? Freedom is a life choice, you can live by the rules of others or find your own way, act at the behest of your heart.

A free person is distinguished by courage, confidence, the presence of a clear life position, and causes respect. Such people often become leaders, help others understand the world around them, find a calling, values.

Limiters of inner freedom - thoughts, prohibitions, negative attitudes, fear. Often we drive ourselves into a “dungeon” on our own due to disbelief, lack of positive thinking, presence of complexes, negative attitude towards ourselves, the world.

Life is the same for everyone, But still we see a special world, From the existing obstacles,
The strongest of all is the shackles of the soul.

Negative thinking and attitudes distort the picture of life, exaggerate and present everything in gloomy colors. But there is always a way out: to discover the potential, to "learn to fly", to strive upward.

The book Jonathan Livingston Seagull by Richard Bach will help you understand and feel inner freedom. The main character is Jonathan the seagull, he strives to learn how to fly higher than other birds, but the flock does not support his aspirations, why strive upwards, be like everyone else. But faith, a burning desire and constant training work wonders. He became free, learned to fly, and later taught wisdom to those who wanted to find freedom.

The book carries a special spirit of freedom, everyone can fly, the main thing is to believe. The inner freedom of a person is the rejection of negative assessments of others, the ability to live one's own ideals and goals. It's better to make a mistake than to live a life that isn't yours. It is important to find self-expression: sing, dance, draw, reach your horizons.

The path to freedom is the path of untraveled paths, understanding one's own inner world, the ability to live, overcoming fears, complexes, the opinions of others. The inner freedom and lack of freedom of a person depends on the ability to go beyond the usual, to think outside the box, creatively, to understand the world around, to feel the flight. A "free seagull" lives in everyone, we often do not let it into the sky, preferring a titmouse in hand.

How difficult it is sometimes to overcome all restrictions, limits, to follow the dictates of the heart, to get off the ground, to fly towards dreams and goals. But everything is possible.

How to become a free person?

1. Take responsibility for your own life - a free person does not depend on circumstances and environment. Rather, he creates them. He goes his own way, chooses what to do, how to act? He clearly understands the goals, strives for them, realizing that obstacles are only the wind, he cannot break, interfere.
   If you blame life and others for the difficulties, there will be no progress, it is important to understand your own role, the ability to control and manage events by changing attitudes, thoughts, actions.
   How to take responsibility? We can influence life in different ways: minimally - by creating positive thinking, internal attitudes, maximally - by helping with actions, decisions, making life choices.
2. Open inner potential - freedom of expression allows you to find hidden talents, learn new things. All restrictions are illusory, the boundaries can be expanded indefinitely. Great people were able to go beyond, overcome fear - make discoveries, strive to realize their abilities, dreams. Often, new ideas are met with a misunderstanding of society, and the desire for change does not resonate with relatives and friends. And years later, when a person succeeds in undertakings, they are proud of him. You should not rely on others, faith must live in the heart. People did not believe in the possibility of flying devices, that the Earth revolves around the Sun, and did not suspect the possibilities of satellite communications. Life is changing at a great speed, we can contribute to the development of society, leave a mark on history, science, creativity. A person becomes free if he follows the call of his heart, strives to realize his abilities, open up new opportunities. You need to live here and now, realize your full potential, discover inner freedom, forget your fears.
3. Fill life with meaning - awareness distinguishes a free person, knows why he lives, strives for his own goals. Understanding personal aspirations, purpose, you can make a free choice: how to live, what to do, justify your life position. It is important to define the mission and life goals. If you set true global goals, then the achievement will be more interesting. The meaning of life is in knowledge, freedom, self-realization, helping people. Everyone is looking for a way to fill the days with meaning, to be useful to society. Society would be ideal if everyone lived according to their calling, did their work with soul and love. It is not necessary to change the field of activity, you can fill it with new meaning, meaning. It is not the work that makes the man, but the man the work. A sincere, cheerful and highly developed person can improve the lives of others, regardless of profession (doctor, teacher, psychologist, coach).
4. Learning to enjoy life - awareness of freedom is associated with the ability to rejoice, to see the beautiful side of life. Live in this moment, give up suffering, worries about the past. Oriental sages are always smiling, positive, radiate happiness and peace. He who knows life, understands his own role, can calmly enjoy the sunset, birdsong and the rustle of leaves. The opportunity to live is given once, why use it in vain for suffering, it is better to learn how to receive joy. Happy is he who keeps score of gains and not losses. Give thanks for all the good things and you will be able to achieve more. It is worth noticing the best in yourself - everyone has talents, strengths, achievements. A lot of opportunities are hidden in a person, it is worth believing in yourself, unlocking your potential, filling it with the power of thought and action.
5. To develop immunity to troubles - gaining inner freedom comes when the outside world cannot influence the state of inner peace, happiness. By abandoning negative reactions and thinking, you can build a new life. We often live in circumstances, but inner peace is more important than minor troubles, they are often not worth attention, loss of strength, energy, experiences. A calm and philosophical outlook distinguishes a free person from an ordinary person, a person with inner freedom is ready to calmly accept any situation, endure adversity "It makes no sense to be offended by the weather, it's better to put on a raincoat and take an umbrella." Events are like a background or screen saver, and our attitude gives them color: thoughts, emotions. It is better to develop a calm and positive attitude, why be offended by something that is beyond our control. Working on ourselves, we change the world. Why let troubles at work, traffic jams or negative statements affect oneself, mood, state? A person becomes free and invulnerable if he does not accept the negative sent by circumstances, people. Internal protection - ignoring the negative, self-confidence, one's own actions. Calmness is the highest power, it is not necessary to prove the case, it is enough to act in accordance with personal principles and let others live their own lives. This is the freedom and strength of the individual.
6. Calm attitude to mistakes, failures - it is not always possible to immediately achieve what you want in life. Often you have to fall and rise, some give up, others keep going. Only strong-willed and self-confident individuals are able to work miracles, amaze with indomitable will and achievements.

Mistakes are normal. The qualification of a specialist is determined by the presence of damaged equipment, the number of errors. They allow you to gain experience, become wiser.

Those who do not back down in case of failure, who are looking for ways to come to their dream city, win. The absence of self-criticism and criticism distinguishes a free person who understands: I have the right to make a mistake, I can not always be right. This is wisdom and understanding of life. There are no ideal people, but there is an opportunity to become even better, learn new things, develop abilities, gain knowledge. The wise perceive experience as a teacher, and even in unpleasant situations they see the positive side.

Each failure is a step forward, an invaluable experience of life. One day, all the knowledge gained through mistakes will help you create your new reality, achieve your highest aspirations.

So, what should be a free man? A self-sufficient, self-confident person, accurately understanding his life path, aspirations, having a positive attitude towards life, people, himself. For him, there are no restrictions, the impossible, they act and focus on the maximum result.

Inner and outer freedom are distinguished by a person's sense of self. You can actually be free - live in a free country, your own apartment, have the opportunity to choose, but not feel freedom, feel the constant pressure of society.

The inner freedom of a person is the result of work on oneself, the ability to understand the world around, to live in harmony with oneself. It is difficult to change others, it is better to change yourself and your perception of life. It is useful to get rid of negativity, internal complexes and restrictions that do not allow you to take off, reveal your potential, live in accordance with your desires, principles, ideas.

What does it mean to be free? Seeing only one reason for your joys and failures - yourself, abandon negative assessments, determine the main goals, go to the necessary results regardless of circumstances, events, assessments. A free person does not torment himself with experiences, does not suffer from a complex of guilt or imperfection, accepts himself as he is. Self-respect is an important character trait, the principle of life.

The level of inner freedom depends on the ability to implement the basic principles. You can strive for self-knowledge, the discovery of talents, development, positive thinking, awareness. But the lack of immunity to trouble or criticism will negate the positive aspects. Only the presence of all the criteria allows you to feel calm and free, nothing should disturb, cause anger, annoyance. Calmness is a great strength, and together with perseverance they create invincibility.

Of course, it is difficult to live without emotions, and fears and worries can undermine us from the inside, disturb our spiritual balance. How to find inner harmony? Let's take a closer look at how to find inner freedom, minimize negative emotions, find balance and peace in life.

Harmony in human life

Harmony within oneself is the highest art, the ability to generate happiness, to remain calm in difficult situations.

Inner freedom as an awareness of the need to put things in order in one's soul, no one but a person can make him happy, free. Why do we feel a lack of freedom - the conditions and way of life, the restrictions of society, the opinion of parents and others? There is a feeling: you need to fight for freedom, defend the right to live by your principles. As a result - stresses, neurosises, depressions, experiences.

How to be? Stop proving, just live, everyone has their own truth, it's impossible to be good for everyone. Of course, it is difficult to ignore relatives and friends who can dictate their terms, offer or impose a solution to the issue. Politely thank for the help, explain your choice, in time they will understand. Often parents try to realize their dreams with the help of children, offering their ideals, while each person is an individual, should be able to choose the path of life.

How do people protect their inner freedom? There are several reactions - protest, evidence, counter-arguments, non-cooperation. Feeling external pressure, the desire to impose an opinion, there is often a desire to challenge one's position, to prove the opposite, to convince, often we strive to avoid influence, to refuse the help of an annoying seller, relative.

Over the years, awareness comes: a person takes into account only information that is close to him, understandable. Everything that is against his position in life is rejected, therefore disputes often end unproductively, everyone remains with his own opinion. A free person does not seek to prove his truth to every barking dog, but acts according to his ideals.

Personal harmony is associated with the ability to understand oneself, to accept one's pluses and minuses, to refuse self-criticism and accusations. We can make mistakes - this is normal, the main thing is the presence of a basic line of behavior. A confident person rarely doubts for a long time, knows what he is striving for, what brings joy, positive emotions. The barometer of happiness, the correctness of actions is our internal state. Acting badly, we feel remorse. Good actions, results, interesting activities cause enthusiasm, inspiration.

It would seem that everything is simple: you need to live according to your conscience and use your will to achieve goals, to realize your life mission. However, there are also emotions that interfere with happiness, peace of mind. Negative emotions include: resentment, anger, aggression, envy, despair. How to learn to get out of a negative state, fill yourself with positive energy?

Harmony in the soul and life is impossible without self-regulation, the ability to control emotions and thoughts. Usually it seems to us that circumstances are the cause of emotions: disappointment, sadness, sadness, anger. But if you look closely, then different people react differently to similar situations, which means that we can choose emotions, a way of reaction. How? Controlling thoughts, directing in the right direction.

In the case of feeling negative emotions, it is worth understanding the reason for their occurrence, why do I think that this situation is worthy of sadness? What do I think about it? You can even write down thoughts, make an analysis. Most likely, internal attitudes, a negative attitude prevent you from objectively assessing the situation, seeing the advantages and opportunities. It is important not to succumb to emotions, but to make a decision - what is useful and what is harmful. Negative emotions undermine peace of mind, cause diseases at the physical level (Louise Hay). Therefore, experiencing anger, sadness, envy, at least, is harmful to health. It is better to cultivate acceptance of life, people, love for yourself, the world around you. Positive emotions give strength, inspiration for new achievements, feelings of happiness.

It is difficult to avoid negativity, but it is important to learn how to transform it into another energy. The following algorithm will help:

1. Realize the harmfulness of emotions - why do they help or hinder the solution of the issue? Understand the cause of the occurrence (thoughts preceding the appearance of an emotional reaction).
2. Find a refutation of negative thoughts, evidence of their groundlessness, tune your mind to a different wave.
3. Use mood-boosting anchors: music, walking, socializing, singing a song. Everyone has their own way of influencing mood.
4. Feel at first a neutral state, later - a positive attitude towards life.

The inner freedom of a person is the ability to maintain a calm state of mind, refuse to perceive negativity close to the heart, and not allow external circumstances to disturb peace. Everything is fine, everything is going as it should. You can always find a way out, a solution. Calm, just calm.

Emotions, logical thinking often come into confrontation - it is impossible to experience and think at the same time. It is better to turn on logic, and turn off harmful emotions so that they do not interfere with life. Breathing exercises, meditation and yoga are also useful for self-regulation.

The harmony of life, love is the goal and dream of anyone. It often takes years and decades to realize and understand oneself. How to find inner harmony, learn to accept yourself, life, feel freedom?

Basic principles of harmonious life:

1. We choose our own life- every day we have many opportunities, roads, and only we make decisions ourselves: how to act, react, what to say. Responsibility for your life gives you the opportunity to feel your strength. Personality is stronger than circumstances as long as they do not affect it. And positive thoughts and actions help to attract success and achieve what you want.
2. Ability to live now, enjoy life- a free personality, living in harmony, knows how to live slowly, feeling every moment. It is useful to walk slowly, examining the plants, peering into the distance, and not to run all the time, late for the bus. Eating is also better, like in a restaurant, savoring the food, relaxing, enjoying the moment. Life is short, so why not indulge in more joy? Live it at the highest level.
   Yes, the speed of life does not always allow you to make pauses, but they are necessary, in between work you can go out, get distracted, look at the world with a fresh look, feel the moment, joy, forget about worries.
3. Method of "switching", self-regulation- to increase concentration, vitality, it is useful to remember childhood or youth, the peak of energy, the state of success and joy, health. Immersion in pleasant memories causes the necessary state of mind, inner mood. Pleasant pictures of the past or music that evokes positive associations also help to switch. ("Method is the key. Unblock your possibilities" H. Aliev.)
4. Rejection of negative attitudes- a harmonious personality does not accumulate complexes, negative attitudes. It is important to learn to find advantages in yourself, to use the maximum strengths, to find advantages in shortcomings. Even people with physical disabilities, injuries can be happy. It all depends on the inner feeling of the world, the ability to see the bright side of events, the presence of fortitude.
   Giving up worries about the future and the past will help you live in the present, fill life with meaning. Most of the experiences are in vain and groundless, the future is unknown to anyone, and the past is already part of history, it carries only experience and wisdom.
5. Ability to love yourself and life- a free and harmonious person accepts himself, understands, is open to the world, life. She does not expect gifts of fate, the love of others, but she herself brings light and warmth - she knows how to support, understand, share joy and bitterness. Such people radiate love, kindness, attract good circumstances, become the soul of the company, best friends.
6. In a healthy body- a healthy mind - light physical activity increases vigor, improves overall health, mental stability. People who are fond of sports suffer less from stress and anxiety. Sport is a great way to release negative energy, switch to another productive wave, and increase overall energy.
   Even walking or running significantly improves health, state of mind.
7. Having inner strength- the guarantor of a happy, harmonious life. The inner freedom of a person is the ability to be strong, confident, which does not allow succumbing to manipulation. A harmonious personality lives by its own judgments, does not follow the lead of others, strives for its own goals.
   A free person does not impose his ideas, but he knows how to resist pressure, is immune to influences and opinions.
8. The ability to forgive- a harmonious and free personality does not accumulate resentment. What for? There are more important things than being offended by someone, trying to sort things out. There are many beautiful, interesting things in the world, there are things to do, goals. Grievances take peace, lead to diseases, neuroses. It is important to be able to forgive yourself and others. Everyone has the right to make a mistake. Let go of resentment, move on. Often people who criticize, accuse themselves are unhappy, have lost their peace.
9. Independence- to gain spiritual peace and joy, it is useful to develop your own assessment of life and actions. We often wait for the approval of society, the support of others, but it is more reliable to rely on ourselves, to be able to notice good actions, achievements. Man himself - his salvation, can elevate and overthrow his achievements. It is important to notice progress, successes, mentally rejoice at every step forward. Even gratitude is not worth waiting for, just doing good deeds.
10. Pursuit of dreams- for harmony it is important to be able to dream and set goals. Our ideas and aspirations are the signals of the subconscious, we can achieve more if we make due efforts. Most desires can be realized if fears and prejudices are discarded. It is important to learn to believe in yourself, to go towards your dreams.
    You can learn to sing, dance or play musical instruments at any age, learn a new profession, discover opportunities. The main thing is to think about how to realize dreams, where to apply your abilities, talents? The inner freedom of a person is an achievable state, which is compared with "reasonable egoism." A person lives by his own interests and ideas, while not harming himself or society. Rather, on the contrary - it helps, inspires, is an example for others who have not yet gained freedom. We wish everyone to find inner freedom and harmony in life!