How I started to change my life. Go to bed at the same time

Good afternoon friends! Elena Melnikova is with you. Have you met absolutely happy people? Those that sparkle with a joyful smile and illuminate the world around with their eyes? There are few of them, but they do exist. I hope this article helps you become one of them.

Absolute happiness, which is based (based) on harmony with oneself, the world and the ability to gratefully accept everything that exists, is not only a gift, but also the daily work of the soul. This is the ideal we all aspire to. But the most important thing to understand is that our happiness is in our hands.

The components of happiness, of course, each has its own. But in any case, one cannot do without accepting oneself - one's personality and way of life.

Does everyone live the way they want? Alas... A lot of restrictions dictated by a sense of duty, financial problems, failures and stereotypes regularly build us a line of obstacles on the way to a dream. And we, resigned, continue to bend under the weight of discontent.

Humility is a good quality. And it, too, is a gift and spiritual labor. But, as the “Prayer for Peace of Mind” says: “Lord, give me peace of mind to accept what I cannot change, give me courage to change what I can change, and give me wisdom to distinguish one from another” . Therefore, do not forget that, in addition to humility, life is given to us for development and change. For the better.

“Man is created for happiness, like a bird for flight” (V. G. Korolenko). “If you want to be happy - be it” (Kozma Prutkov).

We simply must hang these words at the head of our bed and confirm them with daily efforts to bring them to life. No pessimism. Without distrust in their own abilities. No fear of failure.

Phrases about the comfort zone, like a cocoon, twisted from stereotypes and habits and, like a web, dragging us into everyday life, have already become commonplace. I don’t feel like it, but I have to repeat them over and over again so that everyone thinks: “Is this how I want to live? Am I happy? Are you satisfied with the status quo? And what gives me true joy?

Do not think, I am by no means saying that our daily life is an annoying routine burden that needs to be thrown off as soon as possible. No, everyday life around us can also be beautiful, if only you merge harmoniously with it.

But, if you still feel that you live in discord with yourself, do not have the opportunity to realize your potential and as if you are living someone else's life, it's time to act. Boldly and decisively!

So how can you change your life for the better? Remember (what a sad word... No, don't forget!) your main dream. Tell yourself where and with whom you would like to live, what to do, what to think about before going to bed. Have you spoken? Now start walking towards your dream in small (or immediately large) steps.

To help you, I will give three stories from the lives of my friends. These people were able to step out of their comfort zone, challenge their habits, and set out to meet their desires. Some of them I have known for several years, some for several months, but well enough to admire their courage and readiness for change.

So, the first story, slightly reminiscent of the tale of Cinderella

Alyonushka was born in an ordinary Nizhny Novgorod village in a friendly large family. Life never spoiled her, and therefore, from the age of 15, Alena got a job. At first it was a part-time job as an administrator in a children's center, night shifts in a grocery store, then employment in a cafe, and finally, in a beauty salon and a fitness club.

By the age of 23, Alena was the administrator of a large shopping center and had several dozen people under her command. She liked the work, leading people was her vocation. Along the way, she worked as an administrator of a beauty salon and had the opportunity to look great for little money. But she knew it was temporary. I wanted more.

Life in Nizhny Novgorod, despite the closeness of relatives and the abundance of friends, seemed boring to her. Moscow more and more often beckoned our heroine, and one day she took a one-way ticket.
This story is not about how Cinderella conquered Moscow. This is a story about how Alena was looking for herself.

In Moscow, after wandering around friends for a month and eating more than one dog in search of rental housing, a brave girl found an inexpensive apartment in the center and a neighbor with whom they shared the rent. All this time she was looking for a job, but did not grab the first offer that came across. It must be a dream job. One for which it was worth going to the metropolis.

Finally, the girl got the position of project coordinator in a website development company. She had to learn a lot of new information and join a difficult team. However, if Alena coped with her duties perfectly, then the team was not easy. The superior men made it clear that, in addition to direct ones, Alena needed to perform some more duties. Alena did not bend.

The desire to change something in her life again bit her desperately. But the wise office worker endured two years to gain the necessary experience, and then changed jobs. Simply put, from customers moved to their own customers.

The new job gave much more satisfaction, but could not withstand the difficult economic situation. Department after department was closed. Alyona was made redundant.

And then, at one fine moment, circumstances (oh, great word!) developed in such a way that Alyona's skills helped her find. More precisely, the work itself found it. A friend, and part-time partner, recommended Alena to the contractors of the closing company. The salary was half as much, but the opportunity to work without visiting the office attracted me more than any money. Now Alena was engaged in Internet advertising.

Together with a new job, the girl traveled to her parents in the village, to friends in the country, and even to the Netherlands for an internship (yes, remote workers do have internships). With remote work, Alena was able to organize her working day in accordance with biorhythms, desires and habits. I started practicing yoga and found time for business English courses.

But the story doesn't end there. Remote work instilled (or, let's say, finally instilled) in the girl a love of freedom and gave her an understanding of the optimal organization of the work process. And Alyonka does not have organizational skills.

So, our heroine, having calculated all the risks in her mind (and whoever does not risk, you know yourself ...), organized her own company to create websites and related services. The business is developing, but, most importantly, it brings moral satisfaction. And it's worth it!

Elena comes from a small town in the Ivanovo region. Her father was a teacher, loved animals very much and even went on business with a tame piglet. Since childhood, Elena dreamed of working as a veterinarian.

But, when it was time to go to college, her parents explained to Elena that a veterinarian is an extremely unprestigious profession and she would have to settle in the village forever and “twist the tails of cows on the farm.” Elena went to the pedagogical one.

Elena is an excellent teacher. Children love her for her conscientious work and cordial attitude. But life in a service apartment in Nizhny Novgorod did not appeal to a lover of nature and fluffy animals of all stripes. She and her husband already had a house in a small semi-abandoned village.

Near the hut, rebuilt from something for many years (and gradually turned into a two-story house), unprecedented flowers were already blooming, and future homemade blanks were growing. And one day chickens settled there.

And then it went like clockwork. Following the chickens, rabbits started up (it all started with one pair), then the incubator started working, and all this was clearly going to spend the winter. At first, Elena and Alexander visited their pets every weekend.

Each trip was perceived as an exciting journey to favorite places. And later, when Alexander retired, the couple decided to permanently move to their beloved village.

By that time, the children had already grown up, but the animals required more and more trouble. And the zealous owners decided to completely move to the village. Elena did not wait for her retirement. Instead, she made a suitable schedule for herself at work and travels to work in a city 120 km away every 4 days.

The city is tiring, but at the same time it is a place for buying feed and marketing agricultural products. And it cannot be counted, because sheep, goats and pigs appeared on the farm, and the total livestock has grown to such an extent that the number of “all together” is incalculable.

And let it be necessary to get up, as they say, before dawn, even if in the evening a pleasant ache is felt in the body, but every day the spouses meet with joy, and the children try to come to the village every free minute.

The third story is fantastic.

Sometimes, to find your way, you need to deviate sharply from it.

Anna is a very young girl, she is only 19. She grew up in Tatarstan. At the age of 17, she moved from her native city to the capital of the republic. She started her career from the bottom, but then in a large company. At one fine moment (and again an accident?), the manager urgently needed a person to replace him. Anyuta was given the following conditions: if she copes, she will remain in office. Anya did it.

By the age of 19, Anna held a high position in a well-known automobile company. The salary was enough to rent an apartment in the center of Kazan and not deny yourself anything. But the flip side of the coin - work for wear, the almost complete lack of time for sleep and rest - made itself felt. Increasingly, Anna asked herself the question: in the name of what is all this? The neurosis grew.

One night, Anya turned on the TV and watched a film about a woman who, in a critical situation, went out into the field, shouted everything that had accumulated in her soul, and after that she got her life back on track.

The way out has been found!

Without thinking twice, Anyuta threw on her coat, grabbed a handbag and called a taxi to the nearest wasteland. The starry sky and the cold March night awaited her revelations.

At dawn, Anya walked to the house. The road was as silent and deserted as it had been at night, but the silence was the backdrop for condescending insights. Anya understood: now she wants to fly away.

The rising sun found Anya at the airport. Anya flew to the Crimea. Not coming home. Not collecting things. Not saying goodbye to anyone. And that's why the director's call was so far away ... So far away that Anyuta has not yet written a letter of resignation. She just left.

Arriving in Simferopol, literally, in what and with what she was (there was a passport, a pack of cigarettes and 5,000 rubles in her purse), Anyuta began to live according to the laws of countless romantically inclined vagabonds: fleeting acquaintances, a complete separation from reality and boundless fun.

Having received free time, Anya learned to appreciate every moment of it. Now she began to listen to herself and think about what kind of lifestyle suits her.

Friends took Anya sometimes for several weeks. But there came a moment when it was necessary to leave the most hospitable houses. Anya was not afraid. She was free as the wind. Without money. Mom only topped up her mobile account.

About the difficulties suffered on the way (and it was both rain and cold), Anna says this: “I spent the night in the most beautiful and picturesque places on the south coast and ate healthy food cooked in spring water.”

The most interesting thing is that the things that Anya sincerely needed came to her by themselves. People gave her summer dresses, a swimsuit, shoes, a blanket and even a tent. At that moment, when we met and sunbathed in Foros, swimming goggles (and this is not a metaphor) sailed to her - this summer's dream.

Anna: “My path was beautiful and unique. I was accompanied by mountains, the sea, beautiful people, animals and birds. In addition, music accompanied me.
I received my harmonica as a gift in Fox Bay, where I learned to play. I played music on the embankments, which brought me enough money to buy food and cigarettes. I did not feel poor and unhappy for a minute.
Six months ago, at the beginning of my journey, I would never have thought that tens of thousands of kilometers of walking and hitchhiking would change my world SO drastically.”

Miraculous facts only confirm the idea that with the disappearance of the usual comfort, new opportunities open up for us. You just need to know how to use them.

Anyuta used it until she understood what she wanted from life: she would create and share her experience with others.

In August, Anya returned to her homeland. Competently prioritizing, she thought about choosing a profession (which will certainly be associated with creativity), and is currently going to go to China and India for inspiration. And I firmly believe that she will succeed.

These three beautiful women have left a deep mark on my life. Each of them knows what he wants, and firmly goes to his goal. And, if suddenly the goals change, each will be ready for a sharp turn. But all these goals can be reduced to one - harmony with oneself and happiness.

People who have changed their lives, despite fears, stereotypes and their own insecurities, are themselves changing for the better. At a minimum, they become more open, bold and determined. In addition, adapting to a new situation forces a change in thinking, improving its flexibility and expanding horizons. So, it's definitely worth a try.

I myself have repeatedly had to turn life 90, and sometimes 180 degrees. Break your own stereotypes, radically change your views and principles and, most importantly, follow them.

Therefore, I developed some algorithm of actions for a cardinal upheaval in fate:

Drop all fears. If that doesn't work, think about your biggest fear and make sure it's not so bad after all. (For example: the worst thing that can happen if I change jobs (move to another area) is that I will have very little money. But this is not the worst thing, because in a pinch I can get a job in such and such a position, but in general, I write articles (and some of you bake cakes or sew clothes) to order).
Don't know where to start? Take the first step. Convince yourself that this is only the first step, which will not affect anything, does not oblige you to anything, and, in which case, everything can be ended here. In fact, your first step affects a lot, and by taking a step, you will move to a new level of consciousness and achieve your own goal, which you can no longer refuse. Moreover, if you are on the right track, then see for yourself how everything starts to work out from the first step. In the future, of course, there will be difficulties, but the biggest difficulty - to decide on changes, is already behind us.
Treat the difficulties that arise in your path as tests and tempering of character. Believe that all of them were sent down to you in order to show your true capabilities. In addition, do not forget that overcoming obstacles, coupled with drastic changes, in no time relieves depression caused by routine and everything that develops against its background. Proven in my own skin!
When most of the way has already been covered, there is no point in stopping. But it always makes sense to adjust plans along the way. The main thing at the same time is not to break the contract with the dream.
Ask the Lord for help in business. If you don't believe in God, ask people. Support, advice, a small favor. Ask and it will be given to you.
Praise yourself for small but significant accomplishments. Think further. Think about how things can be improved. And believe in success.

Be happy, dear readers! Don't be afraid of change!

Many people tend to complain about their existence. But it is better to think about how to change your life. There are hundreds of ways to change your life.

You can learn how to change your life in 7 days. And you can choose a program for 21 days. And for someone, even three months is not enough to change something in their life.

Change your life, don't listen to others. Instead, read the stories of people who broke the rules by raising their standard of living and turning their dreams into reality. The desire to change your life is part of success. By giving themselves the “change your life” attitude, people change reality and understand how to change their lives for the better. Those who gave chance a chance to change themselves:

Feel happy;
It is not a problem for them to change their lives in 4 weeks or 21 days at the age of 50;
Do not be afraid to change the dream of a lifetime;
Charge relatives with positive. This will help the power of the subconscious or information about how to change life.

These are just some of the factors that indicate that you definitely need to change your life for the better. Every inhabitant of the globe can change the situation, to achieve the desired result, you just need time to change your habits. To start changing yourself, you should tune in to the right wave. And also decide how to change your attitude to life and become a happy person. After all, everyone wants to have a good business, overcome bad habits, overcome laziness and change the situation and the course of history.

Do not rely on chance, do not be afraid to leave your comfort zone. After all, meditation, a properly tuned brain can change the fate of the young, and life after 40 years can also become better. Learning to change your life is easy, but it takes time and good stories. Change your life, and you will understand that it is very simple to become happy, both for a man and for a girl.

How to think to change your life for the better

As already mentioned, everyone has the opportunity to change their lives. You can change your life in 3 months. But, many people think wrong. The power of the subconscious or how to change life is a very important information that those who want to become different must master. No amount of money, power and other material goods will make a person happy.

The one who has not a penny behind him can change his life with the power of thought. . And everyone who has already traveled this path will confirm this. After all, life can really be transformed even in a month.

Where to start

The first thing to do is to reconsider your reality. Surely, in your life there are many positive moments. Perhaps, under the veil of stress and worries, you have lost joy? Sometimes meditation helps. In general, meditation helps in many ways.
You can regularly listen to songs that have changed the lives of many people. It takes time to understand them.

How to be financially successful

For work to change lives, you need to seriously think about the following factors:

Is that the niche you work in? Perhaps you need to change your lifestyle and occupation.
Can the current job bring the desired income, which means that it will change your life.
Are you ready to give your personal time in full, so that development in this niche will help change your life.
Get out of your comfort zone. Only this will help change lives and give impetus to career growth.

You need to teach yourself to think positively not only at home, but decide for yourself where to start good thinking within the walls of the office. For example, if there are people in your environment who you don’t like, then you can draw them in the form of some kind of wonderful fairy tale hero. Place the drawing in the workplace, and then looking at a funny face, these people will not be so annoying.
It is also worth leaving the comfort zone within the walls of the working atmosphere. For example, forget the constraint and get to know colleagues from other departments. The more people in your environment, the more reliable and stable the business will be. Regardless of whether you are an owner or an employee, in any case, changing habits, you are sure to find ways to change lives.

How to start working on yourself

Working on yourself is a much more difficult process than changing the life of another person. Of course, there are 100 ways to change your life, however, knowing them is not enough in order to achieve serious changes. For knowledge to be effective, you need:

Visit the training "Change your life", as well as "The power of the subconscious or how to change your life." Seminars will help set the brain for the upcoming changes. Women and men change their perception of the world dramatically after such events.

You can listen to stories about how successful people today were able to reach heights and radically change their lives.
Get out of your comfort zone in all areas of your life. From day one, when your brain is ready to change, do something you've never done before. There are a lot of ways to radically change your existence, so everyone can choose their own.
Read books that give advice on how to tune your brain and become stronger to change your life once and for all and never look for the causes of injustice.

Before you start thinking about your own mistakes, you need to decide on the question of how to find the strength in yourself in order to complete the path of reincarnation into a person who is able to become happy, not relying on chance, but sculpting fate on your own. After all, once in a thousand, a life-changing event can happen.

If you have already decided how to change your life and have drawn the strength in yourself to change what prevents you from existing normally, start acting, do not wait for the right moment.

The best moment to put your life in order is now.

So change your world before it's too late. And tomorrow you will tell the story of “how I changed my life for the better” to all your loved ones. At this point, you will already understand what exactly changed your life.

None of these reasons are "lethal", but they often prevent us from making such necessary "reforms". Your enemies:

Fear of change;
Reluctance to leave the comfort zone;
Fear of instability, lack of confidence in the future;
Fatigue;
Fear of failure;
Fear of not being good enough;
"No time";
Too many things to do;
The expectation that the event we need will happen by itself;
Perfectionism;
Lack of knowledge on how to do it (anything).

"All this is nonsense."

Yes, the fear of failure, the fear of change, discomfort and uncertainty is real. But that's not enough reason to do nothing. Each of these fears can be overcome. And Leo and millions of other people dealt with them. You are no worse than anyone else, that's all.

Yes, you are busy, tired, overwhelmed, you don't have time.. yes, we are all like that.

“I would get up at 5 a.m. for a run or to write something for a blog, because I would know that I would be doing something else at a later time. I wouldn't have had more time or energy - but I was motivated and I was prioritizing. You can do it too."

How to change your life? How to face fundamental fears?

Here are a few steps to help you achieve your goal.

Find a purpose. You probably know what it is, but it doesn't hurt to describe this goal to yourself again, and keep it among your most "main" thoughts. If you don't have a goal, let's find it right now! What would you like to remember at the end of your life? What would make you think your life was meaningful? What will give your life meaning? If there are no answers to these questions yet, it is worth spending time looking for an answer. Go outside, take a walk and think about it.
Embrace your desire. Feel it. Isn't it great that you have it? Treat this action as a first step in the right direction—a step you have already taken. And now - to work!
Make time. Nothing will change if you do not find at least a little time for your desire. When will you start to change for the better? Morning, afternoon, evening? Don't wait for change - make it happen yourself! Set aside 10-15 minutes on your calendar for this activity. Every day. No time? Think about how much you "sit" on social networks, watch the "box", play video games and do not the most important things. Move them to the background, give priority to the Main! Do what's important to you first!
Surround yourself with like-minded people. The best way to change your life is to be surrounded by people who want the same thing as you. You will find them on the web, in real life. Create a "support team" and help each other every day! Yes, it takes time. And yes - you can do it.
report back. Find at least one person and make him your "boss". Tell him - let him not give you a descent!
Move forward in small steps. If you want to change really big, and the task seems extremely difficult, start small. What step can you take today to get closer to reaching your goal? For example, it may be searching for information on your goal or calling your mother with a request to temporarily become your "guard". Take a small step. Then another. And further. This is how change is born.

Don't be afraid to change anything in your life if your heart and soul desire it. Otherwise, you will have to live, changing both the soul and the heart ....

☀ Sometimes it may seem that in order to change your life, huge large-scale actions are required. But there are small steps, most of them are simple, and put together they give the desired positive result.

☀ Stress, tension, emotional burnout - there are many names, but the essence is the same. Each of us at least once discovered that he was driven into a corner, from which there was no way out.
☀ We set ourselves a goal: lose weight, learn a foreign language, learn to dance. But a week or two passes, and our enthusiasm fades. Why is it hard for us to stay motivated? And what can we do to strengthen our willpower?
☀ Most people believe that they can change their lives for the better by their own efforts. But for some reason, most often we do nothing, but simply wait for changes that will happen by themselves.

☀ I have a law - called "feet in the water". Every three to five years you should sit on the bank of the river, put your feet in the water, do nothing, sit and think: what have you done over the years?
☀ Everything that unexpectedly changes our lives is not an accident at all... 1. First of all, value yourself and your time: learn to say "no", close a boring book, quit a bad job, say goodbye to people who have nothing to do feel...

☀ It is impossible to transform your whole life in one day! Its change is a process, a path that we have to go through step by step. Our experts describe its main stages.

☀ Does each of us have the opportunity to find the life that suits him? Are we always able to change the situation?

☀ Between daily work and difficult family life, many of us devote too little time to ourselves. How do we know if we are making good use of these rare moments and are satisfying our deepest needs?
☀ Change is the main constant of our life. Sometimes - a way to survive in a changing environment (when change is a response to an external threat). Sometimes - a way to overtake everyone (when change is an opportunity).
☀ Once a bird accidentally flew into the room. The man decided to help her and let her out the window to freedom. But she was afraid of him.

☀ Your parents, grandparents raised you in such a way that you became absolutely sure that in order to get something, you need to work hard, sweat, deny yourself everything and overcome a huge number of obstacles in your life all your life.
☀ As psychologist Abraham Maslow once wrote, “The most beautiful fate, the most wonderful fortune that can befall any human being, can be sacrificed for the right to do what you passionately love to do.”
☀ Rejoice in every change in your life. Most people are afraid of change. For them, it is better to live in the dull monotony of everyday life than to face new challenges in today's rapidly changing world. Having decided on new experiences in life, you get the opportunity to feel happiness again. Start with what you especially want. Let the changes in your life, this is the best thing you can do.

☀ Development is possible only outside the comfort zone. It is time to learn to accept and manage the feelings that make you uncomfortable.

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