Children are usually very sociable, they are happy with every new acquaintance, but you need to strictly ensure that the acquaintance is appropriate. How to explain to the child in what cases it is possible and when it is impossible to get acquainted?

Parents usually introduce children to adults, and this is perhaps the most correct way to make friends among the elders. There are a number of important rules that children must follow when meeting strangers.

RULES OF SAFE BEHAVIOR

IT IS FORBIDDEN:

• talk to strangers and let them into the apartment.
• to go with a stranger into the elevator and the entrance.
• get into a car with strangers.
• accept gifts from strangers and agree to their offer to go with them.
• linger outside after school.

In what situations should you always answer " NO!»:

• If you are offered to visit or give a lift to the house, even if it is neighbors.
• If, in the absence of parents, an unfamiliar person came, let him into the apartment or go somewhere with him.
• If a stranger came to school for you, and your parents did not warn you in advance.
• If a stranger treats you with something in order to get to know and spend time with you.

All persuasion to go somewhere secluded to watch something or play should be answered with “ Not!', even if it's very interesting.

• Arriving home, it is necessary to tell adults about this person.

What do you need to know to avoid becoming a victim?

• If you have even the slightest doubt about the person who is nearby, or something has alerted you, then it is better to step back and let this person go ahead.
• If a person does not lag behind you, go to any house and pretend that this is your house, wave your hand and call your relatives, whom you seem to see in the window.
• If you are asked how to find the street, explain how to get there, but in no case see you off.
• If they try to persuade you, answer that you need to go home and warn your parents, tell them where and with whom you are going.
• If a stranger offers you to look at something or help carry a bag, promising to pay, answer “No!”.
• If you were offered to participate in an interesting competition or TV show, do not agree, but ask when and where you can go with your parents.
• If a car slows down next to you, move as far away as possible and in no case get into it.

WHERE can criminals wait for their victims?

ON THE STREET!
If a stranger approaches you:

• Say you're in a hurry and can't talk.
• If a person does not lag behind you, try to go out to the roadway and approach people, in no case do not go into quiet courtyards, and even more so - into other people's entrances. If you have a cell phone with you, call your parents or acquaintances, say out loud where you are, and ask to meet.
• Don't wait for him to grab you.
• If you can, throw something in the attacker's face to confuse and distract him for a while.
• Run to the side where there are a lot of people.
• Use any auxiliary means: pen, comb or keys (stab in the face, leg or arm of the attacker); any aerosol (direct the jet into the eyes); heel (strongly stamp the heel on the attacker's leg).
• Fight with all your might, do not swing your arms randomly. It is necessary to inflict maximum pain on the attacker.
• As soon as he loosens his grip, run away.
• If there are several attackers, and this always happens - do not let yourself be squeezed into the ring.
• Shout "help" loudly to get attention. People with such cries can help, or call the police.
• If you have a hand over your mouth, bite hard on your hand.
• If they try to surround you - run to the road, if you find yourself on the road - the cars will be forced to stop, and the driver can help drive off the offenders. The main thing is not to jump under the wheels.

Rules of conduct on the street:

• Walking along the road, choose the route so that you go towards the traffic.
• If you have to walk alone in the evening, walk quickly and confidently and show no fear; you can approach a woman who inspires confidence, or an elderly couple and walk beside them.
• In a bus, trolleybus, tram, sit closer to the driver and get out of the car at the last moment, without showing in advance that the next stop is yours.
• Do not vote on the road and do not respond to an offer of a ride or a request.
• Never get into a car to show the way.
• Do not go to remote and deserted places.
• Walk down the street at night in a group of people who got off the bus, electric train.
• Seeing a suspicious group of people or a drunk ahead, it is better to cross the street or change the route.
• If a car has stopped next to you, move away from it as far as possible (they can force you to sit down and take it away) and in no case do not talk to people in the car, and even more so do not agree to get into it.
• If a car starts moving slowly nearby, move away from it and cross over to the other side.
• Always warn your relatives where you are going and ask them to meet you in the evening.
• It is advisable to go to school or from school in a group.

IN ANOTHER CAR!
The car can also become a criminal's tool. You must clearly know that you cannot get into someone else's car, even if a woman is driving or in the cabin.
Rules of conduct in the car:

• Try not to take a passing car, it is better to use the services of a taxi, which is called through the dispatcher.
• If you still get on a passing car or a taxi stopped on the street, ask the mourners to write down the number, brand. Do not get into a car with dark windows, as well as a car in which passengers are already sitting.
• If you have a cell phone, try to constantly talk with relatives (acquaintances) and report the route of movement.
• If the driver's behavior is unpleasant, strange or dangerous for you, ask to stop the car.
• If the request is not fulfilled and the car is not stopped, then open the door or try to break the window, that is, do everything to draw the attention of other drivers to the car.
• Do not agree to the driver's offer to take fellow travelers, and if he insists, ask him to drive a little further and get out of the car.

IN THE ENTRANCE!

• Approaching the house, pay attention to whether anyone is following.
• If someone is walking, do not approach the entrance. Walk outside for 15-20 minutes, and if the stranger continues to follow, tell any adult you meet who comes forward about him.
• If the house has an intercom, before entering the entrance, call your apartment and ask your parents to meet.
• If a stranger is already in the entrance, immediately go outside and wait for one of the adult residents of the house to enter the entrance.
• Don't go out on the stairs late. It is better to take out the garbage in the morning.
• In case of a sudden attack, assess the situation and, if possible, run away or defend yourself in any way.

IN THE ELEVATOR!

• Enter the elevator only after making sure that there is no stranger on the platform who will follow you into the cabin.
• If a stranger is already in the called elevator, do not enter the cabin.
• If a stranger does enter the elevator, turn around to face him and observe his actions.
• If you feel danger, press the button for the nearest floor.
• If the elevator doors open, jump out onto the site, call the residents of the house for help.
• Once you are safe, immediately call the police, report what happened, the exact address, as well as the signs and direction where the attacker went.

And if you still couldn’t escape, you need to act according to the circumstances:

• If the rapist covers your mouth and takes off your clothes, do not threaten him to tell everything to your parents or the police, do not cry, remain calm, try to involve the rapist in a conversation.
• If the rapist pulls you close, do not push him away, hug him and bite hard on the nose or lip.
• If you can, defend yourself by any means, if you have the opportunity to run, do not pack your things, run away as you are.

Rules of conduct in your home:

Don't let strangers into your apartment!

If a plumber or electrician shows up unannounced, before you let him in, call the control room that maintains your home and make inquiries or call your parents.

Before you open the door, be sure to look through the peephole. Only let people you know well into your apartment.

Leaving the apartment, also look through the peephole. If there are strangers on the landing, wait until they leave.

Even if you leave the apartment for a very short time, be sure to lock the door with a key.

Before opening the front door with the key, make sure that no one is nearby.

If a parcel, telegram or bill was brought from the post office, then you need to sign for them, which only adults can do. The same goes for the electrician and plumber. Even if the lights suddenly went out in your house or a pipe burst, you can call your parents and find out what to do. In extreme cases, you can ask neighbors who have known each other for a long time.

If you feel that you are being followed when you return home, do not enter the house, but return to a crowded place and ask for help or call to be met.

Basic safety rules that parents should instill in their children

Children should not:

• meeting strangers on the street
• tell strangers your home address and phone number,
• walk in unintended places,
• to walk to remote places without being accompanied by an adult and a person you know well,
• bring home other people's things, even if they claim to have just found them on the street.

Here are some basic rules to keep your kids safe:

• Even if you have been living in your area for more than a year, regularly go around the surrounding courtyards and see where your children are walking and what they are doing there. Ask your child exactly where he walks, and periodically check that he is exactly there.
• Do not hesitate to demand that the structures serving your home territories ensure the safety of children. In the evening, there should be no "dark corners" in the yards. The entire area must be well lit. If the playground has a fence, it should always have two gates so that the child always has an additional opportunity to leave the playground in case of danger.
• Feel free to get to know the parents of your children, even if it is unpleasant for you. Exchange phone numbers with them. Always have these numbers handy, as well as the numbers of the nearest police station and your district inspector. Instruct your child where to go in case of danger. Tell him the phone number of the nearest police station and your precinct.
• If the child is still small (10-14 years old), but he already has a mobile phone, periodically check the SMS messages stored in the phone, as well as his address book for suspicious contacts. Ask the mobile operator that services your child's phone number about the availability of the service "location determination of the subscriber". If there is such a service, connect your child's mobile phone to it.
• If a child has told you that he has signed up for a club, hobby club, or computer club, do not be too lazy to visit this institution. Ask who manages this club, who keeps order in it, the schedule of the institution and the availability of appropriate licenses.

If your child has an adult friend
If a child has an adult friend, delicately find out what kind of person he is, under what circumstances they met, and what exactly connects them. It is possible that the child is simply interested in something that you are not aware of. In no case should you try to resolve the current situation, if you do not like it, by radical methods. Remember that no restrictive measures of influence will help. They will only complicate your family relationships. Better think about why this happened and what the child lacks. Be sure to get to know this person, find out where and by whom he works, and who else is in his circle of friends. If a person appears to be an employee of a children's institution, be sure to make sure of this. At the slightest suspicion of crime, contact the police.

If you suspect something
When moving around the city, look closely at places where children (teenagers) gather: cafes, playgrounds, entertainment centers. If you notice suspicious people (not similar in behavior to parents) communicating with children, spend half an hour of your personal time and try to understand what is really happening. If you are sure that a process of seduction is taking place and a person is taking the child away (this can be noticeable by behavior), pay attention to the institution's security service, call 102.

Material: toy Pinocchio, an envelope with a letter, the text of the fairy tale "Marta and Chichi in the park" by T.A. Shorygina (Shorygina, T.A. Cautious tales. - M .: Prometheus, 2002), toys; a series of paintings (security lessons).

Lesson progress

Surprise moment: Pinocchio enters with an envelope in his hands.

The children and teacher greet each other. Having examined the envelope, they sit down to listen to the fairy tale "Marta and Chichi in the park." After reading, the teacher conducts a conversation, asks questions: “Where did Martha and Chichi come? Who did they meet in the park? Did the monkey do the right thing by engaging in a conversation with a stranger? Should well-behaved children answer questions from strangers? Why didn't Marta the zebra want to talk to a stranger? Where did he invite his girlfriends? Did Martha do the right thing by refusing the stranger's offer? Did you like it? Why? What will you do if a stranger offers to buy something for you or invites you to visit?

The game "Caution - a stranger!" (We act out situations.)

Situation one.

A stranger (adult) persuades a girl or a boy to go somewhere with him, offers something interesting, introduces himself as his mother's acquaintances. (The child must come up with and act out a situation with toys.) For example: "Let's go to the store, I'll buy you candy"; “A canary lives with me and wants to make friends with you,” etc.

During the discussion, the teacher should bring to the consciousness of the children that it is better not to start a conversation with strangers, and if the conversation does take place, then you need to answer politely, briefly, with all appearance showing that you are not interested in this person, that you are in a hurry, you are waiting.

If aunt came

And took me aside

And gave me candy

And I talked to you

She asked about her parents:

“Dad and mom at work?”

Suddenly she is a bad aunt?

I'll give you one piece of advice:

Speak more often: no.

"Me with a stranger without permission

They weren't told to speak."

Can you offer this

Repeat twelve times.

Situation two.

A nice-looking young man invites a boy or girl for a ride in his new car: “Get in! I'll ride you around our house! Do you want to turn the steering wheel? We'll ride a little, and even mom won't know!" Possible answers: "Thank you, I'm in a hurry!"; “Excuse me, my mother is waiting for me”; “I already rode today”; "We have the same car"; "I do not want to talk to you!" etc.

Then there is a discussion of the answers and identification of the most successful ones.

If uncle is very kind,

And there are no acquaintances nearby,

Maybe he just wants

Take away your bike?

If he doesn't know you

Why is he calling you?

All of a sudden it promises

And take away from mom?

Situation three.

A stranger calls the apartment. Explains that he brought a telegram.

The children are alone at home. Children's answers: “Now I will call my mother (they call a neighbor)”; “Mom is in the bathroom, wait a little”, etc.

Bring to consciousness that the door cannot be opened if there are no parents in the house.

The doorbell rings, but mom is not there.

Maybe a neighbor came

Maybe locksmith Nikolai -

Says a complete stranger

You say: "Mom is not at home."

Don't let him home!

Situation four.

The child is lost. What will he do?

• Run and look for mom.
• Stay where you got lost.
• Contact the policeman for help.
• He will go with an unfamiliar aunt who will say that she has just seen his mother, who is crying, looking for him.
• Ask a passerby to take him to the nearest police station.
• Contact the seller, the controller for help.
• He will ask a passerby to call the police and report that he is lost and is in some place, etc. (The teacher plays out the situation with the toys on his desk.)

Discuss with the children all the options and choose the most correct one.

(Children's answers.)

Remember, this is someone you don't personally know. He can call you by name, say that he knows someone from your family, be called a colleague of dad or mom, a friend of your grandfather, but all these words mean nothing. After all, he could specifically find out your name or just hear how your friends call you. And best of all, you guys don't get into any kind of conversation with strangers!

Rules for the behavior of children with strangers:

• Do not get into a car with strangers.
• Do not engage in conversation with a stranger on the street.
• Do not agree to go anywhere with a stranger, no matter how he persuades and no matter what he offers.
• Do not trust a stranger if he offers to give or buy something for you.
• Never boast that your parents have a lot of money.
• Do not linger on the street on the way home, do not play until dark.
• Do not allow strangers to touch you.
• If a stranger is too persistent, loudly call for help, try to break free and run away.

Valery Fadeev

We will start differently than final programs usually start. Not from politics, not from official events. June 1st is International Children's Day. And what is the most important thing for us? Our children, our grandchildren, their safety is what we consider fundamentally important. Summer holidays have begun and children, more often than during the school year, are left to their own devices. Parents, I have no doubt about it, teach: never talk to strangers, and even more so, do not go anywhere with them. And if anything - loudly call for help. We only teach badly. Check out our experiment. I must say right away: we conducted it under the supervision of security specialists, child psychologists and with the consent of the parents.

On the playground, his parents don't pay attention to him - a young guy, decently dressed - is he the same "suspicious type"? Well, what can happen in one minute? Back in the car, go to the store - familiar? Here the girl leaves her younger brothers to say hello to her friend.

In fact, the boys' sister from hiding is watching the experiment live: will the children succumb to the entreaties of a stranger and leave the playground with him. In the role of a criminal - an expert in child safety.

A frightening result: 12 seconds - and the boys themselves run into a trap. It is clear that this was all conditional. It was a game. No, it's really scary. How many times is this mentioned in the family? In fact, it turned out - once and for all!

And this is no longer an experiment. Recordings from CCTV cameras in the city of Otradnoy, Leningrad Region. At the station, a man points to 10-year-old Ruslan Korolev, but now he is taking him to his house with large packages of food. During interrogation, the 35-year-old detainee will calmly tell how he killed the boy and hid the body parts.

Ruslan's mother even now sometimes believes that he is about to return from school, he just played somewhere. That day is not out of my head.

“We went to the store. I really wanted to take him with me, but I decided: let him walk. If I could return this time back, I would take him with me, I would call, ”says the mother of the deceased Ruslan Korolev Evgenia Alikulova.

Almost all the children in this group would trust the kind-hearted Andrei Chikatilo, a pedophile and serial killer. Or Alexander Pichushkin, known as the Bitsevsky maniac, who brutally murdered 50 people. The man, who introduced himself as a police officer, was arrested in Kamyshin earlier this year.

Miracle - 11-year-old Anya was rescued after four days of searching, the police noticed while walking around the apartments. Fortunately, the girl did not become a victim of sexual violence, but survived a nightmare.

Parents' legs give way: hug, pat on the head, make sure - alive! Every six hours a child goes missing in Russia and will never be found. But it seemed that all children know the iron rule - do not talk to strangers.

The same result over and over again - nine out of ten children during the experiment go to a stranger's car. The child feels that all this is wrong, but is it polite to refuse?

“Strangers don’t have the right to talk to you - this is the main thing to remember!” Mom explains.

The world is not divided into good and evil, but into friends and foes, they teach children at safety trainings. And if a stranger begins to speak, and even more so to take by the hand, the reaction must be worked out to automatism. Parents are worried, but what if, after such lessons, children stop trusting people altogether?

“We teach children, for example, not to cross the road at a red light, this does not mean that our child will be afraid of cars. A stranger should not approach you. If he approached, then he is either an ill-mannered person, or he is a criminal, but you have the right to be impolite with him, ”explains child safety expert Liya Sharova.

Summer camps are open this week. Educators explain to parents that a popular trick where a child can trust a stranger if he knows the "family password" does not guarantee protection. After all, even special agents fail missions.

During our experiment, only 8-year-old Ruslan remembered what his mother said. The only maximum safety is only if you see your child all the time! And then no one will ever need the rest of the tricks, I really want to believe in it.

General changes in our social life made it necessary to include new content in the program of the basics of life safety for preschoolers (for example, the section "Child and other people"). We must consider our environment as it is. Today's children need to be taught special skills so that they can avoid a wide variety of dangers. We must teach children to assess the environment, identify a potential danger or suspicious situation and respond appropriately to it.

The use of fairy tales in the education of safe behavior in children

with strangers.

The child must understand what exactly can be dangerous in communicating with other people. We must teach children about the dangers of contact with unfamiliar (human) adults. Most children believe that people with an unpleasant appearance, "bearded uncles" or people who are unpleasantly dressed, are dangerous. And young, well-dressed, pretty women, girls or boys can't do harm in the same way as any person with an open friendly smile. Here fairy tales will help us. The monster in the "Scarlet Flower" turned out to be a kind enchanted prince. Cinderella was dressed in rags, stained with soot and ashes, but she was kind.

A good confirmation of the discrepancy between good looks and good intentions is “The Tale of the Dead Princess and the Seven Bogatyrs” by A.S. Pushkin, in which the evil stepmother pretended to be a kind old woman and gave the princess a poisoned apple. And the princess violated the safety rule: you can’t take treats from strangers. Children need to remember that they must ask permission from their parents or caregivers before accepting candy or a gift from someone.

Another typically dangerous situation of contact with strangers: an adult persuades a child to go somewhere with him, promising to give or show something interesting. It is necessary to teach children to say no to people who want to take them somewhere without the permission of their parents. A typical example of what can happen if you believe the gentle voice, the attractive promises of a stranger is the Russian folk tale "The Cat, the Rooster and the Fox." In an affectionate voice, the fox invited the cockerel to look out the window, promising to give peas, invited him to peck peas, which had nowhere to go, pick up millet scattered on the road. All this lulled the vigilance of the rooster. Three times he looked out of the window and three times he was seized by a fox who wanted to taste rooster meat.

In a situation of violent behavior on the part of an adult (if they grab the hand, pick it up, drag it into the car), children should know that they need to scream loudly, calling for help and attracting the attention of others.

Every time the fox grabbed the cockerel, he shouted: “The fox is carrying me beyond the dark forests, beyond the high mountains! Brother cat, help me out!"

And now let's remember the Russian folk tale "Sister Alyonushka and brother Ivanushka." Why did the witch manage to drown Alyonushka? Yes, because she, with a completely unfamiliar woman who affectionately called her to swim, went to the river, violating the safety rule: you can’t go anywhere with strangers.

Children must understand that danger lies not only on the street, but also at home. It is necessary to explain to children that it is impossible to open the door to strangers, even if the stranger has a gentle voice or he seems to be familiar to his parents, knows their names, and acts supposedly on their behalf. An example of what can come of this is the Russian folk tale "The Wolf and the Seven Kids".

And in Ch. Perro's fairy tale "Little Red Riding Hood" you can see several violations of safety rules at once. Firstly, Little Red Riding Hood stopped in the forest and began to talk with the wolf (she did not yet know how dangerous it was), and secondly, she told him where her grandmother lives (“Over in that village behind the mill, in the first house on the edge ”), and thirdly, seeing that her grandmother did not look like usual, she lay down next to her instead of calling one of the adults for help.

There is such a safety rule: parents should always know where the children are, and children cannot go anywhere without the permission of their parents. . In the Russian folk tale of the same name, the gingerbread man went for a walk without asking and paid for it by meeting a cunning fox who, with flattering speeches, lured the bun to sit on his nose. The girl in the Russian folk tale "Geese-Swans", contrary to the orders of her mother, left her little brother alone near the house, and she herself went for a walk. It ended with the fact that the swan geese carried away her brother, and she had to look for him for a long time and make a lot of effort to return him.
The girl from the Russian folk tale "Three Bears" went alone into the forest and got lost. The safety rule says: in order not to get lost, do not go into the forest alone. And if you went to the forest, remember: in the forest you have to stick together. Masha from the Russian folk tale "Masha and the Bear" and Snegurushka from the Russian folk tale "Snow Maiden and the Fox" were inattentive in the forest: tree after tree, bush after bush, and they lost their friends.

You can talk about fairy tales for a long time. Many troubles in fairy tales could not have happened if the heroes knew the elementary safety rules. But it’s not for nothing that they say: “A fairy tale is a lie, but there is a hint in it: a lesson for good fellows.”

Therefore, teachers and parents need to use fairy tales more often in their work on educating children in the skills of safe behavior with strangers.

Conversations, playing out situations on the topic

"Safe behavior on the street or how not to become a victim of violence"

One of the mistakes of education is unconditional submission to an adult. We often tell children: “You don’t talk to adults like that!”, “If an adult told you, then you should obey him.” But at the same time, the child must be educated to distrust strangers and unfamiliar people.

On the street, children may find themselves in an unexpected situation, and how they react to it will depend on their health, mental and physical condition.

Knowing the rules of behavior on the street will help to find a way out of the created predicament, and only we, adults, parents, can teach this to children.

Tell and discuss with the children each possible situation of abuse by a stranger. adult:

An unfamiliar adult persuades the child to go somewhere with him, promising to show something interesting, offering a toy, pretending to be familiar to the parents, and acts at their request (mom asked me to bring you to her, come with me to mom, I will take you to her) ;

An unfamiliar adult opens the car door and invites you to ride with him;

An unfamiliar adult treats the child with candy, ice cream.

Ask your child if this situation happens, what would you do:

You will immediately run away;

You will invite a friend with you, see what the stranger wants to show;

You go to watch alone;

During the discussion, explain that it is not necessary to talk to a stranger on the street if the child is alone or in the company of peers, but without adults.

It is dangerous to trust a stranger if he persuades to go somewhere (to the cinema, a park on a carousel), promises to show or give an interesting toy, treat him to ice cream, not to believe even if the stranger seems to be a friend of his parents, says that he will take him to mom (dad, grandmother), who is waiting for him.

Teach children the rules of behavior in a dangerous situation:

Do not talk to a stranger, do not answer his questions;

Do not agree to go anywhere with strangers, no matter how they persuade and no matter what they offer;

Do not get into a car with a stranger, under any pretext;

Do not walk alone in deserted places;

Do not trust a stranger if he says that he knows your parents (works together, mom instructed you to take you home), or offers to buy or give something;

Do not walk after dark;

If someone a stranger drags you by the hand or wants to put you in a car - shout, resist, call for help: “Help, a stranger is pestering me! For help!".

Educating a child with safe behavior skills is often a big problem for many parents. Trying to develop reasonable caution in dealing with strangers in young children, adults inevitably face the question: “What kind of behavior of a stranger is acceptable or, otherwise, worthy”?

Some parents, not wanting to teach their children to be "scared of strangers", try to delay the start of education. Therefore, they do not limit their three- or four-year-old children's contact with safe, from a parental point of view, adults.

Let's say a child is having a nice conversation with a pretty old woman. She also treats him with sweets. Why interrupt the conversation? Let the child learn the world in the presence of parents!

It would seem that there is nothing dangerous in this situation: after all, everything was under control.
The fact of the matter is that in this particular case, the child felt completely safe and could form the following logical chain: "I communicate with an unfamiliar aunt who looks friendly and welcoming, and nothing terrible happens."

The calm behavior of the parents only reinforces him in the idea that communication with nice-looking adults is not dangerous.

The fact that it was the parents who ensured his safety may be, unfortunately, missed by a small child. Therefore, the next time a smiling young woman in a beautiful dress or a man in a formal suit approaches the child, the danger signal in the child’s head will not sound and communication will take place. If this stranger or stranger turns out to be experienced intruders, the consequences can be the saddest - the child can leave "to walk with a new friend."

Therefore, it is necessary to explain to parents that it is extremely important to inspire the child with the idea that strangers should not have long conversations with the child. They also have no right to touch children. The maximum that is allowed is a smile, a brief greeting, an encouraging gesture.

Anything beyond this brief communication should put the child on their guard.

Paula Statman, an authority on child safety, believes that a child must learn to expect decent behavior from strangers. Then, if for any reason there comes a moment when the stranger behaves inappropriately, the child will have an “internal signal”, and he will most likely react in a self-protective manner. The child may call out loudly to parents or other caregivers. It's not about going anywhere with strangers at all.

How to teach a child to recognize adequate and inappropriate behavior?
Only in the process of developing these skills. For example, a smiling man walks past a mother and a child.

The following dialogue is possible:

Man: - Hello, girl!

Girl: Hello!

Man: What's your name?

The man reaches out his hand to pat the little girl on the head.

Girl. - Julia!

Mum. - Excuse me, we have to go.

Mom, not allowing to touch the child, is going to leave.

Girl: - But I want to talk to a kind uncle!

Mom: - We're leaving right now.

Man: - Don't worry about it! I myself have two daughters.
Baby, do you want to meet them?

Girl: - Of course I do!

Mom: - Sorry, but we teach our daughter the right behavior with strangers.
And now we're leaving.

Mom firmly takes the girl by the hand and leads her away from the friendly man.

Let's analyze this situation.

1. The man's first sentence was completely neutral. A brief greeting is one of the acceptable actions, so the mother took it easy when her daughter greeted a stranger.
2. Already the second phrase of the man made my mother alert. First, the interlocutor wanted to know the name of the girl. Secondly, and most importantly, he tried to bypass his mother.
   One could ask a woman: “Tell me, please, what is the name of your charming daughter?” In this case, it is not necessary to give the name at all, but the question shows that the man respects the interlocutor and leaves the right to decide whether to say the name of the girl to her.
3. The girl, having forgotten the rules of safe communication, immediately gives her name, which is undesirable, since mother and daughter do not know this person. If this is an intruder, he can come at the moment when the girl is playing in the yard with her friends, and call her by name, remaining out of sight of her parents watching the walk. The child, seeing him and deciding that his uncle is already among his acquaintances, can run up to him and start a conversation, the consequences of which will depend on the vigilance of the adults on the playground.
4. Mom immediately seeks to take her daughter away in order to discuss safety rules with her in private. She does not allow the man to touch the child, despite the fact that the girl is not at all afraid of this seemingly friendly touch. If you allow the child to be touched now, a statement may form in the baby’s head that “good uncles and aunts can touch me.” In the future, the child will not tell his parents about such cases, because he will not see anything forbidden in this.
5. The girl tries to challenge the need to end the conversation. She is supported by a man, referring to the fact that he also has daughters of the same age. The woman politely and decisively continues to follow her line of behavior and takes the child away.

In the subsequent conversation, the mother is likely to patiently and kindly explain to her daughter the rules of safe behavior. If the conversation goes well, the girl will scold herself for saying her name right away.

What is the result?

1. The girl received from her mother an example of polite, but consistent and safe behavior with strangers and once again learned that you can say hello, but you can’t tell anything about yourself. She also learned once again not to let strangers touch her.
2. The baby was convinced in practice that violation of the safety rules established in the family is not allowed in any case.
3. Mom in practice showed her daughter that she can always count on her mother's protection and support. To do this, the young woman had to go to some discomfort and refuse to communicate with an outwardly very decent stranger.
4. The man will later approach his mother, apologize for his stubborn behavior, introduce himself and offer to introduce their daughters. A woman, making sure that the person in front of her is really worthy, will allow her daughter to meet her peers, and after some time she will even allow her to walk with her friends under the supervision of their watchful dad.

A child with clear guidelines for what is called “dignified behavior of a stranger” will be able to distinguish between unhealthy attention and friendliness. Trained by his parents, he will be able to exercise maximum caution in the first case and not be frightened in vain in the second.

Do not spare time for children, study with them!

Elena Chemakina
Summary of the lesson "Rules of conduct when communicating with strangers"

Target: Teaching children correct, safe behavior when meeting

strangers.

Tasks:

Review and discuss with children typical dangerous situations

possible contacts with strangers when security measures are not followed.

To promote the development of caution, attention, ingenuity. To promote the formation of a responsible attitude towards one's life.

Develop the ability to find a way out of the situation. To nurture independence and self-confidence in children. Learn about the relationship between adults and children.

Materials and equipment: Situational pictures for discussion ( unfamiliar an adult rings the doorbell; makes a phone call; offers the child a candy) illustrations for fairy tales "Golden Key", "The wolf and the seven Young goats", "Kolobok", "Zayushkina's hut", "Red Riding Hood", sheets of paper, colored pencils (for memos)

preliminary work: looking at illustrations from "ABCs of health", reading a book "If you are alone at home", watching a cartoon "Spasik and strangers» , "Lessons from Aunt Owl".

Lesson progress:

1 surprise moment

Guys, this morning, when I came, the guard handed me this parcel. I decided that we should open it together, are you all ready? Then I open! (we open it, we find a letter from dunno, many books and pictures).

2 Main body

I am reading a letter.

"Hello, friends! I had a difficult situation, Znayka gave me a bunch of tasks and left, which I just didn’t do, but deal couldn't do it with them. Guys please help me find right answers»

Well guys, let's help Dunno?

1 task: Tell me who you are "one's own, someone else's, acquaintance"

Vlad, who, in your opinion, can be called your own?

What does Katya think about this?

How do you understand the meaning of the word "mine" are you Andrew?

Misha, I see that you want to say something.

What word is the opposite of "mine"?

Who it "stranger"?

Is there a person - neither one's own nor someone else's? (children's answers).

Who can be called familiar?

What is the difference between an acquaintance and a loved one, and how - from "foreign", outsider (children's answers).

Stand at a small distance from each other, form a circle. The game is called "Familiar, own, alien". I say the words "friend, friend, stranger", highlighting with intonation and pause the one who needs to be called, after which I throw the ball to one of the children. The one to whom the ball is thrown must catch it and quickly name the appropriate person. (I play with children several times).

Sit comfortably in your seats.

I am your friend. I invited you to play and you gladly agreed.

If a stranger offers you the same thing, what will you do?

Why would you do that?

What does a dangerous person look like?

Who can not be afraid? Describe the appearance.

Does good looks always mean good intentions?

What kind of people can be dangerous? (children's answers).

Conclusion: Beautiful and ugly strange men, women, boys and girls, grandfathers and grandmothers can be dangerous.

I suggest you look at and analyze several situations.

First situation: Educator in the role of a stranger stranger smiling affectionately approaches the child.

Hello boy. Can you help me? You see, they sell felt boots around the corner. I want to buy for my grandson, but I don't know if they will fit. Your foot is the same as his. Let's go try it? (takes away).

AT:- What do you think, did Vadim do the right thing? Why?

What should Vadim say? unfamiliar aunt? (I will go with you to try on felt boots only with my mother. She will fit right now).

Situation two: coming out unknown man. Suitable for Nastya. Hello Nastya. What are you doing here? I work with your dad. Get in, I'll take you home. Nastya sits down.

Did the man know Nastya?

How could he know Nastya's name? (He could ask Nastya's friends or overhear what her close people call her).

What should Nastya have done?

(Nastya should have said: “It’s good that you work with my dad, but I don’t know you and therefore I won’t go anywhere with you”; "You can run away from stranger» ; "You will pester, I will scream.")

Situation three. Hello baby. How are you? Eat candy. Do you like candy? Let's go buy some more.

Should I take from strangers, even what do you want to get? Why not?

How then to refuse tempting offers? (Need to tell: "Thank you very much, but I don't want candy or toys").

Conclusion: each of you must remember that you should trust only close people, and unfamiliar a person can be dangerous, can cause great harm. For example, to separate from adults, to scare, so you can’t succumb to the persuasion of strangers.

It seems to me that you should repeat what each of you should remember. (Children repeat regulations) .

I realized that you remembered how to behave with strangers.

I think we completed the task! move on to the next

2 task: Name the too gullible heroes of these fairy tales who found themselves in similar situations and misbehaved. (Pulling out books)

(Pinocchio

showed gold coins unfamiliar and agreed to go with them to the land of fools. He did not even think about the dangers that could happen to him)

What should have been done? (children's answers)

"The wolf and the seven Young goats"

What dangerous situation happened here?

(The kids succumbed to the persuasion of the wolf and opened the door for him. The wolf ate the kids)

What should have been done? (children's answers)

"Kolobok"

What not right did the main character of this fairy tale?

(Kolobok was an irresponsible hero, he did not listen to anyone. He talked with animals unknown to him. Because of the stupidity of Kolobok, the end of this tale was not very good. The fox ate Kolobok.)

"Zayushkina's hut"

Who can say what is the situation here?

(The hare trusted the cunning fox, who subsequently kicked him out of the hut. He believed fox and this is what happened to him.)

And the last tale that I propose to discuss is

"Red Riding Hood"

Let's remember this fairy tale and discuss the situations that happened to the characters.

The meeting of Little Red Riding Hood and the wolf.

(The heroine of the fairy tale began to talk with a wolf she doesn't know, told where and why she was going. It couldn't be done.)

Grandmother believed wolf and allowed to enter the house. What happened in the end? The wolf ate the grandmother. You can't trust everyone you meet.

Another situation: a meeting of Little Red Riding Hood and a disguised wolf. The girl imprudently mistook the wolf for her grandmother and trustingly communicated with him, for which she paid. He ate it too.

As you can see, the guys, although the tales are the inventions of the writer, a lot of useful things are hidden in them, there is such a proverb "a fairy tale is a lie, but there is a hint in it, a lesson for good fellows". This means that every fairy tale teaches something.

3 task: What are these situations and how should one behave?

picture of a man on the phone

Look at the picture, what can be said about this situation. (Answers)

It happens that a dangerous person calls on the phone and asks you about who is in the house, what your name is and when your parents will return.

Why does a bad person know everything?

What should be answered on the phone?

-Correctly, you can’t tell by phone that you are alone at home, your name and even more so the address.

Guys listen to the proverbs that are suitable for this situation.

"Secret around the world"

"Keep your mouth shut"

"Who talks a lot - invites trouble"

What are these proverbs about?

picture - man ringing the doorbell

What should you do if your doorbell rings? (children's answers)

And if the person behind the door says that he is a postman? Policeman? An acquaintance of your parents and calls you by name? (children's answers)

Let's remember the guys that no one and under any pretext should not open the door to people whom you do not know.

Now we are going to play a game called

"Finish the poem".

rule: you need to insert the missing words into the poem.

Don't let your uncle in the house

If uncle do not know!

And don't open to your aunt

If mom is at work

After all, the criminal, he is cunning,

Pretend that... (fitter)

Or even say he

What came to you... (postman)

He will show you the package

And under the arm... (gun).

Or he put on a robe

And under it there are five pieces ... (Garnet)

And hurry after him "old lady",

In her bag... (a gun).

Everything happens in life

With those who are doors ... (opens).

So that you don't get robbed

Not seized, not stolen

Don't trust strangers,

Close tight ... (door!

picture - stranger offering candy

Consider the following picture.

The boy is walking on the street, approached him unfamiliar the person also offers for example a candy. How to proceed? Why? (children's answers)

And if a person says that he has a kitten in his car and calls to see what will you do? (children's answers)

And go for a ride with stranger? (children's answers)

-Correctly never take anything from strangers, and even more so get into the car and go somewhere.

It happens that a person calls not to the car, but to some place. You can't follow his call. Who knows what this man has in mind.

Guys, what will you do if unfamiliar a person will try to take you somewhere by force? (children's answers)

Here's what to do. Criminals are afraid of noise, so in all these cases it is necessary to shout loudly so that others are It's clear: they are trying to take you away strangers!

for example: "Uncle, I don't know you! Let me go!", "Help, I'm getting carried away stranger!»

Don't be afraid to be laughed at. If it helps to avoid danger, then all right. It is worse if you are ashamed or afraid. You may get into trouble.

Everything that happens in your life, you should tell your parents. They should definitely know what situations you are facing. Parents will always help and teach how do the right thing.

3 Reflection

Guys, coped we are with you with tasks, helped to figure it out Dunno? And helping Dunno what did you learn new?

Children's answers:

Can't open the door unfamiliar if there are no adults.

You can't talk about being alone in the house.

You can't talk on the phone with strangers people tell them your name and address.

Can't take anything from strangers, get into their car or walk with them somewhere.

You need to trust your parents, tell them everything that happens to you.

You should not be shy to shout and call for help in case of danger.

Children, we talked about how to behave when meeting with strangers. You all actively participated in our conversation, you understood everything. I'm sure you're ready to meet strangers and do the right thing.

And now I suggest you draw a reminder about the danger of meeting with strangers to give them to children from other groups.