Each of us is familiar with the phrase from childhood: "When I eat, I am deaf and dumb." It was told to us by mothers, fathers, grandmothers, grandfathers, teachers in kindergarten, teachers at school. This list goes on and on. As soon as you try to say something, you will immediately be stopped by the question: “When I eat, I ... what?”. And out of desperation, you repeat the continuation of this memorized phrase and again begin to lazily turn the cooled soup with a spoon. True, as an adult, you still change your habit and start talking more at the table - today we go to breakfast, lunch and dinner to chat and discuss our affairs. We attend business and friendly dinners, dine with acquaintances and strangers, alone and in a large company, but we know very little about how to properly behave at the table and, in particular, what to talk about.

The cultural traditions that existed in our country before the revolution were almost completely lost during the Soviet period. This is due to the fact that proletarian ethics were very different from European ones. Now we have to re-learn the subtleties of etiquette.

Do not do it this way!

Not everyone can see their flaws. Especially when you're busy eating. But still, you have to try.

• There are at least three topics that cannot be discussed: politics, religion, money. Yes, and also Voldemort.
• Do not loudly greet a friend who appears at the door. This is not appropriate.
• If you are talking to someone, make an effort to put the phone aside.
• A waiter comes up to you, but you have a very interesting topic to talk about, and you make him wait until you finish your thought. No, no, no, no, no, don't do that.
• Also, you should not call the waiter if you have not yet decided on the choice of dishes.

• Try not to whisper or speak too loudly. The ideal option is a conversation in an undertone.
• If there are more than two people at the table, while talking, turn only your head towards the interlocutor. No need to turn around with your whole body, because you will find yourself with your back to other guests at your table. If you are eating together, it is preferable to sit opposite each other.
• Look into the eyes of the interlocutor, but please do not overdo it!
• When speaking, do not use vocabulary that can confuse the interlocutor. This is not only obscene or jargon, but also unfamiliar terms, as well as the words of one of the Elvish dialects.
• If your interlocutor for some reason does not eat meat, tomatoes or cabbage, take it for granted. No need to spend the whole evening interrogating about his gastronomic addictions.
• Knowing your worth is a good thing. However, talking about yourself for too long and in colors is indecent. Modesty adorns, remember this.
• Excessive mannerism is also not welcome.

About what?

The topic of conversation is not quite a simple thing, as it might seem at first glance. It would seem that there is something to invent. Speak and speak. But there are a few features that every educated person should know.

• If you and your interlocutor have a big age difference, then it is up to the elder to start a conversation and choose a topic.
• There is a golden rule for choosing a topic for a conversation: it should be interesting and understandable to the interlocutor. If you are a specialist in ornithology, this is good, but if your interlocutor is not able to distinguish a bullfinch from a seagull, do not bore him with stories about the behavioral characteristics of a canary during the winter solstice. If your interlocutor is educated, he, of course, will listen to all this and nod his head with an interested look, while praying to himself for a speedy end to the evening.
• Always start a conversation with general topics (unless you are going to discuss something specific).
• If you would like to change the subject of the discussion, do so gracefully. Ideally, so that no one notices.
• Follow the course of your thoughts, the sequence and logic of statements.
• If you don't know what to talk about, talk about food. This is a universal theme.

awkward and silent

It often happens that we meet with an old friend and for an hour we cannot part and finish the conversation. We talk, we talk, we talk... We enjoy the evening and the conversation. But it also happens that the conversation does not stick right away.

Q&A followed by an awkward pause. What to do? We must remember that you will not be forced to be nice. The worst thing is to try to talk the interlocutor, most likely nothing will come of it. First, silence is not as bad as it might seem at first glance. You can easily finish eating. Secondly, if suddenly you are not one of the silent ones, then it's time to remember Chekhov. When things were not going well for him with a story, he wrote on a sheet: "Something is not being written." And began to write. You can also do it in a conversation. By stating a fact, you acknowledge the problem. And your interlocutor also recognizes it. And from here a couple of steps to an interesting conversation.

If all the same, nothing happens, then you should not try to revive a horse that has fallen dead. Finish your borscht, shake hands and go about your business. After all, at least you ate.

awkward question

It also happens that the interlocutor does not show himself in the best way. For example, he tries to drag you into a gossip discussion or asks questions that make you uncomfortable.

How to get out of the water dry and not offend your counterpart with a refusal? Usually, each of us tends to change the subject by adding a little "water" to the conversation. This is the softest and most correct way out. Leaving an uncomfortable question unanswered is also easier if you ask a few follow-up questions. Pretending that you did not hear or understand the question, move the conversation in another direction. True, those who are especially slow-witted and persistent can ask the question again, or, even worse, reproach you for resourcefulness. Indeed, it is already useless to leave the answer here. There is only one thing left - to give a direct and peremptory refusal. For this, the phrase is suitable: "I would not like to discuss this, I hope you do not mind." In exceptional cases, you can interrupt the question of the interlocutor more abruptly, thereby showing that he is overstepping the permissible boundaries.

“That's all,” you say. “Now you can relax. Any English lord, passing by, will take off his top hat in front of you, amazed at your ability to carry himself. And here it is not. This is just the beginning. But if you follow the basic rules, you will prove yourself an interesting and polite interlocutor. A man with good manners. And certainly no one will say that there is nothing to talk about with you.

Have you ever been to boring feasts, where rare banal toasts are interspersed with the clink of spoons and plates, and where hosts and guests do not know what to talk about with each other?

Unfortunately, the inability to entertain yourself and others at the table is a fairly common phenomenon. How to learn to behave in such a way that no one is bored?

First of all, let's consider the situation, when you are the hostess of the feast. The best option is to think carefully about the “cultural program”.

For major celebrations - weddings, anniversaries, sometimes even funerals - they often invite a toastmaster and make up. However, at the same time, they often overdo it with contests and other “numbers”. Think about it: perhaps the guests want to sit quietly at the table, and not jump like goats, dance and guess riddles ... Therefore, there should not be too many “numbers”. The toastmaster can engage in musical accompaniment, set the order for pronouncing toasts, and so on.

It is best if the toastmaster is not hired, but one of his own. First, it will cost less or even free. Secondly, a person will not just do his job, he is one of the guests, which means that the atmosphere will be sincere and direct.

If there is no official toastmaster, you will have to play his role. It does not hurt not only to compose in advance, but also to make “homemade preparations”. Decide on approximate topics for table conversations. You probably know approximately the range of interests of your guests. Try to think of a topic for conversation with each. And be sure to include in the program something that may interest everyone, or at least the majority - a story about a trip, viewing photos or videos, showing your handicrafts, some kind of game ...

It is worth considering the selection of guests. Many have been assembled by the same company for years. These people are interested in each other, they always have common topics for conversation, and the presence of a person from the outside makes them feel uncomfortable. But if you feel like the company lacks a "fresh air," it might be better to bring in someone new. It is good if it is an interesting enough and sociable person who can captivate everyone.

It is also desirable that the guests be compatible with each other. You should not gather at the same table people who cannot stand each other - this will add negative emotions to both them and you. It is also undesirable to invite a person to whom a general conversation will be a priori uninteresting and who is unlikely to find a mate for communication. If you want, also try to ensure that he and she are suitable for each other not only by gender, but also by common interests.

But what if you are a guest? I often come across situations when one of the guests literally shuts everyone up, forcing them to listen to endless stories from their own lives. It is clear that not everyone likes it, because everyone ideally has something to tell. If such a talker reigns at the table, you should not pretend to be Cinderella. Do not be afraid to interrupt him and start telling something of your own. If you know one of the guests, it doesn't hurt to ask them questions about the circumstances of their lives (of course, if they are not too personal). But it is still desirable to touch on topics that will interest the majority of those present, and not just a couple of people.

If you find yourself in a company where most of the participants are unfamiliar to you, remember the saying: “If you don’t praise yourself, no one will praise you.” Don't wait for someone to notice you. Insert lines into the conversation in such a way that others get to know more about you. This does not mean that you should speak alone. It’s just that your remarks should be informative enough so that you can make an impression of you, at least a superficial one.

Try to feel what might be interesting to others. If you are a mathematician by education, and there are only humanists at the table, then you should hardly start a conversation with them about mathematics. If you graduated from the Faculty of Philosophy, then you don’t need to start talking about philosophy in the company of people with a secondary education - it’s better to talk about everyday topics. Although sometimes people like to listen to something new. But in any case, you should not load the rest too much, give information in a dosed and in an accessible form. Nobody prevents you from demonstrating your mind and education, but don't "flirt" too much!

Practically win-win topics for general conversation are politics, economics, medicine and pedagogy. Men often also like to talk about gadgets. A good option is to talk about some interesting cases from your life or from the life of your loved ones. But only if the case is really interesting or funny.

Many people like to poison in the company jokes. But not everyone and not always tuned in to listen to them. In addition, in our age of information it is difficult to choose which is not known to others. If you told a joke, but it is sluggishly received, you should not continue.

Making fun of someone at the table or sorting things out is taboo, even if there are "all your own". If you feel the need to have a heart-to-heart talk with someone, arrange a private meeting with this person or seclude yourself with him in a secluded place where no one else can hear you.

Good luck at the table!

Feeding and drinking guests is far from the only responsibility of the hosts. It is important to organize a table conversation and direct it in such a direction that everyone is interested and the guests are not divided into separate companies. It is important to remember that there are some taboo topics around the table. So, for example, at the table it is not customary to talk about politics, religion, health, money income, absent persons. Therefore, it is better to think about topics for table conversations in advance. The main thing is that they are of interest to all guests.

By the way, if it was once believed that “when I eat, I am deaf and dumb”, then in our time the rules of etiquette do not recommend keeping silent at the table. Of course, you can’t speak with a full mouth: before you say something, you should swallow the food that is in your mouth.

The conversation, according to the rules, should always be started by the elders. The youngest who has been introduced has to wait until he is approached. In the event that the beginning of the conversation is delayed, the younger one can interrupt the awkward pause that has been created by saying something tactful.

Many people know that it is impossible, while visiting, to publicly criticize the served dish. But it is also incorrect to admire the taste and appearance of treats too loudly.

It is indecent to insist at the table, offering food and drinks. In no case should you force them to drink, demand “penalty” glasses for latecomers. None of the guests should be offended by someone's refusal to drink: a person may have good reasons that he may not explain. Anyone who persistently forces the rest of the guests to drink at the festive table runs the risk of showing his bad manners and complete ignorance of the rules of table etiquette. In general, carrying on a conversation during a feast is a great art. Nothing brings people together like a pleasant conversation, and at the same time, nothing repels interlocutors like an insulting and useless argument. A conversation at the table clearly shows the level of upbringing of a person. Empty chatter, imposing one's opinion on other guests testify to the inability to conduct a conversation, the ability to hear only oneself, and not a neighbor. Such behavior is more than impolite. No wonder the ability to keep up a conversation is an art, and the ability to listen is a doubly art. Good upbringing and tact are indicated by the manifestation in a conversation with an interlocutor of understanding, genuine interest, etc. The best form of conversation at the table is a conversation in the form of questions and answers, an exchange of ideas and opinions. At the same time, one should not ask a person a lot of new questions without listening to the answer to the previous ones. It is also uncivilized to interrupt the speaker.

When seating guests, a wise host should take into account the peculiarities of their character and temperament. In any company there will always be entertaining storytellers. Plant them next to "silent people" who prefer to listen rather than talk. Each guest should participate in the conversation, even if he is in a bad mood, there is no particular desire to shine with eloquence. It is necessary to maintain at least occasionally a conversation with those who are sitting next to you. It is impolite and indecent to give monosyllabic answers ("yes" and "no") to questions. It is also considered extremely faux pas to speak in a harsh, hurtful, and haughty tone when your claims are questioned. In society, it is also not customary to talk to only one person. It is desirable that more people participate in the conversation.

It is desirable that as many people as possible participate in the conversation. Remember that an evening spent among interesting interlocutors remains in memory longer than a delicious treat.

In society, it is not customary to keep secrets or, conversely, to speak too loudly. The conversation should be conducted in an undertone. When talking with a neighbor, turn only your head towards him, since turning your whole body is considered tactless - this way you will find yourself sitting with your back to other guests.

It is necessary to sit down and get up from a chair silently, lifting it if necessary, and not dragging it. Sitting "on horseback" on a chair, swinging on legs, casually leaning on the adjacent backs of chairs is considered incorrect. The same will be considered your behavior if you fidget or swing your leg.

Staring at the ceiling, leafing through a newspaper or watching TV without paying any attention to the hosts and other guests is extremely impolite. Such body language suggests that you have forgotten about the rules of decency.

During the conversation, refrain from excessive gestures, do not laugh too loudly, do not pat the interlocutor on the shoulder or back in approval - not everyone likes this.

A conversation in which all those present would participate is possible only in a small company. With a large number of guests at the table, they are talking mainly with those sitting next to and opposite.

If several groups of talking guests have formed at the table, the hosts should, if possible, pay attention to everyone. The task of the hosts is to change the topic of conversation at the right time if one of the guests is angry, offended or unsuccessfully spoke out.

Topics for conversation at a family holiday

A person who knows how to joke at the right time, tell an anecdote, and make a witty toast has great skill. However, in this you need to know the measure, you should not abuse wit too much and joke for any reason. Excessive glibness and energy in this respect is not far from empty sneer and can cause antipathy, especially when the jokes offend those present and, especially, those absent from the table. Anecdotes should also be approached with a sense of proportion. You should not tell obviously old, unfunny and, of course, obscene jokes. However, if someone started telling a joke you know, you should not stop him, but you should try to look interested and laugh politely where the narrator is waiting for it.

It is tactless and immodest to occupy the attention of the neighbors at the table with stories about your achievements and egg successes. Take into account also the fact that long monologues make other guests feel sad. If you were a participant in exciting events, visited unusual places, met famous people and you are asked to talk about it, then tell about it not very often. In any case, a well-bred person tries not to expose his personal merits and achievements.

Each of us would do well to brush up on the rules of etiquette at the table, and perhaps even learn something new about how to behave while eating. The most important rules of etiquette that absolutely everyone should use.

Each of us notices when someone in a cafe at a nearby table eats carelessly or stealthily wipes his hands on his knees. In the same way, other people notice our mistakes, any behavior is conspicuous and can cause embarrassment. Therefore, it is better to check yourself and correct your own behavior if necessary.

How to behave at the table

General rules apply to any situation, they will never be superfluous. The first thing we pay attention to when we see a person is his posture. Posture characterizes not only the behavior or condition of a person, but also reveals the secrets of his character.

An insecure person will fidget nervously on the edge of a chair, a notorious person will try to slouch in order to become less noticeable. Sit up straight, but in a way that is comfortable for you. Hands can be placed on the edge of the table or on your knees, and it is better to press your elbows to your sides.

By the way, in order to learn how to hold your elbows near the body in Soviet times, it was advised to periodically train - have lunch, holding a couple of weighty books to your elbows. This is necessary so that the correct bodily pattern is formed, and you keep your elbows flawlessly even when you don’t think about it at all.

The rules of table etiquette imply almost all situations that can happen to a person and give a clear recommendation on how to act in a given situation.

Naturally, table etiquette at home and restaurant etiquette are somewhat different. However, there are rules that are appropriate in any situation:

• do not speak too loudly;
• do not take a fork or spoon with food too far from the mouth;
• you can not make sounds while eating;
• eat calmly, without undue haste.

Restaurant

The rules of conduct in a restaurant imply some composure - you need to behave correctly and with dignity in order to make a good impression on others.

1. A man must let the lady go first, but if a company of men or women goes to the restaurant, then everyone is on an equal footing or rely on the initiator of the dinner.
2. If several people are to meet at dinner, and someone is late, then by mutual agreement with the rest of the guests, you can wait for those who are late for about a quarter of an hour. A longer wait is a sign of disrespect for guests who arrived on time.
3. If you happened to be late, then you should apologize, and then just join the others. You should not draw special attention to the fact of being late and explain the reason, just join in the table conversation.
4. During a meeting of a man and a woman in a restaurant, a man should read the menu and offer his companion any dishes. For a girl in this case, expressing her indifference is a sign of bad manners. Etiquette in a restaurant implies the participation of a lady in the choice of dishes.
5. In a restaurant, you should not conduct a conversation in raised tones and laugh out loud. If this happened by accident, it makes sense to apologize to other visitors and be quieter. Observe table etiquette, and if someone behaves inappropriately at the next table, then this should be reported to the waiter.
6. You need to start eating when the waiter brought out the ordered dishes to all those present. If a person who is waiting for his dish to be prepared does not mind, he can make an offer to others to start eating.
7. It is strictly forbidden to engage in hygiene procedures at the table - wipe your face, neck and hands with napkins, comb your hair or tint your lips. If you need to pay attention to your appearance, it is better to do it in a special room. Dining etiquette also does not welcome traces of lipstick on dishes. Before you start eating, the girl should carefully remove the lipstick with a napkin.
8. Any interaction with food also looks uncivilized - food is on the table in order to eat it. Taking photos for Instagram, blowing on the soup, meticulously poking around in the salad, commenting on the ingredients - is indecent.
9. If you come across a cartilage or a bone in some dish, you need to carefully return the inedible element back to the spoon and move it to a plate (or napkin).

How to handle appliances

1. In no case should you check the cleanliness of the appliances, and if you still notice a cloudy spot on the fork or spoon, you need to quietly draw the attention of the waiter to this oversight and politely ask for a replacement.
2. In most restaurants, the table is set in advance, and cutlery is laid out on both sides of the serving plate.
3. Do not get lost if there are more dishes on the table than you expected to see - everything has its own purpose, and if you are in doubt about which fork or spoon you should take, you can always see how other guests solve this problem.
4. Those devices that lie on the left of the plate are used with the left hand, and those that are laid out on the right must be held in the right hand.
5. With complex serving, each dish relies on its own devices, so if you are in doubt which fork should be taken, take the far one - the one that is farthest from the edge of the plate. As you change dishes, you will gradually approach the nearest appliances.
6. The knife is used either for cutting food or for spreading pâtés and butter (for example, during breakfasts). You should not try pieces from a knife.
7. Cut meat or fish should be sequentially, as it is eaten. Cutting the whole portion at once is a bad form. It is generally accepted that this way the dish cools down faster and loses its main flavors.

Learn in advance a few differences between different cutlery, so as not to get into a mess.

Forks

• second hot dishes are eaten with a table fork, it has four cloves, and in length it is slightly inferior to the diameter of the plate and is placed on the left;
• a fish fork is used for hot fish dishes, looks smaller than a diner and has four short cloves, a fish fork is easy to recognize by its recesses - they are needed to separate the bones;
• snack fork - a reduced duplicate of a table fork, they eat cold snacks with it;
• dessert fork - for pies, small, corresponds to the size of a dessert plate and looks atypical;
• a fruit fork equipped with two prongs, usually served with a fruit knife;
• the remaining forks are considered auxiliary, they are placed next to the dish that they need to eat.

Knives

• any second hot dishes are eaten with a table knife, it is placed to the right of the plate, the blade is turned to the plate;
• a fish knife is blunt and resembles a spatula, used to separate the flesh of the fish from the bones;
• the snack knife is small and has teeth;
• dessert and fruit knife look similar - they are the smallest.

spoons

• a tablespoon - the largest, lies to the right of the plate;
• a dessert spoon is served with a dessert that does not require cutting - soft puddings, jellies and whipped cream;
• an ice cream spoon is served with a bowl;
• the cocktail spoon has a very narrow and long handle;
• a teaspoon can be served with any hot drink;
• coffee spoon - the smallest, served only with black coffee.

Dialogue and table manners

Table etiquette includes not only the use of utensils, correct positioning and good posture, but also the manner in which dialogues and conversations are conducted.

It is worth noting that table etiquette categorically prohibits discussing provocative issues that can lead to a serious conflict - therefore, one should refrain from commenting on money, politics and religion.

How to behave at the table and what to say? Be sure to look at the person who is addressing you, listen without interrupting, and only then answer. If you think some questions of the interlocutor are inappropriate for a meal, delicately offer to discuss this a little later. In all other cases, the answer should be easy and unconstrained.

The rules of etiquette in a restaurant do not imply violent disputes either - refrain from inappropriate comments and lighten the mood with a cute joke if someone else raises their voice.

You should not talk only together, involve the rest of the participants in the meal. For example, if the conversation turned to a recent vacation, you can ask one of the interlocutors if he is going to go on vacation in the near future or what places he prefers to relax.

It is also a good tone in any table conversation to praise the host, chef or initiator of the meeting - find a few kind words to note the general atmosphere of the evening.

A short course in etiquette

• Do what the majority does.
• Don't point out to others their mistakes, in the most extreme case, this can be said quietly in an undertone and only to your neighbor on the table.
• Don't skip meals for too long.
• Leaving the table - apologize.
• Try everything and eat what you like.
• Diet, eating disorders, restrictions on alcoholic beverages and diet are not discussed at the common table.

It is better to study some rules of behavior at the table by looking at the pictures - look at the basic table setting patterns, you can also watch the video on how to properly hold this or that device.

Table etiquette is not that difficult if you give it a little time, and following all the rules will help you present your best side.

What to talk about at the table? In large and diverse companies, there often comes “that awkward moment” at the table when there is silence, and only spoons rattle.

The hostess sees this as a personal fiasco, the guests seem uninteresting and uncommunicative. How to organize a feast so that conversations flow like water, and everyone has fun? And in general, what is customary to talk about at the table?

The range of topics in each company depends both on common interests and on the age of those present. What is funny to some may seem vulgar and inappropriate to others.

For example, in the company of older people, you should not discuss modern movie stars and same-sex marriages of Europeans. At the same time, adults should not talk about their own illnesses and life dramas of old acquaintances in front of young people.

A male company will be unpleasant to talk about diapers and breastfeeding, and women are unlikely to like a half-hour digression into the topic of planer-planer machines.

Ideally the topic raised should be of interest to everyone. Sketch a plan, write cheat sheets. You can discuss everything - the latest news, and recent trips, and sporting achievements, and the social life of stars, and the secrets of raising a mutual friend, and even branded secrets of gardening, if there is a demand for them.

What not to talk about at the table? It is not customary to raise too intimate topics: why Pyotr Petrovich got divorced, why Kolya's wife left (especially if Kolya sits nearby and protests violently), who has what hurts, and how to treat it, and the like.

You can’t laugh at others evilly, blame, openly condemn and mock with a smile. Religious and political debates and counting other people's money are ungrateful topics that cause a lot of controversy.

jokes,funny life stories,jokes are accepted by everyone with a bang. However, if you see that your puns "do not work" and only cause puzzled looks, then it is better to leave them for another company. Still, a sense of humor, like a smile, is a loose concept.

If you are a holiday think in advance about the selection of guests and about,who and who will be interested. There is not always one general conversation at the table, sometimes quiet conversations are started in the corners for two or three. Think about who to plant with whom and why.

For example, your friend Masha recently made repairs, and her husband's colleague Pavel moonlights as a decorator. At the same time, the Ivanov couple bought a new apartment - they will obviously have something to discuss with the four of them. The main thing is to correctly present them and lead to this thought.

Guests need to be “sorted” not only by interests, but also by age. Never invite sworn enemies and ex-wives/husbands. Sooner or later, thunder will strike, and cute communication will end.

If the guests start to get bored, you can work as a toastmaster yourself or invite one of the guests to take this post. When the conversation is organized and both toasts and entertainment appear in time, then no one has to yearn. Do not forget to occasionally shake up the audience with dances, contests and mass games.

What to talk about at the table if the audience gathered is different and unfamiliar? Start a conversation on a general topic first. You can tell us about the menu, about the reason for the gathering, about your apartment, about the fresh renovation, about the outlandish peaches grown on the balcony and served at the table, about the breed of the new dog, about the achievements of the one-year-old son…

Let the guests join the stream of conversation, drink a couple of glasses. And there you can already raise narrower and more intimate questions.

If you were asked a question, it would be impolite:

Just say yes or no.

Get offended and refuse to answer. No matter how intimate the topic is, you must politely evade it. Reduce everything to a joke or answer vaguely. After all, the curiosity certainly did not try to offend you.

Talking at the table too quietly or terribly loud. The best thing is to choose a medium tone, answer in detail and with a smile. But do not drag out the speech for half an hour, otherwise others will get bored.

What's new in your life? Have you read a fantastic book and want to recommend it to everyone? Met a common old friend and learned about her career achievements? Did you go to a new shopping center, and a dozen incidents happened to you there?

Also come up with questions for the guests and the hostess, if you know who will be there. Don't do it forcedly, just to talk. Only sincere interest will start a fascinating conversation. But after all, people are very multifaceted, and for sure there is something in everyone that is important and useful for you.

Besides, every person has a horse- a topic on which he likes to speculate. Knowing this, you can put a balm on their soul. Ask a friend about looking for a job, a friend of her husband about the endless construction of a summer house, the mistress's daughter about a collection of dolls, Ivan Ivanovich about the last successful fishing trip.

In order to attract attention with a guarantee, you can ask for advice in some difficult matter. Maybe you choose a car? Or you are going somewhere to relax on winter holidays, but you can’t decide where exactly.

Believe me, a “rescue” reflex will immediately arise at a party, and they will vying with each other begin to talk about their own experiences. Who doesn't like to talk about themselves these days?