Our feelings and reason are not always in harmony. Here, let's say you came from a date. You really liked the young man. The next day, in the morning, you are waiting for his call (or at least SMS - it doesn’t matter). But he doesn't call. And your heart is beating, beating: call him yourself, call him. And the mind - do not you dare! Girls don't call first! Here's who to listen to here - the heart or the head?
Or take, for example, a wife who is infuriated that her husband consistently does not close the tube of pasta (scatters socks, is late, splashes the bathroom floor, does not keep promises, substitute his own). And her irritation flares up in response to another tube, sock, etc. She starts yelling at her husband. Why so many emotions? And what is it about - her irritation?
Let's figure it out.
Very often we hear: live with your heart! Living with the heart means living with emotions and feelings. Emotions and feelings are different things, you know? Emotions are short-lived, simple and uniquely colored. The basic emotions are joy, sadness, anger, disgust, contempt, fear, shame, surprise, interest, grief, guilt.
Feelings are longer, persistent and complex emotional states. But the most important thing is that feelings are by nature very contradictory and ambivalent. Well, for example, love. She brings happiness. And she brings suffering. Or envy: it can devour a person from the inside, or it can activate and inspire to actions.
From this we can conclude that it is difficult to live with feelings. Since feelings are contradictory and ambiguous, it is not easy, relying on them, to act consistently and not be tormented by doubts. And have you noticed that people whose lives are governed by emotions are very impulsive (i.e., they act in obedience to the first inner impulse)? And this impulsiveness consistently leads to a bunch of broken firewood.
But this does not mean at all that feelings and emotions should not be trusted. Need!
Emotions never lie!
First of all, emotions serve as a signal to us about meeting our needs. Well, for example: you set yourself some kind of goal (say, to move out to a new apartment from your parents, because it’s not life for you and your husband with your parents, you constantly quarrel because of them). Saving, saving money, looking for options. We have moved. The goal has been reached. What emotions arose? If you feel joy, satisfaction, peace, then the goal was correct. This is what you were aiming for. What if there is no joy? If you have quarreled before, then quarrel. The need for an equal relationship with her husband is not satisfied. So, it was not about the parents, and not about the apartment. And now you have to think What other means can satisfy this need?.
Those who are skeptical about life with their hearts suggest “turning on your head”, i.e. live with reason. However, "reasonable behavior" does not guarantee success and does not exclude mistakes. Because a pure mind, without the promptings of the heart, is unable to recognize and satisfy our desires, is unable to correctly understand those around us, and is incapable of much else. The "correct" life, where everything is logical, thought out and weighed, will never make us completely happy.
The truth, as always, is somewhere in between.: For harmonious functioning, a person needs a well-coordinated union of emotions and reason. You just need to understand the nature of both, and do not forget why we need them.
The main function of emotions- to give us subtle information about our condition and the condition of another person. Any emotion is a signal that something is wrong (or vice versa “so”). Here you are at the party. Everyone around is having fun, and everything seems to be fine. And somehow you are not very good. Everyone asks: what's the matter with you, what's wrong? And you don't know yourself. And here, at this important stage, when you feel some kind of internal discomfort, and should turn on head: to understand what's wrong. feel what is wrong is not possible. This can only be understood by sorting through many options.
Emotions are more than eloquent. Let's return to the example of the wife who is pissed off that her husband consistently doesn't close the tube of pasta (scattering socks, being late, splattering the bathroom floor, not keeping promises, etc.). Her irritation - what is it about? On the unmet need for contact. In other words, she misses him warmth, inclusion maybe even respect and acceptance. And this inclusion, this respect is sought in a completely inadequate way, because emotions have accumulated - for a whole atomic explosion.
There is another interesting point in this example: there is no purpose as such in this behavior of the wife. She simply does not realize her need for warm emotional contact and does not seek to fulfill it in any way. It poke like a blind kitten. He did not close the tube, and she yells at him. And she yells, in fact, from impotence to understand what is wrong with her, what does she need to be happy with him? I often ask my clients: why are you yelling at your husbands? what are you looking for? They cannot find an answer to this question, except: well, is it difficult, or something, to close the pasta? And what will this closed tube give? Happiness in your personal life? Will this make contact with your husband warmer? Yes, nothing of the sort. There is no goal, so the behavior is aimless, and therefore useless.
Which exit? Do not accumulate emotions in yourself, but track each one. Every! Felt - tracked - reacted in a socially acceptable way. Those. they saw another unclosed tube (sock, wet floor, unfulfilled promise) and went yelled into another room. Then they spoke their feelings, thought about what, what unfulfilled need they are talking about ... Usually it is very difficult for us to figure out what we really want and what we are dissatisfied with. And here psychologists come to the rescue :).
If the function of emotions is to suggest what is wrong (or vice versa “so”), then the function of the head is to make a decision. It is very important that feelings remain only a tool, and the last word still remains with the mind.
If the mind fails, you can listen to the heart. It will undoubtedly tell you the right decision, if only its wise whisper is not drowned in cries of emotion.
If the heart and head are in obvious conflict, then ...
Let's go back to our very first case - to call the young man you like or not?
Here you sit in front of the phone and suffer. You listen to the beating heart (call! call!). What does it mean to you to call? - About the fact that the young man liked. Highly. You feel great sympathy for him, maybe even love.
And at this wonderful moment, as we have already said, ideally, the brain should turn on. And ask you a question: what, in fact, stops you from calling? Indeed, if the affection was mutual you would it and knew and felt. Then the question, to call - not to call, would not have stood at all. You would live with your heart. And since there is conflict and doubt, then some of your senses is telling you that your liking is more than his Or there is no sympathy on his part at all. And if there is no sympathy, you are unlikely to be able to achieve his location. That is, the time spent on it will be empty, the relationship that you dream about will not work out for you.
What is the conclusion? You know in your mind that you don't need to call. But consciousness does not understand the entire chain that we have just traced here. Therefore, only a vague trace remains in it (consciousness), such a quiet inner voice that whispers: do not call.
And then only you can decide what to do next. Listen to the heart that drives you into the trap of a dead end relationship. Or listen to your head and let your heart suffer a little. This is useful. It's tempering. It teaches you to understand people.
Composition in the direction: Reason and feeling. Graduation essay 2016-2017
Reason and feeling: can they possess a person at the same time, or are they mutually exclusive concepts? Is it true that in a fit of feelings a person commits both vile deeds and great discoveries that drive evolution and progress? What is a dispassionate mind capable of, a cold calculation? The search for answers to these questions has occupied the best minds of mankind since life appeared. And this dispute, which is more important - reason or feeling - has been going on since antiquity, and everyone has their own answer. “People live by feelings,” says Erich Maria Remarque, but immediately adds that in order to realize this, reason is needed.
On the pages of world fiction, the problem of the influence of feelings and the mind of a person is raised very often. So, for example, in Leo Tolstoy's epic novel "War and Peace" two types of heroes appear: on the one hand, this is the impulsive Natasha Rostova, the sensitive Pierre Bezukhov, the fearless Nikolai Rostov, on the other hand, the arrogant and prudent Helen Kuragina and her brother, callous Anatole. Many conflicts in the novel come precisely from the excess of feelings of the characters, whose ups and downs are very interesting to watch. A vivid example of how a burst of feelings, thoughtlessness, ardor of character, impatient youth influenced the fate of the heroes is the case of Natasha's betrayal, because for her, funny and young, it was incredibly long to wait for her wedding with Andrei Bolkonsky, could she subdue her unexpectedly flashed feelings for Anatole the voice of reason? Here we have a real drama of mind and feelings in the soul of the heroine, she faces a difficult choice: to leave her fiancé and leave with Anatole, or not to succumb to a momentary impulse and wait for Andrei. It was in favor of feelings that this difficult choice was made, only chance prevented Natasha. We cannot condemn the girl, knowing her impatient nature and thirst for love. It was feelings that dictated Natasha's impulse, after which she regretted her act when she analyzed it.
It was the feeling of boundless, all-consuming love that helped Margarita reunite with her lover in Mikhail Afanasyevich Bulgakov's novel The Master and Margarita. The heroine, without a second's hesitation, gives her soul to the devil and goes with him to the ball, where the killers and hangmen kiss her knee. Having abandoned a secure, measured life in a luxurious mansion with a loving husband, she rushes into an adventurous adventure with evil spirits. Here is a vivid example of how a person, having chosen a feeling, created his happiness.
Thus, the statement of Erich Maria Remarque is absolutely true: guided only by reason, a person can live, but it will be a colorless, dull and joyless life, only feelings give life indescribably bright colors, leaving emotionally filled memories. As the great classic Leo Tolstoy wrote: “If we assume that human life can be controlled by reason, then the very possibility of life will be destroyed.”
Publication date: 11/26/2016
EXAMPLE: A verified Final essay on the topic “Mind is given to a person in order to understand that it is impossible to live by reason alone, people live by feelings” in the direction of “Mind and Feeling”.
Introduction (intro):“Reason is given to man in order to understand that it is impossible to live by reason alone, people live by feelings” Erich Maria Remarque.
Feelings and reason are the most important components of the inner world of a person. As a rule, they are in harmony, but sometimes a bloody battle begins between them, which is decisive and can radically change the situation. People leading (guided) only by reason, they can live their lives without experiencing true emotions and feelings. Others who greedy for feelings (it is better to avoid this combination of words) sometimes they do very stupid and thoughtless things. I can confirm the correctness of my reasoning with examples from literary works.
Comment: The beginning is very good, but the topic is not covered. Since the topic here is a statement, there are two options: either use the quote itself as the topic, but conveying the meaning in your own words. Or take the statement as a basis and write WHY it is so. In general, the essence of the essay should come down to the fact that a person cannot live without feelings. Plus, it is very important to frame the thesis with introductory words that indicate that this is your personal opinion.
Argument 1:
In the work of A.S. Pushkin "Eugene Onegin" the author raises the question of reason and feeling. The main characters - Eugene and Tatyana have strong feelings towards each other, but constantly hesitate, not understanding how best to act. Attempts to express her emotions are unsuccessful for Tatyana and do not bear fruit. Eugene, after reading the letter, says that he was created for bliss, and not for family life. This is where their conversation ends. As time goes on, Onegin realizes that he is in love and wants to see Tatyana. She also admits that she loves Eugene, but yielding to her mother's entreaties, she is already married to another. In the end, the mind wins the fight.
Comment: a good argument, and this work can even be used for your theme. But this format is not suitable. You described an example of the victory of reason over feelings, and Remarque wrote that people live by feelings, and this is contrary to the topic.
Argument 2:
Another striking example is the work of I.A. Goncharov "Oblomov". Ilya Ilyich is the protagonist of the novel, who is tied to one place and has completely lost the incentive to develop. He has long ceased to set goals for himself, because his life goes smoothly and measuredly. He was accustomed to such a life as a child. Oblomov's dream tells us about this. One day, Andrei Stolz attempts to help Ilya Ilyich and introduces him to Olga Ilyinskaya, who later becomes Oblomov's lover. Olga is a very smart, well-read girl; constantly evolving. She tries to raise Oblomov to her "ideal", to re-educate, but this is insincere love. Their paths diverge. She is replaced by another woman - Agafya Pshenitsyna: she is very hardworking, cooks well, tries in every possible way to please Ilya Ilyich, and she succeeds. There is complete harmony in their relationship. They are very good together. In this work, the author helps to understand that sincere feelings are a huge force that can work wonders.
Reason is given to man in order to understand: it is impossible to live by reason alone, people live by feelings, there are people who agree with this saying.
A certain part of people believe that you should not build your life solely on feelings. Each action must be supported by a reasonable, balanced decision, be amenable to explanation and fall under an understandable algorithm. Accepting this as the norm, a person, however, turns into a machine for the performance of certain functions, completely depriving his actions of being filled with at least some feelings and colors. Such dryness can even cause undisguised disgust.
Is common sense bad?
Predictability is the main weakness of such individuals. Knowing the logic of actions and the pedantry of execution, at any moment you expect how he will behave. How will he react to a given situation? Actions are completely devoid of creative and fantasy flight. Not a man - a machine. This is probably not bad for the person himself - it's just not interesting to others. Such people are comfortable only in the company of their own kind.
Opposites
The antipodes of the above example are people who are prone to showing even small emotions on the verge of shocking. Owners of creative professions are especially guilty of this. Quite a few examples can be cited from modern show business. The negative side of these characters is, on the contrary, complete unpredictability, and, sometimes, recklessness. It's not easy to get along with them either. You never know how to behave so as not to fall under the “hot hand”.
Perfect option
In my subjective opinion, it is ideal if a person combines the ability to sensibly and prudently evaluate planned actions, control, but not hide his emotions and show them in a timely manner where it will not be superfluous or will not seem like a sign of weakness. This helps to openly show the attitude to the surrounding reality, make it understandable to loved ones, while allowing important decisions to be made based on common sense.
Then the very ideal ring that is displayed in the title of the assignment for this essay will close: the mind is given to a person in order to understand that it is impossible to live with one mind.
Perhaps this is the secret of happiness?
Openness to the manifestation of elementary human virtues, compassion and at the same time a clear understanding of where and when they can be shown. So others get the impression that they are dealing with an absolutely living person, capable of feelings, but with a cold head. With whom it is possible and reliable to deal.
