“Wise people speak because they have something to say, and fools because they have something to say”

Plato

Absolutely everything you say can be interpreted in 4 ways: positive, negative, neutral and unclear Smart and emotionally mature people speak consciously and clearly, and also choose the right words to minimize negative reactions.

However, each of us has ever said something that we later regretted. Our words can hurt another person, whether we want it or not.
Emotional intelligence (EI) is the ability of a person to recognize, control and express their emotions, and to treat others with an open mind and empathy. The level of a person's EI can be determined based on how others perceive what he says.
Moreover, it is this type of intelligence, and not at all IQ, that plays an important role in what a person decides to say and what not to say. Emotional intelligence is directly related to social awareness - the ability of a person to understand the emotions of others. In other words, our ability (or inability) to show empathy.

In order to no longer suffer from unpleasant thoughts and feelings after you have said something without thinking, you need to understand what exactly you should never say out loud in public.

Here are actually those 10 phrases that an emotionally mature person will never say:

1. "It's not fair!"

Life itself is unfair and adults understand this. What happened may be monstrously unfair, but talking about it will not help you solve the problem.

No matter how difficult it may be, focus all your attention and efforts on finding a solution. You will immediately feel better, retain your dignity and perhaps even solve the problem itself.

2. "You look tired"

Remember: we have no idea what is really going on in a person's life, and such phrases make it clear that everyone around knows about his problems.

Instead, try adding some empathy to your words. For example, the question "Are you all right?" will show the person that you really care and you care about him.

3. “For someone your age, you…” and similar phrases

This includes phrases such as: "You look good for your age" or "As a woman, you have managed to achieve a lot."
Unfortunately, in our time there is still discrimination based on age and gender. Most likely, having heard such a phrase from you, your interlocutor will catch a note of prejudice in it and be offended.

No need to add any comparisons, just compliment the person.

4. "Like I said..."

We all sometimes forget about something said by ourselves or others. This phrase implies that you feel insulted because you have to repeat something again, as well as that you put yourself above your interlocutor.

To be honest, it’s not very pleasant to repeat the same thing over and over to the same person. Do not show your annoyance and instead try to express yourself more clearly and understandably.

5. “You never…” or “you always…”

Very often, such phrases are spoken insincerely and overly dramatically. Thus, a person tries to offend his interlocutor out of anger or disrespect.

Try to justify the actions of your interlocutor and stick to specifics. For example: “I noticed that you continue…. Is there anything I can do to help you?"

6. "Good luck!"

At first glance, there is nothing wrong with this phrase.

However, if you look deeper, you can understand the following: luck implies that success will not depend on a person at all, but on a lucky chance. Do people use their abilities to win the lottery? No, it's just luck.

Most people use this phrase with good intentions, but this does not prevent others from interpreting it in completely different ways. Instead of wishing good luck, encourage the person with “I know you can do this” or “You will definitely succeed.” In this way, you will strengthen his self-confidence much more than just wishing him luck.

7. "I don't care"

When your interlocutor tries to get your opinion, he expects from you a constructive response or, in extreme cases, at least some kind of response. Answering that you don't care - you let your interlocutor understand that you do not consider his question important and do not want to waste your time on it.

Instead, try to understand your interlocutor. If you are busy, arrange a time when you can talk normally and listen to each other.

8. "With all due respect..."

Does what you are going to say after this phrase really reflect your degree of respect for the interlocutor? If yes, continue. Most importantly, don't forget that your words, body language, and intonation will give you away and show if you're really showing respect.

On the other hand, the unconscious use of this phrase to enter into a conversation or discussion will have nothing to do with your respect, so next time try to refrain from it.

9. "I told you so"

This phrase is simply impregnated with disrespect and superiority, and also sounds childish and immature. No adult self-respecting person will ever utter it.

Each of us at least once in our lives warned others about the possible consequences of their actions, and in some cases, you may have been right.

When communicating with a person who has made a mistake and made the wrong choice, try to avoid phrases that may sound contemptuous. It may well be that this person needs help that you are simply not able to offer him. Consider all possible options and think before you say something.

10. "I give up"

This phrase may seem harmless at first glance, but by saying it, you agree that you are not able to cope with anything. It can be problems with the boss or colleagues, a difficult task / project, and much more.

Most importantly, do not forget that you are much stronger / smarter / more capable than you yourself think. There is absolutely nothing you can't handle. “I can do it” are the only words you need to say in a difficult situation.
Don't lose faith in yourself.

There are phrases that you should never, under any circumstances, say out loud at work.

These words have a special negative power. They can make you look bad, whether you're right or wrong.

Remember that the word is not a sparrow. Having said these phrases out loud, you will not be able to return them back and correct the impression made.

No matter how subtle your remarks are, they can demonstrate your self-doubt and work incompetence, which is very bad for career advancement.

You can be very talented, excellent at work, but the above phrases can forever change the opinion of you as a good employee and leave an extremely negative impression. The reason is the strong negative charge of these phrases.

Let's see which of them you have already heard or said personally.

1. "It's not fair"

Life is unfair, that's a fact. Saying such a phrase, you show that you demand the utmost honesty from this world, dividing it into white and black, which is a sign of immaturity and some naivety.

If you do not want to seem naive, you should abandon such a phrase, stick to facts and constructiveness. Interpret events in your favor. For example, if you're interested in a raise, you might say to your boss, “I noticed you assigned Anna to this project. Could you tell us why this decision was made? I think I could also apply for this position. Tell me, maybe I need to improve some skills?

2. "I always do this"

Technological progress does not stand still, innovations appear very quickly. And methods that worked just six months ago may not work today. Claiming that you always act only in a certain way, you show yourself as a lazy person who does not want to learn new things, or a retrograde. It may also lead your boss to ask why you are not trying to optimize your workflow. Even if you always adhere to a certain scheme of work, this does not mean that it cannot be improved.

3. "No problem"

Some respond to gratitude or a request for a favor with the phrase “no problem.” She may seem polite, but in fact she hints to the interlocutor that his case could be a problem. The person may get the impression that he has burdened you with his difficulties.
On the contrary, you need to show people that you are happy to help, especially if it is a colleague or boss. Phrases like "I'll be glad to help" are more appropriate. The difference between the words is small, but the impact can be enormous.

4. "You can ask a stupid question ... / I think ... / Maybe this is a bad idea ... "

The problem is the passivity of these phrases, they can undermine your image of a confident person. Even if you come up with a great idea, its value will be diminished if people think you are doubting yourself.

Don't become your own critic. If you are not confident in your words, then others will never believe in them. If you really have doubts about your own knowledge and skills, you can say: "I do not have this information, but I will definitely clarify this issue and let you know."

5. "It only takes a minute"

With this phrase, you downplay your skills, it seems that you are literally breaking through the work. Except in situations where the task really takes no more than a minute, you should not call a strict time frame. Suffice it to say "it won't take long". Do not give people false ideas about the true duration of work.

6. "I'll try"

The words "I'll try" or "I'll try" make your speech lack confidence, create doubt that you are able to cope with the task. You must take full responsibility for your own abilities. Work requests should be answered with consent or an alternative offered. But avoid the word "I'll try" at all costs: it looks like you're not putting enough effort into the work.

7. "He's incompetent/lazy/stupid"

Avoid disparaging remarks towards your colleagues. You will not receive any benefit from your words. Even if you are right about the personal and mental qualities of a person, everything is already in the know, you should not once again focus on this. And if the phrase is not too accurate, you yourself can be in the role of a fool.

Get ready for the fact that in any job there will be incompetent people, about the shortcomings of which all colleagues are aware. Criticism will work only if you can directly influence these people: help them improve their skills or, on the contrary, fire them. Otherwise, you won't achieve anything. On the contrary, when talking about the stupidity or incompetence of a colleague, you look like you are trying to stand out from his background. Rude phrases will make other colleagues think badly of you too.

8. "It's not my responsibility"

This phrase is too sarcastic. In addition, it looks as if you are ready to perform only the bare minimum of duties in order to receive a salary, but the security of your employment will be in question.

It is better to carry out the instructions of the boss with enthusiasm. Of course, provided that what you are asked for is absolutely acceptable from the point of view of morality, and the request itself is formulated politely and correctly. Only after completing the task can you have a one-to-one discussion with your boss about your position, the role you play in the company, and ask for a review of the scope of work or salary, if necessary. This is how you show your importance to the company. In addition, it will establish a strong, strong relationship with your boss and give him a clear understanding of your job responsibilities and rights.

9. "It's not my fault"

Blaming an outsider or turning arrows almost always ends badly. Don't be afraid to take on responsibility, especially if you're in a leadership position, even a small one. Even if not, try to solve the situation: explain why the task was not possible, offer an alternative solution to the problem. State the facts clearly in your story. Let the authorities and colleagues decide for themselves who is to blame for the situation served.

You should always avoid accusations. Otherwise, others may think that you do not know how to be responsible for your own actions. This creates a negative impression and makes people nervous. They will have doubts about the success of the case, and they will try to avoid working together. And in case of failure, they will try to blame you.

10. "I can't"

This phrase is the twin of the one described above. People don't like to hear that you can't do something. They feel like you don't really want to do it. The phrase "I can't" shows that you won't put enough effort into the work.

If you really do not have the opportunity, skills, time to complete the task, you can offer an alternative solution. Don't talk about what you can't do - talk about what you are ready to do.

For example, instead of saying "I can't stay late tonight," say "I'll be at work early tomorrow." Instead of "I can't do the calculations," it's better to say, "I don't know how it's done yet. Maybe someone will tell me what to do, and I will prepare everything?

11. "I hate this job!"

This is the last phrase that superiors want to hear from a subordinate in the workplace. Complaints about your work and hate speech are categorically unacceptable. Such phrases, like no other, emphasize your negative attitude and can even lower the morale of the entire group. Your boss may think you're a real corporate breaker, executives have a real nose for these kinds of people. In this case, you may find a replacement: someone more enthusiastic and ready to do anything to take your place.

Just remove the listed phrases from your vocabulary, and you will immediately notice a change for the better. Remember that a well-structured conversation can bring considerable benefits. The danger of these phrases is that they strive to jump off the tongue, and for many they have already become a habit. Therefore, it is better to gradually change the very train of thought in order to permanently get rid of negative and uncertain words. And so on until you learn to do without them altogether.

She was so smart until she fell in love ... And when she fell in love, she became deaf, blind and stupid. Deaf, because he does not want to hear the indifference of his man, blind, because he does not want to notice betrayals in his own bed, stupid, because he is afraid to admit that love has passed. And she passed if a man allows himself to express indifference, tactless remarks, insults or contempt. Phrases and words are harbingers of his actions. To ignore them means to allow him to disrespect himself. Can a man love a woman he doesn't respect?

10 phrases that a man in love will never say

1. I don't have to report to you!

Yes! Nobody owes anything to anyone. But a man who loves wants to keep a woman informed about his plans and events so that she does not worry, does not guess his mood and is involved in his life just like he is in hers. Of course, a woman should not demand a detailed account of every step a man takes, but to know what is happening to him is a common human need that arises when close relationships are established between people.

1. It's your problem!

A loving couple does not divide problems into "yours" and "mine." In the union, all obstacles, difficulties, troubles and sorrows are common, even if they concern only one of the partners. People enter into relationships in order to feel supported in difficult life situations, and are entitled to support, participation or simple understanding. If a man allows himself to declare that a woman's problems are her only concern, then there is no smell of love here.

1. Do you have PMS?

The phrase, from which in women without PMS, he immediately comes. It is used by men who do not want to understand the true causes of a bad mood, tears and worries of women. Why, if you can explain any objectionable behavior of a PMS woman. An indifferent man always puts this “diagnosis” when a woman needs him to listen to her, to get to the heart of the problem and understand. But he wants to relieve himself of responsibility, to shift the blame on female nature, that is, on the woman herself. It's easier and more convenient when there is no love.

1. Do what you want!

The frequent repetition of this phrase suggests that a man is indifferent to everything that a woman will do with her life. He does not want to be an active participant in a relationship, empathize, give advice, support, help and be indifferent. A man does not want to be interested in the affairs of a woman he does not love.

1. If something does not suit you, look for another!

This is blatant disregard. A man does not want to be responsible, change and develop. He is sure that a woman should put up with his shortcomings, and if she doesn’t like something, let her roll on all four sides. A man who has fallen out of love will not hold back. A lover, on the contrary, will begin to seek a compromise, will strive to respect the opinion and desires of a woman, select words and control his tone.

1. My ex (or mom) did it better!

A rude and tactless comparison in favor of another woman betrays a cruel manipulator in a man. From the lips of a sincerely loving man, such a phrase will never fly out. Even if there is something that a woman, in his opinion, does not do well enough, and an ex-girlfriend or mother coped with it better, you can always find soft words, and it is not necessary to drag former women into it. There is a difference: “My mom’s plov tastes better!” and “Beloved, add oriental spices to the pilaf. So much tastier!

1. Take it easy! You annoy me!

No one has ever been reassured by the word “Calm down!”, and even more so a person who needs peace and words of consolation. If this is followed by accusation, claims, dissatisfaction, it is unlikely that a man is ready for mutual understanding. It makes no sense for him to waste energy on an unloved woman if she can be “knocked out” with just the phrase “Calm down!”. And if you didn’t calm down - “Fool! You annoy me!". And really a fool if she believes that this boor is able to love her!

1. I love you, but...

Love is an unconditional feeling, and if there are conditions in the form of “but” (but only if you lose weight, pump up your chest, love my mother, sacrifice yourself to me, etc.), then this is not love at all, but pure manipulation. A truly loving man will not set conditions. If something does not suit him in a woman, he has the right to look for another, but must remain honest at the same time. There is more love in an unloving but sincere man than in a "loving" manipulator.

1. Do not call me!

This phrase is acceptable only if it sounds like this: “Please don’t call me. I will be very busy. When I'm free, I'll pick you up right away." In another context, implying a categorical ban, without explanation, but with a claim, such a request will mean that the man does not want to contact, and any manifestation of initiative on the part of the woman will be regarded by him as an imposition or invasion of personal territory. Ignoring this request will entail other prohibitions and offensive actions of a man, saying how much he does not love a woman.

1. Bored with you!

In other words, "I'm not interested in you!". As a rule, by saying this phrase, a man makes it clear to a woman that a relationship between them is impossible, or in this way he stimulates a woman to seek him, entertain, surprise him. A loving man will come up with an exciting pastime for two, will equally entertain and entertain, and will never allow himself to reproach a woman for not being interesting enough for him.

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" Wise people speak because they have something to say. Fools because they have to say something ." Plato

The words we speak can be interpreted in different ways: positively, negatively or neutrally.

Smart, emotionally mature people tend to speak in a cautious manner, choosing words to minimize a negative or obscure response.

Of course, we all said something that we later regretted. Perhaps our words hurt others on purpose or by accident, and we wanted to take them back.

Emotional intelligence is defined as the ability to recognize, manage and express emotions and regulate relationships. It has to do with the ability to deal with the emotions and experiences of others.

This type of intelligence plays a decisive role in what to say and what to keep quiet.

Here 10 Phrases Emotionally Intelligent People Try to Avoid.

Phrases that should not be spoken

1. "It's not fair."

Yes, life is unfair, and that's what adults understand. Perhaps what happened is unfair, perhaps even a blatant injustice. However, we must remember that the people who surround us often do not know about what happened, and even if they are privy to the details, this phrase does not solve the problem in any way.

As difficult as it may be focus your attention and efforts on solving the problem.

You will feel better, keep your dignity, and possibly solve the problem.

2. "You look tired."

The thing is, you have absolutely no idea what is going on in a person's life.

When you say, "You look tired," no matter how well you say it, this makes it clear to a person that his problems are visible to everyone.

Instead, rephrase your sentence or question in a more empathetic way. For example, "Are you all right?" to show the person that you're worried about what's happening to them.

3. "For your age..."

For example, "You look great for your age" or "For a woman, you have achieved a lot."

Chances are good that the person you're talking to is well aware of age and gender biases and may be offended by it.

No need to make reservations, just compliment.

4. "Like I said before..."

Who among us hasn't forgotten something from time to time? This phrase implies that you are offended by the fact that you have to repeat yourself, and that you are somehow better than your interlocutor.

To be fair, repeating the same person over and over can be annoying. Refrain from expressing your anger and try to clarify what you wanted to say.

Just remind the person from time to time.

Meaning of phrases

5. "You never" or "You always"

As a rule, these words are pronounced sarcastically or overly dramatic. Very often they are used to offend someone either out of anger or contempt.

Justify what the person did and provide details. For example, "I've noticed what you keep doing...is there anything I can help with/Is there anything I need to know?"

6. "Good luck"

Many may argue that this phrase is not worth saying, and rightly so.

But there is a logical explanation for this: luck takes the result from the hands of a person and subordinates it to external influences or chance.

Has anyone ever used their powers to win the lottery? No, it's luck.

Phrase " I know that you have all the necessary qualities"can build a person's confidence better than the notion of luck.

7. "It doesn't matter to me"

When someone asks for your opinion, they do so expecting a constructive response, any response. When you say "It doesn't matter to me," it implies that either the situation is not very important to you, or the time it takes to respond is not a priority.

Instead of this, learn more about the person's situation. If you don't have enough time, suggest another time when you can listen to him.

8. "With all due respect..."

Stop and think about whether the words you now say are really affected by the degree of respect for him?

If you can honestly answer yes, then go ahead. Just remember that the way you speak, your gestures and facial expressions, as well as intonation, will immediately make it obvious whether it is said respectfully or not.

On the other hand, if this phrase is spoken on autopilot to cut into a conversation that has nothing to do with respect, it is best to hold back.

9. "I told you"

This phrase is full of arrogance and a sense of superiority. When you read this phrase, you are probably imagining children playing in the playground, which is why it sounds childish and immature.

You warned a person about the consequences of certain actions, and perhaps he learned his lesson.

Find another way to communicate with someone who made the wrong decision without expressing contempt. Perhaps the person needs help that we cannot provide.

10. "I give up."

Although this phrase seems quite innocent, it is a statement that we are not able to overcome something that is right in front of our noses. Maybe it's a terrible boss, a difficult project, or an arrogant employee.

But remember that you are much stronger, smarter, more capable than you think. There is nothing that you cannot overcome. " I can" are the only words you need.

Soviet leader Joseph Vissarionovich Stalin unexpectedly intervened in the course of the 2016 election campaign in the United States. The “culprit” of this event was the presidential candidate from the Republican Party, Ben Carson.

During a televised debate, Carson said, "Joseph Stalin said that if you want to destroy America, you need to destroy three things - our spiritual life, our patriotism and our morality."

Very quickly, viewers and netizens discovered that the presidential contender had quoted words that Stalin never actually uttered. After that, hundreds of ironic comments rained down on Carson.

The most curious thing is that the quote cited by Ben Carson is well known to the Russian audience - it, but only reversed in relation to Russia, is cited either as part of the so-called "Dulles plan", or as a statement by Zbigniew Brzezinski. Some even attribute it to Otto von Bismarck.

In fact, neither Stalin, nor Bismarck, nor Brzezinski, as well as other prominent figures from different eras, have anything to do with this phrase. The most similar statement is found in the hero of the novel by the writer Anatoly Ivanov "Eternal Call", a former Russian gendarmerie officer, and at the time of the statement - SS Standartenführer Lakhnovsky.

The incident that happened to Ben Carson is not so rare. Thanks to the Internet, the replication of loud statements and aphorisms of famous people who actually did not say anything like that has become massive.

The leader of the Russian revolution Vladimir Ilyich Lenin wrote about this:“The main problem with quotes on the Internet is that people immediately believe in their authenticity”.

If you were embarrassed by the historical neighborhood of Lenin and the Internet, then you can be congratulated - of course, he did not write anything like that. However, this phrase, launched by someone as a mockery of fake quotes, is now taken at face value by many citizens who are not too savvy in historical matters.

Here are a few examples of famous sayings by the powerful of this world that they never actually uttered.

1. "No person - no problem" , - Joseph Stalin

It is not known what the Soviet leader would say when he heard this saying - perhaps he would nod his head approvingly, or perhaps he would twist his finger at his temple. In any case, there is no reliable evidence that Stalin ever said such a phrase.

In fact, the phrase was introduced into circulation and attributed to Stalin by the writer Anatoly Rybakov in the novel Children of the Arbat. They say that the author heartily laughed at publicists and politicians who in their speeches cited this phrase as really Stalinist.

2. “We don’t have irreplaceable people” , - Joseph Stalin

And one more phrase attributed to the Generalissimo, but not belonging to him. In 1942, playwright Alexander Korneichuk used it in the play Front. But he is not the author either. The words actually belong to the Commissar of the French Revolutionary Convention, Joseph Le Bon, and were spoken in 1793.

The Viscount de Gieselin, arrested for political unreliability, asked to be spared his life, since his education and experience could still be useful to the new France. To which Commissioner Le Bon replied: “There are no irreplaceable people in the Republic!” The commissioner turned out to be right - soon after the viscount he went to the guillotine himself.

3. "Stalin took Russia with a plow, and left it with an atomic bomb" , - Winston Churchill

Another famous phrase, now not Stalin, but about Stalin. Indeed, Winston Churchill treated the Soviet leader with apprehension and respect, which was reflected even in the Fulton speech that launched the Cold War: “I deeply admire and honor the valiant Russian people and my wartime comrade Marshal Stalin.”

But Churchill did not say anything about the plow and the atomic bomb. For the first time, as a quote from Churchill, she was cited in the article “I Can’t Give Up My Principles” in March 1988 by the Stalinist Nina Andreeva.

Andreeva may have been inspired by a 1956 Encyclopædia Britannica article about Stalin. The author of the article, Sovietologist Isaac Deutscher, wrote: “The essence of Stalin's truly historic achievements is that he accepted Russia with a plow, and leaves it with nuclear reactors. He raised Russia to the level of the second industrialized country in the world.”

4. “When I hear the word “culture”, my hand reaches for a gun” , - Joseph Goebbels

The chief propagandist of the Third Reich really did not favor those manifestations of culture that did not fit into the Nazi ideology. Perhaps he would even subscribe to this statement, like Hermann Goering, who is sometimes also credited with the authorship of these words. But the truth is that neither Goering nor Goebbels said anything like that.

In fact, the phrase is taken from the Nazi playwright Hans Jost's play "Schlageter", dedicated to the German veteran of the First World War, who, after the Allied occupation of the Rhineland, continued to undermine French trains. In the play, Schlageter discusses with his friend whether it is worth spending time studying if the country is under occupation. The friend replies that it is better to fight than to learn, and that at the word "culture" he unlatches his Browning.

5. “Don’t feel sorry for the soldiers, the women still give birth!” - Marshal Georgy Zhukov

This quote is very popular among critics of Marshal Zhukov's leadership talents, as well as among fans of the version that the Red Army "thrown corpses" at the Wehrmacht.

There is only one problem - Zhukov never said it. As Alexander Suvorov, Mikhail Kutuzov and Emperor Peter the Great did not pronounce it, to whom it was attributed at different times.

It is not known for certain how and when this phrase originated. Something similar can be found in a letter from Empress Alexandra Feodorovna to Nicholas II, dated August 17, 1916: “The generals know that we still have many soldiers in Russia, and therefore do not spare lives, but these were superbly trained troops, and everything was in vain” .

6. "The Franco-Prussian War was won by a German schoolteacher", - Otto von Bismarck

Otto von Bismarck said a lot in his life that later turned into aphorisms. But, in addition to the real words of Bismarck, there are a lot of those that are erroneously attributed to him.

The author of the statement is Bismarck's contemporary, geography teacher Oskar Peschel. The words that appeared in a newspaper article in the summer of 1866 referred not to the Franco-Prussian, but to the Austro-Prussian war: "When the Prussians beat the Austrians, it was the victory of the Prussian teacher over the Austrian school teacher."

7. “Whoever was not a radical in his youth - he has no heart, who did not become a conservative in his maturity - he has no mind” , - Winston Churchill

Many people heard about this phrase of Churchill, but the trouble is that the British Prime Minister himself, obviously, never uttered it. British historians, having turned over the archives, have not found reliable confirmation of Churchill's utterance of this phrase.

Paul Addison of the University of Edinburgh states: “Churchill obviously couldn’t say this, since he himself was a Conservative at 15 and a Liberal at 35. Besides, would he have spoken so disrespectfully to Clemmie (Clementine Churchill, Winston’s wife - approx. ed.), who was considered a liberal all her life?

The most likely author of the expression is Francois Guizot, the Prime Minister of France in 1847–1848, who once said: “Who is not a republican at twenty, he has no heart; who is a Republican after thirty, he has no head.

8. "Any cook can run the state" , - Vladimir Lenin

Since the late 1980s, critics of the Soviet system and socialism in general have been actively trumpeting this phrase. Without entering into a dispute on the topic of whose ability to govern the state is higher - a Russian cook of the beginning of the 20th century or a Russian deputy of the beginning of the 21st century, it must be said that Lenin did not utter such words.

In this case, we are talking about a deliberate distortion of the real Leninist phrase. In October 1917, in the article “Will the Bolsheviks Retain State Power?” Lenin wrote: “We are not utopians. We know that any unskilled worker and any cook are not capable of immediately entering into government. On this we agree with the Cadets, and with Breshkovskaya, and with Tsereteli. But we differ from these citizens in that we demand an immediate break with the prejudice that only rich officials or officials taken from rich families can manage the state, carry out the everyday, daily work of government. We demand that public administration be taught by conscious workers and soldiers and that it be started immediately, that is, all working people, all the poor, should be immediately involved in this training.

As you can see, Lenin's original phrase has a completely different meaning.

9. “If I fall asleep and wake up in a hundred years, and they ask me what is happening in Russia now, I will answer without hesitation: they drink and steal” , - Mikhail Saltykov-Shchedrin

This phrase is known to everyone and is regularly found in the media. But Mikhail Evgrafovich Saltykov-Shchedrin, despite all his satirical talent, did not write or pronounce it. Most likely, the second contender for authorship, the Russian historian Nikolai Mikhailovich Karamzin, did not do this either. The phrase appears in Mikhail Zoshchenko's "Blue Book" with reference to the notebooks of Pyotr Andreevich Vyazemsky, who, in turn, refers to conversations with Karamzin. There is no reliable confirmation of the reality of the conversation in which such a phrase was uttered, so it can be considered the author's find of Zoshchenko himself.

10. “Every fool can handle a crisis. What is more difficult for us is everyday life.” , - Anton Chekhov

This phrase has become especially active among Russian Internet users recently due to the economic crisis in the country. However, she is also popular abroad, since Anton Pavlovich Chekhov is one of the Russian writers and playwrights who are well known throughout the world.

The problem is that to this day no one has been able to find an indication of this phrase in the works, letters and memoirs of Chekhov.