Kindness is one of the most important human qualities. It means the ability to show love for one's neighbor and to provide selfless help to those in need.

This quality becomes vital for many people. To find it, you need to understand why people are kind.

Reasons for showing kindness

• Such a quality as kindness not only pushes people to help, but also favorably reflects in all your life areas. As observations show, a good person lives easier than an evil one. Responsive and open people are drawn to others, they are better treated by relatives, and relationships, as a rule, turn out to be stronger and more durable. Even based only on these facts, it is perfectly clear why people try to be kinder.
• Considering a person not as a person, but as a part of society, it becomes clear that kindness is necessary for the preservation of the species. A person, helping another in a difficult situation and sharing his wealth with him, simply subconsciously helps him survive.
• Also, people can be kind because of selfish motives. Scientists have proven that a person begins to feel very uncomfortable if he sees the suffering of another. To get rid of this feeling, it is enough just to help - and everything will fall into place again. By making others happy, a person creates for himself comfortable conditions for life.
• And of course, family upbringing is very important. If a child was instilled with positive qualities from birth, then he will definitely grow up as a good kind person.

How to be good

Being a good person is not as difficult as it seems at first glance. It is enough to adhere to a few life principles - and your life will be filled with light and kindness.

• Treat people the way you would like to be treated.
• Learn to listen, understand, show attention and express interest.
• Take care of yourself - this is an expression of your respect for others.
• Try to see the good side in everything.
• Treat everyone well, regardless of their religion, race, gender, age, etc.
• Do something good every day. It can be a simple little thing that will make someone else happy.
• Be assertive and angry only in situations where you need protection. These qualities will come in handy when you are humiliated, offended or deceived.

If people had the choice to become good or evil, they would certainly choose the first option. Evil and cruel people are empty inside and, as a rule, have no real friends. You can learn more about this human quality here.

Such a concept as a “kind person” certainly implies a bearer of certain positive moral values. In a simple sense, a good person is opposed to an evil person.

Very often today the concept of “kind person” becomes synonymous with the concept of “good person”, and then kind people are those who receive a positive assessment from people for various kinds of actions, who are associated with happiness, joy and love, where under “happiness”, “ joy" and "love" usually mean some positive emotion. In my opinion, such concepts as "a kind person" and "a good person" should not be confused. The concept of a "good person" is too subjective.

Based on this very subjectivity of views, when what is good and what is bad is understood differently by different people, we can say that all people are good, but not all people are kind. By doing evil towards someone, a person can thereby look good in the eyes of others.

For example, a soldier in a war kills his enemy. But! Even if a person can be considered good in this case, we cannot consider him good because he is good at killing enemies. In the same way, we cannot consider a bribe taker and a thief a good person, although his neighbors, who are financially dependent on the bribe taker and thief (wife, children, mother and father), probably consider him a good person, because he ensures their material well-being.

That is why, when I talk about a kind person, I do not mean a specific person, but specific qualities that must certainly be in a person, which are based on: benevolence (i.e., the desire for good for absolutely everyone and everyone), responsiveness ( not in relation to certain people, but in relation to all people, without exception), the need to provide (to the best of their ability) support to people in their development of themselves as a creative, constructive person. And this support is provided to people in general to everyone, and not just relatives and friends. And the most important thing, of course, is not causing harm to other people.

Good people have no enemies.

I want to draw attention to the fact that it is impossible to love everyone with all the desire. It is impossible to love more than one person. (For more on this, read my reflections on the Wizard's Blog from the cycle: "Learning to love"). But being a kind person towards everyone is possible!

Have you ever thought about what idea Dostoevsky wanted to convey to people in his novel The Idiot? Not? So, Dostoevsky's work "Idiot" that beauty cannot save the world. Exactly the same, by the way, as love. Leo Tolstoy said this very well. For example, his novels "Anna Karenina" and, of course, "War and Peace" are precisely about what love does not save the world.

That good people don't save the world Cervantes said very well in his novel Don Quixote. Alas, Don Quixote was not a kind man.

Here is kindness! Yes! Kindness can truly save the world. From what? From evil, of course, from what else. And therefore, when you decide to resist evil, then do not rely in your opposition on anything but good; neither beauty nor love.

I would like to draw your attention to another important fact. There was not, is not and never will be a religion based on GOODNESS on Earth. Do you know why? Because any religion, no matter what it is based on, it will always be evil, because it will certainly have enemies. Religion necessarily has an enemy.

Good ideas have no enemies.

One can disagree with good ideas, and many do not agree with good ideas, and good ideas will necessarily have dissenters, but not enemies, because even those who disagree with good ideas do not become enemies of these ideas.

To become a kind person is to become an adult. This was discussed in the article "". Let's talk now about how to become a kind person.

Kindness is the main quality that you need to cultivate in yourself. What for? Then that kindness is the cause of everything positive and healthy that can only be created in general in the Universe. Do you want to be creators of positive and healthy? Do you want to have healthy and positive around you? Do you want to generate healthy and positive? Become a kind person. Until you become a kind person, all your creativity and all your achievements can be considered conditional. Conditional, because everything you do will be negative and harm people, even if not all. It is this kind of creativity, which harms at least someone, that I call sick.

If a person is unkind, then he is evil. It is anger, and not something else, that gives rise to all the negative and sick that surrounds us.

Evil people have no friends.

Man is essentially a creator. Man cannot NOT create. A person cannot NOT dream. But what does a person dream about and what is the result of his creativity?

The realized dreams of evil people will harm themselves and many other people. As a rule, evil people dream of this or that kind of excess: an excess of the material, an excess of the soul and the spiritual. As a result, their whole life is spent getting richer, becoming more famous and having more power.

Evil people are surrounded by enemies.

Evil people have many enemies. And the angrier the person, the more enemies he has. It is also necessary to understand that being a kind person does not mean only bringing joy to other people and keeping other people in a good mood. Good people are those who do good to other people and to themselves. And kindness does not always bring a good mood.

The good mood of modern man, for the majority, is based on the satisfaction of his vices. Deprive a person of the opportunity to satisfy his vicious desires and you will spoil his mood, although you will do a good deed towards him.

I remind you that kindness is the absence of evil in any form. Being a kind person does not mean loving everyone and everyone. To be a good person means not to harm anyone; it means feeling the need to support a person in his development as a creator, as a creator, (at the same time, support does not conflict with generally accepted ethical and moral standards); it means to be kind and responsive. And of course, all this suggests that kindness prevents evil. A good person will definitely stand in the way of a person’s depravity, since vices certainly interfere with a person’s development, which will easily spoil a vicious person (drunkard, for example, or a smoker) in his good mood.

What is the difficulty in not harming anyone? Nothing. Why, then, if it is not difficult to be kind, does a person commit evil towards other people? Why does a person become evil? Why does a person harm other people? The main reason that a person becomes evil is the desire of a person to help other people satisfy their vices.

An evil person is first of all a vicious person who is not able to resist his vices, and this is what makes him help other people satisfy their vices. Only an evil person is able to open a factory for the production of tobacco products, alcoholic products and other products that vicious people need to satisfy their vices.

What is difficult in feeling the need to support other people in their development as creators and creators, while not contradicting generally accepted morality and ethics? Nothing. Why then do most people not have this need? On the contrary, most people have a desire to prevent others from developing. Why? Firstly, because a person does not understand what it means to support, and secondly, sick (evil) dreams and aspirations of a person make him see most other people as his enemies and rivals.

What's so hard about being kind? Nothing. This quality generally does not require anything special from a person, the only thing is the desire for good and nothing more. But a person cannot wish good to another if, firstly, he is vicious, and secondly, if he sees enemies, rivals, competitors, and so on in other people. Here it is the true animal in a person where it manifests itself, in his inability to wish good to other people. And, pay attention, the unwillingness of good to other people applies not only to strangers and distant, but also to relatives and friends. Evil parents (usually vicious and seeing many enemies around them) cannot wish well for their children. Evil children cannot wish well for their parents. Evil husbands and evil wives cannot wish well to each other. Why do family members treat each other like this? Yes, because they see each other as enemies and rivals. They sense danger, like animals, in each other. And it would be correct to say about such people not “they see danger in each other”, but “the enemy sees danger in the enemy”, because these people are not friends, even if they live together and are relatives, but enemies.

And again we return to the dreams of man.

What we dream about is what we have. But our dreams not only force us to perform certain actions, deeds, deeds, but also, in the end result, turn us into evil or good people. Dreams of fame, wealth or power are all evil dreams. Why evil? Because, firstly, these dreams make people vicious. And secondly, these dreams make you see other people as enemies, since these dreams themselves are based on enmity and need enemies, like a person in the air. And if a person dreams of power, fame or wealth, then, first of all, he dreams of enemies who, like him, will fight with him for power, for wealth and glory. These dreams develop anger in a person.

Why do I say that all children, for the most part, are evil people? Yes, because the dreams of children, most of them, are about fame, wealth and power. Although these dreams are still immature and primitive, but this does not prevent them from turning a person into someone who will really be able to achieve everything that he dreams of. The person becomes evil. And the more evil a person is, the more he can achieve on the way to glory, wealth and power.

Do you want to be kind? Stop dreaming about what makes you vicious, what makes you make enemies, what makes you evil. Dream about what makes you good.

A person's dreams come true, and with them, together with dreams that come true, a person changes. A person becomes good or evil. Good dreams and good ideas make a person good, which have nothing to do with fame, wealth and power. Conversely, evil dreams and evil ideas, which are based on the desire for power, wealth and fame, make a person evil.

Avoid fame, wealth and power, unless, of course, you want to be a kind person. Run from fame, from wealth and power, as from the most terrible disease. If suddenly wealth, fame or power falls on you, albeit unexpectedly, albeit by accident, immediately get rid of it. Otherwise, you will become evil and cease to exist as a creator of healthy and positive. And everyone with whom you deal will suffer from you. And only enemies will surround you. And any of your actions in relation to people will carry evil in themselves.

I wish you health, love and creative success. Sincerely, © 2013

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Every day, a continuous negative of various scales penetrates into our lives. The media obligingly report who killed, robbed, and shot down whom. Constantly various sources of information bring to our attention information about new cataclysms, political turmoil. And the positive, in comparison with the amount of negative news, is negligible. It seems that there is absolutely no good and good in the world. Unfortunately, this flow has “littered” the heads so much that today no one even thinks why people are so cruel? How to change it? And is modern humanity really so soulless?

Main reasons

Why are there so many cruel people? The answer to this question should be sought in the causes of aggression. It should be noted that the manifestation of cruelty is quite many-sided. However, it is not difficult to recognize her. A person who hurts another by making him suffer, whether morally or physically, who is fully aware of this and seeks to cause harm, is cruel.

Psychologists identify three reasons why people are cruel:

• Dissatisfaction with life. Persons dissatisfied with their fate are often subjected to stress and depression. These emotions so strongly overwhelm their soul that at any moment they are ready to break free. That is why all the negativity is often splashed out by mothers on children. Some people, under the influence of anger, break branches of trees, beat animals. This state of mind is quite dangerous, because it threatens the owner with the occurrence of neuroses, mental disorders. In addition to all this, constant negativity seriously shortens life expectancy, leads to the development of heart disease or skin problems.
• Indifference. Very often it is it that generates unjustified cruelty. Some people do not even try to understand how much pain their actions, and sometimes words, can cause. They don't think about how much they can hurt another. At the same time, a weak creature becomes the object of their cruelty, which cannot show emotions and explain what pain they caused him.
• Suppressed emotions. Sometimes a person shows aggression "on the side." Such behavior is characteristic of those who in everyday life are forced to constantly hide and suppress desires, emotions, impulses. Most often, such cruelty is characteristic of grown-up children (especially boys) who grew up in a family of authoritarian parents. Employees who are forced to unquestioningly carry out the orders of the boss, not being able to reveal their will, in some conditions can show extremely cruel ruthlessness.

historical brutality

The older generation likes to wonder - why did so many cruel people appear? Everyone was better before. Listening to their complaints, you involuntarily agree. One has only to open a newspaper or watch the news.

Earlier people Worth thinking about. And before - when? Thousands of years ago, when cannibalism flourished? Well, these people can be by and large even somehow justified. They were primitive. And they did not know at all about the humane attitude towards their neighbor. Or maybe those who lived in the era of the Inquisition were kinder? Or during the reign of Stalin? Many people were imprisoned thanks to denunciations. How many such "good people" sincerely tried to give their neighbor a "gift"!

Why does it feel like there are so many cruel people today? Of course, the media did their bit. In an era of democracy, they pay more attention to manifestations of cruelty. It should be noted that the level of humanity in humanity has also increased, which is why aggression is so striking.

Relations with relatives

All people tend to show cruelty. For some this happens very rarely. Others often show aggression. At the same time, anyone can commit a cruel act, and quite often such outbursts occur in really kind people. Unfortunately, all the negativity spills out on the closest relatives and friends. For those who are truly loved and very dear. Why are people so cruel? What makes them "tear off" anger at their relatives, and restrain outbursts of anger with others? Why is it impossible to control your behavior when communicating with loved ones?

Yes, because relatives Communicating with strangers, a person restrains himself. There are many reasons: both the desire to win over the interlocutor, and the fear of losing an interesting friend. In the case of the boss, intemperance can threaten with dismissal. But when you get into the circle of relatives, especially in a bad mood, even one word can infuriate a person. That's when the scandal erupted out of nowhere. Of course, this is fundamentally wrong, but the accumulated negative needs to be discharged. That is why it pours out on the closest relatives and friends. They, even if they are strongly offended and quarreled with them, love so much that they will forgive them anyway.

root of evil

The feeling of anger is given by nature. It is necessary in order to mobilize all forces for the struggle at dangerous moments. But how it will be used by a person depends on the moral standards instilled in childhood. If parents show aggression towards a child, it will definitely come back to haunt. Relationships between children and fathers, based on fear, are likely to be adopted by a teenager in communication with peers. It is in the family that one should look for the root of evil. Such upbringing clearly explains why people become cruel.

Although in this situation, the child may develop another model of behavior: he decides that he is bad and is to blame for everything. Such a teenager becomes a victim of peer abuse. Often he does not even look for methods of protection, believing that he deserved this.

Sometimes the cause of aggression may not be violence at all, but overprotection. This method of education puts a sense of permissiveness into the subconscious of the child. A teenager considers himself the most important and demands unquestioning obedience. Unfortunately, a person who has not been taught by his parents to respect others will not gain this wisdom anywhere else. He will not even notice how he humiliates.

Instability in society

An indirect cause of cruelty is the growing anxiety. instability creates a feeling of discomfort. From TV screens, people see cruelty again. A person whose psyche is formed is able to distinguish the grain from the husk, he will not accept aggression as a call to action. The child will absorb, like a sponge, on-screen scenes of violence. And he can perceive all this as a kind of school of life. It is important to realize how much such television hurts the child's psyche, and the answer to the question: "Why did people become cruel?" will be received instantly.

Feeling rejected

It is especially developed in adolescence. However, many adults carry these feelings into adulthood. Quite often, one can observe a picture when a baby exclaims loudly on the street and points a finger at a person with a different skin color or a physical handicap.

Adults react very differently. On a subconscious level, they experience a sense of danger. This is where the desire to self-destruct comes in. But for some it manifests itself in cruelty and violence. It is this feeling that sometimes makes teenagers mock peers who are different from them. Why are people so cruel? Again, the instilled skills of tolerance and respect in the family will not allow a teenager or an adult to behave this way.

How to defend the victim

Psychologists say that in a team it is quite easy to determine which people are cruel and who are the “lamb”. Therefore, the victim of aggression is advised to identify the following signs:

• self-doubt;
• full acceptance of the opinion that trouble is deserved.

You should start with the awareness of your "I". Every person has a number of advantages and disadvantages. He is what he is. And no one has the right to offend him. Only by fully accepting this truth can one move further along the path of raising self-esteem, developing a sense of success. Parents can help the child in this realization. For an adult, since the behavior model has taken root, it is better to use the help of a professional psychologist.

As a rule, a hobby for some new business helps a lot. You can even enroll in a martial arts class.

It is very important to think over the reaction to the offender. He will perceive you very differently if the answer is different from his expectations. In some cases, it helps Try not to succumb to irritation and direct a difficult conflict into the mainstream of a joke. At the same time, learn to perceive less acutely unpleasant situations.

How to deal with your own aggression?

The reasons described above give an idea of ​​why kind people become cruel. But how to deal with such manifestations? What to do if you start to boil internally?

Perfectly cleanse from the negative physical activity. After all, sport teaches conscious control over your emotions and body. Psychologists often recommend mastering breathing exercises. It will allow you to control both the body and the spirit.

Find a safe outlet for the accumulated negativity. Throw out your emotions with a cry. Just not for relatives and not for a colleague. Shout where you need it. For example, become an ardent football fan or attend rock concerts.

By the way, psychologists recommend this technique: stand near the railway in the evening. When the train passes, yell at the top of your lungs, as loud as you can. The noise of the wheels will drown out any sound. No one will hear you, and the body will receive the necessary discharge.

Conclusion

Remember that only you can deal with the feeling of cruelty that arises inside you. And this is completely within your power. If you want to find the answer to the question "why are people so cruel", start with yourself. Analyze your behavior. Get rid of the toxic feeling, because sooner or later it threatens to turn into a severe depression.

What is kindness? Kindness is something that no one can do without in life. And we all should try to do as many good deeds as possible, because it is not for nothing that they say that everything in this life comes back like a boomerang.

But what kind of person can be called kind? First of all, such a person should be responsive, try to help those who need it, but at the same time, you should not let yourself be used. A kind person should also be polite, diplomatic, be able to negotiate and express his decisions without offending the people around him. A kind person, as a rule, has a sense of delicacy, he will not climb into the soul of another, pry or ask something. However, kindness should be spread wisely, so it doesn’t hurt for a good person to be smart at the same time.

Kindness is not inherent in every person, but this is a quality that you need to strive for, because a kind person will be treated accordingly. A kind person is characterized by openness, generosity, the ability to make friends and be faithful. He knows how to stand up for weaker people: the elderly, women, children, protect animals that are in danger. The most important thing is that all good things should be done disinterestedly, a person does not need to expect the same in return, and it is worth doing good deeds from a pure heart.

Absolutely everyone should strive to become a kind person. To do this, you need to improve, notice your own shortcomings and eliminate them. A good person is always surrounded by people like him. He has many friends and acquaintances, they are pleased to communicate with each other.

Kind people have always been valued by society, because you can rely on them in everything, you can trust such people with your most intimate secrets and mysteries. Kindness should always be in fashion for each of us. This is what we must teach the next generation.

Short essay grade 4

The more good people there are in the world, the better life will be for all of us. Kindness is a very important quality that should be inherent in all people. Without it, in a continuous world of evil, it will be impossible to survive.

What does it mean to be a good person? Such a person is characterized by openness, generosity, the ability to enter into someone else's position. Also, a kind person should be polite and courteous to others, be able to speak calmly and diplomatically.

Becoming a kind person is a top priority for every member of the human race. People with a good heart always have many friends and they are universally respected.

4th grade, 6th grade.

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Why does it happen that sincere, gentle and kind-hearted people suffer, and no one pays attention to them? Do cunning, greedy, evil people prosper and enjoy universal respect?

You don't have to believe in fate. It is not necessary to believe that people suffer because of their past bad deeds, because of karma. In fact, good people, nice people, virtuous people have to suffer. It is impossible to have everything in life. If you have kindness, enjoy it; if you have virtue, enjoy it; if you have a good disposition, enjoy it.

Why be jealous of cunning people who become prime ministers or evil people who become rich?

Bad people are destined to win in the fight against good people if it is a fight for money, for power, prestige and respect.

But if there is a struggle for inner silence, for peace, peace, equanimity, silence, meditation, divinity, then bad people will not achieve anything in it. And I don't see any problem with that.

According to the logic of things, good people should not suffer, bad people should suffer. However, in life, the opposite happens: good people suffer, and bad people rise to prominence and enjoy life.

The reality is simple: kindness has nothing to do with money. Kindness earns something more valuable, it earns peace of mind.

A virtuous person may not have a palace, but he will be happier living in his hut than a king living in a palace. A virtuous person cannot have a palace, but he can gain bliss. A cunning person will be able to get the palace, but in doing so he will lose peace of mind, he will lose contact with himself.

Thus, in my opinion, everything is very simple. If you want inner peace and inner wealth, be good, virtuous, sweet and do not envy those poor people who are cunning and earn money, who go to any crimes and achieve a high position and honor.

Do you want both? Do you want both money and meditation? You are asking too much. Will have something to leave and cunning people! They try very hard. And they suffer a lot inside. Perhaps you are suffering in the outside world, they are suffering inside - and this is a much greater suffering than yours.

Life is simple mathematics. You get what you deserve. Just do not ask for something that is not related to your qualities, and no problem. Then you won't see it the way you do now - the virtuous suffer. No, no virtuous person suffers. A virtuous person enjoys and experiences bliss from every moment. And if he suffers, then he is not virtuous, he is just a coward. Deep down he is cunning, but not fearless. He wants the same thing as a cunning person, but he lacks neither the courage nor the intelligence to be cunning. Cunning is an art.

Cunning people should get what they know how to handle. Bad people should get what they know how to handle. But good people should not envy them, for they possess the true treasure of their being. They should look at these unfortunate cunning politicians and fabulously rich people and, seeing their inner poverty, their inner darkness, their inner hell, sympathize with them, and not perceive them as rivals!

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