When we are told that someone depression, we represent a person with a bad mood, who sees the world around him in black colors. Indeed, with depression, a person loses interest in life and work. He feels that longing and sadness are squeezing his chest and he constantly wants to cry. Depression is one of the most common women's diseases today.
Unfortunately, to woman suffering from depression People around you are not always understanding. Often they take this disease as a manifestation of laziness, selfishness, improper upbringing and natural pessimism. Meanwhile, depression is a disease that requires the intervention of psychotherapists and is well treatable. The sooner you start treatment for depression, the more likely it is that the disease will not take on severe forms, accompanied by alcohol abuse, drugs, and even the desire to commit suicide.
Remember depression This is a serious illness, not just a bad mood. If you do not recognize and slow it down in time, then it can develop and bring suffering not only to the patient himself, but also to his relatives. To distinguish depression from a bad mood, answer the questions of the test by the American psychotherapist Williams Zang.
1. How often do you feel like crying?
a) I never cry without a serious reason - 1 point; b) I cry only after quarrels - 2 points; c) I cry every time I feel sorry for myself or someone - 3 points; d) I cry all the time, my tears are very close - 4 points.
2. How do you sleep at night?
a) never waking up - 1 point; b) if I get very upset, I can’t sleep - 2 points;
c) I fall asleep and sleep badly - 3 points; d) I constantly suffer from insomnia - 4 points.
3. What is your mood in the morning?
a) I always wake up in a great mood - 1 point; b) bad, only if there are problems - 2 points; c) in the morning I am rarely kind and cheerful - 3 points; d) I can’t even imagine what you can enjoy in the morning - 4 points.
4. Do you feel tired?
a) no, even after work I feel cheerful - 1 point; b) I get tired only after work - 2 points; c) I often feel tired even during the day - 3 points; d) I have no strength since the morning - 4 points.
5. Do you like doing household chores?
a) they bring me joy - 1 point; b) I only like to cook, but washing and cleaning annoy me - 2 points; c) I cook and clean only when I feel like it - 3 points; c) all household chores annoy me - 4 points.
6. How easy is it for you to make decisions?
a) I almost always make decisions - 1 point; b) sometimes I need someone's advice - 2 points; c) I rarely have to make a decision - 3 points; d) why should I make decisions and take responsibility - 4 points.
7. How often do you feel sad and depressed?
a) occasionally - 1 point; b) only when I am left alone (alone) - 2 points; c) often - 3 points; d) almost always - 4 points.
8. Do you consider yourself a happy person?
a) yes - 1 point; b) sometimes I am unhappy - 2 points; c) I often feel unhappy (unhappy) - 3 points; d) I don't know what happiness is - 4 points.
9. Do you like to communicate with loved ones, as before?
a) for me there is no better pleasure than communication with loved ones - 1 point; b) only when I have a mood - 2 points; c) often I don't want to hear anyone - 3 points; d) they all annoy me - 4 points.
Do you feel like crying all the time? So you are fine! Are you surprised? This is how a psychologist will answer you at a consultation. Because you generate tearfulness within yourself. They cry from an idle life, that's what the author of the famous book "Psychology Tutorial" Dale Carnegie says. He writes on the pages of the book that laziness and doing nothing provoke hopelessness, then it seems that depression has covered you, you have a black streak in life ...
Note that busy people, in particular women with six children each, work and household duties, hobbies and outings in nature prefer not to mope, but to do business. Therefore, the first advice to those who cry is to get down to business!
Causes of tearfulness for no reason
Sorry for the tautology, but you can't throw words out of a song. Women and girls are most susceptible to depression or mood changes during PMS, as well as ovulation (when there is the possibility of conception). Without realizing their own nerves, they get others. Something they do not like, although before that they liked it. Something unbalances, everything irritates, and the performance of ordinary activities becomes impossible. They can withdraw into themselves, or begin to criticize loved ones, pushing them to quarrels. All this is unconscious.
But it is a wise woman, and wisdom comes with age, who tries to understand what is happening to her. In these moments of instability of her nervous system, she tries to do what she loves, to have fun. If she feels that she is ready to boil like a kettle, she retires and asks her not to disturb her yet. Perhaps it is worth crying, but not at all desirable.
It won't do much harm. In addition, these are conscious steps so as not to harm anyone and protect the nervous system of loved ones. After all, throughout their lives they have something to be upset about (from the outside), why escalate the situation in the family? They say that until the age of 7 years of marriage, the characters are adjusted, but not only them. If a woman has not learned to manage herself, the family is destroyed. Perhaps she will be able to change herself in 10 years, but think about whether you can, or is it better to immediately dot all the and, get a divorce and be done with it? But this is hardly a way out of the situation and tearfulness will cease to control you from the bay of bars.
Crying as a method of manipulation
Some women have already learned to control men and even children for their own purposes. If she feels that everything is not going according to her rules, she may begin to shed tears. Such capriciousness can occur quite often and only brings destruction. Children will never learn to love a hysterical mother, but do you need it?
The husband will not love you more because you begged him for another dress or fur coat. Men, most likely, will give preference to a woman who is independent of anyone, who knows her own worth, walks through life with her head held high. But a whiny lady with a strong man is not on the way. Yes, and it is desirable to learn not to cry
It hurts me, it hurts, how to relieve this evil pain ...
Every day we face difficulties. An adult has already learned to overcome obstacles, he knows that in order to get satisfaction, you have to work hard. To get up off the couch and stop crying, you need to take will into a fist and stop feeling sorry for yourself. An employee who is not 
I want to work on this day, does the job well, because it remembers the reward. And if he also loves his job, he becomes happier every day. All because he was able to throw the howl of laziness into the far corner. A child who is accustomed to enjoy the game, once begins to learn lessons, because it is necessary. If he gives free rein to laziness, does not receive an excellent grade, approval, does not improve his knowledge on the topic, does not become an order of magnitude more mature and smarter, does not eventually master the profession of his dreams.
Most often, people experience real mental pain, for example, with depression, when they are touched by troubles that they have not encountered before. Loss of relatives, illness, dismissal from work ... These reasons will unbalance anyone. And even after that, people find the strength in themselves to live, develop, achieve their dreams. But what to do when resentment, grief, sadness, irritation overwhelm you like a cobweb in a net. In this case, you should not blame your husband, yell at your children and beat them just because you are angry because of a bad day. It is better to rethink your behavior, and repel each negative situation for you internally, learn to let go of the bad.
If you are sad - communicate, make friends
Most people in the world are kind, not evil, don't get hung up on an inappropriate glance in your direction. Perhaps the grimacing passerby was not thinking about you at that moment. Try not to be insolent in the store sellers. From this you only accumulate negative energy inside. And the energy empire that wanted to hurt you feeds on the positive. Smile and translate your thoughts in a direction that is comfortable for you, in the right direction.
List everything that spoils your mood, write it down. Got a huge list? Then bypass all these situations, trying not to get involved with negative points, or change your attitude to what is happening. And tears will rarely bother you, except perhaps from happiness.
Sad? - exit interesting work or occupation
Do something that makes the soul happy, and a warm ray of light penetrates into it. Let it be macrame or drawing, sports or outings into nature. Dancing or listening to instrumental music. It is said that what makes a woman happy should definitely be done every day. If you want sex - do it, do not deny yourself, do not find a reason. Like yourself wearing makeup, be sure to spend time in front of the mirror, as this is what can make you a little happier.
Make yourself better, it will help you not to cry
Going to a beauty salon or home self-care can transform a woman. As they say, change on the outside and you will change on the inside. If it doesn’t work out - force yourself, if there is not enough money - borrow until the salary, there is no time - cut down on the fuss in the kitchen. But still take care of yourself!
Hear the children's laughter
Play with your child a game that is interesting for both of you. And even better in the one that you did not play enough in childhood. Perhaps this is dressing up dolls, building your dream house from a designer, racing cars, war games and gunfights. Review your previous hobbies, make a digest of the most interesting of them. Believe me, after that, for your child, you will become the most beloved mother in the world. And your desire to be sad will disappear along with the blues.
/ 05.09.2018
Why am I always sad for no reason. Why is a person sad
Why does it turn out like this: everything seems to be normal, normal, and then something will definitely happen? And sometimes it’s even like this: you live ... like a house and a family and bread on the table, and everything is fine, well, of course there are all sorts of unpleasant little things there, but in general, you would enjoy life, but somehow it’s not joyful! It's sad, I feel like crying...
Where does this depression come from? What is the reason?
Nina, 21, Russia
Dear Nina,
Your situation is quite common, James Dobson writes very well about this kind of problems. Let me quote his words:
Counseling women on physiological problems, I came to the undeniable conclusion that depression and emotional apathy are common and recurring phenomena in their environment. Most adult women experience despair, discouragement, loss of interest in life, despondency, disappointment and dissatisfaction with life circumstances from time to time. I have called these states "D" states, and when my patient says, "I have a D today," I know exactly what she means.
Of course, depression is not only in women, but in men they happen less often and are associated in most cases with a crisis situation, that is, men become depressed about a specific problem, for example, in connection with troubles at work or illness. Men are less likely and to a lesser extent than women to experience depression - this is an indefinite, unconscious and almost indescribable state. For women who are prone to depression, even cloudy weather can cause "longing" - physical and emotional retardation. The negative impact of depression can be reduced if we understand the frequency of changes in emotional states in both men and women. Haven't you noticed that a boom is usually followed by a recession, and a recession is followed by a new boom? This is a periodic and almost mathematically precise sinusoidal oscillation from the highest point of spiritual uplift to the lowest point of spiritual decline.
The emotional boundaries of the human personality are almost the same extent in both directions. If we draw a line that crosses the sinusoid and symbolizes a certain emotional middle, then for an individual, the distance from this line to the upper and lower points of the "sinusoid of moods" will be the same. I'll give you a couple of examples. People, whom I refer to the first type, are difficult to take out of a state of emotional balance. They are calm and balanced ladies and gentlemen who do not shout or whistle at football matches and do not laugh with an infectious laugh. They react equally calmly to both good and bad news. And these people never fall into deep despondency. Of course, these are boring people, but at least they are always the same! You can rely on them: today, tomorrow, and the day after tomorrow they will behave the same as yesterday.
Personalities of the first type
People of the second type, as shown in the figure, have the largest amplitude of ups and downs. Their emotions rise to the heights, fall into the abyss and fly up again.
Personalities of the second type
Each of us knows at least one person of the second type, who from time to time feels absolutely happy. He wakes up early in the morning and is already glad that the sun has risen. He greets the birds, smiles at the flowers, and whistles songs all day long. Be afraid of this life-lover! I guarantee that in a few days it will collapse. The crash will be strong and with many fragments. Everything in life goes wrong, and in general, life itself is worth nothing. There are no friends and around - great sorrow. This person suddenly becomes so sentimental that he can shed tears even at the opening of a supermarket. Emotional states change in him at the speed of a weather vane in windy weather. And only for reasons known only to the somewhat embarrassed Cupid, the god of love, this man, who is an extreme version of people of the second type, suddenly marries a bore who belongs to the first type. Their entire subsequent forty-year family life will consist of constant strife and skirmishes.
My wife and I were in Europe and attended a concert of symphonic music. Before us sat a young man who, apparently, studied music at a local music school. In the first part of the concert, he fell into ecstasy - closing his eyes, he swayed to the beat of the music and jumped up, applauding each performed passage. After the performance of the last part of the work, before the intermission, the young man seemed to be completely delighted - just as if his favorite team had won the national championship. He shouted "Bravo, bravo!" and applauded the conductor. But, imagine, in the second part of his behavior has changed dramatically. He turned in his chair, booed the orchestra and in every possible way expressed dissatisfaction with the playing of the musicians. In the end, without listening to Beethoven's Fifth Symphony, he jumped up from his seat and began to squeeze towards the exit, stepping on the feet of the audience and demonstrating with his whole appearance how much he did not like the concert. I did not meet this young man either before or after the concert, but I can say with confidence that he is a bright representative of the second type of people. His emotional state changed from the upper limit in the first part of the concerto to the lower limit in the second. To be honest, I was more interested in watching his antics than listening to music, but I would not want to have such a relative. He has a lot of "stuff". What stories do you think his wife could tell about him?..
The second thing that is also useful to understand is the nature of emotional cycles. What caused an upliftment also sets the stage for a subsequent downturn. I'll give you an example. About a year ago, my wife and I bought a new house. We have been looking for a suitable house for several years and, of course, we were very excited when all the formalities were finally settled and the house became our property. Shirley and I were in high spirits for several days, and I told her that we were at a peak and that this couldn't go on forever. Emotional excitement cannot build up at maximum speed for a long time, so very soon our mood will fall "below sea level". And so it happened. Three days later, we began to feel a slight depression. The house no longer seemed to us as beautiful as at first, and we no longer found any special reasons for delight. But since we expected such a downturn and were ready for it, we humbled ourselves and experienced this temporary fluctuation in our emotions. You will be able to bear depression more easily if you understand that this phenomenon is predictable. Depression can occur, for example, after an eventful day off, after the birth of a child, a promotion, and even after a vacation. This phenomenon is partly due to physical factors. A person who is in an enthusiastic state spends a lot of internal energy, because. All body systems function very intensively. As a result, overwork and exhaustion occur, which cause depression. So, a rise is bound to be followed by a fall. The human body functions according to the immutable laws of physiology. Fortunately, in a healthy person, recessions are replaced by ups.
James Dobson, What Women Want Their Husbands to Know. - M: Center for Human Values, 1998 - 272 p.
With respect and love, Consultants of the Ministry of Abiding in Christ
Each of us is mixed with many different emotions, fortunately, both positive and negative. I think you also thought about what our life would be like if there was only joy in it and we didn’t know why it is so sad? But without evil, we would not know good. Without sadness, there would be no happiness. Why? Because there is nothing to compare with. On the other hand, it is also impossible to feel joy all the time. It's boring enough. And yet, why is it sad?
What is sadness
It is impossible to describe this emotion in one word, because sadness has many masks. It is close in meaning to sadness, melancholy, despondency, grief, melancholy, but in a less deep and more short-term experience.
Sadness is a depressed state of a person who is disappointed in something. Also, sadness is a kind of state of mind when you can give up your favorite activities and when everything is tired. Sometimes even the smallest trifle can plunge a person into a state of sadness. Maybe this is just one phrase that accidentally escaped from the interlocutor, or some ridiculous act that evoked certain memories in a person. He will play them over and over again in his head, unconsciously forcing himself to sink into a state of sadness even more. Sadness is hard to hide from others. A depressed look, absent-mindedness and a blank look will give you away.
Why do we feel sad
Why is a person sad? Very often, sadness is associated with unjustified ambitions or unfulfilled dreams. It seems that everything is going as it should, and you are ready to take off and scream with joy, but then something changes dramatically, unexpected circumstances appear that are very different from your expectations. Other options for the development of events pop up in your head by themselves, those that you have been waiting for. And you feel the sadness that can be read in your eyes.
Why are the eyes sad? Often we make eye contact with strangers on the street, in a cafe or in a supermarket. And we can notice that some people around us are worried about something. You do not need to be a good psychologist to determine the emotional state of a person. It's true what they say: "The eyes are the window to the soul."
Why is it getting sad? From a lack of attention and love, from unfulfilled desires and loneliness? For no reason, it is sad from boredom or just when everything is tired. Or you can't call because you don't want to impose? When you leave from where it was good? Maybe you just put your loved one in a taxi, and you already miss something? I think this list could go on for many more pages. But is sadness always negative? I can answer no.
Pleasant sadness
In some cases, it can also be pleasant. Why so sad? Flipping through the photo album, you remember the unforgettable bright moments of your life. It could be the longing for an old relationship, a warm sea or a sunny summer that will surely bring a smile to your face every time.
Whatever makes you feel sad or lonely, you can cheer yourself up. This article will help you see the world in color: "
Such negative emotions as constant depression, sadness and deep sadness, longing in the soul cause a person to feel hopelessness and incredible self-pity. I want to constantly shed tears, complain about my unfortunate fate and arouse sympathy.
Today, many people know for themselves what it means to fall into depression and feel aching sadness and longing in the soul. Permanent depression is a serious mental disorder, although many take it for granted in modern life and are treated with special antidepressants. But these negative emotions cannot be cured with the help of pills, their presence indicates serious problems and an internal breakdown of a person.
In a state of depression, a person, as a rule, feels severe depression, he is overcome by sadness and melancholy and sad thoughts, a person tends to feel sorry for himself, he feels complete loneliness and his misunderstanding by others, he does not even want to move. A person who is depressed by longing and sadness can eat sweets (or drink alcohol) in order to somehow brighten up a bleak state. He can be tormented by bleak thoughts about how bad everything is, sometimes leading to thoughts of suicide.
A person can fall into deep sadness and a depressive state for various reasons: if an accident happened to him or someone close to him, problems at work, because of gloomy and cloudy weather, after watching a sad movie or just like that, he will take it and roll on his soul yearning.
Depression and eternal longing in the soul are dangerous for a person, they not only reduce his vitality and spoil his mood, but also constant depression and sadness threaten serious health problems. In addition to gastrointestinal disorders from constant dissatisfaction with oneself and life, heart problems from tormenting experiences and longing, insomnia from heavy thoughts, problems with the musculoskeletal system from unwillingness and fear to develop and move forward in life, constant depression also contributes to dependence on any means of avoiding problems (alcohol, drug addiction, food). Also, in the most extreme case, it leads to a complete unwillingness to live, a feeling that a person is dying of longing.
Why is there sadness in your heart?
Of course, you should not blame external circumstances for the occurrence of your depression and deep sadness. There are many reasons for these negative emotions, and all of them lie not in external stimuli (which are only an excuse), but inside the person himself. Of course, the reason to be sad is not in rainy weather outside the window, not in a quarrel with a loved one who poured water from head to toe on a passing car, turmoil at work, or an unexpected pimple that popped out on his face. After all, someone easily perceives such "little things in life", and for those prone to a state of depression and longing, this is the greatest tragedy in life.
The information in this article is the result of the personal experience of its author, all articles are written based on their own results of using the system and are not intended to convince anyone of something.
This site is a personal initiative of its author and has nothing to do with the author of the Turbo-Gopher technique Dmitry Leushkin.
I'm always sad
All the good time of the day. I'm writing from an anonymous mailbox. I am 21 years old, my name is Vitaly, here is my email. I always feel sad for some reason. This unbearable feeling is strongly manifested in the evenings, like a drug addict, without another dose, I climb the wall from this feeling. I can not find contacts with people, the conversation with me is always tense, there is no ease. Recently I had a fight with a girl, in the end she offered to remain friends (swearing was, as I understand it, just an excuse to leave) + in addition, I was fired from my job. I can not enjoy life, make new acquaintances. The sense of humor is completely gone. I’m always serious and sad (Mb my body doesn’t produce some hormone in the right amount, or something else!? I can’t express myself and my thoughts. I am often ignored in companies. At work I couldn’t communicate normally with people, I squeezed words out of myself.Because of this stiffness, I can’t make new acquaintances with girls... Over my years, all the girls left me, the reason was probably my jealousy (which stemmed from my self-doubt).Now I perfectly understand what is needed learn to enjoy life and be able to find a common language with people, but I can’t do it. growth" author Kozlov, I hope to find answers to my questions there. If someone has met with a similar problem of sadness and self-doubt, write or send a link to the info. Finally, I will say that I was not always like that. Nave Some event turned my life upside down. Thanks in advance for your replies
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