Everyone in life has moments when difficulties are overcome, and hands seem to be about to drop ... The stories of these amazingly strong-willed people will help many of us understand that you can cope with any situation and under any life circumstances, the main thing is to believe in yourself and to your strength!

1. Nick Vuychich: a man without arms and legs, was able to stand up himself and teaches others to do this

Born in Melbourne, Australia, Nick was born with a rare condition: he was missing both arms to shoulder level, and a tiny foot with two toes protruded straight from his left thigh. Despite the lack of limbs, he surfs and swims, plays golf and football. Nick graduated from college with a double degree in accounting and financial planning. Today, anyone can come to his lectures, where Nick motivates people (especially teenagers) to never give up and believe in themselves, proving by example that even the impossible is possible.

2 Nando Parrado: Survived Plane Crash, Waited 72 Days For Help

Nando and other passengers suffered 72 days of cold captivity, miraculously surviving a terrible plane crash. Before flying over the mountains (which, ironically, fell on Friday the 13th), the young people who boarded the charter plane joked about the unlucky date, but they did not expect that on this day they would really be in trouble.

It so happened that the wing of the plane caught on the side of the mountain and, having lost balance, fell down like a stone. Upon impact with the ground, 13 passengers immediately crashed to death, but 32 people survived, having received severe injuries. The survivors found themselves in conditions of extremely low temperatures, lack of water and food. They drank the melted snow and slept side by side to keep warm. There was so little food that everyone did everything to find at least some living creatures for a common dinner.

After 9 days of such survival in conditions of severe cold and hunger, the victims of the disaster decided on extreme measures: in order to survive, they began to use the corpses of their comrades as food. So the group held out for another 2 weeks, at the end of which the hope of being rescued completely melted, and the radio transistor (sending signals for help) turned out to be faulty.

On the 60th day after the accident, Nando and two of his friends decided to go through the icy desert for help. By the time they left, the crash site looked terrible - piss-soaked and smelling of death, littered with human bones and cartilage. Putting on 3 pairs of pants and jackets, he and a couple of friends overcame huge distances. Their little rescue team knew they were the last hope for everyone who was still alive. The men steadfastly survived the exhaustion and cold that followed them on their heels. On the 10th day of wandering, they still found their way to the foot of the mountain. There they finally met a Chilean farmer, the first person in all this time who immediately called the police for help. Parrado led the rescue team by helicopter and found the crash site. As a result, on December 22, 1972 (after 72 days of a brutal struggle with death), only 8 passengers survived.

After the plane crash, Nando lost half of his family, and during the crash he lost more than 40 kg of weight. Now he, like the previous hero of this article, is lecturing on the power of motivation in life to achieve goals.

3. Jessica Cox: the first pilot without arms

Jessica Cox suffers from a rare birth defect and was born without arms. None of the tests (which her mother took during pregnancy) showed that something was wrong with the girl. Despite her rare disease, the girl has tremendous willpower. Today, as a young woman, Jessica can write, drive, comb her hair and talk on the phone. She does all this with her feet. She also graduated from the Faculty of Psychology, studied dancing and is the owner of a double black belt in taekwondo. In addition to all this, Jessica has a driver's license, she flies a plane and can type 25 words per minute.

The plane that the girl flies is called "Ercoupe". This is one of the few models not equipped with pedals. Instead of the usual six-month course, Jessica took a three-year course in aircraft driving, during which she was taught by three highly qualified instructors. Now Jessica has more than 89 hours of flight experience and became the first pilot in world history without arms.

4. Sean Schwarner: Overcame lung cancer and climbed the 7 highest peaks on 7 continents

Mount Everest, the highest mountain on earth, is known for its dangerous climbing conditions, including strong gusts of wind, lack of oxygen, blizzards and deadly avalanches. Anyone who decides to conquer Everest faces incredible dangers along the way. But for Sean Schwarner, as practice shows, there are simply no obstacles.

Sean at one time was not only healed of cancer, his case is truly considered a medical miracle. He is the only person in the world who survived after being diagnosed with Hodgkin's disease and Askin's tumor. He was diagnosed with cancer of the fourth and last stage at the age of thirteen, and according to the forecasts of doctors, he was not supposed to live even three months. However, Sean miraculously overcame his illness, which soon returned when doctors re-discovered a golf ball-sized tumor in his right lung. After the second operation to remove the tumor, the doctors decided that the patient would last no more than two weeks ... However, ten years later, Sean (whose lungs are only partially functioning) became known to the whole world as the first cancer survivor to climb Mount Everest.

After conquering the highest point on the planet, Sean is full of desire and strength to move on and inspire people all over the world to fight the disease with his example. You can learn about this and his other climbs in the mountains, personal experience and ways to overcome the disease in his book "Continuing to grow: How I beat cancer and conquered all the peaks of the world."

5. Randy Pausch and his last lecture

Frederick Randolph or Randy Pausch (October 23, 1960 - July 25, 2008) was an American professor in the computer science department at Carnegie Mellon University (CMU) in Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania. In September 2006, Pausch learned that he had pancreatic cancer and that his illness was incurable. On September 18, 2007, he prepared and gave a very optimistic (for his condition) lecture called "The Last Lecture: Achieving your childhood dreams" at his native university, which soon became very popular on YouTube, and many well-known media invited the professors to their broadcasts .

In that famous speech, he talked about the desires of his childhood and explained how he achieved each of them. Among his desires were: to experience weightlessness; participate in a National Football League game; write an article for the Book World encyclopedia; become one of those guys "who wins the biggest plush toy in the amusement park"; work as a designer-ideologist for the Disney company. He even managed to co-author a book called "The Last Lecture" (on the same topic), which soon became a bestseller. Although after a terrible diagnosis he was prophesied only three months, he lived for another 3 years. Pausch died on July 25, 2008 after complications from cancer.

6 Ben Underwood: The Boy Who "Saw" With His Ears

Ben Underwood was an ordinary mobile teenager from California, just like his peers, he loved to ride a skateboard and bike, play football and basketball. For the most part, the 14-year-old boy was the same as all children of his age. What makes Underwood's story unique is that the boy, leading a normal life for his age, was completely blind. At the age of two, Underwood was diagnosed with retinal cancer and had both eyes removed. To the surprise of most people who knew the teenager, he had absolutely no worries about his blindness, contrary to popular stereotypes of blindness as the "end of life."

So, how did he manage to move like the sighted guys? The answer is simple: it's all about echolocation, a technique commonly used by bats, dolphins, and some other mammals and birds. When moving, Underwood usually made clicking sounds with his tongue, and these sounds were reflected from surfaces, "showing" him the nearest objects. He could make out a fire hydrant and a trash can, and literally "saw" the difference between parked cars and trucks. Coming into the house (where he had never been before), Ben could tell which corner was the kitchen and which was the stairs. An unwavering believer in God, the boy and his mother fought to the last for his life, but the cancer soon spread to Ben's brain and spine, and he died in January 2009 at the age of 16.

7. Liz Murray: From the slums to Harvard

Elizabeth Murray was born September 23, 1980 in the Bronx, in a family of HIV-infected parents, in a New York area inhabited only by the poor and drug addicts. She became homeless when she was only 15, after her mother's death and after her father was taken to a beggar's shelter. Whatever the girl had to go through during this time, but one day Murray's life changed dramatically, namely after she began attending a humanitarian course at the Preparatory Academy in Chelsea, in Manhattan. And although the girl went to high school later than her peers (without a permanent home and taking care of herself and her sister), Murray graduated from them in just two years ( note: in the US, the high school program is designed for 4 years). She was then awarded a scholarship for needy students by the New York Times and admitted to Harvard University in the fall of 2000. Liz was forced to interrupt her studies at the university in order to care for her sick father. Continuing her studies at Columbia University, where she was closer to him and stayed with him until the end, until he died of AIDS. In May 2008, she returned to Harvard and graduated in psychology.

Subsequently, her biography, full of tragedy and faith, became the basis for the film, which was released in 2003. Today, Liz works as a professional speaker representing Washington Speakers. During each lecture for students and groups of business audiences, she tries to instill in the audience her strength of mind and will, which pulled her out of the slums as a teenager and set her on the right path.

Source 8Patrick Henry Hughes

Patrick is a unique young man, born without eyes and unable to fully straighten his arms and legs, making it impossible for him to move. In addition, two steel rods were surgically attached to his spine to correct his scoliosis. Despite all these circumstances, he overcame his many physical problems and excelled as a student and musician. Patrick learned to play the piano and trumpet, and also began to sing. With the help of his father, he took part in the marching band concerts at the University of Louisville School of Music.

A virtuoso piano player, vocalist and trumpeter, Patrick has won numerous competitions and received awards for his strength of will and spirit, because what did it cost a young man to achieve all this. Many publications and television channels wrote and spoke about him, because such a huge willpower cannot go unnoticed.

Source 9Mat Frazier

The Englishman Mat was born with a serious illness - phocomelia of both hands (underdevelopment or absence of limbs). The reason for this was the side effects of the drug "Thalidomide", prescribed by his mother during pregnancy. Unfortunately, this is far from the only case when the imperfection of medicine and professional mistakes of doctors can break life.

Although Matt's hands grow directly from the torso, and the shoulders and forearms are absent, the physical handicap did not prevent him from becoming a completely successful person. Fraser is not at all shy about his appearance, moreover, he often shocks the audience by performing naked. Mat is not only a rock musician, but also a fairly well-known actor, whose fame was brought by the role of Seal in the sensational TV series American Horror Story: Freak Circus. By the way, Fraser is far from the only actor in the series whose unusual appearance is not created using makeup or computer graphics. Probably, it was phocomelia that helped Matt Fraser to play a character suffering from the injustice of nature so believably.

Fraser proved to many that for success in show business it is not at all necessary to run to plastic surgeons, shredding your body for the sake of fashion trends. The main thing: to have willpower, diligence and talent!

10. Andrea Bocelli: the blind singer who won the hearts of millions with his voice

Andrea Bocelli is a world famous singer from Italy. The rarest musical abilities woke up in Andrea at an early age, when he learned to play keyboards, saxophone and flute. Unfortunately, the boy developed glaucoma and almost three dozen operations did not give the desired result. As you know, the Italians are one of the nations that love football. It was this hobby that forever deprived the boy of his sight when (during the game) a soccer ball hit him in the head.

Blindness did not prevent Andrea from studying: having received a law degree, he continued his musical education with Franco Corelli, one of the best opera singers in Italy. A talented young man attracted attention and he was invited to various performances. Soon the career of the young singer rapidly went up the hill. Andrea became a popularizer of opera music, successfully combining it with modern pop style. An angelic voice helped him achieve success and world fame.

11 Gillian Mercado

Few people can boast of meeting the strictest requirements of the fashion world. In an effort to get into the ranks of models, girls exhaust themselves with diets and exercise. However, Gillian Mercado proved that you can love your body even when it is far from modern ideals of beauty. In early childhood, Mercado was diagnosed with muscular dystrophy, a terrible disease that left Gillian confined to a wheelchair. It would seem that the dreams of the world of high fashion were not destined to come true. Nevertheless, our heroine managed to attract the attention of the founders of the Diesel brand. In 2015, she was offered a lucrative contract and often began to invite her to various photo shoots. In 2016, she was invited to participate in a campaign for Beyoncé's official website.

Of course, no one will envy the fate of Gillian, because she is forced to overcome every second of pain. However, the popularity of Mercado helps girls accept themselves as nature created them. Thanks to such strong-willed personalities, you begin to thank life for the gifts that we so often take for granted.

12. Esther Werger: multiple champion with paralyzed legs

Esther was born in the Netherlands in 1981. Since childhood, she was fond of sports, actively going in for swimming. However, during physical exertion, the girl often became ill. Despite numerous tests, doctors for a long time could not make an accurate diagnosis for Esther. After several brain hemorrhages, doctors finally identified Esther's problem - vascular myelopathy. At the age of 9, the girl underwent a complex operation that lasted about 10 hours. Unfortunately, the surgery further worsened the condition of the baby, who was paralyzed in both legs.

The wheelchair did not stop Esther from continuing to play sports. She quite successfully played basketball and volleyball, but tennis brought her worldwide fame. Verger has won 42 Grand Slam titles. Esther's hundreds of victories have become a source of inspiration for people with disabilities who dream of a sports career.

Although in 2013 the girl finally left professional sports, she continues to achieve success. Trained in sports management, Verger is now Director of the International Wheelchair Tennis Tournament, consultant and lecturer for the Dutch Paralympic Team. In addition, she founded a charitable foundation to help sick children play their favorite sport.

13. Peter Dinklage: Became a screen star despite his unorthodox appearance

Peter is a prime example of people who can succeed against all odds in life. Dinklage was born with achondroplasia, a rare hereditary disorder that interferes with the development of long bones. According to doctors, the cause of achondroplasia lies in mutations in the growth gene, which leads to dwarfism. The income of the boy's family was rather meager: his mother taught music, and his father (once an insurance agent) became unemployed. Far from being the most rosy childhood, performances in front of the public with his older brother, a talented violinist, brightened up.

Usually fame comes to actors quite early, but a lucky star lit up for Peter only in 2003 (when Peter was already 34 years old) after the release of the film The Station Agent. Not too rich track record in the early years of his career is due to the reluctance of the actor to act in roles that usually involve dwarfs. Peter flatly refused to play gnomes or leprechauns. From 2011 to this day, Dinklage plays the role of Tyrion Lannister, one of the key characters in the most successful TV series of our time. Actor's talent brought Peter many honorary awards, and not so long ago, a wax figure of Dinklage appeared in Madame Tussauds in San Francisco.

14. Michael J Fox

Canadian by birth, Michael from a young age gained fame in Hollywood. He was remembered by the audience thanks to the role of Marty McFly in the cult series of films about time travel. The worldwide love of fans, an impressive fortune (which totals several tens of millions of dollars) - many will envy this. That's just the life of Mackle only seems cloudless. The actor was no more than 30 years old when he began to develop symptoms of Parkinson's disease, although this disease usually occurs in old age. For a long time, Michael did not want to put up with the diagnosis: the furious denial of the disease almost became the cause of a new problem - alcoholism. Fortunately, the support of loved ones helped Fox come to his senses in time.

Fox (despite all the physical difficulties generated by the tremor) continues to act in films to this day, striking us with acting talent. It is worth noting his participation in the TV series Boston Lawyers, where Michael played Daniel Post, a rich man who broke the law in an effort to maintain his health. Now Michael (in addition to his career in film and writing) is actively involved in supporting people suffering from Parkinson's disease. In the late 90s, he founded a public organization to study aspects of the disease and how to deal with it.

15. Stephen Hawking: the paralyzed genius who inspires millions to study science

Speaking of people who have done the impossible, one cannot fail to mention the luminary of modern science - Stephen Hawking. Stephen was born in 1942 in Oxford, a British city known throughout the world for one of the oldest universities. It is there that our genius will later learn. The craving for science was probably inherited from his parents, who worked in the medical center.

During training (when Stephen was no more than 20 years old), he began to show serious health problems due to the development of amyotrophic lateral sclerosis. This disease causes damage to the central nervous system and leads to muscle atrophy, and subsequently can cause complete paralysis. Unfortunately, existing medications only slow down the disease, but do not cure it. Hawking, despite the attempts of doctors, slowly lost the ability to control his own body and now he is barely able to move only one finger of his right hand. Luckily for Stephen, meeting talented scientists has paid off: thanks to the achievements of friends, Hawking can move around and communicate using an advanced wheelchair and a speech synthesizer.

For many people, a wheelchair becomes a curse that completely destroys the personality and the desire to do what they love. However, Hawking clearly demonstrates to us that even a completely paralyzed person is able to earn impressive amounts, flicker in the media headlines and build successful relationships on the personal front. Stephen's main achievement was his colossal contribution to modern physics and the advancement of science to the masses. Serious health problems have not deprived Stephen Hawking of a sense of humor: he loves to make comic scientific bets and even appeared in the comedy series The Big Bang Theory, playing the role of himself.

These amazing personalities proved by their example that unlimited power lies in people. Man is able to survive in the most severe conditions. Will and perseverance help to fight the disease and achieve success. Science, sports, cinema, music, the world of fashion - any field of activity remains accessible under any circumstances. Do not curse fate for all the hardships. Find an incentive to win and don't give up. And maybe one day your path to success will motivate others!

There lived a young man in the world, he liked all sorts of old trinkets, and he wandered around the world in search of unusual little things that he found in junk shops. He was especially interested in tea cups, because they seemed to him to be able to tell a lot of interesting things.

One day, in a distant unfamiliar country, he came across an antique shop, where he found an old tea cup. The young man picked up the find and began to examine it, when suddenly the cup spoke to him:

“My dear wanderer, I have not always been a cup. There was a time when meaninglessness was my only entertainment. I was just a piece of red clay. For thousands of years I lay in the ground. Centuries passed before me, people fought and made peace, civilizations were born and died.

Suddenly my master came. He picked me up, carried me to the workshop, threw me on a wooden table and began to knead and roll me until I screamed: - Enough! Leave me alone! It hurt a lot, but he just smiled and shook his head and said: - It's not time yet.

Then he threw me onto the potter's wheel, and the world spun in front of me so quickly that it merged into a solid fog. “What are you doing…” I whispered. - I feel bad, stop this nightmare. But the master only sighed knowingly and said quietly: - It's not time yet, - continuing to turn the circle and give me a shape.

And then he carefully put me in the oven. I didn't know there was such heat in the world. I screamed and tried to open the oven door. - It's hotter than hell in here! - I screamed - I'll burn to the ground! Let me out soon! But through the window in the stove, I saw how the master looked at me, and his lips repeated: - It's not time yet.

And just when it seemed to me that my last minute was coming, the door opened. The master carefully carried me out of the oven and placed me on a shelf, where I breathed freely. It's good to finally be left alone. But this was not the end.

As soon as I came to my senses, the master took me off the shelf, looked carefully and brushed off the dust. He was going to paint and varnish me. His poisonous fumes enveloped me, and I was about to lose consciousness: - Please, have mercy on me! Don't you feel sorry for me? Please leave me alone, please don't! I moaned. But the master just shook his head and said, as usual: - It's not time yet.

When he finished applying the varnish, he put me back in the oven, this time much hotter than the first time. I knew right away that this was my death. I begged him, begged, threatened, shouted. At the end, I cried, but there were no tears, not even fiery ones. I realized that I was living the last moment of my life, I had no more strength. Suddenly, at the very last second, already falling into the black abyss of nothingness, I felt the hands of the master take me and pull me out of the oven.

He put me back on the shelf, where I cooled off and waited. An hour later, the master returned, approached me and placed a mirror in front of me. “Look at yourself,” he said. What I saw in the mirror was so wonderful that I exclaimed: - It's not me! It couldn't be me... It was so beautiful, incredibly beautiful!

Then I heard the compassionate words of the master: - This is what you were supposed to become. When I rolled you out, I had to expel the air, otherwise you would quickly split. The poisonous fumes of the varnish were unbearable for you, but without it your life would have remained as gray as it was before. The furnace was the most difficult test for you, but it strengthened you. Now you have turned from a lump of clay into a wonderful cup. Now you have appeared in a new capacity.

I don’t know what they did to us in our childhood, and how we all got it that one of the important “chips” of education in the post-Soviet space was considered to be overcoming. Overcoming is put next to adaptation, stress resistance, motivation and will. Although overcoming is rather a path to the development of motivation, will and stress resistance.

In explanatory dictionaries, "overcome" is interpreted as "win", "overpower", "achieve", "overcome". That is, we are talking about some kind of obstacle, often hidden in ourselves, overcoming which we achieve our goals, which means we become one step higher in our ongoing self-development.

Obstacles can be personal comfort, laziness, lack of motivation, anxiety and fear, doubt, physical or intellectual difficulty of the task. Coping with these obstacles, we become stronger, more flexible, more persistent, more adaptive. Or, on the contrary, a strong, flexible, motivated person will easily overcome any obstacle? I am interested in how much the element of overcoming should be present in the life of a child? What qualities does he lay down and how to model such situations in life? And in general, what is considered overcoming?

I am often approached by parents whose children have completely lost their motivation to study at school (training, music lessons, and so on). When we begin to analyze the situation, it turns out, as an option, that the child is at the mercy of an exorbitant load for his age, that purely physiologically he is not able to achieve success within the limits in which he was placed. Moreover, in the view of parents, the child must overcome this situation, cope, survive. For example, through joint efforts, a child entered a prestigious gymnasium, they don’t leave such schools - just feet first, you need to survive at any cost.

The second option - the child is forced to constantly interact with a person (teacher, coach), who causes fear in him or expresses irritation, rejection towards the child. Naturally, the motivation for learning here also tends to zero. Again, parents perceive this as a reason for the child to overcome their inner discomfort and adapt to the current situation.

The third option is that the child does not have the ability for the type of activity that he is forced to engage in for tempering his character, or he has pronounced learning difficulties. Whether it's a school or a sports section, he is put in a situation of chronic failure. And again, we, irrepressible parents, remember about overcoming: come on, try, you can, you can handle it. Unfortunately, the success story does not work out, and motivation again tends to the abyss.

And what, asks the parent, to take him away? Create comfortable greenhouse conditions for him? But life will not be merciful, and he simply will not survive in the face of fierce competition! It’s good that while dad and mom are nearby, what will happen then? No, it's better to study now

But one of the signs of successful adaptation is the ability of a person to get out of a traumatic, meaningless or simply uncomfortable situation without explaining the reasons. Hasn't the creative transformation of reality, the search for one's own path, the understanding of oneself and one's capabilities and limitations given birth to a million amazing discoveries? How often we, accustomed to overcome the insurmountable, to endure what is not necessary to endure, to humble ourselves where it makes no sense, live in captivity of rigid attitudes that it is so "necessary", "we must", "and who is now easy." But life can really be easy. And the most interesting thing is that you don’t have to pay for it, as supporters of the theory of overcoming difficulties think. Finding your place in life means overcoming those attitudes that your parents and school laid in your childhood, convincing you that you will never become, for example, a scientist or a singer or just a successful person, because you are not ... that you never learned to do.

Well, what then is the role of overcoming in the development of personality? Is it all empty? Of course not. Only by overcoming ourselves every day, we feel a taste for expanding our capabilities, a taste for growth and development, we develop a sense of strength, excitement, confidence, and nurture motivation. Here it is important to clearly understand what overcoming is for the child and how to make it work in a positive way.

Overcoming must be with a plus sign

This means that the child does not have to overcome conditions of chronic stress, where the reward for him will be ... yes, there will be no reward. Behind the effort should always be joy, positive reinforcement, recognition, attention from parents and, as a result, the growth of self-esteem and the development of motivation: the desire to repeat this pleasant experience - the link "effort - joy" in the future. Examples of how this works are numerous in the literature. As a child, I was very shy to speak in front of the class, but when I first read my essay in front of everyone, the teacher and the children liked it so much that since then this fading in front of the audience has become the sweetest feeling, and for the sake of it I want to overcome myself more and more. In this story there was a limitation - my fear, overcoming - going out in public and positive reinforcement - recognition. As a result, my motivation to write texts received a nutrient medium. And this is how it works in all areas. When you offer a child to overcome something, think about what awaits him beyond the pass?

Overcoming should be within the power of the child

These adults sometimes amaze with fortitude and triumph of will, literally jumping above their heads. However, apparently, these adults had a powerful experience of believing in themselves in childhood. Apparently, there was a mother and father nearby, who did not doubt them for a second. And the child... his personality is only growing and getting stronger, his motives are fragile. When we set a super task for him, we are guaranteed to bury his motivation in the ground. No, this does not mean that the child should only perform easy tasks. But the complex that he needs to overcome must be feasible at least in theory. Example: many child gymnasts overcome pain during split stretching. A wise coach will never stretch children immediately in the first months of training. The wisest one sometimes waits a year or more, he waits until the child is imbued with the beauty of this sport, begins to identify himself with other athletes, wants to be the same as them. That's when he starts pulling the kids. Firstly, stretching becomes meaningful for the child, he sees the goal and rejoices that he is getting closer to it. Secondly, the pain from stretching is tolerable, it can be endured. And gradually the children begin to reach out on their own, through pain, at home - here it is, motivation in action. A narrow-minded coach begins to pull the children right away, in the first days, the children yell and cry, the parents mumble about overcoming, the coach pulls painfully and rudely. As a result, it is unlikely that such children who have run away from sports will, in principle, want to endure even the slightest physical discomfort in the future.

Overcoming should be short term

The child must see what his work leads to, what effect he was able to achieve. The younger the child, the closer should be the goal and the joy of achieving it. Agree, the topic that you need to plow for five years in a strong gymnasium in order to then enter a prestigious university will not work. Here it is wiser to look for more transparent and tangible goals, for example, participation in olympiads, protection of one's own projects, recognition of a teacher.

Summing up, dear parents, I am still convinced that being in a hostile team is not overcoming.

To endure the humiliation and rudeness of a teacher is not overcoming. Being in chronic fear is not overcoming; sleeping little and eating poorly is not overcoming. Experiencing a constant sense of failure is not overcoming

It's all about how to kill the motivation for learning and self-development for many years to come, guaranteed. But I am tormented by the question, why is it still so scary for many parents to take a child out of uncomfortable conditions for him? Why do they believe that the only way to raise a resilient, motivated and strong child is to make him very bad?

When real troubles happen, even strong and self-confident people give up. It is difficult to act in cold blood when strong ties are destroyed, and the gap between the desired and the actual increases many times over. Several ways to overcome difficult situations.

The course of life that was stable and normal yesterday suddenly changed dramatically, and problems suddenly knocked on your door? Such life situations can sometimes arise for absolutely anyone, but each person treats such unexpected “surprises” in his own way.

Someone manages to adapt even to difficulties and go with the flow without initiative, others draw up a plan of specific actions to overcome temporary obstacles, and some are so immersed in them, literally drown in their stream, that then they stop even noticing these problems, withdrawing into themselves and not making even elementary attempts to get out.

There are other people who loudly curse their lives, cry and complain to everyone they meet about their difficult fate, but in fact they don’t even try to change anything, so a long stay in constant negativity, as a rule, ends for them in a protracted depression.

Difficult life situations can be completely different, but they are united by the fact that they seriously disrupt the normal life of a person, but he himself is not always able to get out of such a situation.

What are these situations?

There are really many, here are just a few of them:

• serious illness;
• orphanhood;
• disability;
• long-term unemployment;
• lack of a specific place of residence;
• poverty;
• cruel treatment.

Psychologists believe that such a situation in life, as a rule, is characterized by a discrepancy between our desires and our abilities and capabilities. Such an internal conflict seriously impedes the achievement of any set goals, which, in turn, leads to the appearance of strong negative emotions, which indicate the appearance of a difficult situation in a person’s life.

A person who is constantly developing through the assimilation and cognition of the world around him, but who does not yet have serious life experience, will definitely meet something new, unknown and even unexpected on his way.

Using one's own capabilities and abilities may simply be insufficient in a particular situation, which means that this may well cause frustration and disappointment.

As a rule, any difficult life situation leads to a significant deterioration in long-established relationships with loved ones and others, is a source of deep feelings and negative emotions, causes tangible inconvenience, and this can already have sustainable negative consequences for personal development. That's why you need to know as much as possible about the various options, ways and possibilities of overcoming difficult situations in life.

Behavior Transformation Strategies for Similar Situations

1. Defensive techniques. They are characteristic of a group of non-adaptive reactions to serious difficulties: silent resignation, deep depression, depression, deliberate avoidance of such difficult situations, as well as suppression of thoughts about the root cause and the very source of the difficulty.
2. overcoming. Certain actions that are aimed at changing the situation, overcoming the difficulties that have arisen, and achieving success.

These actions are associated with certain efforts and tangible energy costs, and also involve intensive brainstorming aimed at finding a solution and a way out of a difficult situation, a really high level of psychological self-regulation, searching for the necessary information, and, if necessary, attracting other people who can help in solving the problem that has arisen.

Seriously and persistently changing any difficult situation, the person himself changes significantly, but, as a rule, these changes are unintentional and unconscious. Often there are cases when the situation literally requires some kind of conscious change in one's own characteristics, and only then it will be possible to achieve well-being and overcome unexpected difficulties.

In such a case, a serious change in personal characteristics and perception of a difficult situation is the main strategy or a significant element of another strategy.

Techniques that can be applied to overcome difficult situations

Sometimes it also happens that a person who finds himself in a difficult life situation seems to have made every effort to overcome it, but has not achieved a positive result - the problem has not been resolved, and he himself can only admit defeat.

He feels this failure so deeply that he considers it practically a collapse of his own personality, which is direct evidence that he is a failure. If this is the first serious failure, then he becomes very vulnerable and vulnerable, and in such a situation he tries with all his might to restore or maintain a good attitude towards himself, self-esteem and well-being.

What can really help? Very often in such cases, people try to devalue the problem, using psychological defense mechanisms, the action of which is aimed at significantly reducing the heavy burden of serious emotional experiences and absolutely do not require a serious revision of their attitude towards themselves. Here are the tricks:

1. Devalue the object

If you could not find the right way out of a difficult situation, could not achieve an important goal, then just try to lower its significance for you. This will help to devalue the failure and turn it into an insignificant episode of your own biography.

2. Adjust your hopes and aspirations

Any failure for a person is a very unpleasant and seriously experienced event that deprives him of what he would like and what he really needs, so you can adjust your hopes and expectations.

As a rule, this leads to a significant minimization of requirements. Of course, this method helps smooth out feelings and unpleasant sensations, but it also has another, not so rosy, side - it seriously impoverishes the future and does not increase self-esteem as a successful person.

3. Accept the situation exactly as it is.

Sometimes it is much more productive to simply “let go” of a situation than to use a lot of absolutely unsuccessful attempts to correct it.

And this is not at all a silent answer and weak-willed humility in connection with difficult circumstances, but a really conscious decision, which is usually made after a thorough analysis of the situation itself and comparing one's own difficult situation with the more difficult and difficult of other people. This technique is used in case of serious deterioration in health, serious illness and disability.

4. Look at your problem differently, give it a positive interpretation

This technique consists in using various options for comparison: either with someone who has a more difficult situation, or restore in memory your own merits and successes in any other areas of activity.

It may seem to some that these techniques are a prime example of how to adapt to difficulties, and not fight them. But in reality, this is not so at all.

Very often, such strategies are temporary, while a person restores peace of mind in order to begin to radically change his own life with renewed vigor. And in this situation, such techniques are just a wise strategy that takes into account the real features of the life prospects of a particular person.

Of course, everyone can absolutely independently choose the strategies and techniques that are suitable for him, with the help of which he will be able to overcome the difficulties that have arisen.

But life shows that we really can’t always change anything at the moment, although we can look at the situation as soberly as possible and direct real efforts to what can really be changed or find ways of normal existence with what we not yet able to change.

You always need to fight for your life, not giving in to any troubles. This is its meaning, Ernest Hemingway believed. We offer stories about amazing people who, thanks to the strength of their character, overcame all the difficulties that fate sent them.

1. Vyacheslav dust - "Coffee house".

In 2016, the novel by Vyacheslav praha turned the book world upside down. This is a story about loneliness. The protagonist of the book is trying to come to terms with the murder of his wife. While two strangers come to the same coffee shop for several months. And one day they start a conversation.
A book within a book is a poignant story about happiness in a fleeting moment, about separation. About the spiritual emptiness, which is sometimes difficult to fill. About love leading to heaven and hell. Psychological drama about the relationship between two people who have no future.

2. jojo moyes - "see you".
Lou does not know that she is about to lose her job and that in the near future she will need all the strength to overcome the problems that have fallen on her. Will knows that the motorcyclist who hit him took away his will to live. But both heroes do not even assume that they will soon change each other's lives forever.

3. Margaret Atwood - "aka Grace!

In 1843, a crime occurred in Canada that still haunts psychologists and criminologists. Grace Marks, a maid, was accused of the extremely brutal murder of her master. Her lawyer managed to prove to the jury that she was weak-minded. Grace was released 29 years later. But was she truly insane? Whose pernicious spirit moved into her body?

4. Ruben David Gonzalez gallego - "White on Black".
When it seems to you that life is unfair and everything is going wrong, just open the gallego book and stay for a while in the world of its characters - people with disabilities. Their optimism and a completely non-standard view of familiar things will become a real cure for you.

5. Abdel sellu - "You Changed my Life."
The true story of the main characters of the French film "The Untouchables" ("1 1". A story about the amazing friendship of two people - a paralyzed French aristocrat and an unemployed Algerian immigrant. But they met. And their lives changed.

6. Liza Jenova - "Forever Alice".
A novel about the battle waged by a woman with a serious illness - a battle for memory, thoughts, memories, for her loved ones and loved ones. The inner meaning of the novel is that, despite difficult circumstances, you need to remain true to yourself, to understand that every day you live brings with it new opportunities for life and for love.

7. Liana Moriarty - "What Alice Forgot".
After the accident, Alice forgot the last 10 years of her life. The most unpleasant discovery for her is herself: she is 40 years old, she is at the stage of divorce, she is a bitch, and no one loves her. Alice is trying to fix something - because she only remembers the good times. Will she succeed?

8. Daniel keys - "The Mysterious History of Billy Milligan".
24 separate individuals, different in intelligence, age, nationality, gender and worldview, exist in one person. Billy Milligan is the real and most mysterious and crazy character in our history, a kind of experiment of nature on man.

9. Eric Segal - "Oliver's Story".
"Oliver's Story" is a continuation of Seagal's famous book "Love Story". Oliver Barratt loved Jenny Cavilleri and she loved him. But Jenny died, and Oliver lived. How does a person live after the loss of everything he loves? How can he return to the people? And can? An amazingly beautiful book. 10. Michael - "Down Remer".

The history of the bone is consonant with "Rain Man". It is written for people who are not indifferent, for those whose soul has not yet completely hardened. Kostya never pretends and does not wish harm to anyone. But he knows how to enjoy life as few of us do - a young man is a child with a spotless soul and a rich, but not like our inner world.

People who overcame life's difficulties and became famous

People who were able to overcome life's difficulties

12 outstanding people who were able to overcome life's difficulties, changed their present and our future.

Steve Jobs
He lost his parents a week after birth - they abandoned the child they did not need. He tried to go to college, but after the first semester he was expelled. April 1, 1976 Steve Jobs founded Apple Computer. In 2011, Apple became the most valuable company in the world.

Ernest Hemingway
In early childhood, his mother forced Ernest to sing in the church choir, and his father wanted him to become a doctor, but he chose the path of a writer. Hemingway received wide recognition for his work and won the Nobel Prize in Literature.

Coco Chanel (Gabrielle Bonheur Chanel)
Her mother died when she was barely twelve, and her father sent Gabrielle and her four brothers to live in an orphanage. At the age of 18, she got a job as a salesperson in a clothing store and quickly settled into the fashion world. In 1913, Gabrielle opened her atelier, and a little later, the Chanel brand became known throughout the world and still occupies the position of a premium brand.

Stanley Kubrick
When he was thirteen years old, his father gave him a camera, and for the first time he saw life through the lens. With the first money he earned, Stanley made a short film, and at the age of 24 he received an award as the best director.

Ray Charles
In early childhood, he lost his sight, but this did not stop him from becoming a great jazz musician. During his career, he recorded over 70 albums and was awarded 17 Grammy awards.

Diego Maradona
Maradona was the fifth child in the family, but the first boy. When Maradona was 7 years old, his cousin gave him the very first ball in his life. Diego was so delighted with the gift that he fell asleep with him in his arms on the first night. In the game, little Diego did not succeed, older players slipped past or circled him, but the pressure and determination made him the best football player of the 20th century and the scorer of the century.

Guy Laliberte
He started as a simple circus performer, playing the accordion, walking on stilts and swallowing fire. But Laliberte's faith and hard work made his circus "Du Soleil" the most popular in the world, and he celebrated his 50th birthday in space.

Martin Cooper
"People thought I was crazy when I tried to explain to them that a small, pocketable cordless phone is not only possible, but a huge success" Martin Cooper - the man who invented the cell phone

Jacques-Yves Cousteau
One day he saw scuba diving goggles in a store. Having dived into them, he realized that from now on his life undividedly belongs to the underwater kingdom. So Captain Cousteau went down in history not only as an outstanding explorer of the World Ocean, but also as a talented cinematographer, author of many books, scuba inventor and traveler.

Mark Zuckerberg
While still a student at Harvard, the wunderkind founds a brilliant project and gains wild popularity. He leaves school to spend all his time on his brainchild - Facebook. His goal is to change the existing world. And he did it!

Nikola Tesla
He grew up in a poor family with many children, from childhood he was distinguished by extraordinary perseverance and willpower. Outstanding electrical engineer, inventor in the field of electrical and radio engineering. In 1893, he patented a radio transmitter, laying the foundation for the principles of radio and cellular communications. Contemporaries - biographers considered Tesla "The Man Who Invented the 20th Century".

Henry Ford
Born into a family of emigrants, at the age of 16 he ran away from home in order to achieve what he wanted. In 1893 he designed his first car, and in 1903 he founded the Ford Motor Company plant, where the industrial conveyor was first used. The plant exists and makes a profit to this day.

Throughout life, each of us may encounter obstacles that need to be overcome. But how to do it so as not to lose the human form? Classical literature has not ignored this problem. And such writers of the nineteenth century as Lev Nikolaevich Tolstoy, Fyodor Mikhailovich Dostoevsky and many others, each tried to answer the question in his own way.


So, F.M. Dostoevsky in the novel "Crime and Punishment" shows us a poor young man, Rodion Raskolnikov, who committed a terrible sin. He kills an old pawnbroker and, by coincidence, her innocent sister. The murder occurs due to the fact that the hero of the novel decides to test one theory on himself, according to which all people are divided into two categories: some - “having the right” to send to kill or kill themselves, and others, the lowest grade, are “trembling creatures” , which are the majority.

Raskolnikov values ​​himself highly enough and therefore, considering himself to be entitled, takes an ax in his hands. To kill something, he killed a malicious, according to him, and useless old woman. This also manifests such a trait of Raskolnikov as courage. But after the crime for Rodion, a “black” streak of life begins - punishment. Who is to blame for what happened? How now to live with such a burden? Napoleon, when he sent his soldiers to their deaths, did he think about the morality of his act? Such thoughts visit Raskolnikov during a period of mental anguish and life's difficulties. At this difficult moment, he meets with Sonya Marmeladova, who herself is going through hard times. She is forced to go “on a yellow ticket” to sell her body in order to save her family from starvation. This girl not only did not harden herself, but also helped Raskolnikov to understand that the cause of adversity must be sought, first of all, in oneself. To do this, you need to realize that you are wrong, go and repent of what you have done. This will be the first step towards finding yourself, a person.

Another example of revealing the problem of overcoming life's difficulties and preserving a person in oneself can be the epic novel by L.N. Tolstoy "War and Peace". Indicative in this respect is the Rostov family. The writer tells throughout the story that Count Rostov is a good person and a family man, but a bad owner. Manages his property Mitenka (as all Rostovs affectionately call him), the manager of the estates, is a rogue and a swindler. The wealth of the Rostovs is melting before our eyes. And Nikolai Rostov, called up by the countess from the army, is also unable to help. Despite the shaky situation, the Rostovs do not refuse home to anyone. Everyone continues to live with them (tutors, nannies, teachers and others) who believed that they would live better with the Rostovs than anywhere else.

Life difficulties and difficulties

Life difficulties are obstacles on the way to achieving the goal, requiring effort and effort to overcome them. Difficulties difficulties - strife. One difficulty is to find a toilet when needed, another difficulty is to stay alive,

Usually people do not like difficulties, but - some people meet some difficulties and even the failures that accompany them with joy. Difficult is not always undesirable. A person can rejoice in life's difficulties when these difficulties and failures open up new opportunities for him, give him the opportunity to test his own strengths, the opportunity to learn, gaining new experience.

From Carol Dweck's book "A Flexible Mind":

When I was a young aspiring scientist, an event occurred that changed my whole life.

I was passionate about understanding how people deal with their failures. And I began to study this by watching how younger students solve difficult problems. So, I invited the little ones one by one to a separate room, asked them to make themselves comfortable, and when they relaxed, I gave them a series of puzzles to solve. The first tasks were quite simple, but then they became more and more difficult. And while the students puffed and sweated, I watched their actions and reactions. I assumed that children would behave differently when trying to cope with difficulties, but I saw something completely unexpected.

Faced with more serious tasks, one ten-year-old boy pulled a chair closer to the table, rubbed his hands, licked his lips and declared: “I love difficult problems!” Another boy, having sweated a lot over the puzzle, raised his pleased face and concluded weightily: “You know, I hoped so - it would be informative!”

“But what is the matter with them?” I couldn't understand. It never crossed my mind that failure could please someone. Are these kids aliens? Or do they know something? I soon realized that these children know that human abilities, such as intellectual skills, can be honed with effort. And that's what they were doing - getting smarter. Failure did not discourage them at all - it did not even occur to them that they were losing. They thought they were just learning.

Such a positive, or rather constructive attitude to the difficulties in life is characteristic primarily for people in the position of the Author and p.

How to overcome life's difficulties

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A psychologically difficult situation does not have to be lived with an unhappy face and difficult experiences. Strong people know how to keep themselves always.
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Everyone has life difficulties, but it is absolutely not necessary to make unhappy or desperate eyes, yourself or others, groan and portray. These are not natural experiences, but learned behavior and bad habits of the person living in.

The worst thing you can do is sink into despair, apathy, despondency or hopelessness. Despondency in Christianity is a mortal sin, and is a gloomy experience with which weak people harm themselves in order to take revenge on life and others.

To overcome life's difficulties, you need intelligence and spiritual strength, women need spiritual flexibility, and smart people show both. Be strong and flexible!

​If you see problems in the difficulties you are facing - you will most likely feel heaviness and worry. - you will simply solve it, as you solve any problem: by analyzing the data and thinking about how to quickly reach the desired result . Usually all you have to do is (get yourself together), analyze the resources (think about what or who can help), think of the possibilities (solutions) and get started. Simply put, turn on your head and move in the right direction, see ..

Typical difficulties in self-development

Those who have been engaged in self-development, self-development, also know the typical difficulties: the new is scary, there are many doubts, many things do not work right away, but you want everything at once - we scatter, sometime we calm down on the illusion of the result, sometime we go astray and return to the old course . What to do with it? Cm.

Many people are sure that if a person has certain health problems, then he will not be able to live a full life and will not be happy, but this is not at all the case.

Today Bright Side will tell you the stories of people who, despite illness and life’s difficulties, despite everything, have achieved their goals and are happy that they live and can do what they love.

Turia Pitt suffered severe burns in a fire

The story of Australian fashion model Turia Pitt, who lost her face after a fire, cannot leave anyone indifferent. At the age of 24, she was caught in a terrible fire, in which her body was burned by 64%. The girl spent six months in the hospital, went through many operations, lost all fingers on her right hand and 3 fingers on her left. Now she lives a full life, starring for magazines, playing sports, surfing, cycling and working as a mining engineer.

Nando Parrado survived the plane crash and waited 72 days for help

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The survivors of the disaster drank the melted snow and slept side by side to keep warm. There was so little food that everyone did everything to find at least some living creatures for a common dinner. On the 60th day after the accident, Nando and two of his friends decided to go through the icy desert for help. After the plane crash, Nando lost half of his family, and during the time after the crash he lost more than 40 kg of weight. Now he is engaged in lecturing on the power of motivation in life to achieve goals.

Jessica Cox became the world's first pilot without both arms

The girl was born in 1983 without both arms. Why was she born like this, the answer was never found. Meanwhile, the girl grew up, and her parents did everything so that she lived a full life. As a result of her efforts, Jessica learned to eat on her own, dress herself and went to a completely ordinary school, and learned to write. From childhood, the girl was afraid to fly and even swung on a swing with closed eyes. But she overcame her fear. On October 10, 2008, Jessica Cox received an athlete pilot's license. She became the first pilot in the world without both hands, for which she got into the Guinness Book of Records.

Tanni Gray-Thompson has become world famous as a successful wheelchair racer.

Born with a diagnosis of spina bifida, Tunney gained worldwide fame as a successful wheelchair racer.

Sean Schwarner overcame cancer and climbed the 7 highest peaks on 7 continents

This man with a capital letter is a real fighter, he overcame cancer and visited the 7 highest peaks of 7 continents. He is the only person in the world to have survived a diagnosis of Hodgkin's disease and Askin's sarcoma. He was diagnosed with cancer of the 4th and last stage at the age of 13, and according to the doctors' forecasts, he was not supposed to live even 3 months. But Sean miraculously overcame his illness, which soon returned when doctors re-discovered a golf ball-sized tumor on his right lung.

After the second operation to remove the tumor, the doctors decided that the patient would last no more than 2 weeks ... But now, 10 years later, partially using his lung, Sean is known to the whole world for being the first cancer survivor to climb Mount Everest .

Gillian Mercado, diagnosed with dystrophy, entered the fashion world and became successful

This girl proved that in order to get into the world of fashion, you do not need to comply with generally accepted canons. And it is quite possible to love yourself and your body, even when it is not perfect. As a child, the girl was diagnosed with a terrible disease - dystrophy, in connection with which she was confined to a wheelchair. But this did not prevent her from being in the world of high fashion.

Esther Werger - multiple champion with paralyzed legs

As a child, she was diagnosed with vascular myelopathy. In this regard, an operation was performed, which, unfortunately, only worsened everything, and she was paralyzed in both legs. But the wheelchair did not prevent Esther from playing sports. She quite successfully played basketball and volleyball, but tennis brought her worldwide fame. Verger has won 42 Grand Slam titles.

Michael J Fox overcame all the hardships associated with Parkinson's disease

The famous actor from the movie "Back to the Future" found out that he was sick when he was only 30 years old. Then he began to drink alcohol, but in spite of everything he gave up and devoted his life to the fight against Parkinson's disease. Thanks to his help, it was possible to raise $ 350 million for the study of this disease.

Patrick Henry Hughes, being blind and having undeveloped limbs, became a great pianist

Patrick was born without eyes and with deformed, weakened limbs, which makes him unable to stand. Despite all these conditions, the child at the age of one year began to try to play the piano. Later, he was able to enroll at the University of Louisville School of Music Marching and Pep Bands, after which he began playing in the Cardinal Marching Band, where he was constantly driven in a wheelchair by his tireless father. Now Patrick is a virtuoso pianist, winner of many competitions, his performances were broadcast by many TV channels.

Mark Inglis, the only man without legs to summit Everest

Climber Mark Inglis from New Zealand became the first and remains the only person without legs to summit Everest. 20 years earlier, he lost both legs, frostbitten them in one of the expeditions. But Mark did not part with his dream, he trained a lot and was able to conquer the highest peak, which is difficult even for ordinary people. Today he continues to live in New Zealand with his wife and 3 children. He has written 4 books and works for a charitable foundation.