Instruction
Punctuality is the hallmark of a collected and responsible person. Being late, even for the most legitimate reason, will create a negative impression of you even before you are greeted. This is not good for getting started. Your punctuality will indicate that you know how to value not only your own time, but also the time of your partner.
However, you should not come too early either. If the person waiting for you is not yet ready or is completely absent, you will have to wait in vain for the appointed time. And arriving early is considered very impolite.
Remembering the name from the moment you are introduced to a new acquaintance is a good way to win over a person. During the conversation, try to address him exclusively by his first name. Such an appeal is not only pleasant and polite, but also focuses the interlocutor's attention on you and your statements. If you can't remember the name of a new acquaintance the next time you meet, the person may get the impression that meeting him was not interesting for you.
Use your body, smile. These methods of non-verbal communication form a certain impression about a person in the subconscious: positive - if the interlocutor likes the behavior, negative - if it repels. In no case do not look away, do not shy away from eye contact, try not to get too close to the person, violating his intimate space, do not slap him on the shoulder. It is enough to remember two simple actions that can lead to good, friendly relations - a wide natural smile and a long handshake.
Neat clothes suitable for the circumstances, a neat hairstyle, polished shoes, make-up appropriate for the circumstances, well-groomed nails - all this, combined with the correct tactics of behavior, will make the most favorable impression on the interlocutor.
When interacting with new people, watch your statements and speech in general. Do not swear, speak competently, clearly, so that the interlocutor does not ask you again, putting yourself and you in an awkward position, do not use black humor, do not be intrusive. Be especially restrained and polite in dealing with older people and business partners.
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Tip 2: How to make a good impression on the employer
Having found a promising vacancy, make every effort to produce a good impression on the employer and get the coveted position. Lacking natural charm and talent as an orator, you can produce a good impression if you are thoroughly prepared for the meeting.
Instruction
To produce good impression on the employer Start preparing for the meeting long before the interview. Search the Internet for information about the head of the company. Pay attention to both his work biography and hobbies. Knowing the characteristics of the personality of a future boss can greatly help you in the interview process.
Having collected all the necessary information, proceed directly to the preparation. Think about what you will wear to the interview. Clothing should not be too frank and bright, but at the same time, “gray mice” are also not held in high esteem now. The best solution for you is a strict but elegant outfit.
In addition to appearance, pay close attention to your speech. This is especially necessary for those who have already been to several interviews, but were not hired. The level of development of a linguistic personality is one of the important indicators when applying for a job. It is difficult for a person in the process of communication to assess the level of his communicative competence. Therefore, record your speech on a voice recorder (it is desirable that it be a dialogue). Listen to the recording and you will be amazed, exclaiming: “Is this really how I talk!”.
Everyone is familiar with such a thing as a “first impression”, but not everyone knows how to make a good impression on people, fill the meeting with only positive emotions and make the interlocutor have a positive opinion of you.By the way, the first impression can even be deceptive, and only during subsequent communication does a person reveal the true negative or positive traits character. Therefore, you should not draw conclusions and judge a person after the first meeting. Another thing is if you have a goal. To do this, you need to positively influence the interlocutor and make a good impression on him.
So, if you want to make a good impression on a person, you need to know a few rules and stick to them accordingly.
Appearance, hairstyle, clothes.
As the proverb of antiquity says, "They meet by clothes, but see off by the mind." If you want to succeed, then give your appearance Special attention, make sure that your clothes are neat, hair and nails are clean.
Also, do not forget that if you want to make a good impression on a person and the meeting, for example, is of a business nature, then you should choose the appropriate clothes, it can be a business suit or stick to minimalism. Bright and revealing outfits are best left for another occasion and for another event.
Be yourself.
Behave naturally, not forcedly, freely. It is clear that you are worried about how to make a good impression on the interlocutor, but if he notices falsehood and pretense in your actions and words, he will not be able to trust you and this will repel him not only from you, but also from further meetings.
Listen.
In a conversation with strangers or already familiar people, you should at least observe the rules of etiquette and decency. Your speech should be cultural and correct, be sincerely interested in the topic of conversation and keep the conversation going, do not interrupt the interlocutor. Also try to address the interlocutor by name more often, scientists have proven that this is conducive to communication.
Be kind.
It is always a pleasure to communicate with an educated, well-mannered, intelligent person who is also friendly to everything. Smile more often and do it sincerely, say compliments and nice words to the interlocutor, praise him and emphasize positive qualities. A strained and feigned smile, a gloomy face, excessive seriousness can only alert the interlocutor, respectively, this will not have the best effect on further communication.
Be confident.
The interlocutor will definitely feel your excitement, insecurity, fear, fear. This will not alienate the interlocutor, but will confuse him and your communication will no longer be so trusting and sincere. He can also subconsciously perceive this uncertainty as ignorance of his business, if this, for example, concerns sales. Accordingly, this certainly does not characterize you as a competent and knowledgeable specialist who can be trusted.
End the conversation right.
In order to really make a good impression on people, you must have the ability to properly end a conversation.
Be sure to be in a good mood, smile, even if something embarrassed you or you didn’t like it. Tell the interlocutor a few compliments, a few nice words, but don't overdo it, a couple of compliments will be enough. It would also be a good tone if you were the first to shake your hand and say that it was very pleasant for you to talk, and you are pleased with the meeting.
You need to remember the obligatory rule that must be observed during a chance meeting, an interview, a business or friendly meeting, a love date. This rule says that in any case, you must be positive, radiate only positive emotions and joy, and then you will be successful.
As you know, the first impression is the impression that a person makes on us from the first seconds at the first meeting. In particular, psychologists say that it is formed within the first seven seconds from the moment of the meeting. Some of them allocate even less time for this: only 2 seconds. Further, they believe, opinion can change, but only to a small extent.
But don’t go to a psychologist either: we all know that, having met a new person, we almost immediately understand whether we like him or not. Here, except that only with an accuracy of a second we do not determine how much time it took us to do this.
We meet new people every day. And we don’t just collide, but whether we like it or not, we have to communicate with them: in the same transport, in various service sectors, etc. We evaluate, we are evaluated, and how we behave depends on what has been done to us ourselves in this or that situation, whether we will maintain further relations with a new person - will he become our colleague or friend, or will we prefer to bypass him by the tenth road. Even love at first sight, which is talked about so much, is based on the same first impression.
One can argue for a long time how true the first impression is. After all, it also happens that a person who is not liked at first sight eventually becomes our best friend. And the one from whom we were delighted at first, in the future will greatly disappoint us. And we will once again be convinced of the correctness of the statement: "The first impression is deceptive."
And remember what our favorite classic wrote:
“When people assure me that first impressions never deceive them, I just shrug my shoulders. In my opinion, such people are not too insightful or too presumptuous. As for me, the longer I know a person, the more mysterious he seems. And just about my oldest friends, I can say that I know absolutely nothing about them.
It is curious that another popular writer - our contemporary, born exactly 100 years later than Maugham - stated the opposite:
"People aren't really that complex, and the first impression someone makes on us is usually the right one."
And yet there are few people who would not want to make a favorable first impression. And one of the cases when this is very important for us is an interview-interview with an employer. Especially if we want to get the job of our dreams.
"You won't get a second chance to make a first impression."
How to win over a stranger
How to spoil the first impression, many probably know. But are there any tricks that will win over a stranger, and in particular an employer?
1. Meet by clothes, but see off by mind
We have all heard this proverb a hundred times, suggesting that clothes are important, but the mind is still more important. Yes, but they are still met by clothes!
It can be said that this is a kind of business card. In most cases, by clothing, we can judge a person’s wealth, social status, his occupation, how neat he is. Equally important is its relevance for different occasions. When looking at a person in stale clothes and dirty hair, an internal rejection arises: it seems that his affairs are also neglected.
As for, it is clear that a young man applying for a solid position and coming to an interview in shorts, a bright T-shirt with a frivolous inscription and beach slippers can cause distrust among the employer.
Some people who, by occupation, have to be in public a lot, resort to the help of image makers who “think up” an image for them, depending on what they “carry to the masses”. And it's not just about clothes, but about the whole appearance.
For example, we came to a lecture, and we see how the lecturer, on the way to the stage, smooths his hair, pulls up his trousers or skirt, fussily looks for something in his pockets - that's it, the first impression of him is already ruined.
In the same few seconds, an observant person manages to catch the facial expressions, gestures, posture of another person. And now he can already judge how confident and independent his interlocutor is, what his self-esteem is, whether he is an optimist in life or a pessimist, etc. It is no secret that a person who radiates friendliness, goodwill and confidence will make a more favorable impression.
By the way, psychologists distinguish in human behavior, thanks to which it is possible to determine the state of mind of the interlocutor. If we want to give the impression of an open person, then we should not cross or "close" the positions of the arms and legs. Our gestures should be smooth, and the head should be slightly raised. And vice versa, hands hidden behind the back or in pockets, crossed legs or fingers, lowered head will show our psychological closeness.
2. We speak beautifully
If we want to make a good impression, then we must pay attention to our own, because it is not without reason that it is called the second person.
Sometimes the voice conveys the character of a person so accurately that we don’t even have to see it. For example, we are talking on the phone with a stranger and hear shrill notes in his voice. In our mind, the image of an unbalanced hysterical person appears. If the speech of our interlocutor is too fast and inconsistent, then most likely we are dealing with an insecure person who is too in a hurry to express his opinion, fearing that he will be interrupted or stopped listening. The owner of a sonorous voice is usually a cheerful and positive person.
And some people are endowed with such a bewitching and magical timbre of voice that it is only thanks to him that an excellent first impression is formed about them.
A favorable impression is made by an open, inviting look. Therefore, entering into a conversation, it is important to establish and maintain with the interlocutor. Thus, we will express our interest in him and in what he says, show our sympathy and desire to continue communication.
Conversely, shifty or lowered eyes suggest that our interlocutor is insincere and is hiding something from us. Seeing his downcast look, we will think that for some reason he considers himself guilty or too depressed. True, you should not embarrass the interlocutor with a too direct, uninterrupted look. Such a piercing look can make him think that we crave to dominate, and makes a repulsive impression.
4. We give the interlocutor the right to speak first
Psychologists say that it is much easier to win someone's sympathy if you give him the opportunity to speak first. By this we will show our respect and interest in the interlocutor, and he will be grateful to us a hundred times for this.
The gift is quite rare, and therefore valuable. There are not so many people who listen to us without interrupting or thinking about something of their own. Therefore, we do not forget the one who shows attention to us, giving the right to the first word. And we get the most favorable impression of him as a "nice person."
5. Choose personal meetings
Recently, meetings and interviews have gained particular popularity, for example, with the help of. And this is not surprising: employers, clients, potential employees are sometimes separated by huge distances.
On the one hand, it is very convenient. On the other hand, there are some pitfalls here. Namely: psychologists have found that it is much easier to win over a person by communicating live. And the one who resorts to the help of modern means of communication, gaining in time and money, sometimes loses in the impression that he makes on the interlocutor.
So, the researchers advise: if you really need to make a good impression, you should prefer face-to-face contacts, rather than through telephone or Internet communications.
Each person should think about what he makes the first impression, observe his behavior and habits, analyze and, if necessary, correct. After all, no matter what they say that it is deceptive, there are many situations in life when our fate depends on the first impression made by us.
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The first impression can be deceptive, but that's why it is the first, that it is impossible to correct it. How to make a good first impression on a potential employer, friends of friends or clients?
Be honest: how long does it take you to form an idea about a stranger? Sometimes half an hour is enough, sometimes a few minutes or even a couple of seconds. You may soon have to change your mind about a person and get to know him from an unexpected side. But in any case, the first impression will remain the first.
And how you would like people to like you at first sight, right? Let's see if this is possible.
1. Conduct an "investigation"
- First and most importantly, decide who are you going to impress. It's one thing when it comes to job interviews. It is completely different if you are going to visit a friend, where strangers will gather.
- Second- determine for yourself what kind of impression do you want to create. What trait of your character or ability would you like to be noticed in you at the first meeting? Consolidation and responsibility? Easy character and hanging tongue? Competence in professional matters? It is quite obvious that at a meeting with future employers and in a small friendly company, people behave differently.
- Third – get to know people in person. When preparing for an interview, study the corporate website of the company, remember the name of the boss. If your task is to impress someone from a friendly environment - "get to know" their hobbies, field of activity, and so on. People are always pleased when they show personal interest.
The more you know about your counterpart, the more relaxed you will feel when you meet.
2. Rehearse
It never hurts to be well prepared. Depending on the direction in which the conversation will take place, think over your speech. What will you talk about? How will you answer the not-so-comfortable questions that you are likely to hear in an interview? What fascinating stories can you tell at a party? How do you convince a partner to start cooperation?
Scroll through the possible scenarios in your mind so that the arguments of the interlocutor do not take you by surprise.
If you feel out of place during important meetings, rehearse the conversation with your husband or girlfriend. A thoughtful and rehearsed plan of action will help you deal with anxiety.
3. Play
Many confident people actually only pretend to be absolutely sure of what they say and do. But this trick works: others really believe them!
Imagine that this is your role and play! Before the meeting begins, take a few deep breaths, relax and tune in to a good game.
When you begin to feel that self-doubt and fear of doing something wrong are creeping up on you, remind yourself that now you are not you, but a strong, self-confident, smart, charming woman.
And, of course, try to look as good as possible (whatever is hidden behind “good” in your case: a spectacular suit, good styling, makeup, etc.). This will give you confidence and win over your counterpart.
4. Smile
The absence of a smile can only be forgiven for languid fatal beauties. Even if you consider yourself to be such, there is no place for drama in an interview or a friendly meeting. Smile - it helps to establish contact and tune in to the same wave.
American scientists claim that the first thing that most people remember about a person is his smile. According to one study, a person with a pleasant smile is more trustworthy than a discreet person dressed to the nines.
5. Seal the first impression
In fact, the first impression is not only the first conversation with a person, but also its end. Thank the interlocutor for the meeting, exchange contact information. After a while, gently remind yourself.
6. Be yourself
Let's be honest: no matter how hard you try, you can't control what people think of you. Be natural and don't try to be the witty soul of the company if you are a silent person prone to self-reflection by nature.
Sounds like a cliché, but it's true: be yourself because everyone else is already taken!
In an interview, the first impression that a potential employer will make of you plays a big role. Perhaps he will form an opinion about you in a very short time. Before you go to an interview, think: do you look nice? Are you giving the impression of a professional?
At the interview, you, first of all, need to seem like a person with brains. Do you want to be noticed and remembered as a nice person? Then here are some tips on how to make a good first impression on an employer.
1. Dress presentably
It's not good to look bad in an interview. If you show up dressed inappropriately, the employer will assume that you will do your job the same way. Look neat and presentable. In addition, your suit should match the style of the people who are interviewing. For lawyers, this means a conservative jacket, white shirt and tie. If the job is more creative, such as a graphic designer, then it is better to choose a looser suit.
2. Look ready to go
People are attracted to good physical shape. If you are not in shape, start doing to train the muscles and the cardiovascular and respiratory systems. Also, stop eating junk and switch to healthy food.
3. Shake hands correctly
The first handshake is the key to making a good first impression.
4. Focus on your speech
Speak clearly and at a moderate pace, work on intonation if you do not want to look monotonous, boring bore. Also, speak in the language of the person conducting the interview. Avoid jargon or slang that is not related to work, use correct grammar and words that show that you have a college degree (if any). If people don't understand you, they won't be able to love you!
5. Call the person conducting the interview by their first name and patronymic.
By addressing the interviewer in this way, you set the conversation in a more personable tone. It also shows that you are paying attention to getting to know each other and that this person is important enough for you to remember his first name. However, avoid abuse in such treatment: it will alienate the interlocutor from you, because it gives the impression of falseness.
6. Show the person that you are listening.
If you do not show that you are interested, then the person simply will not accept you. Make subtle hints that you are listening to the interlocutor, for example, nod, make eye contact, say something, ask questions during the conversation. This shows that you are paying attention to the words of the interlocutor and want to know more. Finally, just don't interrupt.
7. Focus on the other person
Avoid talking about yourself and start asking questions about the other person. Best questions to include in an interview:
- What position do you hold in the company?
- What attracted you to the company?
- What do you like most about working for the company?
Remember a few more important ones to get an insight into your potential employer, and these questions will help the interviewer talk about himself, and people like to talk about themselves.
