Sometimes we realize that we are thoroughly stuck, that the life that we have is definitely not to our liking. There can be many reasons for this: our relationships can fail, the work we do can get boring, the people we have to deal with can become disgusting, and it can also happen that the thought flashes in the brain like a match that everything that is around - this is far from what we really need.

But regardless of the reasons that prompt you to change, you can start all over again, having previously clarified everything and determined for yourself guidelines and a plan for changing yourself and your life. I sincerely hope that these 15 steps help you start a new life and change yourself.

Step 1. Determine the direction of movement and your motivation.

Your life is always a movement towards a certain goal, regardless of whether you are aware of this goal or not. Your former life, which does not suit you, could be subordinated to someone else's false goal, which contradicted your inner nature, your nature, your desires and your values. For example, you were in a relationship that you didn't really want, or got a job that you were disgusted with, or talked to people who turned out to be complete strangers to you.

Now you can determine for yourself which trajectory you should move on, now you yourself are the master of your life path. Use the right motivation. Start from "Where am I going?" and not from "Why am I running?". Running away from something is not a useful motivation. Avoiding bad feelings does not solve real problems. Emotions tend to follow you wherever you go. Therefore, you will have to deal with them before you start a truly new life.

How to develop a life strategy

Step 2: Release yourself from the burden of loss or defeat.

Often, serious life events push us to start all over again. Divorce, separation, collapse of career plans, ruin of a business, job loss, health status. All this leaves a serious emotional imprint and can be a source of constant stress, worries, anxiety or even depression. You need to understand that making serious decisions with such baggage is a very dangerous business.

If a life event made you experience deep and strong emotions, then it takes time for everything to calm down. This gap can be reduced if you work through your experiences with the help of within one or more sessions.

Step 3. Explore your life

For the success of your enterprise at the beginning of a new life, it is not enough just to know where you need to move. It is also important to clearly know and clearly understand where you are starting from. Imagine that you are about to make a powerful jump into the water, but you are jumping from a very slippery bank. You spend your strength and energy on a powerful jump, but at the decisive moment you slip and everything goes down the drain.

To prevent this from happening in your story, study your past life (it will also be useful to go through rapid test "Life Analysis"), write down on paper and examine your habits, your past patterns of behavior in different life situations (for example, how you cope with difficulties or react to unexpected opportunities; how much you manage to follow your decisions, etc.).

Surely in the process of studying your past life and your behavior, you will notice a lot of things that you would not like to notice, which will cause you rejection and internal resistance. But this is exactly what you should pay attention to in the first place.

“The darkness of low truths is dearer to us than the uplifting deception,” said Alexander Sergeevich Pushkin. What is "low truth"?

They are what you know about yourself, but what to know, and even more so to hear from others, is unpleasant. What you drive from yourself. Things that require thinking make you feel uncomfortable. And in general - to grow. Uplifting deception does not promote growth. Ryaba the Hen is a film about low truths. I think that's why a lot of people don't get it.

Why wasn't Chaadaev accepted, why was he declared insane? Others even today categorically deny it. Although he was largely right. But he talked about "lower truths" that caused a feeling of discomfort, which was not customary to talk about. No one has yet been put in a lunatic asylum for "elevating deceit." And for the "low truths" suffered enough. As a rule, it is for them.

And this is not only in Russia - no one in the world needs a frightening truth. It needs to be hidden. So that few know it and do not allow others to see it ..

Konchalovsky A., Low Truths, M., "Collection" Top Secret ", 1999

Step 4. Examine your values

Before making big and serious decisions about what your new life will be, you should analyze your own life values. If you know what is most important to you, then based on your values, it will be easier for you to make the right decisions about how to start a new life and change yourself.

Take a sheet of paper and write down on it everything that you believe in, everything that you consider the main and important in life, in relationships between people, what things make you think deeply or inspire. Look at what you do in life, what you like to do and ask yourself a simple question: “Why?”, “What is it for?”. The answers you receive can reveal completely unexpected facets of your personality.

You can also look at a few people (these may be living and familiar people, famous personalities or historical characters) that you admire and ask yourself: what do I respect most about them? Why? How can this play out in my own life?

Step 5: Decide what big changes you want to make

For some people, starting a “new life” may mean a major change: moving to another city or country, a complete renewal of social ties, a change in professional field, etc. For others, it may mean small but significant changes, such as liberation away from old habits or behaviors and focus on developing new lifestyles. Regardless of your desire, make sure you are clear about how big a change you want to make.

Find out what needs to change in your life. For example, is there something that makes you unhappy or dissatisfied? Or can you decide to change every aspect of my life for me, or would it make more sense to focus on one or two areas? Remember that change (especially when done without outside support) is always difficult, so start small and work your way up to be successful.

Step 6. Create an image of your new future

Do one useful exercise that will help you figure out what goals and objectives to set for yourself and what changes need to be made. In addition, it will give you the necessary motivation and strengthen your intention to change.

Imagine a certain moment in the future. Let this moment have the exact date and time. Imagine that in this future, you have received the magical power to achieve all your hopes and dreams. You are exactly who you want to be.

Imagine it in as much detail as possible. Who surrounds you? Where do you live? What are you doing? What does it look like? Include as many details as possible to create the clearest possible image. One of my clients imagined that he was a successful designer, he had his own studio, interesting orders came to him from all over the world and he traveled a lot to other countries, doing interesting and amazing things (in reality, after a couple of years he really founded his studio and became receive foreign orders).

Now think about your strengths, abilities and skills that are needed to make this vision of the future a reality. What do you already have? What areas need improvement? Be honest with yourself. For example, if you want to be a famous musician, then perhaps you already have musical ability, or at least a love for music. You will also need a stronger mindset to work on improvements.

Using your imagination to create an image of the future, make that image achievable and positive. Obviously, you cannot become a superhero or the owner of any superpowers and super-powers. Here you better think about what attracts you to such a superhero. His desire for justice and defense of the weak? Then you can choose for yourself a profession that contributes to the fulfillment of this mission. Or do you like the ability to make quick and accurate decisions? Then imagine how you should train your thinking to reach that level.

Step 7. Set clear and specific goals

The famous sage Lao Tzu said: a journey of a thousand miles begins with one step. And your journey into a new life must also begin with concrete steps. Setting clear personal goals will help you move forward confidently and stay on course to build a new life.

Think about where you see yourself in 6 months, a year, 3 years, 5 years, 10 years, 20 years, 30 years or more.

Set your goals. Make sure they are well-defined goals, that is, they are specific, measurable, achievable, relevant, and have clear deadlines.

Start by defining your big goal and then break it down into smaller ones. Then break smaller goals into tasks.

For example, if you decide that you want to find your own business and make it a source of your income, this is your overall goal. To achieve it, you will need to achieve smaller goals. For example, the first thing you should do is contact a professional who will help you find the case that suits your purpose (for my clients, this service is included in the program «» ), then you need to draw up a marketing plan and conduct a study of the target audience. Examples of tasks here can be: creating a test product, researching people's needs and their willingness to use this product, studying competitors and their products, analyzing the market, etc. You can split these tasks even further, for example, set yourself the task of communicating with potential customers or going to places where products are sold (services are provided) similar to the product that you are going to give.

Step 8: Determine the necessary internal changes

In order for your project of a new life to be successful, you should think carefully about what internal changes you need to make to your own personality. In other words, you need to define who you BE in order to successfully DO what will allow you to HAVE another life.

Let's take a look at what these internal changes can be.

It can be changes in your physical condition. You may decide that you must enter the new life with a new body. You may want to get rid of excess weight or increase your level of physical fitness, get a more athletic and developed body. Do not forget that excess weight depends on 2 main reasons: slagging of the body and a low level of vital activity.

I recommend that you start by increasing your level of physical activity and do so gradually over time (at least 45 days) so that it becomes a habit. You may need the help of a consultant to develop an optimal program and change beliefs and mental attitudes that prevent you from changing your body.

It will be easier with a change in appearance. You can choose your own style or consult with a stylist. Buy new clothes, change your hairstyle. Remember that how you dress and how you look affects how you feel and how others perceive you. Research has proven that when you dress in a way that aligns with your goals, you are more likely to achieve them.

Changes in worldview. This is about the well-known expression "You can take the girl out of the village, but you can not take the village out of the girl." If you do not want to be this most notorious "girl", then you have to work hard on how you think and how you perceive the world.

Think about what beliefs the person you want to become should have, how this person should perceive the world, people, events, relationships. What principles and rules should it be guided by. Explore the list of ,to get about a completely new way of looking at the world.

Changing your mindset is not an easy process. Force of habit, old patterns and inertia of thought can form the core of your personality. Within the framework of the program «» we do with clients so that a person can see his true nature and find his real self. After this process, any changes in consciousness with the help of any psychotechnics are much faster and easier.

emotional changes. In order for your new life to be prosperous, you need to learn to let go of your past. This includes the ability to forgive. Forgiveness frees you from the burden of past trauma and pain. You forgive others not for them, but for yourself. Research shows that forgiveness makes you feel less angry and anxious. Learn to also accept defeats and losses as part of life, pass them through the "sieve" of awareness and let go. And you will feel great relief.

Change your approach to life using the power of gratitude. Learn to thank life for any of its manifestations, remember that difficulties on your life path are trials, not punishments. Accept them as well as all the good things that happen to you.

Research has shown that practicing gratitude makes you feel happier and more content with life; it will help you learn flexibility and adaptability to change; will enhance your physical health and sleep quality, and may help you overcome emotional trauma. Practice the power of gratitude for 5 minutes every day 1 or more times.

Step 9: Rethink your relationship with people

The world is people, and life is relationships between people. It's hard to start a new life if there are "toxic" people in your environment who drag you down. In some cases, it is necessary to "cut" such people out of your life in the interests of your own safety. In other cases, you can simply stop spending time with them, and you will feel happier by removing them from your life.

Interpersonal relationships are critical to your functioning and improvement as a person. Numerous studies show that we strongly influence the people with whom we interact, so when starting a new life, take into it only those people who are important to you and will give you the love and respect that you deserve.

One of my clients, having decided to start a new life and start his own business, faced numerous difficulties, the reasons for which, as it turned out, lay in the fact that his so-called. "friends" were people not inclined to independent actions and taking responsibility. They are accustomed to live a measured, stable and dull life, and communicating with them, my client involuntarily fed those parts of his personality that resisted the risks and dangers of entrepreneurial activity. In practice, this led to the fact that "business did not move." My client needed a serious rethinking of the role of these people in his life in order for the situation to change and his business to begin to grow and develop.

The following anecdote illustrates this situation very well:

The old devil drowns in hell three boilers with sinners. A young imp is sent to him for practice.

Young Devil. Old Devil teaches him:

- So, look - the first boiler. He must be carefully monitored. The Jews are here. If at least one gets out, he will drag all his own behind him ...

Second boiler. Here you can keep an eye on the lid half-heartedly. The Americans are sitting here, it’s every man for himself, one will run away - it’s not scary, he won’t go far anyway.

You can not look at the third boiler at all. The Russians are here. If at least one climbs up, the rest will seize them and put them in the hottest place.

Clear your space of people:

• with whom you feel empty or constantly stressed
• who constantly criticize or judge you. And you feel like you can't do anything right when you're around them.
• who say bad things about you to your face or behind your eyes
• around whom you do not feel safe sharing your hopes, thoughts, needs or feelings.

Eliminating unhealthy social relationships will help you move forward more confidently and many times faster towards a happy and healthy life. Forming a supportive social environment that does not include your past habits is critical to ensuring your success path. Surround yourself with people around whom you will grow as a person and develop towards a new life.

Step 10. Start a New Financial Life

Whether you just graduated from college or have been in the business for 30 years, it is never too early or too late to start your financial life over again. You may want to start saving for meaningful life goals, such as buying a house or a comfortable old age. Or maybe you want to rethink your spending habits to stop wasting money left or right. Or maybe you want to invest. Take a look at your goals and decide how you need to manage your money to get what you need.

Try to get rid of all your debts first. Debts - they are from a former life. They have no place in the new life. One of my clients, after our work with her, got rid of 90% of her debts in less than 6 months. If you have more debt than you can pay, then current legislation allows you to go through personal bankruptcy. Perhaps this will be the right option for you.

Then analyze your finances. Structure your income and expenses, start budgeting. See where you can reduce "leaks" (for example, buying unnecessary things), and where you can get extra money (for example, by selling things that you do not use through the avito.ru service). In any case, keeping a budget will tell you good financial decisions.

Step 11. Talk to people

When you decide to start a new life, talking to people who are already living the life you want can be a very helpful move. This is useful because it can give you an idea of ​​how to get there. For example, if you want to discard boring boring work and do something that you love and that interests you, then you just need to look for those people who have already done business in your favorite business and, for example, take an interview from them, during which ask about their road map. Perhaps one of these people will agree to become your Mentor on the way to a new life.

You can also ask people about difficult moments that may arise in your new life. You may be delusional about a new career, a new relationship, a new business, or a new country. Understanding the smallest details that others will tell you about will allow you to avoid many mistakes and wrong movements.

For example, you may dream of leaving your boring job in Moscow and moving to Bali, where life is paradise. If you interact with people who already live there, you may discover things you don't know about, like how incredibly expensive it is, unfriendly visa policies, health care issues, difficulty engaging in activities that require focus. Of course, this does not mean that you should not move, but this knowledge will help you better adapt to the realities of a new life.

Step 12: Get Support

Starting a new life can be a daunting prospect. Surround yourself with people who love and respect you and who can help and support you on your journey. Knowing that you have sources of emotional support will help you feel much stronger as you face the realities of your new life.

If you do not have family or reliable comrades who can support you, then it makes sense to look for such support elsewhere. This may be support within interest groups or communities or even religious communities. Go where people freely and openly communicate with each other and make new acquaintances.

Step 13: Test Yourself

The big life changes that are needed to start a new life will require serious work, dedication and patience from you. This can be stressful and intimidating. Make sure you are ready for this. How are you feeling? What kind of behavior is acceptable to you? Are you worried about something? Keeping a diary will help you understand your emotions and determine if there are areas where you need more support or need deep work.

The process of serious and profound changes in life can often cause feelings of depression. You may start to feel sad, stop enjoying certain things, feel anxious or guilty, feel empty or hopeless inside. In this case, quickly and painlessly you can help . Work on this technology allows you to eliminate negative emotional sensations during one session.

Step 14: Make the necessary changes

A new life will not mean that difficulties, obstacles and problems will disappear forever. Starting a new career does not mean that you will never again feel unappreciated or uninspired. Moving to a new city or a new country does not mean you will never miss home. When you have problems, acknowledge them as such and do what you need to do to resolve them and adapt to the situation.

You may face a lot of difficulties on your way to a new life. For example, perhaps you wanted to pursue a military career to follow your values ​​of service and honor, but found out you were not healthy enough to go to military school. You could see this as the failure and collapse of your dream, or you could go back to the "drawing board" and see if there are other things you can do that will also allow you to express these core values.

Step 15: Work with a consultant

Even if you don't think anything is going "wrong" in the process of building your new life, it can be helpful to reach out to a counselor or personal trainer, especially when it comes to making major changes. The fact is that such a difficult process as starting a new life and changing oneself can contain a variety of mistakes and hidden obstacles that can only be seen from the outside. A good consultant is able to give you high-quality feedback and save you from wasting time, effort and resources.

Another point is that deep personal changes are always accompanied by stress and internal resistance (self-sabotage). Sometimes they are so strong that they give up and lose all desire to move forward. With the help of a consultant, you can work through and get rid of internal fears that block changes. A counselor can also help you learn useful ways of thinking and responding to challenges.

Seeking a counselor is a sure sign that you love yourself and take care of yourself enough to get help when it's needed and helpful, and that's good news. A personality change consultant is to you what a dentist is to your teeth: you fix minor problems and complexities before they become catastrophic.

Start a new life today!

After reading this article, you may decide: “OK, this is all great! I will definitely take these recommendations into account and even begin to follow some of them.” But the fact is that the process of change is a systemic process, where everything is clearly connected with each other and each step affects the other. It is important not to make a mistake here.

Do you want to know how to start a new life in which there will be self-realization, high meaning, activity, motivation, strength, leadership, new discoveries, energy, exciting changes, an interesting game, new horizons, pleasure from the moment you live, a clear understanding of your own path, no self-sabotage and insecurity , clarity of intention and action? And at the same time, you will not make gross mistakes and avoid many “pitfalls”, and the path itself will take several months instead of decades.

Then . I will give you a solution!

You can't change your life overnight, but you can change thoughts that will change your life forever!

How do you want to radically change your life, make it rich, interesting and happy. Each of us at least once in our lives thought about it. And what is the result? Success or disappointment? Joy or sadness? How to concentrate your efforts on success and take the path of well-being and peace?

How to start a new life and change yourself right now? Let's look into this, direct our actions and thoughts to a successful result, find mistakes in thinking and try to change the world around us. Ready? Then let's start!

How to change your lifestyle once and for all?

Many psychologists claim that only the thoughts within us give rise to reality! Everything that surrounds us today is a figment of the imagination! Our consciousness "plans tomorrow", programs for good and bad deeds.

You think that nothing can be changed, you complain about the bad people around you, insensitive bosses, naughty children, and so on. But, in this way, you doom yourself to failure in advance, do not want to conquer fears, expel them from your thoughts, look at the world with different eyes, more confident and courageous.

Laziness gives rise to powerlessness, makes you close your eyes to the existing way of life, negatively adjusts your consciousness, plays a bad joke on you. What is missing? Common sense or wise advice?

Yes, you say, talking is one thing, but what practical methods can be applied in order to answer the question with confidence - how to radically change your life for the better and achieve your goals. So, wise advice from scientific sources!

Top 5 life hacks that can change your life!

1. In her practical and theoretical instructions, Louise Hay, a well-known psychologist, said: “The power is within us, and therefore we need to change our thinking, and the environment will adjust to the inner reality!”. These wise words can change everything, your intention changes everything.
2. The second rule is that strong motivation is needed in order for the desired to become a reality. Many video sources about working with the subconscious carry information that the Universal Kitchen is able to accept any order, you just need to formulate it correctly and give a powerful message that can change everything around.
3. The third rule is positive thinking, it is important to look at the world differently, answer the question for yourself - what is wrong, what is the problem, find the root of evil, and try to make every effort to eradicate negative thoughts. You say: no money, no car, no housing, you have already programmed yourself to fail, the Universe hears only the word "NO".
4. The fourth rule is to learn how to plan your life, not to leave everything to chance. Only you must be the master of your position and not lose the reins of power even for a moment.
5. Feel happy, visualize the picture, when everything is fine with you, you have achieved what you wanted, received a lot of positive impressions, let these thoughts firmly sit in your head in order to begin the process of correcting reality.

Attention: it is important to take the first step, not to give up and not give up, go to the end, overcome possible obstacles and be inspired by the thought that all this will lead to a new, long-awaited, happy life!

Let your ideas and actions radically change your thinking, give you a happy personal, family, professional life, in a matter of days, months, lead to confidence and fearlessness in the future!

How to find the strength in yourself to change your life for the better?

Why do we always endure to the last, and do not dare to take a radical step into the unknown, why we consider ourselves losers in advance, do not change our way of thinking, and yet everything can be different ... with or without you.

Maybe you should force yourself to become better, change your attitude to life, turn to your subconscious and conquer your own fears. What are we afraid of? How many days and nights you can change everything back, renounce painful memories and stop living in the past.

You need to look around, decide what pulls you into the abyss, what does not allow you to rise above your fears. If these are the people around you, then it's time to change them to those who love and appreciate you, support you in all your endeavors, and do not complain about your shortcomings.

Important! To be happy, you need to start appreciating what you have. Yes, you do not own a mansion in Monaco, but you have a house or an apartment that hundreds of thousands of people dream about, wandering around rented dwellings.

You need to live in the present, stop for a moment and realize what can now make you successful and prosperous (people, circumstances, knowledge, material aspects, wise instructions from your spiritual father).

If you notice small pleasures every day (a cup of invigorating coffee, the touch of a loving person’s hand, the purring of a kitten), then soon you will feel how much more beautiful ordinary life becomes, consciousness changes, laziness disappears, a desire appears to do something more, both for yourself and For others!

It is not for nothing that psychologists confidently say one thing - positive instructions and meditations make thinking bright and outstanding, and as a result, actions become bold and decisive!

There are 365 days in a year, take and plan this time for weeks, months, decades, half-years, set small and global goals, take full responsibility for your life and go forward with your head held high!

The story of one life!

“She lived and did not know what would happen tomorrow, her husband completely took control of her actions and even thoughts. Protected from what he loved, forced to quit his job, did not give the opportunity to give birth to a child, because, as he put it: "Children are not included in my plans." And she endured everything, and there were no more tears to cry over her miserable life.

And so, one day she had a dream, their unborn baby, who said: “Mommy, I want you to be happy and give birth to my brother and sister!”. The woman sobbed until the morning, and then decided to firmly leave her husband.

Of course, the faithful did not approve of this act, he got angry, shouted, waved his fists, but his thinking had already been reprogrammed and launched to implement new, cardinal plans.

Hope (our heroine) is gone. At first it was hard, her husband left her penniless, all her friends turned away, because the ex-husband forbade them to communicate with her. The woman found the strength to get up, did various jobs, traded in the market, washed the floors in the entrance, where she was given a small room, barely made ends meet.

Strength, assertiveness and desire helped her defeat all the evil that surrounded her. Over time, Nadia found a good job in her specialty, rented a cozy apartment with decent living conditions, and after a while she met the one with whom she is happy to this day, raising her long-awaited children - a son and a daughter.

Life is beautiful, and no matter how evil it is, you need to thank the Higher powers for the opportunity to be on this earth, enjoy its gifts and not give up, no matter what happens! Forgive the offenders and love yourself truly, listen to the wise instructions of the experienced and learn from your own and others' mistakes! Drawing conclusions from mistakes will become a springboard for inevitable success.

How to change your life in a short time?

Any business needs to start with planning, this is a special step-by-step instruction that will help you not to forget something important and basic. It is best to take a notebook and a pen, and fix all your thoughts on paper.

To make it easier to plan, use the following table:

Target	What's stopping you?	What will help?	What is it for?
I want to go in for sports, do morning runs.	Need to get up early.	Special Literature.	Improve health.
	Change the diet, make it right and healthy.	Educational video.	Get rid of osteochondrosis and related symptoms.
	You need to get rid of bad habits.	Advice from a trainer and nutritionist.	Lose a few pounds.
	I won't be able to watch the morning series and stuff.	Support of relatives and friends.	Become a role model!

Such a program works, because you actually see that you are being pulled down and that it does not allow you to achieve what you want. When there are changes in life, there is no place for a bad mood and depression, the main thing is not to stop there, use meditation to improve the quality of your life!

Positive affirmations can turn your world upside down, and in order to master the art of meditation, you need to consciously take the right path, cast aside all the bad, take control of yourself and your life. For clarity, you can view a fragment of Elena Gorbacheva's webinar on how to improve your life in all directions!

Important: the documentary film "The Secret" will be able to answer many of your questions that will arise after the decision to radically change your life. Let this film become your support and support for the first time!

How to change consciousness?

Is it possible to manipulate consciousness in order to set thinking on a positive wave and improve the way of life? Where to start? First you need to change the picture of thought in your worldview, conduct a number of useful meditations that can affect the cognitive sphere of a person.

You may need the help of a psychologist to reprogram an unsuccessful life script, but if you yourself are able to improve your life, then go for it. Top 5 legal ways to eradicate bad thinking:

• vivid visualization - a representation of the desired reality;
• correct meditation is to speak in the present tense, not to use the particle “no” (for example, I want to be healthy, and not - I don’t want to get sick!);
• learn how to enter a state of trance, yoga lessons will help with this;
• thank the Universe for the gifts received;
• do not give up, even if at first nothing works out, you need to discard negative thoughts and create a positive image of reality.

When reprogramming your thinking, you should not be distracted by secondary factors, and various circumstances, people with negative thoughts, wrong meditations, and so on can injure the core of your essence.

Each person up to 12 years old receives a set of standard ideas about the world, creates his own way of life, realizes what is bad and what is good. Sometimes these are false beliefs, and they have nothing to do with your worldview. So that's why you need to stop and look at the world with different (your) eyes!

There is nothing difficult in changing our consciousness, only laziness and indecision prevent us from taking a responsible step into a better future. Meditate every day, say to yourself: “My life is beautiful and perfect, my thoughts are pure and open. The Universe protects me and protects me from all troubles!”

Problems in the professional sphere - how to eliminate them and improve life?

Answer the questions in front of you - what exactly does not suit you at your previous place of work, salary, attitude of the boss, colleagues, subordinates, kind of active and so on. Tell yourself, now I am changing the rules and making my life bright, financially stable, interesting and happy.

1. Talk to your boss about salary, is there a chance to get a bonus or promotion? Direct your efforts to the maximum return in order to become an indispensable employee, then the boss will definitely have no doubts about the salary increase!
2. If colleagues are unpleasant for you, then stop wasting your time and emotions on them, ignore them, look for a smarter and more adequate team where you will be respected and appreciated for your efforts.
3. Field of activity is not suitable? So what are you doing here! The richest people made their fortune not at work, but by pursuing a desired hobby that brought them success, fame and material wealth.

If there are no visible problems, but you invented them for yourself, then you are still deprived of something, try to spend your free time with benefit, read more, develop yourself, discover the spiritual world, do charity work, find like-minded people and completely change not only your life, but also the world around you!

Top 10 life hacks from those who have already managed to change their lives for the better once and for all!

1. Need to get out of your comfort zone more often– every day to perform such actions that frighten, are contradictory and unusual. Try to do opposite things - like to argue - keep silent, wake up late - get up early tomorrow, change the route of work, put on bright makeup and so on.
2. Give your brain one task, and do not scatter energy over trifles, do one important thing, and do not grab onto several at once.
3. Ask yourself what will happen in 5 years if I don't change anything now? Are you satisfied with this answer?
4. Write down all the little things, and keep priority tasks in mind, do not deviate from the set course. Visualize, imagine the end result, use meditations correctly that will help change your life for the better.
5. Take a chance do not be afraid of anything, learn from your mistakes, go forward, not stopping there!
6. Do what pleases you and not others! Enjoy small joys, thank the Almighty for care and help!
7. Get rid of unnecessary things, projects, thoughts that inhibit consciousness, stop complaining about life, thereby making it even worse.
8. Ask around, instead of guessing who thinks what, in order to avoid dire consequences. They don't charge for asking!
9. Plan your time and don't take someone else's!
10. Love yourself and your life, create warmth and comfort, try to realize yourself in your favorite business and then success will be guaranteed!

Have you been able to realize what to do when everything around is bad and bleak. Or maybe you have been experiencing this state for many years and do not know what you want? Even if your ideas cannot drastically change your family, professional, personal life, then you should not be upset, the process of self-awareness has already been launched and there is no turning back.

Correct meditations can change thinking, improve the quality of thought, overcome inner stiffness and fear, remove laziness and passivity, give independence, infinity and faith in a beautiful future!

Conclusion!

Now you know for sure that you can do anything if you really want to! The power within you can transform your thinking, get rid of laziness and a negative attitude. Be kind, polite, purposeful, so that no one can lead you astray.

Joy to you and the fulfillment of all innermost desires!

There are so many wonderful women around who are: smart, and beautiful, and an athlete, and a Komsomol member. Women who raised their children, created their own wonderful hearth, learned to live in a happy partnership or in proud loneliness, and finally found an idea for their own development and ... were terrified of their own unprecedented courage! What if I can't? What if I'm not successful? What if I'm convicted?

The state resembles adolescence, when strength appeared and a burning desire to jump out from under the parental wing into the open, and there was not enough spirit for all the madness. Previously, all the energy and strength went to the children and husband, and she always knew how to and how to do it right. And now it’s so awkward and scary to stand at a crossroads, not to understand, not to be able, not to know, to knock, completely unaware of what awaits there behind the new door. You open the Internet, and there everyone knows everything for a long time, they are moving forward, you are still alone at home. And you are already so many years old, is it worth it to start?

And then mom keeps saying that you need to earn money for your old age, dad demands decisive action, your husband watches your suffering incomprehensibly, and your friends shrug their shoulders in surprise, sticking the diagnosis: “he’s mad with fat.”

What to do? 1. Calm down. You are not alone with your fears. Each of us goes through similar stages, each goes through doubt, insecurity and fear, some more, some less. Even those who, as you think, know everything, can, can.

3. "This too shall pass!" - eternal wisdom. Once upon a time, a painful adolescence passed, family crises and a crisis of 40 years were successfully passed. And this fear is not endless.

4. Remember everything! Write a list of things that you can be proud of in your life, starting with the fact that it was this combination of genes that once won natural selection, and you were born! A list of your skills, talents, unique features, catchphrases, cities you have visited, everything that made you happy and amused. All this will become your support, revive memories, help straighten your shoulders.

5. Try to find the phrases to which you react painfully, disassemble them into words and letters, try to understand why they hurt so much, what pain they carry in themselves and what they want to talk about.

6. Learn the art of small steps. Take at least one more step today than you did yesterday. Don't look too far ahead. Everything takes time and planning.

7. Don't be afraid to be imperfect. Make your own mistakes, celebrate them, learn from them, and try again. You have probably already accomplished a lot in your life that will forever remain your personal victory! For everyone, you have long become an ideal, it's time to believe in yourself!

8. Find new hobbies, new directions, develop new talents and skills. And it does not matter that someone knows better and has already reached some heights. Enjoy the process, enjoy every minute spent with pleasure! Happy to be yourself! To experience this state is the main thing to which you can devote your life!

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• • THIS IS A DESCRIPTION OF THE CHARACTER OF THE "UNHAPPY" PERSON

    Its 2 main problems: 1) chronic dissatisfaction of needs, 2) the inability to direct his anger outward, restraining him, and with it restraining all warm feelings, every year makes him more and more desperate: no matter what he does, it does not get better, on the contrary, only worse. The reason is that he does a lot, but not that. If nothing is done, then, over time, either the person will “burn out at work”, loading himself more and more - until he is completely exhausted; or his own Self will be emptied and impoverished, unbearable self-hatred will appear, a refusal to take care of oneself, in the long term - even self-hygiene. A person becomes like a house from which the bailiffs took out the furniture. Against the background of hopelessness, despair and exhaustion , energy even for thinking. Complete loss of the ability to love. He wants to live, but begins to die: sleep is disturbed, metabolism is disturbed ... It is difficult to understand what he lacks precisely because we are not talking about the deprivation of possession of someone or something.

    On the contrary, he has the possession of deprivation, and he is not able to understand what he is deprived of. Lost is his own I. It is unbearably painful and empty for him: and he cannot even put it into words. This is neurotic depression.. Everything can be prevented, not brought to such a result.If you recognize yourself in the description and want to change something, you urgently need to learn two things: 1. Learn the following text by heart and repeat it all the time until you learn to use the results of these new beliefs:

    • I am entitled to needs. I am, and I am me.
    • I have the right to need and satisfy needs.
    • I have the right to ask for satisfaction, the right to get what I need.
    • I have the right to crave love and love others.
    • I have the right to a decent organization of life.
    • I have the right to express dissatisfaction.
    • I have a right to regret and sympathy.
    • ... by birthright.
    • I may get rejected. I can be alone.
    • I'll take care of myself anyway.

    I want to draw the attention of my readers to the fact that the task of "learning the text" is not an end in itself. Auto-training by itself will not give any sustainable results. It is important to live each phrase, to feel it, to find its confirmation in life. It is important that a person wants to believe that the world can be arranged somehow differently, and not just the way he used to imagine it to himself. That it depends on him, on his ideas about the world and about himself in this world, how he will live this life. And these phrases are just an occasion for reflection, reflection and search for one's own, new "truths".

    2. Learn to direct aggression to the one to whom it is actually addressed.

    …then it will be possible to experience and express warm feelings to people. Realize that anger is not destructive and can be presented.

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    Psychosomatic diseases (it will be more correct) are those disorders in our body, which are based on psychological causes. psychological causes are our reactions to traumatic (difficult) life events, our thoughts, feelings, emotions that do not find timely, correct expression for a particular person.

    Mental defenses work, we forget about this event after a while, and sometimes instantly, but the body and the unconscious part of the psyche remember everything and send us signals in the form of disorders and diseases

    Sometimes the call can be to respond to some events from the past, to bring “buried” feelings out, or the symptom simply symbolizes what we forbid ourselves.

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    The negative impact of stress on the human body, and especially distress, is enormous. Stress and the likelihood of developing diseases are closely related. Suffice it to say that stress can reduce immunity by about 70%. Obviously, such a decrease in immunity can result in anything. And it’s also good if it’s just colds, but what if it’s cancer or asthma, the treatment of which is already extremely difficult?

Wise people teach us how to live in order to be happy. Despite the fact that there are thousands of aphorisms on this topic, the essence of all words boils down to the fact that a person must make decisions for his life himself. For wrong decisions he bitterly pays, for the right decisions he receives awards and privileges. It would seem that everything is very simple. The only question is: why then do people not choose to be happy, not to decide to change their lives for the better? If it's that simple, why do most people on earth today suffer for most of their lives?

Aphorism: Listen to everyone, listen to a few, decide for yourself.

Rethinking: It comes from the meaning of this “smart” aphorism that any person has the opportunity to make a decision in his life, and only his decision will be correct, since, in theory, he should understand himself better.

But here's why it's actually quite different. As young children, the vast majority of people do not understand what they like and what they don't. Yes, parents give them to different circles, to sports, to dancing, to music. But children are often too lazy to study there. Or is not their desire, but the desire of their parents, therefore it does not bring them true pleasure. Then the children grow up, go to school, learn lessons. To say that they all like it is an understatement. Maybe they like certain subjects, especially if they are taught by good teachers.

Even excellent students rarely understand why they actually study so hard. When it comes time to leave school and go into life, rarely anyone can decide for himself what profession to choose, who to be and what to become. Of course, school graduates are forced to make a decision: parents or circumstances, but who said that their choice is correct? Years pass, and a person at 30, 40 and 50 years old often does not understand how it happened that he does what he does.

If you ask any average person today why he became the way he is, we will very rarely meet one who will say, “I knew exactly who to become. And he knew the way, how to get to this goal. And so I decided to change my life in this direction.”

The same applies to personal life. How many years the human race exists, so many years and quarrels between a man and a woman. Even in the most loving couples, in the heat of a quarrel, a man and a woman tend to reproach a partner, take offense, shout “how many years have you ruined me” or “you have no conscience”, and at the same time tear your hair in your soul: “where did my eyes look when did the relationship with this/this one begin?
Why is it so hard for me to make a decision in life, to change my life for the better?

The problem of modern people is that the opinion is constantly being imposed on us that we ourselves must decide what we should do, who we should be. It seems that we ourselves should make this choice, but there are a lot of “buts”. There are professions that give a person a status in society, and there are those where you can earn a lot of money. There are those places where our friends went to study, and those where mom or dad once did not go, and now they want us to go there. They want to be realized through us. On TV they talk about what is cool, in the newspapers they write about what is in demand. And what do I want?

Each person has a certain set of properties and desires, and this set depends on his vector set. As much as we would like to be different and stand out from the crowd, in fact, our reactions to external situations are quite typical. They are foreseeable and obvious to those who are engaged in the system-vector psychology of Yuri Burlan. This does not impose any stereotypes at all, it makes it possible to distinguish an imposed desire from one that is inherent in man by nature.

In addition to choosing a profession, systemic knowledge simply helps in life, with the choice of a partner, friends, and so on. For example, when creating a couple, people with a skin vector have a sexual desire only for anal or urethral people, but they are absolutely not interested in a skin person of the opposite sex. Visual people are drawn to spectators and sound people, and people without these vectors seem to them too stupid and narrow-minded. Etc. It is impossible in practice to see pairs between people who are absolutely opposite in their properties.

Your favorite profession is also quite easy to find if you know your vectors. For example, people with an anal vector are often pushed into leadership positions, as they are the best students at school, they always “give hope”. However, they often feel uncomfortable in these positions, uncomfortable, not at ease.

Change is inevitable because it is one of the conditions for our development. Since birth, they have been waiting for us everywhere. And despite this, many try to avoid change, resist it, fear it. Such fears hinder our development, do not allow us to move forward, plunge us into routine, and can even lead to apathy and depression. As practice shows, successful people are not afraid of changes and allow them into their lives. And if you want, anyone can learn it. It happens that it is only important to take the first step, and you yourself will be able to notice how gradually you cease to be afraid of change.

What changes are the most scary?

• Marriage / marriage;
• job change;
• moving to a new place of residence;
• school change (many teenagers have a hard time going through this moment);
• making a decision about the birth of a child;
• the decision to go to study, acquire new skills;
• make an important purchase;
• decide on personal changes (acquire / eradicate certain habits, character traits);
• change in appearance (we are not talking about plastic surgery, even minor changes in appearance and style of clothing are not easy for many to decide);
• get a pet;
• change the surrounding space, in particular, the furnishings of the house (make repairs, general cleaning, change furniture, get rid of unnecessary things).

These are examples of fairly global changes in life. But there are also smaller, everyday changes (revision of the schedule of sleep and wakefulness, diet, choice of other medicines, etc.), which many also do not dare to make.

Why are we afraid of change?

We are afraid of losing what we have now. Especially if we are more or less happy with it. And the more effort is invested in what we have achieved and have, the more difficult it is to change the existing situation.

Many are afraid of change due to personal characteristics. Timidity, inertia, a tendency to conservatism contribute to this.

Changes in life are associated, as a rule, with the fact that a person will have to change himself. On a subconscious level, this can be scary. After all, not many are ready to change. Stepping out of your comfort zone is always difficult and stressful.

Sometimes we are afraid that after some decisions or actions that we make, others will treat us differently. We may worry that we will not be understood, treated worse or envious. In reality, however, it is often the other way around.

Resistance to change can be related to upbringing. If the parents showed similar behavior, then the child in the future may also follow their example.

Positive sides of change

How useful are changes and what do they give us?

• A new experience - as they say, "if you don't try, you won't know." Any experience is always useful, and it will stay with you.
• The influx of energy. When something changes in your life, you begin to act more actively, plan something, find out, find something.
• An opportunity to shake things up. Change is usually associated with new emotions and feelings.
• Change life for the better. This is an opportunity to do what you have long dreamed of.
• Opportunity to see, learn something new.
• The ability to change your personality.

Top 10: how to stop being afraid of change?

1. Remember what changes in your life you experienced earlier, because they were in any case! What feelings did you experience? What did you get as a result? After answering these questions for yourself, you will probably feel that you do not regret the changes you have experienced and that you should not be afraid of them at all.
2. Accept the changes that are about to happen as a given, as an inevitable stage in your development. Admit to yourself: you want to move forward and do not want to get stuck in a routine.
3. If it is difficult to decide on drastic changes, start with small ones, as a result of which you will not lose anything. For example, choose a different way of behavior or style of communication, change something in appearance or style of clothing, go to some interesting event or take on a new job. Say to yourself: "We must try!" and try. In this case, there is always the opportunity to return everything to its original place. Is that just what you want?
4. You have to get used to change. Make a change plan. For example, for a month. Write a list of what you want to change in the near future (in yourself and in the environment), and what must happen inevitably. Put a time frame next to each change by which it needs to be implemented. Write what resources and means you have for each change (what will help you decide to change). These can be your knowledge, skills, a strong desire to achieve something, a positive attitude, faith in your strengths, experience, time, etc. And be sure to note what you will get when each change (result) is implemented.
5. When in doubt about whether to change something, try to draw on paper all the "pros" and "cons" of leaving everything as it is now, and the "pros" and "cons" of if a change occurs. What outweighs in the end?
6. Try to treat changes philosophically: if they are coming, then this is necessary for some reason, and you are ready for them. This is a chance to get a new experience that fate gives you.
7. Always associate change with gain, not with the risk of losing something.
8. Don't think about what you don't want. Train yourself to think about what you want. Try to think more often in a positive way, without the “not” particle. After all, often, fearing change, we try to run away from something, saying to ourselves: “I don’t want to…”, “I can’t…”, “I shouldn’t (shouldn’t)…”, “I can’t cope…”, “ I won’t succeed ... ”, etc. To begin with, just think in a calm atmosphere about your desires and continue the phrase:“ I want ... ”Speak until they run out, you can even make a list. This is useful to do to excite internal energy. And often say to yourself: “I can”, “I can handle it”, “I will achieve it”. Otherwise it can not be!
9. Try to behave in a somewhat unusual way on one of the days, practice something new. For example, go somewhere you haven't been before, try a new dish or drink, read a book you don't know, attend an event. Note the emotions you experienced.
10. Chat more and make new friends. You can even start with communication in the service sector: ask more about products in the store, communicate with waiters in a cafe, on forums on the Internet, etc. When you are more open to new contacts, the right people will meet you.

Of course, ceasing to be afraid of change does not mean turning everything upside down and embarking on drastic changes right away. Stability is also essential. The main thing is not to run away from the inevitable, not to be afraid to change what you want to change, grow and develop!