Good afternoon, dear readers! How well do you know yourself? If you are asked to describe yourself, as if from the outside, what would you say? For many people, sooner or later, a period of introspection and self-knowledge begins. But it is not always clear where to start and how to do everything right so as not to drown in a sea of psychological information and not make things worse for yourself. After all, not everything is as easy as it seems at first glance. Today I offer you a simple but convenient plan on how to understand yourself, personality psychology and introspection.
Psychological tests
Usually a person begins to know himself through psychological tests. The point, of course, is not bad, but learning how to interpret test results correctly is not so easy. Psychologists have been teaching this for several years, preparing them for certain results, they are taught to look not only at numbers and indicators, but also at the person himself, at the situation, at the circumstances.
Keep in mind that many of the tests are based on general assumptions and do not take into account your specifics. It is impossible to understand yourself or other people only by passing such tests. If you really want to get an in-depth analysis, then I advise you to contact a psychologist who will draw up a psychological portrait for you.
A person is constantly changing, becoming better, reconsidering his views on life, learning new things. I have not yet met a single person who would remain exactly the same all his life. Personality has the ability to develop. Keep this in mind when doing self-digging.
I bring to your attention the article "". In it you will find a lot of practical and useful tips that will help you figure out where to start, how to do it better and where to go. Do not be afraid and do not rush to everything at once. Be gradual and thorough, then you will definitely succeed.
"I" in relationships
When a person learns to know his essence, then, one way or another, he draws attention to himself in a relationship. And, in general, there is a reassessment of relationships past, present and future. This is important and most of life, so understanding yourself in terms of relationships is extremely important.
It doesn't matter if you are currently in a relationship or not. You still need to analyze this part of your life. Choose a time when no one will distract you, when you can sit quietly and calmly alone with your thoughts.
Sometimes a woman in a relationship gets so carried away that she ceases to be herself. She melts into a man. Familiar? I have several clients who, after a breakup or divorce, were completely lost in life, because, apart from their husband, there was nothing in life. Nothing of his own. This is a catastrophically wrong situation.
Therefore, in a relationship, it is important to understand your desires and dreams, think about your activities, spend time apart. You should not dissolve in a person, no matter how tempting it may seem. Losing yourself next to another person is easy, but then finding it is hard.
Yes, and many men should carefully look at themselves in a relationship. Why does the choice always lean towards girls like this that hurt so much? After all, a happy person who has caught harmony, and relationships develop well. Think about it.
In the article "" you can find interesting thoughts that will tell you what is going wrong and how to fix it all. Remember, there are no hopeless situations.
Work - career
But besides relationships, there is another important issue that should be thoroughly understood. This is your profession and your job. One of my clients has been a secretary since she was a teenager. The work was not particularly dusty, but she constantly felt dissatisfied and annoyed.
After long conversations, it turned out that she did not digest work in the office at all. Of course, she did not run headlong to quit. After all, you have to earn money to live.
The girl approached the question responsibly. She began to figure out what she could do outside the office and still earn enough money. Now she works as a florist, opened a chain of her own flower shops and arranges master classes for beginners.
You can find your calling even in deep middle age. You can verify this by reading the article "". In it, I talk in detail about all sorts of ups and downs associated with a career.
Try to understand whether you like what you do, what processes at work you enjoy, and what annoys and pisses you off. Do not immediately think that the current work is nonsense and you need to change everything in your life.
Be consistent and calm. It is especially important not to make hasty decisions on emotions. No wonder they say - the morning is wiser than the evening.
Interests
In addition to work, there are also hobbies. It is impossible to know yourself without this side of life. It does not happen that a person only goes to work and then watches TV at home. There are always books, going to the movies with friends, bowling or trips out of town.
For self-development, it is very important to do some things outside of work and at home. You can know yourself not only by sitting in a chair and thinking. Doing something new, you will find out your desires, understand what you want and where you are striving.
A friend of mine seems to have tried a million things in her life. And vocals, playing the piano, photography, styling and makeup, camping and rock climbing, charity and helping orphans. What just was not in her life.
She quit some classes quickly enough, without even having studied for a week. Others became a real hobby and, to some extent, have remained to this day. Do not be afraid to look for yourself and find out your hobbies. The more new you experience, the better you will know your essence.
In all this, it is important to maintain harmony. Of course, a person cannot be torn apart and be everywhere. Sometimes it is not so easy to combine work, hobbies, family and friends. Sometimes you have to sacrifice something, make concessions. Here, too, a field for reflection opens up for you. What and why are you willing to give up?
I bring to your attention the article "". From it you will learn how to correctly allocate your time, pay the right amount of attention to all aspects of your life and find inner harmony.
You can get to know yourself with the help of other people. How? Ask your relatives, acquaintances and friends to write you a certain characteristic. Positive and negative qualities. Just make sure you don't get offended by people for the truth that might be revealed to you.
Take the information as new knowledge that will help you become even better and change your life.
Pay attention to your dreams. Sometimes very important and necessary discoveries come to us at night. Learn to remember what you dreamed. To do this, there are a huge number of techniques that you can find on the Internet.
Pay close attention to yourself in anger and when upset. In such states, the most naked truth usually comes out. From the depths of my soul. Therefore, pay attention to those things that make you angry and annoying. Learn to understand your real attitude to what is happening.
Read Barbara Sher's book What to dream about". It can push you to new achievements, which for some reason you were afraid to do before.
Have you ever helped a person understand himself? Do you often have heart-to-heart conversations with loved ones? Are there things you would be afraid to know about yourself?
Feel free to go forward and do not be afraid, you will succeed!
It is necessary to know the people around you, you cannot do without it, especially the leader. But it is even more important to know yourself. It is bad for a person when he suddenly discovers, for example, that he is not as smart as he thought, not as handsome as he would like, not as brave as he thought, etc. Few people manage to keep their cool, painlessly accept unflattering for yourself a new self-esteem. The opposite situation is no better, when a person suddenly finds out; from birth he possessed remarkable inclinations, but he built his life in such a way that he ruined them.
No matter how painfully the late realized need to reevaluate oneself is perceived by people, nevertheless this is the case when better late than never. This is what the data of foreign studies say.
Psychologists found people who considered themselves failures in life and lost perspectives, became pessimists in assessing their own fate, and examined each according to special methods. And what: almost everyone showed inclinations and abilities that they almost did not suspect. People became losers not because they were doomed to this because of some shortcomings. It's just that their life was planned by them themselves, based on personal qualities that actually did not exist. When they were helped to reorient their life goals to actually available opportunities, they were given a cycle of special classes, many of yesterday's losers rediscovered themselves. During a three-month course of individual training, taking into account the newly discovered inclinations, some of them, who had never taken a brush in their hands before, learned to draw, and in such a way that their paintings began to be accepted for exhibitions of works by professional artists. And there is no miracle here, because there are no people who are not capable of anything.
It is very important to know yourself as early as possible so as not to break down, putting an unbearable burden on your shoulders due to ignorance of your own capabilities, or, conversely, not to bury in yourself the abilities that nature has endowed every mentally healthy person.
For those who have not lost interest in themselves, we can formulate the rules of self-knowledge.
Rule one. It must be remembered that our I is quite ambiguous. Experts indicate more than a dozen of its meanings. For example, I - how I seem to myself at the present time. This does not always coincide with what I would like to become, what I would like to appear to people, what I really am, and even more so with what people around me think I am. You can talk about a fantastic I, that is, about what I could become if ... And that's not all I. So, when you are going to understand your I, you need to at least approximately determine which of the many meanings we are talking about.
Of course, the main attention should be paid to what I really am objectively. It is also necessary to know the true ideas of the surrounding people about themselves, because their attitude, willingness to cooperate or conflict with me depends on this. But it does not follow from this that the opinions of others about oneself should be accepted uncritically, as the ultimate truth. It is useful to evaluate critically not only your own ideas about yourself, but also the ideas of others.
Rule two. Human beings have an inherent need for self-respect, to maintain their own relatively high opinion of themselves. The loss of self-esteem entails negative consequences, deprives a person of the ability to clearly manage his behavior in strict accordance with certain goals. We can say that without self-respect, a person ceases to be a person in many ways.
The following statement by V. I. Lenin is instructive in this regard:
“A slave who is aware of his servile position and fights against it is a revolutionary,” he wrote. - A slave who is not aware of his slavery and vegetates in a silent, unconscious and wordless slave life is simply a slave. A slave who salivates when he smugly describes the delights of a slave life and admires a kind and good master is a serf, a boor ”(Poln. sobr. soch. Vol. 16, p. 40).
Such is the power of self-respect: in the same objectively slavish conditions of life, the presence of it makes a person a revolutionary, while a lack or absence pushes him to the bottom of social life.
Rule three. A person who seeks to know himself must constantly remember that the psyche has a very specific property: it seems to displace unpleasant, disturbing experiences from the sphere of consciousness, “forgets” them. Is it good or bad? And then. and other. Well, because it is easy to imagine how the continuous accumulation of unpleasant experiences would end: a person could not withstand psychological overstrain. It’s bad, because the fact that disturbing experiences are weathered out of the psyche interferes with the awareness of the events behind them, an objective assessment of one’s own role in them.
For example, if I feel a sense of shame for an act I committed in relation to another person, but this experience quickly disappears from my memory under the influence of a certain property of the psyche, then I begin to evaluate myself without taking into account this unworthy act. But another person who is hurt by my behavior will remember well that I "already forgot." And my self-esteem without taking into account the opinion of another about me will be incomplete. Hence the rule: disturbing, not very clear experiences, one must try to understand, analyze, in order to correct one's self-esteem based on them.
Rule four. Many things people do without prior thought. If they did not entail any special complications, then, as they say, the incident is over. But when suddenly a rash step leads to unpleasant consequences for himself, a person or other people, he irresistibly strives to justify his act, the inappropriateness of which is obvious to everyone. This is not done intentionally, but subconsciously, to maintain self-respect at the proper level. For example, if for no apparent reason I was rude to a person, for which I was called to account, then I try to retroactively find the reasons for my incontinence so that my behavior looks like quite normal and the only acceptable in this situation. Such self-defence, without sufficient grounds, is opposed to an objective assessment of one's behavior.
But if the rationalization of the motive (as this phenomenon is called in psychology) becomes the rule for a given person, then the contradictions between self-esteem and real behavior will grow and can lead to serious conflicts. Therefore, any event to which you are directly or indirectly related must be evaluated without rationalizing motives so that your participation in the event is not diminished or exaggerated. It is very difficult, painful for self-love, but useful for self-knowledge.
Rule five. When a person is strongly excited, for example, under the influence of an unpleasant conversation with someone, but cannot answer him in the same way, he looks for the so-called "scapegoat" and "discharges", like lightning, into an unsuspecting third person. So, the insult inflicted by a husband on his wife ultimately spills over to the child, whom the mother suddenly begins to scold for no apparent reason. The saleswoman, whose mood has been spoiled by her boss, does exactly the same: she suddenly attacks the first customer she meets. Not only the buyer suffers from this, but also the saleswoman herself, her self-esteem. What is the conclusion from this? An explosion of mood, strong excitement associated with failure, resentment or some other trouble sharply narrow the mind of a person, that is, roughly speaking, make him more stupid than he really is. In this state, few people are able to evaluate their actions, regulate their behavior, taking into account the requirements of self-respect. Therefore, a person who has set himself the goal of self-knowledge should not bring himself to such a state when he actually loses self-control. Once drawn into an emotional outburst, it is extremely difficult to get out of it.
Rule six. Observant people know: if a boy is not indifferent to a girl, then he gives her a lot of trouble (pulls her pigtails, distracts from the lesson, etc.). In psychology, this is explained as follows. The child began to be disturbed by a dull feeling of sympathy for the girl, a feeling, the essence of which he does not yet understand. But he himself just as deafly feels that this is “something bad,” for which neither comrades nor teachers will be praised, guess what it is. Hence the completely contrary to feeling behavior, the opposite reaction.
This doesn't just happen to children. Adults are also not spared from opposite reactions, and only, of course, in relation to the other sex. So, it is easy to see that in the team sycophants do not always openly fawn over the authorities. Some of them are aware that sycophancy is condemned by others, and they themselves do not bring great joy. And then the opposite reaction is formed: the sycophant begins to jump on the boss, remaining a sycophant in his soul and hating himself for this vile quality. What follows from this? Having caught yourself thinking that you are overcome by feelings condemned in the team, you should not try to mask them with the opposite reaction. By this you can mislead someone, but you cannot deceive yourself: this quality will still reveal itself, no matter how carefully you do not hide it. We must try to analyze him, give him a well-deserved assessment, not sparing his pride, and try to overcome this trait of character openly, without playing to the public.
Rule seven. It often prevents a person from knowing himself and the fact that, having some completely unrealized negative qualities, he cannot evaluate them because he does not want to recognize bad qualities. He doesn't like them. Then in his mind these qualities are projected onto other people. Thus, justifying himself, he, as it were, gets rid of bad qualities. Such a deceptive feeling allows you to maintain self-respect, and therefore is not rejected. So, a person who steals where he works understands that he is doing bad things, it worries him, interferes with his peace of mind. And then he projects his inclinations onto other people, begins to believe that everyone around is stealing, which makes him feel better. A false opinion soothes him, acts on his conscience like a drug.
An analogous mechanism is found in nationalist prejudices, when the representatives of one nation attribute tendencies that they condemn and disturb themselves to other nations and nationalities. Knowledge of such human weakness leads to the conclusion that the fact that other people, in my opinion, are “worse than me” or “just like me” does not give the right to self-respect. Moreover, it lulls vigilance, interferes with the objective self-knowledge of a person.
Rule eight. Everyone's life and activity includes a wide variety of events and situations, differing in the degree of difficulties that have to be overcome. There are such events in the course of which the behavior and activity of a person encounters serious difficulties, unusual, previously encountered situations. It is under these conditions that a person receives the most information for self-knowledge. That is why it is necessary to be especially self-critical here.
If under normal conditions many actions are performed. as mentioned above, without conscious reflection and control, it is unacceptable to go with the flow in a difficult situation. As far as a person is psychologically prepared for surprises, so much her self-esteem deserves a high score. Therefore, one must have the ability to continuously be in a state of vigilance in everyday and professional terms. A person who often gets into trouble when situations that are difficult for him suddenly arise should think deeply about his behavior.
Rule nine. Few people suspect what powerful reserves lurk in a person. First of all, this concerns the reserves of physical development, but also mental abilities, if they are constantly exercised, solving more and more complex intellectual problems.
Human possibilities are also unlimited in relation to the improvement of professional skills. A simple example: capable fabric dyeers can distinguish between 40 and 60 shades of black. An experienced grinder is 200 (!) times sharper than an untrained person: he perceives gaps and gaps up to 0.0005 mm, while a non-specialist only up to 0.1 mm.
Great are the possibilities of man in moral perfection, in self-education. It is never too late to start cultivating in yourself such qualities as honesty and truthfulness, a conscientious attitude to work, kindness to other people and exactingness towards yourself. That is why in self-knowledge one cannot focus only on the successes achieved. No matter how big they are, one must always evaluate oneself in terms of those perspectives that are open to a person.
Rule ten. It, unlike the previous nine, applies only to people in positions of power. With other equal natural inclinations, it is more difficult for a leader to evaluate himself than for an ordinary person who is not endowed with the right to give orders and orders to others and demand their strict execution. He is in less favorable conditions in terms of self-knowledge, and there are many reasons for this.
The leader has the right to judge and pardon. It depends on him how rewards and responsibility are distributed in the team. In the case when it is necessary to solve the dilemma “to whom what”, not every official manages to force himself to give “pies” to his subordinate, and to accept “bumps” in his address. More often they do the opposite. Humanly, this can be understood, but cannot be justified. It is much more difficult for a person who has the opportunity to act in this way to soberly evaluate himself. In order not to get into trouble, the leader must learn to take on the failures of the team, dispassionately analyze them in order to find an answer to the question: “Could I, as a leader, insure probable failures in advance?” This means abandoning the principle of "dump truck", that is, the style in which the boss blames the responsibility for a mistake from himself to a subordinate. In this case, the leader has the opportunity for deeper self-knowledge. It is known that pleasant news is reported to their boss with great pleasure, and those that can spoil his mood slow down. Now, of course, not like in ancient times, they don’t chop off their heads for bad news. Nevertheless, human weaknesses remained, however, in the form of a not very dangerous psychological rudiment,
It happens that subordinates sometimes overdo it in their forgivable, it would seem, desire to please their beloved boss. Then the negative information is not just slowed down, but deliberately hidden and does not reach the boss. Accordingly, pleasant news is bulged, embellished and exaggerated. Moreover, sometimes they are fabricated from scratch. Here there is already something to make the manager’s head spin: where is there before an objective assessment of the state of affairs in the trusted area and adjustment of self-esteem?
Rule eleven and last. Again, for the benefit of the leader. Among the subordinates come across different people. Some are good, others not so good, others are bad… You have to work with those who are. But there are such active people in teams that sometimes you want to run away to another job. They without concealment cut the truth-womb in the eyes of those who need it, and especially those who don't need it, strive to climb onto the podium at every opportunity. There is no way to come to the office and say behind a closed door: so, they say, and so, comrade chief, we know you well, we stand behind you like a mountain, we love and appreciate you. But there are some shortcomings due to the fault of such and such comrades. Those comrades would instantly be brought to their senses. How much trouble these truth-seekers cause, how they let down the top management and how badly they act on the team!
Toadies poison truth-seekers - they are offended: they also see everything, but they do not dare to say.
The rule here is this: no matter how much trouble the truth-seeker brings, a smart boss will not let him offend, he will protect smiling saints from attacks. After all, if the team loses such people, stagnation will certainly begin in it over time, general indifference will settle. So take care of restless, uncomfortable truth-seekers, They help to take a sober look at the deeds and actions of people.
This is the last piece of advice for both superiors and their subordinates.
Cognosce te ipsum. . This inscription was written on the wall of the Temple of Apollo at Delphi. It was written by the seven great sages of Ancient Greece. As a result of joint reflections and discussions, they came, in their opinion, to absolute truth.
The ancient Greek philosopher Chilo developed this idea: “Know thyself, and thou shalt know the gods and the universe.” And Hermes Trismegistus said: “What is below is like what is above. And what is above is like what is below.” And if the whole ocean is reflected in a drop from the ocean, then the whole Universe is reflected in a person.
How is this to be understood? And for what purpose did the ancients call on man: ""? The word man - translated from Sanskrit means - "a spirit that passes for centuries."
It is no longer a secret to anyone, physicists have confirmed the fact that a person consists not only of a physical body. There are seven bodies in total. The remaining six bodies are connected with the subtle plane: ethereal, astral, mental, causal, budhic, atmic. The totality of subtle bodies forms the human consciousness. What does it mean, "Know thyself"? This means knowing your bodies. Not only the physical, but the rest are subtle.
Let's remember the phrase from the Bible: "Man is created in the image and likeness of God." What do you think, who is God? Of course, this is not an easy question. And yet - a lot depends on how you actually think. Just think about it... And sincerely answer this question for yourself. For me, for example, God is Love. Comprehensive, Unconditional, Boundless Love. Light, Harmony, Wealth, Abundance, Prosperity, Silence, Tranquility. God loves us all with unconditional love. He loves, forgives, gives us all the blessings of life.
Thus, if a person is created in the image and likeness of God, it means that a person is initially endowed with all the Divine qualities and properties. The most important thing that we must do like God is to give, that is, LOVE other people with unconditional Love, learn to forgive, be patient, show kindness, bring your light and love.
A person must also know himself in order to realize his mission, his destiny, which is the same for everyone - to give in order to be like God in this. And how to give, in what way to seek oneself, this is up to everyone to decide for themselves. And a hint to him from the Universe is the feeling of joy and inspiration that he experiences while doing what he loves.
If a person follows his destiny and reveals his mission, gradually the knowledge of himself will be more complete and deep.
“How can you know yourself? Not contemplation at all, only actions. Try to do your duty and you will immediately know yourself.” I absolutely agree with Goethe's advice. Through actions and through relationships, a person comes to know himself. Through awareness, he understands that he creates his own life, takes responsibility for his life. Without blaming anyone or anything for living the life he deserves with his thoughts and actions. Chooses the position of the creator, not the victim. He understands the world around him as a reflection of himself.
I repeat the ancient Greek wisdom: "and you will know the Universe." Of course, this is work, the work of the soul. I know for myself how difficult it is. Constant internal efforts, constant awareness of the present moment, the development of one's positive spiritual qualities.
The spiritual teacher Sri Sathya Sai Baba teaches: “He who forgets himself cannot truly realize the truth… All those things that you see around you are your reflection, like a reflection in a mirror… If you only understand one small but subtle truth , you will be able to expand the horizons of your thinking and feeling to any limits. There is nothing in the universe but the true "I".
I urge you, friend, know thyself! This knowledge opens up all the possibilities of your own progress, success, happiness, prosperity and love!
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Have you ever thought about who you are? It's not about your life roles. you can beson/daughter, father/mother, husband/wife, employee , but that's justaspects of your life. These roles do not reflect who you really are - your "true self".
The true, inner "I" is made up of the mission, purpose, vision, values, goals and desires, motives, beliefs. From what you "discovered" on your own, and not heard from others who "know exactly what you need." Cognition and discovery of the "inner self" involves a high level of introspection, awareness and self-awareness. For some of us, the journey to ourselves can be the longest path with many obstacles, while others find ourselves in faster and easier ways.
Why is it important to find yourself?
Many of us have never thought about who they really are. And they define themselves based on any of their roles. But when this role exhausts itself (for example, the role of a wife / husband in the event of a divorce or the role of an employee after retirement), a person is “lost” and does not know how to live on.
For example, your central role is "son/daughter". And you act on the basis ofwhat is best for your parents. Parents are the center of your life. You make important life decisions only after the approval of your parents, give up your desires, etc.
However, your inner self is much wider than just being a son or daughter. You may well remain on good terms with your parents, as well as fulfill other important roles in life. But at the same time, it is important to remember about yourself and what exactlyyou are the author and master of your own life. Until you do this, you will continue to live for others, pursuing their goals and living up to their expectations.
There are several ways to get to know yourself:
- Through your past. The willingness to “explore” your past is an important step towards understanding yourself and becoming who you want to be. The atmosphere in which you grew up has a strong influence on your adult life. In order to stop acting on habitual patterns of behavior, it is important to recognize and “see” them. Non-recognition of the past, the desire to hide or forget it, makes you feel lost. By consciously recalling your memories, you will gain insight into some of the motives behind your behavior. And then you can separate your true self from “harmful” and toxic behaviors.
- Through the search for meaning. Finding the meaning of life will help you understand yourself. This is possible only when you separate your point of view from the embodiment of other people's expectations. Ask yourself what are your personal values in life, what is really important for you. Numerous studies have proven that people are generally happier and more “whole” when they have goals in the form of goals based on values and meaning in life.
- Through the realization of desires. Recognizing your desires helps you understand who you are and what is important to you. At first glance, what could be easier than understanding what you want? However, many people close their desires to the castle, afraid to disappoint others, to face difficulties in realizing them, or “submitting” to their inner critic. Self-critical thoughts are usually especially destructive to the "true self". They are the ones who tell you that you are not good enough to get what you want or that you will not be able to achieve your goals. By becoming aware of these thoughts and abandoning them, you will move one step closer to yourself.
- Through awareness of their talents. Within each of us there is a "spark" that needs to be ignited. This can be done by exploring and discovering what you really love and know how to do. When you do something for which you have a natural talent, you connect with yourself on a deep level. It gives you self-confidence that doesn't depend on the approval of others.
How is knowing yourself different from finding yourself?
The above methods help to know oneself, to know one's values, to determine desires and talents. But the life you want begins only when you trulyfind yourself, "connect" with your inner "I". Do you want to embark on the path to true self-discovery?
The life you want begins only when you truly find yourself.
You can “hear” your inner “I” and connect with it when yourealize the Mission of your Soul and begin to live according to the Divine schedule. So, you will enter a state where you control the events in your reality, and not they control you.
Today we will consider with you such a topic as “knowing yourself”. What " know yourself”, who am I, what is the process of cognition and how these things are connected.
Know yourself. Self-knowledge. Who am I?
Different sources interpret this process, in general, it seems. God decided know yourself, created children or created this world in different variations, at different levels, in different combinations, endowed them with their own capabilities, abilities. The human being in this case is like a costume, like an entity, like a person who is connected with God and is, in a sense, his eyes as an instrument of self-knowledge. This is one of the versions of what is happening and why different events, different actions, both good and bad, and interesting, and not very - they are all present, they are all relevant, and everyone relates to himself, to others according to some of his inner criteria, according to some concepts, lives, and this point of view may be different for everyone, they say about it: “How many people, so many opinions”.
In principle, there is a certain life as a tool, as an element that allows know yourself. Some say it's some kind of game. In principle, I really like these concepts, I seriously immersed myself in them, studied them, there is a lot of truth in them. This is the choice of everyone - how to relate to your life, to the process of what happens in this life, to play life and treat self-knowledge as a process of creation, the process of revealing your capabilities - this is quite an exciting activity, and it changes your attitude to what is happening . That is, understanding that everything is God, and you are a part of him and, to some extent, his children, in a sense, his eyes, ears and tools of knowledge, but at the same time individual no less respected and with the same potential, which you just need to see, reveal, manifest, polish on some deeds and work out a range of lessons in which you still don’t know something and what you can manifest further, but you have already learned something and are moving on.
It's like with matches: matches are not toys for children, so parents carefully monitor that children do not run somewhere, do some business, fires, or limit their access to matches, to gas. Those who have children either had or saw, at first, either a walker, or all these corners were smoothed, rolled up, or you just walk all the time so that, God forbid, the child doesn’t get stuck somewhere while it still doesn’t know how to play. Here, approximately the same process of creation or the process of getting to know this world takes place at more adult stages, it’s just that there are other games, other interests, but nevertheless the essence remains the same: we want to know ourselves through manifestations in the outside world, through studying the structure of ourselves , through the study of the concept of who I am in general. And in the same way, this process is observed with us and actively participates somewhere, somewhere not so noticeable, invisibly, the same higher world or God, the so-called manifested, unmanifested - all these concepts that add up to the meaning of God can be used here. calmly, this is just one of the options, one of the interpretations of how we relate to God. “As we treat him, so he treats us,” they say, but in fact not quite. He is patient and merciful, boundless and omnipresent, so he has nowhere to rush, and he watches himself with pleasure, in fact, even through some, in our opinion, painful or unpleasant situations, his capabilities.
If we move away from the concept of cognition through us and joint creative activity with the higher world, look at it from the point of view of individuality, from the point of view of human essence, then nothing changes. According to the “as above, so below” principle, the attitude to those events, to those actions, to the reality in which we live, is a direct consequence of our thinking process, our actions, our attitude towards what we would like to do. . That is, there is your life, this is your reality, you somehow manifest in it, you learn through work, relationships, children, parents, some diseases, some achievements, some goals that you set, some then the stereotypes with which you rush about - through all these points of view, models, or through these elements you look at the world as through a certain set of filters, through a certain set of restrictions somewhere, and somewhere, on the contrary, some kind of magnifying pipes, accelerating processes and, in general, observe and immediately track that result. That is, if that set and those representations, those tools that you have chosen, through which you want to know the world, or, as it seems to you, you immediately ended up in them and did not participate ...
This is not so important, it is not entirely true, but, let's say, at some point you realized that this is reality, I am in it, how did it turn out - it is not clear what to do next? In fact, all the same, previous events formed this point where you found yourself. But even if we assume that this is not so important now, then at the moment you are ready to take an inventory of what is happening around you, inside you, compare these processes, take a point of view on faith, take a point of view as one of the options, try to play with oneself, with an attitude to the world through this creative process of childish spontaneity.
In one of the interesting seminars, such a phrase sounded with the assumption: “What if ... If only.” That is, it reduces some criticality and binding to one of the options, which will be the only way. If you allow yourself to relate to the process - if it were so, then how would you live, how would you relate to this. And this “if only…”, which you like better, and this “if…”, which helps you move, develop, achieve your goals, evolve, expand your boundaries, use with pleasure. It's just a tool. To treat some kind of reality, yours, someone else's or an illusion, as a kind of stable, static picture that is unchanging, unshakable - this is just one of the relationships. “And if it were unchanged ... And if it were changeable ...” Try not to fixate on one point of view “if it’s like this and only like this, nothing else”, but find different “if only ...” and from each angle of view, find differences from each approach, find advantages somewhere, find something that is not very interesting and can be corrected somewhere. And allow yourself in these "if only ..." to know different facets of yourself.
There are certain criteria where you know yourself and where this reality of your knowledge is to some extent your game, to some extent your interest and your direct task and some kind of destination as some kind of milestone on the path that you have planned for yourself in this life and where environment, what is happening suggests that you have gone beyond your game and those approaches to cognition that you once decided to take as the main ones, as a kind of standard of your actions, intentions and some other processes occurring around you, where you turned in the wrong place, they went into someone else's game, but for some reason they got stuck in it.
Let's start as usual with you. If ... I will be understandable words. Vitality, if the mood, expectations are joyful, when will tomorrow start faster, when will new events in which you are already participating begin faster, and you move joyfully with energy, with enthusiasm, with interest, with pleasure in this process of creating events inspiration, and a series of subsequent events involves you, and you have more and more certain plans, thoughts, tasks for the future, you can say that each next step opens up two more new ones and you just choose from that large number of actions those that you have time to do do…
The process of life is not like a commotion, of course, vanity, I manage to do one thing and a lot has piled up. It's not about that. The thing is that you are so interested and you have so many ideas, desires and energy to embody them that you simply choose the most interesting ones. How, I don’t know, they bought fruits, apples, pears and grapes, but everything doesn’t fit, so you choose one or several, and leave the rest for later. And this abundant source, like an allegory of fruits or actions that you can do, it just grows and develops, accompanies this with the acquisition of new knowledge, and reaching some new levels, both professional and personal, and improving the quality of relationships, health, and the movement you're making, it's dynamic. These are some criteria that you play your game, you clearly understand that it is interesting for you and what you have created, what you are participating in, this process of creation that you start with your attitude, thinking and self-organization of your life, it brings you satisfaction, it gives you energy and opens new doors for you, new frontiers, new horizons for further action.
There is an option that at some point you suddenly fit into some other rules, into some other game, start and continue the process that allows know yourself, but not through those natural, light, pleasant sensations, but the other side: through some kind of pain, suffering, negativity, and so on. In principle, this is one and the same process, it just so happened that you chose this process, this lesson, this step of development to go from the back side, from that angle to get involved in it.
Did you go there yourself or circumstances, as many say, contributed to this, the question is not that. The question is that at some point you lost touch, control with your higher self, soul, with your interests, with your true goals and objectives, and a little began to study these lessons, which are close to your interest, but already show the back side. This is also a normal natural process, since you are not the only one playing. Many have chosen to play in just such a negative light and to some extent, as they say, without darkness there would be no light, that is, if there is only light everywhere, why is darkness visible? Yes, because it makes it possible to distinguish one from the other, to choose in which direction you want to move.
And if we talk about the criteria of someone else's reality, other people's games, knowledge in some other ways of yourself not in the ways that you wanted, but in those that were offered to you, it's just like a set of criteria: lack of joy, satisfaction from life, no ideas , what will change if you do this and how satisfied you are with the result. That is, it is a kind of routine, a kind of stagnation, laziness, somewhere heaviness, somewhere tension, somewhere doubts, worries and other internal such sensations or moods, not to say panic, rather, some unsatisfactory ones that do not characterize a high level quality of life. And this process of learning through the game, that is, you seem to be playing, but not by your own rules, not on your own territory, that is, you are playing some kind of game. But this is your choice, that is, at some point, when the mood began to fall, the attitude to what was happening began to change, at the same moment you could stop, think, see what signals inside you and why this attitude is happening, or not. this very moment, but at the moment that you think about why this is happening, why I feel this way, what speaks about it in me, what facets, aspects of myself I learn through this negative process, through these paternal behavior or thinking positively. And you will see that these are the same qualities of creation, these are the same qualities of manifestation, the ability to know yourself, you just decided to get involved in this process and you were offered, you agreed, or you woke up, and the game is already going on around you and you start like watching what others are doing and doing the same.
But in any case, you do it, in any case, you always have the opportunity to refuse to participate in some games that you are tired of or seem uninteresting, and offer your game or, even when playing another game, do not forget that you can always create your own whenever you want. And, in general, those relationships, those interactions in society, in the family, internal reflections - this is this dialogue between illusions and reality, other people's games and their own games, between darkness and light. We can say that this is a kind of polarity of knowledge from different sides of the same truth. At some point, the desire to learn from both sides - it develops into an interest to take a more neutral position and a healthier, or something, position of balance, which does not contribute to rocking you like on a swing, either in plus, or minus, or positive, which euphoria, joy, then negative experience. And at this moment you ask yourself the question: what other tools, and what other ways are there to know yourself and how can you rebuild so that these manifestations are present in your life to a minimum?
This is the so-called attitude to the world, this is the so-called attitude to reality. It is connected both with the level of knowledge, and with the amount of energy, and with those sources that you try on yourself, knowledge or energy, choosing a suit, choosing those qualities that you think can be applied correctly and effectively, and then continue the process of cognition . We chose to behave like this, you start, you will know, but what is it like that. See the results, that is, no problems. If you commit some deed, even not a very good one, you will simply be responsible for its consequences later.
Chose, made, answered, concluded, corrected, moved on. If you didn’t notice, you will fall into this trap a second time. You can walk until your life resource, potential, runs out. This is also your choice, everyone respects it and no one has the right to make claims: why do you live like this, and why do you need it? That is, it is only your inner desire, your inner feelings of what is right in your opinion, and what you would like to do, in what aspects to study this life, this creation.
Returning to the beginning, God looks through you in exactly the same way and somewhere understands that no one has done this interesting moment yet, you can take it into service, broadcast it on some other scale, something is inappropriate, it must be limited in the future by some then situations of manifestation, so as not to do some big, colossal troubles on the entire planet, for example. Therefore, it turns out that knowing yourself is just a choice of the point of view through which you look at this world. You can look through pain, suffering, resentment and fears and see the same thing everywhere and experience them yourself, thereby learning firsthand what it is, and this is also sometimes useful, because, not knowing from the inside, from the outside it seems that this is not, how is it. But this does not mean that you need to linger on this floor, linger in these ideas about yourself as the only possible option for knowing and manifesting creation in your reality, this is just some kind of information that is somehow reflected in your reality.
Looked, liked - please. I didn’t like it, I want to rebuild - choose other areas of life, choose other teachers, teachers, play other games, get to know yourself through something else. Someone likes to argue, swear, humiliate, insult or be insulted and humiliated and thus manipulate in relation to the world, like everyone owes me, because I am so flawed, unhappy. This is also a position, these are also lessons, this is also knowledge, but how such a model of behavior, what it consists of, what results it leads to and how much it generally contributes to your growth.
Or in the same way, having entered, having studied the main components of these, one can call it so, qualities, beliefs, beliefs of human concepts, what it is, get out of them and say: “Yes, I understood this for such and such purposes, for such- then the lessons. It was interesting, and now I have a complete idea, played, got to know myself in this aspect. What other aspects are there? What can be explored further? What other possibilities can there be for me?” And you take all sorts of further vectors of development, climb into them. If you want, go into strength and control, if you want, go into some kind of contemplation and observation. They are just different facets of you.
Knowing yourself. Getting to know yourself
It is clear that a holistic personality, a structure integrated with the higher "I" and evolving - she has a concept of all aspects and not at all lessons she learns through herself, an average degree of awareness and desire to analyze what is happening around you is enough, not between you and someone something else, but observe from the outside in order to draw conclusions: what actions, behavior, thoughts contribute to your interests, your desires, what you would not like to have, and you start even before these processes have taken root in you and began to somehow appear, you begin to get rid of them, replacing them with some other ideas. This is what I call "learning from the mistakes of others", and there is even some deeper meaning in this. Learning from your mistakes or eradicating your shortcomings, minuses is a little more difficult, because, having this minus or some kind of emptiness, unfinished quality, you don’t see it from the outside, because you don’t have it, and treat this process as to natural. And just by looking at how someone else makes mistakes, messes up or misbehaves, but not through your life, through some emotions associated with these actions, but simply by observing, you see a slightly wider picture. The moment you notice it, keep in mind that once you notice it, it means that it lives in you, it just doesn't manifest itself that way, it's not seen that way. Therefore, those situations that you pay attention to and something does not suit you, they are just indicators, beacons and mirrors of what you still need to tweak in yourself, to know these qualities, to disidentify with them or transform them, send them to the appropriate floors. where they serve your purposes and clear out where they have climbed into foreign territory.
There are also levels of perception of reality, when you create with inspiration and create your next, your every day, every minute, being in a state of lightness, joy, harmony, balance and tranquility. It is also just a matter of your choice. It's not about how I chose it and now I'm like this, I'm straining with all my might, demonstrating calmness, although internally everything is seething and going wild. No, the point is that this is a complex process of not one day, not one year. Everyone is different: maybe it will take someone a month, someone two.
One quality, as psychologists say, a habit takes 21 days to form. Stable neurosynaptic connections that are burned in the brain like a kind of path, a well-trodden channel, fixing similar algorithms of actions, thinking - this is a process of about 20, sometimes 40 days - I have seen about such data. If during this time you form some kind of definite attitude in yourself, think about it from different angles, meditate, manifest, discuss, read on this topic, then during this interval your worldview on this issue begins to be corrected in the direction of the one you you model for yourself, if I may say so, what you pay attention to, and the thoughts that you affirm. This is the so-called process of creation and creation precisely by repeated repetition.
If we return to the question of “learning from the mistakes of others”, it is clear that for the most optimal study, some people are needed who you can learn from. Like-minded people, these will be friends, some colleagues, partners in seminars, some Internet users with whom you discuss common topics, that is, this kind of collective joint process of studying one point of view makes it possible to be a little more objective, it seemed would, look at the world, on the other hand, if the points of view are opposite, instead of accelerating, increasing attention to the same question, you will get, on the contrary, games of the polarity from which you were going to climb out. Again, you will see that either so, or differently. Everyone imposes their point of view, and here, again, the choice is yours: if you want to learn a lesson from different angles, but at the same time come to a holistic understanding, then just choose the places, territories, societies, places of residence or places of spending time where you are in to a greater extent will be surrounded by those people who will help or who will be interested in doing the same as you.
And vice versa, if you constantly oppose yourself, your idea of a company that thinks differently, it will only be in some sense a provocation, in some sense a demonstration of some inappropriate demonstration of its supposedly significant ideas, which, as it were, differ from others. But why, what's the point? If you have different currents of view and you can’t comfortably agree, then it’s just that in your realities there are much more different than common. Everyone is satisfied with their own, and this is a natural and correct process, that is, you should not try to shift your problems onto others or retrain those who do not ask you about it. It is not obvious that what you know and can do is useful, necessary for them, or you understand something better than them. Just different points of view, choose those with whom your certain commonality, synchronism, resonance are present for the most part. Then some shortcomings jointly as a common collective effort will be worked out much faster.
And vice versa, if you are trying to study in an environment that does not contribute to your versatility, but only somehow brushes you in your direction, this is also your choice, in general, try, maybe at some point you will understand that there is something interesting in this too. Just don't forget that it's your choice, it's your process of getting to know yourself just as much as it's the process of getting to know them through different facets. That is, together you will learn how relationships of this level lead to what they lead to and what results they produce. You can choose as another level of knowledge to know joy, love, faith and hope in all manifestations, in all your life motives, interests and deeds, actions that you carry out. That is, the very awareness and development of certain spiritual qualities, the development of spirituality and some high morality or ethics of relationships with oneself, relationships with the world, the formation of one’s realities and non-condemnation of some other realities is also a variant of creation, that is, there are several possible scenarios, as you You can know yourself through what points of view and through what views this knowledge can take place.
And how you want and with what attitude, mood you will move on - everything is in your hands. I wish you to continue the process of creation, the process of knowing yourself, to accept yourself in any form and those lessons that suit you, to consider from the point of view of a new interesting experience of learning, to thank for the fact that they have come, and then with the power of thought, intentions to form those further steps that will take place.
How to know yourself - practice
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