Question to the psychologist:

Good afternoon. I do not have any serious problems in my life: a loving young man, a complete family. There is both secondary special education and incomplete higher education. But at the age of 18, a new sphere appeared in my life, in which I still cannot realize myself, until now. I hate work and everything connected with it. I didn’t succeed at any job, and as a result, the need to go to work turned into the worst thing in life. I did well in school, and in college too. But the work somehow went wrong from the very beginning. After completing the first course of ped. college, I decided for the first time in my life to earn some money, got a job as a teacher in a kindergarten for the summer. It is still hard to remember this experience: I cried all the time, I experienced a wild fear of work, such that I wanted to literally climb the wall. Nothing worked out for me, my parents and the manager scolded me, I was very ashamed in front of my parents, it seemed that I simply dishonored them. Once my nose bled from stress. In a quiet hour when the children were sleeping, I roared all the time, without ceasing, I could not stop. When all this was over, I left to study again and decided for myself that work simply did not suit me with small children. A year later, we were sent to practice in a camp for a month. The situation repeated itself. At first I tried, worked, nothing worked, the children did not obey, the management constantly made claims. As a result, I was transferred to the position of a personal educator: the detachment was taken away from me and I just sometimes sat with the children when the rest were at the planning meeting and something like that. At that time, I decided to tell my mother that I was ill and that nothing was working out. She scolded me, began to scream that I really am dumber than everyone!?! And I decided not to tell my parents anything more about my professional failures. After the training, I decided that based on my deplorable experience, I should not work with children at all. But my education was pedagogical and my sister got me a job in medical school. College to teach English. It was relatively calmer, but then something else was added: I didn’t succeed, but they didn’t tell me anything about it, everything was reprimanded behind my back to my sister and then she told me. She was ashamed of me. I felt like an animal driven into a trap, I felt bad, scared, I didn’t know what to do next and how to continue to live. I decided to move from my parents to another city. She left. I found a job there that had nothing to do with children and teaching people in general. But I worked for 3 months and quit. Since I didn’t succeed: I worked in sales, I had to fulfill plans, all my colleagues had a salary of 25-30 thousand, and only I had 9-10, I was a loser, my colleagues laughed at me, they are disrespectful. They treated me, directly asked why I should work here, whether it would be better to leave, my immediate supervisor called me a disabled person. Like I can't do anything. And from constant criticism, I began to forget even what I knew how to do. I began to have a strong excitement, which outwardly did not manifest itself in any way: from the outside I was calm. But there were no thoughts at all in my head, emptiness, and my throat hurt and I could not say anything. These attacks haunt me to this day. When I get really excited, I literally go numb. After that, there were about 5-6 more jobs where everything was repeated, I ran away in tears after two days of work. Then I got a job in a large company as a call center operator. They needed money, and they paid well. But in the end, I was fired under the article for not going to work for two months. There, I also did not fulfill the necessary indicators, the leader scolded me, each time brought me to tears, I cried right in front of him, I no longer had the strength to restrain my emotions. But that didn't stop him. He needed a result. In the end, he asked me to resign. I wrote a statement, I had to work for 10 days, but I could not restrain myself and ran away from the first day of work and did not pick up the phone. She took the job after six months. After this situation, I turned to a psychotherapist. He advised me to change the field, to do what I like. I have been looking for something that will poison me for a long time and finally found it. I was hired as an assistant in the HR department. The first time everything was fine. I got the job done. But after the new year, indicators were introduced that had to be met and on which our salary depended, and everything started again. Only I could not do anything, although I did not sit idle. In the end, they reduced it. She lay at home in tears for six months. Gained strength and decided to look for work again. I found a well paying job. But I couldn’t stand the tense rhythm: every day to distribute staff to facilities, to look for replacements for those who didn’t come out, turned out to be unbearable, and again the indicators that need to be met and again it doesn’t work, I roar constantly, at the end of the weekend, hysterics and tears arose every day at work the desire to get up and leave to end this nightmare. But I kind of learned to hold back. I tried not to be afraid, to work and not think about anything. Breakdowns were constant until she quit. As a result, I am 24 years old, my work experience is terrible, I rarely even get replies to resumes, but the most important thing is that I myself do not know how and what to do. I don’t want this to happen again, I don’t want to work as a cashier or a cleaner at the age of 40. And everything goes to this. Any work causes wild fear, I persuade myself that I can handle it, I keep asking if she understands anything. But as soon as some kind of problem arises, this wild fear again returns from which everything freezes and I slow down, I can’t speak, and I constantly roar. The future scares me. All my peers have been working successfully for a long time. And I am constantly without money without a job, or with a job but in constant stress. I can't even sleep the day before work. I had pains in the left side of my chest with strong excitement and after a roar. I have lost all respect for myself, I try not to talk about work with anyone, for me at the moment this is the most terrible thing. And I don't know what to do. I want, like all normal people, to go to work and get paid, and not shed tears in a working toilet and then sit with a stone face and not understand even elementary things from excitement. I have thoughts of hopelessness, I don’t expect anything good in my life, on the contrary: I keep thinking that I’ll be 30 years old soon, there won’t be any career and most likely I will have to go to a low-paid job like a cleaner and live life in poverty. I'm scared and ashamed of this. Both parents and teachers expected more from me. Now I avoid communication with former classmates because I am ashamed. I don’t earn anything at all, my whole life is spent at home on the couch, I look at job sites and I don’t see any vacancy that suits me. Now I feel so bad that I don't want to communicate with people at all. Sometimes I have suicidal thoughts because I can't accept my life the way it is now. I don't know how to become an adequate person. I want to be independent and not depend on my parents or my young man. If he breaks up with me now, I won't survive. There is no money for food or housing and no friends. I have not been close to anyone for a long time so I am ashamed of myself that I am like this. I really want this nightmare to end. But I don’t know what to do: I made all sorts of lists about my pros and cons, tried to believe in myself, but it’s all useless. I will be 25 in December, but it already seems to me that my life has failed. I do not see any prospects in my existence and do not want a new day to come. There are no more forces. Due to my incompetence, I do not want children. I think they will hate me. I have read a lot of articles and tips on how to overcome the fear of work but all to no avail. When there is no work, I worry about how to find it, I cry every day. As soon as I find it, it gets even worse. Tell me how to calm down and fix at least something, restore self-respect, how to get rid of fear? I also forgot to mention: I am not very confident in myself, and I am embarrassed by my appearance. This bothers me even more. If someone answers me I will be very grateful.

The psychologist Lyubov Ilyinichna Krotkova answers the question.

Hello Tatiana!

Your letter evoked a lot of reciprocal emotions in me. There is both despair and a sense of hopelessness in him. Your case is very confusing, because you are walking in this vicious circle, which you have not been able to break: new job -> experiences -> leaving work -> new job and further according to the usual pattern. You thought that getting another job would bring a change in your condition, because at first the reason was seen in the very process of work. Although it's not about that at all, but about your emotions. They did not change due to the device to another place. As a result, the very fact of employment has become frightening for you, because. associated strongly with the negative. It no longer depends on the profession or field of activity, but depends on the subtle moments that occur, triggering your experiences. We either feel or think. It's impossible at the same time. Therefore, when you experienced strong negative emotions, everything fell out of your hands. This became the cause of dissatisfaction with the authorities. And here the point is not your professional qualities, but the fact that your inner state and preoccupation with them did not allow you to coordinate your work activities. In this regard, the main task is to find the source of your negative emotions.

Let's now divide the emotions into "before" and "after". "Before" - these are the emotions that appeared in you at the very first job in kindergarten. "After" is the aggravation of your condition over time. It is important to talk about “before”, because everything that you feel “after” and at the present moment too, is already from how everything has worsened over time. You have now developed a fear of expectation and failure. in the same situations you felt the same way (badly), and nothing worked. Therefore, now the mere thought of working makes you panic, because you do not have a single argument that would claim that the next attempt will finally be successful. Although the problem itself is not in the present tense, but at the “before” stage. This is important to understand, because at first it seems that your professional life is a series of failures and a dense dark forest with no way out.

However, it is still important for you to find a job: you have unfulfilled needs and dreams related to your career. Thus, there is a clash of your own interests: on the one hand, you want to take place in a professional way; on the other hand, there is no strength to go to work again - fear and a sense of inferiority stifle.

Thus, we return to "before". And “before” was this: “I cried all the time, I experienced a wild fear of work, such that I wanted to literally climb the wall.” Why were you crying, Tatyana? Did you initially come in with such a negative attitude on the first day of work, or did your feelings build up gradually? Or maybe both at the same time. I think you have already formed a fear of failure at that time. That is how I call myself what is happening to you. Now this fear of failure, of course, has transformed and become very voluminous, turned into depression. But once it could already exist in you in its infancy. What happens to us when we are afraid of failure? Of course, with a high degree of probability we fall into these failures. You will unconsciously behave in accordance with your fears. Fears are attitudes towards certain behavior. Therefore, when you just started working, if you had a nasty worm in you, which slowly gnawed at you and whispered: “God forbid, something will not work out for you. This is your first job. You have to prove yourself well”, the result in the form of experiences and difficulties in the process of work is quite predictable. I would also like to ask you what exactly did not work. What setbacks have you experienced. For some reason, I don't think that you could not find contact with the children. It seems more likely from the side that you already thought a lot about how to do everything right, and not about the process.

From here we go to the topic of where you have formed the need to comply and do everything “correctly”. I understand that from the family, because you wrote: “Both parents and teachers expected more from me” and “That time I decided to tell my mother that I was feeling bad and nothing was working out. She scolded me, began to scream that I really am dumber than everyone!?!” and "I was very ashamed in front of my parents, it seemed that I simply dishonored them." In this regard, it is very important to address the root cause first. Namely: to understand the style of your upbringing and what requirements your parents made of you. I got the feeling that you were originally a big bet in the family, and you grew up under the pressure of having to live up to those expectations. Not your expectations, that is, but the expectations of other people. It turns out that your life is an eternal need to be on the level. Here you even avoid meetings with acquaintances so that the truth about your personality is not exposed. At the same time, at the very beginning of the letter, you indicated that you have a loving young man. This is already a lot. You are worthy of love and respect. But something went wrong when someone set a bar for you that is important to reach. Now you put it on yourself. There are pluses in this, because. You do not leave the desire to build a career. The downside is that you blame yourself and have ceased to appreciate yourself. Something tells me that the question of the value of your own personality was relevant for you even at your very first job. It is felt that even then you were not sure of yourself. This is confirmed by your words: "I am not very confident in myself and I am embarrassed by my appearance."

I suggest that the main help for you should be to work with the relationships that you had in your family. The fact that your mother could not accept your failure at work is very significant. We all have the right to make mistakes. It seems that you have not had this right since the time when you were just starting your career path. But it’s impossible to do everything perfectly right from the start. It is important to work out in detail everything that I wrote to you above. Of course, you did the right thing by turning to a psychologist. I want to know what didn't work out in the end. I understood from the letter that you stopped visiting the specialist.

Tatyana, I am ready to provide you with professional assistance. We can discuss conditions separately. If you are determined to solve the current situation and feel strong in yourself (otherwise you would not have written to this site), you can write to me personally, and we will discuss everything.

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Fear of work (ergophobia) deprives a person of the possibility of social realization and financial independence. An ergophobe is afraid to take on additional responsibility at work, missing out on the opportunity to show talents. Experiencing severe stress when communicating with superiors and colleagues. In severe forms of the disorder, a person does not even find the strength to go to an interview and get a job. The situation is aggravated if relatives and friends look at the ergophobe with reproach, believing that the problem is banal laziness.

It is necessary to identify the true causes of psychological discomfort associated with the process of work and its search, and work with them. As a rule, fear of work is a symptom of social anxiety disorder. That is, ergophobia is not afraid of the need to work, but unpleasant social situations that you can get into at an interview or in the process of work.

Behind the words “I’m afraid to get a job” fears can be hidden:

• assessing one's personality and abilities;
• to be rejected; to be rejected;
• hear uncomfortable questions practiced during stress interviews.

Behind the complaints “I’m afraid to work” are fears:

• to be subordinate to someone;
• do not settle down in a team;
• not live up to expectations.

Make the interview process a chore. If you are interviewing for the first time in your life or after a long break from work, your excitement is understandable. Try interviewing at companies you don't really want to work for. Not being attached to the result will help to cope with anxiety. The experience gained from unsuccessful interviews will help you learn to cope with rejection, successful ones will raise your self-esteem.

If you get the job of your dreams, remind yourself that everything you do is for the best. Remember the stories of successful people who achieved what they wanted far from the first attempt. For example, film actor Heath Ledger failed the audition for the lead role in Batman Begins, but ended up playing an antagonist character in the sequel and was awarded an Oscar. If not for the failure, he would not have received his star role.

Break the task down into small goals. Don't think too far ahead. Here you need to call and arrange an interview. Pick up the phone and call. At this point, it doesn't matter if you get hired or not. You just need to make a call and arrange a meeting. At each stage, focus on the present moment. This focus significantly reduces anxiety levels, because your thoughts are focused on the current task, and not a possible failure.

Therapy

If you can’t cope with the fear of work on your own, you need to work with a psychologist. You can also conduct it online with a psychologist-hypnologist

How to overcome the fear of a new job? After all, it is because of him that many people do not change their lives.

Psychologists advise changing jobs every 3-4 years. This allows you to gain new knowledge and skills, helps you move forward and increases the flexibility of thinking. In a word, be active in life. However, many prefer to “hunch back” in one position for 10-15 years, or even their whole lives. This is because some are in a comfort zone and “cover with moss”, while others are terrified of the unknown.

So, how to overcome the fear of a new job? To deal with this problem, it is necessary, first of all, to find the causes and eliminate them.
Why is a new job scary?

Most people who have been in the same workplace for several years have already learned by heart all their duties and have brought actions to automatism. After that, they are terribly afraid to change jobs - even if conditions are better there and earnings are higher. Why is this happening, is it really the main thing at work - not to overwork? But not everything is so simple in our psychology.

Reasons for fear of a new job:

• The conservatism of Soviet thinking. Inherent in people over 40 years old. In the USSR, it was customary to work in one place from college until retirement. At that time, a profession was chosen for life. Frequent change of job was considered a sign of insecurity, and sometimes parasitism!
• Weak communication. The issue of adaptation among new people is very acute if a person is an introvert by nature. That is, he is not sociable enough and it is difficult for him to make acquaintances.
• Low self-esteem. Expressed in the uncertainty of their abilities and knowledge. There is also a fear of looking stupid, showing one's incompetence, and often one can see in a person a dependence on the surrounding opinion.
• Fear of the boss. Low self-esteem makes it difficult to show oneself as a reliable, responsible and knowledgeable employee, so a person begins to get nervous even before a conversation with a new boss.
• Twisting yourself. You should not constantly think about new colleagues, responsibilities and possible problems. This can cause severe stress. You need to calm down and forget about future prospects, or completely immerse yourself in a new job. Problems should be solved only as they appear.

It is known that the reasons for the fear of a new job are connected with the psychological background.

To overcome fear, you need to change your beliefs!

How to understand your inner feelings and overcome your fear of a new job?

For especially impressionable people, the mere idea of ​​a new workplace exhausts them psychologically and physically. A panic attack may occur: loss of appetite, insomnia, headaches, sweating, pressure surges.

You can get rid of fear like this:

• write on paper all the pros and cons of a new job;
• calmly think about your phobias and find their cause;
• document all your skills and responsibilities that you performed at your previous job;
• set yourself up for success and try to direct your thoughts in a positive direction.

Our big and scary boss!

Fear of superiors can be acquired, even while remaining at the same job. This is far from the worst version of the development of events: the person remains in the same position and in the same team. Each leader has his own vision of the organization. There are both literate intellectuals and outright boorish tyrants. Relations with the boss is a science that must be mastered with all seriousness and responsibility. After all, the work activity of the employee completely depends on it.

Prepare before talking to your boss. Gently ask colleagues about his character: what makes him furious, what does he need from an employee, etc. This information will be worth its weight in gold. The conversation should be started diplomatically and politely. Speak only to the point. Don't position yourself as a nerd. As a rule, it repels a person. Do not loudly praise your boss for his achievements, but modestly admire. However, here it is important not to overdo it, toadying is unacceptable. In appropriate cases, advice can be given on work matters. A good leader will be grateful for constructive support.

Any boss appreciates the responsibility of the employee. So do your job well, show results and be punctual. High-quality work will bring praise and in the future - an increase in the career ladder.

New team: future friends or enemies?

A strong fear of a new team increases the likelihood of failure. To get in there, try following these guidelines:

• take a talisman with you, if you have one;
• say hello and smile to all employees, so you will show yourself as a friendly and benevolent person;
• first study corporate etiquette and rules;
• do not compare new work with old;
• listen more and talk less, it is better to refrain from the details of your personal life;
• no need to immediately redo everything for yourself;
• keep it simple and be yourself, falsehood is noticed immediately;
• no need to snitch or “knock” on colleagues.

Ultimately, a new employee is evaluated on his professional qualities. Conscientiously fulfill your duties, be ready to help, and soon you will achieve the respect and location of your colleagues. So the fear of a new job can be considered overcome, and you will wake up with pleasure in the morning.

"I can handle" – is it about you?

Fear of unfamiliar responsibilities is based on low self-esteem. Challenge yourself! Don't be afraid to take on difficult jobs. When you get down to it, you simply will not have time to be afraid. Remember that learning new things always moves you forward. Training and constant development will gradually replace the fear of work, and you will be a professional in your work.

What will happen in the worst case?

A new job is a change not only in the bosses, team and responsibilities, but also in the usual rhythm of life, work schedule, and sometimes the place of residence. This is especially hard for people who have been in the comfort zone for a long time and have difficulty giving up their habits. How to be? To rid yourself of the fear of a new life, you need to change your lifestyle even before settling in a new place. You can go in for sports, find a new hobby, change your image. Not only the rhythm of life is changing, but also the way of thinking. The fear of everything new will disappear, as will the fear of a new job.

If this does not help, there is a special exercise to overcome the unpleasant chill of nervousness. Imagine the worst thing happened at a new job where you didn't make it. Will you be fired? Are you looking for a job again? Are you going to interview again? But you've already been through this! Maybe it's just not your job. As soon as you feel the whole situation, the stress will decrease a lot. This experience is quite useful, even if it is not real.

And finally. The surest and most effective method to stop being afraid of a new job is the need for “daily bread”. Money is always needed for life: a person must provide for himself, pay for education and all kinds of payments, buy clothes and food. And if there is a family, then these expenses increase several times. In these cases, all kinds of phobias must be thrown aside. And the question of how to overcome the fear of a new job will disappear by itself. Over time, interest and vital need will take the place of fear.

In general, if you want to become the Master of your Life, then forget about the words “I'm afraid” and “I can't”. Study the course and get yourself the job you want!

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Nothing is a misfortune if you do not consider it as such.
Boethius. "Consolation of Philosophy"

A person is arranged in such a way that when the time comes to change something in his life, he begins to experience fear of the unknown. One of the fears of modern man is the fear of a new job.
In order to ease fear and give yourself confidence in your own abilities, just follow a few simple tips.

Probably, everyone, when applying for a job, experienced a state close to fear. Sitting in front of the employer, a person very often unwittingly makes some kind of mistake. This is quite understandable in this situation. But they are haunted by thoughts: “Suddenly I don’t like it or can’t cope with this job? Maybe I'm so stupid that I have nothing to do there at all? And so it happens, fear penetrates deep into your thoughts and a person who is set to work suddenly loses his optimistic attitude.
Conclusion: Don't lose your convictions or you'll fail your job interview.

Fear is over and you are at a new job. Well, there are a lot of pitfalls here. Now the new team scares you. It's no secret that newcomers in any team are wary. Whether it is a large company or a small firm: in any team, at first, a biased attitude towards a new employee. Most often this happens because people, during their work in a team, form their own small “family”, with their own way of life and their own rules. They already have their own formed team, which seeks to realize itself. And then you appear and try to infiltrate this very family. Naturally, on the part of the team there is distrust towards you, since none of those around you know you, your skills in professional activities and, accordingly, cannot appreciate your abilities. And you, in turn, begin to fear that you will not come to court. What should be done here? Find out as much as you can about the company you are working for, observe the workflow. You can go up to your boss at the right time and ask a pertinent question about your job, about whether you are doing it well.
Conclusion: Analyze the tasks of the team, correlate them with your work performed. This will help you better understand your work.

Any team is a relationship between colleagues, and if you don’t want to lose your job, then communication with people should be built constructively on your part.
Each person in the team has his own character and upbringing, so he cannot be the same as you. And, of course, a dismissive attitude towards others can cause skirmishes and enmity between colleagues. Nobody likes to be humiliated, everyone likes to feel respect for himself, to realize that he is appreciated.
Conclusion: Respect your superiors and colleagues and win their respect.

Even if you are a first-class specialist, you should not brag about your deep knowledge on the first working day. Of course, it will be great if you have rationalization ideas, and at the end of the working day you will approach your immediate supervisor and calmly state your ideas, not forgetting to argue the proposal. A good leader will definitely listen to you, and if this is a really worthwhile proposal, he will listen to your opinion.
Conclusion: don't make people think you're just making yourself worthwhile.

Of course, in any team there is a "ringleader" from whom all sorts of tricks can be expected. Be prepared for the fact that they can make fun of you and try in every possible way to drive you into a dead end.
Conclusion: behave easily and calmly, try to laugh it off for jokes, but, of course, within reason.

Too bold pranksters in the face of a beginner are disliked in the team.
Don't gossip! This is a serious misbehavior. It is not necessary to obtain information about another person in this way. Rumors have a tendency to "grow in detail" which can tarnish people's reputations, and often your own is hurt because the rumors can backfire on you.
Conclusion: drive away the desire to gossip. If you are dissatisfied with something, you should not talk about it to everyone in a row.

People who constantly express dissatisfaction are simply unpleasant. Therefore, it is better to go to the boss and tell the exact reason why you came, starting with the phrase: "Could you help me ..." or like this "Maybe I made a mistake somewhere, but ...". This will be the best option than the boss will hear rumors that you are talking bad about him.
It happens that theft happens in the team - it’s quite an unpleasant thing. There is probably no more unbearable situation when all employees are under suspicion.
Conclusion: be honest.

If you suddenly become a witness to any contention, do not try to take sides and intervene in the conflict, even if you feel who is right and who is wrong.
Conclusion: In the end, the conflict will be resolved, and you will long be considered the ubiquitous fighter for justice.

Conversely, if you feel that you are being provoked into a conflict, try to ignore the instigator, you do not need enemies now.
Very often people lose their jobs for two rather banal reasons: being late and absenteeism. If you are very slow, try to get up early in the morning and do what you were asked to do. Most often, management does not stand on ceremony with constantly late and truant.
Conclusion: do not forget about punctuality.

And one last piece of advice: be persistent, don't give up. When you find a job, be diligent so as not to lose it! When you join a new team, try to give the impression of a sociable, open, interested person who came to do what he loves. The new team is a test of human love.

AUTHORITIVE OPINION
Alexander Buryak, "The Art of Survival":
- Fear warns people about danger, but it must be met without fear. The harm from inappropriate fear consists in a decrease in the ability to make effective decisions, in trembling limbs, in the possibility of spoiling one's reputation.
You can overcome fear in the following ways:
- get distracted: think not about the threat, but about the actions that need to be taken;
- look for funny things in your position;
- focus on the need to make a good impression;
- get angry at yourself
- look at what is happening as an opportunity to prove their outstanding qualities;
- remember people who have shown themselves worthy in similar circumstances.

Summing up, we can say that the position in the team depends only on you. And remember, treat people the way you want people to treat you. I wish you your favorite work!

Prepared by Natalia Yanina, Jobs newspaper.

Fear of a new job occurs in insecure individuals. This is influenced by the lack of experience in the required field, lack of awareness of the topic, low self-esteem. Young mothers are especially panicking after maternity leave, who have lost their qualifications.

Fear of work is inherent in insecure individuals

Fear arises before a new boss, position, team. But breathing techniques and affirmations (positive attitudes) will help. If a person is unable to cope with his fear on his own, you can contact a psychotherapist.

Reasons for fear

Fear appears for various reasons - a change in the workplace, team, bosses. A new, high position causes stress. A person worries before passing an interview, a trial period, an internship. He is afraid of not passing the screening exam, the results of which mean failure or success. The reason may be a negative experience at a previous job - distrust of colleagues, an aggressive and overly hardworking boss, poor working conditions, low pay. The person is worried that the same situation awaits him now.

Fear of the boss

Often, when changing jobs or during a move, an employee thinks about the boss. After all, he does not know about his personal qualities, attitude towards employees. Afraid of excessive demands and aggression on the part of the director.

It happens that a world-famous company invited an employee to their place. He got used to the new workplace, established contacts with colleagues, began to cope well with his duties. Suddenly the boss changed. Instead of a kind and understanding, a ruler-dictator came. He does not take into account the initiatives and ideas of employees, he is not interested in other people's problems.

Women and young mothers are especially afraid of such bosses. Worried that they will not cope with such pressure, they leave their new place of work.

Others decide to take such a step because of their unwillingness to get mental disorders.

Fear of the team

A new person in the formed team cannot be left without attention. At first, he will be the main object of gossip, sometimes even ridicule. But if the employee initially correctly introduces himself, then such a situation can be avoided.

The main reasons for the appearance of fear of the team are tied to fear:

• be professionally unsuitable;
• not being knowledgeable enough in the right area;
• fail to meet the set goals (failure to meet the deadline, do the task incorrectly, make a mistake in the calculations, etc.);
• not being able to find contact with colleagues;
• be redundant;
• be rejected and misunderstood.

A positive attitude will help to achieve the location of colleagues on the first working day. Negative attitudes need to be changed to positive ones. It is necessary to imagine that the newcomer is greeted with joy. They show a new workplace, share secrets, talk about the boss. You need to remember all your successful attempts to meet people. It happens that an appropriately told anecdote or a funny story relieves tension in a conversation.

social fears

Fear of a new job

A new position means new responsibilities, higher demands. Increased responsibility. If this is a leadership position, then the person must control the work of subordinates. It is the leader who is responsible for any trouble, incorrectly done task, errors in the report. The main reasons for the fear of the position:

• be not perceived by subordinates;
• not cope with a large number of tasks;
• make mistakes in calculations, reporting, distribution of bonuses;
• to be ridiculed for a ridiculous act;
• not justify the trust of the boss;
• stay at work until late or continue working at home after the end of the shift;
• make bad decisions, etc.

For some employees, even a high salary is not an argument. They are afraid to disappoint the boss who offered a new position. Features are clearly manifested: self-doubt, low self-esteem, suspiciousness. There comes a panic attack, hysteria, nervous breakdowns.

When moving to a new position, people are often afraid to stay at work until late.

Who is afraid of a new job

People who want to change jobs are subject to fear. They are afraid to disappoint the leadership, to be rejected by the team, responsibility. The responsibilities seem to be difficult to handle. Any invitation to the director's office causes anxiety and panic. There is always a feeling that someone will do the job better, and the leader wants only to scold and punish.

• loss of qualification;
• the presence of a small child (requires long care and supervision);
• frequent sick leave;
• incomplete education;
• lack of skills to work with the necessary computer programs or equipment, etc.

Too emotional and self-critical personalities are afraid of a new job. They are afraid of any change. They consider themselves insufficiently prepared, suitable, trained. Looking for ideal conditions. Fear of a new job arises among those who radically change the work area. Their knowledge is limited to theoretical knowledge and lack of practical skills. But they have a great motivation, a desire to learn something new, to work on their own development.

Freelancers are going through the start of a professional activity. Unstable profits, the fear of not finding a customer or performing the task incorrectly are their main fears.

They are afraid of an irregular work schedule, low pay, high demands. Due to unsuccessful activities, they can get a bad reputation.

A person with a new job phobia has a feeling of fear at the mention of it. He takes new changes too close to his heart. But there are those in whom such signs are not too pronounced and noticeable to others. These people have the ability to control their own emotions. However, especially observant colleagues, after a while, may notice the strange behavior of a beginner. It is accompanied by the following symptoms:

• increased sweating;
• pale skin of the face;
• low pressure;
• feeling unwell;
• depressed mood;
• excessive fearfulness and suspicion;
• strange, atrophied facial expression;
• slight trembling;
• nausea;
• muscle weakness;
• heart palpitations;
• hysterical laughter, etc.

External manifestation - bags under the eyes. They are pronounced, they cannot be hidden. This indicates a sleep disorder - insomnia. It is associated with emotions, panic, anxiety. Fear of a new job causes mental disorders. The person becomes unbalanced, fearful.

Physiological manifestations of fear and anxiety

Ways to get rid of fear

Successful stewards often speak in public and give advice on getting rid of the fear of a new job. They share their success stories, talk about techniques. The most popular among them are affirmations, breathing techniques.

affirmations

A positive attitude is the key to success. Affirmations will help cheer you up before the first day of work. They will improve the psychological state, eliminate all fears, relieve self-doubt. Examples of affirmations for setting yourself up for success:

• I am an excellent specialist, so everything will work out;
• I have rich practical experience, I know what to do in a difficult situation;
• I'm not afraid, I'm stress-resistant;
• I have many important, good skills, I will quickly get used to it;
• every employer will want to cooperate with me;
• my new job is perfect for me;
• my qualities are just created for this position;
• I am successful in my work;
• I love what I do;
• I receive the desired salary;
• I am loved and respected by my colleagues;
• I have excellent career prospects, etc.

This is where a psychological technique works - self-hypnosis.

A person sets himself up for a positive outcome. He must accept his failures as a need for self-development, an opportunity for personal growth. After all, thoughts are a powerful source of energy.

Breathing techniques

Any breathing exercises should be done standing or lying down. The eyes must be closed. It is important to present a beautiful landscape or a picture that evokes peace. It is necessary to control the inhalation and exhalation. Initially, it is important to focus on them. It is important to relax all the muscles in the body. Some breathing techniques:

1. Belly breathing. Inhale 3-5 s, exhale 4-5 s. Interval - up to 3 s. It is necessary that in the process the stomach inflates.
2. Breathing with collarbones. When inhaling, the clavicles rise, when exhaling, they fall. The interval between breaths is 3–5 s.
3. Wavy breathing. 3 organ systems are involved - the abdomen, collarbones, chest. Inhalation starts from the abdomen, goes to the collarbones, and then to the chest. Exhalation is in reverse order.

It is enough to repeat each exercise 3-5 times. You shouldn't overstress. While inhaling, it is necessary to imagine that the body is filled with pure energy and calmness. With an exhalation, all the negativity comes out. In addition to breathing exercises, a person carries out a meditation session.

Will psychotherapy help?

There are situations when a person does not know how to overcome the fear of a new job. Therefore, it is worth contacting a specialist. A psychologist can help you get over yourself. After the course of treatment, the patient will have a desire to work, learn new things. He will successfully overcome the fear of the team, position, boss.

Cognitive Behavioral Therapy is built on introspection. First, the possible causes of fear are discussed. This will help to create the most suitable course of treatment and get rid of the phobia. During the session, the patient must answer the following questions:

• what happens if I get a new job;
• what happens if I say something wrong at the interview;
• why I am afraid of being rejected by the team;
• what is the reason for my fear of the authorities;
• what happens if I get promoted;
• what scares me about career growth;
• Why am I afraid to change jobs?
• why I think that my knowledge is not enough, etc.

With the help of these questions, the client analyzes his own behavior. He has a desire to overcome negative attitudes, change them to positive ones.

An important requirement is that the doctor must be really interested in curing his patient. The client should be as open and honest as possible.

Treatment takes place in several stages. Consists of individual sessions and homework assignments. The psychotherapist helps to positively tune in to the interview. If suddenly something does not go according to plan, a person knows how to calm himself and keep calm. He learns to control himself during a stressful situation. A nervous boss or envious colleagues do not cause irritation or anxiety. Role play can be used as homework. The patient needs to imagine that he is the boss, and the doctor is his employee. Let the client share his feelings, emotions. It is important to understand where the fear of the director comes from.

If the fear of new responsibilities is to be overcome, have the patient describe his image of the ideal manager. It is important to accurately determine its positive qualities. It helps to read books from successful top managers, businessmen, heads of large companies. It is necessary to highlight their strengths and understand what the patient needs to work on in order to reach the same heights.

If suddenly the client is experiencing being rejected in the team, the therapist suggests attending group classes. They will help you become socially active and stop being afraid of a large group of people.

Psychotherapy will help get rid of the fear of the director and the new team

Conclusion

The phobia of a new job may arise due to low self-esteem, skill level, insufficient knowledge in the desired area. It happens that a person has high expectations, and the reality is disappointing. Some people are worried about the new team, others are afraid of the new boss. In still others, muscle weakness appears due to promotion or a new position.

Affirmations and breathing exercises will help overcome fear. It is important to have a positive attitude and good preparation for the interview. If a person cannot cope with fear on his own, you can use the services of a psychotherapist. He will conduct cognitive behavioral therapy and help the client change the type of thinking and behavior.