There is an opinion that every person in life should have a goal. This is the cause for which he wakes up every morning to take a few more steps towards its implementation. It is believed that one who does not have a goal lives his life in vain and meaninglessly. After all, the desire for development is inherent in it. The goal is just the finish line, and achieving it is the path through which the individual must improve and change.
Unfortunately, many experts note that the aimlessness of people is the scourge of modern society. This is especially common among the very young, Paradox, because today's life with its achievements and various benefits, it would seem, should stimulate a person to receive them. And what should be normal goals? Examples of them may be different, but despite the fact that we are all different from each other, there are common aspirations inherent in every adequate member of society.
What can be a person?
Examples of goals that any sane person wants to achieve:
- Have a roof over your head (house, apartment, cottage).
- To be financially secure, and stable, without bankruptcies and other troubles.
- Travel, food, technology, cars, clothes follow from the previous paragraph.
- Realize creatively.
- Create a happy family.
- To raise good, smart, healthy, developed and harmonious children.
- Live old age surrounded by loved ones and do not need anything.
These are perhaps the most important goals in the list. Of course, this list is exaggerated, it may look different, but in the end, everyone strives to obtain these very things, just in different ways. Although there are exceptions - people who give their lives to, for example, invent some kind of medicine to save humanity, come up with new technologies, equipment, flying objects. They believe that the main goal in human life is not small, provincial, selfish aspirations, but global, large-scale and useful accomplishments for absolutely everyone.
No purpose in human life
Examples of this can be found frequently. It is not clear why one has desires and aspirations, while the other does not. Psychologists, sociologists believe that the whole point is a person's motivation: it either exists or it does not. In aimless people, it is completely absent, and in their opposites, it is developed too strongly. Hence the next question: “Why do some have goals and others do not?” There is no single answer here. Someone is inclined to genetics, mistakes of education, while others blame the state of our society, believing that it, with its excessive, sometimes impracticable requirements, initially suppresses and kills in the bud any ambitious human intentions. However, people who are rather weak, weak-willed, timid and do not like to go out are subject to such an influence. If you do not pay attention to obstacles, then the cherished goals in a person’s life are quite possible and achievable. There are examples of this both among world celebrities and ordinary people.
Any successful person, to the question - “What does it take to become successful and happy?”- will answer that first of all it is necessary to set a Goal, but rather a lot of goals that will inspire you and for which you will want to work with joy, if you need to overcome any obstacles and you will even be ready to move mountains. This is ideal!
Setting life Goals is the first and most important step to managing your own Destiny! “If you want to change your life, set new Goals!”
But, despite the fact that almost every book about success talks about setting goals, far from everywhere an effective and understandable algorithm for working with your goals is given. And many important questions such as: “What goals do I have?”, “Requirements for Goals?”, “How to set a Goal in order to achieve it?”, “Algorithm for achieving the goal”, and many others. others- not deep enough.
Let's start with the first questions - What are the Goals? What kind of goals should be set? What should not be forgotten?
What are the life goals
All life goals can be divided into 3 categories: Higher Goals(Personal Development and Community Service) , Basic goals(Self-Realization and Relationships) and Supporting Goals(, Life, Rest).
If at least one thing is excluded, life will no longer be fully integrated, and a person will not be able to be truly happy and successful.
If there are no higher goals, even if a person has a family and a job, sooner or later he will lose satisfaction in his heart, stop growing, and eventually lose the meaning of life, happiness.
If a person does not have the main goals - consider him to have nothing, this is something like a homeless person, without work - respectively, without money, without relationships - respectively, lonely and unhappy (even if a person does not suffer painfully from his loneliness, all the same, his heart he will not sing with happiness, because there are no good friends and a loved one nearby).
If a person has no or very neglected supporting goals, he, as a rule, a lot of problems: lack of money, difficulties with everyday issues, etc. If there is no quality rest, a person, as a rule, goes on an anguish, on an overload, without much joy in his heart.
For a harmonious and happy life - all goals must be in order!
The highest goals of Man
Basic Life Goals
3. Work is professional Self-realization, as a rule, takes from 1/3 to 2/3 of the time of a person's entire life. Ideally, Self-realization should correspond to a person and his Individuality, as well as the level of human development, but more about this in the requirements for goals (see below).
The right choice of self-realization in society (choice of profession) determines the usefulness of a person for society and people, his material well-being and social position (connections and opportunities in society) and, of course, the state of happiness, because why do something that does not make you happy.
A good job always implies career and professional growth, a state of creativity and enjoyment. All this, in turn, affects the personal growth of a person.
4. Relationships- creating a family (love), raising children, friends and the immediate environment of a person. Relationships- they can give a person wings, an infinite state of happiness (if a person knows how to build them, treats people correctly), or they can make a person a deeply unhappy sufferer (if he does not know how to build them, does not know how to resolve conflicts, treats people negatively).
Relationship Goals, ideally, this is a happy and strong family (love, trust,), real reliable, worthy environment (people who appreciate you, love you, and are always ready to help, etc.). You can say - it's not real! I'll tell you - it's real if you set a goal and work on yourself! Any goal is achievable, but its achievement always involves the fulfillment of certain conditions.
Relationship statistics are terrible! There are more than 50% of divorces in the CIS, there are more changes in total! More than 80% of people consider themselves lonely, although they live in million-plus cities. This says only one thing, that people do not know how to communicate, build worthy and happy relationships, and many of them do not even try to do this, overcome by laziness, disbelief, pride, their own selfishness and other vices and weaknesses.
Start by setting a Goal, by answering the question - What do you want in your relationship life?
Supporting Goals
5. Money– should also be singled out as a separate goal that requires understanding, calculation and continuous development. Money in our life is by no means everything, you can’t buy happiness for it (there are many rich and unfortunate people), you can’t buy true love, you can’t buy friends, you can’t buy health, you can’t buy happy relationships with your own children, etc. But money can buy a lot that will serve as an important support, the foundation for your happiness, relationships, life, recreation and other life goals.
The art of multiplying and managing Money also needs to be learned, and many good books, trainings and courses are devoted to this.
In addition, I’ll say that although you can’t buy happiness in its purest form for money, in fact, without it, it collapses very quickly. There is even an expression "The boat of love - crashed onpoverty andlife”. Therefore, in the modern world, in no case can one ignore this, although providing, but a very important goal!
6. Life- should be organized in such a way that life is a joy and it does not take a lot of time and money. It is the task of a person to organize life in such a way that life is as convenient, efficient, comfortable and joyful as possible.
Sloppiness and irresponsibility in matters of everyday life lead to a vile state of mind and body, inefficiency of life and a stupid waste of time and money.
Life- should be singled out as a separate goal, this is a condition for the implementation of other goals. for example if in the house "pigsty", there is no place to invite friends, and it’s disgusting to be in such a “shed”, especially to live in it.
7. Rest! Many do not consider rest as a separate goal at all and treat it extremely lightly. Very often, because of this, people live a boring life according to a primitive scheme. “work-home-work”, without the wonderful impressions that are so required.
Traditions can also be attributed to rest, which should be worthy, revealing and strengthening a person, and not those after which you need to recover. and get healthiera few days. In the best case, this is participation in balls, thematic and creative Salons and evenings, theater, etc.
Good vacation is an unforgettable experience, a set of energy, restoration of body and soul, new acquaintances and communication, travel and knowledge of the best corners of our beautiful planet. In addition, it is self-respect and personal growth.
Rest should be recognized as a separate important goal. There is even a saying “He who has a good rest, he will work well”.
We will discuss in more detail how to organize your vacation during the year in a separate article, but you need to travel at least 2 r. a year, that's for sure!
Requirements that Human Life Goals must meet - !
It is customary to say about some people - he is purposeful, he will definitely achieve his goal. But how did it happen that some people have goals, while the life of others is more like a meaningless existence? In fact, the purpose of life and the purpose of man is a philosophical question. Many great sages were looking for answers to it, and everyone had their own view on this question. Let's try and figure out what is the role of the goal in a person's life, and what goals and values are considered to be the main ones.
The main goal of human life
First, let's understand what is the goal? At its core, it is a desire or motive. The goal may be conscious or unconscious. For example, the desire to travel to distant countries is a goal that is quite conscious. However, at the moment of danger, we may instinctively strive to perform some act in order to avoid this danger. Such a goal is unconscious. Speaking about the life goals of a person, we will mean the first option, that is, only those motives that we are aware of.
The main goals in a person's life are a set, which in the end should lead to the realization of the main goal. In other words, any of our goals consists of small sub-goals. But how to determine what is the main goal in a person's life? To find it, there is a special algorithm:
- Remember any of your current goals that you are pursuing at the moment of your life and are considered extremely important.
- Find the motive that gave rise to this current goal. Those. the answer to the question why you have this goal.
- If you were able to find a motive that preceded the birth of this goal in you, then go back to point 2 and check the motive itself in the same way.
- If your motive has no subgoal, then it is the main goal in your life.
The main goals in a person's life are a set. There are always several of them. And many of them are born due to our basic needs: food, food, sleep, recognition, love, etc. Such a desire for happiness, prosperity, social recognition, gaining faith in oneself in God is commonly called the meaning of human life. Consider the main goals that almost every person pursues.
List of human life goals
You won't see anything new on this list. The life of each of us is filled with such goals, since it is difficult to overestimate their importance specifically for each of us.
Life needs can be completely individual. And each of us is able to continue this list. Only one thing remains common - the goal of human life is to achieve all the key needs that arise in the process of its existence.
Each of us wants to achieve something in life and, of course, to do a lot. You can make your life easier by setting goals for yourself. They may have different priorities and different difficulty in achieving, but what is written on paper is always easier to understand. So grab a pen and write...
List of 50 goals in a person's life
1. Tie with.You don't have them? Perhaps there are no ideal people, and you probably have a habit that you would like to get rid of, but either laziness interferes, then the company, then work. Get rid of this habit - and your life will be better.
2. Learn to cook.
Do you already know how? Only the best chefs, and even then not everyone can say this about themselves with complete confidence. Discover new recipes, improve old ones, make life tastier!
12. Learn to drive a car.
Even if you do not really want to drive, this skill will come in handy in life.
13. Find your favorite thing.
If you do not like your job, and it brings you only negativity, it is never too late to change your occupation, learn a new profession, find your dream job. For example, in modern IT companies, no one cares how old you are. The main thing is skill and purposefulness.
14. Learn to speak to the public.
Many do not know how, many are simply afraid. Dealing with this is easier than it looks. And a good speaker will always be listened to and his opinion taken into account.
15. Climb the mountain.
It is not at all necessary to conquer Everest and risk your health, you can choose a simpler peak. What could be better than pure mountain air?
16. Play the lottery.
Here it is - the safest way to "try your luck." Try to risk at least once and buy a lottery ticket.
17. Go to a distant country.
A long flight scares many, but it's worth it. Travel to a distant and exotic country, get acquainted with its culture and traditions. This will broaden your horizons and give you an indescribable impression.
18. Try exotic dishes.
Those that you would refuse because of their unusualness.
19. Become a teacher.
Teach someone what you know yourself. It's inspiring.
20. Learn to plan your time.
For a day, for a week, for a month, for a year - you will have much more time if you learn to plan time.
21. Learn to forgive.
Others and yourself. Hidden grievances often gnaw from the inside. Forgive your offenders, then both you and them will feel better.
27. Learn to play chess.
This seemingly terribly boring game perfectly develops thinking.
On your site or as part of some urban landscaping campaign.
30. Contribute to conservation.
Donate light bulbs, batteries, plastic - all non-degradable and hazardous to nature. Let this be your contribution to the future of the planet.
31. Get a higher education.
And not necessarily one! It's never too late to be a student again.
32. Give up television.
Better - for good.
33. Learn to dance.
Dance is body language. Learn it, no matter what kind of dance you choose.
34. Learn.
Horses are amazing animals. Take some riding lessons and hang out with them.
35. Get rid of all debt.
And no more hoarding new ones.
36. Draw a family tree.
And save it for posterity.
37. Visit the most beautiful places in your country.
- these are not always foreign beaches. In our country there are many beauties that are worth seeing with your own eyes.
38. Make an expensive gift to yourself.
Buy yourself what you have long dreamed of, whether it be a thing, a ticket or a pet (see point 3).
39. Learn to enjoy being alone.
It is very important to be able to be in harmony with yourself. Go somewhere alone, detached from other people.
40. Watch the stars under the open sky.
In the field, in the steppe, in the clearing - where you can see the maximum number of stars and the lights of the big city do not interfere with their splendor.
41. Learn to take beautiful pictures.
It is not necessary to be a professional and buy expensive equipment. Learn to take beautiful pictures that will bring you joy.
42. Visit islands cut off from civilization.
Isn't this the most unusual adventure for a modern person?
43. Learn a new, rarer language.
And with him - to learn the history of another country.
44. Save money for old age.
Unfortunately, you will not be fed up with spiritual riches alone. Take care of your future yourself.
45. Fulfill someone's dream.
Sometimes it's much easier than it seems.
46. Make a great gift to a loved one.
One that will be remembered by both you and him for years to come.
47. Buy or build your own home.
Perhaps this is the main material goal in the life of almost every person.
48. Make repairs.
And arrange your home so that it is as comfortable as possible to live in it.
50. Start a family.
Family is one of the greatest values in life. But it is easier to acquire it than to keep a good relationship in it for life. Perhaps this is one of the main goals in human life.
Make your list
Of course, the above 50 points are just an example, if you wish, you can make 100 and 1000 goals in life. Try to make your own version. Perhaps you will draw something from this list for yourself or supplement it with other goals that are more important to you. But the main thing - know: by setting clear goals for yourself (not even for life, but for a year, month, week), you will not only succeed in your endeavors, but also will not waste time.Any successful person, to the question - "What does it take to become successful and happy?" - will answer that, first of all, it is necessary to set a Goal, or better, many goals that will inspire you and for which you want to work with joy if you need to overcome any obstacles and even move mountains. This is ideal!
Setting life Goals is the first and most important step to managing your own Destiny! “If you want to change your life, set new Goals!”
But, despite the fact that almost every book about success says that at the beginning you need to “set a goal”, far from everywhere an effective and understandable algorithm for working with a goal is given. And many important questions, such as: “What goals can I have?”, “Requirements for Goals?”, “How to set a Goal in order to achieve it?”, “Algorithm for achieving the goal”, and many others. others
Let's start with the first questions - What are the Goals? What kind of goals should be set? What should not be forgotten?
What are the life goals?
All life goals can be divided into 3 categories: Higher Goals (Personal Development and Service to Society), Main Goals (Self-realization and Relationships) and Supporting Goals (Money, Life, Rest).
If you exclude at least one thing, life will no longer be fully complete, and a person will not be able to be truly happy and successful.
If there are no higher goals, even if a person has a family and a job, sooner or later, he will lose satisfaction in his heart, stop growing, lose, in the end, the meaning of life and happiness.
If there are no main goals - consider that he has nothing, this is something like a homeless person, without work - accordingly, without money, without relationships - respectively, lonely and unhappy (even if a person does not suffer painfully from his loneliness, his heart still sings there will be no happiness if there are no worthy friends and a loved one nearby).
If a person does not have or is very neglected to provide goals, he, as a rule, has a lot of problems: with a lack of money, with household issues, etc. If there is no quality rest, it can go on an anguish, on overload, without much joy in the heart.
For a harmonious and happy life - all goals must be in order!
Life Goals
The highest goals of Man
1. Personal Development- spiritual, energy and physical development, constant qualitative growth in everything. In essence, personal development involves and is aimed at: 1. Full disclosure of the potential of a person (his soul): all his best qualities, talents and abilities 2. Elimination of everything that oppresses a person, makes him weak and unhappy: negative qualities and emotions (resentment, laziness, pride, low self-esteem, etc.), weaknesses and vices (addictions, bad habits, everything that destroys a person).
Physical and energy development (sports - running, gym, yoga, martial arts, meditation, etc.) - provides the potential of the Force for a person, and this is his efficiency, performance, energy to achieve his goals. 
2. Service: for spiritual people - this is Service to God, for purely social people - Service to Society and the World. Service is a selfless activity aimed primarily at making this world a better place, and society more worthy and pure, as well as helping people. In developed countries, this is called charitable and social activity, and, unlike the CIS countries, 90% of the population participates in it (in the CIS - 3-5%). This activity involves - helping sick children and the elderly, charitable contributions, etc.
But Service in its purest form is the most significant activity that brings the highest good for this world: bringing new Knowledge - Teachers, discoveries - Scientists, reforms - Rulers, works of art - Creators, and many others. etc. Service - this is the highest meaning of life, which determines - what will you leave worthy on this Earth after leaving for another world? Will you be remembered for centuries or forgotten on the second day after the funeral? Will descendants thank and glorify you or curse you? You decide!
The antipode of Service is selfishness and selfishness, everything is only for oneself and at the expense of others.
To deal with the topic of Service and find your calling, read the article about the Highest Destiny of Man.
3. Work - professional Self-realization, as a rule, takes from 1/3 to 2/3 of the time of a person's entire life. Ideally, Self-realization should correspond to the Karmic Tasks of a person and his Individuality, as well as the level of a person, but more about this in the requirements for goals (see below).
The right choice of self-realization in society (choice of profession) determines the usefulness of a person for society and people, his material well-being and social position (connections and opportunities in society) and, of course, the state of happiness, because why do something that does not make you happy?
A good job always implies career and professional growth, a state of creativity and enjoyment. All this, in turn, affects the personal growth of a person.
4. Relationships- the creation of a family (love), the upbringing of children, friends and the immediate environment of a person. Relationships can give a person wings, an endless state of happiness (if a person knows how to build them, treat people correctly), or they can make a person a deeply unhappy sufferer (if you don’t know how to build them, don’t know how to resolve conflicts, treat people negatively, etc.) .
Relationship Goals, ideally this is a happy and strong family (love, trust, devotion), real reliable friends, a worthy environment (people who appreciate you, love, respect and are always ready to help, etc.). You can say - it's not real! I'll tell you - it's real if you set a goal and work on yourself! Any goal is achievable, but it has to meet certain conditions.
Relationship statistics are terrible! Divorces - in the CIS more than 50%, Treason - and even more! More than 80% of people consider themselves lonely, although they live in million-plus cities. This says only one thing, that people do not know how to communicate, build worthy and happy relationships, and many even try to do it. They are overcome by laziness, unbelief, pride, their own selfishness and other vices and weaknesses.
Start by setting a Goal, by answering the question - What do you want in your relationship life?
Supporting Goals
5. Money - should also be singled out as a separate goal that requires understanding, calculation and constant development. I don’t define everything in our life with money - you can’t buy happiness for it (there are many rich and unfortunate people), you can’t buy true love and friends, you can’t buy health either, you can’t buy happy relationships with your own children, etc. But for money you can buy a lot that will serve as a kind of support, the foundation for your happiness, relationships, life, recreation and other life goals.
Money also needs to be learned and many good books, trainings and courses are devoted to this.
In addition, I will say that although money cannot buy happiness in its purest form, without it, it collapses very quickly. There is even such an expression - "The boat of love - crashed on poverty and life." Therefore, in the modern world, in no case can one ignore this, although providing, but very important goal!
6. Life - should be organized in such a way that life is a joy and it does not take a lot of time and money. This is the task of a person - to organize life in order to live white as efficiently, comfortably and joyfully as possible.
Sloppiness and irresponsibility in matters of everyday life lead to a vile state of mind and body, ineffectiveness of life and a stupid waste of time and money.
Life - should be singled out as a separate goal, this is a condition for the realization of other goals. For example, if there is a pig sty in the house, there is no place to invite friends, and it’s disgusting to be in such a house, especially to live permanently.
7. Rest! Many do not consider rest as a separate goal at all and treat it extremely lightly. Very often, because of this, people live a boring life according to the primitive “work-home-work” scheme, without the wonderful impressions that the Soul of a person so demands.
Traditions can also be attributed to rest, which should be worthy, revealing and strengthening a person, and not those after which you need to recover and improve your health for several days (as after drinking). In the best case, this is participation in Balls, thematic and creative Salons and evenings, etc.
A good vacation is an unforgettable experience, a set of energy and restoration of the soul and body, new acquaintances and communication, travel and knowledge of the best corners of our beautiful planet. In addition, it is self-respect and personal growth.
Rest - should be realized as a separate important goal. There is even a saying - "Whoever has a good rest - he will work well."
You need to travel at least 2 p. a year, that's for sure!
