Simple words, expressions
Nobody usually cares
In the soul do not cause irritation -
They are common, that's all!

When the soul clings to something,
Finds the negative in simple words.
And yes, she got so angry.
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From an early age you are diapers.
Didn't hold back - like a lie,
Know it, child.

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The importance of a promise.
Everything that he said, do it,
Show effort.

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Eyes. Go back in your thoughts to the time you consciously felt envy and went to meanness to hide it. Imagine that there were two people inside you at that moment: one was envious and mean, and the other was sensitive and tender. Mentally kick out the envious self from words: "Get out of my senses! You are not my life, not my destiny, not my...

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- That's it. Where there is envy, there is no love. Strictly speaking, envy is a diabolical state of the soul that deprives a person of virtue. Envy is sorrow for the well-being of one's neighbor, said St. Basil the Great. The beginning of envy is pride. “The proud cannot tolerate anyone being higher than him and being in prosperity, therefore he is indignant at his exaltation. A humble person cannot envy, for he sees and realizes his unworthiness, while he recognizes others as more worthy. Envy does not lead to good. The highest angel was not content with his position, he envied God and was cast down from heaven. The first man Adam was not satisfied with being in paradise, he wanted to be “like a Bozi”, and was expelled from paradise. Envy gave birth to the cause of the first homicide, and then the Deicide. Out of envy, Cain killed Abel, the brothers sold Joseph into Egypt, Saul sought to kill David, the scribes and Pharisees crucified the Lord Jesus Christ.”

What we sow, we reap. Where there is no love, there is envy. “... where envy and strife are, there is disorder and every evil thing” (James 3:16). “Envy breeds controversy. Where do you get enmity and strife - is it not from here that you envy and cannot reach, ”said James, the brother of the Lord.

Envy is the greatest evil for the soul. "As rust corrodes iron, so does envy the soul in which it lives." “From her passion for glory, for acquisition, from her love of power and greed.” “The service of this passion not only does not give consolation in earthly life, but also brings suffering in the afterlife.” “After the death of the souls of the dead, ordeals go through, the tenth of them is the ordeal of envy, therefore one must always eradicate envy in oneself.”

“We can avoid envy if we do not consider great either what people call wealth, unfading fame, or bodily health. We will strive to acquire eternal and true blessings, ”- Basil the Great.

A person often believes that he is worthy of something, and the other is not. Basically, it's jealousy. Envy is the desire to have what another has. Whether it is fame, success, prosperity or something else.

I noticed that the word "envy" does not have a plural. Such depth in this word. It is well known that when the atheists were at war with God, in their own name they could not avoid denunciation of themselves. The root of the word "godless" is God, and "without" is just a prefix. From the point of view of simple orthography, they are not something in themselves, they are only the negation of some essence. The entity exists. Also, envy is based on its "dependence" on something, on someone's will, on someone's well-being. Envy appears when there is something somewhere. There is nothing to envy in an empty place. But when there is something - this dependence appears. The saddest thing is that a person often does not realize this, and suddenly begins to see injustice all around, but in fact he just feels envy.

Envy is the desire not to depend on who is stronger than you? After all, people who are poor, subordinate, weak, those who depend on another are more likely to envy.

- Satan wanted to be independent of God. “I will ascend into heaven, I will exalt my throne above the stars of God, and I will sit on a mountain in the assembly of the gods (Is., 14, 13). Pride causes envy and anger, and vice versa. These things are intertwined with each other, like metastases of a cancerous tumor that penetrate everywhere.

Justice is a very complex concept. The concept of right and wrong in spiritual life is very difficult.

There is the concept of human truth, and there is the truth of God. Every human truth is like nothing before God.

Once Vladyka Stefan (Nikitin), the Kaluga bishop, very interestingly explained to me the meaning of the parable of the unrighteous Judge. Judge of unrighteousness. Who is the Judge of unrighteousness, Who neither feared God nor was ashamed of people? It's God Himself. He is not afraid or ashamed of anyone. And why "Judge of unrighteousness"? Because if we were all judged by the truth, then everyone would be condemned, and He has mercy on us all the time. He judges mercifully.

Manifestations of envy

- How does envy manifest itself most often in people's lives?

- Envy breeds resentment. A person, when envious, begins to look for flaws in another. He cannot say directly, but he feels that something is wrong and tries to justify his feeling.

- That is, he does not understand that he is envious of another, and begins to condemn him?

- For the most part yes. Envy is black because it tries to denigrate others. Then you don't want to have what others have. Remember how in the fable of Ivan Andreevich Krylov, the fox speaks of grapes that she could not get: “Yes, it’s still green.”

- If a person is envious, does he envy many people or someone in particular?

- Just as in the case of virtue, if a person has love for one, then on the basis of this he tries to show the same feelings to others. Unfortunately, passion has the same property: if he envies one, then he envies others: it seems to him that he alone is unhappy, and everyone around is happy.

This begins to manifest itself in the speech: “There are only scoundrels around”, “they have come in large numbers”, “there are only fools around” ... He starts with one, and then the whole world hates. I know specific examples. At first, a person was annoyed by one person, then others began to annoy him, then a third, and then - everything and everything. This is the property of passion.

- These traits in a person, unfortunately, become aggravated with old age.

But "to teach the old that the dead are cured." But I knew such people who are so complacent that everything was fine with them: both in their youth, and in their mature years, and in old age.

Because a person usually begins to understand something only in old age, and then he wants others to immediately be the same as him. As the late father John (Krestyankin) said to one servant of God: “What do you want to make from your child that which you could not do from yourself?”.

Both heaven and hell begin on earth, but this is the internal arrangement of the person himself, because in the same conditions one is complacency, and the other is unhappy.

In the life of a good-natured person, everything goes smoothly. He may reach the pinnacle of success, or he may remain in the current state, but he will still be happy, right?

- There is such a wonderful saying. “Do not forget even in the darkest days of your life to thank God, He is waiting for this and will send you even greater blessings. A person with a grateful heart never needs anything.

The envious person does not sleep, suffers, he himself is sorry, because he does not find peace for himself. But a person who has relied on the mercy of God is already here, in earthly life, calm, he is not offended by many things, does not lead to impatience or irritation.

- By the way, sometimes they talk about “white envy”. What it is?

- This is not quite the right expression. Envy, if it is envy, is always mostly black. Speaking of “white envy”, they probably want to express the joy that the other has some kind of talent.

If I may say so, white envy is a competition in goodness. You rejoice for another and try to achieve the same perfection. Borrowing from the experience of others is not envy.

- Is there envy of the holiness of saints?

- This is competition. Here you can be jealous and try to achieve what the other has achieved. And here you will not achieve anything in bad ways.

The Apostle Paul calls: “Imitate me, as I imitate Christ (1 Cor. 4:16). Another thing is that here one must strive for perfection, for spiritual purification, but not for gifts.

When you dream of the gift of insight, miracles, divination, you already envy. Because these gifts, namely gifts, they are given by God. And why the Lord so disposes, we do not know. “And what God does, he does not tell anyone.”

- In this way, various sects, religious movements, etc. are born?

- Yes, at least early old age is one such example. When they strive not for spiritual perfection, humility and love, but for gifts. The Lord even stopped the apostles, saying: “Do not rejoice that the spirits obey you, but rejoice that your names are written in heaven” (Luke 10:20).

Envy does not give a person anything

- Advertising generally plays on human passions. I recently heard an interesting statement: "In our country, you can be happy, but only so that no one knows about it." But this applies not only to our country. And all countries are different or similar sides of one humanity.

- In a word, it is not only bad to envy yourself, but it is sad when you yourself are envied.

- Moreover, it is very annoying. Just Ilyin has a reflection on a very beautiful woman who says: “I am so tired. Men look at me like a commodity, and women are jealous. They immediately begin to evaluate me and look for flaws. It is equally unpleasant for me both from those and from other views. I don't think beauty brings happiness. Nobody sees my soul. A woman can and should be beautiful from within. Whoever does not love such a woman is simply not worthy of her. Very well said.

- How can a person understand that envy consumes him, harms him and interferes with his life?

- When a person is envious, he has no peace. As St. Basil said: “This is perhaps the only passion that does not bring satisfaction to a person. Love of money, gluttony bring at least temporary satisfaction, and envy itself eats a person.

Remember the proverbs about envy. "Where there is happiness, there is envy." "You won't get anything by envy." "There is no profit in envy." Profit is acquisition. And you won't gain anything with envy.

Envy is a feminine word, has a singular number. Does not have a plural, i.e. it is always individual.

A person should stop and think about whether he has had a feeling of dissatisfaction with some people lately. Search for envy in yourself not by name, but by its fruits, roots and branches?

- It is not for nothing that the Gospel speaks of a man who is looking for a speck in his brother's eye, not seeing a log in his own. What is a log is a trunk. A knot is just a branch from the trunk. So the trunk is passion. We see in others what is in us, what touches and touches us. If not for this, you would have passed by and not caught on this knot. We were hurt by this.

There is such a worldly expression: "A man understands everything to the extent of his depravity."

Interviewed by Valeria Efanova

With my best friend, we often argue about different issues, many of them are very philosophical, and some are vital. And one of the most acute is the attitude towards envy. We perceive this problem very differently, and everyone defends his position. I believe that envy is a very useful feeling, but he, on the contrary, rejects it in all its manifestations.

Which of us is right, I do not know, but both points of view have the right to life. And the strangest thing is that it is impossible to look for the truth somewhere in the middle.

Envy is a great motivator

My opinion is unequivocal: - a useful thing. When we look at the achievements of other people, we dream that the same happened to us. This is an incentive for growth and development. For example, my brother's success makes me happy, and I want the same. I also dream of opening my own business, buying an expensive car and building a cozy country house. And this feeling gives me hope that if I work hard, I will also achieve results.

Of course, I'm not talking about the kind of envy that kills people or destroys this acquired property. It's not jealousy anymore, it's anger. But in acceptable quantities, this feeling can make a person move forward.

I think our whole world is built on envy. After all, it is because of her that we dream of becoming models, bankers, presidents. It's just a desire to be successful and needed, but in order to achieve this, we choose objects to follow. This is also envy, but it is customary to call it “white”.

How often a person sees something in advertising or just on the street. He begins to desire her, but he knows perfectly well that she belongs to another. But if this other could buy it, then it is possible! And then one has only to mobilize all the forces, and such an object of envy can be acquired. And from that day on, a person does not lie on the couch, but begins to work, to do something in order to get what he has planned.

Is it possible to treat such incentives badly? This is an opportunity for development not only for an individual, but for humanity as a whole. Yes, and not everyone can not envy, this feeling exists in our brain, so I think that it should not be destroyed, but simply turned in the right direction.

Envy is anger and the cause of unhappiness

My friend's opinion is the opposite. Envy is a negative emotion that can ruin any life. If a person begins to worry about the fact that someone has something better, he cannot sleep, eat. This anger can even develop into serious illnesses.

To envy means to wish evil on another. For energy, this feeling is very destructive. And it also affects both: the one who thinks and the one who possesses the thing. It is worth avoiding such thoughts so as not to spoil your psyche and health.

Envy is a bad feeling, it does not stimulate, but rather destroys. It's hard to concentrate when your neighbor is doing well. Such feelings do not give rest, and often lead to cruelty towards others. And it is also a reason for self-humiliation and the development of complexes. How often do people say, if I don’t have this, then I’m worthless, so I can’t achieve anything.

The feeling of lack of demand, the understanding of insolvency, as well as the inability to accept the achievements of others sometimes become the cause of tragedy. In the 90s, there was a lot of crime precisely because of envy. Yes, there are conflicts today. Is it worth bringing this up?

To develop, such feelings are not needed, on the contrary, the desire for excellence is important, and not the desire to possess something.

How to deal with envy?

Which of the two of us is right is unclear. But still, it is worth dealing with this strange feeling. How should one behave if suddenly this emotion manifested itself? There can be two solutions: redirect this energy into a positive one or try to remove it.

The first way is the easiest. If you are envious, then you do not need to scold the person who is the source of envy. Let this be a better incentive. For example, in your environment, someone bought a car that you really want. Do not be discouraged, decide that you are also capable of such a purchase, and start acting. Let the force of desire be directed not to condemnation, but to realization. Try to put all the time and effort into making sure that you have a similar thing.

Relationships can also become a source of envy, for example, excellent relationships in a friend's family. But this is not a reason to beat off her husband, you just need to spend your energy on creating no less attractive conditions in your family. Do not be angry, but strive for a dream!

The second way is . Today it is very popular in the world, various psychologists work with it. You just need to notice this emotion and start observing it. Try to analyze what causes it, what actions you want to do, when it manifests itself, where it all leads. Usually, such questions simply erase this emotion, the experience disappears.

You can work with this feeling through forgiveness. You have to forgive the person for being the source of that emotion and forgive yourself for having that experience. Much has been written about this in the books of Luula Vilma. This method helps to get rid of unnecessary thoughts and actions, leads to a positive and pleasant life.

Envy is a complex feeling, it helps someone, it hinders someone. You just need to learn how to perceive it correctly, and then everything will be great.

In the modern world, where the boundaries between good and evil are blurred, people need clear moral guidelines, beacons that help them cross the sea of ​​life with the least loss for the soul. After all, the human soul is too weak and sometimes picks up this or that disease very quickly. In order to heal him, you can then “spend all your possessions on doctors” (Lk. 8:43), but still not achieve a result. However, timely diagnosis is essential for proper treatment. How to detect and eradicate the sin of envy in your soul? We talked about this with the confessor of the Moscow diocese, Archpriest Valerian Krechetov.

The first step of the path of repentance

- Father Valerian, tell me, can a person envy, but not know that he is sick with this disease?

– This happens all the time.

– When a person admitted to himself: “I envy”, does this mean that he has realized his sin and can move on?

– For the most part, alas, the deeper a person sinks into the abyss of sin, the less he realizes his sinfulness. And the cleaner a person is, the stricter he treats himself. The holy people, who, according to our understanding, led an almost righteous life, felt very sinful.

Saint Ignatius Brianchaninov said: "Better is a sinner who is aware of himself as a sinner than a righteous man who is aware of himself as a righteous man." This truth is the main one. If we take the Gospel, it is clear that the publicans, adulterers felt themselves sinful, recognized their sinfulness, but the scribes and Pharisees did not. The latter were immersed in the abyss not of coarse sinful pleasures, but of a more subtle sin, which is even more terrible.

About sins concerning the earthly bodily side of our life, such as gluttony, for example, the holy fathers said: "When we do not leave them, they leave us in time." There comes a time when a person does not need anything. In old age, everything superfluous departs, and a person leaves some attachments, but the passions that nest in the soul torment a person, regardless of his age, with time they only intensify more. That is why people commit suicide, although outwardly there seems to be no reason for this.

People, not realizing this painful state, are even afraid to feel like sinners, they try to somehow excuse, justify sin, introduce it almost into the law. A sign of spiritual health is the awareness of one's sinfulness, even in small things. A sign of spiritual deadness is the denial of one's sinfulness even after committing the most terrible crimes. Moreover, a person believes that he always and in everything does the right thing. Now, for example, they are trying to legitimize obvious depravity, trying to call open fornication "marriage", in the modern sense. Legalize sin.

The very end point of the fall of man is “an abomination of desolation in a holy place,” when there will be lawlessness and falsehood where law and truth should stand.

The first step of the path of repentance is the realization that much of what you do is defiled by sinfulness, or simply sin. The prodigal son from the gospel parable came to his senses, realized this, and he had a repentant feeling.

– It turns out that the majority of people do not even realize that they suffer from this or that sin, for example, the same envy?

– Yes. An example is the Russian Revolution of 1917. People envied how others live, and decided to take everything away under the noble slogans of "justice". In fact, it was an attempt to legitimize envy in order to “legally” take away what belongs to others. Ivan Ilyin wrote a whole work about this. He, a secular writer, philosopher, was a believer and noted all this.

Envy is also a source of war. We see a neighboring prosperous state, which means that we need to seize its wealth. This is precisely what the biblical saying “the essence of the path that seems to be good, but their end is in the bottom of hell” refers to. The instigators of revolutions and upheavals believe that they are doing everything, it seems, for the good of mankind. At one time, A.K. Tolstoy said it well:

“... If someone has an estate.

Take away and share

The lust will begin...

The whole world wants to smooth

And thus introduce equality,

What everyone wants to spoil

For general bliss.

Dostoevsky wrote beautifully that if justice is sought through blood and tears, then this is no longer justice.

Why can't there be equality in the world?

– Because, as the holy fathers say, if everyone has everything, then there will be no place for love. Do you have an abundance of wealth? Show your love for another, and he will show love for you. Inequality has a deep meaning. It has been embedded in the world from the very beginning. Even the angelic ranks were not equal.

There can be no equality on this earth. We are all equal before God, but how? If you mathematically compare any number with infinity, then in front of it all numbers are points, nothing. Before God, we are all equal, but, of course, we differ from each other, just as, for example, six is ​​not equal to nine.

Give three workers one hundred coins each: one will put it in a egg-box, the second will drink or play truant, and the third will use growth as well - and immediately they will become unequal. What to do? From whom to take away? From the one who increased it, and give it to the one who drank it? To have equality? This is what happens in life.

Chasing ghosts

- Suppose the communist project, based, according to Ilyin, on envy, crashed. But the capitalist idea is based on the same thing: an attempt to catch up with others, to live the same or even better. Seeing beautiful houses, advertisements, people also want to become owners of these things, because someone else's beautiful life makes them jealous.

“That’s right, it fuels jealousy. Many people are unhappy, not because they are really unhappy, but because they are shown all these riches, they envy, and suffer because they do not have what they envy.
This is madness. Often a person fantasizes something, begins to adjust his life to an invented ideal, but nothing happens. As a result, a person is disappointed, in essence, not in life, but in his mirages.

- Does it happen that one person is jealous of a particular person, and the other is jealous of the scenery seen on TV?

– The madness of the modern world lies in the fact that, as the Serbian Saint Justin (Popovich) said, that people not only left the true spiritual life for a less real temporal life, in which every moment passes, changes, but already a person leaves this life into a completely unreal life. Previously, a person surrendered to the power of dreams, imagination, now they have given way to television series and computer games. A person imagines himself to be something, fights, but in reality he just presses buttons.

One person who was once into auto racing told me that it is naive to think that it is so easy to fly on turns, in fact it is very dangerous. But young people are naive, they have no experience. They imagine themselves strong, dexterous, but, in fact, the program does everything for them. By playing, a person does not gain anything. Ephemeral representations of one's own self-sufficiency are created by technical means.

Just before, a person really had vocal abilities, shook theaters. And now newcomers gnaw at the microphone and consider themselves singers, not really representing themselves. The phonogram is a complete lie. They only open their mouths on stage.

Sad state. Despite this, everyone eats food that grows on the ground. And now there are not very many workers. Nobody wants to work on the land, only some grandmothers work out of inertia. The rest think that you can easily get food somewhere, and most importantly, buy and sell. Here is the main escape from real life: through these lures and deceptions.

– Apparently people find comfort in virtual reality because they are trying to escape from something that they do not like in real life?

- Quite right. People run away from real life and its difficulties. Nobody wants to be patient or accept. Right now, for example, the Year of the Family has been declared, but almost all families have been destroyed. There is not a single, probably, with rare exceptions, a normal family.

– Really not? Everyone is getting married all the time...

- That's right, they "constantly" get married: first one, then the second, then the third ... We constantly hear about it, we come into contact with it. Take any parish: there are not many families in which the first permanent marriage, conducted by spouses in complete purity, has been preserved.

– Is this also rooted in envy?

In envy and laziness, in the absence of labor on oneself. People are ready to remake everything around, except themselves. They say: "In another family, with another husband, I will be different, with another wife, I will be different."

Alas, people rarely change. An intelligent person tries to adapt to the circumstances in which he finds himself. And the fool wants to adapt everything to himself.

It is necessary to take into account the circumstances, but keep the spiritual core. Often people are afraid: "How is this possible?" Everything is possible, especially with God's help.

Holy fathers about envy

So envy is the opposite of love?

– That's it. Where there is envy, there is no love. Strictly speaking, envy is a diabolical state of the soul that deprives a person of virtue. Envy is sorrow for the well-being of one's neighbor, said St. Basil the Great. The beginning of envy is pride. “The proud cannot tolerate anyone being higher than him and being in prosperity, therefore he is indignant at his exaltation. A humble person cannot envy, for he sees and realizes his unworthiness, while he recognizes others as more worthy. Envy does not lead to good. The highest angel was not content with his position, he envied God and was cast down from heaven. The first man Adam was not satisfied with being in paradise, he wanted to be “like a Bozi”, and was expelled from paradise. Envy gave birth to the cause of the first homicide, and then the Deicide. Out of envy, Cain killed Abel, the brothers sold Joseph into Egypt, Saul sought to kill David, the scribes and Pharisees crucified the Lord Jesus Christ.”

What we sow, we reap. Where there is no love, there is envy. “... where envy and strife are, there is disorder and every evil thing” (James 3:16). “Envy breeds controversy. Where do you get enmity and strife from? Is it not from here that you envy and cannot reach, ”said James, the brother of the Lord.

Envy is the greatest evil for the soul. “As rust corrodes iron, so envy eats the soul in which it lives.” “From her passion for glory, for acquisition, from her love of power and greed.” “The service of this passion not only does not give consolation in earthly life, but also brings suffering in the afterlife.” “After the death of the souls of the dead, ordeals go through, the tenth of them is the ordeal of envy, therefore one must always eradicate envy in oneself.”

“We can avoid envy if we do not consider great either what people call wealth, unfading fame, or bodily health. Let us strive to acquire eternal and true blessings,” Basil the Great.

A person often believes that he deserves something, and the other does not. Basically, it's jealousy. Envy is the desire to have what another has. Whether it is fame, success, prosperity or something else.

I noticed that the word "envy" does not have a plural. Such depth in this word. It is well known that when the atheists were at war with God, in their own name they could not avoid denunciation of themselves. The root of the word "godless" is God, and "without" is just a prefix. From the point of view of simple orthography, they are not something in themselves, they are only the negation of some essence. The entity exists. Envy is also based on its "dependence" on something, on someone's will, on someone's well-being. Envy appears when there is something somewhere. There is nothing to envy in an empty place. But when there is something - this dependence appears. The saddest thing is that a person often does not realize this, and suddenly begins to see injustice all around, but in fact he just feels envy.

- Envy - is the desire not to depend on someone who is stronger than you? After all, people who are poor, subordinate, weak, those who depend on another are more likely to envy.

– Satan wanted to be independent of God. “I will ascend into heaven, I will exalt my throne above the stars of God, and I will sit on a mountain in the assembly of the gods (Is., 14, 13). Pride causes envy and anger, and vice versa. These things are intertwined with each other, like metastases of a cancerous tumor that penetrate everywhere.

Fairness is a very complex concept. The concept of right and wrong in the spiritual life is very difficult.

There is the concept of human truth, and there is the truth of God. Every human truth is like nothing before God.

Once Vladyka Stefan (Nikitin), the Kaluga bishop, very interestingly explained to me the meaning of the parable of the unrighteous Judge. Judge of unrighteousness. Who is the Judge of unrighteousness, Who neither feared God nor was ashamed of people? It's God Himself. He is not afraid or ashamed of anyone. And why "Judge of unrighteousness"? Because if we were all judged by the truth, then everyone would be condemned, and He has mercy on us all the time. He judges mercifully.

Manifestations of envy

- How does envy manifest itself most often in people's lives?

– Envy breeds resentment. A person, when envious, begins to look for flaws in another. He cannot say directly, but he feels that something is wrong and tries to justify his feeling.

- That is, he does not understand that he is envious of another, and begins to condemn him?

– For the most part yes. Envy is black because it tries to denigrate others. Then you don't want to have what others have. Remember how in the fable of Ivan Andreevich Krylov, the fox speaks of grapes that she could not get: “Yes, it’s still green.”

- If a person is envious, does he envy many people or someone in particular?

– Just as in the case of virtue, if a person has love for one, then on the basis of this he tries to show the same feelings to others. Unfortunately, passion has the same property: if he envies one, then he envies others: it seems to him that he alone is unhappy, and everyone around is happy.

This begins to manifest itself in the speech: “There are only scoundrels around”, “they have come in large numbers”, “there are only fools around” ... He starts with one, and then the whole world hates. I know specific examples. At first, a person was annoyed by one person, then others began to annoy him, then a third, and then - everything and everything. This is the property of passion.

- These traits in a person, unfortunately, become aggravated with old age.

- But "to teach the old is to heal the dead." But I knew such people who are so complacent that everything was fine with them: both in their youth, and in their mature years, and in old age.

Because a person usually begins to understand something only in old age, and then he wants others to immediately be the same as him. As the late father John (Krestyankin) said to one servant of God: “What do you want to make from your child that which you could not do from yourself?”.

Both heaven and hell begin on earth, but this is the internal arrangement of the person himself, because in the same conditions one is complacency, and the other is unhappy.

- In the life of a benevolent person, everything goes smoothly. He may reach the pinnacle of success, or he may remain in the current state, but he will still be happy, right?

– There is such a wonderful saying. “Do not forget even in the darkest days of your life to thank God, He is waiting for this and will send you even greater blessings. A person with a grateful heart never needs anything.

The envious person does not sleep, suffers, he himself is sorry, because he does not find peace for himself. But a person who has relied on the mercy of God is already here, in earthly life, calm, he is not offended by many things, does not lead to impatience or irritation.

– By the way, sometimes they talk about “white envy”. What it is?

– This is not quite the right expression. Envy, if it is envy, is always mostly black. Speaking of “white envy”, they probably want to express the joy that the other has some kind of talent.

If I may say so, white envy is a competition in goodness. You rejoice for another and try to achieve the same perfection. Borrowing the experience of others is not envy.

– Is there envy of the holiness of saints?

– This is competition. Here you can be jealous and try to achieve what the other has achieved. And here you will not achieve anything in bad ways.

The Apostle Paul calls: “Imitate me, as I imitate Christ (1 Cor. 4:16). Another thing is that here one must strive for perfection, for spiritual purification, but not for gifts.

When you dream of the gift of insight, miracles, divination, you already envy. Because these gifts, namely gifts, they are given by God. And why the Lord so disposes, we do not know. “And what God does, he does not tell anyone.”

- In this way, various sects, religious movements, etc. are born?

– Yes, at least early old age is one such example. When they strive not for spiritual perfection, humility and love, but for gifts. The Lord even stopped the apostles, saying: “Do not rejoice that the spirits obey you, but rejoice that your names are written in heaven” (Luke 10:20).

Envy does not give a person anything

– Advertising generally plays on human passions. I recently heard an interesting statement: "In our country, you can be happy, but only so that no one knows about it." But this applies not only to our country. Yes, and all countries are different or similar sides of one humanity.

In a word, it is not only bad to envy yourself, but it is sad when you yourself are envied.

– Moreover, it is very annoying. Just Ilyin has a reflection on a very beautiful woman who says: “I am so tired. Men look at me like a commodity, and women are jealous. They immediately begin to evaluate me and look for flaws. It is equally unpleasant for me both from those and from other views. I don't think beauty brings happiness. Nobody sees my soul. A woman can and should be beautiful from within. Whoever does not love such a woman is simply not worthy of her. Very well said.

– How can a person understand that envy consumes him, harms him and interferes with his life?

– When a person is envious, he has no peace. As St. Basil said: “This is perhaps the only passion that does not bring satisfaction to a person. Love of money, gluttony bring at least temporary satisfaction, and envy itself eats a person.

Remember the proverbs about envy. "Where there is happiness, there is envy." "You won't get anything by envy." "There is no profit in envy." Profit is gain. And you won't gain anything with envy.

Envy is a feminine word, has a singular number. Does not have a plural, i.e. it is always individual.

- A person should stop and think if he has had a feeling of dissatisfaction with some people lately. Search for envy in yourself not by name, but by its fruits, roots and branches?

– It is not for nothing that the Gospel speaks of a man who is looking for a speck in his brother's eye, not seeing a log in his own. What is a log is a trunk. A knot is just a branch from the trunk. So the trunk is passion. We see in others what is in us, what touches and touches us. If not for this, you would have passed by and not caught on this knot. We were hurt by this.

There is such a worldly expression: "A man understands everything to the extent of his depravity."

path of healing

What should a person do when he realizes that he is envious?

– Saint Theophan just says: “You must hasten to arouse good feelings, especially for the one you envy, and discover him by deed. Jealousy will subside immediately."

You should be glad that a person has something. And if you are not happy, it means that envy still sits in you.

When your friend is doing well, and instead of being happy for him, you feel a cold, skeptical mood, you need to think about it.

- Should I praise the other and try to be happy?

– Exactly. Say to yourself: “Well, thank God, a person has this gift, and it’s good. May he live for the glory of God." It is easier for a believer in this sense. Well, God gave, and gave.

- If a person realized that he was envious, repented, would this help him? Is this disease cured by repentance?

– Certainly. Firstly, a Person cannot understand anything if it is not given to him from above, as it is said in the Gospel. If it is given to him, then it is given, and why is the second question. The trouble is that we always forget this gospel truth: a hair will not fall from a man's head without the will of God. Nothing happens by accident. Chance is the pseudonym under which God acts in the world - as Pascal said.

- How to deal with envy in the family? It is very common among sisters and brothers who constantly compare themselves to others.

– Nothing happens to a person immediately, envy is not immediately black, over time its color is aggravated. For the most part, it starts insidiously. In childhood, this is envy of other people's toys, clothes, food, the fact that others are given more attention. These are small things, but they grow this passion.

I have five sons and two daughters. Once, when I came home in the evening, I noticed that the children were already lying in their beds. Toys are scattered on the floor. And I said, “See, the toys that you argued about so much during the day are now lying quietly. You lie and they lie. And in the afternoon, for some reason, this toy must be taken away from another. It's easy to take away - all you need is strength. And to yield is humility.”

Then one day I see two people fighting over a toy, and I ask: “Who has humility?” They - once, and both retreated, and the toy fell between them.

I remember a case when one of the sons (now he has already become a priest), seeing how the brothers quarrel, came up and said to one of them: “Give him this toy, because he doesn’t even need it, but he just wants to take it away from you” .

You need to talk to children about this topic, and speak directly and specifically. They understand sometimes much more than adults. And this upbringing will then prompt the right decision.

If someone else has it, and you really want it too, just be patient a little. The Lord will send you. As one father told me: “Have patience, and the Lord will send you everything, and even more.”

This happens, probably, because it is not useful for a person, even an adult, to receive everything at once. The sharpness of the moment is a very important thing in all respects.

Here, for example, the spouses begin to argue. There is such a very useful piece of advice that priests should recommend to their spiritual children: “You argued among yourselves - stop and agree that you will go and ask a priest who has spiritual authority for you to decide.” You know, when they get to the priest afterwards, there's usually nothing more to ask.

At that moment, it seems that everything must be resolved now, and then everything will be resolved by itself.

Empress Elizabeth Petrovna was a very religious person. When documents were presented to her to resolve some issues, she listened to the opposing sides, but did not immediately move the case, but waited until everything somehow took shape by itself. Therefore, probably, her reign passed without much upheaval. On the one hand, this would seem to be just an excuse for inaction, but on the other hand, very often this is the best way out. Do not tear, and, of course, do not go over the corpses. Everything will be done by itself, de even better than we could want, if we don’t pull each other, don’t make each other nervous, don’t gnaw, don’t scold.

There is such advice about proper nutrition: “Never eat or cook food in an irritated state: this is not only not healthy, but also harmful.” I found this advice in a secular book, although I had known about it for a long time from spiritual books.

If you do something in this state, then you perform 1/8, and you miss 7/8. Because we don't give places of grace. In the end, it is the Lord Himself who does everything, and the motto of a person should be like that of doctors: “Do no harm.”

The Lord said, "I am the way, the truth, and the life." This means that He is the Way, the Goal, and the Means to an end. "All means are good to achieve the goal" - this is not a Christian principle, anti-Christian, to be exact.

Is it reasonable to be selfish?

How can a person understand someone else's pain? Putting yourself in the place of another is difficult and unpleasant.

– The majority strives for acquisitions, but the few get everything. Why is the second question.

What does a person really need? Clothing? After Elizabeth Petrovna, it seems, one and a half thousand dresses remained. Solomon had 600 wives and 800 concubines. Where more? But all the same, it turned out that it was “vanity of vanities and vexation of the spirit.” It is impossible to eat more than the stomach can hold. You can't go anywhere in two cars at the same time. What's next? Power? She still needs to be held accountable. But then, and it also ends.

In this world, everything ends, and a person, in fact, does not need so much. It happens that a person lives, is satisfied with what he has, and is happy. One is happy because he had enough money to make it to retirement, while the other is not enough for a Mercedes. Happiness does not depend on quantity.

- We talked about the fact that people do not want to work on themselves and indulge their egoism. How to understand what egoism is?

- Why do you think elders are addressed as "you"?

The meaning of this is very deep. There are many generations behind each of us. Man is not something completely original. He grew up in society, he was taught by other people. Personality is made up of what has been achieved by many generations. The man says: "My opinion." Be honest, this is not your opinion, all this existed long before you. There is very little new. Everything new is the long-forgotten old. What is "I"? Remove all clothing from the man and place him in the forest. He did not invent the house in which he lives, nor clothes, nor utensils. And the body was given to him by his parents. So it can be clearly shown that the egoist has nothing to be proud of, as his own. Almost everything that is given to him is not actually his.

–But people very confidently continue to exist in their egoism. Everyone wants to live well here and now.

– There are people who can be healed only by God himself, but the Lord often does not stop such blind people, as they do not want to understand this truth. But, sorry, alas, no matter how everyone resists, everyone will die.

D believe eternal life

- You can object: “But I will die happy, I lived a rich life, I tried everything, I saw everything”

– Well, then it will turn out like in the Gospel. Read and make your choice. No one, you say, did not come from there? Remember the parable of the rich man and Lazarus. By the way, when the rich man asked Abraham that the Lord send Lazarus to his relatives, the Lord at first refused ... but then he sent Lazarus anyway. In spite of the fact that he said "no", He deigned it. Lazarus, it was Lazarus who was resurrected. But they did not believe this, and they wanted to kill him.

Everything is said in the gospel. As Belinsky said well: “There is a book in which everything is said, everything is decided, after which there is no doubt about anything, the book is immortal, holy, the book of eternal truth, eternal life - the Gospel. The whole progress of mankind, all the successes in the sciences, in philosophy, consist only in a great penetration into the mysterious depths of this Divine book.

And here are the words of Dante: “I affirm that of all human bestialities, the most stupid, meanest and most harmful is to believe that after this life there will be no other.”

- In a word, we can say that you can fight envy only by turning to God.

– Without God's help it is impossible to overcome any passion. They are so dodgy that one will constantly be replaced by another. And a person will not grab the root.

The cure is repentance and prayer. To understand that you are doing something wrong, you need to pray, ask God to reveal these sins. We need confession, Communion.
I will say very simply. I grew up in a religious family, went to church since childhood and never went to any social entertainment events. When I became a student, I attended “evenings of rest” together with my classmates and they danced waltzes, tango, foxtrot ... At the same time, I continued to attend services. I often came from church tired, but satisfied, calm. And from the "evening of rest" - broken. This contrast was immediately felt.

Why is it so important to go to the temple of God? Why is prayer important? After praying, compare your state "before" and "after", and only then draw conclusions.

– Some people treat church attendance as a formal obligation, not realizing that, first of all, it gives them a lot.

– The same is true with fasting. They say: “Does God really need me not to eat something?” This is not for God, but for us. Abstinence in food is even physically beneficial, and for children it is just a training of willpower. We do not consider it a crime when we forbid a child to eat at the wrong time. We say: "Wait for dinner, then you will eat." It's just normal upbringing. And when this happens in the Church, everyone starts to resent.

The temple is necessary for the man himself. The sacraments are given and approved here on earth so that through them a person can be strengthened in soul. When a person does not go to church, he simply deprives himself of everything: God's help, grace...

When a person goes to church more often, begins to fast, his life changes. I know people quite famous in their field who, when they started going to church, said: “We feel that our life has become different. Richer, more meaningful." Not to mention that understanding of many things comes. Of course, pride always fights and it is difficult for a person to realize something, but this is work. Labor and feat of a lifetime. That is why the holy martyr Sergius Mechev said: “In the world there are heroes, but in Christianity there are ascetics.”

Envy.

According to Melanie Klein, envy is the opposite of a love relationship. In her book Envy and Gratitude, she notes that “An envious person feels bad at the sight of pleasure. He is happy only with the suffering of others. Therefore, all attempts to satisfy envy are futile.”

Jacques Lacan emphasizes that envy and jealousy should not be confused. Envying, we do not at all strive to receive this or that object, as a rule, we do not need at all what we envy another person, since the happiness of another is not at all tailored to our shoulder.
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One more opinion.

Ways of manifestation of envy

Energy. A person loses his energy, becomes inactive and dependent. The object of Envy, on the contrary, receives it. The LANA chakra, which is responsible for the Forms, is blocked, as a result - changes in the human body and relationships with people. The main thing that worries a person, his requests. He ceases to control himself, becomes the executor of someone else's life program, his individuality is destroyed.
Emotional. A person longs for something without any effort. But, unfortunately, this is not possible. When the subject of envy begins to understand this, he becomes subject to various states. They can be directed at the object of envy and against themselves: deceit, hypocrisy, reproaches, resentment; or expressed aggressively: masochism, the desire to feel sorry for oneself. The consequence of all this is a decline in strength, a decrease in the chances of achieving what you want.
Mental. It is expressed in a decrease in creativity, a lack of a sense of joy due to rivalry, a feeling of inferiority, dependence, unwillingness to make efforts to achieve goals.
Physical: feeling of heaviness in the area of ​​the solar plexus, suffocation, difficulty breathing, deterioration of vision and hearing, change in attitude, diseases of the liver, pancreas, lower back.

Why does envy appear?

A person does not accept himself, his Destiny, denies the Divine destiny, is focused on consumer relations, is lazy, has low self-esteem, does not want and does not know how to study.

How to identify?

You need to be able to distinguish between what a person really regrets and her selfish needs.
Envy and joy for the achievement of others are not the same thing. If, with someone else's success, you feel a desire to have exactly the same thing, to do it the same way, to be able to do it just as well, and the absence of all this only causes a negative reaction in yourself - be careful, this is Envy.
It is much better to be able to rejoice in the good fortune and success of others, to strive to achieve this through hard work and study.

How to cure Envy?

Envy is the sister of Egoism. Having settled in a person, it fills with itself his energy structures, attitudes towards people. It can be compared to the boiling reaction. If this happens, you need to learn to control yourself.

How to do it?

1. Turn on your consciousness, Envy has appeared in your body. So you will transfer your attention to the Heart Center, try to observe yourself “from the side”. If this succeeded, you have already been able to defeat envy by 50%.
2. When the “boiling” reaches its climax, you are ready to throw out your emotions, do some deed to bring yourself closer to the object of Envy - stop, make an effort and don’t do it.

After such steps, you need to try to direct the energy of stress to the renewal of lost vitality.
Inspire yourself that the energy of Envy is now being transformed. Observe your feelings. The negative feeling will boil over, it will be replaced by Emptiness (due to the fact that the energy is not lost), soon emotional Softness and Purity will take possession of you.
Learn to control yourself, and your vital energy will increase, you will be able to understand the causes of Envy and control this process.

Psychologically, we can distinguish such forms of envy as:

Black envy - it is a desire to either destroy the object of envy or make him as bad as the envious. One of the reasons for this type of envy is "causal delusion" (Schoeck, 1969), that is, the perception of a person with superiority as the cause of one's own failures and humiliation. A person completely relieves himself of responsibility for what happens in his life. His life begins to obey the principle “We don’t need anything, as long as others don’t have anything.”

In this context, one must also recall the phenomenon of "corruption" and the "evil eye". If we ignore the esoteric teachings, then the following mechanism is observed: a person is envied, he naturally feels the attitude towards himself, tension is created in communication, which requires a lot of mental energy. As a result, at the end of the day, a person feels mental fatigue, called “damage”. But it should be noted that black envy is unproductive and affects the envious person: he suffers from envy more than the damage done to the person who is envied. According to research, the feeling of envy also has somatic symptoms. A person who is gnawed by envy may experience physiological symptoms: Peter Kutter (1998) notes that a person turns pale with envy, as blood vessels constrict and blood pressure rises, or turns yellow with envy, as the blood is saturated with bile. In addition, such people are suspicious, and live in constant expectation of someone else's failure, instead of creating their own success.

White envy - is of some benefit to the one who envies and to society as a whole. The object of white envy becomes a kind of standard and an object of admiration. An envious person in this case is a person who admires the abilities, qualities or achievements of another person. Such an envious person will strive in every possible way to imitate his idol and hope that someday he will become the same.

Black envy will become or white, depends on all the same mechanisms of comparison and the structure of the "I-concept".

If we are talking about a person who is starting his own business, who is full of hope, he may well look with admiration at the owner of a large corporation, dreaming that in due time he will take this place.

If two businessmen find themselves in such a position, who at one time studied together, and then each went his own way, which led one to wealth, and the other was less fortunate, then we will invariably talk about black envy. This will become a defense mechanism - after all, apart from your own abilities and fate, there is no one else to blame, and admitting this is detrimental to self-esteem. And then the aggression and humiliation of a competitor, at least in their own eyes, becomes the only defense of the psyche.

Also distinguished:

Gentle envy- a person wants to have the same thing as the object of envy, and strive for this without experiencing hostile feelings.

Evil envy- a person seeks not so much to get the same, but to deprive the object of envy of its superiority. Such envy arises from the feeling of one's own inability to reach the same level.

depressive envy- also arises from a feeling of humiliation, but it is characterized by a feeling of injustice, deprivation and doom.

G.F. de la Mora, exploring the phenomenon of envy in different historical eras, distinguishes two types of envy:

Personal jealousy - rather tested in secret and hidden, considered shameful. This is either open aggression towards the object of envy, or other forms of rejection of this person.

public envy- it is more typical for it to create and use stereotypes (“Money spoils character”, “In cramped conditions, but not offended”, etc.). These are eternal stereotypes "Envious people will die, but envy will never" as they are transmitted and distributed in society as part of the worldview. With the help of these stereotypes, it is possible, even by demonstrating envy, to accuse a person of having an object of envy.

According to G.F. de la Mora, the social predisposition to envy is directed against individual personality traits. This theory can explain aggression towards non-standard thinking people. It happens that a group pushes a talented person out of unconscious envy of his qualities.

This theory has its limitations, since one should not forget that the accusation of envy is very manipulative. A person who simply expresses his opinion, which is different from someone else's, runs the risk of being accused of envy, and then he has a choice: either defend his thought, or succumb to moral principles and retreat in order to show the absence of envy. This manipulation is possible only due to the moral aspect of envy and society's stereotypes in relation to envy.

Thus, we can say that envy is a feeling of dissatisfaction with oneself, which is largely fueled by social stereotypes about the “sinfulness” of envy.

The feeling of envy can be present in all areas of life.

Robert Plutchik considers emotional experience and the mechanisms of envy as natural experiences and identifies three criteria:

First, they are important for survival, as a stimulus for development and new achievements (they are present even in animals).

Secondly, they are recognized without introspection.

Thirdly, they are visible throughout the behavior of speech, actions, etc.

If we consider the stages of a person's life, it will become noticeable that the feeling of envy is present to one degree or another in the behavior of any person.

For the first manifestation of a feeling of envy, a person is always obliged to his parents, since parents, wishing well and for the purpose of education, always in one way or another set another, more accurate and capable, as an example to their beloved child. Such an example can relate to anything and is present in the life of a child from an early age - in the psyche there is a natural reaction of aggression towards the one with whom they compare: “why am I worse”, “they don’t like me, because I’m not like / like him ... ". In the future, with age, such a constant comparison of one's own self-sufficiency and other people's victories can be internalized, and a person turns into an envious person, although, in fact, he simply compares himself with another and feels his own inadequacy.

In the world of an endless stream of information, there are constantly many reasons to envy, and even more reasons to suffer from a clear inconsistency with the standard (the object of envy). Many programs about the life of stars make middle-class people envy them, as they realize that they cannot achieve the same benefits. Thus, envy also arises as a result of the ambition of more successful people who, announcing their success, once again assert themselves at the expense of those who admire them.

Another aspect of the illusion and magic of civilization is fashion and appearance, something that exists only there, but teenagers and not only, as a rule, experience envy mixed with admiration for models who seem to have everything. .

Envy is always based on identification: people envy those they want to be like, even if it is a myth and unattainable.

In 1999, a number of articles were published on the influence of the ideal image of the Barbie doll on the psyche of girls. Girls identify with Barbie and dream of matching her. With age, it turns out that Barbie's parameters are unrealistic: the girl clearly does not meet her requirements externally and fans do not fall asleep with flowers, as expected, everything somehow does not happen by itself.

The image itself, the philosophy of life of Barbie, are so incompatible with real life that this gap between illusion and reality can be the cause of many depressions. All this literally destroys the girl's idea of ​​the world and her place in it. It begins to seem to her that it happened to her, and everything is different for others - then glossy magazines with ideal models, their retouched bodies and stellar life come to replace Barbie.

In fact, envy is a deep sense of disappointment in one's achievements, a sense of inadequacy, imperfection due to the well-known stereotype that envy is something shameful, and a sense of guilt for the presence of this feeling of envy is layered on hurt self-esteem.

Envy is a kind of deceit, the desire to be happy is transferred to an object or model that another has, thus, dependence on the model is formed, as a symbol of sufficiency. Thus, the circle closes: the suppression of dissatisfaction entails aggression, then envy and guilt arise, imposed by the “Super-I” installation - this is how a person ceases to feel his own life and only boils in the cauldron of his own passions, it is not for nothing that they say that envy destroys from within .

The cycle of family relationships is often associated with natural envy: with the appearance of a child in the family, when the mother is the whole world for the child, a man envies her and their relationship with the child, close connection and may feel rejected. With age, the attention of the child switches to the father, as a symbol of activity, activity, connection with the outside world - and the mother already envies the form of relationship that she cannot build with the child. Later, both parents envy the company, which becomes the meaning of their child's life in adolescence. Then the cycle repeats, but already that child takes the place of the parent. This experience is common to all people, but most are afraid to admit it to themselves.

There is a category of people who, having a lot, still envy others - this is not a desire to possess something specific, but rather a feeling of their own inferiority, an envious person is looking for an advantage that he lacks in anyone and in anything, just to fill the inner emptiness and dissatisfaction. Such a person envies those feelings, qualities that the one who is envied possesses. This phenomenon is explained by the results of a study by S. Frankel and I. Sherik.

The results of the study S. Frankel and I. Sherik say that the first deep psychological aspect of envy is that they want to get not so much a good that is not available, but a feeling from it. In the experiment, it was revealed that the child is jealous of the toy only when his neighbor is interested in it. He wants to get the same pleasure from her (although at first she was not interesting to him).

1. There must be the ability to oppose the "I" and the object (for the libido-aggressive replacement of the object of envy);
2. There must be a concept of ownership;
3. There must be the ability to imagine and foresee the desired end state.

This experiment, in turn, confirms and supplements the theory of equilibrium by F. Haider, who believes that a person can envy because of a thing that belongs to another, although before he himself never felt the need for it and did not even think about it - that is, you can wanting something just because someone else has it. F. Haider suggested that there is a so-called motive, the desire for the same fate and equal results.

Thus, envy is a reaction to inequality, a desire for justice only in relation to oneself. Interestingly, this motive works only in the context of an equally good, prosperous fate, which confirms the natural egoism of a person.

Fighting envy is useless, since envy always disguises itself as other feelings: aggression, irritation, depression.

Ways to get rid of envy can be:

1. Active ways- such as self-improvement, search for new, own goals and opportunities for their implementation;
2. Passive ways- people who do not have enough strength to cope with competition, depression, apathy sets in.

A more productive, albeit passive, way to get rid of envy is reflection, the search for answers to the questions of why this particular item is needed and what it will bring for happiness, whose goals are these and what they mean specifically for the envious person: “We are more upset about what we don’t have than we are happy about what we have.”

The topic is very complex and controversial. The more you dig, the further the bottom.

My conclusion and my opinion at this stage of life.

The blows of envy are very strong. Swing the pendulum twice.
1. In physics, a sensation of impact, pressure, burning sensation at chest level from the back. Nausea.
2. We felt, we are leaving this place, it is useless to fight.
3. We recovered, analyzed, understood who it was. They removed this person from the circle of their Trust without pity.
4. We thank the Higher powers for the lesson.
5. We are so free that there is simply no envy from others for us. We watch this game from the outside and do not take part in it. We're just watching. Cool)). We do not envy ourselves and do not give a reason.