Difficult life lessons that, having learned already in your 20s, will allow you to quickly change yourself for the better and start a successful life
When you cross the 20-year mark, you begin to realize that you need to because you have grown. You already look like an adult, not like a child. This is reality, and you need to face the truth. The sooner you learn difficult life lessons the sooner you can change yourself for the better and start a successful life. What is important to know after reaching the age of twenty?
- Love can hurt. But without love it is impossible. Sometimes without it even more painful.
- Value friendship. It has a far greater impact on your life than where you work or what you earn.
- Do not lose your personality, spirituality. You are not your job or the amount you own. You can't let these things consume you. It ends up losing itself.
- Treat the job with love, but don't be discouraged if you don't fit. The company you work for doesn't like you? She is not a living being - she has no heart. You can easily be replaced. Just be aware of this and remember that getting fired is not the end of the world.
- Your decisions shape your future life. Especially when it comes to marriage. Think carefully about your choice, listen not only to your heart, but also to your mind.
- Love is commitment.
- Believe it or not, passions are formed from values and vice versa. Make the right choice to appreciate what really deserves it.
- Honesty preserves honor. If you lose the first, you will lose the second.
- Rejoice in your health. Appreciate it - it is not eternal.
- Find your passion. It could be photography, juggling, whatever. Practice and improve your skills. Later they will definitely change your life.
- Don't bother comparing yourself to others. This will only lead to disappointment and a spoiled mood. Well, or as an option - to pride. And that's just as bad.
- Most disappointment comes from unrealistic expectations. Therefore, you need to set realistic goals for yourself. Build on your strengths, strive to surpass them. But do not try to jump over your head where you are sure to be defeated.
- Don't do for others what they should do for themselves. If you want to help someone achieve results, guide, inspire, support. But don't get involved. And don't let me interfere with your business. We must fight against difficulties and achieve everything personally.
- Don't give false hopes to others. You will doom both yourself and the one who hopes to mental torment.
- Don't complain about the situation. Either try to change these conditions, or try to change your point of view and look at everything from a different angle. Or take everything as it is, adapt.
- Doing any work, you need to worry not about money, which you can get for it. You need to worry about the quality of this work.
- Try to work conscientiously even in the lowest paid position. The slightest deviation from direct duties for good or bad will be noticed. If not the boss, then the colleagues.
- In fact, privacy, confidentiality is a myth. You are always in the sight of people, of God, of yourself. Maybe you should start life differently?
- Do not look down on others if they are not as beautiful or capable. Not everyone is given such gifts of fate. Be humble.
- Failure is an opportunity to learn a lesson. Not a single person who has achieved success has done without mistakes and bad luck, from which you can extract something useful for yourself. It is necessary not to become limp, but to look for meaning.
- Always apologize if the person they are meant for deserves it. Do not delay with them and be sincere, bring them personally.
- Do not torture yourself with transgressions for which you have already been forgiven. However, the shame that arises when remembering them will allow you to avoid repeated mistakes.
- Life is hard when you don't believe in anything. Faith shapes trust, behavior, and life beliefs.
- The only sure thing to do quickly is to stop doing things quickly. Haste can complicate your life, so solve things calmly, without rushing. This way you will avoid many mistakes.
- Every person needs correction. Everyone. And this is absolutely normal.
- Do the work first so you can have fun later without guilt. Even better - love your work, then it will become fun for you.
- If you want to develop your abilities, become stronger and better, stop worrying about things you can't do. Do what you can do.
- Avoid fighting. No, seriously - run from them like the plague. Don't jump on the rampage if it can be avoided.
- If you are bored, then you are doing something wrong.
- Never stop learning. You can acquire a lot of skills and abilities that will help you in life.
- Nothing in real life, no pain, no agony, no failure of any kind, compares to the eternal joy in Heaven.
- There is nothing easier than losing joy due to over-analysis.
- Your life purpose defines you as a person. Sometimes it needs to be revisited.
- Your opinion really matters. Do not be afraid to think and draw conclusions.
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I have chemistry. If I could still somehow learn physics, at least a paragraph by heart, at least understand something, then chemistry is a complete zero. And taught, and studied, and all to no avail. At the economic level (acid plus alkali is equal to the reaction with the release of heat), I understand perfectly. As a school subject - zero.
Despite the excellent teacher, the most difficult thing for me was drawing. And even if I eventually understood physics or geometry that was difficult for me, then even a simple task to draw an object from different positions caused me a stupor.
Drawing was just not difficult for me, but physics was a dark forest. At that time there were no handouts, interactive whiteboards. There was an old TV set in the classroom, and it didn't work. I’m even wondering, now the son of a physicist will begin, how we will study now.
At school, I was still that lazy, although I managed to study without triples. Therefore, for me there were several subjects that seemed difficult. Yes, this is drawing (I simply didn’t understand why we needed it, but I seemed to cope with grief in half), chemistry (the teacher, as it turned out, didn’t know how to explain anything at all), physics (I just wasn’t interested in this subject), computer science (the teacher did not focus on everyone, but only on those who were preparing for the Olympiads in their subject).
The most difficult subject for me at school was chemistry. I will not say that our chemist was a bad teacher, she knew her subject well, but could not convey it to us. And I wasn't the only one who didn't understand chemistry.
For me, the most difficult subjects were geometry and drawing. I did not like these subjects and did not understand. But I graduated from school with grades "good" in these subjects, the guys from my class helped me draw and solve.
Today, a wide variety of academic disciplines are taught in public schools - biology, physics, chemistry, algebra, literature, foreign languages, and so on. - which should contribute to the formation of a harmonious and educated personality. But some scientists are sure that the list of compulsory school subjects should be completely different.
1. Fundamentals of writing fantasy novels
If you ask any elementary school student, they will say: making up your own stories is fun. Many scientists argue that for the best development of imaginative thinking, children should not only learn classical literature, but also learn to write books themselves.
2. Applied mechanics (invention)
In schools, as a rule, they teach abstract algebra and geometry, which is of little use to anyone in life. Most children find these subjects boring because the curriculum only provides bare theory. Surely, more people would begin to get involved in the exact sciences if they taught them through practical examples, while inventing various devices. Maybe there would be a new Leonardo da Vinci in the world.
3. Filmmaking
Some public schools have theater clubs that are optional, not compulsory. But in such circles they usually teach performing skills. Given the pace at which the film industry is developing in the world, it would be worth teaching children how to make films or TV shows. For example, one has only to imagine how much more brilliant films Steven Spielberg would have made if he had received the appropriate education at school.
4. Latin
In the modern world, it is very important to know not only your native language. Latin is the basis of any language of the Romance group. If you get at least a basic knowledge of Latin at school, then it will be much easier to learn Spanish, Italian, Portuguese and French.
5. Multidenominational theology
After graduating from a public school or college, most young people have no idea about the intricacies of interpretation of most of the world's major religions. In order not to prejudice the beliefs of other nationalities, it would be worthwhile to familiarize yourself with the pros and cons of each of them.
6. History of philosophy
Of course, it is worth being realistic and not relying on the fact that children will be able to fully comprehend all the complexity and abstraction of philosophical science. But the basics of philosophy could be useful in everyday life: people would stop thinking too one-sidedly. All famous politicians were often guided in their work and decision-making by the works of such geniuses as Socrates, Plato, Aristotle, Confucius, Gautam, Sun Tzu and many others.
7. Sports
All schools have physical education classes designed to keep children in general physical shape. It would be much more practical for children, in addition to running and jumping, to also learn the basics and rules of popular sports such as football or basketball.
8. Chess
Most people have a very vague idea of how different pieces move in chess. There are only 1000 International Grandmasters worldwide. At the same time, absolutely all scientists admit that chess is an excellent tool for the development of the mind. Professional chess players almost always show better results in the exact sciences, and are also much more diligent and have more analytical thinking.
9. Music
There are music lessons in almost any school, but the knowledge that children receive is very fragmentary. For example, only a paragraph in a textbook can be devoted to Beethoven, and most high school students do not know anything at all about Rachmaninov. Classical music would obviously not be superfluous in the school curriculum.
10. Martial arts
It would not be superfluous to include the basics of teaching martial arts in physical education lessons so that children can protect themselves from bullies. Also, children could gain more self-confidence, which would help them in later life.
As soon as a person becomes an adult, he understands that at school he was taught not at all what can be used in real life. In our previous review.
On the eve of September 1 and the beginning of the school season, Levada Center analysts asked themselves what subjects the inhabitants of the Russian Federation consider compulsory, necessary and important for school.
The survey involved 1,600 people in 137 settlements in 48 regions of the country. As a result, it turned out that the least respondents liked the foundations of religion and secular ethics - only 5% spoke in favor of them. Interestingly, along with this, 89% of the respondents believe that the school should instill in children love for the Motherland, and 85% also engage in spiritual and moral education.
Here are the most important school subjects according to Russians.
| Aug.16 | |
| Russian language | 68 |
| Mathematics | 53 |
| Story | 33 |
| Literature | 32 |
| Foreign language | 27 |
| Informatics, computer literacy, programming | 23 |
| Physics, chemistry, biology | 21 |
| Physical culture, sports | 18 |
| Labor education / housekeeping | 13 |
| Geography | 10 |
| First aid skills | 9 |
| Social sciences (social science, sociology, economics, political science) | 9 |
| National language and literature (in the republics and autonomous regions) | 7 |
| sex education | 7 |
| Artistic creativity, art, music | 6 |
| Fundamentals of Religious Cultures and Secular Ethics | 5 |
| Other items | 1 |
| Difficult to answer | 4 |
10. First aid skills and social sciences
Humanities in the eyes of the inhabitants of Russia, apparently, are considered unimportant. Social studies with sociology, economics and political science, although included in the top 10 most needed subjects in school, took the last place along with medical skills. Both subjects were supported by an equal number of respondents - 9%.
9. Geography
One of the most ancient sciences, which originated in ancient times, is not very popular among Russians - only 10% spoke for its importance in school education.
8. Labor education
Both geography and the social sciences were bypassed by labor education by a few percent. Sociology is sociology, but you need to be able to sew on a button - 13% of the respondents think so.
7. Physical education and sports
18% of respondents believe that the school should help children make up for the lack of active movement created, among other things, by the increased teaching load.
6. Natural sciences
During the reform of school education in Russia, the natural sciences suffered the most. A change in the teaching model (from linear to concentric), final exams in test form, reduction of hours, difficulties with equipment (and for chemistry, physics and biology it is extremely important) led to a drop in the prestige of the field of knowledge once popular in the USSR among parents and students. 21% of respondents spoke for the natural sciences.
5. Foreign languages
4. Literature
32% of respondents consider it necessary for schoolchildren to know texts that have the greatest cultural significance in the history of Russia and the world. In addition to purely readership and general educational interest, entry into culture, understanding of its plots, images and motives, and, as a result, the same patriotic and spiritual and moral education, which the majority of respondents are excited about, also play a role.
3. History
This school subject was approved by 33% of respondents. In general, the majority of former schoolchildren retained the warmest memories of history - according to the results of the FOM polls, 76% of respondents liked this subject. The difficulty with history is that it is one of the disciplines in which a lot depends on the personality of the teacher. The second problem is the abundance of ideological manipulations in the presentation of material and the strong ideologization of the subject.
2. Mathematics
With a significant margin of 20%, mathematics is ahead of history - 53% of respondents are in favor of its importance, necessity and usefulness. The number of hours a week devoted to mathematics clearly speaks of the importance of the subject in the eyes of teachers, their pupils, and parents. Although, oddly enough, all the importance of mathematics miraculously disappears when entering a university (if it is not specialized, of course). And in the future, the first thing that can come in handy is the ability to count money when paying in a supermarket.
1. Russian language
And in the first place in the top 10 most important school subjects, according to the respondents, was the Russian language. In the rankings, he leads by a huge margin. 68% spoke in favor of the great and mighty. And no wonder - this is the only subject that will determine the ability to communicate, understand another and convey one's point of view for a lifetime.
Satisfaction of Russians with the current education system (chart)
I’ll make a reservation right away - this is my personal opinion as ex-schoolgirls and mothers. Albeit subjective, but justified. It's just a shame to watch how children and teachers spend a lot of energy, time and nerves on useless lessons.
The school curriculum is such a thing that more than one hundred copies have been broken. And it seems that every year it is changed, long-suffering: one thing will be added, then another will be removed. Either they juggle astronomy, or dance with a tambourine around the lessons of Orthodoxy. What do we really want from a school? To give a person knowledge that will be useful to him in life? Fundamentals of comprehensive development? Interested in further study of the subject?
I remember my own studies. I know what my own daughter is being taught now. And I have my own rating of the most useless school subjects.
1. OBZh - the basics of life safety
This is an absolute hit. What is worth only deciphering the abbreviation! She herself is unsympathetic. And in the long form - this is some kind of stillborn set of words. The basics of life safety, if you think about it, are taught to the child by parents. Do not climb into boiling water, do not grab a hot stove, pass the knife correctly and cross the road. And at school? In our country, this subject was taught by a former military man, who enthusiastically told how to behave during a nuclear explosion. Yes, do not behave, you will die anyway. And me too. And I, like a real hipster in headphones, will die without even realizing what happened. And knowing how to properly put on a gas mask will not help at all.
No, knowledge of how to pump out a drowning person, how to wash off pepper gas from the face or bandage hands and feet will certainly come in handy. But memorized military ranks (!) Or the practice of writing essays on the topic “Ideal Soldier” - hardly. Meanwhile, the first paragraph is usually limited to instructions like "In any incomprehensible situation, apply ice and call an ambulance." (What practice? Why are you?) But the second point is presented quite extensively. And, in my opinion, this is an extremely mediocre waste of time. The essay can also be written in Russian.
What to replace: first aid classes, how to recognize a stroke, how to act in emergency situations (lost, for example). And it would be nice to explain what kind of help a person who finds himself in such a situation is entitled to - from the police, from doctors and officials.
2. Labor education
In the form in which it exists now, it is an anachronism. For example, I was taught to embroider. Guys, seriously? Embroidery can become a hobby. But give it school time? Of course, the basics of cooking or sewing will come in handy. True, it is hardly worth sewing an apron or a skirt at school. All the same, only a few will do it in life. “It would be better if they taught how to darn socks. Or put patches on jeans, ”I muttered, drawing out a machine line manually with a needle. What for??? Why do I need these skills? However, I don’t even darn socks - I send them to the trash with an unwavering hand. And my daughter was taught to sew on a manual machine. Apparently, in case it falls into the Stone Age and electricity is cancelled.
What about kitchen design? As soon as it comes to my own kitchen, I will be my own designer, and not a single school textbook will tell me here.
Boys are taught to grind, saw and plan. No, not bad, of course. Although I have not seen a single adult man who enthusiastically knocks together stools. No, I'm lying. I saw one. He makes a living doing this. In general, a stool is much easier to buy than to make. Of course, I welcome the ability to hold a hammer in my hands. But a milling machine is unlikely to appear in my family nest.
What to replace: why not teach girls style lessons since we decided to raise a lady? The appropriateness of makeup, the compatibility of colors and elements of clothing - everything is better than embroidery. Manicure, maybe even the basics of hairdressing. Again, it would be useful for career guidance.
What about boys? You know, for sure every woman has a dream that her man could fix a faucet or a sink. Do you know many men who knew anything about the sink before you asked to fix something there? And one more, in my opinion, useful skill is to understand cars. Change the wheel, fasten the terminal on the battery. Know how the hood opens.
And certainly neither one nor the other would benefit from driving lessons. At least on the stand, at least the beginning, the basics. Personally, I would trade any hoop for driving practice.
3. Physical education
Do not rush to throw slippers at me. I am not advocating to stop being active. But there are nuances. In most schools, physical education is taught well, just miserable. In general, they do not count as a lesson. On the one hand, not every school has the opportunity to teach swimming, for example, or skating. And there is no possibility to take a shower either. And it sucks.
On the other hand… I don't even know. Maybe a tradition? After all, for the last 30 years, physical education lessons look the same: for most of the quarter we play the fool, play volleyball, stand in a circle, or chatter. And three or four lessons out of the whole quarter we pass the standards like crazy. Moreover, the majority can neither do push-ups correctly, nor sit down, nor pull themselves up. Maybe they learned the rules of the game in the same volleyball or basketball? Nope. What did you do for so many years in physical education? Unclear.
But we wrote essays. About the same basketball. This is how couch fans grow up.
And one more thing - my, personally, my physical education teacher was so mediocre that he trusted the relay races to the most active students from my own class. They themselves came up with the stages, they carried them out themselves. We felt incredibly cool. For me, relay races ended when I broke my arm right in the lesson. After this incident, one kind of gym scared me to hiccups. And my own appearance scared the teacher to hiccups.
What to replace: basics of self-defense and choreography. It will be useful for both. And also - at least some theory of a healthy lifestyle: nutrition, metabolism, other basics of fitness.
