Modern rules of etiquette practically do not differ from the rules of etiquette of the past centuries. Some adjustments have made the pace and way of modern life.

Of the general rules, ten of the most relevant and necessary for observance by a decent person can be distinguished.

First rule of etiquette: courtesy

As the first rule, you can single out a polite attitude towards people around you. Acquaintances, the closest relatives and friends or complete strangers. And it does not matter where exactly the person is: in the store, public transport, on the street, at work, at home. Always and everywhere you need to be able to politely address others.

The second rule of etiquette: greeting

The second rule says that the person entering the room must greet first. Whoever it is: a boss, an academician, a president, a simple passer-by, a child. Words of greeting should sound exactly from the incoming.

It should be noted that if a companion greets a stranger, the couple should also say the words of greeting.

The third rule of etiquette: gratitude

People often forget to say words of gratitude to their relatives, relatives and friends. Taking everything that happens for granted. After all, their care and love is not forced, but from a pure heart. The third rule of modern etiquette is the word thank you.

The fourth rule of etiquette: decent behavior in public places

You shouldn't laugh too loudly in public places. Screaming and judging other people while pointing your finger.

Fifth rule of etiquette: for drivers

Very often, drivers forget about the rules of decent behavior on the road. You can not rush through puddles and mud, splashing pedestrians. Please slow down.

The sixth rule of etiquette: cleanliness and fashion

Being in public places, and even at home, a person should monitor personal hygiene. Dress in clean, neat clothes. Put on clean shoes. And don't blindly follow fashion. It is better to dress not only fashionably, but beautifully and neatly.

Seventh rule of etiquette: unexpected guests

You can't visit without an invitation. Be sure to give advance notice of your visit.

The eighth rule of etiquette: a smartphone and other people's SMS

When visiting, at a meeting, in a cafe or restaurant, in no case should you keep your smartphone on the table. This is a manifestation of complete disrespect for the interlocutor. And that means that virtual communication is more important than live.

Rummaging through someone else's phone or pockets in order to read SMS or simple correspondence is extremely impolite and ugly towards a person. This rule applies to both parents in relation to children and spouses.

The ninth rule of etiquette: response to an insult

Now everyone a large number of problems and worries. People are trying to throw all their anger and hatred on others. Having met with rudeness and insult, you just need to smile and move away, leaving the offender with all his anger. Do not stoop to raising your voice and insulting in response.

Tenth rule of etiquette: the habit of knocking on a closed door

Parents, as soon as the baby begins to live in a separate room, need to develop the habit of knocking before entering the nursery. Then the children will knock on the door of their parents' bedroom.

This is not the whole list of rules of modern etiquette, but adhering to at least these ten, a person can win universal respect. And with dignity to be called a cultured and educated member of society.

Respect each other and respect again! That's what we learn all our lives. Being educated means not causing inconvenience to other people, not offending anyone with your remarks and looking decent in any situation.

Now I will talk about violations of modern etiquette which little is known. Worth checking out for sure!

Rules of etiquette in society

Gross violations

1. You applaud wrong
   Clap your hands at chest level. Never applaud in front of your own face, and even more so in front of another person.
2. You get into the car ungracefully
   Sit on the seat first and only then gracefully place your feet into the cabin. It looks more aesthetically pleasing from the outside and will help you avoid painful and ridiculous head-butting on a car doorway. If your shoes are covered in snow, be sure to shake them off before you sit down in the salon.
   
   
3. You embarrass strangers
   Do not stare at other people, this is bad manners. Even more so, you should not discuss the appearance of strangers with a friend, even if the outfit is really flashy.
4. You spread butter or jam from a shared plate
   The sequence of actions is as follows: first put some butter or jam on your plate. Then spread a sandwich! That's all. Why is this considered more acceptable and correct? Because the crumbs do not end up on the common plate!
   
   
5. You don't care about those who sit next to you at the table
   Polite people do not want to pull someone during a feast once again, and they are also very shy. Take the initiative and pass the salt or pepper shaker first! In the same way, be the first to pass other dishes, politely asking if your neighbor wants to taste them.
   
   
6. You don't pay attention to your posture
   Surely you have not thought about it, but looking at a person hunched over a plate at the table is always unpleasant. Keep your back straight in any situation and train yourself to follow it! Posture, it turns out, tells people a lot...
7. You drink during your toast
   Do not drink a glass after the words spoken in your honor! Instead, make a gesture of gratitude towards the one who made the toast, thus showing respect and appreciation. Few people know about this!
   
   
8. You are sloppy with napkins
   After eating, do not wipe your lips with a napkin: you just need to blot your mouth with it. Already used paper napkins can be slightly wrinkled, but in no case crumple! Table etiquette rules decorate the feast, making it relaxed, help to avoid embarrassment.
9. You return empty plates
   If you were treated and given a dish in a plate, it is considered impolite to return it empty. Place there cookies, a handful of sweets, nuts - all as a token of gratitude for the treat.
   
   
10. You start eating before the owner of the table
    Good etiquette rules they say that you need to respect the head of the family and home. Wait for the owner to start eating first. That's all wisdom!
11. You cough into your right hand
    If you are unwell or choking, you may want to clear your throat. You can not use your right hand to cover your mouth, you need to do this only with your left hand.
12. You don't make eye contact during the toast
    When you touch your interlocutor's glass with your glass, you need to meet his gaze, expressing your openness and sincerity! Looking away is bad form.
    
    
13. You point your finger at an object of interest to you
    Pointing fingers is the last thing. It is much better to make a gesture with an open palm in the direction to which you want to attract the attention of the interlocutor.
14. You are not polite enough
    If you are walking along the street with someone and your companion greets a person passing by, by all means say hello. In this case, to remain silent means to appear impolite and repulsive.
    
    
15. You carry a bag on your right shoulder
    According to the rules of etiquette, the bag should be worn on the left shoulder, not on the right. The thing is that the right hand is “social”, which is why you can’t hide behind it when you cough. Even if you are a woman and do not shake hands, the right hand is considered a contact.
    
    
16. You leave your smartphone on a table in a public place
    Of course it's disrespectful! This is especially unpleasant for those with whom you are next to at a table in a cafe or at a dinner table. It shows how important the gadget is to you and how little you care about what's going on around you.
    
    

T.V. Mishatkina

Ethics and etiquette

Etiquette is reason for those who do not have it Voltaire

Good manners are more important than virtue O. Wilde

The culture of communication, which determines how we feel in society, how people treat us: they love us or neglect us, is based on the observance of certain rules called etiquette. These rules have been developed by mankind for thousands of years - since the late Middle Ages. They regulate what is permissible and acceptable in a given society or in a given situation, and what is not. Of course, etiquette determines only the forms, the “technique” of communication, therefore, knowing the rules of etiquette in itself is not enough to be considered a cultured, well-mannered person. Behavior in society should be based on the general principles and norms of morality, demonstrating the connection between ethics and etiquette. Every issue related to etiquette must be dealt with in the light of ethical standards. Our manners are a reflection of our ethical ideas. Politeness and attention to people, sympathy and the ability to understand another person - these high ethical qualities that underlie moral behavior are reflected in simple norms of etiquette.

What is etiquette?

There are many definitions of etiquette. One of the most common reads: etiquetteis a set of rules of conduct adopted in society.

Sometimes etiquette is defined as:

regulations behavior(behavior - from the "veda" - knowledge);

regulations courtesy(politeness - also from "know", know);

regulations propriety(decency - from the "face", "image", the person's face);

culture actions and manners (“cultural” - in contrast to “natural”, “wild”, means “man-made, organized, ordered”).

Etiquette applies to all areas of life: specific rules prescribe how to maintain hygiene, talk, dress, behave at the table, in a team, in a family, public places, in a theater, on the street, etc. Without respect for the norms of etiquette, interpersonal, cultural, business and even political relations are impossible, because it is impossible to exist without respecting each other, without imposing certain restrictions on one's behavior.

The etiquette contains general human norms of communication, preserved for thousands of years and characteristic of many peoples. Therefore, they are observed (or should be observed) by representatives not only of a particular society, but by all people. For example, simple rules of politeness, greetings, expression of gratitude are inherent in all people without exception.

Of course, various peoples made their own corrections and additions to etiquette, related to the peculiarities of their own culture. Therefore, etiquette also reflects specific national peculiarities communication: traditions, customs, rituals, rituals corresponding to the historical conditions of life of different peoples. So, the celebration of holidays - New Year or Christmas, wedding ceremonies and birthdays are celebrated in different nations in different ways, meeting their moral and aesthetic needs.

In addition, as the living conditions of people change, the growth of education and culture in society, some rules of behavior are replaced by others. What used to be considered indecent becomes generally accepted, and vice versa.

Thus, the requirements of etiquette are historical character, they are not absolute, they relative observance of them depends on the place, time and circumstances. Behavior that is unacceptable in one place and under one circumstance may be appropriate in another place and under other circumstances. The rules of etiquette are conditional, they seem to be in the nature of an unwritten agreement about what is generally accepted in people's behavior and what is not. This convention is explained by the fact that the task of etiquette is to offer people such forms - stereotypes of behavior that can facilitate communication and understanding between them. Therefore, etiquette can be considered as a special form of manifestation of moral culture, because good manners are external reflection internal human culture, his moral qualities.

True, there are exceptions. So, high inner spirituality, kindness and decency of a poorly educated simple person may not be manifested in his manners - because of ignorance of the rules of etiquette. And vice versa: the refined manners of a courteous dude and womanizer are not yet evidence of his moral culture.

In addition, all types of their communication: speech addressed to elders, peers, younger at a meeting and parting; manner of moving, eating, wearing clothes and jewelry, celebrating sad and joyful events, receiving guests - a person tries to give not only moral, but also aesthetic character. It is no coincidence that we say: "beautiful manners, beautiful behavior, beautiful gestures, postures, facial expressions." Therefore, it can be said that the aesthetic form of manifestation of the moral culture of a person accepted in society is calledetiquette.

So, etiquette is a large and important part of human culture, morality and morality, developed over many centuries by the combined efforts of people in accordance with their ideas about goodness, justice, humanity, beauty and order in their own lives.

Every cultured person should not only know and observe the basic norms of etiquette, but also understand their necessity. The ability to behave in society is very important: it facilitates the establishment of contacts, contributes to the achievement of mutual understanding, creates good, stable relationships. Consider the specific rules of human behavior in different situations.

Good manners are the basis of the behavior of a well-mannered person in society. The way of dealing with other people, the expressions used in speech, tone, intonation, gait, gestures and facial expressions are all called manners. Modesty and restraint, the ability to control one's actions, to communicate attentively and tactfully with other people - it is on these qualities that good manners are based. There are a few basic etiquette rules to follow.

It is customary to consider bad manners the habit of speaking loudly, not embarrassed in expressions, swagger in gestures and behavior, slovenliness in clothes, rudeness, frank hostility to others, disregard for other people's interests and requests, shamelessly imposing one's will and desires on other people. Also - the inability to restrain one's irritation, deliberate insult to the dignity of the people around, tactlessness and foul language.

Manners refer to the culture of human behavior and are regulated by etiquette. Etiquette implies a benevolent and respectful attitude towards all people, regardless of their position and social status. It includes courteous treatment of a woman, respectful attitude towards elders, forms of address and greetings, rules of conversation and behavior at the table. In general, etiquette in a civilized society coincides with the general requirements of politeness, which are based on the principles of humanism.

A prerequisite for communication is delicacy, which should not be excessive. Do not take for this quality flattery and unjustified praise of what you see or hear. It is not necessary to hide hard that for the first time you are seeing something, listening, tasting, being afraid to seem ignorant. Any pretense repels.

The ability to behave correctly in various situations can protect you from an unfriendly attitude, which, of course, is important for any person, and especially when it comes to his business relationships. The exchange of formal courtesies (if only it is not outright toadying) is actually not such a banal thing as it seems at first glance. By showing proper tact, you win over the interlocutor and leave a pleasant impression - that's the whole axiom.

The idea of ​​the excessive complexity of the rules of etiquette and the desire to simplify relations is highly controversial. Stop showing each other signs of respect - this does not mean taking life easier.

courtesy

When it comes to social events, you should: answer as soon as possible whether you are coming or not; one should not break a promise except for a very serious reason; and immediately inform the organizer about everything that has anything to do with your participation in the event.

This approach is universal. Of course, a formal breakfast is more important than a pub party, but the essence is the same. Call by phone if you are late or cannot come at all, even if it is an informal meeting. It may surprise you, but people sometimes worry about you. For example, did you have an accident if you didn't show up for a meeting? In these days of auto-response, you can cowardly call people when you figure they should be away and leave your apology on the auto-response.

How to represent people

There are formal rules about how people should be represented. There are situations when you certainly must do this with the utmost care. More generally, in a normal life situation or at work, if there is any doubt that someone is not familiar with someone, you should introduce people to each other in the simplest possible way. Of course, you can say more if you like. You can also continue on your way right away, but you still have to submit. It is considered very bad form to force your friends to listen to your conversation with someone else without even introducing them to each other.

All this is even more important when it comes to social events. Many people who are otherwise polite and sensible do not do well in this task. They believe that introducing people to each other is not their business. Either they are too shy, or they think that everyone already knows each other; or find it too formal and tedious to introduce everyone by name. However, the introduction is so important to the normal conduct of the conversation that it does not matter who exactly does it. You may mistakenly introduce your brother and sister to each other, but remember: it is better to introduce people you already know to each other than not to introduce at all. It should not be assumed that everyone already knows each other. This is another example of underestimating one's own importance: at a public event. You may not know almost anyone, but others may have even fewer acquaintances there. Then you can become a link between the two groups, and it is your responsibility to introduce them.

How to give thanks

What could be more important than this? When I tell people that I'm writing a book on etiquette, this is the topic that worries them the most, and they insist that I make sure to cover it. It hurts them how much other people don't bother to say "Thank you." This feeling is so universal - then who are the people who do not bother to thank? Perhaps people are more expecting words of gratitude from others and react sharply to their absence or insufficiency, while they themselves generally forget to say “Thank you”.

In this area, there are a huge number of options, and you have to reckon with local traditions. However, in general, you should thank people appropriately for almost everything: for an invitation (even if you declined it), for a gift, for a weekend spent at someone's house. You express gratitude immediately, and if the favor or gift is very significant, you later thank again - in a letter, or by phone, or in person. (If you're thanking a family or group of people, it's best to do it in writing, as you may not be able to reach everyone on the phone.) In some cases, you may want to give a small token gift. You should never think things like “Oh, they probably know how grateful I am to them, so there’s no need to talk about it” or “So many people gave me wedding gifts, so they don’t expect me to thank each of them in writing.” ". Both are fundamentally wrong! I want to emphasize again: you will never make a mistake and you will not offend anyone by expressing gratitude, but you will be wrong if you neglect this simple act of courtesy.

Personal habits

There is a general opinion about certain manners and habits that are inappropriate. This point of view of people should be reckoned with, even if you do not share it yourself. The rules include the following:

1. Use your hand to cover your mouth when you cough or yawn.
2. Use a handkerchief when you sneeze, or cover your nose with your hand if you don't have time to do otherwise. Don't pick your nose and don't sniff.
3. Do not itch or pick anything out from under your nails - such actions make a repulsive impression.

The main idea: you should not do anything that is unpleasant for people who are forced to look at it.

Little embarrassment

Sometimes it happens that we unwittingly offend someone. No one is immune from mistakes, from unexpected faux pas in conversation or gesture. As a rule, it is enough just to sincerely apologize - and the incident will be settled. If you are not deprived of a sense of humor, then perhaps the best way to apologize is to admit in a funny way your mistake, laughing at yourself. In any case, the moment of tension that has arisen cannot be left unresolved - it will be unpleasant for both you and your interlocutor.

When a person sneezes, you should tell him "be healthy!" even whether you know him or not.

clothing

Many people always dress their own way and don't worry about it. For example, they wear jeans with a shirt everywhere - both to work and to a wedding. Others do not leave the bedroom without makeup and high-heeled shoes. Such people probably have no problem deciding on clothing. The rest (mostly women, since men tend to have fewer styles and options for clothing and thus less likely to make mistakes) have to think about this problem. In this case, you need to either follow the rules, or think carefully yourself.

If we are talking about a completely official event, then perhaps the invitation will give some recommendations about this, or you can call the organizers and ask - this would be a completely normal and reasonable step. If the event is less formal, then it is best to ask the hostess or another guest. When it comes to visiting some fashionable place, it is correct to ask the owner (or a friend if he invited you to stay at his parents' house): "Are we going to change for dinner?" An elegant dress will help a woman in almost any situation. Men are more difficult in this regard, since in some cases a tuxedo will be required for dinner. Usually you will be warned about this in advance, but there will be nothing wrong if you ask about it yourself.

If you still can't figure out how to dress appropriately for an event, ask yourself: "What clothes do I think are most appropriate for this occasion?" Some people do not like to wear too little, others do not recognize the formal style, others categorically do not want to dress like others ... Think carefully and choose your outfit; it may not be perfect, but at least you won't feel uncomfortable.

Old-fashioned good manners and their modern version

There were many traditional rules about how men should behave towards women. These rules may look quite old-fashioned today. On the one hand, there is nothing wrong with men continuing to show scrupulous courtesy to women. Even the most ardent feminists are unlikely to resent someone who simply tries to be polite to them. There is nothing offensive in the fact, for example, that a door will be opened for a woman. On the other hand, a woman should not necessarily be considered a manifestation of rudeness or bad breeding if a modern young man, generally polite and considerate, does not treat her as if she were a china vase and unable to take care of herself.

Old rule: Men always open the door for women.

New rule: The door is opened by the one who goes ahead, or is stronger, or who is simply more comfortable to open it. Therefore, whether you are a man or a woman, hold the door open for those who are older than you, or are handicapped, or carry a small child or purchases - no matter who is of what gender. You can also go through first, but then hold the door on the other side for the one following you. The one to whom this service was rendered says: "Thank you."

Old rule: A man walks around the car (which he is driving as a driver) to open the door for a female passenger.

New rule: The driver, male or female, opens the door from the outside for the passenger to get in. At the end of the journey, the driver opens the door and helps the elderly or handicapped passenger out, but in other cases, he may assume that the person will cope with this task.

Old rule: Men give way to women on public transport.

New rule: Young, healthy people of both sexes give way to elderly or sick people, pregnant women, people with heavy luggage.

Old rule: Men stand up when a woman enters or leaves a room, and also when she gets up from a table in a restaurant.

New rule: In a restaurant, a host or companion may stand up to greet a newcomer, show them their seat, and perhaps pull out a chair. In semi-formal meetings, when a new person arrives or someone leaves, it is normal for all the guests to stand up to greet or say goodbye. This avoids dissonance between those who are sitting and those who are standing, which could lead to some awkwardness. Of course, it is quite natural that someone will remain in prison due to medical problems or due to old age. If someone leaves the room (or from a table in a restaurant) for a short time, then it is not necessary for the rest to get up.

Old rule: A man accompanying a woman walks along the outside of the sidewalk, that is, from the side of the roadway.

New rule: There is no such thing. Many young people do not even suspect that there was once a rule in this regard.

The rules of conduct are designed to regulate our everyday life in society, help us communicate, set the necessary limits, going beyond which leads at least to ignorance and bad manners, and at most are regarded as deviant behavior. The rules governing behavior in society are called "etiquette".

What is it?

Etiquette is a set of rules for human behavior in relation to people in different life situations. There are five groups of basic rules of etiquette:

• the ability to present oneself- the rules relate to the appearance of a person: dress with taste, take care of your skin and figure, keep your posture, walk beautifully, gesticulate moderately and to the point;
• rule of speech and communication - the manner and tone of speech, the ability to correctly express their thoughts, greet, say goodbye, forgive, build a constructive conflict;
• table etiquette- accuracy at the table and during meals, the ability to properly use cutlery, set the table;
• rules of conduct in society- the ability to behave in public places (museums, theaters, libraries, hospitals, and so on);
• Business Etiquette- the ability to build relationships with colleagues, superiors, the manner of doing business politely and with respect for partners.

Anyone who is able to use the basic rules gives the impression of a well-mannered and polite person with whom it is pleasant to communicate and build relationships. Such a person is ready to meet halfway, they are happy to do favors and fulfill his requests for help.

In addition to the main groups of etiquette, there are some gender differences in the rules of conduct for men, women, and children.

Good manners for men

A well-bred man should be tastefully and appropriately dressed. He politely communicates with the girl, his speech is calm, devoid of sharpness and high tone. He is always ready to help a woman, no matter if she is familiar to him or not. For example, lifting heavy packages of groceries to a neighbor on the porch, opening the car door for a girl and giving a hand or letting her in first at the entrance is natural and easy for him. A man should be attentive to women's needs.

With the male sex, he is also polite, does not show his superiority and does not brag. Conflicts are resolved by polite dialogue and are not the first to go on the rampage. He is fair with subordinates, does not raise his voice, respects the work of other people, appreciates their time and effort. In a word, a worthy man.

Basic rules for men:

• if, inviting someone to a restaurant, a man says: “I invite you,” then this means that he is ready to pay for this person;
• when walking next to a woman, a man should be on the left side of her, and only military personnel can be on the right to salute if necessary;
• you should always open the door for a woman and let her in first;
• when leaving the car, you need to open the door and give a hand to a woman;
• help the woman put on her coat and temporarily hold her purse if necessary.

Etiquette for women

All generally binding rules apply to women. A woman should be able to present herself - this applies both to appearance and to the manner of communication.. The image should be chosen with taste and to the place.

Polite dialogue, tact, modesty, a straight back and a beautiful walk are the ideal version of a modern woman. She competently renders signs of attention to men.

Frank flirting with a man is inappropriate, as is excessive obsession, since such behavior is called "frivolity."

When communicating with a man, a woman should be respectful and tactful, but at the same time know her rights. She has the right to refuse obsessive signs of attention and warn the man that he is beyond the permissible.

By nature, more emotional women should skillfully hide negative emotions in society, avoid high tone, swear words, and even excessive manifestations of joy.

Basic rules for women:

• you can’t be indoors in a hat and mittens, but you can wear a hat and gloves;
• bright makeup is appropriate only at parties;
• it is necessary to use perfume moderately: if a woman feels her perfume, then this means that there is too much of it;
• it is required to observe moderation in jewelry: do not wear rings over gloves and mitts - you can wear a bracelet, while the maximum number of jewelry, including decorative buttons, is 13 items.

Code of conduct for children

The first thing parents should remember is that the child imitates them.

Therefore, it is necessary to be the right example for your child in everything and carefully regulate his behavior in public places and on the playground.

Children from two and a half years old are usually happy to greet and say goodbye to everyone - such behavior should be encouraged in relation to familiar adults and children.

On the playground, their toys are always uninteresting until they interest another child. In this case, you need to offer the children an exchange of toys for a while - so the children will learn to share more calmly and ask permission to play with someone else's toy.

Any kid from 3-4 years old, and even more so his parents, should know that you can’t make noise on the bus, run in the store and scream.

As children grow older, it is worth instilling the correct manner of communication with parents, adults, and in educational institutions with teachers and educators. Appropriate system of behavior for children from 6 years old:

• you can not interrupt and intervene in the conversation of adults, be insolent and rude to elders and teachers;
• treat the elderly with courtesy and respect, help them on the street or in transport;
• behave decently in public places: do not run around the store, do not shout in the museum and theater and similar places.

But when teaching children the rules of etiquette, it is necessary to remember the safety rules: children can sometimes be too helpful, and criminals can take advantage of this.

General rules

Below are the current generally accepted rules of conduct:

• Greetings- this is a necessary sign of courtesy to a friend or person with whom you need to make acquaintance. In addition, entering the room, you must say hello first.
• Parting. “Leaving in English” is indecent in our society. Therefore, closing the door behind you, it is imperative to say goodbye.
• Gratitude- for the service rendered to the attendants, for the help of relatives, friends, to a stranger who held the elevator doors.
• Decent appearance- neat clean clothes to the place and according to the weather, as well as maintaining personal hygiene.

What not to do:

• Coming to visit without notice - it is necessary to notify in advance about your visit even to relatives and friends, because unexpected guests bring a lot of trouble.
• Read someone else's correspondence and look into someone else's smartphone. A person has the right to privacy.
• Ask uncomfortable questions: ask about salary, ask about personal matters, unless, of course, the interlocutor himself touches on the topic of private life.
• Arguing and arguing violently. In a conflict situation, a well-mannered person does not shout at the opponent, does not stoop to insults and calmly presents his arguments.
• To enter without knocking into a closed room. It is imperative to knock on the closed door both at home and at work, entering the office of a colleague or boss, thereby saving the person behind the door from an awkward situation.

Below are the rules for public places.

• It is required to maintain silence in the appropriate rooms: in the library, hospital, museum, theater, cinema.
• Do not litter on the street, in the park and any other public places.
• It is forbidden to smoke and drink alcohol on street benches, and even more so near children's playgrounds.
• It is unacceptable to spit, pick one's nose, blow one's nose on the sidewalk - this is not only uncivilized, but also disgusts passers-by.
• When making your way through the crowd, you need to use the following words: “let me pass,” “let me,” “please.”

• When going to a theater, a restaurant, a political event or a corporate party, you need to choose the right outfit.
• In a cinema or theater, you need to make your way to your seats facing those who are sitting. If the seats are in the middle, then you need to go to them in advance, so as not to cause inconvenience to the extreme sitting spectators.
• During the performance you can not eat - for this there is an intermission and a buffet.
• After the performance, a man should go to the wardrobe himself and take a coat for his lady, while helping her to put it on.
• In the museum, you can’t talk loudly, you shouldn’t push, making your way to the exhibits. No need to rush - you should calmly move from one exhibit to another and not touch them with your hands. It is necessary to listen to the guide and not interrupt him, ask questions only after he asks about it.

• Dry the umbrella in any room should be closed.
• You can’t put the phone on the table at a party, restaurants, during an interview - this is a sign of disrespect, which is regarded as an unwillingness to communicate with the interlocutor.
• More bags, suitcases, briefcases can not be placed on the table in a restaurant or cafe. Bags are hung on the arm of a chair, and a briefcase or a bag is placed next to the chair on the floor. Only a small elegant handbag is allowed to be placed on the table.

Etiquette in public transport

The rules are as follows:

• When entering any public transport or subway, you must skip exiting.
• You need to go straight to the empty seats, do not linger at the door.
• Give way to the elderly, pregnant women and women with children and people with limited mobility.
• If you hurt someone or accidentally pushed, you need to apologize.

Store etiquette

• When entering the store, you must first let people out, then let pregnant women, the elderly and people with limited mobility in first, and only then go in yourself.
• It is not allowed to enter the store with animals, a lit cigarette and ice cream.
• Thanks for the seller's service.
• Damaged goods must be returned with a polite explanation.
• The queue at the store must be respected, but women with young children, pregnant women and people with limited mobility should be let ahead.

The general rules of decency are an instrument that regulates the limits that society should not go beyond.

The subtleties of communication

The psychological component of our life is communication. In primitive society, people communicated only through gestures and sounds. Now it happens in different ways. AT modern world There are two main types of communication:

• verbal- through speech. It is the most basic way through which the entire planet communicates.
• non-verbal- with the help of gestures, facial expressions and feelings: tactile, visual, auditory, olfactory. With the help of feelings and gestures, not only people, but also animals communicate.

Communication regulates relationships in everyday life, at work, in family life, that is, in absolutely any sphere of life. Therefore, it will not be superfluous to know about some subtleties that will help you understand others and be understood yourself:

• Ability to listen and hear. The ability to listen helps to understand a person's feelings. It is very important for us to be heard, and therefore people who have this ability immediately inspire trust and gratitude. To learn to listen, you need to tune in to the interlocutor who wants to convey their feelings or expectations. To do this, you need to leave your thoughts for a while, listen and not interrupt him until the person speaks out and begins to expect advice from the listener.
• The ability to express negative feelings is essential in family life. It is important to express feelings correctly and not offend a partner, it is important to talk about the accumulated grievances in time, because he may not even guess what is happening in the heart of a loving person, because no one has yet learned to read other people's thoughts.

It is important to do this without reproach and shouting, and you need to remember that resentment comes to an act, and not to a person. And it should also be conveyed that such an act offended, and ask not to do this again - an emotionally mature person will understand and will never do this again.

• Ability to express wishes and requests. If a person wants his desires to be fulfilled, you need to do without hints and ask directly, politely and in an understandable form. Thank you in advance by using the word “please” several times, as children do, because this little trick often works.
• The ability to communicate with a negatively minded person. The impact of a negatively minded person can lead to discouragement and even depression, deprive confidence and lower self-esteem.

That is why you should avoid such a “comrade”, but if you can’t get away from communication, for example, with your boss, then you should adhere to the following recommendations:

• It is necessary to abstract and not take personally the insults that are inflicted on them.
• Remain calm, prove your case confidently and with restraint, fending off the facts. Usually such people crave scandal, the same reaction to their anger and anger, but cold restraint can confuse them.

A person is negatively affected not only by such brawlers, but also by another category of people who constantly complain - they suck out all positive emotions in the same way. You can get tired of talking to them. The best way is to avoid communicating with such people or you can try to distract them with interesting news or topics. But do not tell them about your successes, as this will give a new wave of complaints and cause for envy.

Etiquette at a party and at the table

Knowing the culture of behavior at a party and at the table will help a person not to get into trouble and not be considered ignorant. The following points of etiquette are given for those who like not only to host guests, but also often visit themselves.

• the owner of the house meets the guests on the threshold and helps to undress, then the hostess escorts the newcomers to the table and introduces the guests present;
• guests should be entertained with a conversation, but not to impose topics for communication, and viewing home photos and videos only at the request of all those present;
• it is necessary to ensure that all guests have the necessary cutlery at the table.

• don't be late;
• a cultured and polite guest does not come empty-handed - flowers, a bottle of wine or sweets will be an appropriate gift for the hostess of the house;
• if this is a small dinner or lunch, then it is imperative to praise the culinary abilities of the hostess, this is inappropriate at large receptions;
• bad tone - to sit silently and not communicate with the rest of the guests, you need to keep the conversation going;
• you can’t leave without saying goodbye, you should thank the hosts for the evening and politely say goodbye to the rest of the guests.

• Women sit down at the table first, men help them in this by pulling a chair.
• Elbows are not put on the table - only the hands are allowed to be put, besides, the elbows should be pressed while eating.
• You need to eat slowly, chewing food thoroughly. It is not allowed to sip or smack your lips.
• The meat should be cut into small pieces, while holding the knife in the right hand, and the fork in the left, it is necessary to eat from the fork. Eating with a knife is unacceptable.
• In between meals, the fork and knife are not left on the tablecloth, but placed crosswise on the plate. Between the change of dishes, the fork and knife are also left on an empty plate, but already parallel to each other, while the knife is placed to the right of the fork.

• Before drinking from a glass, it is necessary to blot your mouth with a napkin so as not to leave greasy stains on it.
• In the event that all the dishes are already on the table, you need to take them only with special devices reserved for each individual dish, and in no case with your own spoon.
• It is unacceptable to use a toothpick at the table.
• You can not talk with a full mouth, and also leave the table without chewing food to the end.
• If an attack of sneezing or coughing begins, then you need to use a tissue.
• You should not force a neighbor on the table to try this or that dish - everyone has their own taste preferences.
• At the table, you should have an easy and pleasant conversation.

Rules for meeting parents

In an effort to make a good impression on the parents of the second half, people make stupid mistakes. Therefore, when visiting the parents of your loved one, you need to follow the following recommendations:

• Do not come empty-handed, but do not give halves of alcoholic drinks to your father at the first meeting. It is better to bring flowers to mom or a cake to the table.
• You should not start a conversation first - it is better to wait until you are contacted.
• It is necessary to behave modestly, not to flatter or praise the interior of the house.
• You should not refuse treats, it is worth remembering that the future mother-in-law or mother-in-law cooked for you - you need to try to eat a little of everything and praise the hostess.

• No need to get involved in alcohol - it is better to try to stretch one glass of wine longer.
• Girls should not smoke on their first visit to their parents.
• It is necessary to take care of a decent appearance. Guys should wear trousers and a shirt or jeans and a shirt, never shorts. A girl should avoid short shorts, skirts and dresses with a deep neckline and cutouts.
• You should politely answer questions from parents, do not tell jokes and avoid silly jokes.
• When leaving, be sure to call your parents to visit you.

The ability to dress

A pleasant and neat appearance, personal hygiene are the natural duties of any person. No one will be pleased to communicate with a person who smells bad. Simple things like taking a shower every day, brushing your teeth, and taking care of your skin should be done.

It is important to correctly choose your wardrobe, which should contain things for all occasions.

At the same time, it is necessary to take into account the parameters of the figure so that the thing sits well and does not seem small, or, conversely, large.

When choosing the color of a thing, you need to rely on the color of the skin, face and eyes. Each person has his own color type:

• Winter- the skin can be both almost white and swarthy, hair - black or dark.

• Spring– blond hair and eyes, thin skin, pink lips.

• Summer- light blond, ashy shade of hair. Gray, gray-blue, green, light brown eyes. Grayish-beige and slightly pink skin tone, pale pink lips.

• Autumn- golden skin, warm shades of eyes (brown, golden, dark brown), hair from golden to red shades.

For color types, winter and summer are well suited for things of cold shades, for spring and autumn - warm, pastel.

The wardrobe itself is divided into the following categories:

• Everyday. Jeans, T-shirts, shirts, various pullovers and sweatshirts will be appropriate here. Women can include simple cut dresses and skirts in it, in summer - sundresses and shorts. Such clothes are convenient for meeting with friends, going shopping, walking in the park or going with children to the circus or museum.