Undoubtedly, neuro-linguistic programming today is one of the most popular and sought-after ways for a person to influence his own personality and the people around him. After all, NLP allows a person to learn to better understand himself, and get rid of any negative traits, while at the same time cultivating positive ones; promotes a deeper understanding of those with whom one has to interact; makes it possible to make the communication process more pleasant and effective, as well as to influence people of completely different categories. Moreover, knowledge of NLP is successfully applied not only in psychology, psychotherapy and other related sciences. The application of NLP is ideal for everyday life as well. And in order for anyone to learn this, there are now many options: video and audio materials, Internet resources, trainings and webinars, special training programs, magazines, books, etc.
And, of course, the basis for any training programs and materials is always the theoretical foundations, which contain the bulk of the information. But any theory will not be of any value if it is not combined with practice, because. only practice forms the skills necessary for the successful application of knowledge. It is the practical side of NLP that we have devoted to the presented article. In it, we'll look at some of the best and most popular NLP tricks and techniques. You can master any of these methods to a sufficient extent, subject to regular training in everyday life.
In this article, 13 techniques are briefly analyzed, if you want to learn about 72 more techniques and learn how to apply such techniques in life, then we advise you to pay attention to our course "Best Communication Techniques".
Change of submodalities
Submodalities are those elements that make up a complete picture of our perception of the surrounding reality. With the help of them, our attitude to everything is encoded. The technique of changing submodalities allows us to change our attitude to something, and we can influence not only the strength of our experiences, but also transform their assessment and subsequent sensations. In addition, this technique is also suitable for changing the assessment of some situation that has already occurred, the formation of motivation, changing attitudes towards another person, etc.
As a rule, the scheme of this technique is always approximately the same: you need to take a situation (a person) to which you want to change your attitude, and a situation (a person) in relation to which, on the contrary, positive emotions are experienced. Then you need to find some differences between these situations (people) and their submodalities, and replace the submodalities of the first situation with the submodalities of the second. After that, a check is made: if the situation has changed in the right direction, then the replacement was successful, if not, then you need to return to the previous step and work it out again.
Model of correct goal setting "SMARTEF"
A huge role in the process of achieving goals is played by the ability to correctly formulate and determine the desired result. Simply put, in order to change anything in life, you need to have a clear idea of what you want specifically. It is the SMARTEF technique that helps to define and formulate the result properly. Compliance of the goal with the SMARTEF criteria greatly increases the likelihood of its implementation. The goal should be:
- Specific (you must take into account all the details);
- Measurable (you must be clearly aware of all the indicators of the moment when the goal is achieved);
- Attractive (the goal should be consistent with your beliefs and values, motivate you);
- Realistic (you must know exactly what the goal is achievable and what you need to achieve it);
- Limited by time (you must clearly set a time frame for achieving the goal);
- Sustainability (you must consider your goal in a global sense, as well as realize the secondary benefits of achieving it / not achieving it);
- Positive wording in the present tense (when setting a goal, you must take into account the special parameters of the wording).
We have already touched on SMARTEF techniques in our lesson " Anchoring, performance and state management". If you wish, you can return to it or study the method in more detail.
Walt Disney's Creative Strategy
This technique is based on the many years of experience of the American animator and film director Walt Disney in the fields of business and creativity. The essence of his strategy is the ability to approach any issue from three different positions: a dreamer, a realist and a critic. The very same approach was called by the author "imaging". Each of the three components contributes to the search for an effective solution to any issue.
The main function of the dreamer is manifested at the initial stage, when new goals and ideas are just being formed, and is focused on the future. The dreamer must help the person see how all the parts of his plan fit together. The function of a realist is expressed in the search for tools suitable for the implementation of the intended plan, so that an abstract idea can take shape into something concrete. A realist helps a person move from the thought process to action. The critic, in turn, is needed in order to evaluate the idea that has appeared or the planned plan to achieve the goal from the critical side. A critic is meant to help a person find weak points in his plan, to try to identify potential problems or points that could be missed. The critic also draws a person's attention to such things as the environmental friendliness of the plan, its realism, secondary benefits, etc.
Approaching any business using the strategy of Walt Disney's creativity greatly increases the effectiveness and personal productivity of a person. And you can get acquainted with this strategy in more detail.
Working with logic levels
According to the results of research by one of the first developers of NLP, Robert Dilts, there are several levels of a person's perception of reality and how he lives it. All of them are parallel to each other and are closely interconnected. It is very useful for a person to realize what is happening at all these levels, because. it affects every aspect of life: decision-making, relationship formation, feelings and well-being, and even events that occur. It is also important to know that logical levels are subject to a certain structure. Firstly, the Higher levels cannot exist without the Lower ones, because is realized through them, and secondly, the Lower levels depend on the Higher ones and obey them.
Usually a person forms his goals and realizes the problems at the Lower levels and therefore it is possible to start working with them at these levels. But, taking into account the aforementioned regularities, it is necessary to work out the goals and problems at the Highest levels, because The best way to find a solution to any problem is to find its origins and work directly with them.
Working with logical levels is an extremely effective technique for interacting with your goals and inducing life changes. Absolutely everything that a person desires must be in harmony with his Higher levels, i.e. consistent with beliefs, values and worldview. The study of problems at the Highest levels helps to identify the necessary resources and increase their energy potential.
You can find out more information about working with logical levels at this link, as well.
"Swipe"
The presented technique serves to change the destructive type of human response to something in a short time and replace it with a more constructive one. But the result of this technique is not only a change in the type of reaction, but also the establishment of a positive and productive self-image in a person. Sweep can be applied in many areas of life, from eliminating bad habits to correcting problematic behavior.
The structure of the Sweep technique is as follows: first, the context is determined, i.e. a situation to which you would like to change your response. Then you need to identify trigger factors, i.e. those factors that cause the desire to respond in the usual way. This moment is the most important, because. often may not even be realized by a person. The definition of trigger factors also occurs according to a certain methodology. After that, you need to create an image of the state that you want to achieve. Most often this is done using the third. The next stage is the “swipe” that needs to be done. It means a very fast replacement of one picture with another (an unwanted image with a desired one). After the "swing" is completed, you need to check the new state and adjust to the future.
The Sweep technique requires more study (this can be done) and training.
New Behavior Generator
This technique, similar to the previous one, is designed to help a person change automatic reactions to manifestations of external reality, thereby relieving him of many unnecessary problems. Thanks to it, a person’s self-confidence increases, reactions change and positive changes occur in life.
The successful application of this technique involves the passage of several stages. First you need to determine the situation that you want to work out, and live it, presenting it in your mind in great detail. Next, you need to imagine the same situation in the form of a film made about you, and feel the emotions that it evokes. After that, you need to imagine yourself as a cinema operator who puts a film with a film about you into the projector for himself, sitting in the hall. Then you need to imagine yourself as a director and realize the possibility of changing the script; come up with several new options and choose the most suitable one.
The new stage implies that you are again a cinematographer, putting on a new film for yourself, sitting in the cinema hall. Then you imagine yourself sitting in the hall and watching a new movie with your participation. As a result, you must imagine yourself as the hero of a new film and live a new situation, presenting it in all its details in your imagination and realizing your emotions. It is important that the new result suits you. If it does not satisfy you, then you should return to the previous points and work them out again.
The result should be the emergence of a new response template, but already one that will be beneficial. It is necessary to consolidate it by losing the situation several times, using new reactions. You can learn more about how to do all this on this page.
Six Step Reframing
Many of us are familiar with the situation when certain problems are not solved for a very, very long time, and we cannot understand the reason for this. The fact is that this is hindered by our own subconscious, which for some reason thinks that the way it is now is best. The six-step reframing technique is very good for changing the mood of your subconscious mind. It takes as a basis a special meditative state, when in which the subconscious mind is most receptive to incoming information, while in the normal state its access is blocked by various subpersonalities ().
The scheme of six-step reframing is quite simple.
First step. You need to lie on the floor and relax, alternately tensing and relaxing all the muscles of the body, after which you just lie down for about five minutes, focusing on breathing.
Second step. Visualization of a large white screen.
Third step. Once the screen is presented, you need to ask your subconscious mind if it is ready to cooperate. The answer should appear on the screen.
Fourth step. If the answer is yes, then you can ask the subconscious mind any questions, the form of which should imply simple answers (yes / no).
Fifth step. In the process of interacting with the subconscious, you need to find out from him what benefits it derives from the current problem situation, and turn to the creative component of your personality with a request to find a more suitable way to satisfy this need.
Sixth step. You should relax, allowing the subconscious mind to process the information, slowly count from one to ten and stand up. Reframing is over.
Changing personal history
The technique of changing personal history is usually used when the behavior to be changed is related to some events that took place in the past, and is based on existing links between the present and the past. Its use allows you to get rid of unnecessary and limiting beliefs, stereotypes, habits, attitudes, response methods, etc.
The essence of the method is as follows. It is necessary to identify a problematic situation or an undesirable state and set an anchor on it. The established anchor must be used in order to lead the person (or yourself) to the very moment when the problem situation or experience appeared for the first time, and if any of them are discovered, the context of what happened must be taken into account. After several (4-5) similar situations or experiences are found, you need to drop the anchor and return to the very first situation, determine the resources that were required to overcome it, and find trigger factors. Next, you need to find access to the found resource and anchor it, return to the early situation and change its perception, using the existing resource (great for .
After all that has been done, it is necessary from new experiences and evaluate the result. If it does not meet the requirements, then you should return to the previous stage of identifying resources and work it out again. Then you need to consolidate the result and make an environmental check and synchronization with the future.
You can learn more about how all this is done here.
Fast treatment for phobias
The technique of quick phobia treatment is used in NLP in order to neutralize the anchors to any strong feelings, i.e. rid a person of phobias: xenophobia, agoraphobia, nyctophobia, photophobia, claustrophobia and many others. The result of the successful application of this technique is the liberation of a person from fears, the release of energy and the emergence of many new opportunities.
The process of implementing the technique of rapid treatment of phobias consists of several steps:
- You need to access the positive state and anchor it by creating a powerful resource anchor. Moreover, it is best if the anchor is kinesthetic.
- It is necessary to conduct a dissociative analysis of experiences, imagining yourself even before being in a negative state (black and white picture) and after being in it (color picture).
- You need to look at yourself from the outside, as if sitting behind yourself in a movie theater.
- You need to quickly view a black-and-white film, consisting of the first picture, the event itself, and ending with a color picture.
- Then you need to watch the entire black-and-white film, but starting from the second color picture and ending with the first, and during the transition to the first picture, you need to go to the second degree of dissociation (look at yourself watching the movie). After the transition to the first picture, the film should immediately end.
- You need to think about what was the source of the phobia and note the changes in the physical condition.
- It is necessary to project the negative situation into the future by imagining the interaction with the source of the phobia and considering new options for responding. It is important to clearly define indicators of a sense of security or pointers to cautious behavior.
You can get acquainted with the technique of quick treatment of phobias in more detail on this page.
Reimprinting
The name of this technique comes from the word “imprint”, meaning “imprinting”, i.e. any experience or set of experiences as a result of which a person has certain beliefs. Often imprint situations are dead ends and cause a person to feel senseless, hopeless, hopeless, etc. The meaning of imprinting is to find the resources needed to change ingrained beliefs and update established behavioral patterns.
The application of the reimprinting technique is based, first of all, on the definition of the symptoms of an imprint, which implies focusing on the very first appearance of any experiences associated with it and the beliefs that have arisen. After that, you need to mentally transport yourself to the moment that preceded the appearance of the imprint, return to the present state and look at the imprint from the position that preceded it. The next step is to search for the positive intention or secondary benefits that are hidden behind the established reactions and symptoms of the imprint and some other equally important components that require more detailed and scrupulous study.
Features of reimprinting and the procedure for its implementation can be found here.
Reassessment of the past
The technique of reassessing the past helps to change the assessment of an event that took place in a person's past. It is very effective because with it, you can influence the assessment of the troubles that have occurred and the beliefs associated with them, change relationships with specific people, and even transform aspects of the perception of childhood. A brief algorithm of necessary actions includes the following:
- It is necessary to determine the period of time that requires change and elaboration. It can be associated with a person, place, time, and so on. conditions.
- We need to create a powerful resource anchor. It is best if it is kinesthetic.
- It is necessary to present the considered time period in the form of a straight line located on the floor, determine the most significant moments of this period, name them and mark them on the line, observing the real sequence.
- It is necessary to divide all the marked situations into positive and negative. Then, passing along the line, one should relive the positive situations anew, and present the negative ones in a dissociated way, i.e. watching from the sidelines.
- In the dissociated consideration of negative situations, you can use the resource anchor created at the beginning. Sometimes this allows you to look even at negative events from a different angle and see positive aspects in them.
- It is necessary to conduct an ecological check of the new perception of past events and, if the result does not satisfy all the requirements, go back and work through the previous points again.
- It is necessary to synchronize with the future, projecting the achieved result on situations that may occur.
The technique of reassessing the past is considered in more detail.
Choice on the timeline
The presented technique has proven itself to be a reliable tool for resolving those situations where there is a choice of something, but a person does not know how to do it best. In addition, the timeline selection technique can be used to predict the long-term consequences of each of the possible options.
The first thing you need to do to successfully apply this technique is the very realization that you have a choice: you need to clearly determine for yourself what options exist. Next, you need to speculate on the topic of how long the choice can affect in general, and mentally draw a line on the floor that displays this period. After that, you need to determine for yourself the deadline by which you need to make a choice; between this date and the present day, you need to determine the most optimal time for selection. Then you should mentally move into the future and try to note those events that your choice may cause; give these events an assessment by looking at them from the outside. You can also resort to integration - to go through the planned route, as if watching from the side on people who have already passed it. At the end of all this, you need to return to the starting point and think about whether it is possible to somehow improve the route or create a new, more efficient one. Assess the choices you have: what did you take away from your journey through the timeline? The number of positive points and point you to the right choice.
In detail and detail, the selection technique on the timeline is considered.
self-hypnosis technique
The technique of self-hypnosis is very effective in view of the fact that it allows a person to work through any of his problems at the deepest levels, because. there is an interaction with the subconscious in the most suitable state for this. Using this technique, a person can change the qualities of his personality that do not suit him, influence the way of his thinking or behavior, get rid of bad habits, instill new and effective attitudes, change the assessment of any events, etc.
Before using self-hypnosis, first of all, you should take a comfortable position that promotes relaxation and in which you can stay for a long time. Then you need to say to yourself the exact time for which you want to put yourself into a hypnotic state. You also need to clearly and specifically set the goal of your dive. It should be formulated in a positive way and spoken aloud in the form that is familiar to you. The next step is to determine the state in which you want to be after waking up, and also say it out loud. All this is done to tune the subconscious to productive work.
The very process of entering a trance must correspond to your representational system, i.e. must be designed for visual, auditory or kinesthetic perception. To enter a hypnotic state, you need to close your eyes and for some time focus on sounds, presented objects, or sensations.
It is absolutely easy to see that any NLP technique is a unique tool for a person to work, both with himself and some of his own characteristics, and with other people and what concerns them personally. What can be influenced with the help of NLP techniques, we have already seen more than once.
Naturally, we have considered far from all existing techniques and not in all details. If you wish, you can find other techniques and study each of them in detail for more than one day. But the main thing is not this. The main thing is that now you are armed with knowledge about what NLP techniques are in general, how to apply them and why it can and should be done.
Learn, practice and hone new skills, and in time you will be amazed by your ability to truly magically influence yourself and others!
NLP or Neuro-Linguistic Programming is a subsection of practical psychology whose main task is to create techniques and methods of influencing people.
Today it has become quite popular to learn how to influence others. There was a need to study new directions that would effectively influence a person, but NLP arose, first of all, as a way to increase the influence of a psychotherapist on a patient.
Probably, the question involuntarily begs: what about the aesthetic side of this technique? Of course, the techniques and methods of NLP allow many to improve the effectiveness of their own performance. But, if you are fluent in NLP and use the achievements of this science to suppress another person, there will be no excuse for you.
manipulation techniques
A trick called the "deposit trap". This method has become very popular due to its effectiveness. If you force a person to invest his own strength in a certain type of activity, then it will be difficult for him to quit this activity later.
Acceptance of three "yes". If you ask a person questions that he definitely wants to answer in the affirmative, then after your unexpected question, the answer to which you also expect in the same affirmative way, there is a high probability that you will receive consent.
Reception of "mixed truth". Most people who are not familiar with NLP use this technique at the level of intuition. Include in the conversation theses, the veracity of which is easy to prove or verify. You can add a few minor facts in the conversation, which will also be taken for granted with a high degree of probability. You can try to adapt to the interlocutor, in this case, the person will begin to trust you more.
Techniques of influence with the help of speech
To gain confidence in the interlocutor, you should start the conversation with a common truth that has a neutral connotation. Your opponent must fully agree with her.
If your goal is to point a person to a certain action, then do not directly name the task, but simply associate it with what the interlocutor already intends to do in the future. If your son doesn't want to take out the trash, simply program him to pick up the trash can after the walk and go with it to the nearest bin.
The interlocutor should be given the illusion of choice. If you want to get agreement, frame the question as if your opponent has already answered it in the affirmative.
If you do not want to engage in a discussion of an unpleasant issue in a circle, set a block on this topic. You may notice that you have fully specified the question, so do not drag out the conversation.
NLP and human impact
Remember the basic principles without which it is impossible to understand the nature of man. Everyone has the resources to get things done. If the desire is huge, and perseverance is strong, you can achieve results on the first try.
Communication entails an increase in the number of future alternatives, and we strive to choose the best for ourselves.
Neurolinguistic programming in modern psychotherapy is one of the most popular methods of influencing the human psyche. It is used in almost all aspects of life.
Effective NLP techniques in love can be applied by both women and men. They help create new or improve existing relationships. According to E. Berger, the author of the famous book “NLP for Happy Love”, how the novel ends and how it develops depends directly on the person himself, his aspirations and desires.
Crazy love passes quickly, the love of two crazy people never!
Angelina Jolie
Effective NLP Methods
In NLP, there are general techniques designed for use in various areas of life. They are also suitable for improving your personal life."Tuning"
Among the most popular techniques are "Tuning". This method is effective for establishing closer contact with the interlocutor. The reception involves copying the behavior of a partner, his gestures, facial expressions and even the rhythm of breathing. This is the so-called "external" adjustment, which should be done as naturally as possible.After establishing contact, you can proceed to the "lead". To do this, you need to smile, and the interlocutor will repeat the action. If you become serious, then after a while the partner to whom you have adjusted will also go into this state. Adjustment to values is no less effective. To find a common language with a partner of the opposite sex, you should try to look at the world through his eyes, through his belief system.
"Anchoring"
Almost all seduction techniques in NLP involve "Anchoring". This technique is based on the positive emotions and feelings experienced by the partner at a certain moment. In order to direct them to yourself, you should create an environment similar to that which surrounded him at the moment of pleasure.Moreover, it is not at all necessary that the atmosphere is fully consistent with the memories of a person. Sometimes smells, music, touch act as anchors. They are associated with previous relationships or just having a good time. "Anchors" can be made independently. One of the algorithms for their installation is as follows:
- It is necessary to position the partner towards you, for which the techniques of mirroring, joining, adjusting, etc. are used.
- When a man is in a relaxed state, he can be asked about his favorite holidays. You should be asked to describe in detail how the event went, what he felt.
Important! With the holiday that the partner remembered, he should not have any negative emotions associated with him. - When the man's condition reaches its climax, which can be traced by external signs (breathing, skin color, facial muscle movement, etc.), you need to gently touch any part of his body (back of the head, neck, shoulder, etc.). This action will set the tactile anchor.
- After that, you will need to change the topic of conversation and return the man to his normal state.
"Mirror", "Join"
"Mirror" and "Accession", in fact, are similar to "Adjustment". This is the adoption of a pose, the repetition of facial expressions, gestures of the interlocutor, which contributes to the emergence of trust and sympathy on the part of the interlocutor."Positive Reinforcement"
A person experiences various emotions that reflect his attitude to any event. Reinforcement is a kind of encouragement of behavior. This method is used in animal training, but it is also effective for humans. As a positive reinforcement of someone else's behavior are used:- smile;
- Attention;
- agreement;
- praise;
- positive "anchor", etc.
NLP techniques for women
Women who want to arrange a personal life can turn to the book written by Eva Berger "NLP for happy love." The author not only describes techniques and techniques, but also gives practical exercises aimed at realizing one's problems in search of the ideal man. In her book, several effective methods can be noted with which girls can start new relationships or improve existing ones:
- "Perfect Date". At the first meeting with a guy, almost any girl experiences awkwardness and tension. These emotions lead to the fact that the date leaves an unpleasant aftertaste, and on both sides. To exclude such a development of events, psychological preparation for the meeting is necessary. The girl is recommended to visualize the image of an ideal date, think it over to the smallest detail, foresee possible troubles and ways to overcome them.
- "Rule of three yeses" can be used with anyone. At the same time, men are more prone to stereotypical actions, which is what this technique relies on. A person who answered yes to three questions in a row will do so for the fourth time. The technique can be used to push a man to a new stage in a relationship (cohabitation, marriage, etc.). The most important phrase should be spoken not in an interrogative, but in an affirmative tone with confidence in your voice.
- "The Right Motivation" is a method that will allow relationships to exist and develop. If a woman can give a positive attitude, then a man will be interested in continuing the romance.
- Among other methods, "Disarmament" A that represents the preemptive action. This technique is effective if the relationship is on the verge of a break. The technique is to anticipate the partner's actions. A phrase such as “I understand that our relationship is not perfect and we can break up, but I would really like to try to correct previous mistakes and get a second chance” may well help to avoid a breakup.
When using Disarm, the woman says what her partner wanted to say. Accordingly, the meaning of repeating her words is lost, and there is a high probability that the relationship will continue. But their duration will depend only on the further actions of the couple.
- Something NLP offers in a variety of techniques. Among the effective methods are "Breaking the Stereotype". This method is suitable for attracting the attention of a desired object, standing out from other fans.
NLP techniques for men
Not only girls, but also men can use techniques that allow you to quickly conquer your chosen one. Effective techniques for manipulating consciousness are used in practice and have repeatedly confirmed their effectiveness. Men who want to master the initial skills of seducing the opposite sex can pay attention to the following methods:
- "Illusion of choice";
- "Plus or minus";
- "Rule of one consent";
- "Choice without choice."
- "Illusion of Choice": Thanks to NLP techniques, it is possible to create the girl's illusion that she herself chooses one or another scenario. The essence of the methodology is quite simple: it uses questions of a "closed type". In other words, the question itself already contains the answer to it. For example: "Where do you prefer to go, to the cinema or to a cafe?". In this case, not every lady will decide to offer the third option.
The main thing to remember when applying this method is that both choices should be beneficial for the man. Another option for using the technique is that in the question one of the answers must be initially negative so that the girl does not choose it. So, the phrase can be constructed as follows: “Today is wonderful weather. Do you want to sit in this stuffy cafe, or would we rather take a walk in the fresh air?
- Reception "Plus-minus" based on the contrast of experienced emotions. A positive response will be more powerful if you first provoke a negative one (but do not exacerbate it too much). For example, on a date, you can compliment another girl, which will be a “minus”. But then the miss is corrected by pleasant words to his partner, which counts as a “plus”. Moreover, the latter should cause a stronger emotional reaction.
- "One Consent Rule" can be included not only in the techniques of seducing men, but also women. This technique is similar to the similar "Three" yes. However, it can be difficult to get several positive answers from a girl at once, so sometimes it’s enough to stop at one. The essence of the technique is that a proposal is made, after which a question is asked. If the lady answers it positively, then most likely she will agree with the first statement.
For example, an invitation to a date might sound like this: “Let's meet and go to the movies. Do you like comedies? Regardless of whether the partner answers positively or negatively, she subconsciously already managed to agree with the first sentence. Phrases can be swapped, first a question, then a statement. But this is typical for men who are not completely confident in themselves and prefer to adapt to the desires of their partners.
- "Choice Without Choice" operates on a similar principle. A woman is offered a free choice from the only possible option. For example, when making an appointment, the phrase is formulated as follows: “When are you free, tomorrow or the day after tomorrow?”. So, initially it is assumed that the meeting will take place. But the partner creates the illusion that the choice is hers.
Using an inferiority complex in a relationship between a woman and a man can bring good benefits to the latter. But this method should be used as carefully as possible so as not to achieve the opposite effect. The essence of the game with complexes is as follows. In the presence of a lady, one should begin to admire another girl:
At the same time, if the lady is short, then it must be said about how good women of high stature look. If the girl is thin, then you can admire the fair sex, who are inclined to be overweight. This awakens in women the desire to prove otherwise. They are ready to show a man that they are no worse than their rivals, who have opposite qualities.As an example, we can cite the story of one bachelor, whose apartment was always clean, and he himself did not put any effort into it. When he brought women to visit, he did not ask them to do anything. He just started talking about the fact that one of the purposes of girls is to create cleanliness and comfort. At the same time, he noted that a real woman could never endure a mess. After that, his guests themselves picked up cleaning products to show their best side, not suspecting that they were only being manipulated.
Receptions for everyone
In NLP, there are techniques for women and men, and there are techniques that are successfully used by both sexes. Do not assume that manipulation techniques are very simple. In order to master them perfectly, you will need to make a lot of effort. However, the result will not be long in coming. After all, to become happy, to be successful with the opposite sex, to improve existing relationships - this is what most of those who want to master NLP techniques in love strive for.NLP - Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP) - these are techniques, methods of influencing a person in order to change his inner beliefs, attitudes, life values and priorities. The practice of NLP is currently carried out almost everywhere, including the hidden NLP techniques are used not only in psychotherapeutic and psycho-training practice, but also in ordinary, social life and at home.
Combat NLP is a method of manipulating people in order to subjugate them to oneself and covertly control them: their consciousness, thinking, feelings and behavior.
How NLP (Neuro Linguistic Programming Techniques) and Combat NLP Appeared
The psychological technique "Neuro-Linguistic Programming" (NLP, or reprogramming, because each person already has some kind of internal program (life script), primarily created through unconscious social and parental programming) was created to change a person's deepest beliefs preventing him from becoming successful and happy in life.
In the last century, the American psychologist and writer Richard Bandler and linguist (also a writer) John Grinder, co-authored by Frank Pucelik, based on the methods of Gestalt therapy by Friederick Perls and Ericksonian hypnosis (Milton Erickson) created a new direction in psychological assistance - NLP training (neuro-linguistic programming) .
Combat NLP- this is the use of initially psychotherapeutic techniques to influence and manipulate a person, turning him into a zombie man ... and using it for his own, sometimes illegal purposes, for example, when recruiting to ISIS, various sects, real or virtual illegal communities ...
NLP Psychology: Methods and Techniques of Human Neuro-Linguistic Programming and Combat NLP
In the methods and techniques of neuro-linguistic programming in general, and combat NLP in particular, they use connections between verbal, linguistic forms (forms of speech, including written and internal) and non-verbal ones - body language (facial expressions, gestures, postures, gait ...), direction and movement eyes, as well as representative, sensory systems of a person, all types of memory (from operational to emotional) and images drawn in the mind.
For example, combat NLP can be used in any sphere of life - in business, commerce, ideology, politics, both internal and external, in war, in society and even in everyday life, in family, parent-child relationships.
It is possible to program (reprogram) almost any person, especially people with low education (a diploma is not education yet), not a high level of intelligence ...
Depressed, under stress, with neurotic disorders, weak-willed, overly trusting people ... yes, just overstrained, tired, especially for a person with an immature personality and a weak psyche (teenage children, maximalist youths, infantile, unthinking adults, outcasts and old people ) - reprogramming, turning into a zombified personality is very easy, especially for a professional in the field of combat NLP.
Why influence people, manipulate a person using combat NLP
The "masters of life", people in power since the creation of the world wanted to have unlimited, literal power, full influence on a person. And in order to create obedient "people" in all ages, various physical, including psychological, methods and techniques of influencing and manipulating people have been used.
Probably, many of the readers will notice that the desire for power, the possibility of influencing, influencing a person, demanding obedience from him, manipulating him is inherent in almost all people.
For example, in a family, parents demand the obedience of children, the husband wants to have power over his wife, and vice versa; the teacher manipulates - the students, and they them; the doctor often dominates the patient, demanding the implementation of prescriptions ...
It is even easier to use combat NLP if you influence not one person, but the crowd, for example, for political purposes - the creation of modern color revolutions, rallies, protests ... It works even better when using means of communication, propaganda, the media - television, radio, newspapers ... and of course the internet...
Even in seemingly harmless advertisements on TV, radio, banners, roadside billboards... or in a modern supermarket, one can come across the manipulation of human consciousness with the help of NLP techniques (including combat NLP).
For example, as mentioned above, programming uses speech (including writing), imagery, body language (including direction of gaze, relative to the right or left hemisphere), and repetition to use memory at the subconscious level.
Properly selected slogans, labels on packages and calls to action, as well as correctly laid out goods on the shelves, affect the subconscious of a person, automatically forcing him to make a purchase, often not necessary.
There is even such a profession - a merchandiser - a specialist in laying out goods on shelves, for example, a product that needs to be "sold" can be placed on a showcase with frequent repetition ...
Note that each TV ad has a number of repetitions (usually at least three - at the beginning, middle and end), for example, the name of the product. You can watch the advertisement itself, without even realizing it, several times in a row while, say, watching a movie. Also, any advertising (product presentation) from packaging to billboards on the street has its own images, colors, information placements, etc. to influence the subconscious memory, so that a person unconsciously, without thinking, buys, sometimes unnecessary or unnecessary goods. This is especially true in drug marketing.
Any marketing from network to promotion of goods in a supermarket somehow uses combat NLP techniques, in fact, methods of manipulation and influence on a person.
You can’t call it fraud, because. there is no obvious deceit and breach of trust. Well, what's criminal, if a price tag hangs under a half-kilogram piece of cheese, where in large letters - 50 rubles, and in very small ones - for 100 grams ... what a hoax ?! Or in a household appliance store - interest-free installments - substitution of concepts - credit and installments - not a crime, but hiding in small print about payment for the services of managing your account and insurance - this is so, a "trifle" ...
How to Avoid Self-Manipulation and Combat NLP
The best way to avoid manipulating yourself is to change your life script, through transactional analysis and the same method of neurolinguistic programming or psychotraining.
To resist the impact of combat NLP, it is not at all necessary to study how NLP methods and techniques work in general, it is enough to understand, realize yourself, your inner “I” and your weaknesses, the so-called “control buttons”, your weaknesses ...
The most common human weakness, often used in NLP techniques of influence, is the subconscious desire for freebies (simply freebies).
Also, often in combat NLP they use such weaknesses of a person as his altered state of consciousness, going into a trance (for example, existence not in the present at the moment “here and now”, but in the past or future), personal, life disorder, failure and
1. Ask for a favor
We are talking about an effect known as the Benjamin Franklin effect. Once Franklin needed to win the favor of a man who did not like him very much. Then Franklin politely asked the man to lend him a rare book and, having received what he wanted, thanked him even more politely. Previously, this man avoided even talking to him, but after this incident, they became friends.
This story is repeated over and over again. The bottom line is that someone who once did you a favor is more willing to do it again compared to the person who owes you something. The explanation is simple - a person decides that since you ask him for something, then, if necessary, respond to his request, so he must do the same as you.
This technique is called the "door to the forehead." You need to ask a person to do more than you really want from him. You can also ask to do something ridiculous. Most likely he will refuse. Soon after, boldly ask for what you wanted from the very beginning - the person will feel uncomfortable because they refused you the first time, and if you now ask for something reasonable, will feel obligated to help.
3. Call the person by their first name
The famous American psychologist Dale Carnegie believes that calling a person by name is incredibly important. A proper name for any person is the most pleasant combination of sounds. It is an essential part of life, therefore its pronunciation, as it were, confirms for a person the fact of his own existence. And this, in turn, makes you feel positive emotions in relation to the one who pronounces the name.
In the same way, the use of a title, social status, or the form of address itself affects. If you behave in a certain way, then you will be treated that way. For example, if you call a person your friend, he will soon feel friendly feelings towards you. And if you want to work for someone, call him the boss.
4. FlatterAt first glance, the tactics are obvious, but there are some caveats. If your flattery doesn't seem sincere, it will do more harm than good. Researchers have found that people tend to seek cognitive balance by making sure their thoughts and feelings always align. So if you flatter people with high self-esteem and the flattery sounds sincere, they will like you because it confirms their own thoughts. But flattering people with low self-esteem can lead to negative feelings because your words contradict their opinion of themselves. Of course, this does not mean that such people should be humiliated - this way you will definitely not win their sympathy.
5. Reflect
Reflection is also known as mimicry. Many people use this method naturally, without even thinking about what they are doing: they automatically copy someone else's behavior, speech patterns, and even gestures. But this technique can be used quite consciously.
6. Take advantage of your opponent's fatigue
When a person gets tired, he becomes more receptive to other people's words, whether it be a request or a statement. The reason is that fatigue affects not only the body, but also reduces the level of mental energy. When you ask a tired person for a favor, you'll probably get a response like "OK, I'll do it tomorrow" because at the moment the person doesn't want to solve any more problems. But the next day, a person, most likely, will fulfill the promise - people, as a rule, try to keep their word, because otherwise they get psychological discomfort.
This is the reverse of point number two. Instead of making a big request right away, try starting small. If a person helped you with something insignificant, he will be more willing to fulfill a more important request.
Scientists have tested this method in relation to marketing. They began campaigning for people to express support for the environment and the conservation of the rainforest. Pretty easy request, right? When people fulfilled the required, they were asked to buy food - all the proceeds will be directed to the conservation of these same forests, of course. Most people have done that too.
However, be careful: do not ask for one thing first, and then immediately completely different. It is much more effective to wait a day or two.
Telling someone they're wrong is not the best way to win over a person. The effect is likely to be the opposite. There is another way to express disagreement and not make an enemy. For example, listen to what your interlocutor says, and try to understand how he feels and why. Then you will find something in common in your seemingly opposite opinions and you can use this to explain your position. Express your consent first - so the person will be more attentive to your subsequent words.
9. Repeat after the interlocutor
One of the most effective ways to win over a person and show that you really understand him is to paraphrase what he says. Say the same thing in your own words. This technique is also known as reflective listening. This is what psychotherapists often do - people tell them more about themselves, and an almost friendly relationship is built between the doctor and the patient.
This technique is easy to use when talking with friends. Formulate the phrase they just said as a question - this way you show that you listened carefully and understood the person, and he will be more comfortable with you. He will also listen to you more because you have already made it clear that you care about him.
10. Nod
When people nod while listening to something, it usually means that they agree with the speaker. And it is natural for a person to assume that when someone nods when talking to him, this also means agreement. This is the same effect of mimicry. So nod throughout the conversation with a person - later this will help you convince the interlocutor that you are right.
