1. Do not shift responsibility for the events that occur in your life to another person. It's easy to blame someone else for your own troubles. You will receive strength only when you understand that you yourself are the author of your failures and the creator of your own successes.

2. Don't assume that you can change another person. It is a big mistake to think that thanks to someone else's influence, you can change a person. A person cannot change after persuasion and according to your desire. Only events and circumstances can affect it.

3. The past must remain in the past. It is important to understand that the past cannot be returned, and worries about this are inappropriate. Our future depends on us, on the thoughts and actions that we are doing now.

4. Society needs strong people. When we lose strength, get tired and exhausted, we become useless to anyone. Such is the nature of man. Therefore, do not become limp, be strong so that there are the same people around you.

5. Every action has consequences. Before you commit any act, you need to think about what will follow. This way you will avoid many mistakes.

6. Don't waste your precious time with people who don't like you and who don't care about you. There are many people around us with whom it is exciting, interesting and pleasant to spend time and live. Let go of those who don't need you. You deserve the best for yourself!

7. Do the things you think are important. Do not burn your life in pursuit of illusions and success, enjoy your own life. Do things and do things that you think are important, and success is guaranteed to you.

Communication skills are the foundation on which your relationships with other people are built. There are things that people do unconsciously, not realizing how much they harm their own reputation and success in business. There are a few rules that can help you interact with others. Although they may seem obvious, not everyone follows them.

Rule one. Leave grudges

The ability to forgive is very important. Often people keep grievances in their souls for many years. They hoard them, covering them with a mask of indifference and pretending to smile. Getting rid of resentment is important, first of all, for yourself. Negative emotions, if you experience them for a very long time, slightly change the algorithm of the functioning of the brain. If you do push-ups as many times as you can each morning, your results will steadily improve every day. Likewise with resentment. Paying attention to them, you spend your mental and emotional resources on them, and your mind gets used to thinking in a negative way.

Rule two. Others don't have to understand you

All people are different, and often someone does not share your point of view on an important issue. Try to take it easy. Firstly, it is not a fact that you are generally right. Secondly, there are situations in which there can be no absolutely correct opinion. Be open to other people's beliefs and opinions.

Rule three. Do good selflessly

If you undertake to help someone or want to make someone happy, don't expect the person to do the same for you in return. What you do is, first of all, necessary for you. Even if you are asked for help, then give it without expecting anything in return. Otherwise, this is not good and not help, but already a deal or an exchange. If you expect nothing in return for your good deeds, you will not be disappointed.

Rule four. Don't judge

You can only judge someone "from your own belfry". You will never fully understand what the other person feels, why he acts the way he does. Even if you think that someone is fundamentally wrong, do not waste your energy on wasting words criticizing him. In addition, a person who is openly criticized will first of all begin to defend himself. Your words will not reach his ears, he will only understand that he is being attacked and will defend himself.

Rule five. It's pointless to argue

Arguing is a waste of time, as no one can ever prove anything to anyone. People sometimes get so inflamed that it comes to getting personal, while the understanding of the subject of the dispute does not change in anyone's head.

Let people build their own lives. Trust me, they know what they're doing. Despite the call to learn from the mistakes of others, most people still prefer to make their own. Unsolicited advice can only make matters worse. In addition, any imposed display of love and care is really an aggressive attempt at control.

Rule seven. Let others be themselves

All different. Don't try to change someone who is close to you. Be grateful to have such wonderful people around you. If you are unhappy with the environment, change it, find a new one, but don't try to change people. It still won't work.

To fill your life with meaning, it is enough to follow nine simple rules.

You need to find three different hobbies. The first hobby will bring you money. The second should help keep your body in good shape. The third should realize your creativity.

Stop overthinking your every move and start taking action. Many hours of analysis will not bring you results, nor will it give you a 100% guarantee that you will avoid mistakes.

Be confident in yourself, but not too much. In the case of excessive shyness, you may miss many opportunities that will open up before you in life.

Rely primarily on your own point of view and opinion. People around you will always criticize you, so don't pay too much attention to their gossip. Live your life according to your script.

Don't have 100 friends, have one real one. Pay special attention to spiritual qualities when choosing your environment. The number of people next to you is not so much important as their moral principles and views.

Watch your thoughts and words. Try to nip negative thoughts or remarks in the bud. This will save you energy and allow you to see the pros even in the most hopeless situation.

Improve constantly. As soon as you stop, you will start moving backwards. The learning process should never stop.

Do not become dependent on another person and always love yourself first. You should not dissolve without a trace in someone else's life, especially if such sacrifice is not particularly appreciated.

Set global goals and boldly act to achieve them.

Start with people

It will be much easier for you to find common themes if you are attentive to the people around you. Remember the names of your interlocutors and your first meetings. Thus, you will always be ready to communicate. The situation in which you do not remember the name of your interlocutor is the most uncomfortable you can imagine.

Learn to listen

Do not interrupt your interlocutor every thirty seconds to express your opinion. It is important to learn to listen and give the opportunity to speak. Don't try to control the conversation. It’s better to just express interest in the conversation, then you and your interlocutor will feel as comfortable as possible.

Be kind

Pay attention to their strengths and turn a blind eye to their weaknesses. You should not provoke a person to a quarrel by expressing your opinion about his unsuccessful behavior or clothes. Do not be arrogant, do not ridicule their actions. There is nothing better than good, equal relations.

Don't criticize

In conversations, refrain from criticizing your interlocutor, and indeed other people around. Remember that everyone has the right to make a mistake, and there are always two points of view on an event.

Forget about self-importance

You should not assert yourself at the expense of other people. Of course, this is an integral feature of every person, but in conversations it is better to refuse it. It is better to give this right to your interlocutor. In any case, it will be more profitable for you.

Always watch the words

Even if you suddenly offended your interlocutor, try to apologize in time. With whomever you communicate, do not allow yourself such liberties. Tactful behavior is the main thing in a constructive and pleasant conversation.

smile

Always smile, under any circumstances. This is the best accompaniment to a pleasant conversation. In addition, if you feel that the conversation is becoming not too pleasant - smile and you will again win the favor of your interlocutor.

Be sincere

This does not mean at all that you should be frank with the first person you meet. Rather be open. The person in front of you will definitely feel false notes in your intonation, and this is the worst thing that can happen during a conversation.

Appreciate the people around you and be kind to them. In this way, it will be very easy for you to make new connections and you will never have problems with communication.

In our article, we decided to give you some very important rules for communicating with people, which are given in John Maxwell's book on leadership. They are quite simple, but very effective. And if every person got acquainted with them and began to adhere to them, then the world would definitely become kinder and brighter. But why not start changing it with yourself?

Before you judge others, look at yourself. We so often undertake to condemn other people, although we ourselves have shortcomings. If not the same or very similar, then something different. And it makes no sense to say, criticizing someone: “I would never do that ...”. Realize that no one in the world is perfect. And given that you have some negative sides, you should be more tolerant of the presence of them in others.

2. Rule of 10 points. If you believe in the strength of another person, this will make him show his best qualities. We strive to conform to what others think of us. If not all in a row, then at least close people. That is why you should praise your relatives, loved ones, and not criticize them. And then you will get a positive effect.

Instead of trying to put a person in his place, it is better to try to put you in his place. You should not condemn, scold a person if you do not understand or do not know his situation. Try to stand not only in your position, but also look at the position from your opponent's point of view.

4. Rule of charisma. People show interest in those people who are interested in them. Every person loves attention to his person. So if you want to win over someone, be interested in this person. Back in the last century, Dale Carnegie wrote that you will be considered an excellent conversationalist if you learn to listen. Take note of this.

Trust is the foundation of any relationship. If there is no trust, it will be incredibly difficult to communicate with a person. And most likely useless.

6. Elevator rule. In the process of communicating with people, we can raise them up and lower them down. It’s great if you can inspire others so much that they want to improve themselves. But we do not always serve as a good example for others and please them with our actions. However, where we "carry" people depends only on ourselves.

If Bob has problems communicating with all people, then most likely the problem lies in Bob himself. If you are not satisfied with all your acquaintances, those around you are annoying and you are scandalous with your loved ones - there is a good reason to think about what is the reason - in them or, perhaps, in you?

8. The rule of celebration. True friendship is tested not only by how much we are able to help friends in difficult times, but also by how much we rejoice in their victories.

Every person we meet in our lives has something to teach us. And even if communication with him brought us not the most pleasant emotions, we can still learn a lesson from this communication.

10. The rule of patience. It is worth realizing that traveling with others is always longer than going alone. Therefore, the choice is yours. But still, if you decide to take fellow travelers, be more tolerant of them.

11. The rule of agriculture. Any relationship needs to be cultivated. Sometimes this process is quite difficult, but without labor there will not be a good harvest. Everything depends on you.

12. The trench rule. When you are preparing for battle, you should dig a trench where there is room for your friend. Don't underestimate the importance of the person you're friends with. Yet friendship is a really great thing!

Outline plan.

Lesson of social science.

History teacher MBOU Kirov secondary school

Yanchenkov An. Al.

Lesson topic: Communication.

Class: 8

Lesson type : a lesson in learning new knowledge

The purpose of the lesson: the formation of communication skills and the definition of the role of communication in the life of a person and society.

Lesson objectives:

Educational - explain to students the goals of communication, show its types and forms, form an idea of ​​\u200b\u200bthe communication of people and its role in their lives. Explain the essence of the following concepts: communication, verbal and non-verbal communication, official, everyday, persuasive, ritual, intercultural communication.

Developing - in to include students in work at all stages of the lesson, to promote the development of their communication skills.

Educational - cultivate a respectful attitude towards the interlocutor; observance of the culture of communication, and its constituent elements, such as the ability to listen and understand, behave politely and correctly and express their point of view.

Lesson plan:

Organizing time.

Learning new material.

Consolidation of the studied material. Creative task.

Summarizing.

Reflection

Equipment : Textbook A. I. Kravchenko Social science grade 8, blackboard, chalk, outline plan, multimedia equipment.

Basic concepts : communication, verbal and non-verbal communication, official, everyday, persuasive, ritual, intercultural communication.

Course progress.

For some unknown reason (your uncle died, leaving you his island as a legacy). Your uncle was very rich. When you fly over the island, preparing to take possession of it, you do not believe your eyes. The island has many houses, greenery, a harbor with a yacht and a beach. Here the weather is warm all year round. From your uncle's letter you will learn that here you can spend the rest of your life without feeling the need for anything. But there is one condition - you should never invite anyone to this island. You can order anything you want from them, and they will fulfill your request.

What would you do in this case, given that you do not have the right to change the terms of the will? Why?

Sounding the topic and purpose of the lesson

Communication - a complex process of interaction between people, which consists in the exchange of information, as well as in the perception and understanding of each other by partners. (write down)

Communication using words and sounds - (verbal)verbal.

Communication through facial expressions and gestures - (non-verbal)non-verbal.

questions:

1. Why does a person communicate?

2. Does communication occur when a person reads a book, gives a lecture, watches TV?

Questions and tasks:

Name how we determine that non-verbal communication is taking place, through what? (posture, gestures, facial expressions, gaze).

And how to determine that verbal communication is taking place, through what? (speech, intonation, rate of speech, rate of voice).

Can you determine when communicating, in what mood is a person?

And now I will offer you to complete a couple of tasks.

Exercise 1. Finish sentences:

1. My mood improves from communicating with people who ...

2. I get in a bad mood from communicating with people who ...

3. When I communicate with a person I like, I experience feelings ...

Task 2 (two students can work at the blackboard, then check together).

From the proposed list– smile, kiss, push away, answer questions, talk, nod my head, blush, shake hands, look into the eyes, openly say what I want from the interlocutor, ask for help, make a gloomy face, raise my eyebrows high, get acquainted, do not hide my anger, keep a neutral expression, yell at the interlocutor – Choose your verbal and non-verbal communication skills.

Teacher's explanation.

Forms of communication: (write down)

everyday

business persuasive

Communication

intercultural ritual

Business - expressedin the form of orders, advice, requests. People influence each other in order to solve a certain problem.

Everyday - carried out between relatives, close people when resolving family, everyday problems.

Persuasive - influencing each other in order to change people's behavior.

Ritual - the performance of prescribed behavior.

Since we live in a fairly multicultural, multinational state, it is very important to know the cultural characteristics of other peoples in order to avoid conflicts and for the best and most interesting communication with our neighbors.

Ancient commandments of communication They say that whoever wants to enjoy communication needs to:
Trust in the one you communicate with, the belief that the person you are communicating with is good, that he is disposed towards you, ready to communicate with you;
Respect for those with whom you communicate, recognition that a person is the highest value, and you need to communicate with him carefully and politely;
Compliance.
Communication should be entered without prejudice, i.e. preconceived negative attitude

What helps communication:

1. Listen to the opinion of the other with understanding.
2. Do not blame people, but try to understand them.
3. Sincerely appreciate and praise the virtues of people.
4. Goodwill.
5. Love for people.
6. Empathy is very important.
7. Do good.
8. Honesty
9. Sense of humor.
10. Politeness
11. Tolerance tolerance.etc.

What hinders communication:
1. Envy
2. Indiscipline,
3. Viciousness.
4. Cruelty.
5. Disrespect of the interlocutor
6. Nationalism.
7. Rudeness.
8. Closure.

9. Selfishness (selfishness).
10. conflict.
11. Pessimism, etc.)

Summarizing.

Communication plays a big role in shaping personality. Whatever form it takes, communication must be based on a system of cultural norms dictated by society.

In conclusion, I would like to say that each of us is a person and, despite any of our ambitions, we always need to show a culture of behavior and communication, respect our interlocutor.

Reflection

Was the lesson instructive for you?

Have you learned anything new?

Will this knowledge be useful to you in life?

Students express their opinions.

Grades are given according to the activity of students in the lesson.

Homework.

Paragraph 8, page 62 - workshop.

List some golden rules for different kinds of communication.

Formulate some golden rules for communication of different types?

Answers:

There are different types of communication, for example Business communication: “A conversation between directors of firms who did not share a very wealthy client.” Everyday communication: “Communication between mother and son on a weekday morning.” Persuasive communication: “Communication between a student and a teacher.” Ritual communication: “ Marriage between a man and a woman." But for each of them, the basic rules of “Golden Communication” will apply. Do not interrupt each other. Respect the tastes and opinions of others, even if they seem strange. Do not speak too loudly. Be honest in understanding your goals in communication. Let people save face. Do not compromise or humiliate anyone. Watch your words. An inadvertently thrown word can lead to bad consequences.
Emotional conversation promotes communication better than simple notation.
Do not start a conversation if you are not sure that you are ready to continue it.