To answer the question of how to find peace of mind, you first need to understand why we are losing it. The simplest thing that comes to mind is our feelings: love, hatred, envy, fear, despair because of unfulfilled hopes, rejection of something, guilt, shame. There are so many things that can throw us off balance ... But in addition to internal fluctuations, external stimuli also affect us: we didn’t get enough sleep, dressed inappropriately for the weather, ate something wrong, slipped on the way to work, received a reprimand from bosses - and now the world begins to turn into dark colors, and a real storm rises in the soul, preventing us from rationally thinking, feeling, existing.
Do you want to be in harmony with yourself? Live in peace with your body: try to get plenty of sleep, indulge yourself with your favorite products from time to time, do not wear what is squeezing or rubbing, do not torture yourself and you will take a huge step towards finding peace of mind.
Remember how happy we were as children? The golden time, when the grass was taller than us, and the clouds seemed like cotton candy, when our parents did not criticize our lifestyle, but carried it in their arms. We were loved, pitied, we were the focus of the universe. Try to return yourself to this blissful time, and you will see how your soul will become light and calm. You can feel like a child both in playing with other children and in playing with yourself. For example, what prevents you during an illness not to rush to work in order to curry favor with your superiors, but to pick up your favorite book, put a pillow under your head and demand breakfast, lunch and dinner from your family, and that's it - to bed?
The house is not called a fortress for nothing. It allows you to hide from external troubles, in it you can take a break from annoying situations, strangers, work problems. Make your home cozy, and every evening it will feed you with positive energy.
Problems in the family and at work are one of the most common causes of loss of mental balance. Troubles on two fronts can immediately and completely bring a person to depression. To avoid this, try to solve problems as they arise. Do not accumulate irritation to the point where it will fall on you with all its weight. Do you think that the authorities do not appreciate you as a specialist? Try to prove your professional worth - not only in words, but also in deeds. Are you still not noticed? Humble yourself, wait for a favorable moment that will allow you to prove your professional suitability, or look for a new job.
Unfortunately, there are often situations in life that cannot be corrected immediately. Therefore, you need to learn: on the one hand, patience, on the other, the ability to radically change your life. Hope for the best, chance, fate, God is also a good way to come to terms with what you can’t change or can’t change now.
The time constant of a given problem is important for understanding how to work with it. If you don’t know how to cook, that’s one thing, you can always learn it, but if you don’t have anyone to cook for, then here ... you have to take yourself seriously. Unrequited love, like the death of a loved one, can knock the ground out from under anyone's feet.
The feelings of other people, like their lives, are not subject to us. You need to understand this, come to terms with such a structure of the world and not torture yourself in vain. Yes, it is terribly hard when loved ones leave, but it is unbearably bitter to know that you are not loved, but ... Every person has something more valuable than those around him: this is himself.
Self love can work wonders. Healthy selfishness, interest in one's own Self and the ability to appreciate what you have - these are the foundations on which you can form a sense of peace of mind and peace. See how easy it works:
- Dropped by a loved one? It's not scary - now we can live in our own pleasure.
- A colleague is plotting us? Amazing! There will be something to do at work, in addition to boring projects!
- Cousin bought a new foreign car? There is a reason to celebrate this business and think about how to make money on ... two foreign cars!
- Unable to lose weight? Not a problem! There must be many good people!
Remember a simple thing: as soon as something unbalances you, start acting. If it is possible to immediately eliminate the irritant - eliminate it, no - postpone the solution of the problem for a while and, perhaps, it will resolve itself. Faced with something out of the ordinary? Give vent to emotions. Do not keep tears, anger, despair. Do you feel like you can't do it alone? Go to friends, relatives. Just go outside, sit on a bench in the park and talk to a complete stranger. The feeling of novelty, an act that you perform for the first time in your life, will help you open yourself from an unexpected side, one in which the problems that have fallen may turn out to be completely insignificant.
You can try to remove mental heaviness ... with spiritual joys. Remember what you like most and do it as soon as possible. Dizzying shopping, going to the cinema for a long-awaited premiere, going fishing with friends, playing your favorite computer game - any little things can be the starting point for finding peace of mind.
It is not difficult, you just need to set yourself up, tell yourself that from today I will no longer pay attention to trifles, I will not be annoyed, offended, angry with my neighbors, and whatever happens, I will accept with gratitude and will not grumble ; I will begin to consider that what was sent to me is according to my sins. If we do not set ourselves up this way, then our whole life will be wasted: as we were - with vices and passions - we will remain so. In order to always have peace and tranquility in the soul, we must completely surrender to God, so that the Lord lives in us, and we - in Him. When we live not according to our own will, but according to the will of God, then everything will fall into place, the soul will be at peace and calm down.
🔷How to acquire the spirit of peace?
Everyone knows how to acquire, but not everyone wants to work hard. We know the theory, but in practice - well, it doesn’t work out at all!
Do you know how a humble person sets himself up? He is pleased and happy with everything that the Lord gives him. They gave a place where only the bedding would be removed - he is glad of this; sleep there and thank God. Once in Alexandria, on a big holiday, many beggars, cripples and the poor gathered in the monastery. Places where you can sleep, many were not found; arranged right in the corridor. One elder, after praying in his cell through a half-open door, hears: “Lord, Lord, how You love us! How wonderful everything is, how good! we even ate today, though not to our full, but we ate. Many people are in the cold, in prison, in cells, there is no air there. But here everything is fine, everything is fine. We are free, but there are people who do not see white light "They have shackles on their hands and feet and chains. And here they have complete freedom. Lord, what a great mercy of Yours!" Thus the sick beggar thanked the Lord. We must be able to thank the Lord everywhere and always. Then the soul will be at peace.
When Julian - an apostate - the worst enemy of Christians was destroying the Orthodox faith, St. Basil the Great lived and served in Cappadocia. There were 17 heretical temples of the Arians, and only one Orthodox. In a very short time, the saint worked in such a way that there were 17 Orthodox and only one heretical remained. A representative of Julian, Modest, arrived, began to convince the saint to stop his activities, stop confessing the faith of Christ, so that he would convert to Arianism, frightened him with death, exile, deprivation of wealth. Saint Basil the Great answered this in the following way:
The wealth that you think to take away from me, I long ago passed through the hands of the beggars, widows and orphans to the other world. I have nothing left but leather books. You scare me with exile, but God is everywhere. Wherever I am, the Lord is everywhere. You scare me with death, but I strive for this! I want to quickly get rid of the body and unite with the Lord.
This is how the saints argued.
What to do if you have lost peace of mind, love? Every day I get worse and worse. I want to be the same, but the soul has died and will not be resurrected.
A person has different periods. At first, when the child is just learning to walk, his parents support him. He still does not have his own strength to stand: with the help of his parents, he stands on his legs and rejoices. And when his parents let him go, let him walk freely, he will stand for a while and fall. So do we. The Lord sustains us by His grace; then we feel strong, strong - we can do anything! We stand strong in faith and can walk. But as soon as grace has departed from us, we fall and are unable to get up to go. Therefore, you should never rely on yourself. We must surrender ourselves completely into the hands of God. Why do we not have spiritual powers? Because we rely on ourselves, on our strengths. But if the Lord does not help us, we will not be able to do anything. That is why one must always trust in God's help, remember that the Lord will manage everything in the best way.
🔷 There is a desire to go to another world. How to get out of this state?
In order for this desire to be saving, you need to prepare your soul, because with a dirty soul you will only go to hell. We still have to work here on earth in the sweat of our faces, to serve the Lord God. We must constantly improve ourselves spiritually... In the meantime, the state in which we are now does not correspond to the Kingdom of Heaven. Without being corrected here, we will not be corrected there either, and nothing unclean enters into the Kingdom of Heaven. What we are, we will remain such there too ... If we have reached such perfection that we no longer have anger, irritation, resentment, or jealousy, we are in love for God and our neighbor, then we have nothing run away from this world. It is time for our souls to rest. Such a soul does not strive to pass into that world, it is aware of its imperfection. Sometimes it happens that a person will live a long life - 90-100 years. There is no physical strength, but he still does not die. This is because, perhaps, there are unrepentant sins, the soul is not ready for paradise, and the Lord desires salvation for this soul. That is why there is no death for this soul. So do not rush out of this world.
🔷 How to get rid of despondency?
Usually, if a person does not have prayer, he is constantly depressed. Especially among the proud, those who love to condemn their neighbor, to take him to pieces. You tell such a person that this cannot be done, despondency torments, but he does not understand. He wants to be the boss, stick his nose into every hole, know everything, prove his case to everyone. Such a person sets himself high. And when it meets a rebuff, then there are scandals, insults - the grace of God leaves, and the person falls into despondency. Especially often in despondency is the one who is unrepentant of sins - his soul is not reconciled with God. Why does a person not have peace, rest and joy? Because there is no repentance. Many will say: "But I repent!" Repenting in words, in one language is not enough. If you repented that you condemned, thought bad things, then do not return to this anymore, just as, according to the words of the Apostle Peter, "a washed pig again goes to wallow in the mud" (2 Pet. 2, 22).
Do not return to this mud, and then the soul will always be calm.
Suppose a neighbor came up and insulted us. Well, bear with him. After all, you will not lose weight and will not grow old from this. Of course, it’s bad for that person who for a long time stuffed his own worth, created a high opinion of himself, and suddenly someone humbled him! He will surely rebel, be dissatisfied, offended. Well, such is the way of a proud man. The humble believes that if something was said to him, it means that it should be so ...
Our Christian way is not to speak badly about anyone, not to anger anyone, to endure everyone, to bring peace and tranquility to everyone. And always be in prayer. And impose a penance on your evil tongue, tell him: "You've been talking all your life - now that's enough! Get down to business - read a prayer. Don't want to? I'll force you!"
If despondency has just come, just begun - open the Gospel and read until the demon leaves you. Suppose an alcoholic wants to drink - if he understands that the demon has attacked, let him open the Gospel, read a few chapters - and the demon will immediately leave. And so any passion that a person suffers can be conquered. We begin to read the Gospel, call on the help of the Lord - immediately the demons depart. As was the case with one monk. He prayed in a cell, and at that time the demons obviously approached him, grabbed him by the hands and dragged him out of the cells. He put his hands on the jambs of the door and cried out: "Lord, how impudent the demons have become - they are already dragging them out of their cells by force!" The demons disappeared in an instant, and the monk again turned to God: “Lord, why don’t you help?” And the Lord says to him: “But you don’t turn to me. As soon as you turned, I immediately helped you.”
Many do not see the grace of God. There were different cases. One man kept murmuring that the Mother of God, the Lord did not help him in anything. Once an angel appeared to him and said: “Remember, when you were sailing on a boat with friends, the boat capsized - and your friend drowned, and you remained alive. Then the Mother of God saved you; She heard and heeded the prayers of your mother. Now remember when you were riding in a britzka, and the horse rushed to the side - the britzka turned over. A friend was sitting with you; he was killed, but you remained alive. " And the Angel began to cite so many cases that had happened to this man in his life. How many times death or trouble threatened him, and everything carried past him ... We are just blind and think that all this is accidental, and therefore we are ungrateful to the Lord for saving us from troubles.
In order to live with others in peace, harmony and love, one must learn to yield to each other. If one was indignant, "gehena fire" went out of him, then there is no need to add petrol of objections and indignations, because the flame will be even higher. We must accept, endure, and the flame will stop raging. One novice once said to me: "My father and mother are atheists, even unbaptized. Here, I'll go home now; if they swear, how should I behave?" I answered her: “Don’t swear. If one of them flares up, starts scolding you, you just listen to them. scandal". Listen to everything with joy and accept past sins with humility.
Nika Kravchuk
If you verbally depict a portrait of a modern person, then you get a not very attractive picture: he constantly fusses, hurries, thinks how to earn more, how tired everything is, often condemns others and envy. The peace of mind does not fit into his schedule. How to change it?
“Vanity of vanities” is one of the aphorisms that we owe to the Bible. These words from the book of Ecclesiastes very well characterize the life of modern man. In everyday bustle, he is increasingly moving away from God and forgets about the meaning of life, his attention is scattered.
What can you do to find peace in your soul? Seekers of easy ways will have to be upset right away: it will not be easy, but the main thing is that it is real.
Peace of mind is a special state of a person when he has reconciled himself with God and humanity, knows the purpose of his life. The first thing that outwardly distinguishes such a person is calmness. It comes as a result of trusting in the will of God. This is the realization that the Lord loves us very much and knows exactly what we need for salvation.
Every day such a person is tempted with the most “refined” sins, tested with sorrows, but he still stands firm and does not succumb to demonic provocations. He was reconciled to himself, God and humanity. Here are some tips drawn from the lives of saints and people who came to God and who managed to achieve peace of mind.
1. Review your entire life and do a spring cleaning - confession
First we need to get rid of what loads us, makes us fuss. What does a person need for life and what is the highest goal of his existence? Surely not in constantly chasing money, taking care of material well-being, losing health, earning an apartment, a car, a vacation abroad and clothes from world brands. With such a supply of garbage in the head, one cannot find peace of mind.
A person, living in a certain social group, tries to correspond to it. Very often it is simply exhausting and replaces real life with the theater of showing off “and who is better”, “and I can do it.” A person is even interested not in what he is interested in, but in what is said in his social circle.
So it turns out that he constantly thinks about how to do everything, how to get enough food, what to put aside in reserve, what to wear, from what angle to take a picture, what others will think of him. In this vanity of vanities there is no place for God and prayer, peace of mind, the meaning of existence is lost - in order to be saved and abide with the Lord in eternal life.
When a person realizes this and wants to change, he should go to confession and repent before God. But not formally, reading a prepared cheat sheet - a list of sins.
It is necessary to sincerely open your heart, rid it of sinful garbage. Such a confession can last 30-40 minutes, supplemented by the advice of the priest and the flow of tears of the penitent. After such a cleansing, a person really becomes easier, even clears up in his head. But it is equally important to continue to maintain this order, because after a collision with sin, it can turn into the previous chaos.
2. Filter thoughts and listen to the voice of conscience
Every sin begins with a thought. Every minute, demons send a lot of surprises to a person and watch what bait he will fall for. If we learn to immediately filter these thoughts, not to pay attention to sinful ones, then we will be able to keep our minds clean.
The Holy Fathers advise every evening to sum up the past day, remember what you have sinned, repent of it, thank the Lord for all the mercies that He sends us. If sinful thoughts approach or overcome some passions, one must say the Jesus Prayer or “Virgin Mother of God, rejoice.” The demons cannot stand this, and retreat.
3. Attention to one's own sins
It is necessary to carefully preserve the state of spiritual peace and purity that a person received after a sincere confession and keeps with the help of control over his own thoughts.
Of course, it will not be possible to completely get rid of vices in all their manifestations. Therefore, it is important to get rid of them until they have overcome a person. As soon as conscience gives a signal about the approach of the "enemy", you must immediately block his path. Then it will be much easier to get rid of the consequences.
For example, the devil tempts a person with drunkenness. First, he slips him one glass, then a second, a third ... If a person does not see a threat, then the next time the “circumstances” will be such that it will definitely be necessary to drink “for the health” of friends. Then again there is a reason, more, more ...
A person does not even have time to look back, as he already does not even need a reason to drink. He just can't help but use it. If earlier conscience tormented me, now it is the impossibility of a hangover. But if a person had stopped even then, after the first pile, passion would not have been able to take possession of him and destroy his spiritual world.
4. "Judge not, lest you be judged"
One of the biggest and most widespread vices of modern man is idle talk and condemnation. Friends gathered together, it is necessary to talk for five hours in a row about men, beauty, advice from glossy magazines, fashion, about how good they are and how bad everyone else is. It is imperative to condemn her friend Dasha, who doesn’t care about herself at all, she’s all gone to the family, the tasteless costume of the boss, the boorish watchman, and even the people from the election posters. And how does St. Seraphim of Sarov teach? “In order to preserve peace of mind ... one must avoid judging others.”
If a person goes deep inside himself, sees his sins and tries to change, and not to crush everyone under his whims, then he simply has no time to condemn others. Moreover, he sees his own unworthiness, condemns himself and tries to improve, and treats his neighbor with attention and love, sees in everyone the image of God. If someone does something wrong, then he, on the contrary, is looking for excuses for such actions.
5. Stay focused, talk less about politics and watch the news less
A worldly person cannot completely separate himself from what is happening in a country, on a continent, or even on a planetary scale. But he definitely needs to filter the information that he has to deal with every day. News of war, murder and looting can provoke condemnation and anger, and it is not by chance that the topics of politics and nationality are included among those that cause controversy, quarrels and misunderstandings. Peace in the soul? No, I didn't.
Very wise advice on this matter is given by shiigumen John (Alekseev): “The most important thing is to try to be peaceful, and in order to be peaceful, do not touch any other people’s affairs, avoid all kinds of ridiculous chatter, reading newspapers and listening to the news.”
6. Wish well to every person
God gave life to every person. Each left the imprint of the Creator. He who is in harmony with God loves people and sincerely wishes them well. Look at the monks: they devote their whole lives to serving the Lord and... people. How? In long prayers they ask God not only for themselves, but for all mankind.
Demons repeatedly tempt everyone with self-love, pride and envy. They say, why work for the sake of others, they are ungrateful! And your neighbor's house is more comfortable, his wife is more beautiful, his children are more well-mannered, and dinner is tastier. Such thoughts eat a person from the inside.
To find peace of mind, you need to get rid of destructive negativity. After all, you can cultivate in yourself another way of thinking: yes, it means that the neighbor deserved it, and I have what I have because of my sins.
7. In everything, rely on the will of God and in any situation thank the Almighty
It takes time and a certain spiritual experience to understand that only the will of the Almighty is good for a person. After all, He loves people so much that He became incarnate and, for the sake of the redemption of mankind, accepted a painful and humiliating death. God wants everyone to be saved. The Lord has no mercantile interests (this is generally alien to Him).
Everything that God sends to a person serves for his salvation. Every situation, every person you meet is not just like that. Therefore, we must thank the Lord for everything and ask Him to teach us to seek His will. Aren't you glad when relatives, friends, colleagues agree with you in thoughts? When a person's will coincides with the Creator's plan, an amazing harmony arises, a person finds peace of mind.
8. Learn patience and humility, remember that a person is cleansed by enduring sorrows
You must have seen how calm and detached the monks look, especially the elderly? Didn't they marvel at the courage of mothers who saw their children die for the faith?
In front of the eyes of the martyr Sophia, her three daughters - Vera, Nadezhda, Lyubov - were brutally killed. What was it like for the mother who wore them under her heart? But the saint acquired great patience, humility, and trust in the will of the Creator in order to endure so many sorrows. In her own way, she even rejoiced for her children, because after such torment, heavenly cloisters awaited them.
Nikolai Berdyaev writes that war benefits humanity in the sense that people begin to understand that material wealth is by no means the main thing, they become more sensitive to human grief. By enduring such sorrows and realizing that they were sent for sins, people are cleansed.
But such methods of finding peace in the soul are not suitable for everyone. You need to have great faith and courage to endure this without a murmur. You need to have hope in God and understand the words from the prayer "Our Father": "Thy will be done."
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The greatest gift of God, which we need most of all and which we receive very often from God as a result of our prayer, is the peace of the heart, as the Savior says: “Come to Me, all you who are weary and heavy-laden, and I will give you rest.”(). And rejoice and consider yourself rich, having everything, when you have received the world (1).
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Peace and abundance of heart life after communion is the greatest, inestimable gift of the Lord Jesus Christ, surpassing all the gifts related to the body and taken together. Without peace of mind, with a tightness and torment of the heart, a person cannot enjoy any benefits, either material or spiritual, for him then there are no pleasures that come from a sense of truth, goodness and beauty, because the very center of his life is suppressed and killed - the heart , or inner man (6).
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The world is integrity, the health of the soul; the loss of the world is the loss of mental health (6).
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Everything that makes up me, a person (soul), lives solely by God and only in union with Him, and being separated from Him, is extremely poor. But the life of my soul constitutes the world of my spiritual forces, and this world exclusively comes from God. True, there is also a world of the flesh, but this is a deceptive world - the forerunner of a spiritual storm, the Lord says about such a world: "when they say(to people): "peace and security", then sudden destruction will come upon them"(), but the spiritual world, originating from the Spirit of God, differs, like heaven from earth, from that carnal world. He is heavenly, blessed. Peace to you,” the Lord often said to His disciples, teaching them His peace, and the apostles also taught the believers the peace of God and wished them the peace of God as the first good, precisely because it constitutes the life of our soul and testifies to the union of our soul with God. The absence of peace in the soul, the indignation which distinguishes all the passionate states of our soul, is spiritual and a sign of the action in our hearts of the enemy of our salvation (6).
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"Strive to have peace with everyone and holiness, without which no one will see the Lord"(). Do not break the world because of the perishable and transient, because of your sinful self-love. Love the world more than anything, as the Lord Himself. Let nothing be more precious than peace and mutual love. Let's love the world, peace, peace! (6)
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If you feel that you have begun to experience inexplicable anxiety, quarrel for no reason with family and friends, often raise your voice to others, then you are clearly not in order. So, you need to find free time, at least one day, in order to relax and bring yourself back to normal. Even in the case of serious troubles, you can always find a way to move away from them for a while. After all, ignoring the state of your inner world, you risk getting health problems, and also alienate people who love you, but cannot understand such a state.
Put all your affairs and worries aside, take a day off, send your husband (wife) to visit relatives, turn off your phone, forget about all sources of information. Stay alone with yourself and spend this day in, so that nothing interferes with the absolute peace around you. Get a good night's sleep, then take a bath with some relaxing, aromatic oil or bubble bath. Next, listen to soothing music or, for example, recordings such as the sounds of nature, the sea, etc. You can treat yourself to something. These small joys will make you almost new, able to enjoy life again.
After the rest, you will gain strength and be able to spend the evening with your loved ones. Visit a place with which you have fond memories. Pleasant company and environment will help your soul to calm down.
If possible, take a vacation. For example, to the sea. Water will remove, and a change of scenery and activities will make it possible to achieve inner harmony. Perhaps you will look at those problems that once seemed insoluble, with different eyes. Understand that peace of mind is necessary for a calm, measured life.
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What does it mean to be in the right place
To the question of "one's place in life", one can give several answers. For someone to be in the right place successfully make a career or take place in a professional sense. It is enough for another person to find a hobby to their liking, which will allow them to fully realize their inner creative potential. Still others consider themselves in their place when they are surrounded by like-minded people.
Regardless of the individual meaning of this concept, finding your place means being in a comfort zone. In such an environment, a person feels confident, has no doubts and does not waste time looking for his destiny. Being in his place, a person experiences satisfaction, peace and tranquility. Even the inevitable minor troubles, without which it is difficult to do in life, are not able to bring such a person out of a state of peace of mind.
Finding your place in life
Almost every person, with rare exceptions, builds his life by trial and error. It is not so often to meet those who already at a young age realized their destiny, chose their professional path and the scope of their natural talents. To make the search for the optimal life path as short as possible, it makes sense to engage in introspection.
A kind of inventory of your abilities and interests will help you find your own place in life. In order to get into your destiny and feel yourself in your place, it is important that the business that a person chooses as the main one is in agreement with the internal attitudes and preferences of a person. If you choose a niche for yourself in which you are not interested, you can feel "out of your element" for the rest of your days.
It is best if, in the process of searching for a profession, a person finds a business for himself that arouses his sincere interest. To achieve professional success, you have to give yourself to work entirely, without a trace. It will be very difficult to maintain the necessary motivation if the business you are doing does not cause you to. In this sense, finding your place means finding a job that you will do with passion.
For those who are still in search of their place in life and in thought, we can recommend a very strong psychological move. It consists in the conscious expansion of the usual comfort zone. To do this, it can be enough to visit places where you have not been before, do a business that you consider too much for yourself, meet new people, or even completely change your environment.
Going beyond the former zone of life comfort, a person expands his capabilities and often comes across the most unexpected areas of application of his abilities. At first, going beyond the usual can cause self-doubt and temporary discomfort. But for many people, such a decision becomes an effective way to get to know themselves better and realize their full personal potential.
peace in soul- what it is? This is a harmonious view of the world, calmness and self-confidence, the ability to rejoice and forgive, to cope with difficult situations. Inner harmony is not so common in today's world, where everyone has a busy schedule of tasks and responsibilities, so there is simply not enough time to stop and watch the sunset. Buy at soul peace is possible. Psychologists give some advice on this matter.
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peace and harmony are impossible without joy and in the heart. Don't be afraid to give your time and share your soul positive energy, treat people positively. If you expect good deeds from those around you, see the best in people and treat them with all your heart, then you can find that there are a lot of wonderful people around you. By treating people positively and kindly, you will notice that they reciprocate. When everything is in order with other people, this is a good basis for internal balance.
Treat problems not as troubles that have fallen on your head inappropriately, but as tasks that need to be completed. Many rush to blame colleagues, acquaintances and relatives for their problems, they are ready to reveal all the secrets of their lives to a fellow traveler on the train, complaining about life all the way, but they do not ask themselves what is the true reason. And it very often lies in the very! Try to understand if there is something that hinders you, in yourself? Sometimes, in order to find harmony, you need to change. Do not blame yourself, but work on yourself.
Forgive others. Everyone makes mistakes. If there are people whom you cannot forgive, you cannot forget to them what they have done to you - soul you won't get much peace. Justice is a category of law, and even there it is not always achieved, and a person judges “by mercy”, so goodbye. Moreover, forgiveness should be given not only to others, but also to yourself! This is very important, because many cannot forgive themselves for any mistake, blaming themselves for all the failures.
Rejoice. Life is made up of this, and not at all of serious and big events. If there is an opportunity to do some small thing that will please your loved ones - do not miss the opportunity to do it. Such things at first glance seem insignificant, but they allow you to achieve a permanent good mood, and from this to soul peace of mind - one step.
When planning something, say to yourself not “I have to do this”, but “I want to do this”. After all, most of the things that you “should” are actually your planned and desired things that you really want to do. For example, not feeling like going to the store for flour right now, you still conceived it in order to bake something tasty and please your family. That is, in reality, you do not have to go shopping, but want to do it to achieve your goal.
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You can often hear people complain about the fact that they can not find peace of mind. If we define it as the inner and outer harmony of a person, then this can mean reconciliation with oneself and the surrounding reality. This is a state when you do not have internal contradictions and have established calm, friendly relations with those who are close to you. Peace of mind is necessary so that all misfortunes and illnesses bypass you.
Instruction
In one of the biblical parables, it is said that a man suffering because he did not have shoes was comforted when he saw a man who did not have legs. If you feel bad, then direct your strength not to suffering, but to help other people. If it is even harder for one of your relatives or friends, offer your participation, help him with your deed. A grateful look will be enough for you to feel peace and happiness from the fact that someone has become easier.
When you understand that your life and your happiness depend only on you, that only you know best what you need and stop making claims to others, then you will stop being annoyed and deceived in your expectations. Never accumulate resentment in yourself, forgive the people who hurt you. Communicate with those who are pleasant to you and yours will be strengthened every day.
Know how to appreciate life and notice how beautiful it is. Enjoy every minute, every day you live. Understand that the external environment depends on your internal state. Depending on the mood, the attitude to the same phenomena also changes. So, control yourself and do not let anger and envy affect your attitude. Don't judge other people, let them judge themselves.
Do not treat troubles as a punishment and an obstacle, be grateful to fate for helping you forge your character, achieve your goal, overcoming them. In any trouble and failure, look for positive moments and find them. Do not take every little thing as confirmation that everything in the world is against you. Let go of negativity and be free.
Live in the present, because the past has already passed and suffering over it is a waste of time. The future starts today, so be happy with what you have now. Fill your soul with warmth and light, love and appreciate those who are next to you today, so that you don’t regret later that you didn’t see and appreciate it.
Peace of mind allows you to put your emotional state in order. The person becomes more cheerful and happy. The quality and speed of work are noticeably improved, and relationships with other people are also improving. But how do you find peace of mind?
Manage your thoughts. Don't let negativity control your feelings. If you subconsciously look for the bad in the surrounding things, then they will soon consist entirely of shortcomings. Program your mind for a positive flow of emotions. Teach him to see the good even where there seems to be nothing good. Learn to control your thoughts. This will allow you to focus on the really important things.
Live today. The main enemy of peace of mind is the mistakes of the past and constant worries. You need to admit to yourself that unrest will not help change the situation. It is better to take concrete actions so that such a mistake does not happen again. Find positive aspects in this bad experience, just stop tormenting yourself because of a stupid oversight.
Focus on your goal. When a person knows what he is striving for, his state of mind becomes very. Have no doubt that you will be able to achieve what you want. Just keep going despite all the obstacles. Constantly imagine that you already got what you wanted. This will give you an additional influx of strength to deal with negativity.
Sit in silence. A few minutes of this practice can relieve emotional and physical stress, fatigue and mental anxiety. At such moments, you can talk about life and make plans for the future. Regular meditation in silence allows you to quickly find peace of mind.
The fussiness of modern life makes us increasingly think about how to find the inner peace. After all, you so want to achieve balance and arrive at peace with yourself. Every person who dares to look at his life from the side and change it is able to do this.
Instruction
Love yourself. Learn to accept yourself the way you are. With all the shortcomings, weaknesses and other moments that scare you. Appreciate yourself, your personality and your body.
Do what you love. Do not waste your vitality on an activity that you do not like. Choose a profession that will bring you pleasure. If you are in a position that contradicts your inner world, do not be afraid to leave it and retrain in the field that has always attracted you.
