It's no secret that emotions play an important role in our lives. Communicating with people, you can probably notice that people show emotions in different ways, share their feelings.

Emotions are an adaptive mechanism that is inherent in us by nature to assess the situation. After all, a person does not always have time when he can correctly and accurately assess what is happening to him. Suppose in a situation of danger ... And then once - I felt something and there is a feeling that I either “like” or “dislike”.

Moreover, the emotional assessment is the most correct - nature cannot deceive. Emotional evaluation occurs very quickly and reason and logic are not "mixed" here. After all, you can logically explain anything and give a bunch of all sorts of rational arguments.

Watching people (including myself) I notice that there are situations in which people either ignore their emotions, or try not to notice them, or simply do not realize. I will not now make assumptions about the reasons for this, I will only say that without listening to oneself, to one's emotional life, a person cannot adequately and fully perceive the situation, and thereby make the most effective decision.

In ordinary life, this can manifest itself in the fact that by ignoring or repressing one's emotions, a person can create an incorrect belief for himself. For example, if a wife is ignorant/unconscious or unwilling to admit her anger towards her husband, she may take her anger out on another person or children in a completely different situation.

Or, I had a client who had this belief: “I can’t offend a person, upset him.” As it turned out, if a person gets angry, then she will experience guilt, which she did not want to meet.

In my consultations, I very often come across the emotional sphere. I once noticed that it is sometimes very difficult for people to say what they really feel or what emotion they are experiencing right now. Even if a person realizes that he has some feeling now, sometimes it is very difficult to say it in words, to name it.

One of my clients told me so: “I feel a GOOD feeling, but I don’t know what it’s called ..”.

And I decided to fill this gap on the pages of my site. Below is a list of emotions and feelings that I managed to find, I hope that after reading it, you can significantly replenish the awareness of what can happen to you.

And by the way, you can check yourself: before reading the list, I suggest you make it yourself, and then compare how complete your list is ...

9. Emotions as internal regulators of activity. Classification of emotions.

Emotions (from Latin emovere - to excite, excite) are states associated with the assessment of the significance for the individual of the factors acting on him and are expressed primarily in the form of direct experiences of satisfaction or dissatisfaction of his actual needs. Emotion is understood as either an inner feeling of a person, or a manifestation of this feeling (see non-verbal communication). Often the strongest, but short-term emotions are called affect, and the deepest and most stable ones are called feelings. Emotion is a mental process of impulsive regulation of behavior, based on a sensory reflection of the needful significance of external influences, their favorable or harmful effect on the life of an individual.

Emotions arose as a result of evolution for better adaptation of the body. Emotions are always bivalent (have two poles). They are positive or negative. Separate vital properties of objects and situations, causing emotions, tune the body to the appropriate behavior. This is a mechanism for direct assessment of the level of well-being of the organism's interaction with the environment.

Being directly related to the endocrine-vegetative system, emotions can turn on energy mechanisms of behavior. Thus, the emotion of fear, arising in a situation that is dangerous for the body, provides a reaction aimed at overcoming the danger - the orienting reflex is activated, the activity of all currently secondary systems is inhibited: the muscles necessary for the fight are tensed, breathing quickens, the heartbeat increases, the composition of the blood changes etc.

Emotions are directly related to instincts. So, in a state of anger, a person has a grin of teeth, narrowing of the eyelids, clenching of fists, a rush of blood to the face, assuming threatening postures, etc. All basic emotions are innate. Proof of this is the fact that all peoples, regardless of their cultural development, have the same facial expressions when expressing certain emotions. Even in higher animals (primates, dogs, cats and others), we can observe the same facial expressions as in humans. However, not all external manifestations of emotions are innate; some are acquired as a result of training and education (for example, special gestures as a sign of a particular emotion).

Any manifestations of human activity are accompanied by emotional experiences. Thanks to them, a person can feel the state of another person, empathize with him. Even other higher animals can assess each other's emotional states.

The more complex a living being is organized, the richer the gamut of experienced emotional states. But some smoothing of manifestations of emotions in a socialized person is observed as a result of an increase in the role of volitional regulation.

All living organisms initially strive for that which corresponds to their needs and for that through which these needs can be satisfied. A person acts only when his actions make sense. Emotions are innate, spontaneous signalers of these meanings. Cognitive processes form a mental image, representations, and emotional processes provide selectivity of behavior. A person tends to do what causes positive emotions. Positive emotions, constantly combined with the satisfaction of needs, themselves become a need. A person begins to need positive emotions and is looking for them. Then, replacing the needs, the emotions themselves become an incentive to action.

In a variety of emotional manifestations, several basic emotions are distinguished: joy (pleasure), sadness (displeasure), fear, anger, surprise, disgust. The same need in different situations can cause different emotions. Thus, the need for self-preservation in the face of a threat from the strong can cause fear, and from the weak - anger.

Classification of emotions

Duration

Usually complex emotions are longer.

Emotion intensity

weak - appears rarely and accidentally, easily suppressed by other feelings. Difficult to control mind. (shyness)

medium - Usually controlled by consciousness, can affect other senses.

strong - It is difficult to control consciousness. Suppresses other feelings. (anger, love, happiness)

A stronger emotion causes greater changes in the psyche.

Emotion sign

Positive - a person tends to the object of emotion.

Negative - the person tends away from the object of emotion.

There is a paradox when a person seeks a source of negative emotion, such as pain. It can be explained as follows: A strong negative emotion causes strong motivation and arousal. This motivation is a secondary benefit and a real goal.

Orientation of emotion

Or emotion addiction:

on yourself, on something outside, or on someone (person),

to the past, present or future.

Leading emotions arising from personal needs: Grief. Joy. Fear. Hope. Anger. Satisfaction. Interest. Neglect.

Emotions associated with personal norms and rules: guilt. Self respect. Responsibility. Irresponsibility. Contempt. Respect. Sympathy-antipathy.

Emotions that arise as a result of compliance or non-compliance with someone else's or social standards, norms, rules: Shame. OK. Delight. Self-confidence. Pride. Disturbance. Disgust. Shyness.

Emotions that arise in connection with other people's needs: Goodwill. Gratitude. Generosity. Joy for another. Gloat. Envy. Greed. A pity.

Emotions arising from mutual relationships with others

People: Credulity. Adoration. Pretentiousness. Delight. Suspicion. Insult. fawning. Resentment.

Emotions based on contempt: Flattery. Complacency. Superiority. Celebration. Arrogance. Indignation. Humiliation. Bitterness.

Classifications of emotions

Rubinstein. Reason: according to the reflected subject, according to function, according to the degree of awareness, according to the level of development, according to the degree of generalization. Allocates 4 types of emotional experiences:

Feelings (emotions)

• Moods

Feelings (emotions) are experiences that convey a person's attitude to the outside world. In the development of emotions, 3 levels of feelings are distinguished in connection with the development of the motivational-need sphere of the personality and, if possible, awareness:

The level of organic affective-emotional sensitivity. Feelings arise in connection with the organic needs of man. It includes elementary, so-called. physical sensations - pleasures, displeasures. Each feeling reflects the objective state of the individual's organism, which is in a certain relationship with the outside world. These can be local, local feelings, or the general organic well-being of the individual - in this case, the emotional state is uncertain. Unrecognized, pointless.

object feelings. Stable emotional experiences in relation to certain subjects that have a stable interest of a person. The objectification of a feeling means a higher level of its awareness. Here feeling is an attitude to the world, expressed in conscious experience. Feelings are differentiated depending on the subject area, the interests to which they relate: intellectual (cognitive interests), aesthetic and moral (moral values). This is love or hatred for someone, indignation of c.-l. deed.

The level of generalized feelings. They express common more or less stable worldview attitudes of the individual. Associated with thinking. These feelings correlate with generalized life situations. Senses of humor, irony, sublime, tragic. It seems ridiculous that at first he appears with the appearance of superiority and then reveals his inconsistency (a sense of the comic). In humor, laughter at human shortcomings must be combined with sympathy, which must even dominate ridicule, otherwise "tragic humor" arises. Irony strikes the imperfection of the world from the standpoint of an ideal towering above it.

Isolation of emotions that perform the function of adaptation in a situation. Emotions modify the situation according to the basic need so that it can be acted upon.

Affect is a rapid, rapidly flowing emotional process of an explosive nature, a defensive reaction of the body in a situation of life danger, which can give a discharge in action that is not subject to conscious volitional control. The affect is experienced in the situation. Even more pronounced is a pathological affect, after which a person does not remember what he did.

Passion is a strong, persistent, long-lasting feeling that captures a person and owns him. A person loses control over his behavior, passion imposes it. Passion is expressed in the appropriate orientation of all the thoughts of the individual towards a single goal. The unity of emotional and volitional motives. On the other hand, this is a kind of combination of activity with passivity. Passion captures a person, he is a suffering, passive being, in the power of some kind of force, but this force also comes from him.

Mood is a general diffuse non-objective emotional state. The mood is not objective, but personal; it is not timed to any event, but a diffuse general state. This is an unconscious emotional “assessment” by a person of how circumstances are currently developing for her (does not know the reason).

Leontiev. Reason: means of controlling emotions, the presence / absence of such means, the levels of development of emotional life. Allocates 3 classes of emotional processes:

• Actually emotions.

These classes differ both in qualitative characteristics and in the share of participation in the regulation of activity (the main function of emotions is regulatory)

Affect is a strong and relatively short-term emotional experience, accompanied by pronounced motor and visceral manifestations. They arise in response to a situation that has actually occurred (shifted to the end of the event), they have the ability to accumulate, accumulate. Are not manageable. The regulatory function consists in the formation of a specific experience - affective traces that determine the selectivity of subsequent behavior in relation to situations and their elements that previously caused an affect. A tendency to obsession or to inhibition (associative experiments of Jung, Luria (inhibition: violation of conjugated motor reactions)).

Emotions proper are longer states, sometimes weakly expressed in outward behavior. They have a situational character, they express an evaluative personal attitude to emerging or possible situations, to their activities and their manifestations in them. They are ideational in nature - they are able to anticipate situations and events that have not actually occurred yet, and arise in connection with ideas about experienced or imaginary situations. They are capable of generalization and communication - emotional experience is wider than the experience of individual experiences (

People experience different emotions every day – sometimes good, sometimes not so good.
It has become so habitual that we do not even think about how and why emotions appeared in our ancestors. But they were very important!

We experience many emotional outbursts, but among them there are seven of the most important, basic emotions, without which our life would be completely different. It is about them that we will now talk.

Any emotion is involuntary if it is sincere.
Mark Twain

6. Base emotion - Surprise

Emotion, with the help of which we have the opportunity to better orientation in space, increase attention and achieve mutual understanding. Such a reaction facilitates the opportunity to consider something new in what we are already accustomed to. However, if a person is in a state of anxiety, then instead of surprise, he may experience fear.

7. Base emotion - Joy

One of the best possible emotions that supports our external manifestations. Thanks to this reaction, we reduce the distance between ourselves and other people and can interact with them. It is a reaction to receiving pleasure, or what is meant by it.

Conclusion

This is far from the whole "palette" of our emotions, especially since new ones are often added to the already existing ones.

We need to learn to understand our emotions, and then we will be able to clearly determine how we react to different events and how to behave in this or that case.

Listen to your mind - and truly wonderful opportunities will open before you!

A slightly abridged version of the article by L. Chernyaev from the collection "Gestalt-2007", MGI, Moscow, 2007.

Emotion - accumulated and accumulated energy to change or maintain the distance and contact process. Emotion allows you to change the distance to another and vary the intensity of contact.

Basic emotions these are elementary emotions that are no longer split into anything, and are themselves components of other complex emotions. These are: fear, anger, disgust, sadness, shame, guilt, tenderness, joy, satisfaction, interest, surprise, gratitude.

autistic emotions- these are emotions, the experience of which is possible without a subject in the environment: disgust, anger, fear, interest, joy, satisfaction, surprise.
Contact emotions are emotions towards the subject, i.e. these are autistic emotions, but directed to the subject, and also tenderness, sadness, gratitude.

Social or evaluative emotions It's shame and guilt.
Complex emotion consists of the interaction of simple emotions: for example, envy consists of anger, interest and shame.

A distinctive feature of basic emotions is that they are easily transformed into desire and action.

Complex emotions are difficult to experience because they require the simultaneous satisfaction of two or more needs (sometimes opposite ones). Each emotion maintains its own process of changing distance and activity.

Experiencing an emotion, a person sets himself up for certain actions, therefore there are no negative or positive emotions, all emotions are positive. Rather, there is the ability to tolerate emotions. And some do not endure pleasure, tenderness and joy for a long time, but they keep guilt, resentment and anger for years.

In contact, emotion is the framework and form of interaction between the organism and the environment. Pleasant/unpleasant to experience an emotion is a consequence of a person's attitude to this emotion, based on family scenario and experience. Accordingly, the division into useful / harmful emotion is a consequence of rationalization, suppression or stimulation of experience.

The alternation of tension and relaxation of the body in the environment is the influence of emotion, because. any emotion is an expression of need and prepares for action, respectively, leads to tension, but at the same time, the environment also activates emotion in the body. And after the full manifestation of the emotion and the satisfaction of the need, the field tension decreases. Thus, emotions support spontaneous self-regulation by participating in the process of tension-relaxation.

Toxic level of emotion- this is a level of emotional arousal at which this emotion dominates and inhibits the appearance of other emotions, destroys the contact of the body with the environment, narrows perception to tunnel perception, organizes excessive concentration of energy without discharge, leads to loss of orientation and ability to test reality, substitution of reality for representations and fantasies about reality. At the same time, transcendental excitement and a state of intolerance to this emotion arise.

Human and environmental activities are aimed at reducing the intensity of toxic emotions.
A toxic emotion can be any basic emotion. In the background of any situation, all the basic emotions are present at the same time.

I. Fear

Fear (fright, fear, horror, panic) is an emotion that occurs when danger is detected. In fear there is knowledge of the harmful and destructive past and the desire to avoid repeating the dangerous experience in the future. Fear warns of a possible violation of the boundaries.

Fear is projective, often denies the present, ignores real opportunities and resources.
Fear contains the energy to increase distance. At the same time, this distance, depending on the ability to experience fear and assess the danger, can be as follows:

BUT. The maximum distance to move away from danger. This is the distance at which the danger ceases to be distinguishable and merges with the background. This is a reaction of flight, destruction of contact,

B. Portable and moving distance. At this distance, the danger is clearly visible, but its influence is limited. This balance between approach and distance keeps the relationship and contact between organism and environment unchanged. This distance arises under the influence of two fears - the fear of approaching and the fear of removal.

The fear of approaching stops the reduction of distance and the strengthening of contact, because. contact carries danger, and the fear of removal is stopped by the threat of breaking the contact, and the intensity of fear fluctuates around the zone of the simultaneous resulting minimum from these two fears. The distance is fixed at the level of tolerance of both fears.

As a rule, fear is associated with an interest in novelty, change and possible danger, with a desire to resist the environment or a desire to learn about the environment. Through fear, the need for orientation and the need for change are satisfied ("what I'm afraid of, that's what I want").

Fear can be almost unbearable, but if there is shame in the situation, then a person cannot change the distance much. As the distance to danger increases, fear becomes bearable, but shame becomes unbearable, and the image of the Self changes to an unacceptable one, which leads to a reduction in the distance. So there is a fluctuation in which any distance is unacceptable. For a sustainable change in distance, another emotion must arise, for example, anger, disgust, interest.

Actions under the influence of fear:

1. Fleeing, avoiding, ignoring, denying
2. Fading
3. Defense A. Offense b. The control
4. Forecasting
5. Regression and helplessness
6. Request for help
7. Rationalization

Fear is experienced by the whole body.
There are two types of fears:

1. Vital fears associated with id:
   Fear of death, Fear of insanity, Fear of pain and illness, Fear of impotence, hunger
2. Social fears associated with Personality:
   Situational Fears: poverty, success, intimacy.
   Fear of experience: helplessness, impotence, humiliation, responsibility, rejection (loneliness is a consequence of rejection. Existential loneliness is a given. There is lonely loneliness, a consequence of rejection or loss, and free loneliness.)

Fear is similar to disgust by increasing distance, but in fear there is an energy to contact danger, to explore danger, to expose and win.
Toxic fear is horror and panic.
Contact fear - fear, fear.
Autistic - horror and fright

II. Anger

Anger (irritation, hostility, annoyance, indignation, anger, anger, rage, hatred, rage) is an emotion for changing the existing situation, for changing both the distance and the object or subject of contact.

If the target of anger is changes in attitudes, situations, then it is constructive. If it is impossible to change the relationship, then the anger becomes annihilation and is directed either at the object that causes anger, or at oneself, at the organism itself, or at breaking the relationship, because. the rupture of relations is also the "destruction" of the object ("It no longer exists for me").

But after the external interruption of the relationship, anger persists in the form of a desire for revenge, a feeling of guilt. Internal relationships are not complete, and anger is a source of energy for the restoration and transformation of relationships.

Anger can be caused by hunger, pain, and fear. Hunger or deficiency excites anger in the body to search for and obtain from the environment the necessary elements of the environment, to overcome the resistance of the environment. The most natural response to pain is anger, which is necessary to destroy the source of the pain. Fear, denoting danger in the environment, activates anger for protection. Anger maintains integrity and defends boundaries.
Anger can be a cover for other, painful emotions, as Anger is a good pain reliever and a reliable source of energy. Often shame, guilt, tenderness, grief and fear and other emotions can stand behind anger. When a person begins to experience a painful state of guilt or shame, then anger easily arises to anesthetize and destroy the offender.

In any relationship transformation there is an energy of anger. In order to build the new, it is necessary to change, to destroy the old. Anger is a contact feeling to reduce the distance.
Toxic anger is rage and rage.

III. Disgust

Disgust (squeamishness, satiety, neglect, disgust, disgust).
This emotion arises when the boundaries of the organism are violated, in which poisoning and destruction occur. Smells, introjects, relationships, appearance, the way the environment behaves can poison.

Disgust is an emotion to be rejected and removed with a minimum of touch, or at least to turn away. If the organism cannot reject, then it itself moves away from the object of disgust. Relations with disgust do not develop, the distance increases until disgust merges with the emotional background.

Aversion helps to maintain integrity and boundaries, removing everything that destroys it from the body and its boundaries. At the same time, it is important to single out toxic and supportive relationships in relations with the environment.

Disgust is similar to fear, as both of these emotions increase the distance, but disgust involves withdrawal and forgetting, and fear involves withdrawal along with attention to danger, and then interaction, because. in fear there is energy for contact.

Anger and disgust must be well differentiated. Often the environment causes disgust, and a person habitually tries to experience irritation and begins to mistakenly approach, thereby increasing disgust. Increasing disgust causes even greater anger, and so on, up to annihilation aggression.

In our culture, disgust is tabooed, suppressed, which, according to F. Perls, leads to greed and self-interest.

IV. sadness

Sadness (sadness, melancholy, despondency, sorrow, grief). This emotion helps to complete the relationship, create a new body integrity and restore boundaries.
Sadness is the energy to complete the process of loss and loss. With a loss, there is an increase in distance in addition to desire, will and control. The organism loses resources: environmental support, and internal resources, or both.

Along with the loss comes inner pain and emptiness, which must be experienced and then found how to fill the inner emptiness. Sadness helps you say goodbye to relationships and come to terms with reality. If the attachment was deep, then after its loss there is a feeling of emptiness, and a person can maintain the resulting emptiness in anticipation of a return and restoration of relations. If the emptiness is large enough and there are no resources to live the sadness, then it is possible that the work of restoring the boundaries cannot be completed, and anguish or acute grief ensues.

Accepting the emptiness and the fact that the relationship no longer exists is the hardest thing about dealing with grief or toxic sadness. The energy of sadness is directed: at the recognition of emptiness, the impotence to maintain contact, at living the emptiness and filling it. If the other was significant, then after the work of sadness, he remains in the structure of the Self, but already takes up less space and the void is filled with memories, and not fantasies and hopes.

Often guilt fills this void, keeping the hope of forgiveness and restoration of the relationship alive. If there is guilt, then, perhaps, after punishment and forgiveness, there will be a renewal of relations.

It is easier for the autistic client to end the mourning.
Grief is toxic sadness.

V. Shame (self-disgust).

Shame (embarrassment, confusion, shyness, timidity, modesty, inconvenience, confusion) is the child's introjected disgust, rejection and ignoring of the parents towards the child himself. Later, in inner speech, this disgust sounds like this: "I am disgusting to myself. How ashamed of being the way I am now. I am ready to burn with shame, sink into the ground. I blush and hide."

The disgust of parents is a rejection for the child, deprivation of their love, and the child is ready to destroy his objectionable Self, to give up part of himself, but to remain in contact with his parents. Thus, the child, by introjecting shame, learns to be in touch and meet expectations.

Later in the experience of shame there is a rejection of some part of one's self under the influence of the environment or introject. In the experience of shame, there is the presence of the invisible eye of the evaluating observer, the bearer of the correct values ​​of behavior. The observing eye is often projected onto the contact partner.
Shame is socialized self-loathing.

The energy of shame arises from the opposition of the ideal self and the valued self, this tension between the way a person wants to be or look, and how he evaluates himself. The assessment is created from the self-assessment and the external assessment.
Shame stops actual contact. the shamed person considers himself unworthy of this contact, and he must either change himself or leave.
The distance during the experience of shame is fixed. Shame, in relation to distance, is a stopped flight, a fading away to relieve the pressure from the judging eye.

There is toxic shame. This is shame, in which the rejected part of one's Self is large enough and comparable to the whole Self. Therefore, complete rejection is impossible, because. there is a threat to the whole self.

But integrity is also impossible, because the energy of shame is not discharged. Then the task of therapy is the differentiation of internal rejections, the recognition and new assimilation of introjects, the direction of the stopped energy to test the environment while constantly recognizing the client as a therapist.

The energy of shame is the energy for changing and transforming one's Self. Shame accompanies any change in the Self, for example, training, demonstrating one's new achievements and acquisitions.
In the narcissistic type of contact organization, there is a lot of hidden shame and a huge lack of recognition when it is impossible to get it.

VI. Guilt (anger at one's own actions and fear of punishment).

A person has committed an act that has brought or is bringing harm or destruction to another person. This destruction may or may not be real. To inhibit such actions, the environment excites a sense of guilt.

Just as in the experience of shame, in guilt there is a judgmental significant figure who got angry at the child's activities, punished him, and trained him to be guilty for certain actions. In the future, the person himself experiences guilt to stop his actions. The environment, blaming, can manipulate a person through guilt.

Guilt stops the current action and redirects this energy of the unfinished action to the completion of the situation, i.e. involves asking for forgiveness for harm done, accepting punishment, atonement and restitution for that harm, receiving forgiveness, and continuing the relationship.

Guilt is possible only in the area of ​​human responsibility. Guilt dissolves in forgiveness from the other, restoration and recognition of boundaries.

Guilt involves forgiveness, redemption and punishment, so the distance will be both for removal and for rapprochement.

Toxic guilt is the experience of guilt for the events of the field outside the area of ​​human responsibility. Such guilt maintains the illusion of omnipotence, capture and control by others through appropriating someone else's responsibility, while real boundaries are ignored.

VII. Tenderness

Tenderness, sympathy - the experience of openness to contact and accessibility for another person, enhances and energizes the process of contact, reveals the boundaries. This is the emotion of the maximum reduction of the distance, up to merging, but merging in tenderness is mobile and makes it easy to restore autonomy.

Tenderness preserves the boundary between I and You, and allows us to form We. Tenderness sometimes causes shame.

The energy of tenderness is taken from the need for affection and intimacy.
Toxic tenderness is a pathological ego fusion.

VIII. Joy

Joy is an emotion that supports the process of transferring important and valuable property from a person to the environment, the process of excretion from the body into the environment. Joy maintains and strengthens relationships and contact, expanding boundaries. Joy is experienced with the radiation of love, knowledge, care, aggression. The distance is reduced, the contact is saturated. Joy, supporting the process of excretion, may not take into account the possibility of the environment for the assimilation of excreted by the body.

Tenderness and joy can be aggressive if the body-environment feedback is lost.
The cause of joy is in abundance.

Toxic joy is euphoria.

IX. Satisfaction

Satisfaction supports the processes of absorption and assimilation, the distance is reduced to a minimum at first, and then satisfaction maintains a healthy fusion, in which the interaction is as complete as possible, and there are no boundaries (digestion of food in the stomach). As satiety decreases, satisfaction decreases.

The process of absorption and assimilation is governed by the pair of disgust and satisfaction. In the process of absorption and subsequent assimilation, satisfaction weakens, because. satiety sets in and disgust builds (the tastiest bites of food are the first bites).

Then there is a moment when satisfaction in strength equals growing disgust, this is the time to stop absorption and increase the distance to, for example, food.
With joy, it is important to maintain sensitivity to a partner and not overfeed him, and with an emotion of satisfaction, it is important to maintain sensitivity to yourself. Joy and contentment support the eco-friendly exchange in the cycle of contact.

Toxic satisfaction can be promiscuity and insatiability.

X. Surprise

Surprise maintains orientation in space, time and situation, stops or narrows the process of interaction, fixes the distance, strengthens the boundaries. Surprise focuses attention on changes in the field and provides energy for orientation in it.

Surprise supports spontaneous self-regulation, and the ability to see the new in the ordinary and obvious supports surprise.
The reason for the surprise is the variability of the field.

Surprise is blocked by fatigue, as there is no strength to adapt to the new in the environment.
Toxic surprise is shock.

XI. Interest

Interest is an emotion that supports rapprochement and the gradual intensification of the contact process. The reduction of distance is slow, provided that the other remains a separate subject with its own boundaries. The energy of interest maintains contact through the discovery, unfoldment, and change of new figures.
Interest persists as long as there is novelty and attractiveness of differences and no fusion, and the subject of interest is not captured and subjugated.
Toxic interest - peeping.

XII. Gratitude

Gratitude helps to complete and end this contact, but not the relationship. After expressing gratitude, the distance increases, the contact energy decreases, the borders close.

Gratitude is a post-contact emotion that creates new boundaries as the field has changed as a result of the contact.

If there was joy and satisfaction in contact, and saturation and lightness arose, then gratitude arises easily. If anger, disgust, guilt and shame were experienced in contact, then gratitude does not arise so easily.

If the contact is completed, but gratitude does not arise, then one can assume a feeling of guilt, which prolongs the process of contacting and prevents the completion of the contact.
Inadequate and repeated gratitude humiliates.
Toxic gratitude - admiration and fanaticism.

The distance can be adjusted by pairs of emotions:

1. Fear of approaching/fear of distance fixes the distance.
2. The interest/fear pair governs the middle distance.
3. The tenderness/disgust pair governs close range.
4. The gratitude/sadness pair ends the contact and increases the distance.

In the course of processing, we work with mental (subconscious) material, which, like a pyramid, is the sum of 4 faces.

Here is a list of these faces, these 4 elements:

picture(image)
thought(thought form)
bodily sensation
emotion(feeling)

The key of these elements for us is emotion, which is a clot of internal (mental) energy of a person. It is emotion (energy) that is the main defining landmark of human life. In almost all of his actions and deeds, a person is guided by one or another emotion.

According to Lester Levenson(to the author of The Sedona Method) we all have 9 emotional states : apathy, sadness, fear, lust, anger, pride, courage, acceptance and appeasement. Each of these emotional states has its place on the scale of energy and action. In a state of apathy, we are practically devoid of energy and either do little or no action. In a state of sadness, we have more energy and are more active. Each subsequent emotion on this scale, until appeasement, has a higher level of energy and a greater ability to take action.

I offer a useful analogy. Imagine that your feelings are an ocean of energy that flows through a hose that embodies your body and mind. When you are in apathy, the hose is pinched, not letting in almost a drop of energy. In sadness, its diameter is slightly wider. When we get to courage, the hose is almost completely unfolded and open, so you can channel your energy into creating whatever you want. In a state of peace, the hose is absolutely straight, without twists and pinches: you are one with the ocean. If you look at emotions in this way, you will stop judging yourself by the emotions you have or don't have. After all, emotions are just energy.

The material presented here will be very useful for determining the emotional state at the moment. Whenever you have difficulty understanding your feelings, refer to the words and phrases that describe each of the nine emotional states. For example, if you find yourself quitting too often, having a negative attitude towards yourself or other people, or just having a hard time taking the first step, then you are most likely in a state of apathy. Perhaps you often catch yourself thinking: “I am not like them. I'm right. I'm smarter than the rest "- or consider yourself better and more experienced than others. Such thoughts and feelings are evidence of pride.

Nine emotional states- a way to awaken a significant part of the mind, which is under consciousness. This part of our mind is like a trash can - you know, a place where you throw and stuff all sorts of rubbish that you can't find a use for. Some have a closet, or an attic, or a garage that serves the same purpose. We clog this part of the mind with everything we can't handle or can't resolve. Any unreleased feeling is deposited in the subconscious, littered with emotional debris and limiting thoughts and feelings. The accumulated problems make it difficult to think about what is really important to us and forget about what does not matter.

During the process, we experience each of these nine emotional states in varying degrees of intensity, bringing it to the surface of consciousness and dissolving it, freeing it from the vices and clamps, allowing the energy contained in it to flow freely into us.

APATHY

In a state of apathy, it seems to us that all desires have died in us, and there is no use from them. There is nothing to do, and it seems that no one is able to help. We feel lethargic and stiff and see no way out. And we prefer to be weak and withdraw so as not to experience pain. The soul becomes so restless that we are seized by complete numbness and helplessness.

The emerging images are destructive and limited. We see failures in everything, we paint pictures of our failures, and of others, however, too. There is too little energy left in us to act and realize our plans and dreams, because inside we are torn in opposite directions.

Words that describe apathy:

To no avail
Inattentive
Helpless
Inactive
insensitive
Inconspicuous
exhausted
Indecisive
Sluggish
unassembled
Demoralized
Failure
Depressive
Jonah
Forgetful
Inability to focus
Why try?
Worthless
What's the point of this?
Expects nothing from life
Lazy
Nothing works
I don't care
Lonely
Can't win
fierce
lowering hands
Nothing dedends on me
Indifferent
Cut
scattered
Bad mood
Too late
Lack of sense of humor
Too tired
desperate
dead tired
Negative perception of the environment
Resigned
Dejected
Defeated
Tired
Depressed
Cold
Suspicious
Shock
Lost hope
It can wait
Lost
I cant

SORROW

When we are sad, we want at least someone to help, because it seems that we are not able to cope with anything on our own, and we hope that someone else will succeed. We cry for help, in desperation we pray for it. Our body has a slightly higher level of energy, but it is so tight that it hurts. Consciousness is not so heavily cluttered, unlike apathy, but it is distinguished by confusion and cloudiness. We draw our pain and get lost in these pictures. Thoughts constantly revolve around how much pain we experience, what we have lost, and whether anyone can help us.

Words and phrases that describe sadness:

Inconsolable
Helpless
Sorrow
Sadness
heartache
If only
A pity
Forgotten
Ignored
tormented
ashamed
Melancholy
Nobody loves me
Lonely
Outcast
Despair
Heartsick
sadness
Take pity on me
Forgotten
Loss
Why me
devoted
Disappointed
Find no place
Inadequate
Unwanted
Unloved
misunderstood
Unhappy
Good for nothing
Nobody cares
Nostalgia
accused
Offended
resentful
Deceived
Repentance
With a broken heart
Tearfulness
Embarrassed
Regret
Suffering
Craving
Yearning
Vulnerable
Guilt
It's not fair

FEAR

When we are in a state of fear, we want to win, but we don't win because we think the risk is too great. We are sure that we will fail. We strive to achieve great results, but we do not achieve, because we are afraid of pain. The level of energy is higher than in the state of sadness, but it is so tightly compressed that it hurts. Feelings arise and evaporate in an instant, like cold water on a hot frying pan. Consciousness is not as much cluttered as with apathy, but it is distinguished by confusion and cloudiness. Images and thoughts are destructive and gloomy. We think only about how we are hurt, what we can lose and how to protect ourselves and those close to us. Liberation through is the perfect weapon to fight fear.

Words and phrases that characterize fear:

Anxiety
Horrified
Trembling in the knees
Trapped
Hysterical
wavering
craven
Slow
Tense
Funky
incredulous
Illogical
Nervousness
Indecisive
Uncertain
Careful
Panic
Paralyzed
Paranoid
Notorious
Closed
Shy
defending
Suspicious
Timid
Confused
Skeptical
Doubts
Fear of public speaking
Superstitious
Nausea
Anxiety
Threat
Evasive
Escape from reality
Vulnerable
shocked

LUST

In the state of lust, we want to possess material things. We Crave. We feel the need for money, power, sex, people, places, things, but with doubts and insecurities. Somewhere in the depths of our souls, it seems to us that we cannot or should not have what we want. The energy level in this state is higher than in fear. It is still compressed, but the sensations are quite pleasant at times, especially when compared to the previous three emotional states. Feelings differ in intensity and saturation. Consciousness is not so much cluttered, but it is still distinguished by confusion and obsession. We try to fill our perceptions with positive images, but, in essence, these representations reflect what we do not have.

Our thoughts are about what we crave and what we lack. No matter what and how much we own, we are never satisfied with it, we do not feel satisfied and never enjoy what we have.

Words and phrases that characterize lust:

Ruthless
Reckless
Heartless
unceremonious
inner urge
Hunger
Greedy
Thirst
Forgetful
Envy
excesses
Impulsiveness
Manipulator
Obsession
obsessive attraction
Accumulation
I can not wait
Can't get enough
Fury
Insatiable
Impatient
Dishonest
Never enough
Never satisfied
Obsession
Need
Anticipation
Disappointment
Slutty
Stingy
Voluptuous
Proprietary
Predatory
Selfish
Operating
I must have it
I want

ANGER

When we are in a state of anger, we tend to attack and hurt others, but we are stopped by doubts. The energy level is slightly higher than in the state of lust, it is not so compressed, and feelings can be very intense and stormy. The mind is not as cluttered as in lust, but it is still disordered and full of intrusive thoughts.

Our paintings are destructive and related to what we would like to do with other people. We are preoccupied with thoughts of retribution, of how we will get even with others, how we will make them pay for everything. This energy can frighten us, it can force us to suppress it, even hurt it.

The actions taken, as a rule, are dangerous both for ourselves and for others.

Words and phrases that describe anger:

Aggressive
Ruthless
Reckless
Rebellious
Frenzied
quarrelsome
Explosive
Excited
Outraged
Warlike
Hostility
Hostile
Cranky
Rude
destructive
annoyance
Hard
Rigidity
Cruel
Pensive
Closed
Spiteful
Evil
Malevolent
seething with anger
Argumentative
Gloomy
Revengeful
Indignation
Hatred
Disobedient
Impatience
Touchy
Angry
Irritated
Disappointment
Jealous
Cutting
Wayward
Resistance
Demanding
Sullen
Stubborn
Feel disgusted
stinging
Furious

PRIDE

When pride takes hold of us, we strive to maintain the status quo. We don't want to change or move forward; therefore we dissuade others from moving, because we are afraid that they will be able to bypass us. The energy level is slightly higher than in a state of anger, but it is often unavailable. This energy is not as compressed as with anger, but it is vague and less obvious. Consciousness is not as cluttered as with anger, but it is distinguished by confusion, inflexibility and blurriness. Our images and thoughts are connected to what we have done and what we know. If we pay attention to others at all, we want them to notice our greatness and uniqueness and dispel oppressive doubts.

Words and phrases that describe pride:

Uncompromising
insensitive
overbearing
know-it-all
arrogant
above reproach
Distant
Asked
Closed
Arrogant
Malevolent
spoiled
categorical
Critical
Hypocritical
False Virtue
opinionated
Bored
Snob
Stoic
Severe
Conceited
false modesty
false dignity
Haughty
Unable to forgive
Intolerant
Never wrong
Limited
Special
Surface
Protective
Preconceived
Contemptuous
Disparaging
Indifferent
Complacent
presumptuous
narrow minded
Clever
Stubborn
Sanctimonious
Boastful
egocentric

Remember, the first six emotional states form a thin film over the next three: courage, acceptance, and peace. The first six states are based on the belief "I can't", the last three - "I can".

COURAGE

When we show courage, we are ready to act without hesitation. We are capable of everything. We can fix everything. We are able to change anything and at any time. We are driven by the desire to break free and move forward. The level of energy is much higher than with pride, and it is available for constructive action. Our energy is available, pure and rich. Consciousness is less cluttered and less confused. We are flexible, open and full of life. Our images and thoughts are about what we can do and learn, and how we can help others.

We are purposeful and self-confident, but we wish success and realization to others as well. Life is a great joy.

We draw the energy of courage every time we free ourselves from negative emotional layers. Since courage is our natural state, we can access it no matter how deeply it is hidden under any other emotion.

Words and phrases that characterize courage:

Active
Noble
Attentive
Flexible
Active
dynamic
Cheerful
Sane
Inventive
Initiative
Competent
Curious
Loving
Motivated
Not afraid to dream
Independent
Invincible
Not afraid to resist
Tireless
revival
supporter
Optimistic
Brave
Responsive
Open
positive attitude
Full of enthusiasm
Enterprising
insightful
Reasonable
Decisive
Independent
Strong
Brave
Compassion
Calm
Diligent
Happy
Creative
Confident
Purposeful
Purposeful
Fair
Sensitive
Sense of humor
Generous
Vigorous
I can
Clarity

ADOPTION

By accepting, we enjoy what we have, the fact that everything is exactly the way it is. You don't need to change anything. Everything is as it is, and it's wonderful. It's beautiful the way it is. The level of energy is much higher than with courage, most of the time it is at rest, but it is available at any moment. Our energy is bright, warm and saturated. Consciousness is not as cluttered as with courage, it is calm and balanced. Images and thoughts are in harmony with the surrounding world. Life is amazing and wonderful.

Acceptance Words and Phrases:

Balance
Gentle
In harmony
Generous
Cheerful
Attentive to others
Inspiration
Susceptible
Delight
Everything is fine
Harmonious
Friendly
abundance
Sincere
Light
Compassion
Passionate
Warm
Subtly feeling
Confident
Beautiful
Loving
Merciful
Soft
Gentle
Direct
Ease
Nothing to change
get rich
Open
Understanding
Affiliation
Glad
appeasement
Integrity
Sensitive
Miracle
Empathy
I have

PACIFICATION

In a state of peace, we feel: “I am. I am a whole, complete and harmonious. Everything and everyone is a part of me. Everything is perfect." The energy level is much higher than in acceptance, and she is in a state of complete rest - immobile. The energy is quiet and calm. Consciousness is pure and clear, but, nevertheless, you perceive everything sensitively. There is no need for images and thoughts Life is what it is, and everything is wonderful.

For peace, you just need to be.

Words and phrases that characterize peace:

Boundless
Serene
Eternal
Susceptible
Unity
Not limited by time
Ageless
Order
Space
realized
Free
Perfect
Perfection
Concentrated
Calm
Passionate
Existence
pacified
Whole
Clean
I am

By dissolving negative states and integrating them with positive ones, we release a huge amount of energy that makes our life much more complete and rich than the one you lived before and those around you continue to live.

If you want to go up the scale of emotional states and start feeling much better and more harmonious - just go through a few sessions.