I recently broke up with my girlfriend, we dated for 3 years. She was constantly dissatisfied, I constantly gave her flowers, gave gifts for every holiday, took her to the sea. But the better I treated her, the worse she treated me. One day her friend called her, and she walked with me, they talked for half an hour. I told her what the hell? She replied that it was just a friend. But I got tired of such a disregard attitude and I decided to leave. Now she calls me every day, finds out how things are going, communicates friendly and wants to return everything. But I don't know, this is my first such relationship for a long time, and I don't want to return anything. Just tired of giving everything to her, and she is constantly dissatisfied with everything. If anyone had such a bitter experience, please share. Can I find a way out of this situation?

If you do not want to return the relationship, then it is not necessary. But it seems to me that she could realize how well you treated her, maybe in other ways she was not so beautifully looked after. As they say, until we lose what we have, we will not appreciate it. In principle, she herself is to blame for the fact that everything turned out this way, because she didn’t appreciate you.
And finally, like Pushkin's "The less we love a girl, the more she likes us", it seems to me that there is a lot of truth and relevance in this great statement !!

Probably, the girl wants to return to her usual relationship. Be patient and tactful, do not be rude to her in communication. If you have finally decided that you are not going to renew the relationship, share it with her so that there are no illusions about the future.
Solve an important question for yourself: do you have feelings for her and how significant are they? Maybe you should not be categorical? Understand that flaws are a common occurrence for people and therefore you should not demand ideality from a loved one.
Think about your decision and tactfully tell her about it.

What is the problem I can't understand? If you don't want to go back, don't. If you don't like that she calls you every day, tell her not to bother you anymore. Decide for yourself what you want, it seems to me that now you want her to run after you. And you like it, because you have now switched places. You should not take revenge on the girl, just let her go, and find someone who will appreciate you, I'm sure that you will definitely meet her. Don't waste time on relationships that won't lead to anything.

Your experience is really bitter, but I boldly want to please you that you are lucky. It's good that this is how it ended. And if you describe correctly and tell the truth, then she is not worthy of you. As they say, we don’t save what we have, but when we lose, we immediately need it. I do not want to compare you with this saying, but it is true. You need a girl who will appreciate you not for gifts, but only for what you are. It’s not at all a pity to give everything to such a person, but on the contrary, it’s an honor! Forget about this girl!

In this vain world, two halves meet one day - He and She. Each couple has their own scenario for the development of relationships: a love story begins, unfolds and, sadly, comes to an end.

There are many reasons for parting: misunderstanding, accumulated resentment, betrayal, and just a feeling that the relationship has reached an impasse.

Almost all stories have a beautiful beginning, but not everyone is able to put a beautiful end. It is difficult to gather my thoughts and say calmly: "I'm sorry, we need to leave." The voice may tremble treacherously, and tears will flow from the eyes.

If a breakup is unavoidable, try writing a farewell letter to your boyfriend or the man you love.

Girls, of course, are subtle creatures, but often it is they who take the liberty and say the last goodbye. It's much easier to talk about a breakup in writing.

You can write a message in your own words or use the samples that we have prepared for you.

Farewell letter to boyfriend

For example, this:

“Hi, zaya. You will probably be surprised that I am writing you a letter. We are used to talking to you. True, lately all our conversations end in quarrels. I thought for a long time, understood myself, analyzed our relationship and realized: this cannot continue.

I already forgave you. And goodbye!"

who do you love

"Darling, good, beloved! I pulled myself together and decided to write you in a letter everything that I can’t put into words when we meet. Our love has turned into some kind of one-sided ugly entity. I see that my efforts to improve relations lead to nothing.

You rarely call, you perceive our meetings as a heavy duty. I'm not made of stone, and I feel it all.It hurts, it's hard, I won't pretend to be strong. I will cry, miss and worry about you.

But, so be it, I let you go free swimming. Fly towards your happiness. Unfortunately, I failed to make you happy. Let everything work out for you with another girl. Maybe you already have someone, but you're afraid to say. Fly, my dear, fly!

I release you. Forever and ever. Goodbye!"

who offended

"Hi baby. I am writing you a farewell message in prose. There is not enough spiritual strength for poems and rhymes. My strength left along with tears, which I stopped with great difficulty in order to put an end to our history.

We often quarreled, saying hurtful words to each other. We became strangers and incomprehensible to each other. Hands have ceased to be affectionate, there are no former strong hugs and ... nothing at all.

Let's confess to each other that our love has turned into nothing, we have destroyed it with our efforts. My resentment is too great to continue the relationship.

We're breaking up. Sorry and goodbye!"

who changed

"My dear! How difficult it is for me to collect my thoughts and tell you everything. Even in a letter when you don't see my tear-stained face. I know that you betrayed me. No not like this. You betrayed our love, our beautiful days and nights. Your act showed that I mean absolutely nothing to you.

Apparently I've become your habit. You call out of habit, come out of habit, and even apologize out of habit. Somehow insensitive and insincere you get it. Why do we need extra problems? We both need to change something in our lives. You already started.

Happy travels, dear! I forgive you and let go. Forever and ever."

Former

"Hi Hi! I don't even know how to address you now. The heart is beating and shouting to you “beloved”, “native”, “only”, and the mind is sobering and says “former” about you. Yes, you were a wonderful, wonderful moment in my life. Now it seems like it was all a dream. Morning came and our love dissolved.

After our separation, days and nights ceased to exist for me. I lived as if in some kind of impenetrable fog. But the heavenly forces have mercy, the fog is slowly dissolving, I see the outlines of the horizon. This means that I again live and breathe deeply.

Even though you are no longer in my reality, no one will rip you out of my heart. Memories of our meetings will always warm and encourage me. Forgive me for all. Remember us. There was love. Goodbye!"

Beloved husband

“My dear, dear man. Life decreed that you and I turned from two halves into two loneliness. I think about you every minute, my heart lives only with you. How did it happen that we broke up?

Do you remember our first meeting - our burning eyes, excitement and unquenchable desire to be together. Do you remember our days and nights? Do you remember how we missed each other?
Is love doomed to death, like all living things in this world? If I love, how can you not love? Somehow this is wrong, unfair. Feelings must be mutual.

Maybe so many problems have piled on you that you stopped hearing the voice of your heart? I will pray to heaven that your heart be freed from captivity, that love will rise in your soul. I wish you good, light, warmth and, of course, love!

Forgive me. And goodbye!"

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To a married man

“Good, not my man. How difficult it is to write a letter to a still loved one! I had no right to fall in love with you, but I could not resist the surging feelings. It's amazing that you couldn't resist.

I don’t know what to call our relationship, but it was wonderful, like a dream. As sad as it is, the time has come for both of us to wake up, look into each other's eyes for the last time, embrace each other for the last time and part.

You are married, return to your family, gather your strength and solve all the problems that have fallen on you like a man. At first, it will certainly be difficult, you will rush back, but this is the path to nowhere. A beautiful dream dissolved in the rays of a clear sun, it is time to face reality.

Be happy with the one who is your legal wife. After all, you loved her once. I wish you reunion, understanding, warmth and light. I no longer want to be the cause of your quarrels and pain.

Forgive me and let me go"

who threw

"My favorite! I'm sorry, I can't call you anything else, because I love and will always love. It hurts me, it hurts me to tears. Burning tears - that's what warms me in the last days and weeks. And before, your hands and lips warmed me.

My heart rejoiced and did not believe in my happiness. It beat like a free bird, ready to break out of its chest. And now it beats muffled and doomed, as if imprisoned forever in a dungeon.

Why did you go away? He did not explain anything, did not say goodbye, did not hug. He just disappeared from my life and that's it. I can’t believe that life goes on, and you are not around, and there will be no more. I believe in a miracle that you will come to your senses and want to return. Know, my dear, that I will always open my arms to meet you. I will be faithful to you until the end of my days.

Remember this. And be happy!

who you don't love

"Dear friend! I'm glad I met you on the path of life. You are a wonderful, sincere, interesting person. You know how to love and care beautifully. I'm sorry I can't reciprocate. My heart does not respond to the call of your heart. You are probably aware of this yourself.

I can no longer date you and continue this deception. Thank you for the love and warmth that you generously give, but believe me, I'm not the one who will reciprocate your love. Let's part as friends before our relationship reaches an impasse. Keep this farewell letter and remember that I was honest with you.

Forgive me a hundred thousand times and let me go once. Goodbye!"

SMS message

Modern girls can end a relationship by sending their ex-boyfriend a farewell text message.

Here are some examples:

"Baby, it's over between us. Goodbye!"
“It can’t go on like this anymore, love has passed, the tomatoes have withered!”
"I'm sorry, it's over, we're not together anymore. Goodbye"

Remember that sending the "last" SMS is dangerous. There is a high probability of receiving a lot of bewildered or even offensive text messages in response. A beautiful one-way farewell letter on paper will indicate the seriousness of your intentions.

The choice, of course, is yours. Perhaps you, like Tatyana Larina, would like to rhyme your last message.

touching poems

Everything in this world is not forever
Everything in the world has an end in sight.
I will hug you by the shoulders
And I whisper: "I'm sorry, goodbye."
No need for extra explanation
No need for tears and insults.
Let there be no love between us
Let's be friends.

It is difficult to decide and send a farewell letter to a guy, even if it has already been written. In any case, it is better to throw out your pain and resentment on paper than in the face of a loved one.

Who knows, suddenly this message will take your relationship to a new level, help resolve accumulated misunderstandings and improve shaky relationships. Be happy!

How to behave if you have feelings for a person, but according to him you are "friends"?
We are in October broke up with a young man but maintained friendly relations. From my side it is more love than friendship. Not so long ago we talked to him again, after which he indicated that I was a good friend. That it is interesting to communicate with me, I will always listen, I am smart, beautiful and he likes to sleep with me. The last sexual contact we had was in January. He says that due to the fact that he has exams, a diploma, university admission, work on his nose, he has absolutely no time to sit down and carefully consider our relationship with him. But he doesn't want to lose me either. How to be? Try to be friends and just see where it leads? We kiss, we hug, sometimes we sleep together, does it look like a friendship?

Love relationship: broke up, but we continue to kiss, hug, sleep

Hello Natalia.

There are men who are afraid of a serious relationship. And therefore they reduce the relationship to friendship, but at the same time they keep the girl near them and do not promise her anything. You need to decide what you want from life and this young man. You allow him to treat you this way, that's how he behaves. In general, in life we ​​are treated as we allow ourselves to be treated.
In order to be loved, first you love yourself, respect yourself. And if a guy considers you just a friend, then you can just chat, without sex and kisses.

Sincerely, psychologist Valentina Veklich.

hello! I’m turning to you for advice and help. I can’t figure out a relationship with a person. We lived together for 3 years. The last year we parted 2 times, but on my initiative they continued to live on together again. in contact with girls. And the last correspondence ended with him taking her phone. But, according to his explanation, it’s just that it’s not a fact that he was going to meet with her. About 2 months ago, he told me that he didn’t understand what he felt for me that he is unhappy, but does not understand whether the work loads him, or our relationship. Then there was a wonderful period in the relationship. In general, after quarrels, we always had a period of happy relationships.
I was going on vacation in July to my parents and he said that he was waiting for this moment to think about everything. And so I left ... I called him on the first day, said that I had arrived and that was it. I have been waiting for a call from him for 10 days. No SMS, nothing ... I myself do not call out of pride or principle. Moreover, we were fine, he said that I should return soon. I don’t understand, the person just threw me ???

We broke up two years ago, but I still love him. He was my first man - both in sex and in love. For almost a year everything was perfect - a sea of ​​romance, not a single scandal, we understood each other less than half a word, even the calls were intuitive - you just had to think about each other. It looks like nonsense, but that's how it happened.

I had to move, and we parted, and parted, probably more on my initiative, or rather, no one even discussed it, and I said that, probably, we should not even call up to forget about each other quickly. For six months we talked on the Internet, but did not call each other, then I came to visit a friend, when I arrived, I called, and he immediately put aside all his affairs to meet. It was like before, as if I had never left.

When I came back, he also saw me off, although he had a lot to do and work ... We talked again on the Internet, and about a month later I decided to go back to him, I asked if he wanted me to come, to which he replied that you shouldn’t torture yourself and said: “No.” It was terrible, but due to my stupidity, I quit my job and returned back, when we met, it was just terrible, we trampled each other with some nonsense, after which we stopped talking at all.

All this time I had a friend (let's call him "M") who paid attention to me in every possible way, we corresponded (he also lived in another city) sometimes met (he came home). I got a job, continued to communicate with "M", I understood that I was becoming something dear to him, but I continued to think about that past, but at the same time beloved and the only one. As a result, the person I love moved, never wanting to meet me, but only called goodbye and said that I was the best and would forever remain in his memory, and if he did not see me, then this is his problem, and not mine…

A few days later, with a terrible depression, I drop everything and go to "M", since he invited me to his place for a long time, after spending a week with him, I understand that he loves me more than life, he offered me to move in with him, to which I answered: "Yes." Within 3 months I married him. No, I can’t say that I’m completely cold towards him ... I have a feeling of respect for him, and I probably reassure myself that I won’t find a person who would truly love me, although I myself would really like to start loving again and forget that relationship.

Now we periodically communicate, after which I have tantrums, sometimes I dream about him, and it seems to me that this short dream is the most precious thing left of him. How can I forget him? When I got married, I hoped that thanks to the love of "M", I would forget him and also fall in love with "M".

I still feel him, if I dream about him, then it’s worth checking the mail, and when we communicate, I can easily tell what’s in his soul, heartbreaking correspondence periodically happens that end in nothing. Once we talked about the past, I tried to find out why it all happened, he didn’t answer me, although he said a lot, when I said: “You just don’t love me and never loved,” he again said nothing. I just don't understand why is that? And I still don’t understand it ... How can I forget? And how to understand all this?