Any decent person knows that Russia is a country of rogues. And in Europe, as in other "civilized" countries, the people are entirely prosperous and rich. In Russia, they save from poverty, and the Europeans save because they are just prudent and, in general, they don’t care about show-offs.
Such stuff about the savings associated with poverty, or, as bloggers like to call it, “beggar”, is regularly thrown into the Internet space.
But as soon as it comes to saving money in Europe, the roguery that the Russians are accused of turns into European rationality and virtue.
But who are these conclusions intended for? For those who whine endlessly while living in Russia, and at the same time have no idea how they live in other countries?
I recently read a post where Russians are called “rogue” (I hate this disgusting word, but that’s how it is written there) and once again I was surprised at the stupidity and the demonstration of double standards, where the author says that Russians are forced to save on food, which is not in other countries.
But let's face it. Save everything! In any country, with any income, but there is always something that you can save on, and most sane people, for whom money does not fall from the sky, do just that. Only someone saves on quantity, someone on quality. Figuratively - someone saves on the size of the eggs, and someone on their number. Someone buys cheap semi-finished products, someone buys natural products. On the same food, Europeans still save money, this is in addition to serious savings on utilities.
And, the big question is who is more "rogue", translating into normal language, who has a worse quality of life. For me, the one who sits in a cold house and washes with the whole family in one bathroom, and not the one who reasonably saves on food.
By the way, about saving on groceries... Some Russians would really benefit from reasonable savings and converting the quantity of food into quality. We are used to eating in three throats, and by the age of 30, men grow huge bellies, and women have impressive behinds.
Russia has already reached the FOURTH place in the world in OBESITY!!! For 33 years, the number of obese people has increased by 2.5 times! Does hunger and savings on food swell?
It's funny, but the author of the post about Russian "rogues" speaks extremely negatively about saving on a communal apartment, probably not knowing that it is on a communal apartment that Europeans save very hard, fulfilling conventions that are unthinkable for us, for example, do not flush after yourself in the toilet until you go to the toilet the whole family went and took turns washing in the bathroom without changing the water ... This is not a joke, more on that later.
I already wrote, and not a quote from there:
What are the Russians saving on? A lot of research and opinion polls have been carried out on this subject. In terms of interest, they give different, but close figures, but there is no discrepancy in terms of items on which they save.
“First of all, Russians save on travel and entertainment.
In the second turn - on clothes and footwear.
Third, food.
And only in the fourth - on utilities.
What are Europeans saving on?
The first is travel and entertainment.
The second - on utilities.
The third is on clothes, shoes.
Fourth - on food.
Here is a selection of screenshots of comments on these posts, so as not to be repeated:
Actually, this is all you need to know about savings in different countries and stop attributing savings exclusively to Russians.
We recently read material on how to distinguish a rogue girl. And they thought: “Why are these only girls?” Among acquaintances, anyone will definitely find one or two such people, and these are not necessarily ladies. Rogue they are not because they walk in holey pants. There are many of them and among pretty decently earning people. But if they are friends, to honestly say that they are not behaving quite correctly does not always have the courage. In general, we propose a new rating and, bearing in mind the poverty, we will talk not only and not so much about material values.
A real rogue is always whining about a bad life
He is not satisfied with the city where he lives, the country and the planet. It is impossible to work because there are no conditions. There are traffic jams on the roads, pipes flowing in houses, the authorities are terrible, friends are traitors. And everyone is always to blame. Except him.
And does not even try to change her for the better
What for? After all, for this you need to do something. A rogue by nature is lazy and clumsy. Enough strength, only to develop a cool plan. Then this plan hangs for years on the wall in his room, until it peels off along with the wallpaper. By the way, the rogue perceives criticism of his views on life very painfully.
Remembers family and friends only when he needs something
And sincere gratitude from him can not be expected. If a rogue calls you, then the conversation will look something like this:
- Hey. How are you?
- Not bad. I'm here…
- It's clear. Listen, I have such a thing for you!
Quickly “forgets” about his debts, but remembers exactly who owes him
It's also not just about money. If he borrows an idea, he will never remember later who suggested it to him. Take from him at least for a pie - he will definitely remind you that you should return it. Well, if he borrows money from you ... an endless story begins, in the end of which you look like a vile extortionist.
Rogue always saves up for his dream, so he never pays for a taxi
He loves "social work", "common account in a cafe" and "fight for the truth by the whole team." He has a hard time with individuality, because he cannot waste his genius in vain. And in general, he is constantly saving up for something very, very important, so the company should be thrown off for “small” expenses without him. He pretends to be out of business.
He has neither a hobby nor a desire to acquire one.
His only hobby is to find flaws in others. He is ready to do this around the clock and selflessly. The rogue thinks he understands a lot of things, or a little bit of everything. “And if you don’t understand painting, then you can’t explain it!”
He elevates his achievements to the rank of feats.
Other people's help means very little to him. The rogue is always the winner in life, "the main skeet". Stand out in the crowd with bright designer pants, alone post philosophical quotes on social networks. In the names of their famous authors, the accent is often confused.
When talking about books and films, it quickly “merges” or “sticks” on the phone
His interests include expensive purchases, foreign trips and Zink's girlfriend. At the same time, a rogue can be quite well educated. Just intellectual topics are boring for him. It is much more interesting what kind of “prince” Zinka brought into the general company yesterday. “No, well, he, of course, is not very good! It is a fact".
Humble vocabulary is used to demand, gossip, or praise a luxurious thing.
This is all because the rogue is desperately short of everything in life, and he is insatiably trying to fill the gap. Everyone owes him all his life, and he, like Ellochka the cannibal, only knows how to accept gifts beautifully.
He binge-watches TV shows, especially those where Cinderellas are turned into princesses.
“Here she is lucky!” Envy is an indispensable quality of a rogue. Everything that goes to others is necessarily “for free”, theft and undeserved. All that he has earned is "honest and overwork."
Beautiful, gentle, smart, on style. Poor but sexy. So what if he doesn't have any money? You, after all, are strong - you will correct ...
Let's be honest! I know that at the stage of the candy-bouquet period, in a relationship, a man seems like a demigod.
Then the passions subside, you look around and see somewhere behind him - a rogue catching up.
He is waiting for you to come home from work (A woman should work for such people. No options.), go to the supermarket, fry potatoes, prepare a bath ...
And he, drinking fortified, will spend the bonus on tanks and talk about the structure of the atom.
Face control
There is 10 easy questions, the answers to which will clarify the situation. It does not give a 100% guarantee, but it will help to deal with the elementary signs of a rogue.
Answer everything "Yes" or "No". Go!
- Can he clearly formulate his life position and goals for the coming year?
- He repeats that women only want money?
- Are the president, the country, the former, the circumstances and the boss to blame for his failures?
- Does he live with his parents?
- Does he have a lot of free time?
- Does he believe that a woman should work, and that a “man-provider” is a relic?
- Is he sure that big money can be earned only on luck?
- Talking more than doing?
- Focuses on the opinions of others?
- Does he have addictions?
If you answered “yes” to at least six questions, it’s time for someone
Why did you choose it?
Agree. Very often a woman immediately feels that a man is not suitable for her.
Call it what you want, write it off for, inner voice, intuition, but somewhere deep inside there is a feeling of "something is wrong."
How many times have you ignored him when starting a relationship? Confess in the comments. Either way, don't blame yourself. I'm sure he was once completely different, but the relationship promised to be.
But people don't change until they want to. There are two types of rogues: those with potential and those without. And the latter chooses poverty as a way of life.
And you can't make another person out of him. But, the attempt is not torture, suddenly there was a potential one nearby? There are a couple of points that you can analyze right now.
Think about yourself
Before you try to change a man, deal with yourself. Otherwise, you will get rid of one and find another.
Let's deal with this first of all:
What did he fall for?
One of the most common mistakes women impose: a chance meeting and "happily ever after."
As if the main thing is to meet that person, and then it will work itself out.
I'll tell you a secret - the scheme is different. People are like magnets for each other. A woman with every quality attracts a certain.
Who you are determines those who are next to you - "accidentally" no one is near you. Moreover, poor man. That is why I repeat - you need to start with yourself! This is what I teach and dedicate my life to.
Let's not fantasize
You hoped you could change him. Will you be the one for whom he will jump off the sofa onto a horse, change the remote control to a spear and run to kill the dragon?
If you think that there are some "Real Women" who will make a billionaire out of any loser - get this nonsense out of your head!
If you still want...
Yes, a rogue can become. Sometimes it happens. A person can change almost beyond recognition, I know from my own experience.
Even 10 years ago, I was completely different from what you see me. Do you know how I've changed? I wanted to. And above all, I changed my beliefs.
So, we come close to the question: how to change? My answer is NO until he wants to. But you can influence.
How to determine potential?
Maturity comes at the moment when a man takes responsibility for his actions, decisions, ceases to obey social pressure, undertakes to embody his dreams and goals.
He overcomes the need for public approval and finds a source of strength in himself. Feels the need to get out of the dead end.
If he paid attention to courses, literature on self-development, stopped looking for the guilty - there is a possibility that he is trying to become a normal man.
He already sees the world differently. The main thing is not to discourage desire.
So, what NOT to do:
1. Prove
Not everyone wants to know the truth. Especially about yourself. Therefore, it is not necessary to tell him in the face that he is a loser and give a volume of “What to do if I am a loser” for his birthday.
Or fill his PM with articles about the nature of infantilism, psychological maturity and about “real men” who give flowers every day.
In response, you will hear “the fool herself” and you will once again complain to your girlfriends what a goat he is.
Do not try to prove to a person that he is “wrong”. Everyone is at their own stage of development. And no one says that your level is higher than his level - you yourself attracted the rogue.
Think about it.
2. Set a goal for him
Keep focus on yourself. Think not about the other person, but about who you are in relation to him. Manage your reactions, desires and thoughts.
Others will figure it out.
Otherwise, you will spend a lot of energy on those in which there is no prospect.
You can't cancel the rain if it's already coming. It is much easier and more efficient to get an umbrella and go home. Tired? Move to Bali!
3. Cherish hopes if he doesn't care
If he continues to procrastinate, there is no point holding on to him.
Wet firewood smokes and spoils the atmosphere - it does not burn and does not heat. Of course, you can accept him for who he is, if you are strong and independent.
You know what I mean, right? Now let's talk about more effective methods.
What might work?
Set an example
If you develop and your man sees this, his attitude towards you will change. He might even want to pull himself up.
Recognize the fact that in the life of a professional woman, rogues do not linger. They rarely even get into her field. So you have something to strive for.
Do not expect stormy joy: it is quite possible that he will begin to get angry, worried, and show aggression. Weak men are afraid when their woman develops.
It is clear to him: "she will want more and the feeder will fall apart." But your energy, in the same way, can hurt him and push him to development - this happens too.
Normally support
“Well, let's see what you can do ...” - this is a position, thought, phrase, already tired, strong and independent.
She shines in her eyes, in relationships with men and kills even a rogue with potential. Especially when he decides to get down to business.
Some still believe that such phrases cause excitement, a desire to do and prove that they can. I'll tell you a secret - this is not motivation! Do not do that.
Don't be afraid to leave
Many men took up their minds when they lost everything. Maybe he needs some push to get out of his comfort zone?
In any case, if you are unhappy in your relationship, you have the right to leave.
Don't be afraid to let him go and end the relationship, but do it the right way and the right way. So that you do not leave a tail of negativity as a legacy.
Choose a good moment and calmly talk to a man. Choose the words and explain why you made the decision and what you don't like about your relationship.
Your happiness is your business
In my practice, a million times I came across students who wanted happiness very much, but not so much to change.
A man, a husband, a colleague, parents - they must improve, but she is already fine.
The circumstances of your life are not the cause but the effect of WHO YOU ARE. In order for the shell to change, you need to change the core, which means accepting the fact that everything in your life depends on you and only you.
Your,
Yaroslav Samoilov.
In an attempt to find a universal approach to the stronger sex, folk psychology has spawned many funny classifications of men: creator, merchant, ruler ...
Have you heard of these? So - throw this folklore out of your head.
What are the types of men?
There are only two types of men: rogue and normal, the third (or fourth) is simply not given.
What does a rogue do?
- complains, blames parents, ex, president and circumstances for the lack of results;
- I am convinced that a woman herself should earn for herself and have time to raise children, create comfort and at the same time remain satisfied and beautiful;
- lives with his parents, sometimes “married to his mother”;
- believes that only deceivers, thieves or lucky ones earn good money;
- and ... cleverly argues. Seems to know all the answers;
- has a lot of free time.
These are just some of the signs.
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Understand trying to inspire a rogue, you do it out of pity. Why is this the topic of a separate article!
Now the qualities of a normal man:
- little free time;
- understands that he is characterized by achievements and results, and not by beautiful words;
- realizes that everything that happens in life is his responsibility;
- for him, love and relationships are interchange, interaction, the desire to draw a smile on the face of his woman.
For such a person, the desire to provide for a family and take care of the lair is something that goes without saying. Even if you start to violate the principles of a professional woman, manipulate and torture your brains, he will still continue to move towards the goal.
Normal - no need to inspire!
Again. Remember, or better write down, once and for all: a normal man does not need to be inspired. Just don't interfere! Although I understand, this is a separate art.
Now look around, see what kind of men are in your environment? Those of whom you dream, or "weak"?
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Perhaps, in the half-forgotten period of falling in love, your chosen one seemed like a demigod, doomed to exploits and accomplishments, but the fog of passion has dissipated, and now you are at a loss. There is anxiety and fear of the future.
Are women to blame for associating their lives with "weak" men?
Definitely - no.
Like most girls and women in the post-Soviet space, fathers, the prototypes of future husbands, were not fathers in the full, modern sense of the word. Weak, drinking, escaping from responsibility and then from alimony - they created an actual image, the embodiment of which the fair sex (without wanting to) and attract.
Let's summarize
- A normal man does not need to be inspired!
- If your environment is weak, then take it as a fact. The fact that you created.
- Most try to change men, and only a few start with themselves. In fact, this is what I urge you to do.
Psychologists say that the social status and wealth of a person is directly related to the way of life and thinking of a person. There are several reasons why many people fail to succeed, not only financially but also personally.
By what postulates does a person who is always in need of money live?
Let them pay little, but stable
A person with the psychology of the poor usually chooses a low-paid job, but a stable one, for example, in government agencies. He knows for sure that the state will provide for him. And the idea of going to a commercial organization causes fear - after all, there is a risk of being left on the street! A person with this type of thinking does not believe in his strengths and abilities. He chooses less responsibility and less money, but stability and confidence in the future. As a result, he goes to boring and routine work, stops developing and becomes unnecessary to anyone in a couple of years.
Fear of change
A person with the psychology of the poor is very afraid of change. He lives by the principle - it is better to have a little than to risk and lose everything. People with this mindset will never get a second education, change their job to a more profitable one, move from another city in search of a new life and open a business.
Low self-esteem
Low self-esteem is one of the main traits of a person with the psychology of poverty. High self-esteem, in fact, has nowhere to come from - a person works in an uninteresting and hated job, which he is afraid of losing, does not receive any vivid impressions, nothing changes for him. A person with such a psychology cannot understand that a comfortable life opens up before people who are active, active and not afraid to take risks.
Passivity
In order to achieve something in life, you need to make an effort. It is obvious. To get a better paying job, you need to take on more responsibility, gain additional knowledge and work harder than in the old place. People with a poor mindset do not want to and do not know how to be active - they are afraid to look for a new job, because it seems to them that they will not be able to cope with it. Man is passive, and therefore poor.
The whole world owes me
A person with the psychology of poverty is accustomed to shifting responsibility for his life to others - to the state, to the boss. For some reason, he decided that he owed everything. For example, he believes that the boss should pay him a good salary because he has been working for him for 10 years, fulfilling his duties with high quality. But he forgets that he himself once chose this low-paying job.
Better to save than earn more
People with the psychology of poverty spend their time and energy not on earning more, but on keeping more. They spend a lot of time in stores to compare prices and buy the cheapest. They go to different instances in order to achieve meager benefits, social assistance and lower utility bills. And this is instead of spending the same efforts on earning money and finding a decent job.
