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Children fight for various reasons. It can be both age-related features and the emerging feeling of aggression. Is your 4 year old fighting and you don't know what to do? Let's try to figure out what can cause this behavior and how to deal with it.

When identifying the causes of the pugnacity of the baby, pay attention to the following factors:

Temperament. A melancholy calm child, as a rule, does not show aggression. But the little choleric is not always able to curb his emotions. Such children are highly impulsive and do not immediately learn self-control.
Permissiveness. This is the most common parental mistake that leads to child aggression. The softness of parents who cannot say a firm "no" contributes to the child's combative behavior. Often he simply cannot cope with the responsibility assigned to him, and with the help of his fists he tries to find at least some boundaries. In this situation, not only other children suffer. A situation arises when a child at 4 years old fights with his parents.
Parental aggression. Children always copy the behavior of adults. And if there is violence in the family, then the baby is unlikely to be kind and affectionate. In this case, not only the baby, but also his parents cannot do without the help of specialists.

A 4-year-old child hits other children

There is probably not a single child who has not pushed another at least once in his life. And this is normal in children's relationships. But if a four-year-old child fights with children all the time, then assault must be stopped. Before a walk, patiently explain why you can’t beat children, take other people’s toys. In addition, it is necessary to teach the baby to resolve conflict situations in civilized ways.
If the baby quarrels with friends all the time, you should visit a child psychologist.

Often there are cases when a four-year-old kid beats his parents. Here, mom and dad need to analyze their behavior, how often they punish the baby and whether physical punishment can be replaced with a simple conversation. If a child beats his mother at the age of 4, then she must take a tough stance and strictly explain to him that she is in pain.
When there are two children in a family, fights cannot be avoided. In this case, if it does not come to injuries, it is better not to intervene. When the parents are not watching, the kids can get along and play well together, and in front of the parents, there are often just provocations of the reaction of mom and dad.
If a child at the age of 4 fights with his parents, constantly conflicts with his peers and no educational measures help, you need to seek the advice of a specialist. Otherwise, such behavior can lead to the fact that in society he will become an outcast.
How to wean a four-year-old child to fight
The first thing to do is to be patient and create comfortable conditions at home. When thinking about the question - why a child at 4 years old beats his mother, children, brother or sister, you need to understand that at this age he still does not realize that he is hurting someone. Therefore, playing on feelings is the most reliable option. The next time he hits you, move away from him without emotion and make a serious face. After waiting for some time, explain that this is not possible. There will be no quick result, but over time the baby will understand that if he fights, his mother will move away.
In the case when the baby offends children on the street, teach him that you need to share toys, not take away, but ask strangers, as well as how to get to know and settle unpleasant situations not with fists, but with words.
Alternatively, enroll your child in a sports section, this will help him direct his emotions in a peaceful direction. It is advisable to choose team sports. The psyche of children is constantly formed depending on the situations around him. So everything is in your hands
The same recommendations apply if you are faced with the question - how to wean a four-year-old baby from biting. And even more often tell the baby about how you love him, kiss, hug him and he will begin to answer you in the same way.

We have already discussed the following topics:

For a detailed analysis of this issue, see the video: "Children's aggression."

As you can see, we have answered the question “Why and why?” in detail, and now we will deal with another burning question:

“What to do if a child beats parents”

I want to note right away that we will talk about children under the age of 3-3.5 years. It is during this period that the issue of child aggression is usually particularly acute. Why so, you can read in the topic about.

The first precedents usually occur when a one-year-old child fights. In these situations, most often the child beats the mother. Because it is the mother in this period who is the closest person to him. Often this happens simply from overwhelming emotions of the baby. After all, a child in a year cannot yet assess whether he is hurting another. And therefore it happens that from overflowing emotions the child clings to the mother SO much that it hurts her to tears.

In such situations, one must understand that the child does not hurt the mother on purpose. Or there may be another option: the child hits the parents in the face for joy, or he is just wondering how this happens.

The task of adults in this case:
1. Accurate feedback. Many parents laugh when such a small child hits them. After all, often it doesn’t even hurt, but from the outside it looks funny (like a Pug on an Elephant). But with our fun, we show the child that we approve of his behavior.

And why then be surprised if such "entertainment" is fixed later? It is very important to correctly show your emotions to the child. If a child hit his mother, hurt her, she should be upset, say about it in words that she usually says to a child when it hurts. After all, how else will he learn to understand the consequences of his actions?!

Secondly, it is necessary to think over distracting maneuvers.

Sometimes it happens that even if there are not many prohibitions, the child still stubbornly tries to break them. We need to figure out how we can distract him, come up with an alternative.

Well, for example, you have an active kid who likes to climb on the back or side of the sofa and jump from there to the seat. Of course, every time you have a heart attack, because. the child may roll onto the floor. And when you forbid it, the child starts to fight.

Solution: Find something safe that's just as fun to jump on. It can be a sports mat or an old mattress, or special soft large pillows. As a result, the child is happy, the mother is calm.

How to react if the child hits the mother?

Many parents admit that they do not know how to react in such a situation.

1. If a child fights with parents constantly, then it is quite possible to predict such behavior. You can intercept your hand during the swing and very strictly, but without anger, say that you can’t fight. In this case, eye contact is very important.

Then you voice the child’s emotions (“I understand that you are upset”), explain the reason for the ban (“we have to go to bed now, otherwise we won’t be able to go for a walk in the evening and won’t see your friends”), give an alternative or “lure” (“ let’s go to bed soon, there you are already waiting for, probably, a dream about Luntik”). Repeat if necessary.

2. To beat a child in response, I personally consider it an extreme measure. Sometimes it works, but very often it looks like this: mother and daughter are sitting. The girl beats her mother, she in response hits her daughter on the arm and says: “You can’t fight!” The girl beats her mother again... history repeats itself. The girl learns from the situation: “You can fight, because mom fights.” You can't argue with that. I still understand this situation if a mother beats a child a little and says: “Look, it hurts you, but it hurts me too when you beat me.”

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A one-year-old beats up her mother and keeps the whole family in fear? Yes, and it happens! Why and what to do tells child psychologist Elena Lagunova.

A one-year-old child with an equally innocent look can ask to be held and beat relatives. Because they don't really understand the difference.

At the reception, a young mother, Katya, complains:

“My one-year-old child fights, Sevushka beats everyone - me, dad, brother. The cat also gets it, although this is probably for everyone. What will happen next? Well, okay, when something is not for him, but more often it’s simple, for no reason. Maybe with a cheerful face come up and knock. I almost roar from surprise (and even pain), I say: “My dear, sunshine, don’t be angry. You can't do that, it hurts mommy. Do not do this anymore". And he laughs. Doesn't understand words. And the playground too. Like someone else's toy - selects. And to whom is he so aggressive, just a bandit! Is it because it's a boy? Maybe it's time to treat him? Or a belt, as papa suggests? So tell me, is this generally normal, no?”.

At this time, her son Sevushka looks at me with angelic eyes, takes timid steps around the office, calmly plays with toys and, you know, doesn’t look like a bandit at all.

Catherine can be understood. Every parent wants to raise a child who can communicate in a friendly way. But how to do that? Why such aggression at this age?

Causes. Why does a child fight at 1 year old

Almost all one-year-olds fight. It even happens that a child 1 year old bites non-stop. And there are four main reasons for this.

The child wants something they like. At this age, the baby discovers that taking or hitting is one of the ways to get what you want. And tries again and again.

Tries to say something. A one-year-old baby may not speak or speak poorly. How it sometimes hurts him that he cannot convey his thought! And he understands the speech of others with difficulty, especially words that do not refer to specific subjects:

“This is a spoon, this is a cat, but your “no”, where is it? Once I heard him next to my mother, the other - next to the stove. Is it everywhere?"

Develop the baby's speech, and by the age of two, in many cases, instead of a fight, he will begin to negotiate. In the meantime, a child bites at 1 year old, trying to get in touch, for example, he shows his displeasure or interest.

Does not control emotions. The feelings of a one-year-old quickly replace each other. Today it is raging, and tomorrow it is calm. He has yet to learn how to control emotions and express them in acceptable ways. Often the kid is so captured by anger that he beats everyone who comes to hand. A one-year-old child hits his mother in the face, and when he calms down, he hugs and strokes again. A bite or a blow to the face does not differ in meaning for a child, he just fights, although it seems to his mother otherwise.

Attracts attention. Only after three years the baby will learn to evaluate whether he is doing well or badly. In a year, he seeks to get any emotions of an adult, not understanding the difference between positive and negative. Let's say he climbed to the outlet and saw a whole performance: mom frowns, breaks away and scolds verbosely. He will definitely ask her to speak again - he will crawl there again. A one-year-old child bites and pinches, because he can perceive what is happening as a game. Believe me, this act has nothing to do with genuine cruelty.

In a year it is impossible to tell whether a child is aggressive or not. Too much depends on the mood, the situation. It will be possible to understand whether he is calm or cocky by the age of three or four.

Of course, this behavior may be a sign of a disorder. But the disease always has several signs, something else should strain the parent. With autism, for example, a child not only fights, but also makes poor contact, does not look into the eyes. All warning signs can be discussed with a psychiatrist, who is recommended for all babies to undergo at the age of one year.

“If the love of fighting is age-related, it turns out that it will go away on its own?” True, but only in part. Competent actions of an adult will help the baby to master life without assault. And because of the illiterate, normal pugnacity can develop into genuine aggressiveness.

What to do. How to wean a one year old child to fight

So, a child is fighting for 1 year, what should parents do? Here are some tips on how to wean a child to fight in a year.

1 Speak briefly and clearly. Repeat the same thought many times. Firmly and confidently, without turning to shouting. Not only forbid, but also teach what can be done. Best of all, the child will learn the prohibition if you combine words and actions, set an example.

2 Help me understand that fighting is ineffective. And teach other ways to negotiate with a peer or an adult: change, wait, etc.

3 Suggest an alternative. If a child in the game swings to hit, catch his hand and say: “No. Protect me. You can hit the ball." And show me how it's done. If a child swings in a fit of anger that has seized him, it is better to step back and say: “You can’t. Protect me. You're angry. Stomp and scream so that the anger goes away.

4 Do not punish. Even if the kid gets into a fight again and again, you should not spank him or shout loudly. The child will be completely confused: why does the parent forbid to beat with words, but does it himself? Children trust the example of an adult more than speech. If the baby is persistent, you can increase the distance with him, but no more.

5 Follow your feelings. Being angry at a kid for fighting is seriously stupid. Sooner or later, the child will begin to cope with his emotions. And parental incontinence can lead to the most sad consequences.

6 Let's give positive feedback. The child is sensitive to parental words. If you say: "Greedy", "bandit", "fighter", it will be so. Try to suggest that he is "generous" and "Friendly".

And if the child hit back the offender? Here the opinions of psychologists differ, but most believe that giving change should be taught closer to seven years. Until this age, kids cannot correlate the strength of the impact on them and the strength of the response - because of this, they can give "surrender" much stronger than resentment.

Sometimes parents need to work on themselves too.

Asking the question of how to wean a child from biting at 1 year old, one must also analyze why the behavior of the baby causes such fear in the parent himself.

Let's go back to the story from the beginning of the article. Together with mother Katya, we analyzed her feelings. It turned out that she is afraid of childish anger and in general any aggression. Her parents taught her that anger is very bad, that you shouldn't be angry. Therefore, fights and put mom to a standstill.

But actually angry is okay. Anger arises when the desired does not match the result. The task of parents is not to suppress the feelings of the baby, but to help him learn to express them without harm to others.

I explained all this to my mother Ekaterina. She left reassured and delighted that there was no need to treat the child. A month later, I received a message from her on the social network. Seva almost stopped fighting, began to hug his mother more often. And even "I love" learned to say.

Fights a year are common. They must be dealt with calmly and decisively. Instead of scolding, tell your child, “No. Protect me".

Everyone parent He wants to raise his child to be a kind and polite person. But many parents of toddlers who still can’t even speak notice that their little one, when he disagrees with something, hits mom and dad in the face with small hands. He still does not perceive the arguments that it hurts his parents. A rare parent leaves such a child's behavior unattended, many give quietly "change" with the words: "Oh, you little fighter, on you too!" But this is the wrong method of education, so parents nurture the bad inclinations of the baby, of course, out of good intentions.

one year old baby punches mom and dad in the face to understand how a clash of interests occurs and how conflicts are resolved. Having hit in the face, he carefully looks into the eyes of the parent and studies how he will behave in such a situation. If mom or dad, satisfied with the courage of the crumbs, smile, then the baby perceives this as praise and decides for himself: using force, you can become good. To explain in words to parents what he wants, the baby still at this age cannot. And so, when his parents insist that he act differently, as he planned, he is indignant, kicks and throws toys. Do not be afraid of such behavior of the child and do not need to punish him.

It is very important in this age make it clear to the child that mom and dad are people like him, they also get hurt and sad. In a serious voice, try to explain to the baby that you can’t do this and that his act greatly upset you. As a sign of punishment, stop playing with him or reading him a fairy tale. Seeing that you were upset and offended by him, the baby will not do this next time. Despite the fact that your child is still very young, it is time to teach him to restrain his feelings. If, expressing his anger, the baby kicks his legs and throws toys, then hug him tightly in an armful and hold him until he calms down. The kid will buckle a little, cry and start playing again, as before. So you will help him translate anger into tears and the child will understand that anger can be experienced without showing aggression, but simply by sharing problems with parents.

So that the child does not grow aggressive, from an early age he must be taught compassion. For example, if a baby has torn off a butterfly's wings or is dragging a cat by its tail, do not scold him or hit him on the hands. Here it is necessary to act in such a way that the child himself realizes that he has caused harm and sincerely regrets it. For example, tell him that the butterfly flew home to her children, and now his children were left without a mother. Invite the child to imagine how he would feel if he was being dragged by the legs by older children, just like he was a cat. If parents every time ignore the child’s bad attitude not only towards pets, but also towards other children or relatives, then the child’s aggressiveness and cruelty will become fixed, and in adolescence they will become habitual for his behavior.

Unfortunately, some instructions bring up a good child is impossible. In 90% of cases, children copy the behavior of their parents. Even small children feel any falsehood very subtly, and if mom or dad are rude to their parents, constantly swear at each other, fight and show disrespect for elders, then rest assured that the child will do the same. And if a mother constantly tells a child about the need to be polite and kind, and she herself yells at him, gossips with her friends and swears with obscene words in the presence of a child, then her upbringing is worthless.

Therefore, in order to prevent aggressive the relationship of the child to his parents, it is necessary from the day he was born to reconsider his behavior: learn to treat others with respect, greet and communicate with neighbors, not sort things out among themselves and not discuss the actions of people close to you in the presence of children. Aggressive children most often grow up in families where the father or mother severely punishes the child for any offense. Children who suffered greatly in childhood from parental abuse, in adolescence take out their aggression on other children. And if such a child is still left without parental supervision, then once in a group of older children, he can do such monstrous things in their cruelty that parents cannot even imagine how their child is capable of this.

Every day they show us on TV examples cruelty of modern teenagers. They brutally beat, rape and mutilate their peers, filming it all on video and posting it on the Internet. It seems to us that we have reached the peak of teenage cruelty and aggression. In fact, children are our reflection. The roots of teenage cruelty lie in the inattention and indifference of modern parents.

Today, in many families there is no parent authority, spouses are more busy sorting out the relationship between themselves and making money. Aggressive often become children who in other ways could not reach the heart of mom or dad. This is their revenge on their parents for their dislike. And the specific recipe for the right upbringing of a child is very simple: spend 2 times less money on children and 2 times more time.

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How to react if the child hits the mother
How to react if the baby hits mom and dad in the face? What is the cause of the aggressive behavior of the child?
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Very often, small children beat their parents (most often their mother, because she is always there). And this happens for a variety of reasons, which are most often explained by age-related changes.

It is worth noting that babies often copy the behavior of adults, exactly repeating their behavior model.. Therefore, if a child beats mom or dad, you need to pay attention to yourself, first of all. If there is violence towards each other in the house, then it will not be surprising that the baby will copy this model of relationships.

It is also worth paying attention to what films and videos are viewed with the child. Videos of a mother beating a child, videos of adults fighting among themselves, even if all this is shown in the context of a movie (drama or action movie), can cause the development of unmotivated aggression, which is quite problematic to nullify without the help of child psychologists.

Most often, a child hits his mother in the face, while still a baby.. During this period of time, the baby is not yet aware of what he is doing, and pats on the cheeks, albeit painful for the mother, are perceived by him as a game.

It is very important from the first months of life to show the child what is acceptable and what is abnormal and wrong. And hitting a parent in the face is not the norm. When a baby slaps his mother in the face, you need to tell him in a rather strict tone that this is wrong and not good. Despite the fact that babies under one year old cannot clearly express their thoughts in words, they understand parental intonation very well.

Child psychologists note that after the first blow to the face, in response to which verbal discontent of the mother or father followed, the child strikes a second blow in order to understand what exactly caused the negative. At this moment, it is important to intercept the baby’s hand or fist, pressing it to the face, stroking your cheek with a child’s hand. This tactile experience can be supplemented with words with explanations of how good and how not.

In a child, such a model will be clearly deposited in the mind, therefore, the older he is, the easier it will be to control and transform his aggression. Naturally, the parents of the baby should also control themselves! Many mothers from an overabundance of feelings strive to bite or pinch the baby. Such a model is also deposited in memory and consciousness, which may not lead to the most pleasant consequences in the future.

During this period of time, babies already perceive quite well not only intonation but also the meaning of what their parents tell them. Unfortunately, children still do not know how to control their emotions and aggression, and therefore express them in all available ways. Including the fight.

A one-year-old child hits his mother in the face not in order to hurt her or make her uncomfortable, but simply because he does not yet know how to express his emotions in a different way. And at this moment it is important to show and say that fights are bad, that this cannot be done. At the same time, you can convey the idea to the child in different ways: take it off your hands, cry, change the intonation of your voice to a more threatening one.

Definitely not to hit the kid back, even if not hard. First of all, you can't fight! This is what a child needs to be taught, and it is easiest to do this on your own (adult) example. Secondly, there is always a risk of scaring an overly impressionable baby, after which his nervous system may “fail”.

Kindergarten educators strongly recommend using the “corner” punishment as a clear demonstration of “what is bad and impossible”. The kid is put in a corner, explaining what exactly he is punished for. And in the case of a fight, when a child (1.5 years old) beats his mother, this will be the most “useful” punishment. Although the kids are not too diligent and it is quite difficult to keep them in the corner, this method is very effective.

Very often, a two-year-old child beats his mother when he is psychotic, nervous and dissatisfied with something.. During this period of time, psychologists recommend talking in a calm tone so that the main idea reaches the baby - to do so badly. If a child hit the face, hands, stomach, it is necessary to point out to him that it hurts and unpleasantly for mom or dad, and then stroke the place of the blow with a child's hand. Over time, such tactics will lead to the fact that the baby, instead of aggression, will express affection towards the parents.

Often a child at 2 years old beats mom or dad because of excess energy. In this case, you need to properly plan his day, where enough time will be allotted for active and outdoor games. This is especially true for restless and hyperactive kids who cannot sit in one place for a long time. In addition, you need to set aside enough time for calm games and activities that will develop diligence.

Toddlers who attend kindergarten often face internal children's conflicts.. And many kids solve their childhood and, by their standards, serious problems with the help of a fight and assault.

At home, this line of behavior persists when the child cannot get what he wants or in a fit of aggression and anger. If a child at the age of 3 beats his mother out of anger, then it is worth redirecting such negative energy into something more peaceful and useful. For example, to buy a toy punching bag and gloves, showing the baby that you can take out your anger on it (pear), but you can’t take it out on mom and dad. This method works for both girls and boys. Displacing energy and aggression on an inanimate object that is meant to be hit really makes fighters use their fists in public less and less.

If a child at the age of 4 beats mom or dad in cases where he cannot get what he wants, then you should definitely punish the baby. Do not give back or miss such behavior, but punish - get offended and stop talking, put in a corner or pick up your favorite toy for some agreed time (for example, until the child realizes what he is wrong about, and until he apologizes for it).

A child (5 years old) who beats mom or dad most often requires attention to his person. And this attention should be paid to him - first by a dialogue about why he allows himself to fight with his parents. Having learned the reason for such behavior from the lips of the baby himself, it is easier to choose an approach to him, nullifying such bouts of assault.

Very often, parents cannot understand why a child hits mom or dad.. And if at preschool age it is most often a manifestation of emotions that children cannot always express in words, then younger students fight quite consciously. The main reason is anger or aggression, formed by some kind of parental prohibitions.

If a child at the age of 11 beats his mother, then such behavior cannot be let go of him. What to do in this case? First of all, conduct an educational conversation in a dialogue mode in order to understand what exactly the child is not happy with, what justifies his behavior. After that, it is imperative to punish in a mild form of non-contact "violence" (remove your favorite book, magazine or toy).

Especially active children-fighters should definitely be enrolled in sports sections, where they will throw out their aggression, excess energy and replace the raging hormones with ordinary physical fatigue. Best suited for fighters: swimming, running, outdoor games (football, basketball, volleyball and others).

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How to behave if the child hits the mother
What to do if the child hits the mother? It is imperative to understand the reason for such aggression and carry out preventive measures to prevent the child from hitting his mother.
http://moeditya.com/razvitie/vospitanie/rebenok-bet-mamu

The baby fights and hits the mother in the face: what to do?

No matter how you surround your child with love and affection, the baby will still someday - accidentally or intentionally - hit you. How to react correctly when a baby hits mom in the face, and how to behave with a baby so that this does not happen again?

At first, the baby hits the mother in the face and thus causes pain not on purpose, but gradually his actions become conscious. The child fights with relatives and children, thereby expressing his emotions.

Of course, your reaction to the first case should be correct and pedagogical. After all, if you simply smile in response to a painful blow, the baby will learn that “beating” gives you pleasure. In order for the baby to understand for himself that hitting his mother is wrong, you will need to do consistent educational work.

A child in the first year only learns to communicate with others and gradually learns the rules of interaction with people. By itself, the child cannot understand them, so your goal is to explain to him every minute what actions are allowed and what is prohibited. At the same time, it is important to approach this issue carefully and seriously. If a child beats his mother or loved ones, offends pets or fights in the sandbox, you must strictly suppress such behavior. There should not be any "discounts" for an unreasonable age, otherwise the baby will learn in the first year that such actions are acceptable, and will always behave aggressively.

First of all, you must teach the baby to express emotions correctly. If the baby beats you, unable to cope with the positive emotions that overwhelmed him, intercept the hand, wait until the child calms down and demonstrate that mom needs to be hugged and stroked. To consolidate the result, repeat the actions with close and large soft toys.

When a child fights because he is angry, you need to redirect his anger into tears. Hold the baby firmly in your arms so that he cannot harm you, and wait until his irritability turns into crying, and then calm him down. The child soon enough will understand that anger can be expressed in other ways, and will cease to be so aggressive.

In the first year, you must help the baby cope with unstable emotions and direct them in the right direction. The child still does not understand well what he feels and how he should respond to these sensations, and your task is to teach him to get rid of this correctly.

To avoid the manifestation of the aggressive behavior of the baby due to frequent prohibitions, you need to reduce the percentage of the word “no” in your communication with the baby. Move the things he shouldn't touch higher up and make the space as secure as possible. If the baby behaves badly in the store, go there without him, leaving him under the supervision of other mothers with strollers, or move the “shopping” time to the evening, when your relatives who have returned from work can replace you at home.

For “forbidden” activities, it is imperative to look for an alternative replacement that will suit both you and the baby:

if he likes to play with your keys, and you are afraid that he will lose them - “make” your own set of keys from old locks;
if the baby enthusiastically clicks door handles and locks - attach old or inexpensive locks to plywood, and let the baby play with them for fun;
a baby who loves to jump on the sofa can arrange a safe corner where a one-year-old child can jump freely without the risk of injury.

So that the baby does not grow up aggressive, it is important to teach him compassion in time. When a child hits you, a loved one or an innocent animal, you must explain to him that he acted badly and caused pain to a living being. Tell your child as emotionally as possible how a person feels when he was hit, and try to get regret from the crumbs about what was done.

Monitor your behavior and that of your loved ones. After all, a child can simply copy someone's behavior. Noticing that his parents do not respect elders, swear, beat each other, the baby will repeat what he saw, considering this to be the norm. Also, the baby can copy the behavior of an older brother or sister, a sandbox kid who fights and is never punished for it. Think about whether there is a reason for the aggressive behavior of the child in others, and try to correct the situation.

Everyone parent He wants to raise his child to be a kind and polite person. But many parents of toddlers who still can’t even speak notice that their little one, when he disagrees with something, hits mom and dad in the face with small hands. He still does not perceive the arguments that it hurts his parents. A rare parent leaves such behavior of the child unattended, many give quietly "change" with the words: "Oh, you little fighter, you too!". But this is the wrong method of education, so parents nurture the bad inclinations of the baby, of course, out of good intentions.

one year old baby hits mom and dad in the face to understand how a conflict of interest occurs and how they are resolved. Having hit in the face, he carefully looks into the eyes of the parent and studies how he will behave in such a situation. If mom or dad, satisfied with the courage of the crumbs, smile, then the baby perceives this as praise and decides for himself: using force, you can become good. To explain in words to parents what he wants, the baby still at this age cannot. And so, when his parents insist that he act differently, as he planned, he is indignant, kicks and throws toys. Do not be afraid of such behavior of the child and do not need to punish him.

Every day they show us on TV examples cruelty of modern teenagers. They brutally beat, rape and mutilate their own people, film it all on video and post it on the Internet. It seems to us that we have reached the peak of teenage cruelty and aggression. In fact, children are our reflection. The roots of teenage cruelty lie in the inattention and indifference of modern parents.

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