Question to a psychologist

to me recent times very hard to live...
Let me start off by saying that I have a difficult relationship with my parents. I have VVD and I am very nervous, I sweat a lot (arms, legs, etc.) because of this I have a big inferiority complex, I still always take everything to heart. My parents don't understand me the way I would like to. Especially dad, he is an oriental man and a manipulative commander by nature, you can’t say an extra word and your opinion to him, but I constantly want to speak out what has accumulated, but I keep everything to myself. And he always says whatever he wants, both the truth and not the truth, constantly offends, criticizes, orders. Since I am a creative person (artist-designer), it is very difficult for me to tolerate such a rude, unfriendly attitude.
At the institute, everything is also wrong with me, our teacher is very bitchy, somewhat reminiscent of my dad, in connection with this I constantly skip. I was left 2 times in the 3rd year (it broke me the first time) I am too sensitive to people, as if there is no protection. They criticize, they humiliate, they make me feel guilty... and I always want to run away from the places where it happens.
I have no friends, although I really want to have many good and true friends with whom I can relieve myself of all problems and laugh a lot from the heart. Maybe in the future it will be, but now it is not .. But I am not a very sociable person in society. With people I don’t know or even just acquaintances, I almost always get nervous and lost, I look stupid, it’s also very difficult for me to express my opinion in society, I lock myself up and keep quiet, this greatly torments my body.
I also had a difficult relationship with a young man, which lasted for 3 years, during which time I paid little attention to my parents (that is, to their discontent). Yes, and at that time they changed their attitude towards me and I towards them.
From the beginning everything was fine, and with the parents and with the young man there was a real spiritual connection, but still the relationship was incomprehensible 50/50 (that is, not to part and not be together, neither here nor there). After that, I completely broke down psychologically or in spirit (I don’t know how to put it correctly). The parting was very difficult and long. Now I am mentally completely alone, relations with my parents have come to the fore .. I don’t feel love, support, not from relatives, not from society, or from my work in life.
I don’t know what to do, I’m afraid of getting seriously ill or even worse, going crazy from all this ..
What to do, please help.

Good morning Maria, I understand your condition and from your letter it can be assumed that since childhood you have been living in conditions of complete control from your father and this has led to the tension that you have to this day. Your bodily reaction in the form of sweating of the hands and feet (now this may already be the result of a violation of your thyroid gland), just confirms my point of view. Your unexpressed emotions are suppressed by you and this leads to strong tension and deterioration of well-being even at the physical level. All your other difficulties, both with the teacher and with your young man, originate from the main conflict in your life - your father. Everything that causes resistance, reluctance and a state of tension in you is immediately associated with the personality of the father and the reaction to all people is the same. What do we have to do? First, get rid of your fears and habitual behavior. This can be done in a gestalt approach, where you, in joint therapy, immerse yourself in your childhood memories, and find the very first charge of tension that arose, which laid the foundation for all other fears and depression. Through such an action (reaching the very bottom), the situation, as it were, is lived anew by you, with all awareness, understanding, acceptance, and at this moment there is a discharge of that old situation, which, due to such work, is reset to zero and even memories of it do not cause the usual negative emotions and the reaction of the whole body (lump in the throat, giving a feeling in the chest. palpitations, sweating of the hands, etc.). The sooner you can start such therapy in your city, the sooner you will get rid of all your unwanted reactions and nervousness. Good luck.

Bekezhanova Botagoz Iskrakyzy, Almaty psychologist

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Surely you have happened at least once to slip or stumble literally out of the blue and fall to the ground. Although this leaves very little time for reflection, there are still some steps you can take to help you quickly restore balance. There are also exercises that help maintain balance despite the negative changes caused by age, illness, or recent injury. Learn to prevent sudden falls to avoid the resulting pain, possible injury, and damage to your ego.

Steps

Part 1

Correct actions in case of loss of balance

1. Return your raised leg to the ground. At the beginning of the fall, unless your pivot foot has been blown to the side (for example, if you slipped badly), it still remains on the ground. Try to return to the ground and the second leg as quickly as possible. It is much easier to keep your balance when you are on the ground with both feet.

   • This may not be enough to keep you from falling if you are standing on a slippery (such as ice), uneven or sloping surface.
   • It is better to place the second foot away from the first (at a distance of at least 30 centimeters). Spread your legs wider to help you regain your balance.
   • Place your lifted foot on the ground in the direction you fall. If your center of gravity moves forward and you put your other foot back, it will not improve your balance. As a rule, when falling to the side, the raised leg is on the same side in which the fall occurs.

2. Sit down. Once both your feet are on the ground, bend your knees and squat down on the ground. This will lower your body's center of gravity, which will help you keep your balance. In addition, your feet act as a shock absorber and cushion your joints if you trip or fall.

   • Try to bend at the waist in the opposite direction of the fall. This way you stabilize your center of gravity even more. However, do not overdo it so as not to fall the other way.
   • This move is most effective on level ground where you can crouch quickly without hurting your knees.
   • If you are tall, you may need to squat lower as your body's center of gravity is higher when you are standing than shorter people.

3. Use your arms to redistribute your body weight. Most people, when losing balance, instinctively try to grab something with their hands or use them to shift the center of gravity in the direction opposite to the direction of the fall. To quickly shift your center of gravity, swing your arms in the opposite direction from where your body is moving. This will help you regain your lost balance and prevent you from falling.

   • Keep in mind that if you are holding an object, it may fly out of your hands when you swing it, so try to hold it tight. In addition, it will help you shift your center of gravity and regain balance. In an emergency, use every opportunity!
   • At the same time, the person looks awkward - you probably have seen this from the side. However, it's better than falling to the ground.

4. Grab onto something stable. As mentioned above, with a sudden loss of balance, a person instinctively tries to grab onto something. Don't resist this instinct. If you have the ability to grab onto something and regain your balance, it will keep you from falling. However, this possibility does not always appear.

   • In order not to fall, you can grab onto a wall, a tree, a railing, a fence, a parked car, even another person. In the latter case, be careful not to pull this person along with you.
   • Some items seem stable, but with a little effort they can tip over. Keep this in mind, although in the event of a sudden loss of balance, you will naturally have little time to assess the stability of an object.
   • This is often another reason why, when suddenly off balance, people drop what they had in their hands - they instinctively stretch their hands to a possible support, open their palms and release what they were holding before.

5. Get used to uneven surfaces. Unfortunately, we do not always lose balance on uneven and smooth surfaces. If you are on stairs, large boulders or other uneven ground, you will need to change your actions a little to gain balance. Here are just a few tips:

   • If possible, lower your raised leg to the ground so that it is approximately level with the supporting leg. In this way, you will avoid the danger of an even greater loss of balance. If this is not possible, bend your knees so as to reduce the difference in height.
   • Sometimes it is better not to remain still, but to jump over or run to a new place. This method works well if you are trying to balance on an unstable surface (such as a rocky hillside) or when your body is already in motion.
   • If you have a little time, then evaluate whether you will find b about more stability and whether you will be safer if you jump to a new place. This will buy you some time to shift your center of mass and also be able to land on both feet and assume a more or less upright stance. In addition, such actions are useful if you are near a flat piece of land when you lose your balance.

   Part 2

   Fall Prevention

   1. Wear suitable footwear. Sometimes falls due to loss of balance can be avoided if you are wearing the right shoes. This is especially true if you slip. If you're doing something that puts you at increased risk of losing your balance, choose footwear that will maximize your stability.

      • Of course, you can fall without engaging in risky activities. You should not constantly think about the relatively small danger of losing your balance and therefore changing your shoes and lifestyle. Just choose the right shoes for a particular situation. For example, don't wear sandals when you have to walk on ice.
      • Choose shoes that reduce the risk of falling. Loose-fitting shoes (including flip-flops, sandals, and the like) can often come off at the most inopportune moment. Do not wear these shoes during sports activities and other activities that are associated with an increased risk of falling.

   2. Be careful. Often people fall because they simply do not look where they are stepping. Look ahead carefully, especially when walking on slippery or poorly lit surfaces. Be careful - this way you will not only reduce the risk of falling, but also be able to regain balance more easily if you suddenly stumble.

      • At night, use a flashlight or, if necessary, headlights. Try to light the way to reduce the risk of falling.
      • If you are going down stairs, be sure to look at the bottom steps. When you look at the next step, your brain processes the information and signals to your feet how to proceed correctly. Do not step out of momentum, as the next step may not be where you expect it to be.

   3. Try not to leave the house when you are sick or weak. Some medications and substances reduce the ability to maintain balance. If you have been drinking alcohol or taking medications that interfere with your balance and responsiveness, it is best to move around less (especially if you are not accompanied) to reduce the risk of falling.

      • This does not mean that you should sit at home without getting out after you have drunk a little alcohol. However, try not to walk long distances or do anything that involves increased physical activity.
      • Be careful when descending stairs. This is especially dangerous if you have poor balance and coordination.

   4. Use railings. Almost all stairs and many sloping paths (such as ramps) are equipped with railings and are attached to a wall or other stable structure. Hold on to the railing when going down (or going up) stairs or inclines so you don't lose your balance. Falling on stairs is much more dangerous than on level ground, so don't let gravity defeat you!

      • When descending the stairs, do not let go of the railing, but slide along it with your hand. This way you reduce the risk of falling when you shift your hand.
      • Check if the railing is stable. If the railing is unstable or poorly secured, it will be of little use in the event of a fall. If necessary, try using the railing on the other side. If this is not possible, proceed with great caution.

   Part 3

   How to avoid injury from a fall

   1. Protect your face. In the event of a fall, protect your face and head first of all by covering them with your hands. This should be done even if there is a danger of injury to another part of the body. Head injuries are very dangerous and can even be fatal, so try not to hit your head on the ground or other hard surfaces or objects.

      • As you fall forward, extend your arms in front of your face. Thus, you can hit the ground in time and protect your face at the same time.
      • When falling back, put your hands behind your head and lean forward. This is the best way to keep your head from hitting the ground, or to cushion the impact if it does happen.

   2. Be aware of your options. In some cases, sudden movements aimed at preventing a fall are no less dangerous than the fall itself. Such movements can cause serious injury, especially in the elderly and those who have not fully recovered from previous injuries. When trying to maintain balance, you can deform the spine, so sometimes it’s better not to try to stand on your feet at all costs, but to fall and get off with a couple of minor scratches and bruises.

      • When losing balance, most movements are made instinctively, so sometimes it is not possible to avoid sudden involuntary movements.
      • If you really prefer to fall rather than put yourself in more serious danger, try to land in a way that does not affect sensitive areas of the body and previous injuries. For example, if you've suffered a knee ligament tear and haven't fully recovered from it yet, try to turn around when you fall so you don't land on your injured leg or knee.

   3. Use your hands to soften the blow. As you fall forward, extend your arms out in front of you and bend them slightly as they touch the ground. Imagine that you are bending down to the ground while doing push-ups from the floor. This will help you cushion your fall and prevent hand fractures from hard landings.

      • If you fall on your hands, there is a risk of fracture of the bones of the forearm, palm or wrist. However, you should protect yourself with your hands to avoid more serious injuries.
      • The risk of fracture increases if you try to cushion the impact at an awkward angle, such as when you fall backwards. This is because in this position, your hands are not designed for high loads, and the joints do not have sufficient flexibility.
      • The stronger the muscles in your upper body, the better you will be able to cushion the impact and prevent injury from a fall.

   4. Roll over. If you fall while moving forward (for example, when running or jumping from a great height), it is sometimes safer to roll on the ground rather than trying to stop abruptly. Be sure to cover your head and neck.

      • Touch the ground with your hands first, then your upper back and shoulder blades. Do not bend too much so that your head is not behind your feet, otherwise after rolling you can hit the ground on your face!
      • As you roll forward, arch your back, tuck your head into your chest, and lean forward. Try to group so that your body is like a wheel.
      • As you roll to the side, bring your bent arms close to your body, cover your face with your palms, and tilt your head slightly forward. In this way, you protect your face and protect yourself from hitting the ground with the back of your head.

   Part 4

   Balance Exercises

   Balance on one leg. To begin, stand up, spread your legs hip-width apart and place your hands on your waist. Continuing to stand straight, lift one leg off the floor and bend it at the knee, bringing the foot back. Stay in this position for up to 30 seconds, then switch legs. Repeat this exercise several times for each leg.

   • To make the exercise more difficult, try extending your raised leg to the side or in front of you without touching the floor with it. In this way, you can shift your body's center of gravity and further strengthen the muscles that help maintain balance.
   • Complicate the exercise even more: stand on an unstable surface or attach weights to your ankles.

6. Do bicep curls while standing on one leg. Stand straight, place your feet hip-width apart and hold a dumbbell in one hand. Bend the arm with the dumbbell at the elbow 90 degrees, palm up. After that, lift one leg and stay in this position for up to 30 seconds, then change legs and repeat the exercise.

   • Complicate the exercise and gradually increase the weight of the dumbbell. You can also not keep your hand with a dumbbell motionless, but bend and unbend it. In this case, your muscles will have to constantly adapt to the change in the position of the center of gravity.
   • Vary this exercise. For example, you can lift different legs. It is more difficult to maintain balance if you raise your leg from the side of the dumbbell. Start with a simple option and gradually complicate the exercise.

7. Walk in a straight line with your heels touching your toes. If you want to improve your balance, walk in a straight line with your feet close together so that the heel of your front foot almost touches the toe of your back foot. At the same time, stretch your arms to the sides and keep them at shoulder level.

   • For better stability, focus on some distant point ahead. If you look at your feet, it will be more difficult for you to keep your balance.
   • To make the exercise more difficult, move very slowly or keep your foot on the ground longer with each step.
   • At a certain point, turn 180 degrees while maintaining your posture and walk along the same line back.

• To improve your ability to maintain balance and avoid injury from possible falls, develop agility and flexibility. To do this, do physical exercises, participate in sports games, do yoga and just lead an active lifestyle.
• Take up a hobby that requires balance. Thus, you will develop the corresponding muscles. It can be dancing, tightrope walking, ice skating or rock climbing.
• Balance exercises are especially useful for those who, for some reason (for example, due to an injury), have insufficiently developed muscles of the lower half of the body. In case of problems with the inner ear or neurological disorders, you should consult a doctor.

Warnings

• If you have injured your head in a fall, seek medical attention. Even with a slight concussion, a doctor should be consulted.
• If you have recently suffered an injury, do not do balance exercises until you have received permission from your doctor or physical therapist.

Everyone has moments in life when they experience emotional discomfort. It depends on external factors, such as the situation in which he fell, or the internal state of his soul.

Experiencing dissatisfaction with his life, a person literally loses peace, cannot concentrate on work and personal relationships, and is faced with loss of appetite and sleep.

If you are familiar with such a state, find out its causes and ways to find inner harmony with yourself and the world around you.

Reasons for the loss of inner peace

Each person has their own reason to worry and worry, but it comes down to one of the following:

• Fears and doubts. They overcome us every day, but not everyone knows how to deal with them effectively. The reason for this is anything: fear of losing a loved one, job, property, self-doubt, fear of failure.
• Guilt. It is imposed by people around you who want to manipulate you, or arises due to self-flagellation.
• Commitments. If you feel that you can’t cope, or you have taken on an overwhelming burden, then you will surely lose your peace.
• Resentment. This destructive feeling leads to overwhelm, obsessive thoughts and loss of mental balance.
• Anger, anger, hatred and envy. These emotions are so strong that they threaten not only the loss of peace, but also sleep, appetite, and performance. Find out,

All these reasons will certainly lead to the fact that a person loses his mental balance, experiences emotional, and not rarely physical, discomfort.

Loss of inner balance, negative attitudes, and destructive thoughts lead to the emergence of real physical diseases. Such patterns are studied by science, which we have already talked about earlier.

How to find peace of mind

Awareness of the problem is already the first step towards its solution. The following recommendations will help you find inner harmony and peace.

1. Recognize your NOT perfection and the right to make mistakes. Excessive ambition and self-demanding not only lead to mental balance, but also make a person be in constant stress. Take the mistakes you make as a life lesson and an opportunity to gain valuable experience.
2. Live here and now. This will help get rid of fictional fears associated with the future. Often a person worries about what might happen and forgets that it may or may NOT happen. Focus your attention on the present, and solve problems as they arise.
3. Learn to say NO. Stop shifting other people's problems onto yourself, and your life will become much easier and more harmonious.
4. Build internal boundaries. The loss of your peace of mind may be due to worries about the other person, or taking on their responsibilities. Do not let others impose the rules of the game on you, and let's clearly understand the boundaries of what is permitted in communication with you.
5. Don't keep all your experiences to yourself. A great psychological technique to get rid of the loss of calmness is to say out loud what is bothering you. By expressing your feelings in words, you will come to the conclusion that everything is not as bad as you thought. Do not be alone with your feelings and problems. Share them with a loved one who will understand and help.
6. Give vent to your emotions regularly. Do not keep everything that has accumulated. Throw out the negative, and you will feel much better.
7. Learn to forgive and forget. It happens that this is not as easy to do as it seems at first glance. If you are unable to cope with resentment on your own, seek the help of a psychologist.
8. Focus on the end result and perceive temporary difficulties as steps on the way to the realization of your goal.

If you are good at self-hypnosis, then practice reading prayers for peace of mind and meditate. But remember that you can find harmony and peace only by eliminating the cause of the loss of balance, and changing your stereotypes of thinking.

Many of the people ask themselves the question: “How to find peace of mind and peace of mind, which will allow you to harmoniously interact with the surrounding World, while maintaining balance at all levels (mental, emotional and physical) of your Personality”?

Having incarnated, having passed through the veil of oblivion and being in the process of life under the influence of many energies of catalysts, remembering your true self and finding inner balance is not an easy task and this is the challenge that everyone faces.

The pinnacle of this is available to everyone, and all its facets are already inside us. Everyone installs and configures their system in a comfortable range and boundaries.

The internal balance of a person cannot be achieved by outside influence, it must be born inside, no matter how it happens, with or without awareness, but the essence will come from within. The outside can only help with direction, not with self-organization.
Moreover, accidents and "raids" on self-development are not helpers here. To achieve internal goals, you need to take care of yourself and work systematically.

Finding peace of mind and harmony with ourselves is the level of our state that is available at every moment of our reality HERE and NOW.

The nature of these things is not at all passive, but on the contrary, it is very dynamic and is realized by many other factors. All this is organized by a combination: mental activity, energy, body, emotional part. Any of these factors has a serious impact on the others, organizing into a single entity - a person.

Each of us faces a challenge and it is accepted by each of us, manifested in our free choice.

Human inner balance is a necessary condition for life in our World. And if we do not form it ourselves, it will be formed without our conscious participation and brought to a certain low-frequency range that allows us to manipulate, control, and take energy.

That is why our question is directly related to the real freedom and energy independence of everyone.

Modes of formation of peace of mind and harmony

Achievement is possible in two modes:

First mode

A conscious, Personally controlled process of building, adjusting and adjusting all components of inner harmony. In this case, the individual balance built in the process of work is stable, positive, energetic and optimal.

Second mode

Unconscious, chaotic, when a person lives, unconsciously obeying and following the automatic inclusion of a chain of thoughts, emotions and actions. In this case, our nature is built in a low-frequency controlled range and is realized as destructive and destructive for a person.

Over time, having built a positive worldview that works for us, we can create our own ways to integrate and install internal balance at any moment, even the most critical one.

Factors affecting the formation of mental balance

1. Rate of residence

The desire to speed up the flow of events in life, intolerance and negative reaction in the form of irritation due to the speed with which events unfold, rejection of what is happening contribute to the emergence of an imbalance.

Staying in the moment, accepting the flow of circumstances that we cannot influence, only contributes to a better resolution of issues. Our reactions to external events are key and decisive for its preservation. Only we ourselves choose how we respond to emerging situations and events.

All external catalysts are initially neutral in their essence, and only we decide what they will be, we reveal their potentials.
Giving time means focusing on every action, no matter what you are doing, fastening buttons, cooking, washing dishes, or anything else.

Step by step, we should go our way, pay our attention only to the present, not speed up the movements that move at their due speed. Let a small matter into your world, give yourself completely to it, you should not constantly betray what worries you, you need to learn to distract your mind.

Such simple actions to pump awareness, but the stone wears away water and what you achieve will amaze you. It is the little things with which we begin the path that make our consciousness more plastic and weaken all the tension that has been accumulating in us for years, pushing us into an unreal world. We do not dream about how it should be, we are moving towards it on our own. One day, just wash the dishes with obvious interest, think only about it, take your time, let the thought process do everything for you. Such simple logic reveals the familiar from a completely different angle. Moreover, the world itself becomes more understandable to the attentive and thinking, already at this stage some of the fears recede.

Not everything in life we ​​can control - this means that it does not really make sense to fight, such is the reality. And it often happens that our other influence will only bring harm to the situation and will mean that we are not yet ready to consciously find peace of mind and harmony in ourselves.

2. Moderation

Avoiding the oversaturation of the environment with excesses, the ability not to divide the world into black and white, the ability to clearly understand the level of one's own strengths, not to waste time - all this makes it possible to accumulate the necessary potential of our energy for its further use in creating a positive internal balance (balance).

3. Mindset

Thoughts are the energy substance within us. To establish harmony, it is necessary to distinguish and track them. But not every thought that we catch inside ourselves belongs to us. We must choose what to believe. It is necessary to consciously discern the thoughts that come to us.

Our motives are mirrored in the world around us, the negative state of thoughts will spread to the worldview in general. By accustoming ourselves to track thoughts and making a conscious choice, we take responsibility for our lives, achieve peace of mind and harmony with ourselves.

Tracking thoughts involves not reacting to emerging images reflexively, automatically. Pause, feel what feelings and emotions this thought causes, and make a choice whether you like it or not.

An unconscious quick automatic emotional reaction to negative thoughts that arise starts the process of generating and releasing negative low-frequency energy, which reduces the frequency level of energy bodies and, as a result, lowers it to low ranges.
The ability to discern, monitor, and choose a way of thinking enables and creates the conditions for creating or restoring personal peace of mind and tranquility.

4. Emotions

Human emotions are an evaluative attitude of the Personality and a response to the impact of external life catalysts.
With a conscious attitude, our sensory sphere, our emotions are a Divine Gift and a creative Power that unites with the Highest aspect of the OverSoul, an inexhaustible source strength.

With an unconscious attitude and automatic emotional reactions to external catalysts, the cause of suffering, pain, imbalance.

If thoughts, figuratively speaking, are the “trigger” for the start of energy processes, then emotions are the driving Forces that give acceleration (acceleration) to these processes. It all depends on the direction of the attention of the vector and on how consciously or unconsciously the immersion in this accelerating stream takes place. Everyone chooses how to use this Power for creativity, creation, strengthening the connection with their Oversoul, or for destructive explosive releases.

5. Physical body

The body is just an extension of our thinking.
At the level of the physical body, the energy circuit connecting thoughts - the body, emotions - the body, the hormonal system - the release of energy is closed.

The use of specific mental images with the addition of an emotional cocktail is followed by an influx of neurotransmitters of an individual type into the body, which determine what physical and moral sensation we will experience.

• Positive emotions cause relaxation and calmness, allow our body and all its parts not to burn out energy and work in the correct mode.
• Negative emotions, on the contrary, cause local destruction, which can be manifested by spasms of smooth muscles and deformation of tissue membranes, spasms and contractions, have a cumulative effect, and therefore lead to long-term negative processes throughout the body.

The human hormonal system reacts to the emotional state, which means that it has a direct impact on the state of the body at the moment, on the other hand, with an increase in the level of certain hormones, emotionality also grows.

As a result, we are able to learn to control emotions by controlling to some extent the hormonal level of the body, and this will give us the opportunity to easily overcome some of the negative emotions, we will gain control over them. This skill will largely determine our potential to evade many disease states, and subsequently life expectancy.

7 Tips for Finding Peace of Mind and Harmony

1. Give up strict planning

When plans are created to outline development goals, implementation of maneuvers, achievements and results, then everything is in order. But when we control every minute of our living space, we demoralize ourselves by falling behind. We need to always run somewhere and keep up with everything. In this mode, we lock ourselves into everyday aspects and miss special opportunities for solving situations. You should be more flexible and open to the possibility of maneuvering through events without emotional suffering.

It is difficult to see every little thing of the possible events in the future, but if we are capable of adjusting in the moment, nothing unsettles us, and we confidently swim in the mainstream of life, deftly managing our “oar”, returning to the right balance in time.

2. Symbols are not random

Nothing happens by accident. If we can see, distinguish and believe the signs that are sent to us from higher planes, then we can manage our balance and avoid many troubles. By training the vision and feeling of signs, you can avoid negative influences in a timely manner and, following the optimal frequency range of settings, adjust your stay in the flow of energies, gaining peace of mind and peace in life.

3. Practice Faith in God and service to the Higher powers

We must have a sacred place both in the literal (physical) and figurative sense (aspiration and faith), this allows us to maintain “purity”, “confidence” and “form” the right goals. Trust! Trust in divine providence, the flow, the supreme power, and also in Yourself as the Creator is the key to following the flow, the key to a successful, peaceful, fulfilling, fulfilled life. Do not tear the “steering wheel” out of the hands of the Higher Providence, let the real ones help you.

4. Forget the problem for a while and trust the Universe to solve it

Often we can't stop our thinking mind because we are bothered by so many problems. One good technique is to learn to "forget" a query. If you have a problem - you formulate it, and then "forget". And your vision at this time independently finds a solution to the problem, and after a while you will be able to “remember” your request along with its solution.

Learn to listen to your heart, to your inner voice, instinct, to your supernatural intuition, which tells you - “I don’t know why I need this - but I’m going there now”, “I don’t know why we need to leave - but we have to go ”, “I don’t know why I should go there - but for some reason I have to go.”

In a state of equilibrium flow, we are able to act, even if we do not fully know or understand the situation logically. Learn to listen to yourself. Allow yourself to be inconsistent, situational and flexible. Trust the flow, even when it's hard. If there are difficulties in your life, while you are sure that you listened to yourself, your intuition, and did the best that you could in the current situation, do not rush to blame the flow, ask yourself what this situation teaches you.

What is the flow teaching me through this situation? If there is no answer to this question - just let it go. Trust. Perhaps it will be revealed later - and you will find out "what it was all about." But even if it doesn't open, trust anyway. Once again, trust is the key!

5. Get the timing right

Don't go into the past - the past has already happened. Do not live in the future - it has not come, and may not come, but it may come in a completely different (most unexpected) way. All we have is the present moment! Concentrate on every moment of your existence when the flow of time is at the level of yours.

Skill be manifested in a conscious attitude to consciousness slows down, and in this moment you can feel the taste and fullness of all life for each seemingly simple action performed. Feel the taste of it in the taste of food, in the aromas of flowers, in the blue of the sky, in the rustle of leaves, in the murmur of a stream, in the flight of an autumn leaf.

Every moment is inimitable and unique, remember it, absorb these feelings that you experienced in this unique moment of Eternity. Your feelings, your perception is unique in the entire Universe. Everything that everyone has collected in himself is his gifts of Eternity and his immortality.

Balance is nothing more than the desire to live in this world at the speed with which it actually goes, that is, simply not to rush it. Feeling annoyed and having a real opportunity to influence the speed of events are completely different things.

And if something really depends on you, then it can always be done calmly. And after all, most often the real symptoms of irritation are nervous gestures, rage, diatribes that we utter to ourselves, a nagging feeling “Well, why me?” - appear only at the moment when it is already crystal clear that we are absolutely powerless and cannot influence the process in any way.

The only thing we can do is to be in one moment, without being irritated or speeding up, to enjoy, to give thanks for it. And it is with such a choice and attitude that in this moment that unique and optimal our spiritual balance and harmony with ourselves is maintained.

6. Creativity

At a level that goes beyond our linear thinking of the 3rd dimension, creativity is the revelation of the highest divine potentials of the One Infinite Creator on a personal level. The disclosure of creative potential fills with positive energy, allows you to balance as much as possible, increases the frequencies of the energy sphere, and strengthens your personal connection with your OverSoul.

Practicing doing what you love, especially if it involves doing some fine motor work with your hands, you enter a state where your mind automatically calms down. Right today, right now - find moments to do what you love to do. It can be cooking, making souvenirs, writing pictures, writing prose and poems, walking in nature, repairing a car, listening to your favorite music and much more that brings joy to you personally.

Don't ask yourself why? Drop the rational, "right" questions. Your task is to feel with your heart, to feel the course of circumstances, and the easiest way to do this is by doing what you like. If you like to cook - cook, if you like to walk - take a walk, try to find something in everyday life that “turns you on” to the “alive/alive” state.

7. Accept from people and life what it gives you at the present time with Love and Gratitude, both in terms of material and emotional.

Do not demand more or better, do not try to aggressively influence, be offended or "teach" another.
Finally, look for and experiment with what helps to quiet YOUR thinking mind. What exactly allows you to relax and get into a space without thoughts? Which method works well for you? Find these ways and do the most important thing - Practice.

Our optimally balanced personal balance is connected to the Divine Life Energy Flow. Therefore, in order to be in this Stream, we need to gather ourselves in such a way that our frequencies are tuned to this Stream. Feel this Flow at the level of the heart, feelings, thoughts, remember these frequency settings, integrate these frequency settings into your energy sphere and make them an integral part of you.

To be here and now in one moment of Eternity at the frequency of Love in the Infinity of the One Infinite Creator!

Instruction

If you feel that you have begun to experience inexplicable anxiety, quarrel for no reason with family and friends, often raise your voice to others, then you are clearly not in order. So, you need to find free time, at least one day, in order to relax and bring yourself back to normal. Even in the case of serious troubles, you can always find a way to move away from them for a while. After all, ignoring the state of your inner world, you risk getting health problems, and also alienate people who love you, but cannot understand such a state.

Put all your affairs and worries aside, take a day off, send your husband (wife) to visit relatives, turn off your phone, forget about all sources of information. Stay alone with yourself and spend this day in, so that nothing interferes with the absolute peace around you. Get a good night's sleep, then take a bath with some relaxing, aromatic oil or bubble bath. Next, listen to soothing music or, for example, recordings such as the sounds of nature, the sea, etc. You can treat yourself to something. These small joys will make you almost new, able to enjoy life again.

After the rest, you will gain strength and be able to spend the evening with your loved ones. Visit a place with which you have fond memories. Pleasant company and environment will help your soul to calm down.

If possible, take a vacation. For example, to the sea. Water will remove, and a change of scenery and activities will make it possible to achieve inner harmony. Perhaps you will look at those problems that once seemed insoluble, with different eyes. Understand that peace of mind is necessary for a calm, measured life.

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A successful person can be identified not only by his achievements, but also by his inner state of satisfaction. It often manifests itself in life in the form of high spirits and enthusiasm. When you look at such a person, you can immediately tell that he is in his place. That's just not everyone can find this place and it's not always possible on the first try.

What does it mean to be in the right place

To the question of "one's place in life", one can give several answers. For someone to be in the right place successfully make a career or take place in a professional sense. It is enough for another person to find a hobby to their liking, which will allow them to fully realize their inner creative potential. Still others consider themselves in their place when they are surrounded by like-minded people.

Regardless of the individual meaning of this concept, finding your place means being in a comfort zone. In such an environment, a person feels confident, has no doubts and does not waste time looking for his destiny. Being in his place, a person experiences satisfaction, peace and tranquility. Even the inevitable minor troubles, without which it is difficult to do in life, are not able to bring such a person out of a state of peace of mind.

Finding your place in life

Almost every person, with rare exceptions, builds his life by trial and error. It is not so often to meet those who already at a young age realized their destiny, chose their professional path and the scope of their natural talents. To make the search for the optimal life path as short as possible, it makes sense to engage in introspection.

A kind of inventory of your abilities and interests will help you find your own place in life. In order to get into your destiny and feel yourself in your place, it is important that the business that a person chooses as the main one is in agreement with the internal attitudes and preferences of a person. If you choose a niche for yourself in which you are not interested, you can feel "out of your element" for the rest of your days.

It is best if, in the process of searching for a profession, a person finds a business for himself that arouses his sincere interest. To achieve professional success, you have to give yourself to work entirely, without a trace. It will be very difficult to maintain the necessary motivation if the business you are doing does not cause you to. In this sense, finding your place means finding a job that you will do with passion.

For those who are still in search of their place in life and in thought, we can recommend a very strong psychological move. It consists in the conscious expansion of the usual comfort zone. To do this, it can be enough to visit places where you have not been before, do a business that you consider too much for yourself, meet new people, or even completely change your environment.

Going beyond the former zone of life comfort, a person expands his capabilities and often comes across the most unexpected areas of application of his abilities. At first, going beyond the usual can cause self-doubt and temporary discomfort. But for many people, such a decision becomes an effective way to get to know themselves better and realize their full personal potential.

peace in soul- what it is? This is a harmonious view of the world, calmness and self-confidence, the ability to rejoice and forgive, to cope with difficult situations. Inner harmony is not so common in today's world, where everyone has a busy schedule of tasks and responsibilities, so there is simply not enough time to stop and watch the sunset. Buy at soul peace is possible. Psychologists give some advice on this matter.

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peace and harmony are impossible without joy and in the heart. Don't be afraid to give your time and share your soul positive energy, treat people positively. If you expect good deeds from those around you, see the best in people and treat them with all your heart, then you can find that there are a lot of wonderful people around you. By treating people positively and kindly, you will notice that they reciprocate. When everything is in order with other people, this is a good basis for internal balance.

Treat problems not as troubles that have fallen on your head inappropriately, but as tasks that need to be completed. Many rush to blame colleagues, acquaintances and relatives for their problems, they are ready to reveal all the secrets of their lives to a fellow traveler on the train, complaining about life all the way, but they do not ask themselves what is the true reason. And it very often lies in the very! Try to understand if there is something that hinders you, in yourself? Sometimes, in order to find harmony, you need to change. Do not blame yourself, but work on yourself.

Forgive others. Everyone makes mistakes. If there are people whom you cannot forgive, you cannot forget to them what they have done to you - soul you won't get much peace. Justice is a category of law, and even there it is not always achieved, and a person judges “by mercy”, so goodbye. Moreover, forgiveness should be given not only to others, but also to yourself! This is very important, because many cannot forgive themselves for any mistake, blaming themselves for all the failures.

Rejoice. Life is made up of this, and not at all of serious and big events. If there is an opportunity to do some small thing that will please your loved ones - do not miss the opportunity to do it. Such things at first glance seem insignificant, but they allow you to achieve a permanent good mood, and from this to soul peace of mind - one step.

When planning something, say to yourself not “I have to do this”, but “I want to do this”. After all, most of the things that you “should” are actually your planned and desired things that you really want to do. For example, not feeling like going to the store for flour right now, you still conceived it in order to bake something tasty and please your family. That is, in reality, you do not have to go shopping, but want to do it to achieve your goal.

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You can often hear people complain about the fact that they can not find peace of mind. If we define it as the inner and outer harmony of a person, then this can mean reconciliation with oneself and the surrounding reality. This is a state when you do not have internal contradictions and have established calm, friendly relations with those who are close to you. Peace of mind is necessary so that all misfortunes and illnesses bypass you.

Instruction

In one of the biblical parables, it is said that a man suffering because he did not have shoes was comforted when he saw a man who did not have legs. If you feel bad, then direct your strength not to suffering, but to help other people. If it is even harder for one of your relatives or friends, offer your participation, help him with your deed. A grateful look will be enough for you to feel peace and happiness from the fact that someone has become easier.

When you understand that your life and your happiness depend only on you, that only you know best what you need and stop making claims to others, then you will stop being annoyed and deceived in your expectations. Never accumulate resentment in yourself, forgive the people who hurt you. Communicate with those who are pleasant to you and yours will be strengthened every day.

Know how to appreciate life and notice how beautiful it is. Enjoy every minute, every day you live. Understand that the external environment depends on your internal state. Depending on the mood, the attitude to the same phenomena also changes. So, control yourself and do not let anger and envy affect your attitude. Don't judge other people, let them judge themselves.

Do not treat troubles as a punishment and an obstacle, be grateful to fate for helping you forge your character, achieve your goal, overcoming them. In any trouble and failure, look for positive moments and find them. Do not take every little thing as confirmation that everything in the world is against you. Let go of negativity and be free.

Live in the present, because the past has already passed and suffering over it is a waste of time. The future starts today, so be happy with what you have now. Fill your soul with warmth and light, love and appreciate those who are next to you today, so that you don’t regret later that you didn’t see and appreciate it.

Peace of mind allows you to put your emotional state in order. The person becomes more cheerful and happy. The quality and speed of work are noticeably improved, and relationships with other people are also improving. But how do you find peace of mind?

Manage your thoughts. Don't let negativity control your feelings. If you subconsciously look for the bad in the surrounding things, then they will soon consist entirely of shortcomings. Program your mind for a positive flow of emotions. Teach him to see the good even where there seems to be nothing good. Learn to control your thoughts. This will allow you to focus on the really important things.

Live today. The main enemy of peace of mind is the mistakes of the past and constant worries. You need to admit to yourself that unrest will not help change the situation. It is better to take concrete actions so that such a mistake does not happen again. Find positive aspects in this bad experience, just stop tormenting yourself because of a stupid oversight.

Focus on your goal. When a person knows what he is striving for, his state of mind becomes very. Have no doubt that you will be able to achieve what you want. Just keep going despite all the obstacles. Constantly imagine that you already got what you wanted. This will give you an additional influx of strength to deal with negativity.

Sit in silence. A few minutes of this practice can relieve emotional and physical stress, fatigue and mental anxiety. At such moments, you can talk about life and make plans for the future. Regular meditation in silence allows you to quickly find peace of mind.

The fussiness of modern life makes us increasingly think about how to find the inner peace. After all, you so want to achieve balance and arrive at peace with yourself. Every person who dares to look at his life from the side and change it is able to do this.

Instruction

Love yourself. Learn to accept yourself the way you are. With all the shortcomings, weaknesses and other moments that scare you. Appreciate yourself, your personality and your body.