- this is a set of negative feelings, manifested in the form of anxiety, inferiority and shame, which are based on the perception of one's shortcomings in an unfavorable light as a result of comparing oneself with other people.

In most cases, the inferiority complex is associated with physical disabilities, i.e. a negative attitude towards one's own appearance, but its origins may also be social status, intelligence, personal qualities and character traits.

Some people struggle with feelings of inferiority for many years, others suffer from it all their lives. And, of course, suffering, a person considers himself unhappy.

As a result, the problem under consideration can lead to the destruction of relationships, an unhealthy lifestyle, or depression.

The presence of an inferiority complex means that you focus on your shortcomings and constantly compare yourself to other people.

And although everyone has flaws, when you have an inferiority complex, your obsessive flaw is the only thing that you constantly notice in yourself.

The causes of an inferiority complex are varied, but many of them are most common at an early age.

For example, it is possible that your parents hammered into your head as a child that you were not good enough at something, or an event associated with harsh criticism at school left a deep impression on your mind.

The opposite of an inferiority complex is a superiority complex, which comes from your belief that you are the best. Often the superiority complex is a veiled inferiority complex.

An intermediate life position between the two above-mentioned complexes is a natural golden mean when you do not worry about your shortcomings and do not try to prove anything to anyone.

The inferiority complex is like a musical tune that was put on “Repeat”, causing that annoying song to keep playing in your head, repeating “She's so pretty. She will never date someone like me.”, “I'm fat.”, “I'm short.”, “I'm insecure.”, “I'll never get this job.”, “I'm not smart enough.”… blah blah blah.

However, if you don't have the talent, qualities, skills, ambition, or audacity needed to achieve the desired result, then you will only continue to fuel the fires of your complex, whether you like it or not.

And how long will you continue torturing yourself? Maybe it's time for a change?!

1. Comparing yourself to others:
   - Physical defects - disproportionate features of the face or body, height, weight, physical strength, dexterity, slowness, vision, etc.
   – Social factors – race, culture, religion, economic status, social adaptation, etc.
2. Lack of self-esteem and low self-esteem:
   - Parental education - disapproving nature of education, negative remarks, blaming the child for problems, etc.
   - Environment - a lack of understanding of who you are and where you are going, as a result - the imposed opinion of others and the pursuit of other people's goals.
3. High standards and expectations:
   - A problem with perfectionism.

The people around you have limited knowledge and opportunities. Therefore, they tell you exactly what they know or understand.

If you take for granted the opinion of only a small handful of people, you thereby limit your horizon of possibilities and the prospect of development with your own hands.

The trace of an inferiority complex can be traced back to childhood, when you listened to and took into account the advice, knowledge and beliefs of people who, with good intentions, made you an unhappy person.

These people told you, "You're not good enough," and you believed them. They said, "You're weak," and you think you are. They shouted: “You will not succeed,” and you agreed with them. They recommended "You should be like Petya" and you didn't contradict them. They said: “Sasha is better than you”, and Sasha became the reason for you to feel your own inferiority.

But the reality is

• What people say to you and think about you is just subjective opinion, limited by their knowledge, experience and level of intelligence.
• Ten people have ten different opinions about your personality, none of which are true.
• Some people only see what they are comfortable seeing in you.
• The feeling of inferiority is part of your subjective self-image, but it is not the objective and real you.
• No matter what you believe, you can change your beliefs.
• You are much better and much more capable than you think.

Signs of an inferiority complex

1. Feeling worthless

Instead of treating the erroneous opinions of the people around you in an appropriate way, instead of adequately assessing your best qualities, on the contrary, you begin to follow the value judgments of others, belittling your own merits and being confident that you are worse than the rest.

2. Heightened sensitivity to criticism

Are you very sensitive to what others think and say about you? Do you immediately feel hurt and insecure when a critical comment comes up in which you are the main protagonist? And even constructive criticism makes you imbued with a mixture of aggression with a sense of shame?

Bad sign. Surely a psychological setting has arisen inside you that periodically whispers to you “You are not good enough.”

3. Presenting a negative judgment about yourself in society

You are convinced that other people by default do not like you or think that you are flawed, regardless of what they tell you is completely different.

You hate any form of comparison that may be inevitable if you belong to any social group. As a result, you do not like to be in society, because you cannot get rid of the secret suspicion that you are worse than the rest.

On top of that, you don't want others to know the truth about how embarrassing and lousy you are, so you prefer to be alone.

4. Envy and looking for flaws in others

You will experience feelings of jealousy, envy and melancholy when you observe the happy experiences of the people around you.

In addition, you have a trained eye to detect the shortcomings of others. Your principle is an eye for an eye: since it’s bad for you, it must be bad for the rest.

No one is supposed to be better than you, so you need to make others feel worthless in order to exalt yourself.

5. Thirst for flattery

Compliments make everyone beam with joy, but in the case of an inferiority complex, you are addicted to flattery.

You constantly try to be nice to everyone in order to get approval. Your ego is strongly influenced by the opinions of other people.

6. P perfectionism and hfeeling of anxiety

You hate competition and are afraid of losing because losing makes you feel like a failure.

Every time you have to compete, perform in public, etc., you begin to sweat profusely.

You can be called a perfectionist, so if something did not go perfectly, you perceive it as a failure.

7. Submission

You seem not to because you are convinced that no matter how hard you try, you will never be good enough. As a result, you do nothing to change the situation.

You rarely stand up for your interests or your opinions, and easily cease to consider your own needs important. This behavior, continued for a long time, leads to the accumulation of anger.

Symptoms of an inferiority complex

Only when you understand that you are under the influence of an inferiority complex can you find ways to change your thinking and overcome the complex.

Therefore, one of the most important steps in getting rid of an inferiority complex is to identify its symptoms.

However, it is unlikely that you do not have any of them, because from time to time we all touch the feeling of inferiority.

1. Inferiority complex and personality

The inferiority complex has a direct impact on a person's self-image, which is corrected under the influence of other people's value judgments.

And such a distorted vision of oneself becomes part of the personality, even when a person is alone with himself, distancing himself from society.

The favorite object of the inferiority complex is the human appearance. And even those who are perceived by the vast majority as outwardly attractive are often influenced by an inferiority complex based on the fear of losing their value in the eyes of society.

Often complexes become an impetus for choosing one of two options for the development of human life, and only the person himself determines the direction of movement for himself.

Some people conclude that they deserve the fate of a flawed or a loser, because such a position reflects their inner sense of themselves. This approach can lead to negative thinking, unhealthy eating habits, and addiction.

In another case, the effect of overcompensation is triggered in people, as a result of which they begin to work hard to achieve physical perfection. Indeed, they gain confidence in their appearance, but sometimes too active movement towards the goal can lead to overexertion, exhaustion, dependence on fancy diets, etc.

When it comes to intellectual abilities, similar rules apply.

An inferiority complex can lead to an inadequate assessment of praise. When a person is sincere, instead of having pleasant emotions, he may feel wary and see an attempt at ridicule.

Equally, the complex will often cause you to go into aggressive mode if someone speaks negatively of you. Increased sensitivity to criticism is a clear manifestation of a sense of inferiority.

2. Inferiority complex and relationships

An inferiority complex can make you look at your romantic relationship in a distorted way.

If you are single, you may believe that you are incapable of maintaining a relationship. If you are in love with your other half, your attitude towards her may be distorted by a personal subjective view, which is far from reality.

You can overestimate the importance of your partner in your life, which is quite capable of causing distance between you.

On the other hand, if you mentally endow your partner with unrealistic qualities, he will inevitably disappoint you at the moment when you do not meet these unreasonable standards.

Single people suffering from an inferiority complex tend to have a distorted vision of potential lovers. When they notice attractive people, they begin to compare themselves with them, stating their inferiority and inability to make them a part of their lives.

The inferiority complex affects not only romantic relationships, but also your relationship with your parents.

You may feel excessive pressure and high expectations from your parents. And if you cannot meet your expectations, you, unfortunately, will feel unworthy of your loved ones, even if they are mistaken in their own life position.

In addition, an inferiority complex may arise as a result of rivalry between brothers and sisters.

Unfortunately, the consequences of the events of our childhood can haunt us throughout our later lives.

That is why the attempt to overcome an inferiority complex is not so much in getting rid of harmful thoughts, but in mastering control over them.

3. Inferiority complex and success

People suffering from an inferiority complex often dream about. They may have an unrealistic view of what success entails, thereby overestimating their expectations.

By observing other people, they note their achievements, comparing them with their careers and social relationships. The identified discrepancy in various areas of life can make them feel defective.

In addition, feelings of inferiority can affect your career progression. Most likely, you are able to succeed in many areas of activity, but the present inferiority complex will easily convince you of the opposite.

As a result, you can continue to vegetate in the same position, feeling limited and frustrated.

Without the confidence to move forward and without making the necessary life adjustments, you continue to sink into a circle of frustration that you feel is impossible to get out of.

On the other hand, an inferiority complex sometimes manifests itself in the form of overcompensation. You can push yourself to achieve something unrealistically large, which, of course, will give you some of the trappings of success, but will not relieve you of the complex.

If you constantly feel inferior, then it doesn't matter how successful you are in other areas. You may even end up perceiving the positive aspects of your life in a negative way.

Excessive feelings of inferiority can make you feel frustrated no matter what level of success you achieve. You may be convinced that you are always short of everything because you are not good enough.

4. Inferiority complex and society

A common feature characteristic of the owners of the inferiority complex is a sense of anxiety, which can lead to a false sense of excessive demands in any area of ​​\u200b\u200blife and the need to meet these requirements.

If you feel the need to be in the spotlight all the time, this may be a manifestation of complexes.

Self-confident people do not feel the desire to attract attention to themselves, because their self-esteem is unconditional and does not depend on the opinions of others.

People who suffer from an inferiority complex may appear confident, but often this confidence is false. Possessing external attractiveness, their inner world is a bunch of fears and constant negative experiences.

How to get rid of an inferiority complex

1. Determine who you are comparing yourself to

Instead of dwelling on the realization of the presence of an inferiority complex in your life, take a step further and find out who you compare yourself to most often.

Be as specific as possible and consider not only people from your environment, but also celebrities and even imaginary images, such as, or a London dandy.

If you find it difficult to determine the object of comparison yourself, use this list:

1. Very physically attractive people.
2. Rich people with a beautiful lifestyle.
3. Smart people with multiple degrees.
4. People with impressive career growth.
5. Public people, or those who have many friends and admirers.

Once you have a clear idea of ​​the subjects that make you feel inferior, try to pick out specific people in your life who have these attractive traits that are important to you.

Then identify your strengths that your idols lack equally. There will be something!

2. Realize the nature of the inferiority complex

Remember the first case and the person whose behavior caused the emergence of an inferiority complex. As a rule, this is a case from childhood.

Feel this unpleasant emotion, become this emotion, dissolve in it. Think about what is positive about this emotion? Why is she in your life? What did she protect you from all this time, or what profit did she have for you?

Then materialize that emotion, say “Thank you” to it, and mentally discard it.

3. Stop worrying about other people's opinions

Public opinion is the opinion of those who have not been asked about anything.

An indifferent attitude to the opinions of others is one of the most important steps towards getting rid of an inferiority complex. It is not surprising that about Most of the complexes are based on dependence on the judgments of other people.

At the end of each day, only your own opinion of yourself should matter to you.

Studies show that when we treat ourselves better, other people also begin to treat us with more respect.

But how to stop worrying about the opinions of others?

First, focus on what makes you happy, what brings passion, joy and fulfillment to your life?

When you spend time doing what really turns you on, you stop wasting your energy worrying about some other person's opinion.

Secondly, do not forget that the people around you, as a rule, are too preoccupied with their own problems, and will not pay special attention to evaluating your person. They, just like you, are worried about something and are not sure about something.

When you become immune to other people's opinions and actions, you stop being a victim of completely unnecessary worries and suffering, and gain a huge store of personal freedom. It's like drinking the most valuable medicine on earth. You are free!

4. Boost

1. 
   When you treat yourself as an object, you are laying the foundation for subconscious beliefs that you are valuable in your own right and deserve close attention.
   Are you exercising regularly, eating well, getting enough sleep, developing skills, indulging in pleasant shopping? If not, work on these areas of your life and you will see that a lot will change.
2. Do what you love
   Ask yourself what is holding you back from doing what you love, and then with a decisive push, break all existing obstacles.
3. Develop yourself
   When you are young, your head is often filled with all sorts of nonsense, completely unnecessary rubbish, including the importance of public opinion.
   If you get involved in various areas of human activity, instead of smoking and drinking beer in the company of dubious personalities or crying into a pillow about your failure, after a while you will notice how far apart from others. It will just be an abyss.
   You will understand that those who once acted as idols, in reality, remained at the same level, the level of losers and wasted life.
4. List of my virtues
   Make a list of ten qualities that you consider to be your strengths, and hang it in a prominent place so that every day you will remember what a wonderful person you are.

5. Internal dialogue

Obsessed with negativity, he begins to harbor an inferiority complex and a sense of self-denial. As you develop positive mental attitudes, your inner voice encourages you to see yourself positively, helping you maintain a state of harmony and happiness in the long run.

Therefore, you need to identify your negative thoughts, and then replace them with positive beliefs.

Try writing down some of your inner critic's undermining statements, and then replace them with positive alternatives: "I'm the best," "It doesn't matter what others think."

Repeat these positive affirmations daily, ideally standing in front of a mirror, and in time you will be convinced, “Yes, I am the best. What is it here?”

Also, replace any negative words that you generously gift yourself with, even if you really fit their meaning, such as being clumsy or overweight, because that's no reason not to be kinder to yourself.

Think of substitute words. You might say to yourself, “I have to practice getting graceful” or “What a great guy I am for going to the gym.”

Another effective way to stop negative self-talk is to simply stop believing in these stupid beliefs.

If you put the focus of objective logical thinking on your negative mental attitudes, you will find that they are not really based on anything.

For example, if you think you're less valuable because you don't have good looks, it's likely that you just haven't realized that some of the missing links in your life are missing:

1. People's opinions are always subjective, and, for sure, many will not agree with you.
2. You most likely have many other more valuable qualities.
3. Well, hair, excellent physical shape and, in the case of girls, makeup can completely turn both your idea of ​​\u200b\u200byou and the attitude of others around you. No wonder Coco Chanel said that if a woman has not become attractive by the age of 40, then she is a complete idiot.

In the same way, if you are not sure about the strength of your personality, your beliefs, habits, hobbies, etc., it is all because you constantly listen to the opinions of other people.

But in reality, there is no right or wrong way, and no one can objectively claim that for some reason you are a second-class person.

What matters is what you think about yourself and what matters to you, and it doesn't matter what other people say and think.

Keep in mind that over 95% of the people on planet earth are not absolute certainty. So when you start to worry about how people around you feel about you, just remember that they are also concerned about what others, including you, think of them.

If you find yourself with an inferiority complex, then now is the time to think about why it could arise.

For example, if your parents were neglectful of you, then it's probably their problem, not your fault. In the same way, if you were teased at school, there could be many reasons for this, you could even be envied.

You should not feel guilty just because sometime on your life path you met narrow-minded people.

6. Surround yourself with positive people

It is important for you to recognize that the inferiority complex is associated with the people with whom you spend time.

Take inventory of your surroundings: think about your relationships with family members, friends, colleagues.

If in your social circle you identify people who are actively trying to lead you astray, do not reciprocate your goodwill, bring chaos and unnecessary negative experiences into your life, the best solution to the problem is to distance yourself from them.

Eliminate toxic people completely from your life.

To increase self-esteem and develop a more positive attitude towards yourself that will sincerely support you. Build friendships based on mutual assistance, kindness and responsibility.

7. Help a friend

Ask your friend (girlfriend) to list your best qualities. Surely you yourself know them, but it is very important and pleasant if someone else confirms them.

But even if you yourself do not realize your strengths, a good friend will be able to find that zest that you have been so deftly and long trying to hide from everyone else.

8. Small achievements

Focus on your accomplishments, no matter how big they are. Many successful people practice this approach all the time without ceasing.

A trip to the gym, cooking a healthy meal, helping out a longtime friend, complimenting a colleague, these are all significant daily accomplishments.

9. So what?

Someone may reject or insult you. So what?

"So what?" is one of the greatest questions you can ask yourself.

All, without exception, great and successful people have gone through many trials and failures, but each time after another fall, they got up and continued on their way. What would happen if they lost faith in their own strength?

Successful direct sellers who are professionals in the field of seduction have been rejected hundreds and even thousands of times, and nothing terrible has happened to them. They are alive and well and reaping the wonderful fruits of their perseverance.

A huge component of success is developing the ability to do what other people are not capable of, usually because of their laziness and fears.

Therefore, as a result of doing unpopular things, you can easily throw your inferiority complex in the trash can, and also stop taking life too seriously.

Instead, start using your energy to remind yourself that you are a citizen of the universe who deserves the very best.

10. Compassion for yourself

Self-compassion is the best form of self-help.

Have you made a mistake? Well, so what? Don't let your inferiority complex take the stage of your life again

Reflect on what you have learned and learned as a result. Most mistakes and failures are of great benefit, teaching us something new.

There is no life without mistakes, so treat your mistakes as a valuable experience. Learn to use every life event to your advantage.

After drawing conclusions and realizing the experience gained, let go of the past event and focus on new achievements.

And in general, where did you get the idea that everything should be perfect. Nothing characterizes an inferiority complex as clearly as a mistaken belief in the need to be perfect.

11. You create your own complexes

The real source of the inferiority complex is in your head, in your thoughts, and in reality it does not depend on the opinions of other people. Knowing this helps to get rid of it.

We so quickly turn to self-flagellation when we begin to consider ourselves inferior to others. We imagine them in the form of superhumans, living in the illusion that their life is beautiful and free from problems and personal problems. They are beautiful and flawless, they know everything and can do it.

The best way to get rid of such vicious beliefs is to understand that such a cardboard representation of the surrounding reality is created by your thoughts. Your inferiority complex is generated by you and only you.

12. Appreciate what you have

I didn't have shoes and I felt sorry for myself until I met a man with no legs.
George Carlin

But what if there is samsara - the wheel of death and rebirth ... What was your chance to be born as a human? You could be born as an insect and not bother at all.

Walk into an oncology ward at a children's hospital and see how much people value the mere possibility of living past their fifteenth birthday.

Think about how much others would give for something you have that you don't appreciate at all.

You can always use your energy productively by focusing on what you have rather than what others have. This approach puts the inferiority complex in its rightful place - out of your sight.

When you can't sleep, stand in line, wait for the bus at the bus stop, it is much more beneficial to focus on those valuable things that are already present in your life.

When you open your eyes fully, you will see how much good is all around you. You can't feel grateful and worthless at the same time.

So, inferiority complex, catch the air and goodbye!

Conclusion

The inferiority complex is an old acquaintance for every person and does not represent something new and unusual. There will always be someone better than you, so comparison is completely useless. And besides, you are better than others in some ways, aren't you?

Never let your feelings of inferiority get in the way of your success. Instead, use it as a tool to push yourself to get better, get to the next level, and get what you want.

The main approach to overcoming an inferiority complex is to realize the true cause of its occurrence and mentally work through this emotion, in the ability to focus on your strengths, rebuild your internal dialogue and reduce the importance of someone else's opinion to a level that does not exceed the height of the plinth.

By letting go of your inferiority complex, you will gain freedom and confidence, as well as be able to breathe a sigh of relief.

At the same time, do not forget that you can always turn to a competent specialist for solving problems related to the functioning of the psyche, who will provide assistance on a case-by-case basis.

You suddenly notice that people often say hurtful things to you. This is because it makes you much easier to manage. If someone is trying to shame you, ask yourself, “What does he want from me? Why is he doing this? Ask these questions instead of inwardly agreeing, “Yes, I am so guilty. You have to do what I'm told." Many parents manipulate their children by making them feel guilty. They themselves were brought up in the same way. They lie to their children, causing them to underestimate themselves, to believe that they mean less than they really are. Some people, having become adults, are still under the constant influence of relatives and friends.

This is caused, first of all, by the lack of self-respect - otherwise they would not have allowed such a situation. And second: they themselves manipulate other people. Many live with an oppressive sense of guilt. They, as it were, are always wrong, they do something wrong, they apologize to someone all the time. They can never forgive themselves for what they did in the distant past, they scold themselves for the way they live now.

We must allow the cloud to dissipate and change our attitude towards ourselves. Those of you who feel guilty can now learn to say no and point out to people the futility of their claims. I am not saying that you should be angry with them. But you should not participate in their games anymore. If the word "no" is new to you, keep your answer short and to the point: "No, I can't do that."

Do not apologize, otherwise your "operator" will have reason to dissuade you from your decision. When people see that their tricks do not work, they themselves will stop. You can manipulate the victim as long as she allows it.

Maybe the first “no” will be difficult for you, but in the future, the feeling of guilt will gradually disappear.

One woman who attended my lectures had a child who was born with a congenital heart defect. She felt guilty: it seemed to her that it was she who caused the misfortune. Unfortunately, grief cannot be helped by tears, and even more so by guilt. By the way, there was no one to blame in her situation. I shared my thoughts with her. It could have been a child's spiritual choice and a lesson for both of them. I advised her to love her child and herself, to let go of the feeling that something was done wrong. Such guilt cannot heal anyone.

If you do something you regret, stop. If you have done something in the past that you still regret, forgive yourself. If you can make amends, make amends and try not to make the same mistake again. Every time a feeling of guilt rises somewhere inside, ask yourself the question: “What am I blaming myself for? Who am I trying to please?" And note what the answer will be to this, what kind of idea from childhood will pop up in your mind.

People who have been in a road accident often come to me. They have guilt on a very deep level, as well as the desire to punish themselves. Sometimes to this is added even suppressed hostility associated with our inability to defend our own opinion. Guilt must be punished.

The victim is looking for the executioner. We literally become our own judges, juries and executioners. We sentence ourselves to "prison" imprisonment. When we destroy ourselves, no one can come to our defense. It is time to forgive and free yourself.

The feeling of inferiority (inferiority complex) as a personality trait is a tendency to show a heightened exaggerated experience of one's own weakness, inferiority and imperfection, to irrationally believe in the superiority of others over oneself.

Remember: you are needed! No one is superior and no one is inferior, no one is superior and no one is inferior. Each to the place. A samurai, a very arrogant warrior, once came to a Zen Master. The samurai was very noble, but, looking at the Master, seeing the beauty of the Master, the charm of the moment, he suddenly felt somehow insignificant. He said to the Master: - Why do I feel my insignificance? Everything was fine a moment ago. As soon as I entered your yard, I fell. Never felt this before. I have faced death many times and have never felt fear. Why am I scared now? The master said: - Wait. I'll answer when everyone's gone. People came to visit the Master all day, and the samurai got tired of waiting. In the evening, when the room was empty, the samurai asked: - Now can you answer me? - Get out. It was a full moon and the moon was rising over the horizon. The master said: - Look at these trees, at this, high to the sky, and this, small, next to him. They've both been growing in front of my window for many years, but they don't have any problems. This little tree never says to the big one, "Why do I feel humiliated in front of you?" This tree is small, but that one is so big, why have I never heard them murmur? The samurai thought for a moment and replied, "Because they can't compare." See, you don't have to ask me. You yourself know the answer. When you don't compare, all the nothingness and all the greatness disappears. You are, you are just there. Small bush or big tree, it doesn't matter. You are yourself. A leaf of grass is as necessary as the greatest star. This voice of the cuckoo is as great as any Buddha: the world would be less rich if the cuckoo disappeared. Look around. Everything is necessary and everyone is good together. This is an organic unity, no one is higher and no one is lower, no one is more important, no one is more insignificant. All are incomparably unique and necessary. This is the religion of awareness.

Superiority and inferiority are the reverse sides of each other. Bright dual couple. Psychologists define an inferiority complex as a set of psychological and emotional feelings of a person, expressed in a sense of their own inferiority and an irrational belief in the superiority of others over themselves. An inferiority complex arises due to various reasons, such as: discrimination, mental trauma, one's own mistakes and failures, etc. An inferiority complex significantly affects a person's well-being and behavior. He comes from childhood. Comparing oneself with more physically developed peers, calling names, beating and bullying on their part could form an inferiority complex. Adults have their own problems: overweight, appearance, low social status, etc.

People with a sense of inferiority can be recognized by the words of the song: "No matter what they do, things don't work ...". Failures haunt one another: the coconut does not grow, there is no money, the beloved leaves, their own children are rude. Cherishing their inferiority, they compare themselves with those around them (of course, richer, healthier and more successful), and then experience their inferiority. An idealization with a minus sign is formed when compared with a sense of superiority. People with an inferiority complex need to understand and accept the truth: no one can see the complete objective picture of the world. If you tell a child that this color is red, while pointing to green, he will remember and be convinced that green is red. You, as a child, may have false, distorted ideas about the world and about yourself. We all live in the kingdom of crooked mirrors. In your distorted view, you are an ugly, bow-legged, gloomy-embittered type that no one likes, including you. On the face of a pronounced inferiority complex. You are convinced that the whole world sees you that way. You become ashamed of yourself in front of the world. It seems to you that people look at you with pity and condemnation. The girls passed by and laughed caustically. They whispered something in each other's ears and burst out laughing again. You heard: “Look, what a freak climbed into our garden?”. In fact, girls are interested in how you react to them. They laugh to somehow get your attention.

Sudha Chadran, a contemporary Indian classical dancer, stopped dancing in the prime of her career because doctors had to amputate her right leg. After she got a prosthesis, she returned to dancing, and again became the best among the dancers. When asked how she did it, she simply replied: - In order to dance, legs are not needed!

In general, do not flatter yourself that someone there thinks about your person. Everyone has their own worries. Everyone thinks about his person. Are you worried about the appearance of others and acquaintances? Some husbands don't recognize their wives on the street. It turns out that you have inserted lenses that represent the world in a gloomy light. This is, of course, an allegory. In fact, you see yourself and the outside world through the prism of beliefs recorded in your subconscious. And they may not be true. So it turns out that “life is a deception with enchanting longing. That is why she is so strong, That with her rough hand Fatal letters are written. Everything that you have thought up to yourself is an illusion and a deceit. The only trouble is that such thoughts about yourself will form an image corresponding to them. You, as a talented actor, will play a bow-legged gloomy embittered type. What do you want? What's inside, so outside. By the way, you will also see the world around you as “bow-legged” in gloomy and embittered tones and will attribute to it what is typical for you.

If you do not like your own inferiority or sense of superiority, you will unconsciously project these qualities onto others. There is no desire to bombard your soul. It's easier to find some scapegoat and label him inferior or superior. Therefore, when you fix that you are accused of qualities that you definitely lack, beware and take a closer look at the accuser. Surely, as you project “leggedness” onto the world, he puts together a picture of the world from the puzzles of his inferiority or superiority complex. People themselves, covered with many ulcers, look out for other people's blisters.

I was lucky enough to hear an interesting story. The father had something to do with his little son, but there were no toys at hand. He took an old political map of the world, tore it to pieces, and told his son, "Put it back." A couple of minutes passed, and the son presented the original version of the map. The startled father asked, "How did you do it?" The kid replied: “On the back of the card was a portrait of a person. I thought that if the person is all right, then the world will be all right.” Isn't that a wise remark?

What are our illusions about ourselves and the world based on? Maybe you attach excessive significance and importance to your appearance? Maybe others don't see it at all. They don't care and don't care. Take away your self-importance and you become invulnerable. The Eskimos use more than eighty words for the word "snow". For them, snow is so important that they come up with dozens of names for it. Appearance is as important to you as snow is to the Eskimos. Importance is the shield of the weak. Beware that life does not consider you so important that you do not come to visit.

The game of our viral programs of the subconscious is not at all harmless. Our false ideas about ourselves and the world produce real confirmation of this. You do not like your own weight - obesity is gaining momentum; you are oppressed by indecision and shyness - an inferiority complex grows like bamboo. Your crime is only in your head, and here is the punishment. Kindly receive as ordered.

Until you eliminate the excessive significance and importance of something for yourself, it will constantly overtake you and grow. Live in the country "doesn't matter". Eliminating significance is even more important to you than forgiveness. We can forgive resentment, anger, aggression, hatred, revenge. But in order to forgive, you must first be offended, that is, give it significance. If this is not important to you, then there is no need to be offended. Live in such a way that you do not have to forgive. Where there is no significance, there is no resentment and anger.

Your task is in no case to fight with your shortcomings (this will strengthen them even more), but to establish in your subconscious new positive beliefs about yourself and the world around you. Spit on your shortcomings. There are no people without flaws. Take care of the virtues that you have and that you want to have. Everything remains the same. Only the azimuth of your attention has changed. You are now focusing on your strengths. If you want to become slim and determined, imagine yourself on a freeze frame or clip in the appropriate form. It all depends on how you imagine a decisive person. Usually, a decisive person is characterized by open emotional speech without hints and softened statements. He doesn't whisper or mumble. He boldly expresses his opinion, without looking back at how his opponents will perceive him. He speaks specifically and definitely. In his speech, the words “I”, “me”, “mine” constantly sound, that is, he takes responsibility. A decisive person does not underestimate his own capabilities, his knowledge and personal qualities, he is able to improvise.

So, you have created on a freeze frame or in a video the image of a slender and determined person. Fill the freeze frame or clip with your feelings and emotions. With each mental scan, detail them. Periodic viewing is not stupid staring at an imaginary image. You will involuntarily be attracted to the image by your behavior. You will get used to the role of a decisive person. Over time, the role and your present will merge into perfect alignment. When looking at your real photos and comparing them to a still image or a clip, you won't find any difference. Just remember the gradual process of metamorphosis. If, standing on the scales, you see the inscription “get off alone”, you don’t have to immediately draw yourself an ideal picture in which you are 50 kilograms younger. Everything in moderation and gradually. To get rid of an inferiority complex, you must first of all stop comparing yourself with more successful, healthy and rich people, and then become discouraged. You need to live in the "here and now" without devaluing everything you have. Set positive goals for yourself. Replace the old negative attitudes of your subconscious with new, life-affirming ones. Arrange a "hunt" for joy in your world.

Another tip: do not worry about your importance and you will have it. All people are busy daily with evidence of their importance and significance. Everyone does it in their own ways, techniques and methods. The desire to demonstrate one's positive qualities, to strengthen one's importance is a foolish fuss. If you consciously refuse castings of your significance, your relatives and acquaintances will understand with a sixth sense that your authority does not need to be confirmed. You will feel the respect and sympathy of those around you. As a result, you yourself will be filled with the conviction that you are a worthy person. You will have a similar state with A. Pushkin when he completed work on Boris Godunov. In a letter to Vyazemsky, he wrote: “My tragedy is over; I read it aloud, alone, and clapped my hands and shouted, oh yes, Pushkin! Oh yeah son of a bitch!" As a result, your self-esteem will grow, and an inferiority complex will order you to live long.

Petr Kovalev 2013

An inferiority complex can be due to various reasons - the attitude of parents, criticism from the side of people around them, frequent "failures". To deal with them, you need to follow the recommendations.

Almost every person knows what self-doubt is, the feeling of worthlessness and uselessness. Often, these feelings arise in difficult situations that cannot be dealt with. In other words, an "inferiority complex" appears.

What is it, what are its distinctive features, features and how to get rid of it? Each reader will be able to find out the answers to these questions from the article.

What it is

An inferiority complex is the experience of one's uselessness for the people around and inferiority. It is he who is the main cause of all emerging nerves. It seems to a person that he is a defective thing, which, in case of uselessness, can be thrown into the trash.

If you do not get rid of this syndrome in time, then it can cause:

• destruction of family life;
• lead to personal misfortune;
• undermine relationships with friends, relatives and loved ones;
• provoke problems at work and in relationships with the second half.

Inferiority complex

An inferiority complex is accompanied by a number of symptoms, which include:

• demonstration of certain signals - with their use, a person suffering from low self-esteem wants to attract the attention of people who surround him;
• another distinguishing feature is the lack of communication, contacts;
• fear of committing an offense or making a mistake;
• constant self-criticism, dissatisfaction with one's own affairs;
• belittling the merits, achieved heights;
• being in constant tension in adolescents.

Attention! Such a complex in many cases causes defects in oral speech.

The lack of faith in oneself is the reason for the impossibility of realizing one's own inclinations. People who are seriously suffering from this complex, when communicating with others, use a “mask” that protects them from feeling their own uselessness.

The cause of the syndrome are doubts about their perfection. An inferiority complex is based on one or more flaws in a person. Often they are imaginary - fictional on their own.

The reasons for the development of the above complex may be different:

• unhappy childhood life;
• negative suggestions from other people. Most may say “you will not be able to achieve anything”, “you are a loser”, etc.;
• frequent criticism expressed by people who matter in life (older brother or sister, parents or idols);
• lack of luck;
• negative self-esteem.

Surprisingly, the lack of self-confidence for some people becomes an incentive for their own self-improvement. They find a way to get rid of inferiority and overcome difficulties.

In men

The reason for the development of an inferiority complex in men are often physiological deficiencies. Defective males try to replace them by spending hours on grueling workouts.

Other reasons for the loss of self-confidence in men include:

• defective genitals;
• critical statements from a partner;
• intimacy failures.

All this leads to the fact that a person closes in on himself, stops all communication with female representatives, believing that he cannot lead a sexual life.

For men, motherly love is especially important. It is she who has the greatest impact on self-esteem and personality of a person.

A man who did not receive support from his mother in childhood and adolescence, most likely, will not be able to realize himself in the future.

Psychologists have noted a trend - the development of an inferiority complex in men increases many times during a decline in the economy and unemployment.

Financial well-being is a reference point indicating the solvency and success of a person. If the need for decent wages is not satisfied for a long period of time, then an inferiority complex arises.

Among women

An inferiority complex in women develops due to various factors:

1. Appearance flaws. Often they are absent, and girls simply find fault with their appearance. However, the fact remains - most of the notorious persons suffer because of their figure, face or hair condition.
2. Sexual dissatisfaction. A girl always wants to remain desirable, if the partner does not show due attention to her or constantly criticizes her, then she becomes closed, experiences begin on this occasion, often leading to tantrums and depression.
3. Family problems. It is no secret that most girls want to have a strong and friendly family, it is not so easy to create it alone. Due to family troubles, many women lose faith in themselves, in their abilities.
4. Lack of career growth. Some of the female representatives do not work, but act as housewives. This does not suit many, they believe that they could not achieve independence in life, since they have no career behind them.
5. Treason. The obsessive thought that the partner is cheating is one of the main reasons that cause complexes.

Alfred Adler believed that an inferiority complex often develops in girls. This is due to several factors:

• emotionality;
• isolation in oneself;
• rapid mood swings;
• shyness.

The child has

A similar syndrome often begins to develop in children. For this, a "push" is needed, which will give rise to the development of the complex. They may become:

1. The presence of physical defects. An inferiority complex often develops in people with disabilities.
2. Increased care and guardianship from parents. This does not allow the child to learn to make decisions on his own, which is the cause of dissatisfaction with himself in the future.
3. Instant disappointment in one's own abilities.

To overcome their isolation and feelings of insignificance, psychologists recommend:

1. Get rid of the created ideals, do not equal the people around you. Remember every small victory is a personal achievement.
2. Don't blame yourself if something didn't work out. No wonder they say that they learn from mistakes, thanks to them a person becomes stronger.
3. Forget about insults and insults.
4. Set yourself some goals, try to achieve them, develop.

Diagnosis and treatment

Diagnosis of an inferiority complex includes an appeal to a psychotherapist. An individual conversation is held with the client, after which the level of self-esteem of a person and the degree of his complexes are determined. For diagnostics, a specially developed list of questions is used, consisting of thirty provisions.

The main method of treatment is that it is necessary to start life from scratch. Psychologists recommend getting rid of all past grievances and failures, deciding what do you want to achieve in this life?

How to deal with complexity:

1. Try to convince yourself that you can achieve what you want. To do this, set yourself not only global, but also some small tasks. For example, for girls who have a complex about their figure - run 100 m a day. This is not difficult, but the result will be noticeable immediately.
2. Connect with other people, support them and never be jealous e. Envy is a feeling that provokes the appearance of an inferiority complex. Dealing with it is not easy, but it is within the power of each person.

What to do? In addition to the general advice listed above, it is recommended to engage in sports activities, find an exciting activity for yourself, build a daily schedule and eat only healthy food. All this together will certainly give an excellent result.

Thus, everyone can get rid of the inferiority complex, you just have to want to. It is not so easy to cope on your own, but together with the help of a psychologist or psychotherapist it is much easier.

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We often experience self-doubt. This can manifest itself as a bad mood, nervous tension, apathy, or a certain pattern of behavior in associative situations. Perhaps your despondency is the cause of dissatisfaction with some aspect of your life, but the fact that you have an inferiority complex should not be ruled out. We will talk about it in this article.

An inferiority complex is a combination of psychological and emotional disorders. In other words, it is a cause that can be hidden in failure, mental trauma, discrimination, physical or psychological abuse.

An inferiority complex always has a starting point from which a person will subsequently repel himself, compensating for his insecurity with some actions.

Immediately I would like to distinguish between the concept of inferiority complex and self-doubt. These are two concepts that are far from each other, if the latter is inherent in almost everyone, then the complex is often the foundation of a psychological or mental disorder. Due to the feeling of inferiority that accompanies this complex, a person is prone to experiencing depression and even suicidal tendencies.

The concept of an inferiority complex according to Sigmund Freud

Sigmund Freud was dubious about the concept of an inferiority complex, despite the fact that this term (complex) was first introduced by his student Carl Jung:

• He agreed with the existence of stimulating factors that provoke a person to compensate for this disadvantage at the expense of other advantages.
• Freud believed that it is often this "complex" that can lead a person to success.
• But the doctor, in his usual manner, referred to an erotic origin.
• He brought out several types of complexes, which were based on an unhealthy sexual desire.

Thus, the Oedipus complex reveals the son's sexual desire for his mother, and the Griselda complex reveals the father's unconscious attraction to his daughter when he is prone to hypercontrol and overprotection over her. Oddly enough, the second complex is a neglected consequence of the first.

But the Jocasta complex - akin to the Oedipus complex - an unhealthy sexual attraction of a mother to her son. We can observe mothers who, on a subconscious level, feel the need to overprotect their son at any age.

Sigmund Freud also brought out some more very interesting complexes that are still relevant and applicable in our time:

• Unrecognized genius complex. Inflated self-esteem, which makes it difficult to come to terms with the “boss-subordinate” relationship model. Such people do not stay long in one place due to disagreements with the leadership.
• Marilyn Monroe Complex. Low self-esteem. Feeling of inferiority, which provokes you to feel your value only during sexual intimacy and constant change of sexual partners.
• Cain complex. Envy of the older brother in relation to the younger. A complex that is often attributed to teenagers.
• Iona complex. Low self-esteem, which lies in the fear of something good. A person experiencing this complex considers himself unworthy of being successful or happy.
• Polycrates complex. A feeling of anxiety that after a white stripe there is always a black one. Such people live in constant fear of retribution for their quiet life.
• Napoleon complex. A very interesting concept. This is the overcompensation that lies in the great purposefulness of short men.

Sigmund Freud came to the conclusion that the cause of the inferiority complex is the disagreement between the Self (the individual) and the Super-I (the individual's idea of ​​himself). When the difference becomes noticeably palpable, a person has an incorrect, distorted idea of ​​himself, so he begins to experience an inferiority complex.

Compensation for an inferiority complex

A person with an inferiority complex begins to feel an advantage over the situation when they sublimate their anger, resentment or tension in any direction. Thus, he tries to compensate for his lack in the situation that is available to him. But the problem is that the carrier of the complex does not always choose the right direction:

• Many people, compensating for their complex with other advantages, find in their injury a stimulus that helps them succeed.

• But there are people whose complex turned out to be stronger, completely destroying their faith in their own strength.
• Many are able to feel their advantage only by humiliating and insulting others. It seems to them that, against their background, they can “grow up” in their own eyes if they artificially belittle another, more successful opponent.

All serial killers, without exception, experienced an inferiority complex. By killing their victims, they tried to compensate for their inferiority by playing the situation in reverse. Often the offenders were women. As a vivid example of an inferiority complex: a serial maniac never rapes his victim without eliminating her. He fears judgment or ridicule from his victim.

For example, a little boy was always seen as a mistress: a white rich woman, always humiliated his mother, who served her as a housekeeper. In the future, the whole world will recognize him as the "Stocking Strangler" - a killer who chose his victims according to the type of mother's employer.

Going beyond as a modern cause of an inferiority complex

Going beyond is the modern theory of the inferiority complex. Now many psychologists are coming to the conclusion that the outdated norms of upbringing, which we absorbed from the cradle, in the future can lead to an inferiority complex and the reason for this is going beyond this model of upbringing.

This is a very interesting path, dear from childhood, along which an inferiority complex is formed. From childhood, we were taught to live according to a single pattern:

• study well
• finish school with a gold medal
• university - with honors
• be a good specialist in your field
• get a job in your area of ​​specialization
• be a good employee
• seek career advancement
• marry early
• have two children (preferably by the age of 25) and so on

There are several more paradigms that we manage to acquire with valuable parental advice:

• money is hard to come by
• funds should be spent wisely
• to achieve something significant, you need to work hard (and even suffer)

And also the charity of some character traits that are common to all people:

• Selfishness. It has been severely suppressed since childhood. For example, before taking the last pie, we must definitely ask if someone from the family wants it. Surely parents will allow their child to take a treat, but what happened? It's a learning process!

Reflections are taken from Andrey Kurpatov's book "Handbooks for the Egoist", who claims that this is a basic instinct common to all humans and some primates.

• Greed. We are taught from childhood to share. In the kindergarten group, we had friends and enemies, but we had to share with everyone. Up to the point that some bully could complain to the teacher or even mom. Often, everyone takes the side of the offended, because no one likes greedy children.

• Pride. This is the most important and wrong infringement of parents in the early manifestation of pride and self-esteem. We must ask for forgiveness from our parents for our disobedience, as well as forgive and be friends with our offenders. When a sense of self-worth is cherished from childhood, there is nothing to be surprised at the presence of an inferiority complex in children.

What's happening?

It is difficult to live, adhering to all the points of the script. Therefore, we often deviate from the usual pattern of "normal" life. For example, we are not in a hurry to get married, but we live in a civil marriage for a long time; we leave the university and follow the call of our true calling; we do not occupy a solid position, but earn extra money with needlework or simply refuse to have children. What's happening?

• Going beyond the established scenario, we endure condemnation from loved ones. We do not receive the approving evaluation that we have been striving for since childhood, and we begin to feel our inferiority in this life.
• Having gone beyond, we do not understand what to do next. After all, we were not taught how to live the way we want. We begin to doubt our abilities and feel our inferiority. This can easily lead to an inferiority complex problem.

Imagine that you went to pick berries along the same path every day. Once again visiting the forest, you left the path, and now the road is unfamiliar to you. The same is felt by a person who goes beyond the framework of a single correct scenario.

Female inferiority complex by Alfred Adler

The reason for the female inferiority complex, according to Adler, may be her secondary role in society. A woman is more prone to feelings of insignificance and even insignificance when in her life there was or is a man whose social role is much more significant. This can be expressed in one of the following life scenarios:

overbearing father

When a little girl observes from childhood how the social roles of a man and a woman (mother and father) differ, she begins to prioritize:

• There is nothing wrong with the fact that people are drawn to the best, so the girl, watching such a picture, subconsciously tries on the role of a dominant (powerful father), but, becoming a woman, she understands the absurdity of the situation.
• As a woman, she considers herself a second-rate type.
• In all men, she will see an imperious father, before whom her mother bows.
• The consequences of such thinking can be very different: from low self-esteem and an inferiority complex to a personality disorder.

Despotic husband

A despotic husband can cause you to suffer from an inferiority complex. I would like to immediately distinguish between the concepts of a stupid man (tyrant) and an emotionally unstable, cunning and two-faced despot. It is the second type that can destroy your concept of self-esteem. What is happening?

• A male despot often uses the "carrot and stick" method to create the illusion of guilt.
• A woman becomes a dependent victim in such an unhealthy relationship.
• After a while, the woman begins to feel her own need for physical punishment. It would seem stupid, but this is the normal behavior of a person with an inferiority complex.
• A despot man each time after a beating gives the victim a "carrot". It could be a sincere apology, an expensive gift, or a declaration of love, giving her the upper hand and the reins of power.

So, after a while, such relationships become the norm. The victim suffers beatings in order to gain his advantage, because only in this way can he feel his perfection. It is very difficult to leave such a relationship, because. the victim becomes dependent and feels a constant need to compensate for the inferiority complex.

But there is another option, this is when fate brought you together with a moral despot:

• This is a man who himself suffers from an inferiority complex and feels that he can compensate for this only by insulting and humiliating someone, thereby imposing a sense of inferiority on his partner.
• Only by humiliating others can he raise his dignity.
• A woman, hearing her shortcomings - it is worth noting that despots are very cunning and will focus their attention on what you yourself feel your weakness in - begins to experience an inferiority complex.
• The low self-esteem that she acquired thanks to the despot prevents her from leaving such a relationship. It seems to such women that they do not deserve anything more and that they deserve everything that happens to them.

exemplary brother

Children can feel jealous if they feel they are being treated unfairly. With girls, everything is somewhat more complicated, noticing that the main privileges are given to another child (that is, a brother), they begin to feel his advantage over themselves:

• Boys are allowed a lot of things from early childhood: there is no condemnation for them if they inadvertently stained their new jeans or broke their knee climbing trees.
• The girl is treated more demandingly, arguing this with the phrase "you're a girl."
• The child may develop a sense of male superiority over himself.
• In the future, going to school, these requirements are only exacerbated, because parents are often afraid of early pregnancy or bad company and try to protect their daughter.

Such injustice can leave with age without a trace, or, on the contrary, develop an inferiority complex in a girl.

Male inferiority complex

Men also tend to experience an inferiority complex. Often this is the result of upbringing or an overwhelming niche that is imposed on all boys from childhood, saying “you are a boy”, “don’t be a girl”, etc. to him. It is not surprising that the child begins to complex. Self-doubt appears, and the child feels inferior, experiencing such complexes in adulthood:

• Boss complex. This is an attempt to fill their courageous niche - which was mentioned earlier - in full. Such a syndrome manifests itself if women or their character traits were critically belittled or their parents were too demanding on the child.
• Complex in male power. Another niche is imposed by society. There is an established opinion in the world that a man should always be ready for sexual exploits. Oddly enough, this is not the case. Such a complex can lead a man to real disorders of erectile dysfunction.
• Hercules complex. In other words, it's the henpecked syndrome. When a woman, whose social role is weaker than a man's, begins to force a man to do things that are unusual for him (washing, putting things in order in the house, etc.), he feels that his libido is being diminished. As a result, the Hercules complex develops.
• Don Juan Complex. The need to increase one's own libido at the expense of the initiative to break a romantic relationship.
• Alexander Complex. This is the most sophisticated type of complex. Due to discrimination against sexual minorities, a man is able to experience his inferiority even in completely inappropriate cases. For example, when someone jokes about his masculinity or suggests wearing a pink or blue shirt. But this complex can be a consequence when he, a man, is a subconscious admirer of same-sex relationships. Such men are very afraid of exposure and, in order to dodge this, write themselves down in the ranks of "homophobes".

Some complexes can be attributed to a number of "inevitable". They do not have a natural cause, to which all life processes are subject - aging. It would seem illogical, because a man is like a good whiskey, the older the better, but the fear of death is inherent in everyone. Therefore, men are very worried about their aging, tying new complexes to themselves:

• King David Complex. This is a way to “rejuvenate” at the expense of a mistress. Men who experience this complex tend to compensate for their age through sex, and sometimes living together with young girls.

• Kotovsky complex. Baldness for a man is akin to impotence. You should not look for meaning in this, the fact remains: when a man begins to go bald, it seems to him that he is losing his masculine power. Such men are very easy to figure out in the crowd, noticing the slightest loss, they shave their heads to zero.

Inferiority complex in children

Studies of the inferiority complex according to Adler are encouraging. Because uncertainty in the early years is characteristic of many children. With the right approach of parents, such children are able not only to get rid of this complex, but also to achieve some success. A child may suffer from an inferiority complex for several reasons:

1. Physical handicap. Especially this reason can be attributed to the development of an inferiority complex in adolescents. This may be small stature, dysfunction of a limb, or an unsightly appearance. Sometimes children are very cruel, and for a fragile child's psyche, this is a real trauma that can easily lead to an inferiority complex.
2. Lack of parental attention. Lack of parental support reduces a child's self-confidence. Children are not able to reveal their inner potential on their own and this is another reason for the development of the complex. The indifferent attitude of parents makes the child inferior.
3. Overprotective parenting. Children who grow up in greenhouse conditions are completely unsuitable for life. Such a child is unable to make independent decisions and the responsibility for their actions incredibly frightens them. Such a parenting model can lead a child to an inferiority complex and develop alcohol or drug addiction.

How to get rid of an inferiority complex?

Despite the fact that Wayne Dyer's book How to Get Rid of an Inferiority Complex was published in 2015, even ordinary people and lovers of self-development literature came to the conclusion that the title was too loud. In fact, this manual is for those who doubt their abilities and do not know how to properly manage their lives, but the book does not give recommendations in essence and title.

Treatment for the inferiority complex has not yet been invented, so it is useless to fight it. But! It is worth considering that the situation is not at all a stalemate, on the contrary, you can derive considerable benefits from your complex:

• For example, according to Alfred Adler, an inferiority complex can lead to success.
• As mentioned in the article above, a person who has signs of an inferiority complex is able to compensate for his lack at the expense of other advantages.

Sigmund Freud admired the king of Prussia and the last German emperor, Wilhelm II. He suffered from an inferiority complex due to a physiologically congenital "deformity": one arm was 15 cm shorter than the second. Not experiencing compensation in maternal love, he achieved incredible heights, but he never forgave his parent for such an attitude.

Unfortunately, a person cannot get rid of an inferiority complex. Once having experienced a mental trauma, he will not be able to let go of this feeling of acquired inferiority, and subconsciously will return to this.

With the help of psychologists, it can be blunted or suppressed, but sooner or later it will still make itself felt. Psychologists such as Sigmund Freud, Alfred Adler and Carl Jung came to this conclusion.

If you think about it, all successful individuals have experienced an inferiority complex. This is not a reason to fall into despair, as you have already understood, the main thing is to correctly sublimate your potential, aimed at compensating for an inferiority complex.

There are many apt examples where trauma has motivated many of today's famous personalities. For example, Lady Gaga, Oprah Winfrey, Marilyn Monroe and Pamela Anderson were sexually abused as children, and Tim Roth recently admitted that he was abused by his own grandfather. And yet, despite this, these people have achieved considerable heights. There is only one conclusion: you never need to “give up” and then you can solve any problem, including coping with an inferiority complex.

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