What are ponies? Not many may know the exact definition, but the approximate one is clear. Even from the name "Ponty - the psychology of boasting" it is already clear a little about what is at stake. But boasting is not a fashionable word, but show-off is fashionable and more famous.

Ponty is an object or action to be shown to impress others, that is, it is a conscious demonstration of one's luxury and well-being.

It can also simply be attributed to defiant and self-confident behavior.

You probably thought so, but did not know how to express it in literary words. Ponty is a new word that spread quickly and you need to know it.
It seems that a person who is showing off lives in rose-colored glasses.
It is worth noting that we all sometimes dream of something unreal, but we do not show it to others, even simply because there is no time to talk about all dreams, but we must live in the real world and time. However, show-off people live like in a fairy tale and try to prove to others that their fairy tale is 100% real.
Of course, someone lives richer and someone poorer. And it seems to the poor that the rich man lives in a fairy tale, especially if he also exposes his life in this way. However, show-off is when a person is inclined to exaggerate his condition, position in society, even if only a little. And the poor person can fall into that hook and begin to set such goals for himself, and having achieved at least a little something, he begins to imagine that he is already the President of the Universe.

Why show off and the meaning of boasting?

It turns out that psychology is what the doctor ordered here. Think simple sunglasses - why would a person wear them? To protect his eyes from the bright sun, that is, reality does not suit him, and he found a solution to the problem and the wave that was necessary and reasonable.
Then it is clear why then show off.

Ponty is a psychological defense against reality.

People do not want to live and see reality because it does not suit them. Sometimes reality is really bad, but sometimes it's not. sometimes a person lives very well both financially and emotionally, but still seeks to escape from reality.

Such people may and want to solve pressing, real problems, but for example, if it didn’t work out once, then they give up and begin to move away from reality. Or they do not know how to solve the problem and do not ask for advice, and therefore, also faced with a sort of hopelessness in reality, they go into their own world, where everything is fine and there are no problems.
Everyone wants to be happy and a person by nature looks for where it is warm and good. And if a person suddenly felt at least some spiritual relief somewhere, then he would definitely go there again.

But everything would be fine if only rose-colored glasses did not have different shapes. There are more harmless rose-colored glasses both for the person himself and for society, but there are also destructive ones that introduce a person into an even more depressive state, from which it is difficult to get rid of and start living in reality.
Consider 3 types of pink glasses, show-off or the psychology of boasting - call it whatever you want. You probably understood that this is a serious matter, not superficial even in order to see where show-offs and boasting and rose-colored glasses originate.

Types of show-offs and how to remove rose-colored glasses?

"I do not have problems"

This is a more or less safe type of show-off, but of course not without consequences.
Of course, each person can live as he wants and no one has the right to condemn the other. Judge not lest you be judged. Perhaps some individual wants to stand out from the crowd, from the so-called ordinary gray mass, from everyday life and begins to live in his own way, in a different way. It seems that there is no harm either to this person or to society, namely the global one. Although it is possible that a young family who listens to hard rock at full volume until late and will create inconvenience, but if they turn off the music at 23:00, they will not violate the law on silence and there will be no big claims against them.
One side of the rose-colored glasses is "I'm fine, just super and I have no problems." I would like it to be so. It is worth noting here that this is not a statement of a simple optimist who believes in a bright future and does not lose hope. Here we are talking about show-offs, when a person for show, defiantly shows his attitude to reality. And the ruin is, although it can only affect that person, that when problems arise, the person does not solve them, but simply closes his eyes and lives as if nothing is happening.
There are reasons for this. For example, a person has not grown emotionally, that is, the passport age does not match the emotional one. A person seems to already have to think with his head and be more serious and avoid some problems, but he seems to be in childhood. It could also be parenting by domineering, overprotective parents. The child is accustomed to care and if he wants to live on his own, then the parents will immediately tell him that he is still small and he does not need these problems and they will quickly settle everything themselves.
A person, unfortunately, if he does not work on himself and does not build the right relationships with others, even in the person of his parents, then with age this becomes a character trait.
Such people have a show-off in relation to their well-being, external and internal, which in fact does not exist.
For example. A man can have a family. but he is not the head of this family. If he came across a faithful woman who is trying for the family and investing a lot, for example, in raising children, without his participation, then he was just lucky. But he is not a real part of a real family. Such husbands are often indecisive, and give everything into the hands of their wife, hiding behind their employment at work or their character. The wife, in principle, decides all issues herself, not because she wants to, but sometimes she is simply forced to do so. Of course, such families may not have a long continuation. However, the husband boasts more about his children, his wife, than he will do anything real for them. For example, standing with friends in the evening, such a man says that he has a golden wife and already 2 children whom he is raising. But in fact, he probably didn’t even live with his family for some time, but left and his wife with small children of 3 years old lived on her own, and then he just returned. But he does not remember this and does not consider it to be something wrong, but it was simply difficult for him then. And how was the wife with these two children? And now his household chores are sitting at the computer and eating dinner. That is, there is no emotional load on him and he does not even understand this. However, he has show-offs, which he will definitely show and boast. What to do?

1.1. Understand the problem.

It is easier to solve this situation if such a person does not have bad habits.
If you want to change your perception of the world and become more serious, that is, look at problems not through rose-colored glasses and that your show-offs are justified, then this is already good. Recognizing the problem and agreeing that it exists is already a lot in this situation. Because a person can deny the presence of show-offs and boasting, but really believe that he is an optimist and a realist, while others are simply jealous and pessimists.
That is, a person must begin to mature emotionally.

1.2. Find real friends.

You need to seek communication with the “right” people, that is, with those who will really help you look at things more broadly and more realistically. However, you must have confidence in these people so that you are more receptive to their words of advice. Therefore, look around and see who you trust and whose advice really once benefited you and separate them from your current ones, who only spend time with you as in a virtual world.

May be best friend is your wife who has been spending so many years to save your family and wants to continue living with you because she loves you? Relatives and friends are most likely those with whom it is worth getting closer and those who can give direct advice, but to the point and the most practical.

1.3. Do not be influenced by show-offs.

People are often so eager to show off that they are willing to spend huge amounts of money on the latest phone or the exact brand of car. Often such things are taken on credit and are called show-offs. A person begins to brag about the thing that, in fact, does not yet belong to him, and several months of loan repayment are still needed.

People who do not like you encourage you to buy those things that you absolutely do not need, with the money that you do not have.

Therefore, if you see that someone is simply pushing you into a rash purchase, even if not on credit, refuse this agreement. The person who tells you that you can't live without this thing is simply benefiting from the fact that you buy it and nothing more. He doesn't think about your well-being as much as he talks about it.

Be content with what you have and don't take unnecessary loans.

If you go to the store and know your tendency to show off, then sometimes write a list of what to buy and buy only what is on the list. So you save money on show-offs by not buying a thing you absolutely do not need.
Go to the store at a time when there are not many buyers so that you do not have a desire to brag about your purchase in front of someone.
Go to the store with a friend who is balanced in this moment and can stop you from making a rash purchase.

1.4. Communication with family.

Communication with real people is a way to live in the real world. If you spent the whole evening playing games on the computer, then how will you know how your child grows and what problems he has at school. How can you help him solve problems if you don't even know about them?! Therefore, communicate with your family, with your wife, who will be very happy to have an evening of joint communication and even just watch a movie together, and not your solitary sitting at the computer.

1.5. Reading.

Yes, reading is better than watching TV. Nobody says you shouldn't watch TV. But reading engages the brain more and you just have to analyze what you have learned. The TV, on the other hand, gives out a stream of information that you cannot control, and this stream is one-sided and very powerful.
Take a read from the classics.

Often those people who read little do not have a broad outlook, which means they are more likely to pretend to be successful. than to be.

It is also helpful to find some really good hobby and learn something new. That is, your show-off, what you want to brag about, must have at least a reason. However, when you achieve something, you will look at yourself in a completely different way and most likely will be able to present your successes and achievement in the right way, without boasting.

1.6. Character.

Develop positive character traits, and not just show off how good you are. It is difficult to work on yourself, but this is the most important thing. You really need to be of value as a person, and not just have a show-off.
Tune in a positive way and little by little you will see that you have become more responsible and serious. Your wife and loved ones will definitely notice the change for the better and praise you, so you will definitely know about your emotional growth.

Alcohol and drugs.

This is a completely different show-off. These show-offs have detrimental consequences much stronger. Faster and not only more tangible.
What is a person trying to hide behind the show-offs of alcohol and drugs? The same as for simple show-offs. Man tries to hide reality from his eyes. A person may have problems, but does not become an overly optimistic person, but begins to escape from reality by getting drunk or even taking drugs.
Such a person, of course, drives himself into a vicious circle, which is why it is written at the beginning of the article that it is much more difficult to fight with this kind of show-off. Such a person may think that he is suffering only and that others, on the contrary, create problems for him and do not allow them to live in peace.
The same is true with drug addicts. However, drugs require a lot of money, so these show-offs are even deeper. For example, a person can drink from a lack of money, although he himself is to blame for this. Of course, there are exceptions. However, among drug addicts, the percentage of those who have a material balance is higher. That is, rich children or adults, for example, have reasons to show off their show-offs, but for some reason they do it this way. What to do?

2.1. Confess to the problem.

This is the same step as in the first case. But here self-criticism should be raised. A person who has gone down a lot will find more reasons to justify it, because confessing to a more serious offense is harder. If you understand your problem, then you need to admit it to yourself first of all. Nobody says you have to go out and scream about it.

2.2. Enlist help.

Of course, you need to work on yourself on your own, but support and help are very important and can be an incentive for you.
Therefore, you need to change the circle of communication. Why do you need so-called friends who do not live in reality themselves?
Is there really no one who appreciates you and wishes you well? Of course have. These are your loved ones, this is your family. But first of all, you have to choose for yourself. You must have self-respect. But love for others is an incentive not to return to the past.
It's hard to break up with friends. Old friends don't want you to change your lifestyle. Because to some extent they themselves want it, but they cannot, therefore they envy your attitude and decisive actions. Don't fall for their tricks.
For example, how "friends" act. They come to visit you, for example, and see you sober. And they begin to offer to relax together on the weekend or even without delay right tonight or now there is a reason and what to use. Familiar scenario?
But you are also not a weak-willed individual. You must firmly say that you will no longer drink alcohol with them. If your “friend” insists, then you can even ask him to leave because you have things to do.

Remember, the first drink is the most dangerous!

Do not go to corporate parties and those campaigns where there will be something that you refused. Don't think that you can relax even a little. Many who really coped with the problem of alcohol abuse, at first, generally abandoned it in any form.
Changing your personality is difficult, so why provoke yourself?

2.3. Professional help.

If you need medical attention, then that's fine. Dependence on alcohol and drugs is very strong and acts on the physical level, and as you know, a person is weak in the flesh. Therefore, the course of treatment will only help you.
Accepting help is not humiliating. On the contrary, it is a strong move.
So, show-off and the psychology of boasting is not an easy topic, as it seems at first glance. If you know a person who does not live in reality, is there anything you can do to help? You do not need to take his life into your own hands, but do not put an end to such a person. If he asks you for help and, alas, you see that he really wants to change, then be a friend not only in joy, but also in sorrow.
There are a lot of show-offs and rose-colored glasses, but there are also enough realists. Therefore, perhaps this article will help someone look at things more realistically and change something in their psychology.

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The Explanatory Dictionary of the Living Great Russian Language by V.I. Dahl (1863−1866) defines the term "show-off" as follows:

Probably the word comes from the word "ponte" - to play the bank, shtos, against the banker, put the jackpot on the card, which, in turn, comes from the French ponter (with the same meaning). A person who puts the jackpot on the map takes risks, and looks in the eyes of others as a strong, courageous person.

So, put everything on one card. Unknown. In the eyes of others, you are a hero or a heroine. And in fact?

Imagine that you already have the external trappings of prestige and you think that it’s all over now - others will perceive you as an important, influential person. But have you become that person? If not, others, even strangers, will quickly notice the falsehood. So, what is next? Who are you important to? Who do you influence? Or all this is done just to be seen by others. To be envied. Or, as a last resort, to be “no worse than others”, “meet the level”. Even if the opportunities to "match the level" may not be enough.

Now let's think about who sets this very "level"?

Show-offs, like any excess, are expensive, contagious and dangerous.

Firstly, a person limits his expenses for self-development, because the money he earns is spent on some external tinsel. Soon the money starts to run out. The first loan, the second... A loan to repay a previous loan...

Secondly, more and more bogged down in a slave psychology, evaluating himself from the point of view of "What will people say." His self-esteem begins to depend on the opinions of completely strangers to him. And this need to “not be, but to seem” seeps into the subconscious, becoming the second, or rather the first, nature of this very person.

And only a very narrow layer of society benefits from show-offs: manufacturers, promoters and sellers of these show-offs. Plus those who serve them. It is they who form the necessary public opinion, the very “level” to which everyone should strive.

A simple example. A person who does not have a new iPhone model is perceived in certain circles as a "rogue", worthy of only contempt. But who has a "cherished little thing" - yes, these are "cool"! This is, of course, the tip of the iceberg. The whole structure of the modern capitalist economy, tied to the maximum extraction of profits, and not to the satisfaction of needs, as some argue. This system deliberately forms the appropriate "flawed" public opinion. Well, a happy and self-sufficient person will not stand all night in front of the store doors to shell out $ 1,000 for a new phone model, because the one bought six months ago is already “outdated”!

It is this very "inferiority" that makes a person buy goods and services that he either does not need at all, or can do without them. “Well, what are you! How will the people around you look at it? Who will they think I am?!” I hasten to reassure you: most likely, they will forget about you as soon as you disappear from sight. And the money for "show-offs" has already been paid, everyone who needs it has received a profit. And they invested part of this profit in the further formation of a "society of the flawed."

I don’t know how anyone, but this fuss reminds me of the “cargo cult” among the primitive tribes of Micronesia. The essence of the beliefs is simple: the “gods”, that is, American soldiers, who appeared out of nowhere, constantly walked in formation, talked on the radio and hung iron sticks on themselves.

And they had great wealth: stew, strong clothes and shoes, shooting sticks ... All this was brought to them by iron birds or huge iron boats that spewed “cargo” onto the islands, that is, containers with cargo. And when the Americans left the islands, the savages, instead of raising local pigs and spudding potatoes in vegetable gardens, began to build “airfields” in the clearings and walk in formation. And wait for the iron birds to arrive (or large iron boats to sail) and bring them the coveted "cargo". And let the fools dig in the ground and feed the pigs. So these savages were dying out by whole tribes. From simple hunger.

Compare this with the realities of modern, "civilized" society. The whole life of a modern person is solid show-off. And what do these show-offs give, besides humiliating yourself in the eyes of others, more “successful and status”, besides a thoughtless waste of time, money and nerves?

Psychologists are sounding the alarm. Chronic depression is the scourge of modern "civilized society". And there are more and more people who are sick with "credit obsession", taking loans without being able to repay them. What are these loans used for? Most often "for status goods" in order to "be on the level." External "debt well-being" ends with severe psychological disorders.

Well, now what to do? Yes, it's very simple! Get rid of slave psychology, become a self-sufficient person.

Spending money and time on acquiring new knowledge and experience, and not on “status things”. If you want to be like someone, don't copy their clothes and car, but their way of thinking. Try to stop the rat race that is turning your life into a little branch of hell. Try to be, not seem... And it's banal to count money, spend less than you earn.

Yes, self-development is hard. Buying an iPhone on credit is much easier. But over time, you will get more pleasure than from acquiring another “toy” or “rag”. Become more calm and confident. Happy at last!

Here is one story: in the famine years, one peasant defiantly sat on a bench near the house and picked his teeth. Like, he ate meat. Like, he's rich. Only he did not eat any meat, but only picked his teeth ...

Have you noticed how the needs of people in the modern world are changing? Schoolchildren walk around with sophisticated iPhones, which, in fact, they only need to play. Managers who earn 40 thousand rubles each buy a car worth 2 million each. Magnificent weddings, as in the Middle Ages, for 100-500 people. All this is done in order to “not look worse than others”, and to arouse the envy of those who see it all.

There is such a word - to show off. It means: to flaunt oneself, admiring oneself, one's behavior.

Many people like to show off, showing what cool things they own. Or exposing individual moments of his life for show.

According to the definition from the show-off dictionary, this is:

• jewelry, expensive knick-knacks, objects, usually tasteless, which are supposed to emphasize the wealth of their owner. Vasily's show-offs were immediately visible: such colorful pants and a chain cannot be hidden.
• the desire to show off, to make a strong impression on someone, arrogance, arrogance. Vasya's show-offs in front of Masha were as follows: he took out a wad of money and arrogantly pulled out a bill from it with all his appearance showing that this was absolute garbage for him. And then he generously treated her to a cocktail.

Simply put, show-off is window dressing or boasting. Or is it the desire of a person to show himself in the best light, to flaunt himself. And about a person who exaggerates his merits or fortune, they say that he "shows off."

Let's look at what and how with show-offs. Show-offs are very common in our life. They are highly contagious. The need to show off in front of others is dictated by modern society, even to those who initially do not want it. For example, if one of the students in the class does not have an iPhone, then he will be considered a sucker and a rogue, although if he has one, one cannot be sure otherwise. An interesting moment, isn't it?

Ponte as a demeanor

We earn millions on the show-off of youth.

Ponty is a demeanor. A person can brag about anything and anywhere. Most often, “throw show-offs” are people for whom the main thing in life is material values. The word "boast" is very appropriate here. If a person “shows off”, showing his intellect or level of development, the word “be smart” will be appropriate here.

Most often, “throwing show-offs” is characteristic of adolescents in adolescence. They are just looking for themselves, they want self-affirmation, trying to show themselves in the best colors.

Walter Rothschild's zebra carriage. London. 1898

Many businessmen note that they have to drive a huge SUV to look more solid and successful. If you can afford it, then it's not a problem.

Ponte price

Maybe I'm old fashioned
but I appreciate in people their true soul,
and not show-off and the thickness of the wallet.

Sometimes you have to pay dearly for cheap show-offs.

The danger of show-offs is that they limit our financial capabilities. People have to spend money on external tinsel, appearances. They spend their little money on this, getting into loans, and not paying much attention to their development.

The lion's share of attention is occupied by: "what others will say." Own self-esteem begins to depend more and more on the opinions of others. Based on this fear, the need to "not be, but to seem" becomes the main goal.

They do not invest in their development, in improving their lives in the long run. They are concerned only with momentary tinsel. And in the end, it will cost them dearly.

Ponte and thinking

The highest show off is life without show off 🙂

An old joke about show-offs:

Show-offs of the first order: buy a big expensive car and a Rolex, read Paulo Coelho, despise Dontsova, love a thin blonde with boobs.

Show-offs of the second order: buy a small stylish car and a Longines watch. Read Umberto Eco. To despise Coelho, to love the ironic brunette.

Ponte of the third order: ride the subway and taxi, because it's faster and cheaper, wear a Swatch watch, read Anna Gavalda, turn off the water when brushing your teeth. Don't despise anyone, because that destroys karma. Don't love anyone because you haven't met your person yet.

Show-off of the fourth order: to sell an apartment, a car and a Longines watch. Go to Tibet, reach nirvana, love everyone.

Ponte of the highest order: to return from Tibet, not to tell anyone anything, to buy a big expensive car, to read Dontsova at your leisure, time to look on the phone, love your child's mother. To realize that any redneck with Coelho can turn out to be a Buddha who has reached nirvana ...

Show-offs are based on the desire of a person to seem not what he really is.

The formation of "show-off" thinking is artificial. The need to show off is imposed on society by our economic system in order to sell people goods and services that they do not really need. And if they don't have money for it, then let them take loans.

Such manipulations are reinforced by the traps of credit slavery that came to us from the West, they say, we live once, we must have time to take everything from life, etc.

In order not to become a victim of the system, you need to get rid of dependence on the opinions of others. And when you don't care what others think of you, you will notice that respect in the eyes of others has not diminished at all, rather the opposite.

And if you spend money and time instead of showing off for additional development, then after a while you will find that others already have enough reasons to envy you. This path changes thinking and brings it closer ... to the thinking of successful people. The very ones that many try to appear, but which they are not.

A truly successful and self-sufficient person never tries to increase his significance in the eyes of others - he has everything in order with significance.

He does not brag about things, is not rude to the attendants, does not assert himself at the expense of those who are below him on the social ladder. A successful person does not look down - at those whom he has risen above, but up - at those whom he wants to grow up to.

He is aware of the need for constant development and self-improvement.

With this kind of thinking all external attributes will be added by themselves, but they will no longer have any value for you.. Your values ​​will be different.

Good luck! Now you know what and how here.

Asked to answer - I'll try.

As I understand it, the question is, why do people boast of the material instead of the spiritual? Well, firstly, the material is easier to show, you bought a car - and everyone sees it, you bought an iPhone - everyone knows it too. Wealth is easier to feign than intelligence, skill, or kindness. To demonstrate material things, you just need to buy them; to demonstrate moral things, you need to cultivate them in yourself.

Secondly, the transition to capitalism is still taking place in our country, capitalism is so conditional, people do not live within their means (which is a true consumer society), but want to reach out to everything that money can buy. When I was in school in the 90s, the coolest was the one who had better things and toys, because in a crisis it wasn’t very good with both, and when you have everything, you are fashionable, interesting, you have more friends. Naturally, children have grown into adults without losing this attitude - if you have a cooler toy, a hundred points ahead on the social ladder.

Thirdly, you will not deny that money makes a person enter more "expensive" places and parties, and a demonstration of the attributes of wealth is like a demonstration of a pass to the world of money. At the same time, someone has real wealth, someone has attributes, but there is no wealth, but the impression of wealth can still be created.

Fourth, marketing. Hurry up to buy, just now, buy and become popular with women\find yourself a man\make a child happy, etc. We are not being sold the product itself, we are being sold character traits, love and happiness. From the outside, the assumption that a new phone, perfume, or car will make us happier or better is constantly maintained.

Fifthly, professional growth, gaining new knowledge, finding ways for self-realization and creativity can be perceived as a whim, and, funny, they can be perceived as kitsch and show off. Like, he / she reads a lot, goes to courses, does more than if.

Sixth, it looks like the classic Maslow pyramid: first the needs for food and security, then self-realization and acceptance. In a series of crises and falls of the ruble, people concentrate on the material, since it is more important for existence, leaving self-development for later, when more important needs are satisfied. And even if in fact they are already satisfied, the anxiety remains, the thought remains that tomorrow another crisis may hit, the ruble will fall two more times, imports of MacBooks will be banned due to sanctions, etc. It is difficult to distract from the material when there is a constant sense of the threat of scarcity.

1 Most of our citizens have heard the word "Ponty" more than once, but what is Ponty and with what they "eat" not everyone can answer. If you ask a question for interest, what does Ponty mean? Almost everyone will start to "bleat": " Well, this is the state of a person when he...". It should be understood that in ordinary life these terms have a clear negative meaning, there are no such people in Russia that at least once I would not use this jargon in my conversation. Read some more interesting publications on the topic of Internet jargon, for example, what does Light mean, how to understand the word Likedrocher, what does Like mean, what is Lagi, etc.
So, show off or Ponte is?

In fact, show-off, this is the behavior of a person when he tries stand out from the crowd, and in most cases it looks rather disgusting. From time immemorial, people have boasted about their real or imaginary successes, their wealth, this is happening in our time. Usually a person boasts of his material abilities.

Show off- it's coolness. Ponty is to show people around you what you have achieved in this life. For example, showing off your credit car. Such pontorez never loved and do not like

Sometimes, people who do not have material values, but who still want to stand out, begin to show off their education or intellect. For such citizens, the people came up with a weighty word - "be clever." Over time, show-offs began to unite those who show off their financial situation with those who stick out their minds.

Citizens of any social status and wealth are being ponted. In fact, according to most people, their show-offs should enhance their social status. Some may ask: " In general, why do you need to show off?".

Causes of show-off

First reason. Make a lasting impression on the people around you. To do this, a certain aura of demand and success is created around oneself, in some unknown way, a subconscious rise in one's rating occurs. Some people are very important to seem more "cool" than they really are. The higher the external rating of an individual, the more he takes over the minds of other, less successful citizens. For example, a thought expressed by a famous politician or a movie star will be more weighty than the same considerations expressed by a simple, unknown engineer.

The second reason. The repetition of one's distinctive features and the reproduction of merits gives the individual greater confidence in his abilities. In most cases, psychologists noted that they show off, just those individuals who are not sure about self-importance. Do not take the show-offs with great seriousness. It is worth noting one more detail, with an excess of show-offs, the attitude towards such a person can become negative, cause severe irritation and rejection.

Show off usually cause envy, and this feeling, as we know, can be the detonator of unpleasant events. With the word show off, you can hear several expressions that should be explained.

Throw show-off- this is to point out such facts that the interlocutor will cause respect and admiration, a synonym for the expression can be called "splurge".

Cheap show-off- this is a mention of such events and facts that cause only irritation and bewilderment, as something of little importance, in fact it is unfounded boasting.

However, show-off in some cases, a very useful thing. After all, having learned to sensibly submit your show-offs, you can declare yourself on the good side. True, do not forget to show off politically correct and very tactfully.

You have probably noticed more than once people who have the keys to their car in their hand, so they unobtrusively show their status, besides, it will be a good help to show others an expensive model of your phone. In addition, in a conversation, as if by chance, you can mention the service that you completely disinterestedly provided to your colleague / relative / friend. Such show-offs do not particularly annoy anyone and are quite a decent act.

However, a completely different situation is when, in a conversation, a person begins to scatter words, such as: " yesterday I lit a cigarette from a hundred dollar bill", "for me, 1000 dollars is not money", "I wanted an expensive phone, but more than 20,000 dollars I did not find that I am a beggar to buy this model?".

An interesting point, although the words "show off" and "show off" have a negative meaning then such adjectives as "pontovo" and "pontovy" express quite positive emotions.

Example:

Kolyan bought a car, Behu of the latest model, it looks pontovo!

Jeans with pinrolls look pontovo.

This jacket is badass!

AT the above examples, the speaker believes that these things are good, high quality and look great. However, the word can also be used in a negative sense.

Example:

You have a smartphone, some kind of bespontovy!

From this we can conclude that in one case these expressions can be both annoying and useless, and very effective and efficient. The hallmarks of a positive pont can be considered its subtlety and accuracy.. Your interlocutor should not guess that they are "throwing show-offs" in front of him. And most importantly, you must exclude even a hint of envy in his feelings. Indeed, if your show-offs turn out to be very powerful, and the opponent feels uncomfortable from your "coolness", then his reaction to your boasting will be irritation or a contemptuous grin. We recommend showing off using sarcasm, jokes, jokes, and facts should be mentioned in the context of a funny situation.

That's actually the whole answer to the question of what is show-off. It remains to add that "show off" for people, the same natural feature, as an expression: " I am the best!". Therefore, when you praise yourself, do not forget to do it wisely so as not to cause envy and irritation in the interlocutor.