If the child is having difficulty learning, the parents should be the first to help him. They know their son or daughter best of all. Therefore, it is easier for them to find the reason for the poor performance of the offspring.

The child is not to blame

It is possible that the child is not coping with the school curriculum because he has health problems. For example, speech therapy. A child with speech impairment has difficulty writing and reading. It is not easy for him to answer at the blackboard. Therefore, even with good knowledge, he can get triples.

Temperament also affects school success. If the child is slow by nature, the rhythm of work in the classroom seems to him too fast. He does not have time, he feels “not at ease”, he quickly gets tired.

Do not demand the impossible from your child. Understand that not everyone can be an excellent student.

Not laziness, but fatigue

Fatigue is the main reason for bad grades. Parents should pay attention to extracurricular activities of the child. Doctors believe that a student can study normally if he attends only one intellectual circle and a sports section. An excess of additional loads takes energy and distracts from the lessons.

It is important to follow the daily routine. The child should fall asleep and wake up at the same time. This rule also applies to preparing homework, eating, walking. The right routine has a beneficial effect on well-being.

Computer - friend or foe?

Limit the time the student spends in front of the TV or computer to 1.5 hours. Psychologists have been sounding the alarm for a long time: a child immersed in screen pictures turns off the part of the brain responsible for creativity.

He poorly learns subjects related to abstract thinking. Doesn't understand physics. He can't write essays or even draw.

However, do not impose a taboo on the computer. Computer science is now beginning to be studied in kindergarten. Many educational computer games and high-quality educational films have appeared.

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Difficult relationships with peers can be the cause of school problems. The child is acutely experiencing his failures in school, afraid of ridicule classmates.

Together, find an activity in which he can reveal his talents and compete for the championship. Achievements boost self-esteem. Self-confidence will also come in handy in your studies.

To school with the whole family

Check your homework regularly. The child must understand that the lesson he has learned will be asked by his mother or father. Praise even for small successes (quickly solved the problem, made fewer mistakes in the exercise).

Show sincere interest in the school affairs of your son or daughter. Ask how the excursion to the museum went, how the class is preparing for the holiday. The child must trust his parents and seek help at the right time.

Does your robber have deuces in his diary again? The child does not obey, and it is simply impossible to plant him for homework? Many parents have a situation where the child does not want to study, skips school and is not attentive in the classroom.

Often adults make many mistakes in order to force their daughter or son to study. This happens because there is no knowledge of how to instill a love of learning in children. Some begin to educate in the same way as they were raised in childhood. It turns out that the mistakes of education are passed from generation to generation. First, our parents suffer themselves and force us to study, then we apply the same torture to our children.

When a child does not study well, unhappy pictures are drawn in the head of what his future may be like. Instead of a prestigious university and a degree, a third-rate technical school. Instead of a brilliant career and a good salary, a job that is embarrassing to tell friends about. And instead of a salary, pennies, on which it is not clear how to live. Nobody wants that kind of future for their children.

To understand why our children do not feel like learning, we need to find the reason for this. There are a lot of them. Let's consider the main ones.

1) No desire and incentive to study

Many adults are used to forcing a child to do something against his will, to impose his opinion. If the student resists doing what he does not want, this means that his personality is not broken. And that's okay.

There is only one way to involve a child in learning - to interest him. Of course, teachers should think about this first of all. An uninterestingly designed program, boring teachers who lead a lesson without taking into account the age of the children - all this contributes to the fact that the child will avoid learning and be lazy in completing tasks.

2) Stress at school

People are arranged as follows: first, simple needs for food, sleep, security are satisfied. But the need for new knowledge and development is already in the background. School for children sometimes becomes a real source of stress. Where kids experience various negative emotions every day, such as: fear, tension, shame, humiliation.

In fact, 70% of the reasons why children do not want to study and go to school are just because of stress. (Bad relationships with peers, teachers, insults from older comrades)

Parents may think: after all, there were only 4 lessons, the child says that he is tired, so he is lazy. In fact, stressful situations take a lot of energy from him. Yes, and causes a negative to this environment. Therefore, he begins to think poorly, his memory works worse, he looks inhibited. Before attacking a child and forcing him by force, it is better to ask how he is doing at school. Was it difficult for him? How is his relationship with other children and teachers?

Case from practice:
We had an 8 year old boy. According to the boy's mother, in the last few months he began to skip classes, often did not do his homework. And before that, although he was not an excellent student, he studied diligently and there were no special problems with him.

It turned out that a new student was transferred to their class, who in every possible way mocked the child. He ridiculed him in front of his comrades and even used physical force, extorted money. The child, due to his inexperience, did not know what to do with it. He did not complain to his parents or teachers, because he did not want to be known as a sneak. And I couldn't solve the problem myself. Here is a clear example of how stressful conditions make it difficult to gnaw at the granite of science.

3) Pressure resistance

The psyche works in such a way that when we are under pressure, we resist with all our might. The more the mother and father force the student to do homework by force, the more he begins to avoid it. This once again confirms the fact that this situation cannot be corrected by force.

4) Low self-esteem, disbelief in yourself

Excessive criticism of parents towards the child leads to his low self-esteem. If no matter what the student does, you still can’t please, then this is just such a case. Motivation completely disappears. What difference does it make whether they put 2 or 5, anyway no one will praise, will not appreciate what they deserve, will not say a kind word.

5) Too much control and help

There are parents who literally teach themselves instead of their child. They collect a briefcase for him, do homework with him, command what, how and when to do it. In this case, the student takes a passive position. There is no need for him to think with his own head and he is not capable of answering for himself. Motivation also disappears, as he acts as a puppet.

It should be noted that this is quite common in modern families and is a big problem. Parents themselves spoil their child, trying to help him. Total control kills independence and responsibility. And this pattern of behavior passes into adulthood.

Case from practice:

Irina turned to us for help. She had problems with the academic performance of her 9-year-old daughter. If the mother was late at work or went on a business trip, the girl did not do her homework. In the lessons she also behaved passively and if the teacher did not look after her, then she was distracted and did other things.

It turned out that Irina interfered heavily in the learning process from the first grade. She controlled her daughter excessively, literally did not let her take a step on her own. Here is the disastrous result. The daughter did not at all strive to study, she believed that only her mother needed it, and not her. And she only did it under duress.

There is only one treatment here: stop patronizing the child and explain why you need to study at all. At first, of course, he will relax and do nothing. But over time, he will understand that he still needs to learn somehow and will slowly begin to organize himself. Of course, it won't work all at once. But after a while it will get better and better.

6) You need to give rest

When a student comes home from school, he needs 1.5-2 hours to rest. At this time, he can do his favorite things. There is also a category of mothers and fathers, which begins to press on the child as soon as he enters the house.

Questions about grades are pouring in, requests to show the diary and instructions to sit down for homework. If you do not give the baby a rest, his concentration will be noticeably reduced. And in a tired state, he will begin to dislike school and everything connected with it even more.

7) Quarrels in the family

An unfavorable atmosphere at home is a serious obstacle to good grades. When there are frequent quarrels and scandals in the family, the child begins to worry, become nervous and withdrawn. Sometimes he even begins to blame himself for everything. As a result, all his thoughts are occupied with the current situation, and not with the desire to study.

8) Complexes

There are children with a non-standard appearance or with not very well developed speech. They often receive a lot of ridicule. Therefore, they experience a lot of suffering and try to be invisible, avoiding answers at the blackboard.

9) Bad company

Even in the first grade, some students manage to connect with dysfunctional friends. If friends do not want to learn, then your child will support them in this.

10) Dependencies

Children, like adults from an early age, can have their own addictions. In elementary school, these are games, entertainment with friends. At 9-12 years old - a passion for computer games. In transitional age - bad habits and street company.

11) Hyperactivity

There are children with excess energy. They are characterized by poor perseverance and concentration. In this regard, it is difficult for them to sit in class and listen without being distracted. And hence - bad behavior and even frustrated lessons. Such children need to attend additional sports sections. Detailed tips for you can read in this article.

If you correctly understand the cause of poor teaching at school, then we can assume that 50% of the problem has already been solved. In the future, you need to develop an action plan, thanks to which it will be possible to encourage the student to study. Screams, scandals, swearing - it never worked. Understanding your child and helping him with the difficulties that have arisen is what will create the right motivation.

13 Practical Tips on How to Motivate Your Student to Get A's

1. The first thing every parent should know is that the child should be praised for any success.
   Then he will naturally develop a desire to learn. Even if he does something not yet good enough, he still needs to be praised. After all, he almost coped with the new task and put a lot of effort into this. This is a very important condition, without which it is impossible to force a child to learn.
2. In no case do not scold for mistakes, because they learn from mistakes.
   If a child is scolded for something that he does not succeed in, then he will forever lose the desire to do this. Making mistakes is a natural process, even for adults. Children, on the other hand, do not have such life experience and only learn new tasks for themselves, so you need to be patient, and if something does not work out for your child, it would be better to help him figure it out.
3. Do not give gifts for studying
   Some adults, for the purpose of motivation, promise various gifts to their children or monetary rewards for good studies. You don't have to do that. Of course, at first the baby will find an incentive and begin to try in school, but over time he will begin to demand more and more. And small gifts will no longer satisfy him. In addition, study is his daily obligatory actions and the child must understand this. Therefore, the issue of motivation will not be resolved in a similar way in the long term.
4. You need to show your son or daughter the full degree of responsibility that lies in this lesson - study
   To do this, explain why you need to study at all. Often children who do not have much interest in learning do not understand why this is necessary. They have a lot of other interesting things to do, and classes at school interfere with this.
5. Sometimes parents demand too much from their children.
   Even now, the training program is several times more difficult than before. Moreover, if the child, in addition to this, goes to developing circles, then overwork can naturally occur. Don't expect your child to be perfect. It is quite natural that some subjects are more difficult for him, and it takes more time to understand them.
6. If any of the subjects is given to your son or daughter is especially difficult, then a good solution would be to hire a tutor
7. It is better to inculcate the habit of studying from the 1st grade
   If a child in the first grade learns to achieve his goals, complete his tasks and for which he will receive praise and respect from adults, then he will not go astray.
8. Help see positive change
   When your child succeeds in something very difficult, support him every time. More often say phrases like: “Well, now you do it much better! And if you continue in the same spirit, you will do very well!” But never use: “Try a little more and then it will be good.” Thus, you do not recognize the child's small victories. It is very important to maintain it and notice the slightest changes.
9. Set an example
   Do not try to teach your child to do homework while you watch TV and relax in other ways. Children love to copy their parents. If you want your child to develop, for example, to read books, instead of messing around, do it yourself.
10. Maintain
    If the student has a difficult test, support him. Tell him that you believe in him, that he will succeed. Especially if he tries hard, then success is inevitable. It is necessary to support even when he completely failed something. Many mothers and fathers prefer to reprimand in such a case. It is better to reassure the child and say that next time he will definitely cope. You just need to put in a little more effort.
11. Share experiences
    Explain to your child that you can't always do what you want. Yes, I understand that you don’t like math so much, but it needs to be studied. You will be able to bear it easier if you share it with your loved ones.
12. Point out the good qualities of the child
    Even if these are so far from good studies at school, but the positive qualities of the baby, such as the ability to help others, charm, the ability to negotiate. This will help in building adequate self-esteem and find support within yourself. And normal self-esteem, in turn, will create self-confidence.
13. Consider the wishes and aspirations of the child himself
    If your kid is interested in music or drawing, you do not need to force him to attend a class with a mathematical bias. No need to break the kid to say you know best. All children are different and each has their own talents and abilities. Even if you force a student to study a subject he does not like, he will not achieve great success in it. Because success is only where there is love for the cause and interest in the process.

Should you force your child to study?

As you probably already understood from this article, forcing a child to learn by force is a useless exercise. So you will only make it worse. It is better to create the right motivation. To create motivation, you need to understand why he needs it. What will he gain from his studies? For example, in the future he will be able to get the profession he dreams of. And without education, he will not have any profession at all and will not be able to earn his living.

When a student has a goal and an idea why he should study, then there is a desire and ambition.

And of course, you need to deal with the problems that prevent your child from becoming a successful student. There is no other way to do this, but to talk to him and find out.

I hope these practical tips will help you improve your children's academic performance. If you still have questions, you can always contact us for help at online psychologist consultation. An experienced child psychologist will help as soon as possible to find out all the reasons why the child experiences difficulties and unwillingness to learn. Together with you, they will develop a work plan that will help your child feel the taste for learning.

This material presents the reasons for school failure, some portraits of a failed child, and what to do if my child has become unsuccessful. The material is intended for classes with parents or teachers.

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Reasons for school failure

It's nice when your own child is studying for "4" and "5". It's nice when you recruit children with a high quality of knowledge into the class; with them you feel satisfaction in your work, you see the results of your own work; I am calm with them when submitting a statistical report on academic performance to the head teacher of the school.

The Government takes care of gifted children and students with high real educational opportunities, approving the program “Gifted Children”, it is echoed by the regional authorities and the Department of Education. Students who receive diplomas for prize-winning places in the Olympiad, a scientific and practical conference of schoolchildren, feel comfortable and confident. Television is in a hurry to talk about young geeks ...

But according to some of their own, special laws of nature, not always understandable to a person, other children live next to geeks - students with low real learning opportunities, poorly or completely uneducated schoolchildren. They are not written about in newspapers, they are not filmed, parents speak about them without pride in their voices, teachers sigh heavily when they take such a student into the class.

And it turns out that there are much more such children than those who are successful in education. They want everything that a gifted child feels: attention, and a little fame, and praise, and a sense of confidence ... But in their life, most likely, the opposite is happening.

An unsuccessful student is a legendary figure both in life and in pedagogy. Among the unsuccessful were Newton, Darwin, Walter Scott, Linnaeus, Einstein, Shakespeare, Byron, Herzen, Gogol. Pushkin was the last student in the math class. Many outstanding people experienced learning difficulties in school and were classified as hopeless. These facts confirm that not everything is simple and unambiguous with a lagging underachieving student. Who is a failing student? Here is how it is said in the textbook of Ivan Pavlovich Podlasy:

An unsuccessful student is a child who cannot demonstrate the level of knowledge, skills, speed of thinking and performing operations that the children studying next to him show. Does that mean he's worse than them? Probably not. Special surveys of the intellect of children who are lagging behind in their studies show that in terms of basic indicators they are not only worse, but even better than many well-performing schoolchildren. Teachers are often surprised: how could one or another student who was listed as a hopeless loser achieve success. And there is no miracle - it was a child who did not like what was offered to him at school.

The school pays all its attention to the lagging behind. Consider some categories of children that we classify as underachievers:

1. Children with SD - these are those who, for various reasons, have deviated from age norms.

They have a hard time completing tasks. They have very low self-esteem. Such children are more likely than others to receive comments from the teacher. They do not want to be friends with them, to sit at the same desk. The state of dissatisfaction with their position in the school pushes them to unmotivated violations of discipline: shouting from a place, running along the corridor, pugnacity.

2. Underdeveloped children for school(they make up 1/4 of all underachievers).

They revealed disorders in the early period of development (pathology of pregnancy and childbirth, birth injuries, serious illnesses). They suffer from various chronic diseases. They often live in disadvantaged microsocial conditions. Underdeveloped children have difficulty adapting to the conditions of schooling, the daily routine, and the workload. And already at the first stages of education, they constitute a very specific risk group for the development of school maladjustment and poor progress. And most often they form a group of difficult, persistently underachieving students who create a problem for the school.

3. Functionally immature children.

They study diligently and conscientiously, they have a desire to complete all school assignments. But already in the first months of training, their behavior and well-being change. Some become restless, lethargic, whiny, irritable, complain of headaches, eat poorly, sleep with difficulty. All this is still understandable: after all, the child is adapting to new conditions, and this does not pass without a trace. But one or two months pass, and the picture does not change, there are no successes. And it becomes clear that some functions of the body are not yet ripe for school, study is not yet possible. Some children get tired quickly (there is no school endurance), others cannot concentrate, others do not confirm the results of entrance tests, the hopes that were given in the first days. There are lagging behind, poorly performing students, and some do not master the program at all. Many children often get sick, miss classes and, as a result, begin to fall behind.

4. Weak children.

It's no secret that among children entering the first grade, almost

only 20-30% are healthy. According to incomplete data, 30-35% of first-graders suffer from chronic ENT diseases, 8-10% have visual impairments, more than 20% of children are at risk for developing myopia; 15-20% have various disorders of the neuropsychic sphere, most often as a result of an organic lesion of the cerebral cortex at different stages of development.

These children have difficulty adjusting to school. They were protected at home, not allowed to strain, their development lags behind the norm (limited supply of information, knowledge, skills, poor orientation in the environment, difficulties in contact with peers, the teacher, improper behavior in the classroom, insufficiently developed learning motivation).

There is another category of weakened children. These include children who were allowed to do everything at home. They are disinhibited, uncontrollable, quickly get tired, unable to concentrate, work for a long time. There are about 30-40% of such children in each class. Teaching them is not an easy pedagogical task, which requires great effort from teachers, as well as spiritual and professional skills and abilities.

5. Systemically lagging children.

Excessive emotional, mental, physical stress associated with systematic education can cause a significant deterioration in the health of these children, especially if in the early period they already had various disorders and developmental delays. Learning difficulties are more common in children who have several types of developmental and behavioral disorders. At first glance, all the functions are individually developed as if enough, but there is no general harmony. These children make up the group of systemically lagging behind. Minor deviations in various functional systems, combined with each other, lead to visible disorders: disinhibition, motor restlessness, hyperactivity. They are unable to organize their activities, are unable to fix their attention, cannot establish normal relationships with their peers, react sharply to rejection, do not control themselves, forget good intentions, prefer to do only what they like.

Behavioral disorders, as a rule, are combined in such children with a whole range of difficulties in writing, reading, and mathematics. In the 1st grade, they cannot learn the correct lettering for a long time, write beautifully and neatly, they have dirty, sloppy notebooks. By the end of the school year, they do not master the program of the corresponding class. Features of their behavior, constant conflicts, violent reactions significantly complicate the situation in the classroom.

6. Non-standard children.

Among them are all those who “fall out” for various reasons from the “high school”: highly gifted, talented, child prodigies - and hopelessly retarded, exceptional in mental development.

There is another group of children; these are the so-called "slow" children - slow-witted, and such is the peculiarity of their character. This may be associated with the disease, and with developmental delay, and with the peculiarities of the nervous system, character, temperament. These children are healthy, often very gifted. They differ from their peers only in the slow pace of activity. Longer than others are included in the work, it is more difficult to switch from one type of activity to another. The overall pace of the class is too much for them. They are in a hurry, nervous, but still do not keep up with others. The letters get worse and worse, the number of errors increases. They have a hard time at school.

Non-standard, exceptional children also include excessively fast, constantly excited, always in a hurry children. These are those who raise their hand before they have heard the question. They bounce, get nervous, flare up with excitement - hurry, hurry. The teacher sees and understands them: he will rein in, give a difficult task that must certainly be completed, will patiently work with them.

7. Children deprived by family and school.

A significant part of schoolchildren is brought up in unfavorable microsocial conditions. This is social neglect: parents' alcoholism, an atmosphere of quarrels, conflicts, cruelty and coldness towards children, punishments, sometimes unfair, on the one hand, and permissiveness on the other. Sometimes the school exacerbates the difficulties of their lives even more, ruthlessly pushes them into the category of pedagogically neglected. Pedagogical is added to social neglect. The teacher is familiar with absent-minded, forgetful students with very unstable academic performance. They get tired already in 1 lesson. They hardly understand the explanations of the teacher, sit with an indifferent look, lie down on the desk, sometimes fall asleep. Lessons seem unreasonably long to them. Their fatigue is expressed in a sharply reduced working capacity, a slow pace of activity, they do not have time to complete tasks with the whole class. During the lesson, they are distracted by external stimuli, whiny, careless in work. They often laugh for no reason. When reading, they lose a line, do not make semantic stresses. Sometimes they diligently do their homework, but in class they get lost and confused when answering.

It is hard not to notice children deprived by family and school. In practice, an experienced teacher immediately determines: who wants to learn and who does not; who is hardworking and who is lazy; who is disciplined and who is disobedient. Although first impressions can be wrong.

In practice, it is customary to distinguish groupsstrong, weak and mediumstudents. The main formal criteria are, of course, progress and discipline. A simple comparison determines the excellent students, the "average" and the lagging behind; exemplary and hooligans. If the teacher supports this distribution, then both parents and children adopt his views. But the saddest thing is that the students accept the roles assigned to them. Excellent students try to be on top all the time, zealously following each other's progress, and losers dutifully agree with their status.

Much attention is paid to the characteristics of selected groups. Among the excellent students there are simply talented children who are easily given teaching and who do not attach much importance to grades - they just like to learn. There are also students for whom a high mark is a way to stand out, to show their superiority. Such children are very jealous of other people's successes, they can beg good marks from the teacher; cry or get angry because of the three, put up, in their opinion, unfairly. Vain, envious creatures, they are a worthy reserve for future careerists, flatterers, sycophants. There are “unwittingly excellent students” - well-trained children, intimidated by parental strictness, who are carefully checked at home.

Lagging students also represent a heterogeneous group: there are good-natured lazy ones, and overly timid, shy children, and excessively distracted, and inattentive, and excellent intellectuals of non-standard behavior. Many of them suffer because of their poor performance.

The child came to school with a firm intention - to study for "4" and "5". At first, he learns like that, tries, improves his performance. But by the end of elementary school, he may “see the light”; find out that being an excellent student is not at all so honorable in the eyes of classmates. The primary attitude of some elementary school graduates is split. This explains the sharp decline in their performance in the 5th grade. This is usually blamed on the insufficient preparedness of children, the poor work of elementary school teachers. But it is not always the case. The views of children are changing, value orientations and guidelines are being revised.

Thus, in the process of schooling, several groups of students are singled out - achievers, "middle peasants" and lagging behind. These groups are heterogeneous; they have their own redistribution.

There are many reasons for school failure. It is not at all necessary that they act together and at the same time, one, even the weakest, is enough. From this it becomes clear why early school failure is so difficult to correct, despite the significant efforts of teachers. Among the reasons that lead children to fall behind in school, pedagogy names the following:

• unfavorable heredity;
• disorders of nervous activity;
• general incapacity for intellectual work;
• physical weakness;
• school immaturity;
• pedagogical neglect;
• insufficient development of speech;
• fear of school, teachers;
• infantilism (i.e. childishness)

And another reason for the failure of students is Her Majesty Laziness. Obviously, not everyone knows that laziness as a state of inactivity, mental lethargy, passivity also has a different nature and can be"normal" and pathological . Most often it manifests itself at school age. According to doctors, most lazy schoolchildren are perfectly healthy people. But for some students, laziness is one of the manifestations of pathologies. The main features are inactivity, low efficiency, disorder of will, indifference to life, high subordination to others. A common cause of this condition is “somatogenic asthenia, i.e. physical and psychological weakness caused by somatic disease”. It is completely overcome thanks to a sparing regimen. In healthy students, the most common cause of laziness, as noted by the classic of Russian pedagogy, K. D. Ushinsky, is a direct dislike for the activity that adults encourage the child to do. The reasons for this reluctance are also different, but, says the teacher, self-education is to blame for them. So, it is not uncommon for a child to make demands, and a lot of duties, demands of duty fall upon him, which can cause a reverse effect. Sometimes, Ushinsky writes, laziness is formed "from unsuccessful attempts at learning." From the very beginning of the development of a new activity for the child, he is faced with failure. Systematic failures frighten him and make him lazy. However, if a child achieves success without putting any effort into it, he, too, can become lazy. But education is also to blame. It seems that not all teachers know that, as they say, laziness is different.

Categories of children who are underachieving: Weakened children. Limited stock of knowledge, skills, poor orientation in the environment, difficulties in contact with peers, the teacher, incorrect behavior in the classroom, insufficiently developed learning motivation. Systemically lagging children. Irregular children. Children deprived by family and school (social neglect).

What to do?! Do not panic! Accept and love your child for who they are. Follow all recommendations of all specialists. There are no days off in raising and educating children!

WHAT TO DO? Required: Conversation with the class teacher. Interview with a psychologist. Consultation of a pediatrician, neuropathologist or other specialists.

Child psychologist Elena Golovina answered the questions of "Evening Tram" about how parents can prepare their children for elementary school, how to seat a hyperactive child at a desk and help him establish contact with peers.

Elena Evgenievna, September 1 is not far off, hundreds of children will go to first grade after kindergarten. How to set up your child for school?

This is a long process, it is not for nothing that in kindergarten it lasts a whole year while the children attend the preparatory group. It is good if the child attended classes in preparation for school in the educational institution where he will study in the future. It is important that by school the child learns that studying is his duty, he knows the school rules, imagines how the lessons go, what is the role of the teacher, and possesses basic skills and abilities.

- If a child is hyperactive, restless, what should parents and teachers do?

It is worth separating hyperactivity as a syndrome that is diagnosed by doctors, and simply excessive activity of the child. For children with attention deficit hyperactivity disorder, complex medical, psychological and pedagogical correction is necessary. At the level of advice: it is important to put an active child at the first desks, strictly observe the daily routine, you should not overload the child with physical activity, because, contrary to popular belief, that he "runs in and runs out of steam", he, on the contrary, is disinhibited and cannot calm down himself. And remember that active children need the help of adults, because their self-regulation is usually poorly developed, you need to help them get organized, start and finish things, help with homework.

- How to motivate a child so that he begins to show interest in classes?

There is no universal answer. For some children, motivation is gifts and rewards, for some, the praise of their parents is important, for others, good grades. The example of parents is important here. If a child sees that parents are happy with their work, inquisitive, active, then study will be interesting for him.

How important is it to do homework with a child at home? Can an extension or tutors (nanny) replace homework with parents?

The task of parents and teachers at the initial stage of education is to teach the child to learn. Therefore, it is good if parents help the child develop an algorithm for doing homework, they will help solve the difficulties encountered. Here it is good to act according to the principle "first together, and then on your own." If a child does tasks with a tutor or in an after-school, then the main thing is that he does not lose contact with his parents, if there is no joint educational activity, then you can communicate, walk, etc. together.

What can you say about the pressure of parents who, with shouts and a belt, are trying to “drive” knowledge into their children?

If it would bring results ... More often, parents use such methods from their own impotence. Then it is better to transfer the tasks of teaching to teachers, tutors.

If a child has a hard time studying, he doesn’t remember well, he can’t concentrate, what could be the reason and what should parents do?

Among the possible reasons may be neurological, associated with the characteristics of the child's development, and psychological, associated with the peculiarities of the course of psychological processes (memory, thinking, attention, etc.), and pedagogical, when the child does not have the necessary learning skills and abilities. It is better to contact specialists to determine the causes and solutions to problems.

- And if the child does not develop relationships with classmates and he refuses to go to school?

This is a difficult question in a particular situation, you need to understand: to find out what the child feels, perhaps he is scared or angry. Communicate with the teacher, school psychologist and together help the child adapt in the classroom.

I know a case when a girl persuaded her parents to transfer her to another school because of a conflict in the class, and then refused to go to her, demanding to return her to her former school ... In what cases is it worth going on about the child?

The opinion of the child is certainly important. But the school, in addition to teaching school subjects, is also a "rehearsal" of adult life, an opportunity to learn how to resolve conflicts, enter into relationships, and make decisions. The question of changing schools is often raised when it comes to bullying, which seriously traumatizes the child. In other cases, perhaps he should be helped to sort out the conflict, think about possible ways out of it, and sometimes just support him.

Today, it is not uncommon for a well-prepared, active and promising child at preschool age to impress his parents with his successes, but does not justify the hopes for good school performance. So why is it difficult for a child to learn?

Problems with learning in children

1. misunderstanding of the material. Each of us must have heard at least once that a good teacher is worth its weight in gold these days. It is the teacher and his method of presenting the material that largely determines the extent to which information is assimilated in the minds of children.
2. distracting factors. The most common ailment of today's youth is the inability to concentrate their attention on one subject for a long time.
3. The system of moral guidelines. If you notice that your child does not want to learn because it is "unpopular" or "stupid", then consider whether he has fallen into the trap of falsely imposed ideals.

Warning signs that your child is having a hard time learning

1. The child does not want to discuss school matters. He does not tell how the classes went, what he is studying and what news he has.
2. Attitudes towards school and learning have changed. The child began to treat the school with anger and detachment, does not want to go there. Perhaps he is bored sitting in the lessons, because he already knows the material that other children go through.
3. The kid sits for lessons for a very long time. The time spent on homework has increased. The son or daughter did not have time for rest and hobbies.
4. Bad behavior at school. This situation may be related to attracting attention. Children and adolescents are not always able to coherently and clearly explain their problems. Then they begin to take action, which, in their opinion, explains everything. As the child grows, he learns social skills.
5. Teacher complaints about son or daughter. It often happens that teachers are more aware of the school problems of children than parents. In this case, you need to talk to the teacher or class teacher. If he expresses concern, then you should look after your child.
6. Sleep deprivation and loss of appetite. Problems with sleep and eating are often associated in a child with the stress that he receives at school. Children want to please mom and dad with good grades, and when they fail, they get upset and cannot calm down. Teenagers, on the other hand, already understand that their academic performance can affect the passing of exams and admission to a good university. Because of this, they are also worried.
7. Poor performance. If a child gets low grades more often, it is not surprising that he does not want to go to school. It is difficult for him to cope with the school curriculum, so he does not want to go to an educational institution.

Which kids have a hard time at school?

1. Shy. It is difficult for them to make friends, they feel uncomfortable among strangers and crowds of people. They feel more comfortable in their own quiet world.
2. prone to aggression. Such children try to gain leadership positions in the classroom through verbal and physical abuse. But due to specific means, this does not work out for them, they do not become popular, which provokes their difficulties at school.
3. With poor health. Physically weak children do not learn the school curriculum well, they need more time to master the material. They often miss school due to illness.
4. With a high level of anxiety. Such children can study well and even make friends, but it will be difficult for them psychologically. They constantly think that something will interfere with them, that they will not succeed.

What is the reason for learning difficulties?

If a child is struggling to learn, you need to understand the reasons for poor performance in children. Understanding the problem is half the job of solving it. A first-grader, entering school, meets with new tasks, of which there are really many. In addition to educational tasks, emotional difficulties appear - a new team, other requirements for discipline, orders and rules. The methods of presenting the material and the school curriculum itself are not ideal and do not take into account the developmental features of a small person at different ages. Before school, the child learns in the game, and the first grader should already learn the information, sitting motionless at the desk for a long time. This requires the student to be able to focus on one type of activity for a long time, that is, to have a developed concentrated attention.

It often happens that from the very first days of schooling, a child should do not what he is interested in and like, but what the school curriculum and the teacher require from him, and it is difficult for children to start this. The learning process is impossible without the development of skills, without voluntary attention. Sometimes parents believe that the child is attentive, and learning difficulties arise for other reasons. We advise you to take into account the following features: almost all children have well-developed involuntary attention, and voluntary attention develops up to 7-10 years of age, that is, much later than the first grade.

Successful learning depends on how the child is able to concentrate. The development of voluntary attention will help the child find the necessary information in memory, separate the main from the secondary, choose the right decisions, work consciously in class, and concentrate on the task at hand.

The eidetics course helps both adults and children develop attention and get great results from the learning process.