Nil inultum remanebit“Nothing goes unpunished.
Fiat justitia, pereat mundus“Let justice be done, even if the whole world perishes from it.”
Si vis pacem para bellum If you want peace, prepare for war.
Consumor aliis inserviendo— Shining to others, burning himself.
Ferro ignique- Fire and sword.
Fuge, late, tace- Run, hide, shut up.
Contra vim mortis non est medicamen in hortis“There is no cure for the power of death in the gardens.
Ira furor brevis est Anger is short-term insanity.
Heu quam est timendus qui mori tutus putat“He is terrible who reveres death for good.
In vino veritas— Truth in wine
Vox populi - vox dei The eye of the people is the voice of God.
Lupus pilum mutat, non mentem- The wolf changes the coat, not the nature.
Imperare sibi maximum imperium est- Self-control is the highest power.
Qui gladio ferit, gladio perit- He who raised the sword from the sword will die.
Vox unius, vox nullius One vote is not a vote.
Gladiator in arena capit consilium— The gladiator makes a decision in the arena.

/Quotes from the TV series Sword/

Other Latin sayings..

Dum spiro, spero. - While I breathe I hope.
memento mori. - Memento Mori.
ratio vivendi. - Meaning of life.
Veni, vidi, vici. “I came, I saw, I conquered.
Vincere aut mori. - Victory or death.
Arbor vitae. - Tree of life.
Pax huic domui. Peace to this house.
In arte libertas. - There is freedom in art.
Alia tempora. “Times have changed.
Bis vincit, qui se vincit in victoria. - He who conquers himself wins twice.
Duobus certantibus tertius gaudet. When two fight, the third rejoices.
Videte et applaudite! - Watch and applaud!
Aequalitas haud parit bellum. “Equality does not breed war.
Canis mortuus non mordet. A dead dog doesn't bite.
Cogiti, ergo sum - I think, therefore I am.
De mortuis nihil nisi bene. “Nothing but good things about the dead.
Nil permanent sub sole - Nothing lasts forever under the sun.
Docere omnes ambiunt, docere pene nulli. Everyone strives to teach, nobody wants to be taught.
Fas est et ab hoste doceri. “You can also learn from the enemy.
Hominem non odi, sed ejus vitia. “I don’t hate a man, but his vices.
Alma mater - Nursing, beneficent mother.
Suum cuique - To each his own.
O tempora! About mores! - About times! oh manners!
Margaritas ante porcos - Beads before pigs.
Persona non grata - An unwanted person.
Dura lex Sed Lex - The law is harsh, but it is the law.
Vade retro, Satana - Get out, Satan.
Scientia potentia est - Knowledge is power.
Contra spem spero - I hope without hope.
Divide et impera - Divide and conquer.
Homo homini lupus est - Man is a wolf to man.
Consuetudo est altera natura - Habit is second nature.
Pereat mundus, fiat philosophia - Let the world perish, but let there be philosophy.
Alea jacta est - The die is cast.
Amicus (mihi) Plato, sed magis amica veritas - Plato is my friend, but the truth is dearer.
Ignorantia non est argumentum - Ignorance is not an argument.
Amicus certus in re incerta cernitur - A true friend is known in a wrong deed.
A nullo diligitur, qui neminem diligit - No one loves someone who does not love anyone himself.
Si vis amari, ama - If you want to be loved, love.

The anger of a lover is short-lived. Menander

If you are angry, count to ten before you speak; if you are very angry, count to one hundred. Thomas Jefferson

Anger is short-term insanity. Quintus Horace Flaccus

In anger, fools are sharp-tongued, but this does not make them richer. Francis Bacon

The most difficult thing for a person is to cope with disappointment and anger. Margaret of Navarre

There is no such fiery anger that over time would not cool down. Giovanni Boccaccio

Anger is open and fleeting hatred; hatred is restrained and constant anger. Charles Pinot Duclos

Meekness suits people, anger befits beasts. Publius Ovid Nason

“Do not stir fire with a knife,” that is, do not hurt an angry and arrogant person with harsh words. Pythagoras

If you're angry, count to four; if you are very angry, swear. Mark Twain

He who does not respond with anger to anger saves both - both himself and the other. Ancient India, unknown author

Test the temperament of your friends in various ways, especially see how someone is in anger. Theognis

In anger, do not say or do anything until you have said all twenty-four letters of the alphabet to yourself. Athenodorus of Tarsus

It doesn't matter if he errs out of stupidity or in a fit of anger. Quintus Horace Flaccus

An angry person always thinks he can do more than he can. Publilius Sir

Do you want to get praise when you get angry? Be angry at vice, not at man. Erasmus of Rotterdam

Anger makes more courageous only those who, without anger, did not know at all what courage is. Lucius Annaeus Seneca (junior)

He who knows how to restrain anger will never commit shameful deeds. Menander

That real person who sheds the anger that has risen, like a snake sheds its old skin. Ancient India, unknown author

For those who are overcome by anger, it is better to postpone the decision. Lucius Annaeus Seneca (junior)

Anger differs from madness only in duration. Marcus Porcius Cato (senior)

There is a difference between revenge and punishment: punishment is done for the sake of the punished, and revenge is for the sake of the avenger, in order to satisfy his wrath. Aristotle

Anger is never without a cause, but the cause is rarely convincing. George Savile Halifax

Our weaknesses grab our anger by the sleeve and whisper sweet words to us when we are irritated. George Savile Halifax

It is necessary that the boy could never achieve anything with anger; we ourselves will offer him, when he is calm, what was not given while he demanded with weeping. Lucius Annaeus Seneca (junior)

A face distorted with anger is something completely unnatural. If such an expression is repeated often, it seems to mortify the human form, completely extinguishes it, so that in no way can it be restored. From this one can already understand that it is contrary to reason. Marcus Aurelius

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1. Exercise "Associations" (5 min). Purpose: to provide an opportunity for participants to reflect on the topic of anger and to tune in to further discussion of this topic. Instruction. The trainer writes the word “Anger” on a piece of paper and invites the participants to name the associations that arise in them when they hear this word. All responses are recorded without discussion. The trainer thanks the participants, the participants applaud each other for a good job.

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2. Mini-lecture "What is anger?" (5 minutes). Trainer information. Anger is considered the most deadly of all sins. Fury, indignation, irascibility, vehemence, irascibility, indignation, discontent, irritation, rage are manifestations of anger. Anger, or anger, is the most dangerous emotion. When you are angry, you are intentionally hurting other people. Anger can arise for various reasons. One of them is frustration (nervous exhaustion), caused by numerous obstacles and obstacles and hindering progress towards the goal. A person's inability to live up to your expectations can make you angry. Anger varies in strength - from mild irritation or annoyance, to rage or rage. Anger can build up gradually, starting with irritation and then slowly building up, or it can come on suddenly and come out with maximum force. We need to learn to understand the causes of anger and learn how to discharge anger.

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3. Exercise "YES or NO" (10 min). When I'm angry, I usually... Expression of anger Yes - "+", no - "-" I stop screaming I'm very nervous I try to restrain myself I try to talk about the cause of anger with friends I try to deal with the cause of anger on my own I try to distract myself - I read I listen to music How can I improve my way to deal with anger Method Yes - "+", no - "-" before you find out something, have a good sleep get distracted by something extraneous, do something: eat delicious food, sleep, read talk with loved ones about what happens is not to take everything to heart live by the principle: you can’t change circumstances, change your attitude to them crumple and tear paper beat a pillow or a punching bag water procedures sports games, run count to ten rub plasticine into cardboard or paper write words, that you want to say, crumple up on paper and throw away

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4. Discussion and role-playing game "Situations" (10 min). Situations Your actions The teacher said at the lesson today that I am stupid and, probably, my parents are also like that: "The apple does not fall far from the tree." Today the teacher accused me of stealing, but I did not take anything from anyone. My parents and I were called to the school. They took me to the teacher's room, where the director, head teacher, teachers gathered, and everyone began to insult and humiliate me. My parents don't let me be friends with my classmates. My mother scolded me again for the mess in the room. Mom let me go to the disco until 10 o'clock. I arrived on time, but I received a slap in the face from my father. Today my parents told me that they decided to get a divorce. They asked who I would live with. Mom and dad were arguing a lot today. I sat and did not know what to do and how to act.

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5. Exercise "Discharge of anger and aggressiveness" (10 min). Trainer information. Metaphorically, anger is a wildfire that can engulf large areas if the first small flame or bonfire is not controlled in time. In anger, there is a high level of muscle tension, especially in the arms, face, neck, shoulders, chest and abdomen. We need to master relaxation techniques aimed at learning to manage our anger and reduce the level of personal anxiety. B) Exercise "Only paper" (5 min). Instruction. Participants take a sheet of paper and try to depict their state, mood with it. Paper can be torn and wrinkled. At the signal of the coach, everyone passes their “mood” - paper to the neighbor on the left. He finalizes it and, on a signal, again passes it on to the next one, and so on in a circle. It is desirable that after completing the exercise, only small pieces remain from the sheet of paper. The coach invites teenagers to make a festive salute out of them. When performing this exercise, aggression decreases, mood rises. C) Exercise "Video camera effect" (10 min). Instruction. Imagine that you are a video camera, but which records not only sound and image, but also records taste, smell, and temperature sensations. She registers it, but has nothing to do with it. Someone showed his tongue to the video camera, said: “Fool!”. What will be the emotion of the video camera? No. Because she's just registering what's happening. Exercise. Take a "video camera" (you can roll up a newspaper, or take a hat as a camera) and check if this is so. I am like a video camera. I observe, I see everything, I fix everything, but I do not react in any way. Emotionless. Just straight, calm.

I would like all people to always be good and friendly, but, unfortunately, this is not possible. In some cases, it can be difficult to manage your emotions, especially when there are so many annoying factors around.

The main types of stimuli that trigger our anger response are:

• Unsatisfied need, desire (for example, I want heat, but I don’t get it or I want to get there quickly, but there are traffic jams along the way, etc.)
• Violation of our "borders" (stepped on the foot in transport or raised their voice at us, etc.).

Anger is a natural response to these stimuli. But sometimes outbursts of anger cross all boundaries and manifest themselves in the form of aggressive uncontrollable behavior.

Uncontrolled outbursts of anger and aggression can be very dangerous both for the person himself and for the people around him.

Stages of increasing feelings of anger:

1. slight dissatisfaction
2. Irritation
3. Anger
4. Rage
5. The heat of passion.

Our anger begins with a slight discontent, which we can quite control. And if it does not discharge at earlier stages, then it can result in rage or affect, when we are practically unable to control ourselves.

An uncontrolled outburst of anger may indicate that the person did not pay attention to the manifestation of milder forms of this feeling in himself to such an extent that it turned into an affect.

Slight dissatisfaction can manifest itself only inside us, and already anger, rage and affect become very noticeable to others and very often expressed in aggressive actions.

Anger and aggression, what's the difference?

Anger is a feeling that a person experiences. And aggression is already an action that is aimed at causing harm in order to get something for oneself or to defend oneself.

When we feel anger, we have a choice - to express it through an aggressive action towards another person, not to express it at all, or to express it in a way that does not harm anyone.

But if a person's anger has reached the state of passion, then he seems to be deprived of this choice, and in this case, most likely, he will begin to commit aggressive actions.

If you have the problem of uncontrolled outbursts of anger, then it is important to understand - you have uncontrolled outbursts of only anger or aggression too. That is, you can not control your feelings or your behavior, under the influence of anger?

After all, feelings arise in us on their own, we cannot control their appearance, only warn them. But the ways of expressing them and our behavior, under the influence of these feelings, we can control according to our strength. Or at least you can learn it.

What is important to know about aggression and anger?

Aggression is of several types:

• Active (open) aggression (insults, voice raising, accusation, unsolicited criticism, physical violence, etc.)
• Passive (hidden) aggression (lateness, sabotage of some joint business with another person, demonstration of resentment, refusal to talk with a person, sarcasm, etc.)
• Aggression directed at oneself (can be expressed in the form of causing some harm to oneself, in the absence of care for oneself, one's comfort and health, in the form of guilt and shame, self-criticism, etc.).

Aggression can be expressed both through words and through actions and behavior. Sometimes aggression can be "displaced", i.e. when our aggression is actually directed at one person, but we express it to another person (or animal, object, etc.), whom we consider safer for ourselves (for example, I’m angry at my mother, but I express aggression that is actually actually to my mother, to everyone else, except my mother).

We can be motivated to aggressive actions not only by anger, but also by other feelings - for example, resentment, fear, impotence, envy, etc.

Some psychological causes of excessive and uncontrollable anger in a person are:

1. You are not aware of some of your needs, and you are constantly not satisfied with it (for example, you do not understand that you are constantly processing, and you really need rest, etc.).
2. You do not notice and do not track the regular violation of your personal boundaries in relationships with other people. As a result, your irritation accumulates and periodically results in a flash of uncontrollable anger.
3. Anger is your family habit that you "took over" from your dad, mom or other significant person. If you've watched your parent periodically "explode" since childhood, then you may have learned this behavior, and now unconsciously use it in your adult life.
4. Anger is your favorite way to get what you want. If you believe, for example, that if you don't yell at the other person, you won't get anywhere. Or you don’t know how to ask for what you need, instead you get annoyed with another person, trying in this way to get what you need from him.
5. Anger is your reaction to someone else's behavior that you do not allow yourself, or deny that you also do it (for example, it infuriates you when other people are late because you yourself will never allow yourself to be late, or because you yourself periodically somewhere late, but do not notice such behavior behind you).
6. Feelings of inferiority, worthlessness, “badness” can hide behind your outbursts of aggression. Which acts as a defense against a strong sense of shame.
7. Your lack of a sense of basic security, "basic trust in the world." When you consider the world a very dangerous place for yourself, and all people hostile, then you can have a lot of aggression and anger, which serve as a protection for you.
8. Periodic outbursts of intense anger may appear due to the fact that there is a person next to you who unconsciously forbids himself to feel anger. If you have a strong sensitivity by nature, then you can feel the unconscious anger of the person who is next to you. But then you have flashes of anger only when communicating with a specific person. And if you have fits of anger in different circumstances and when communicating with different people, then most likely the reason is something else.

What good can give you outbursts of anger and aggression?

• Aggression allows you to "manage" other people and get what you want from them (for example, the husband does not throw out the garbage, the wife yelled at him - the husband went to throw out the garbage).
• Anger is for you, as it were, an excuse for some kind of behavior that you consider “bad” for yourself. That is, in a fit of anger, you do something that you deep down want, but do not allow yourself to do it (for example, end a relationship that you did not allow yourself to end, raise the price of your services, say “no” to someone, to whom cannot refuse in the normal state, etc.).
• Anger and aggression can help you “run away” from some of your desires that you consider unacceptable, dangerous or shameful for yourself (for example, a woman is very angry with her male colleague, but in fact her sexual attraction to him is hidden behind anger and etc.).
• Anger and aggressive behavior can make you appear powerful, powerful, or even dangerous to other people. In this way, you can gain authority through aggressiveness, or provide yourself with a sense of security.
• Anger and aggression can help you regulate the distance in a relationship (for example, when a partner gets too close to you for you, such a degree of closeness is unbearable for you, then you can unconsciously push him away with aggressive behavior).

What is the unpleasant result of uncontrolled outbursts of aggression?

Despite the fact that people can get some benefit, some advantages from their own and anger, aggressive behavior can contribute to the destruction of significant relationships, interfere with the competent adoption of important decisions and negatively affect a person’s life.

Sudden outbursts of anger can interfere at work, in building a career. If a person can suddenly “break loose” at any moment, enter into an aggressive conflict where the problem can be solved in a calm dialogue, then this does not add anything to his authority.

Other people may have a negative attitude towards someone who does not control himself well in anger, perceive such a person as “dangerous”, shun him. Which can cause a person with uncontrollable outbursts of anger some discomfort or even upset him.

Also, such a problem can bring a person to the point that he will use physical or psychological violence in relations with his loved ones. Thus, he will destroy them, his relationship with them and himself, thereby accumulating his sense of guilt.

A person who has a lot of aggression inside, and who controls it poorly, has to spend a lot of his energy either on external manifestations of his aggression, or on trying to keep it in himself, “suppress”.

Should we strive to suppress our anger?

The constant suppression of anger does not do anything good, because. on the contrary, it contributes to the appearance of outbreaks of uncontrolled rage later. Up to a certain level, a person can suppress his anger, but at some point an “explosion” will inevitably occur when a person reaches a state of passion and cannot control himself.

Suppression of anger makes sense if it is only a temporary measure, if a person realizes why he is doing it and chooses to deal with his anger later in a particular situation.

But as the constant handling of your anger and aggression, this way is quite dangerous, it is better to learn to express your aggression in such a way as not to destroy anyone. And deal with the reasons for the emergence of feelings of anger.

What to do with uncontrollable outbursts of anger?

1. Check your health, because. outbursts of anger can be a symptom of various physical illnesses.
2. If everything is in order with your health, then you need to analyze the reasons for your anger or aggression, because. There can be many possible reasons. You can try to do this either on your own by reading, for example, in this article the possible causes of outbursts of anger and observing for yourself which of them are about you. Or together with, by contacting him for advice.
3. Think about what good you get from uncontrollable outbursts of anger or aggression, what you get from your angry outbursts. And then think about how you can get it in another way, i.e. without aggression.
4. It is necessary to master and constantly use various methods of bodily relaxation, relaxation (breathing techniques, massage, meditation, taking a warm bath, bodily exercises, etc.).
5. To learn how to control your aggression, you need to train skills:
   Stop your impulse to aggressive action at the moment when you are angry (stop not the anger itself, but the behavior).
   The skill of "feeling angry and thinking at the same time."
   Keep track of mild forms of anger (dissatisfaction and irritation) until the moment they turn into a rage or a state of “affect”.
6. To avoid sudden outbursts of anger, you need to learn not to accumulate your anger in large quantities. To do this, you need, firstly, to learn to express your anger without showing aggression towards other people and towards yourself. Secondly, periodically you need to safely “dump” your aggression. That is, to express it in a way that will not harm anyone.

Ways to safely "drop" aggression:

• Beat with a beater, bat or racket on the pillow, beat the "pear".
• Tearing or wrinkling paper, cardboard, Whatman paper, newspaper, etc.
• Throw soft toys, pillows at the wall, imagining that you are throwing at someone you are angry with.
• Draw your anger or the offender in an unfavorable light, write an angry letter, which you then throw away.
• Stomp your feet, wave your arms, express your aggression through dance, etc.
• Roll a dry towel, bite this rolled towel.
• Screaming in the forest or at home into a pillow.
• Express your feelings out loud in a rude way when no one is listening, etc.

An exercise to develop the skill of "getting angry and thinking at the same time"

A person can be prevented from controlling his aggression by the fact that he cannot think in a fit of anger. Therefore, training the skill of "thinking and being angry at the same time" can be very useful for someone who has problems with uncontrollable outbursts of anger.

You can train this skill with the help of exercises. But remember that just reading the exercise or even doing it once will not develop the skill. To form a skill, you need regular, and preferably daily repetitions of the exercise for at least one or two months.

The essence of the exercise is that at the moment when you are angry, you try to make up in your mind as many options as possible for how you can now express your anger. You need to come up with at least 20 options. While you are coming up with options, it is important to do nothing, namely to think and at the same time feel your anger in your body (i.e. direct your attention to the part of the body where you feel your anger).

For starters, you can practice while you are safely "dropping" your aggression, such as when you "squeeze the towel" at home. And then you can already try to practice the exercise in various situations in your life. Don't quit if you don't succeed the first time. Rarely does it work the first time. If you continue, you will almost certainly develop the habit of “thinking and being angry at the same time,” which will help you control how you express your aggression in the future.