One can only hear: ah, Parisians, ah, Parisians! Well Parisians. In fact, a real Muscovite is also a phenomenon. There are fewer and fewer of them left, they are leaving for quiet Europe, they are being crowded by lively provincial women, but they are still alive, they are simply invisible.
A real Muscovite is never in a hurry. Even if she is very late, she will not run anywhere, flushed. The myth of vain Moscow was created just by visitors, and they run around. Remember Sophia from “Woe from Wit”, is she rushing somewhere? Not! She doesn't watch at all.
But her boyfriend Molchalin, a guy with the skills of a careerist from the provinces, is just very fussy, he keeps clinging to those on the Forbes list. If a girl slowly wanders along Ostozhenka, looking around thoughtfully, most likely she is a Muscovite.
The poetess Bella Akhmadulina was the ideal Muscovite. Always moved slowly and a little distracted. And the speech of a real Muscovite is unhurried, these stretched vowels, over which they like to joke so much in the south of Russia: “Lord, why are you meowing like that?” A Muscovite does not meow, she lives and talks like that.
For example, Renata Litvinova's speech is very Moscow, especially when she is in "image". The remnants of this lingering speech are still kept by the actresses of the Maly Theater, who know well what “Moscow pronunciation” is, and this is a whole phonetic system, by the way. The smartest provincial girls even come to learn Moscow speech from older actresses and pay money for it.
And a real Muscovite speaks softly. She does not need to draw attention to herself, she is already quite pleased with herself. And if somewhere in a restaurant he allows himself to “recite”, then even then it’s easy to listen to it, every word is like a Kremlin ruby.
A real Muscovite is extremely stingy and graceful in gestures and movements. Waving her arms, wagging her hips and spinning is not about her. I know a girl from a very famous Moscow family. They are Muscovites in God knows what generation. All the men there are large, noisy, talkative. The men of the capital, as a rule, are fanfarons.
This friend of mine secretly teases violent relatives. And she herself is like a cute forget-me-not in a bouquet of peonies. Modest, quiet, ironic. Very unhurried. With excellent taste.
Yes, Muscovite. Reference. A real Muscovite will never dress pretentiously. Huge heels, wide open breasts, a plush skirt - this is a wild “bauvais ton”, this is “fu”. Unless a Muscovite goes to the Dashing 90s theme party. She does not need to conquer anyone, she does not fight with anyone, she is in her city.
That same girl from a famous family could dress up very expensively and brightly, the family is rich, but no. But she wears great-grandmother's earrings. Modest gold earrings, but great-grandmothers, also Muscovites.
There is one lady, now the owner of her brand and the heroine of gossip columns, so she once came from a distant town - which she now carefully hides - and simply tried to imitate her Muscovite classmates in clothes.
And found the perfect formula. Strict, say, a dress, but always some kind of joke: a large (and expensive!) brooch, a funny bag, bright yellow shoes. No, not all together, but one thing. Wow, it's very Moscow-like.
When this lady is being interviewed, she will definitely interject, drawing out her vowels: “As a Muscovite, I can say ...”. She fought for this status for many years, worked on herself. Now wears as a precious brooch.
And, finally, a real Muscovite will never put on makeup as if she is now shooting for the Beauty of Our District magazine. Restraint and again restraint. Yes, a true Muscovite has a pale face, so what? This has its own charm.
My friend of her youth, a Muscovite God knows in what generation, originally from the Patriarchs, did not make up at all. Well, just let her eyes down a little. And I, the dunce, itched all the time: “Well, let's make up your lips, well, let's do it somehow brighter, huh?” And one day she put on makeup for a date. To show me how terrible it is. Blush, lipstick, everything.
I winced, she laughed. But the horror went on. We went to the exhibition, she decided to stay in such a wild way. And at the exhibition they met my institute teacher, a very intelligent lady.
We said hello and I introduced my friend. The lady nodded affably to her and only with a slight movement of her eyebrows indicated her amazement with the “evening painting” on her face. A friend, of course, caught this movement.
And as soon as the lady and I parted ways, a friend ran to the toilet: flush everything! And she never experimented again. Muscovite, what do you say? Real Muscovite. There are fewer of them, but they are still alive, just invisible. They watch with sadness as new wild tribes fill the city. How the Moscow dialect disappears.
But a real Muscovite will never say “Come in large numbers!” She knows that her city has always been smeared with honey, that it is quite rubbery. She made peace with it a long time ago.
Moscow does not believe in tears, but everyone is eager to come here. When a Muscovite becomes completely dreary, she will go for a walk around the cemetery of the Donskoy Monastery, where her ancestors, great-grandfathers and great-grandmothers lie, and she will chat with them.
Without life guidelines, the fate of a person seems worthless, and going with the flow is a direct road to misfortune. So you don't want to be a gray mass! How to get to know yourself from a new side, if you always experience stress and other negativity? Why do social standards make a person a hostage of the system? What pitfalls await us on the path of self-realization and what should we expect? If every day can be compared to hard labor, and you turn into a “squeezed lemon” - this article will be useful to you.
Why is it important to know and understand yourself
“I lost myself and now I live as if by fate. I have gone too far that now it is difficult for me to get out of the vicious circle. How to put everything on the shelves, if a lot distracts me, and I can’t concentrate on the important? A similar thought can arise in every girl who is worried, at work or does not know at all what to do next.
If yesterday everything was fine, and today you see how you are slipping into the social bottom - it's time to ring the bell. Anxiety due to external factors (boss, girlfriend, boyfriend) and internal (complexes about appearance, low self-esteem) together destroy a holistic picture of the world.
If one element is missing that brings a boost of energy, made coffee in the morning or brought a good profit, then disgusting thoughts themselves begin to crawl into your head. Confused in yourself, and the world around you does not adapt to you and is increasingly confusing? You need to stock up on ambition to get out of the "rat race", which, so, is sickening. That is, stop blaming everything, shut yourself in, first of all, do not go down a slippery road, but take a sober look at the situation as a whole.
« Well, how to recognize yourself if you stay in a broken state for a long time. It's been going on for like a year now. Drinking, feeling depressed, losing a job, and constantly surfing the Internet have all taken away the ability to think straight. How can I start thinking about change if I don't understand where I can find a way out?". Many do not even imagine what can happen to them in the near future.
The presence of social benefits, the company of people who bring us pleasure, relationships, and above all, status - all this is not immune to drastic changes. The scammers stole the savings, and now the dreams of their own housing have flown away, "like plywood over Paris."
For many girls, the first romance is a signal to create strong family relationships ... and then this same man is already secretly dating another. We are tormented by failures on the way to a good job, starting a business, trying to please "important" people. All this falls on a person who was not ready for such a turn of events. He finally closes in on himself, without even considering a second chance or an alternative path.
The state of unconsciousness makes a person a victim, because he simply did not expect such a turn of events. The sad fate makes the once self-confident, successful, healthy girl into a kind of dull substance that has sunk to the very bottom. In a fit of anger at the world around us, we protect ourselves from those who are able to help us, appreciate us. Selfishness can make a person rude, irritable, pessimistic, which already reduces the chance of getting on your feet. The longer we stay in this state, the faster the prospects collapse.
If you think " I lost myself because of the problems that have piled on me”, then it’s better to ask “what is the best way to avoid them and not let them affect you?". It's like falling into a puddle and deciding to stay there as soon as possible to shake off the dirt. The state of the "lost person" can be compared to a logical task. The more you twist one situation, an idea, the more difficult it will be to unravel this Rubik's cube.
Often, trifles, minor troubles can get us out of a rut for a long time. Why blame yourself after a serious failure, feel remorse, go into long reflection, if you can avoid repeating it. Relationships that have already passed, for many months bring inner pain, obsessive thoughts ... but why? Why focus on what has already passed through, it is better to take care of a better future while there is time. In general, when you get confused in yourself, it is important not to stay in this state for a long time. So it is not far to a complete mess both in the head and in life.
Ways to know yourself better
Only a person who is strong by nature will want to know himself in order to become a leader in life. How to know yourself if you are not open, sincere and trust your inner feelings? Confidence in our lives comes when we begin to better understand the reasons for our success and failure. The most effective method of creating a harmonious personality is meditation. Everyone knows about it, but few use it. This practice not only allows you to concentrate, but also to collect all thoughts together. It is important to give the mind time to rest, to hear the emptiness.
At this time, you need to “focus” on the state of harmony and move away from all the fuss, nonsense that haunts. Such sessions make the girl organized, less prone to mood swings, free from frames. In order not to get confused internally, it is important to ask yourself questions:
- What am I striving for. A clear guide to action will show what prevents it from being done and what needs to be abandoned.
- What am I doing to be successful? A lot of things to do, a busy state, a flight of thoughts - all this is noise, without which it is easier to live. You need to learn minimalism. This style is applicable not only in the interior (which, by the way, is recommended), but also in psychology. It is important to pay attention to specific things that really work for your benefit.
- What am I doing against my success? There is not enough time to implement plans, and you constantly go to parties? Tired of being lethargic and indifferent to everything, but you do not try to communicate with others? It is worth discarding "bad habits" that waste time, money, and effort.
- What can I fully do for my happiness? Success is the binder of happiness. After all, we are all focused on it. Sometimes, money is not as important to us as recognition is important. We may not enjoy socializing with colleagues, but we want to climb the corporate ladder. We need to look ahead with regard to future prospects.
How to know yourself or advice against a mess in the head and soul.
Learn to be calm
Confused in yourself, but never learned to do deliberate things? It's like being in a quagmire and trying to move, which makes you drown even more. It is important to pull yourself together, to clearly understand what should be given the most attention. In a state of confusion, a pedestrian can make a wrong move and ... Therefore, no sudden movements, but only peace, composure, no panic.
stop spraying
Clutter is needed to confuse you, but then what's the point? Everyone should have a strategy for the near future. This just does not allow a person to fall apart and fall from any changes. You need to analyze your ideas, which bring the most enthusiasm. High-quality, interesting thoughts should be written down on paper and, on the contrary, it should be noted that it is possible to do this in reality. The strategy allows you to reconsider your view of the situation, and now we really need a sober head!
Don't waste energy on stress
How to recognize yourself if you constantly get out of control, rage right and left? Stress (aka negative) is a weighting agent, a bag. Gradually, this bag is filled, loading the person with renewed vigor. Under pressure it is already more difficult to cope, so you should not allow yourself to be driven into a corner. Stress "beautifully" takes away energy, without which we cannot be cheerful, free, confident. Then any process begins not with "I will be today ...", but already with the phrase "It's hard for me to concentrate, I won't be able to cope with this." The negative flow of emotions narrows the chances that we will move mountains.
Separate truth from imposed values
It’s not tasty to eat an unpeeled pomegranate, it’s also difficult to live if you don’t separate important things from unnecessary ones. There is so much rubbish, provocations, false values, vulgar upbringing and outdated norms around that we reflexively close ourselves or go headlong into the unknown.
When a child was taught in childhood that you need to study, you need it for work, and then he realizes that he does not want to go to university, but wants to be an actor - here there is a failure in the system. The desire to work on oneself, and not on other people's ideals, makes a person a hostage to circumstances. This is where confusion from hopelessness arises - to follow the standard program or try to run away to your dream. Getting out of the comfort zone is difficult for many, which is why they wipe the entrance to the doors for years without even knocking on them.
Think about your great work
Everyone should have a goal, and if there is none, then life is empty. When you get lost, you have two options - to “bait” yourself with thoughts about the worthlessness of existence, or to clear your way to this goal. It is important to look at your life from the side as an outsider.
If you live in a "stable" that has not been cleaned of meaningless actions, empty ideas for a long time, then you should start thinking systematically. If you look at your situation from above, you can see open opportunities. We can stubbornly beat against one wall, but do not see that the exit lies nearby. It is worth paying attention to your inner values, which tell us the ways of self-realization.
Turn off playwright mode
Confused in yourself, and everyone does not understand you, neglect you? This is an occasion not to make yourself a victim, but to give yourself a moral shake-up. You can get out of an empty place if you force yourself to take responsibility for your actions. Any action has consequences that may be the reason for your "I'm confused, I can't get out now." You can turn on the “weak and defenseless girl” mode, but this is literally for a short time! Then you need to find strength and not despair.
You have learned and your place in life. Changes for the better will not make you wait long and very soon you will be grateful for such a life experience. Everyone needs a state of search to understand their future. It is quite possible that now you are going through a new stage, which will give excellent prospects. Believe in yourself and rely on your strengths. You will succeed!
We come into this world for a reason. There is an opinion that each of us has his own mission on Earth, which we must fulfill in order to find happiness. And numerology will help to find out the purpose in life.
Life puts us in front of difficulties and problems for a reason - this is a sign that indicates that we are not fulfilling our destiny. Troubles and misfortunes will continue until a person understands his task and the meaning of existence in this world. Having fulfilled his destiny, he receives everything that he dreamed of and finds happiness.
Numerologists offer to calculate your destiny using name numerology. Each letter of the alphabet corresponds to a certain number, which radiates its own vibrations. Having calculated the numerology of your name, you can find out your purpose in life right now.
Calculation of the numerology of the name, surname and patronymic
- 1 - these are the letters A, K, U, b
- 2 are the letters B, L, F, E
- 3 is the letters B, M, X, Yu
- 4 - these are the letters G, H, C, I
- 5 is the letters D, O, H
- 6 are the letters E, P, W
- 7 - these are the letters Zh, R, U
- 8 are the letters Z, C, b
- 9 is the letters I, T, Y
According to this numerological table, you need to find out the number of each letter in your name, surname and patronymic, then add up all the numbers received and bring the result to a single digit by adding the numbers that make it up.
Here's an example:
- Mary 3+1+7+9+4=24
- Ivanovna 9+3+1+4+5+3+4+1=30
- Elina 6+2+9+4+1=22
The resulting numbers of the first name (24), last name (22) and patronymic (30) must be added: 24 + 22 + 30 = 76. The number 76 needs to be reduced to a single-valued form, which means you need to add 7 + 6 = 13, then add 1 + 3 = 4.
The four in the given example will be the numerological number of the name, surname and patronymic. By this number, you can determine your purpose in life.
The meaning of numbers in the numerology of the name
1 Your mission is to lead people. By nature, you are a leader. If you do not feel like leadership qualities, then you need to develop them. When you begin to manage your own life and become a leader in any circle of people, then your life will become much easier, and you can achieve everything you want.
2 - your mission is to create peace and tranquility around you. Your mission in life is to build relationships with the people around you, reconcile those who have quarreled and always stand up for the weak.
3 - your life goal is to convey your thoughts and worldview to the world. You need to express your emotions and aspirations more often in creativity: on paper, on canvas, in dance and so on. According to name numerology, you are the bearer of everything beautiful that exists in this world, and your task is to make life brighter, more colorful and kinder.
4 - your mission is to create something useful for society. Your work must be useful to the world around you. If everything you do benefits only you, then you are not on the right track.
5 - your mission is to bring positive emotions and goodness to people. You will be able to fulfill your life purpose only when you begin to enjoy every day you live and love life, whatever it is.
6 - your destiny is the continuation of the human race. When you find a family and achieve inner harmony, you can achieve real happiness.
7 - your mission, according to the numerology of the name, is to bring knowledge to people, share your experience and guide them on the true path.
8 - your destiny is the parallel development of the spiritual and material in life. If you strive for one thing, then life will not be able to give you what you want.
9 - your mission is to help people and compassion. Nine people are called upon to help those in need and not demand anything in return for it.
Numerology of first and last name will help you find your purpose and change your life for the better. Be happy and don't forget to press the buttons and
12.02.2014 15:00
Esotericists claim that the name affects the fate of a person. With the help of the numerology of the name, you can determine which ...
It's no secret that at first it is external attractiveness that awakens the mutual sympathy of a man and a woman. Well, like "They meet by clothes, but see off by mind."
However, there is one problem with this: it is impossible to judge a person’s character by appearance. Not all people can read a person’s hidden messages by clothes, facial expressions, gestures, and the like.
Ordinary people just look at appearances and sympathy arises. And that's all. This sympathy can develop into love. But this love is superficial, because what can you “fall in love with” if the acquaintance lasts only a few hours or days?
Except perhaps in the image that a person invented for himself. After all, a person still does not know anything about who he “fell in love with”, neither about his character, nor about what he thinks and how, nor about his plans, goals for life, about his fears, hopes, habits, skills and abilities… Man touched only, only, the outer shell of a man, but not his inner world.
Appearance can be easily misleading. It is like a bright wrapper that means absolutely nothing and says nothing about what exactly is contained inside. After all, it happens that under the most beautiful wrapper the most useless gift is hidden.
The external attraction of a reckless person is like a golden ring in a pig's nose. Beauty will not make him more attractive, just as an exquisite nose ring will not give charm to a pig. It often happens that an outwardly beautiful person, when in contact with some difficult circumstances, behaves completely inadequately.
What a mistake it would be to fall in love with the appearance of a person, completely without regard to his internal qualities.
You can avoid the dangers and disappointments that so many people have already endured if you learn to distinguish between infatuation and love.
Love and infatuation - what's the difference?
ENTHUSIASM
Selfless concern for the interests of a loved one.
Selfishly, deprives of freedom of action. A person has expectations about what will happen to him from what he is involved in.
Romantic feelings appear gradually, perhaps over several months or even years.
Romantic feelings arise quickly, perhaps within hours or days.
You are attracted by the character of a person and his spiritual qualities.
You were deeply impressed or attracted by the appearance of a person (“He has incomparable eyes”, “She has such a figure - you will rock!”
These relationships make you a better person.
Everything goes upside down, the usual rhythm of life is lost.
You perceive a person as he is, with all his shortcomings, but still love him.
You are out of touch with reality. The person seems perfect to you. You brush aside any doubts caused by his serious shortcomings.
You have disagreements, but you manage to discuss problems and resolve them.
You often argue. The problems remain essentially unresolved. A lot of things are "settled" with a kiss.
You have a constant desire to give something to the object of your love, to share with him.
You think more about taking and receiving, especially in satisfying your sexual desires.
Infatuation cannot be called love. Such "lovers" break away from reality and care and think only about themselves. They tend to say, “Next to this person, I feel like I’m really worth something. I lost / lost sleep, everything is so wonderful that I can’t even believe it. ” “I feel so good with him/her.” Note that when a person talks a lot about himself and his feelings, this is selfishness. And therefore, relationships built on selfishness are destroyed sooner or later.
Since true love is selfless and does not seek self-interest, it is not imbued with selfishness and does not neglect the interests of another person. It is true that two people can experience strong feelings and mutual attraction. But these feelings must be balanced by prudence and deep respect for each other.
If you truly love a person, his well-being and happiness will excite you as much as your own. And you will not let violent passion take over your mind.
Blessings to you and wisdom!!!
Vladislav, there is no strength left because emotional upheavals take them away. No emotional shock passes without a trace, especially if it is not a "Happy End".
Strength must be sought from Him Who Himself is the source of all strength, and renewal is also from Him...
If there is no strength left, then ask Him, He gives simply and without reproaches to everyone who asks. Well, if you don’t ask, but try to recover on your own, then you can break.
Another key to renewal is to forgive those through whom strength has been lost. I also have a blog about how to forgive, you can read.
