Mental digestion for me is a convenient and simple, and most importantly, an effective way to solve life's problems. It took shape about ten years ago, when my family and I moved from one city to another. Everything has completely changed. New job, new friends - everything is new. New job, new friends - everything is new. It was necessary to rebuild, adapt and relearn, just survive. A TOOL was required for survival. Experience in psychology, yoga, NLP, etc. I have...

I think anyone reading this article is familiar with what mental pain is. And probably not only in theory.

Mental pain is sometimes the result of psychological trauma - fresh or one that was received earlier.

Psychological trauma is a person's reaction to a significant event that initiates emotional negative experiences of sufficient duration and varying degrees of intensity.

Someone experiences feelings resulting from psychological trauma more often, someone less often. It...

It would seem, what is the connection between memory impairment and problems at work, or between being overweight and increased nervousness? It turns out it's straight. And the saying "all our illnesses are from the nerves" is not without meaning, because physical health really largely depends on mental health.

To find out why “mental” problems arise and how to overcome them, we “visited an appointment” with a psychotherapist of the highest category, Candidate of Medical Sciences Grigory Rozhkovsky.

Save our souls...

At first, perhaps ... Mmm ... Every night I have nightmares .. Disgusting thoughts torment .. Constant fatigue .. As if you don’t even remember what joy is .. And you want to cry .. But you can’t already .. And only emptiness inside ... And a constant feeling of pain ... Attacks of anguish ... A sickening voice in my head ... And only pain ... Constant pain ...

Spiritual... Physical... And you don't remember what happened before - fatigue, or it came from this state... I just don't know who to turn to... Who to say...

Hello! I study at school and due to the fact that I was ill for a month, I had problems with certification. I had to run around all the teachers and beg for at least threes, and I just moved to this school. I am very shy and this is extremely difficult for me.

It wore me out. Plus conflicts in the family. And lately I've been tired all the time. I just want to lie down and do nothing. There is not even the slightest desire to communicate with someone, to walk, to study, after all. How to get rid of this...

It would seem that everything was developing dynamically .. The usual schedule: work-home-work-home. On weekends, there is no strength and desire to go anywhere.

Sudden desire to cook and interest in cooking, which previously, if it appeared, then disappeared after a couple of weeks. And now it's been more than 1.5 months, and it doesn't even disappear.

I'm 22. I recently took my first vacation - work, and rightly deserved. I thought: I’ll sort out some things, get some sleep, go somewhere. Or maybe I won't. I'll turn off my phones and seek solitude. It...

“It seems to me that in order to get closer to it, you need to part with some of the false ideas that exist in the modern world. For example, that material goods (a higher salary or an expensive car) can bring happiness and peace of mind into our lives.

Inner comfort and emotional satisfaction are much more important than external well-being - the source of happiness is within us, not outside. This is easy to understand by reflecting on your own experience. Mental, emotional...

I am with my loved one. I feel that he loves me and cares in every possible way. We met by chance when I arrived in the city where he lives with a friend. And it spun. I feel good with him, very comfortable. He tries his best to make me feel good. We are getting married in the spring.

But he lived alone for a long time and seems to have lost the habit of having someone else in the house. Sometimes you want to howl from the sounds of football, dishes placed everywhere. It's insanely frustrating that he doesn't come to sleep with me when I call, though...

Life in the modern world is full of stress and excitement. Every day we meet with a huge number of people and are forced to adapt to someone else's mood. This puts a lot of emotional pressure on you. Therefore, quite often there is a desire to escape from this huge noisy world to a quiet secluded corner. The impossibility of fulfilling such a simple desire causes a feeling of irritation and anger at the people around. We begin to annoy any little thing, words or actions of other people. I want to howl from hopelessness and destroy everything right and left.

The world around us is oversaturated with information - it literally envelops us. And we are forced to endlessly choose and make decisions. And this greatly depletes our willpower, because it is always difficult to choose, and decision-making implies awareness and acceptance of all the consequences of our choice. Life is becoming more and more unnatural. Natural lighting, heat and coolness are replaced by artificial ones. Working and living in artificial conditions, a person is increasingly moving away from nature and his nature.

The lack of stability has made life less secure. You have to live in constant tension, and this contributes to the development of paranoia and constant anxiety. The concept of trust in other people, especially close ones, is gradually being replaced by distrust. In every act or word, we are looking for a hidden meaning or catch. And it's even more exhausting. Simple politeness on the part of a stranger causes surprise, and sometimes irritation. A kind smile is increasingly answered with malicious stinging remarks. Therefore, communication with people is increasingly causing negative emotions.

Another important factor that suppresses everything beautiful and bright in the world is the lack of meaning in life. Until the beginning of the 19th century, people believed that it was necessary to lead a righteous life, help others and do universal and universal good. In the modern world, the very concept of righteousness is distorted, and good deeds most often hide a clear calculation and a thirst for profit.

What is psychological fatigue

Physical fatigue is a consequence of heavy loads on the body, muscles and joints. Our body tells us that physical resources are already running out and it's time to relax, replenish internal reserves, give the body time to relieve stress. Getting rid of physical fatigue is quite simple: get enough sleep, rest - and that's it. But with psychological fatigue, not everything is so simple.

An unpleasant inner feeling, irritability, depression and apathy - all this is psychological fatigue. This is the so-called emotional burnout. And a simple, even complete, rest will not be able to overcome it.

First, there is a feeling of indifference to the outside world, then favorite things and activities begin to irritate and seem no longer so attractive. I want to protect myself from communicating with people as much as possible, and any attempts to talk to you cause unmotivated bouts of anger. And you take out your irritation on everything that surrounds you. And it is the people closest to you who suffer the most in this situation.

If you do not stop in time, then this state will gradually become a habit and you will no longer realize what exactly is happening to you, why everyone around you is so annoying and everything causes only a feeling of disgust.

How to get rid of fatigue

Getting rid of psychological fatigue is not easy. Simple walks alone, sleeping until lunch on weekends will not correct the situation. And if you also start avoiding people in order to limit your communication with them, then everything can only get worse. A feeling of loneliness will begin to appear, it will seem to you that everyone has left you and no one needs you.

First of all, you should realize what exactly causes your negative emotions, and understand the reasons for their occurrence. Once you have decided on these two points, it will be possible to deal with the technique of restoring the psychological state.

Most often, the sources of psychological fatigue are some traits of a person’s character. Perfectionists suffer from the slightest mistake or the inability to do everything perfectly. The same applies to proud people - they cannot forgive others for inappropriate behavior or an erroneous judgment that is at odds with their own judgments and opinions.

Learn to forgive and ask for forgiveness

In general, intransigence with the wrong actions or judgments of others is the main source of irritation. An unsuccessful attempt to impose or prove one's opinion causes a whole storm of negative emotions. And the inability to forgive or come to terms with someone else's opinion settles down as a heavy burden and is a constant source of irritable state.

In such a situation, the most effective way to get rid of negative emotions is forgiveness. Made a mistake? Fix it and don't beat yourself up. After all, everything in this world can be fixed. And if you feel guilty, ask for forgiveness. You will not lose, but you will feel free without a heavy burden of guilt. Did someone make a mistake? Don't get angry, give it a chance to fix it and forgive him. Everyone will benefit from this: you - because the work is done, the delinquent - he will not be tormented by doubts and guilt.

Learn to say "no"

Sometimes it's quite difficult to refuse someone's request, especially if we are very persistently asked. If you are confident in your abilities and capabilities, then agree. If you are in any doubt about anything, refuse. No need to torment yourself with unnecessary doubts and thoughts. Doing work under pressure, you will get tired faster, and the end result will not please you.

You also need to learn how to say “no” to yourself. Excessive demands on others will put pressure on them. Your presence will only irritate the people around you, and all the negativity will be manifested in actions and words addressed to you. Therefore, it is not worth motivating your demands with the phrase “I can, so others can”. Each person has their own potential and strengths. This is something to keep in mind when making a request. Then the result of the work performed will please, and the overall impression of communication will be positive.

Do good and be generous

Acts of kindness or simple politeness already carry positive charges of energy. Even a bit of kindness will evoke positive emotions in your opponent, and in return you will receive your portion of reciprocal positive energy. Do good deeds without asking for anything in return. Reciprocal gratitude will be a pleasant reward for you.

Perform daily rituals

We each have our own habits. Someone in the morning likes to drink a cup of coffee in silence, the other takes daily walks. In order to improve your psychological state, turn your favorite habits into a secret ritual. The realization that you are performing some kind of sacrament causes a whole storm of positive emotions.

indulge in dreams

You need to dream every day, it's like charging for the imagination and mind. You dream, you hope, you anticipate, and you heal your depression. And even if your dream is difficult to realize, do not stop dreaming. This world is full of miracles, and perhaps someday it will come true.

Treat yourself to small pleasures. Even ordinary bath procedures can be turned into an unforgettable pastime. Allow yourself more positive emotions - and your condition will improve.

Fatigue, apathy, disappointment... Is it time to change jobs?

They say that happiness is when you happily go to work in the morning and return home joyfully in the evening. It is hard to argue with the fact that well-being in the professional and personal spheres of life is extremely important for each of us. Everything, however, flows, everything changes, and if we talk about work, then sooner or later enthusiasm and cheerfulness are replaced by fatigue, doubts, and even disappointment. When such feelings come, it is important not to make mistakes, not to "cut off the shoulder", but to figure out what is happening.

Fatigue is not a problem

"I'm just tired," a person often says to himself, feeling that the once beloved work has ceased to bring its former joy and satisfaction. What is it: self-deception or truth? Finding the answer to the question is not difficult: you just need to give yourself a rest.

Take time out after difficult negotiations. Take a break after completing a big project. Do not deal with work matters when you come home. And, of course, dedicate your vacation to having a good rest!

A good rest means not thinking about business, giving a break to tired muscles and activating inactive ones.

They calm, bring joy and an optimistic attitude to doing your favorite hobby. Since emotions are closely related to the body, it would not be an exaggeration to say that a good mood contributes to a better functioning of the internal organs: as has long been known, the wounds of the winners heal faster.

If the rest does not return you to a cheerful, energetic state, there is reason to assume that you are experiencing a psychological crisis in your professional area.

Burning without fire

The main symptom of a professional psychological crisis is a change in a person's attitude to his work. There is a feeling of devastation: "I don't want anything anymore", "I'm tired of everything." Interest is replaced by detachment. Enthusiasm is replaced by disappointment. The attitude towards other people - colleagues or clients - also changes: internal irritation, initially restrained, breaks through outbursts of accusations, sarcastic remarks, or even rudeness. Another manifestation is also possible: detachment from colleagues, distancing from everything that happens in the company. A feeling of own inadequacy is growing: "I can't do anything," "I'm a bad specialist."

The psychological crisis tends to intensify. A person begins to do his job formally. Indifference can develop into a feeling of helplessness and hopelessness. The state of health worsens and various physical symptoms appear: headaches, sleep disturbance, asthenia, changes in normal pressure and weight for a person. At this stage, often, alas, people resort to alcohol. There is a crisis. What to do?

looking for a way out

The psychological crisis in the professional sphere has internal psychological causes, and in order to cope with it, you need to understand these reasons.

It seems that an evil boss, stupid colleagues, harmful clients and other external circumstances are to blame for our troubles. Alas, we like to look for lost keys where the lantern burns, and not where we dropped them.

To understand why your attitude towards work has changed for the worse, you need to analyze your expectations, hopes and plans related to professional activities. Probably, some of them, moreover, important for you, turned out to be unrealized. If this is indeed the case, then consider whether you can make a difference by staying at your current job. Can you? So, it's too early to think about the transition.

If you dig even deeper, then you should think about why, based on what considerations, you chose this job. Was it your own decision or was it influenced by other people's opinions? Was the choice made by someone else for you? It's time to take life into your own hands.

Finally, you need to think about whether your character, your individual characteristics and traits correspond to the work that you do, to the requirements that it makes. Mismatches and inconsistencies can be the real causes of burnout.

Is it difficult? I agree. But not all problems have simple solutions.

Those realizations and discoveries that you come to will tell you what to do next: look for a way to adapt to the situation, develop your stress tolerance, communication skills and other skills, improve your professional level or, nevertheless, change your job, or even a professional one. sphere.

Research by American psychologists led by the famous Martin Seligman led to the conclusion that the right job meets three main criteria: (1) you enjoy doing it; (2) you see meaning in what you do; (3) in doing your job, you use your strengths, talents and abilities.

Check if what you are doing meets these criteria.

Suppose that your work has successfully passed such a test, but you still have a feeling of dissatisfaction. This may mean that you have chosen your profession correctly, and the problems are related to a specific place of work, specific people and circumstances. In this case, adequate measures must be taken: to improve relationships, resolve conflicts, and solve current problems. To do this, you will probably have to master the missing skills through special training.

If the analysis shows that your work does not correspond to your true "I" and your needs, then "cosmetic" measures will not help, and the right decision is to change the professional field. Of course, it is difficult, but otherwise you can spend your whole life on something that is not your own.

Measure seven times...

In the recent past, it was considered right in our country to stay in one place of work for decades. The same is true, for example, in modern Japan. We now often say that it is desirable to change jobs approximately every three years.

As a psychologist, I cannot agree with this.

At different stages of his professional path, a person solves different problems. At the beginning, it is especially important to gain practical experience and have prospects for further professional growth. Of course, if you find yourself in a situation where neither is possible, you will most likely have to leave. But it is wrong to automatically measure your service life in a given company for three years, or five, or seven. All people are different: some like novelty, change, new people, new tasks, new professional areas; others value stability, deepening into a certain range of issues, established relationships. It is necessary not to focus on fashion, trends and trends, but to hear yourself and be yourself.

Laying stones or building a cathedral?

A well-known parable tells of a traveler who came to the city and saw a large construction site. "What are you doing?" - the traveler asked the builder. "I'm laying stones," he replied. Walking a little further, the traveler asked the same question to another builder. "I make money" was the answer. And the traveler asked the third person about the same, and he answered: "I am building a cathedral that will stand for centuries and glorify our city!" From the point of view of an external observer, all three did exactly the same actions. But everyone put a different meaning into their work, which means they treated it differently, that is, the feelings in relation to their work among the three builders are different. Probably, obviously, which of them is not threatened by emotional burnout and a professional crisis in the near future?

Find in your work a deep personal meaning, what is truly important and valuable for you. If the old meaning that you put into your work is already devalued (this happens, and this is normal), find a new one. Attitude to work as a particularly important occupation for you will allow you not to take to heart individual unpleasant episodes, incomplete coincidences of wishes and reality, small “scratches” that are inevitable in communication.

If self-help is ineffective, a psychologist-consultant will help to cope with a professional crisis. Most likely, a way out will be found quickly, in one or two consultations. And "the game is worth the candle": we give too much time and effort to work to do it through "I don't want to!".

Although modern women have at their disposal washing machines, multicookers and other benefits of technological progress, the hustle and bustle, household chores and caring for children take all their strength. After a hard day, I want to go to bed and forget about all the problems. Days merge into an endless dull stream, weekends practically do not differ from weekdays. Already in the morning there is no strength, no desire to do anything. This condition is called chronic fatigue. Its psychology lies in the fact that even rest does not leave a pleasant aftertaste.

If ordinary fatigue is easily removed by a good sleep or outdoor recreation, then chronic fatigue is not so easy to get rid of. Its psychology is that a person feels "broken" both morally and physically, he is not interested in his favorite hobbies, he does not get satisfaction from anything.

Chronic fatigue negatively affects all areas of life. It becomes the background of life, it is accompanied by anxiety and restlessness. Increased fatigue reduces efficiency, vitality - human psychology changes. Moral depression is accompanied by muscle pain, weakness.

When a person lives in such a state for some time, his concentration of attention worsens, unreasonable fears appear - such is psychology. There may be sleep disturbances, loss of appetite, malfunctions of the gastrointestinal tract, irritability.

Human psychology: why does chronic fatigue occur?

Books on psychology assure that the causes can be of a different nature, but most often they are observed in combination.

Immune fatigue appears due to problems associated with the psychological state of a person. Failures lead to despair, stress, immunity decreases and diseases “cling” to a person.

Doctors believe that the symptoms of overwork can be caused by Coxsackie, Epstein-Barr, herpes simplex viruses. Antibodies that are produced in the body cause muscle pain, malaise, weakness, fever.

If the psychology of fatigue is rooted in genetics, then the human code has deviations from the norm.

Most often, chronic fatigue develops due to stress. A person spends time solving psychological problems, but does not know where to draw energy from. He is trying to justify himself to himself and find the reasons why he is engaged in “raping” his psyche.

Books on psychology say that fatigue, which is of a stressful nature, can be attributed to an unfavorable psychological atmosphere, lack of prospects, inconsistency with one's own high standards.

No less common is information fatigue. Our brain processes such an amount of conflicting data that our own reality begins to be synthesized - such is human psychology. Information intoxication makes us worry, because "a crisis is coming", "we need to prepare for the worst." These and other forecasts automatically drive you into depression.

Wrong lifestyle, bad habits, bad ecology can also lead to a lack of energy. Human psychology is such that he does not always know how to adapt to the conditions in which life puts him. When intellectual and emotional loads increase, the body can fail.

To regain your vitality, you need to invest in everything that promotes development - this is what books on psychology advise. You can change your appearance, learn a foreign language, go in for sports. Any event that will make the image complete, add new facets, will do. The evolutionary program laid down on the subconscious will itself find resources for development.

It is very difficult to change the usual way of life at one moment, so every day you need to make at least one attempt to fix everything.

Start by cleaning your home. Throw away all unnecessary things that you have not used for a long time. Delete old bookmarks on the computer, update the playlist, remove all the trash that has accumulated in the desktop drawers.

Dose the amount of information that comes to you from outside. Info-diet will help clear the brain and put together your own vision of the world. Watch the news less, especially with a negative color.

Filter your own environment. Minimize contact with people who cause negative emotions in you. A whining girlfriend, disgruntled colleagues and other unattractive personalities prevent you from seeing simple pleasures. Show people that you are not ready to be a "cesspool" for their negative emotions.

Constantly find yourself a thing that will make you move at least for 10 minutes. The body will begin to give you resources for any activity that arouses interest. This is human psychology.

Pay attention to food. Harmful and heavy food leads to the degradation of the body. Limit the consumption of fatty, spicy foods, sweets, flour products, alcohol. No need to "jam" stress. It is written in books on psychology that uncontrolled eating is a signal to the body that a person wants to die. Such an installation triggers the mechanism of self-destruction.

Strictly follow your daily routine. Determine the time of rise, meals, lights out. When the schedule is stable, it is easier for the body to adapt to the loads - this is our psychology. Before breakfast, take a cool shower - it will help to cheer up and recharge your batteries. After water procedures, blood circulation improves, work normalizes. of cardio-vascular system.

Give your body moderate exercise every day. A small warm-up will add strength, improve vascular tone, and increase blood circulation. Particular attention should be paid to the cervical spine - there are vessels that contribute to the nutrition of the brain.

The main reason for chronic fatigue is the lack of desire to evolve. First of all, you need to fight it with her. When a person begins to improve and develop, forces are found - such is psychology. Chronic fatigue can only be defeated by action.

Try to surround yourself with people who inspire you. If you still have to communicate with those who drain you, find a way to replenish your energy reserves after such communication.

Our mind absorbs like a sponge all the interactions with other people that we make every day. There are people whose communication inspires us, they give us support, positivity and energy. However, there are those who, almost imperceptibly for us, harm us: communication with them tires us. This fatigue has nothing to do with physical activity, it is not the same as if we were lifting weights or running a marathon. We are talking about mental fatigue.

Why communication with some inspires us, and with others tires

We know from neuroscience and psychology that the brain works differently depending on whether you are an extrovert or an introvert. The introvert brain, for example, needs moments of solitude in order to "recharge its batteries."

If such people are forced to actively communicate for a long time, or there is someone very talkative, inquisitive, critical or impulsive next to them, this inevitably leads to significant mental overload.

We all have our own threshold of vulnerability. However, we must also acknowledge another equally curious fact.

• There are people who have special magic and light that make our lives better.
• In addition, there are also those who see the problem in every solution. Which bring us a storm even on the most cloudless day.

We invite you to think about these things, because they happen in everyone's life.

People who inspire communication

Among our friends or among our family members, there are always those who inspire us. There are those people whom we sincerely love, because they are real treasures. They give us the strength to become stronger every day.

They are the real pillars of our lives. We find support from them and can move away from many things that bother us or cause doubts.

Their wisdom is not based on books, but is acquired through life experience, as a reflection of the intuitive and intellectual mind.

What other qualities do they have?

People who inspire us and who care about us

There are friends who don't even need to say anything. They look into our eyes and read between the lines. They don't need to do anything else, they just know when we need support or when we need to speak out, relieving tension.

• Such abilities appear due to the fact that the right hemisphere is well developed in their brain. This area is responsible for reflection, creativity, and also gives the ability to sensitively observe and connects us with the emotional world.
• The person who inspires understands the principle of reciprocity. The need to give and take in order to create emotional connections where everyone wins and no one loses.
• In turn, they never show arrogance to show that they know more than we do.

because the one who inspires us does not suppress. On the contrary, he understands the right of everyone to their point of view. They are an example for us, but they respect our choice, our thoughts and opinions.

People who drain

As we noted at the beginning, each of us has our own threshold of vulnerability in relationships with other people.

If you are an extrovert, you don't get tired of dealing with sassy people who are constantly cracking jokes or are just very energetic.

However, if our brains are working in a more relaxed mode, it's possible that some personality types leave us powerless and wanting.

However, there is also one thing that everyone agrees on: there are people whose behavior causes physical and psychological harm.

Here are the signs that characterize them:

• They are a constant source of negativity.
• They focus only on problems, complaints and criticism. Their glass is always half empty and they see the dark side of the moon.
• In addition to negativity and a strong belief that the whole world is against them, such people do not respect anyone and are extremely selfish.
• Their conversation always starts and ends with "I". They can't see beyond their noses and limit themselves to what is of interest to them.

It is not at all easy to live next to such people whose minds are always closed and who cannot open their eyes to see what is in their hearts.

However, we all often encounter them in the family or at work. Therefore, further we will tell you how to behave next to such individuals.

How to survive next to people who bore us

We are not saying that you need to run away from them. Indeed, in every family there is a person who exhausts us with his presence and it is impossible to conduct a normal dialogue with him.

At work, we also meet such people every day.

• We must learn to keep our distance, respectfully but decisively.
• If they are used to “leaking” complaints and criticism about you, let them clearly understand that these conversations are boring you and you are not interested.
• Do not provoke such behavior, never encourage them.
• Keep a respectful distance from these people, making it clear that you understand and respect them, but your way of life and thoughts is fundamentally different.
• If you are forced to spend many hours interacting with such individuals, try to talk a little, try not to listen to them and imagine something quiet and calm.

Later, try to do something nice for you and try not to attach too much importance to the words and actions of these people.