Statement:
Introverts prefer loneliness to the company of people.
More recently, the tendency to introversion tried to hide. It was everywhere perceived as a disadvantage that should be smoothed out - or compensated for by something else. Susan Cain's 2012 book Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking changed everything. Largely thanks to her, public opinion has ceased to put pressure on people who prefer peace to noisy parties - the mass consciousness has accepted introverts.
adam grant
professor of business at the Wharton School of Business
“When I asked an audience of 200 students in 2011 which one of them was an introvert, only a few people raised their hands. In 2013, more than a third raised their hands. Is this due to the fact that more introverts got into the new stream? No. Anonymous testing showed that both streams were almost the same. On a scale where 1 is complete introversion and 5 is complete extraversion, the coefficients were as follows: 3.34 in 2011 and 3.39 in 2013.”
Why is it not:
Introverts like to communicate with people just as much as extroverts - the difference is in how both groups react to stimuli.
Communication is one of the primary needs for any person, whatever his character. This is why introverts spend as much time with people as extroverts. To say that extroverts are energized by communicating with people, and introverts - being alone, is not entirely correct. It's not about communication itself, but about how people's nervous system reacts to all stimuli - from coffee to the environment. Introverts perceive stimuli more sharply and get tired faster, while extroverts find pleasure in them. At the same time, an introvert is unlikely to refuse to talk to a person of interest to him, but rather prefers that the conversation take place in a calmer place.
Introversion is not the reason why a person cannot communicate. Moreover, introverts can be more effective in communication than extroverts, who sometimes turn acquaintances and colleagues against themselves with their behavior: the fact that extroverts experience more positive emotions does not mean that people around them also experience more positive emotions. The vast majority are generally classified as ambiverts, occupying a place in the central part of the scale of introversion - extraversion. Their behavior can be contradictory, depending on the situation: ambiverts show signs of either introversion or extraversion. So the main thing is not what psychological type you are, but how well you know your advantages and disadvantages, skillfully use them.
How to communicate with people if I do not like to talk?
Will have to learn. If you don't like to talk, then they won't like to talk to you. I myself, by nature, very unsociable, taciturn. But realizing that it hurts me a lot in life, I re-educated myself. Now I communicate very sincerely, benevolently, willingly make contact. Many good people appeared around, many sympathetic and kind comrades, acquaintances and friends. We must not just think well of people and wish them happiness and good luck in our hearts. You don't just have to be silent. You have to tell these people out loud. After all, people are not psychics to read our thoughts and understand in our silence our good qualities and our kindness and disposition towards them. Our silence causes only wariness, bewilderment, even sometimes, hostility and alienation of others. It seems to us that the way we treat the world is the way it should respond to us. But it's not. As we communicate with the world, so the world responds to us.
Imagine, my situation is exactly the opposite: I like to talk, but I absolutely hate to communicate with people. At the thought that now you need to go to the store, see people, moreover, communicate with them, everything turns over in your soul. And you also have to go to school, greet your neighbors, answer their typical, stereotypical questions. Whenever someone starts asking me a question on the street, I get jittery, and when a passer-by who wants to ask me the way, the time, or some advertiser is already behind me, I still have an unpleasant feeling of some kind of heaviness in my soul. , discomfort, nervousness. I always seem to look ridiculous. In general, I try to keep a distance between myself and people, not because people are so bad and I think that the world is corrupted - not at all! I have a very good attitude towards people and really do not like it when they start to scold the world and humanity. But I just do not feel the strength to communicate. I have such a gaping emptiness and weakness in my soul, my nerves are like bare wires - weak and exhausted. Sun because of a too busy schedule, sleepless nights and very long stress and exhausting prolonged depression.
And I solved the problem with a limited circle of contacts. Unfortunately, due to my prolonged severe psycho-emotional state, two friends, whom I considered very close, turned away from me. But I still have a person who, although not my friend, treats me well. He knows my features, my strengths and weaknesses, strengths and weaknesses, he understands me, and I can be myself with him - when necessary - to be silent, when necessary - to speak. I don't need to be forcefully oarish or forcedly talkative with him. He always understands my condition and sees without words that I have problems. With him, I can be myself.
Perhaps the same solution will work for you. If you do not like to talk, the forced, forced obligation to talk will not make you happy, sooner or later you will start to shun and avoid society in order to be yourself. Finding a best friend is not so easy, but perhaps you already have a person who you can trust and who knows you well and accepts you for who you are.
Society always loves those who are active, cheerful, have a good sense of humor, amuse everyone, communicate a lot. There are people who are extroverts, and there are people who are introverts. For the former, being the soul of the company is not only easy, but even necessary; for the latter, it is sometimes even impossible. These are innate personality types, a person only has to take into account his own characteristics and arrange his life based on them.
You can be a quiet, calm person, and if you don't get sick of people like me, just be in their company, but without talking as much as you might like.
Try to find one person in the company of people and communicate not with everyone at once, but with one person, it will be easier.
Don't want to talk? Not worth it. Your body knows what is best for you. So he saves energy for something really important. Just being present, being surrounded by cheerful, positive people, listening to their conversations, this will be enough to recharge your positive energy and be among people.
And you can talk with someone closer and more understanding.
In your case, your silence can do you good: a silent person who holds himself with dignity and watches everything seems smarter and more restrained than others. Many envy the ability to maintain restraint and silence in any situation, and you possess this ability quite naturally.
Don't change your nature. It is better to learn how to direct e in your favor.
I don't like to talk either. All my life I've had enough of the same topics of conversation. And they are really about the same for all people.
If you do not like to talk because of your introversion, then it will not be difficult for you to be alone for a long time. Limit communication to the bare minimum (with loved ones). Even with employees, you can only talk about work issues.
After all, being known as a silent man is no worse than being known as a talker. And in my opinion, even better. Because talkers are most often not very smart (there are, of course, exceptions). They have one concern - to work with the language, and there is no time left for brain processes.
I will say more, silent people evoke sympathy for many. After all, with them you can go into monologue mode. Sometimes, unfortunately, you have to pretend to listen.
So do not torture yourself and, if possible, limit communication. I assure you that you will not lose anything, and, perhaps, gain more.
For the manifestation of love, (and especially impeccable), words are not needed. :-) After all, we perceive only 30% of verbal information. And the remaining 70% are facial expressions, gestures, touches. In order for a child to understand that they love him, he does not need to hear it. He already knows this by the way you look at him, how you touch his head, passing by, how you casually hug him. In psychology, this is called strokesquot ;.
Every adult also has a child. He has not changed, just some adults have played their adults games that forgot about it. But we all still need strokesquot ;. And it is not at all necessary to be a brilliant speaker, a joker and the soul of a company in order to build harmonious relationships with people. Do you need disharmonious ones?
It is enough to be an attentive listener, able to sincerely empathize with the interlocutor and provide support in difficult times.
Talking is not always necessary, more often you can just listen, while nodding your head, agreeing, inserting comments and you will become a better conversationalist. Words are not always needed, sometimes it's good to just be with someone
In an ideal world, all the people with whom we have to communicate will be good, kind, attentive, smart, generous. They will like our jokes, and we will like theirs. We will live in a wonderful environment where no one is ever upset, no one will swear and slander others.
But, as you have already noticed, we live in an imperfect world. Some people drive us crazy, but we ourselves can drive others crazy. We do not like those who are inconsiderate to others, harsh, like to spread rumors, interfere in our affairs, or simply do not understand our jokes, but expect us to laugh at his jokes.
You have probably wondered if it is possible to be objective towards those who constantly annoy you and with whom you would never want to have lunch together, and how to learn to be kind to every person you meet.
Even in an ideal world, creating a team consisting entirely of people whom you would like to invite to your barbecue is unrealistic. That's why smart people often hang out with people they don't like. They are simply forced to do it. And here's how they do it.
1. They admit they can't please everyone.
Sometimes we fall into the trap of thinking that we are good. We believe that everyone we meet likes us, even when we don't. But you will inevitably run into difficult people who oppose what you think. Smart people know this. They also recognize that conflicts or disagreements are the result of differences in value systems.
The person you don't like is, in principle, a good person. The reason for your rejection is that you have different values, and this difference creates tension. Once you accept that not everyone likes you and not everyone likes you because of the difference in value system, you can eliminate emotions when assessing the situation. This will help you come to an agreement.
2. They tolerate (rather than ignore or fire) those they don't like.
Sure, you can put up with someone's constant criticism, grit your teeth in response to lousy jokes, or ignore someone's intrusive company, but there's nothing worse than constantly suppressing your annoyance. From a performance standpoint, being overly eager to win people's likes is more of a problem than not being liked.
You need people who have different points of view and are not afraid to argue. They are the kind of people who don't let you do stupid things. It's not easy, but they must be endured. Often they are the ones who challenge or provoke us, but they encourage us to new understanding and help us move towards success. Remember that you are not perfect either, but people still tolerate you.
3. They are polite to those they don't like.
Regardless of your feelings towards someone, the person will be guided by your behavior and attitude towards him, and most likely will treat you the same way. If you are rude to him, most likely he will drop all decorum and be rude to you in return. Remember, if you are polite, people will be tolerant of you.
The ability to control your face is of great importance. You should be able to show that you consider the person a professional and treat them well. This will help you avoid sinking to their level or getting sucked into what they are doing.
4. They hold back their expectations.
People often have unrealistic expectations for others. We can expect others in a given situation to act exactly as we would, or to say what we could say, that is, we want to hear now. However, this is not realistic. People have innate personal character traits that largely determine their reaction. Expecting others to do the same things you would do is setting yourself up for disappointment and frustration.
If a person makes you feel the same way every time, adjust your expectations accordingly. In this way, you will be mentally prepared and his behavior will not take you by surprise. Smart people do this all the time. They are never surprised by the behavior of an unsympathetic person.
5. They analyze themselves, not the opponent.
No matter what you experience, people cannot fit into your shoes. It is important that you manage your feelings when dealing with someone who annoys you. Instead of thinking about how annoying this person is, focus on why you are reacting the way you do. We often dislike in others what we dislike in ourselves. Also, they don't create a button, they just click on it.
Pinpoint the triggers that could affect your feelings. Then you may be able to anticipate your reaction, soften it, or even change it. Remember, it's easier to change your perceptions, attitudes, and behaviors than it is to force someone to become a different person.
6. They pause and take a deep breath.
There are some things that annoy you all the time. Maybe it's a colleague who misses deadlines on a regular basis, or a guy who makes stupid jokes. Understand what annoys you and who presses your buttons. This way you will be able to prepare for it.
If you can pause and take control of the adrenaline rush and then tap into the intellectual part of your brain, you will be better able to negotiate and justify your judgments. Taking a deep breath and taking one big step back can help you calm down and protect you from over-excitement, thereby allowing you to get down to business with a clearer mind and an open heart.
7. They voice their needs
If some people constantly hurt you, calmly let them know that their demeanor and communication style is a problem for you. Avoid accusatory phrases, try using the formula instead: “When you ..., then I feel ...”. For example: "When you interrupt me during a meeting, I feel that you do not appreciate my work." Then take a break and wait for a response.
You may find that the other person didn't realize that your presentation wasn't over, or that your colleague was so excited about his idea that he threw it out in a fit of excitement.
8. They keep their distance
When all else fails, smart people create distance between themselves and what they don't like. Apologize for yourself and go your own way. If this happens at work, move to another room or sit at the other end of the negotiating table. Being distant and with a perspective, you may be able to return to the discussion and interact with the people you like and not worry about the ones you don't.
Of course, everything would be easier if we could say goodbye to people we don't like. Unfortunately, we all know that this does not happen in real life.
Hello. I am 16 years old. I do not like to communicate with people. Because of this, I often have to avoid them. If I see acquaintances, for example, at a bus stop, I pretend that I did not notice them, instead of coming up to chat! I studied at school in 9th grade, this phobia began in the 7th grade. Well, I was quiet at school, kind, I tried to help everyone. People don’t appreciate this. , maybe there is simply nothing to say. There is nothing to talk about with friends and people because I just don’t like to talk. My dad is like that, it’s easier for him in peace and silence. I can start a conversation and understand that something is wrong and I keep back or go to some stupidity. And some people just think that I'm stupid. They start to despise me. .In another city. I thought my problems would end. But everything is the same here. At the beginning of the year, when new friends started a conversation, I felt uneasy. I answered timidly. I didn’t support the topics of their conversations, because I heard everything the same as everywhere else, some empty, albeit interesting, discussions. I was afraid to go to college, not because of the new big city, new lessons of 1.5 hours, or like at school. But because I would have to talk with my classmates. Simply, because of this, it's boring with me. Well, okay, sometimes I can think of something to discuss with my friends. And I never talked to the boys! I'm scared .. what will I talk about if I don't like talking .. When I exchanged a few sentences with a classmate, I was happy that I talked to the boy. I don’t go for a walk, after studying I go straight home. Even if my friends invite me to go for a walk, I refuse, because I understand that I will have to come up with something interesting, chat, do something, but I can’t, I’ll screw it up again. After school, in college, I really want to make friends, go to interesting places with friends. But I understand that the same phobia is present. The only person I can stay with is my mother. I can chat with her, And if there is nothing to talk about, then sit in silence without discomfort, that silence reigns. This is the person with whom I rest. But my mother is not always with me. Then she and her dad left for another city, I lived with my grandmother for 4 years, well, we saw each other on vacation. Now my mother went home with my 3-year-old brother, well, on business for a while, but I, on the contrary, came to my father, in another city. I’m talking to my dad, and although I have his genes and we are similar in many ways, I still don’t feel very comfortable in a conversation. I say one thing, but he understands something else and we misunderstand each other. And as a result, he screams, saying, well, in my words, that I'm stupid. This makes me feel lonely. Often dominated by a bad mood. I don't have any interests, hobbies, because I'm already starting to think to myself that it's a stupid idea, they won't appreciate it. I don't know why. I’m an artist, I draw, at least I drew, I even went to college as a designer (well, specifically, we’ll study in a specialty in a year, now it’s like at school, but for the 1st year we go through a course of 10 and 11 classes. Maybe when I meet specifically with a specialty, how and what to do there will be interesting to me ..). Well, now there is no interest, as if it’s not mine to draw, as if everything in this world is not mine. I am also very shy, in this case even my mother. I'm trying to come up with a hobby, to do something and I'm embarrassed by everyone. I read a book in my room, and as soon as someone enters the room, I immediately hide the book under the pillow or in the closet so that they don’t notice, I pretend that, let’s say, I’m sleeping. I’m embarrassed to show that I’m passionate about something, that I'm doing something. The same thing with the guitar, I start learning from the tutorial, and I twitch when someone enters the room and sees my classes, I start to come up with excuses, like .. here, I found my father’s old guitar. I don’t know where to put it, so I keep it on hands .. bradd .... And I can't understand why I'm embarrassed. Maybe I'm afraid of my feelings .. I'm afraid to show that something is interesting .... I don't know .. and I don't know who will help, Maybe that's why I've been writing this for 2 hours ..)) I myself am romantic, I love something unusual, rain and forest, the smell of books and rose petals in the bathroom... they tell me that I'm like the sun, I always smile, which emanates warmth and kindness from me, (but, it seems, this is just the guise of a happy one, it turns out chtoli ???/// ///) my favorite film is the House of the Sun, I really love the stars, in general I would become an astronomer.) I really like the red color and even dyed my hair in it!) I was bright red, and it really suited me! I look like a "cute" one. And I love teddy bears very much ..... Since childhood, I have been plump, but cute .. well, as it is said below, I lost 20 kg. ... but not completely lost weight, another 15 would be desirable to be completely slim,.) My dream is to learn how to play the guitar, because of HIM .. because I really like the way he plays .. (Yes one guy at school, who is not cool, hangs out not with the "cream" of society, sometimes he frowns, but for me he is very handsome, he has such eyes, and how he plays the guitar, studies as a musician .. Not all girls like him. Cool Timbirlands (boots) are more important to them, or maybe fashionable clothes. I have other values)). The first love . I started conversations with him, insignificant ... like .. what is the name of some teacher. etc. well, at least something .. I tried .. I’m a terrible monogamous ... I clung to him and I’m dying from this, I don’t know, love ..! Is love really that painful? Disturbing the weight of the mind ...)) During the time of falling in love, 7 months, I changed (somehow, under the impression of love, I followed him after school, he went towards the house, and I followed him .. after "seeing him ".. as a spy, so that he would not notice, went to some woods near his house,. it turned out that he had a divine name.. "Pear Orchard". walked there enchanted.. got there to some stream. .there were no people ..no one, only air, me, a stream, a forest, music is a cure for all diseases, ..and every day I walked alone along this path .. to his house, then through the forest, I could just side of his house, listening to music, wandering between houses... dreaming about our meeting.. even accidentally ran into him several times, and, like, he realized that I was watching.. hah...) well, how not to follow him... but... lord ….. what kind of bullshit…. until now pooorrrrrr….) there was an incentive, I took on myself, began to dress more or less beautifully, lost 20 kg, in my 15-16 years old. I felt that nothing would come of it, but in spite of everything I tried to change myself, I don’t know what I was hoping for. Every day I dragged my friend around the floors of the school in search of him, look at his unforgettable oval face, eyes ...)) I changed .. often I despaired, looked at him and his photo with bated breath. When he passed by, I shuddered with feelings. And when at the end of the year, after the 9th grade, having passed the GIA, I went to college, and before leaving school I confessed to my friends, they were shocked that I was able to keep it in myself for 7 months without telling anyone, they even held a grudge against me a little for hiding compromising information from them. hah .. I couldn’t tell them .. I don’t know why .. it seemed to me that it was useless .. although they could help me ... to get acquainted ... I don’t know ..! they talked about their love, and even with me we organized a hunt for their loved ones .. hah ..) I had already left and had not seen him for half a year. But still I love .. very much .. I have not seen a single such guy, so wonderful .. I am still trying to change myself, I think I will come on vacation, maybe I will meet him. then I will be the happiest person. but this is not enough, actually, in 3 weeks to get to know each other, make good friends .. and I really want to hug him .. How I want to uuuuu ...
But here my problem is the same, if I am secretive in communicating with other people, then what will I say to him? But what about the first date, well, I’ll have it anyway sometime, what to say, what to do when I have to be alone with a guy, it’s also for a long time, and no extras will come and start a conversation for me , and I’ll pick it up and, maybe, I’ll still talk, here I’ll have to come up with something, say, joke, somehow keep this person nearby so that he wants to meet, and somehow restrain myself, not talk about anything something superfluous, inappropriate, which you can later regret and blush for your words .. What should I do? how to understand yourself? Understand that communication is nothing more than natural needs and not be afraid of people .... feel free to meet with them, go for a walk, go to the movies with friends and not be afraid to be alone with someone, not be afraid that I will get into a situation, in which there will be nothing to say, there will be silence and because of this discomfort, because we are acquaintances and are silent. ..overcome yourself?.. willpower is excellent, but somehow it doesn’t work out…… what’s the problem… What should I do?….
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- OH Y, LPOEYUOP TSE, CHSHCHRPMOSKFE FPF UFBODBTFOSCHK OBVPT VBOBMSHOSHCHI UPCHEFPCH, LPFPTSHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHUFTEFYFE CH MAVPK RUYIPMPZYUEULPK LOYTSLE DMS MADEK U FTHDOPUFSNY CH PVEEOYY. rPYUBEE URTBYCHBKFE X MADEK "LPFPTSHK YUBU?", "LBL RTPKFY?" JF.R. Y PFCHEYUBKFE URTBYCHBAEYN X CHBU FP CE UBNPE. рПДДЕТЦЙЧБКФЕ ДПВТПЦЕМБФЕМШОЩК ТБЪЗПЧПТ У ЛБЦДЩН, ЛФП ЪБЗПЧПТЙФ У ЧБНЙ, ВХДШ ЬФП ПДОПЛХТУОЙЛ, УРТПУЙЧЫЙК, Ч ЛБЛПК БХДЙФПТЙЙ ВХДЕФ УМЕДХАЭБС МЕЛГЙС ЙМЙ УФБТХЫЛБ Ч ФТБНЧБЕ, ЪБЧЕДЫБС НПОПМПЗ ОБ ФЕНХ "с-ФП Ч УПЧЕФУЛЙЕ ЧТЕНЕОБ - П-П!". lPTPYUE ZPCHPTS - yurpmshhkfe dms pveeois mavpk hdpvoshk rpchpd!
2. UCHETIEOOOP DTKhZPK UMHYUBK, EUMY H ChBU CH RTYOGYRE OEF PUPVPK RPFTEVOPUFY CH PVEEOYY, "OP CHUE TSE FBL DEMBAF, OBBYUYF Y S DPMTSEO, UFPVSHCHOE VSHCHFSh VEMPK ChPTPOK". oE DPMTSOSCH! MHYUYE VSHCHFSh VEMPK CHPTPOK, YUEN CH FBLYI CHPRTPUBI YDFY RTPFICH UEVS. pVEEOYE "YUETEY UYMX", "RPFPNKh UFP FBL OBDP" OE RTYOEUEO HDPCHMEFCHPTEOYS OY CHBN, OY FEN U LEN CHSH PVEBEFEUSH. rPFPPNH EUMY CHBN RTYSFOEE RPYUYFBFSH LOYTSEYULKH YMY RPTBNSCHYMSFSH "P CHEYUOPN", YUEN "RETEFETEFSH" U PDOPLKHTUOYLBNY PYUETEDOKHA NBMPYOFETEUOKHA DMS CHBU FENKH, MHYUYE RPYUYFBKFEYUSHCHOP LYTSEYULKH. th OE LPNRMELUHKFE RP LFPNH RPCHPDH: CHSHCHOE IHTS Y OE MKHYUY DTHZYI, RTPUFP POY - FBLIE, B CHSHCHCH - DTHZPK.
3. й ФТЕФЙК ЧБТЙБОФ - ЛПЗДБ ЧБН ПЮЕОШ ИПЮЕФУС ПВЭБФШУС У МАДШНЙ, ОП ЧБУ ОЕ ХДПЧМЕФЧПТСЕФ ПВЩЮОЩК ФТЕР ПДОПЛХТУОЙЛПЧ, Ч ПУОПЧОПН УЧПДСЭЙКУС Л ВЕУЛПОЕЮОПНХ УНБЛПЧБОЙА "ЛБЛ рЕФС йЧБОПЧ ФТБИОХМ нБЫХ уЙДПТПЧХ" ЙМЙ "ЛБЛ УМБЧОП НЩ ЧЮЕТБ ОБЦТБМЙУШ". ChBN IPYUEFUS TBZPCHBTYCHBFSH ABOUT FE FENSCH, LPFPTSHCHE CHBN YOFETEUOSCH. about FE, LPFPTSHCHE CHSHCHOKHTSDEOSCH PVUKHTsDBFSH U UBNYN UPVPK. fPZDB NPZH FPMSHLP RTYUPEDYOYFSHUS L UPCHEFH littlel: YEYFE LPNRBOYA, LPFPTBS UPPFCHEFUFCHBMB VSHCH CHBYN BNVYGYSN. b EEE MKHYUYE, RPCHFPTSA, OBKFY PDOPZP YMY DCHHI DTHEKHEK, TBDEMSAEYI CHBY YOFETEUSCH Y CHZMSDSCH ABOUT TSYOSH. pVEEOYE U OYNY RPMHYUYFUS VPMEE ZMHVPLYN Y PFLTPCHEOOCHN.
KHUREIPCH CHBN!
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xoba h chbyen chprtpuye uevs! :-)
NOE OEUMPTsOP PFCHEFYFSH ABOUT FFPF ChPRTPU, RPFPNKh YuFP S UBN FBLPK. CHP-RETCHSHI, RTYUPEDYOAUSH L RTEDSHCHDHEIN LURETFBN: OE LPNRMELUKHKFE RP LFPNH RPCHPDH, RTYNYFE LFP LBL DBOOPUFSH. RETEZHTBYTHS Y'CHEUFOHA ZHTBH, MADY TBOSCHE OKHTSOSCH, MADY TBOSCHE CHBTSOSCH. with VSC TBBYM UCHPY NSCHUMY ABOUT OEULPMSHLP YUBUFEK.
1. LBL VSC FP OY VSCHMP, ChBN CHUЈ TBCHOP RTYDЈFUS U LEN-FP PVEBFSHUS. ChP-RETCHI, LBLYN VSC ЪBNLOHFSHCHN YuEMPCHELPN chshch oh VSCHMY, ChBN CHUЈ TBCHOP OKHTSOSCH MADY, U LPFPTSCHNY NPTSOP PVUKHDYFSH ZMHVPLIE, CHPMOKHAEYE CHBU RTPVMENSCH. мЙЮОП С ПВУХЦДБА ФБЛЙЕ ЧЕЭЙ МЙВП У МАВЙНЩН ЮЕМПЧЕЛПН, МЙВП У ОЕУЛПМШЛЙНЙ УФБТЩНЙ, РТПЧЕТЕООЩНЙ ЧТЕНЕОЕН ДТХЪШСНЙ (РТЙ ЬФПН С ОЕ ФБЛ ХЦ ЮБУФП НПЗХ ЧУФТЕЮБФШУС У ОЙНЙ, ЙОПЗДБ ОЕ ЧЙДЙНУС РП РПМЗПДБ), МЙВП РТПУФП У ОЕЗМХРЩНЙ МАДШНЙ, ХНЕАЭЙНЙ УМХЫБФШ (ЙОПЗДБ ДБЦЕ ОЕЪОБЛПНЩНЙ , H RPEDE OBRTYNET). with UPZMBUEO, UFP OE OHTSOP PVEBFSHUS ABOUT FBLYE FENSCH U LBTsDSCHN CHUFTEYUOSCHN Y RPRETEYUOSCHN, DMS OII DPUFBFPYuOP "LBL DEMB? OPTNBMSHOP.". CHP-CHFPTSCHI, CHUEZDB RTYIPDYFUS PVEBFSHUS U MADSHNY, UFP OBSHCHCHBEFUS RP TSOYOY: LBL RTPKFY FHDB-FP, RPRTPUYFSH UPMY X UPUEDEK Y F.D. MYUOPNOE PYUEOSH RPNPZ OE FTEOYOSIS, B PVSCHYUOBS TBVPFB U MADSHNY (ZPD RPDTBVBFSHCHBM RTPDBCHGPN CH UREGYBMYYTCHBOOPN NBZBYOE). rPRTPVHKFE, PYUEOSH TELPNEODHA, OE RPTSBMEEFE! lBLPC FTEOYOSIS NPCEF VSHCHFSH MKHYUYE TSOYOY?! рПКДЙФЕ ОБ РПДПВОХА ТБВПФХ РТПУФП ЪБ УППФЧЕФУФЧХАЭЙН ПРЩФПН ПВЭЕОЙС (ЬФП ОЕ ПВСЪБФЕМШОП ФПТЗПЧМС, УЕКЮБУ ОБРТЙНЕТ ОБЮЙОБЕФУС РЕТЕРЙУШ ОБУЕМЕОЙС, ХУФТПКФЕУШ РЕТЕРЙУЮЙЛПН, РПМХЮЙФЕ НБУУХ ОПЧЩИ ЧРЕЮБФМЕОЙК!), РПУМЕ ЬФПЗП ЗБТБОФЙТХА, ЮФП чЩ УНПЦЕФЕ УРПЛПКОП ПВЭБФШУС У МАВЩН ЮЕМПЧЕЛПН ОБ МАВХА ФЕНХ (ОП ОЕ ЖБЛФ , UFP chshch ffp RPMAVYFE). NEW NOPZYE OE CHETSF, LPZDB S ZPCHPTA, YuFP SCHMSAUSH TSHFLYN YOFTPPCHETFPN. RTY FPN, UFP SOE USCHRMA RP 100 UMPC CH NYOHFH. :-)
2. FP UFP OBSCCHCHBEFUS FTЈRPN SCHMSEFUS OE RTPUFP HVYCHBOYEN READ. pVEYFEMSHOSHCHE MADY HOBAF RTY LFPN NOPZP YOFETEUOPK YOZHPTNBGYY, LPFPTBS NPCEF VSHCHFSH RPMEOB Y UEKYUBU, Y CH VHDKHEEN. RTY LFPN YOZHPTNBGYS YUBUFP RPMHYUBEFUS Y RETCHSHI THL, OBRTYNET PF CHMBDEMSHGB LBLPK-MYVP CHEEY NPTsOP HOBFSH P EJ DPUFPYOUFCHBI Y OEDPUFBFLBI. pVEYFEMSHOPUFSH YUBUFP RPNPZBEF ЪBTVBFYFSH FPTS RPNPZBEF YMIY LPOPNYFSH DEOSHZY (YOZHPTNBGYS UBNSCHK DPTPZPK FPCHBT!), IPFS Y FTBFYFSH FPCE RPNPZBEF! . pDOBLP FFP OE JBFBMSHOP! h GENERAL RTPDCHYOHFPE CHTENS NPTsOP RPMHYUBFSH YOZHPTNBGYA ZPTBDP YZHZHELFYCHOEEE! with YNEA CH CHYDH CH RETCHHA PYUETEDSH YOFETOEF, VMBZPDBTS LPFPTPNH NSC U chBNY YNEEN CHPNPTSOPUFSH PVEBFSHUS. MYUOP S CH PUOPCHOPN FBLYN PVTBPN LPNREOUITHA OEDPUFBFPL PVEEOIS (VMBZP TBVPFB RPCHPMSEF). YDEUSH EUFSH NOPZP RMAUPCH: BOPOINOPUFSH, NPTE YOZHPTNBGYY, MEZLPDPUFKHROPUFSH, CHPNPTSOPUFSH RPMKHYUEOYS YNEOOP YOFETEUKHAEK CHBU YOZHPTNBGYY (UREGYBMYYTPCHBOOSCHE UBKFSCH, TBUTHNSCHL). x ChBU NOPZYE NYMMYPOSHCH RPFEOGYBMSHOSHCHI UPVEUEDOYLCH, OBDP FPMSHLP OBKFY YOFETEUOSCHHI CHBN! LTPNE YOFETOEFB EUFSH Y UFBTPE DPVTPE REYUBFOPE UMPCHP: LOYZY, TSHTOBMSCH, ZBEEFSHCH, TELMBNB; CHPPVEE MAVSHCHE UTEDUFCHB NBUUPCHPK YOZHPTNBGYY (FPMSHLP UETSHЈЈЈOSCHE!). oblpoeg, eumy hbu UFP-FP DEKUFCHYFEMSHOP BYOFETEUKHEF, OBKDYFE NEUFB, ZDE LPOGEOFTYTHAFUS MADY, YNEAEYE UIPDOSHCHE YOFETEUSCH. xTs PV YOFETEUOPN chbn Chshch UNPCEFE RPZPCHPTYFSH, OE FBL MY? ZMBCHOPE, OE VPKFEUSH, MADSN CHUEZDB MEUFOP, LPZDB YI UYUYFBAF CH YUYN-FP UREGYBMYUFBNY. oE Ch RPUMEDOAA PYUETEDSH YNEOOP RPFPNKh S MAVMA AskMe.ru! :-) LUFBFY, NSCH U chBNY PVEBENUS (LPUCHEOOP LPOEYUOP, OP FEN OE NEOEE), Y chsch, S DHNBA, OE YURSHCHFSHCHCHBEFE PUPVPZP DYULPNZHPTFB, RPFPNH YuFP ubny ffpzp ipfyfe!
3rd RPUMEDOE. UBNPNKH PFYASCHMEOOPNH YOFTPCHETFH YOPZDB IPUEFUS RPPVEBFSHUS RTPUFP FBL, RPFTERBFSHUS. х НЕОС ЬФП ВЩЧБЕФ ПВЩЮОП МЙВП РПУМЕ ПЮЕОШ РТЙСФОЩИ УПВЩФЙК Ч ЦЙЪОЙ, ЛПЗДБ НОЕ ОТБЧЙФУС ЧУЈ ЧПЛТХЗ, ДБЦЕ ФТЈР ЛПММЕЗ РП ТБВПФЕ, ОБ ФЕНХ ПЮЕТЕДОПК ДЙЕФЩ, МЙВП ЛПЗДБ НЕОС ПЛТХЦБАФ МАДЙ, ПФ ЛПФПТЩИ С ОЕ ЦДХ ОЕРТЙСФОПУФЕК, УПВЕУЕДОЙЛЙ, ЛПНЖПТФОЩЕ ДМС НЕОС. OH CH LPEN UMHYUBE OE RTEOEVTEZBKFE FFYNY UYFKHBGYSNNY, RPMShKHKFEUSH YNY, HCHBU PUFBOKHFUS PYUEOSH IPTPYYE CHEYUBFMEOYS. vKhDEFE PEKHEBFSH UEVS OPTNBMSHOSHCHN YuEMPCHELPN, CH UNSHUME RPIPTSYN ABOUT DTHZYI, BOE CH UNSHUME RPMOPGEOOSCHN. . b EUMY OE IPYUEFUS FTERBFSHUS - NPMYUYFE. s, OBRTYNET, ABOUT TBVPFE URPLPKOP YUYFBA PYUETEDOHA YOFETEUOKHA TBUUSCHMLH, LPZDB CHPLTHZ NEOS PVUHTSDBAF PYUEOSH BLFHBMSHOHA FENKH CHPURYFBOYS RPDTBUFBAEEZP RPLPMEOYS. y OILFP OE UYUYFBEF NEOS OEPVEYFEMSHOSHCHN, RPFPNKh YuFP EUMY NEOS URTBYCHBAF P YuJN-FP, S Chufkhrba Ch TBZPCHPT, BOE UITSH VHLPK. th, OBLPOEG, HMSCHVBKFEUSH Y YKHFYFE, LFP UFTBYOP PVMEZYUBEF TSYOSH! :-)
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RPNEOSK LPNRBOYA, RPTPVHK RPYULBFSH MADEK, U LPFPTSCHNY FEVS PVYAEDYOSAF PVEYE YOFETEUSCH.
rPYENH-FP LBTCEFUS, UFP LFB RTPVMENB FEVS CHPMOHEF YUYUFP FEPTEFYYUEULY, FP EUFSH YUFP PVEEOYE LBL FBLPCHPE FEVE OE FTEVHEFUS. OP ChPPVEE "TBBDTBTSBEF" OE EUFSH IPTPYK RTYOBL, EUMY FBL UMHYUBEFUS YBUFP.
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