Unfortunately, in the life of any person one day there may come a period when he realizes that he has completely lost interest in life. Such a state may be preceded by many troubles and upheavals. Sometimes unwillingness to live may even appear, at first glance, groundlessly. How to overcome this apathy?

Why you might want to die

Even if you believe that such a condition arose for no particular reason, this cannot be - there is most likely a reason, but you are trying to ignore it or simply do not suspect it. In the first case, it may be stress that happened some time ago: parting with a loved one, a change in occupation, an illness (one's own or a close relative), some kind of conflict. In the second case, we can talk about an illness. Visit an endocrinologist - problems with the thyroid gland can cause apathy and prolonged depression, and these troubles are often solved by a fairly simple method of treatment.

If there are good reasons for that - how to be

It is important to understand that almost any problem can be solved. Of course, there is something that cannot be solved, and, perhaps, this is only the death of a loved one. The pain of loss, unfortunately, can only be healed with time - everything else can be fixed. debts If you are in debt, find an additional source of income. You may have to change jobs or take on additional responsibilities. Also, in many cases, it will be useful to consult with a lawyer - he can advise you on how to get out of this situation. It is possible that debt restructuring will help you. Disease It is important to realize that millions of people daily learn that they are overcome by some kind of illness. This is no reason to give up! Start the fight for your health, read stories similar to yours on the Web that ended positively, and understand that in your case, with due perseverance, everything will end well. Consult a doctor, and in no case do not dwell on the opinion of one specialist - listen to different doctors. Make a plan to deal with the disease and strictly adhere to it. Subsequently, this story will make you more attentive to your health and better "understand" your body. Non-reciprocal love Almost always, people who have experienced unrequited love and suffer because of their unrequited feelings later realize that they have wasted time devoted to suffering. If a person does not love you, you need to do everything possible to cut him out of your life! Moreover, your main task now is to make your life bright and interesting and without an object of sympathy. Having filled everyday life with interesting events and new positive impressions, you simply do not leave yourself time to think about unrequited love. Later, you will certainly meet a person with whom your feelings will be mutual, even if now you don’t need anyone else. Then you will regret the time spent thinking about failed love. Believe that one day you will understand that this development of the situation was only for the better.

I do not want to live, or in other words, prolonged depression

What is it and how to overcome it Protracted depression is called a psychological disorder, which is accompanied by some accompanying symptoms. These include apathy, severe physical weakness, bad mood and unwillingness to live. You are no longer interested in anything and you do not want anything - it seems that nothing can favorably affect your condition. If you do not start the fight against this disease in time, you can lose several years of your life! Medical treatment It is very difficult to cope with prolonged depression on your own - especially when you do not want to do it. This is a medical problem, and by visiting a psychologist, you can find out what treatment will help in your situation. The necessary psychotherapeutic help can completely bring you out of a depressive state. It is highly not recommended to buy antidepressants on your own and vary the dosages at your own discretion! Self-treatment If you have no desire to go to the doctors, but you want to live a different life, then you can help yourself. However, even the fact that you are reading this article indicates that you are ready for self-healing. First, you need to determine what caused depression and leave this situation in the past. You may come back to thoughts about her later, but now it's time to think about your psychological state. 1. The first step is to make drastic changes in your lifestyle. It may seem to you that you do not have the strength and ability to enter something else into your everyday life, but you still need to force yourself to do it. Unfortunately, at this stage there is no other way - only to force yourself. Start with new experiences and go on some kind of trip. If you don't feel like going anywhere right now, buy a tour that you would want to go to when you weren't depressed. Bring more activity into your lifestyle - join the gym for classes with a trainer or go to group workouts. These two points will help you get started in the right direction. It is also important not to forget to observe the correct daily regimen and consume the required number of vitamins. 2. On the Web, you can find a lot of videos in which psychologists give free advice on how to get out of depression. Take the time to watch these videos and learn important information from them. 3. Share with a loved one (mother, husband or girlfriend) your experiences. Even close people do not always understand that their relative or friend is depressed, attributing his behavior to a bad mood. Meet and connect with the people you love more often. 4. Find a new hobby for yourself. If you are not interested in any activities now, then remember what you liked before or what you planned to do. Sign up for the selected master classes, and set yourself up to attend at least the first two classes - not one, but two! Most likely, the new business will captivate you, and allow you to significantly distract from your condition.

How to help a person who does not want to live

If you asked yourself such a question, then it is probably about a person who is of special importance to you. Many people who have fallen into such a difficult psychological state find it very difficult to get out of it on their own. If you notice that someone close to you is depressed, you can help by:

People suffering from this disease, most often communicate little with others. It is often during this period that they lose many friends who failed to understand that their refusal to meet was not at all an indifferent attitude to friendship, but a difficult moral state. If you notice that such a person has signs of depression, do not pay attention to his desire to withdraw into himself and do not take his detachment personally. Take time to check in regularly about his affairs, find out about his mood, tell him about yourself and cheer him up. Even if others turn away from him, he will not feel the burden of loneliness, because he will know that he has someone who is always ready to listen and talk with him! Suggest a trip to an interesting place. You must be sure that the route you choose will please this person. If he used to like visiting museums and exhibitions, go to a similar place. To make him (or her) simply uncomfortable to refuse you, say that the tickets have already been bought, and you have no one else to go with, and you don’t want another company for yourself.

Let him (her) know that your friendship or family ties are very important to you. Ask for advice, show interest in his (her) affairs. A depressed person often claims that no one needs him - show that this is not so at all! If you see that the situation is serious enough - convince a person suffering from depressive moods to visit a psychologist. Ask him at least once to go to a consultation with a specialist. Tell him that millions of people turn to professionals for help every day, and this is only good for them. When communicating, emphasize that you are convinced of the temporality of this phenomenon. Periodically, your friend may have "enlightenment" in the state - tell him about it. Pay attention to situations that improve his mood and try to repeat them. A depressed woman or man understands everything, but is in apathy. Remain in your natural state, but show the person who demonstrates in every way that he is tired of life how much you care about his cure.

How to want to live when you want to die

If it sometimes seems to you that there is no desire to continue living at all, then this does not mean at all that you are seriously suicidal. It only means that you are not living the life you would like to live. Accordingly, there is only one way out - to radically change your everyday life.



1. External changes
Start with a change in appearance. Since you feel an unwillingness to live, then, apparently, you are at least tired of your current image. Go to a trusted hairdresser and tell the stylist that you would like to change your hairstyle, but you are not sure which option to choose - a specialist will surely help you with a choice based on your type of appearance. Be prepared for the fact that on the first day you will not like the new look very much, but this is only to your advantage - now you can think of something else besides not wanting to live. Most likely, the next day you will see all the delights of the new look. If this does not happen, go to another master, continuing the experiments. Also review your wardrobe. If it is not possible to use the services of a stylist, then ask a friend with good taste for advice. If these options do not suit you, then just find fashion bloggers on Instagram or in VK groups, and copy the style of those who you like. It is important that you do not dress like this before.
2. Set goals Surely, there have been few changes, achievements or new experiences in your life lately. You have the option to change this. Don't make big plans if you can barely get out of bed right now, but taking small steps forward can still help. Start small - go for a walk in the park, go to the movies, etc. 3. Communication Try to communicate with positive and kind people, from whom you seem to be "charged" with positive energy. And in general, for all your reluctance, you should regularly make efforts to maintain your social activity. Don't focus on your mood - instead call a friend and see how she's doing. Pay a visit to a loved one. Try at least a few times a week to initiate contact with the people you love. 4. Pet Now you are completely immersed in the current state, so you should switch from your personality to something else. Get a pet that will need your attention - a puppy or a kitten. Remember what animal you dreamed of before and buy it or adopt it now. Caring for a new friend will distract you from your own worries. You will be able to feel your need and give yourself many joyful moments. Many depressed people find it difficult to communicate even with their families, but they notice an improvement in their mood after contact with animals. 5. Movies On the Web, you can find many sites that provide lists and descriptions of motivational films. Why don't you review at least some of them? On the example of someone else's story, you will learn how life can change for the better. 6. Healthy lifestyle Perhaps, in an attempt to escape from depression, you began to use alcohol or drugs, thereby providing yourself with a new problem. Each use of alcohol or illegal drugs only aggravates your situation, and now your main task is to eliminate this aspect of your life! 7. Sports It is difficult for many to believe this, but doing this method really improves not only physical health, but also normalizes the psychological background. Buy a gym membership for personal training with a trainer or group fitness classes, and after some period of training, you will notice a major change in your life.

Where to find a new stimulus, a new dream, a new motivation for your own life

Dreams. Learn to follow an important rule - to turn your dreams into goals, the implementation of which is given a certain period of time. Surely, as a child, you dreamed a lot, planning that you would realize all this "as soon as you grow up." How many of these dreams have come true? It seems that you have come a period when your life just needs a change! Remember where you dreamed of going, what purchase you planned, and the like. Now all this is your plans for the near future. Write a wish list and start making it a reality. Motivation. How to motivate yourself to any changes or implementation of plans. Clearly imagine what your life will be like when you do what you want but don't have the strength or determination to do. Think in detail how much you need it and what it can give you. Still not able to motivate yourself? Perhaps, in fact, you no longer need what you once dreamed of and that is why your motivation is so weak? Review your dream list and determine what you really want from life in the future. Leave fear behind. We will be separated from many accomplishments and changes by the fear of judgment, pain, criticism, and the like. Your fears are what's stopping you from living a good life. If you want to achieve really high goals, then you will have to understand that failures in this case are a natural phenomenon. If you are afraid of something on the way to what you want, then analyze the situation well. Accept that your fears may not be unfounded, and you will indeed have to go through some unpleasant moments, but they are what separate you from what you really need! And when you get this, then all the uncomfortable or difficult situations that accompany this achievement will become small and insignificant for you. Give your dream a chance to come true!

If the world suddenly began to seem gray and nothing in life pleases, we are often ready to give up life itself. If you seriously think about the unwillingness to live, then this often minor mood is combined with poor sleep and changes in appetite (strong increase or decrease). Of course, if you can't bring yourself to get up and do your daily activities, ask your loved ones to arrange an appointment with a good therapist. However, except in very serious cases, depression should be treated without pills. “I don’t want to live, what should I do?” - this question is increasingly searched in search engines. Let's talk about what can help.

First, if you are thinking about means to commit suicide, I can say that methods that work 100% are excruciatingly painful. However, it is not the torment before death that is more terrible, but the horrors that will await after it. According to some church authorities, suicidal people experience near-death suffering an infinite number of times. Suicide will not get rid of pain, it will lead you to eternal prison. They will not be able to pray for you, God does not accept prayers for those who rejected his gift - life. There can be no peace for a suicide, only people who have endured suffering on earth and who have not given up can find true peace. So tell yourself that suicide is not for you.

Secondly, you need to try to get away for a while from the world of people to the world of nature. It's good to go camping for a few days with a tent. Often depression occurs due to the fact that a person is overloaded with communication and cannot fully relax. It is also good, if you have the means, to rent a room for one in a sanatorium and be alone. Often after a few days, when you hear the sound of running water, the sound of the forest, the singing of birds, you begin to look at the world differently. What to do if you are tired of living? Get away from annoying factors for a while.

Thirdly, try to give yourself maximum physical activity. “I don’t want to live, what should I do?”. Set yourself up to the point of exhaustion. Set a goal to run at least 20 km - and complete the task, after you do this, your biochemical state will change dramatically. You will only want to eat, drink and sleep. And the next day, when you get up in the morning, you will immediately feel a new state. And you have a chance to change the mood in this way. By the way, depression is successfully treated with electroconvulsive therapy. Wouldn't it be better to give yourself a lot of stress, without waiting until really strong measures are needed?

Fourth, clean your house. Throw away the things that annoy and stress you out. This is a wonderful relief from depression. When you do not come across unpleasant things, the perception of the world often changes. Get rid of photos of your ex and his gifts if you feel bad looking at them. Your good health is worth more.

Fifth, seek out fellowship with supportive people. Just do not drink alcohol - it increases depression, and only slightly cheers up people in a normal state. And drunk people have the question “I don’t want to live, what should I do?” becomes more acute and often ends in suicide. In addition, it turns off the brain - the only thing that can help you in a situation of depression. So don't cut the branch you're sitting on. If you do not have close people you can trust, call the helpline.

Sixth, look for what needs to be changed in life. You may be living with the wrong person, going to the wrong college, and working in a job you hate. These stresses turned into depression every day, and therefore the question “I don’t want to live, what should I do?” does not sound like a question, but like a cry from the heart. Until you change the circumstances, it will not get easier for you.

Don't want to live? What can be done to bring color to life? Learn to love what is, because in depression we look at the world narrowly and do not see much. Give yourself the right to be wrong. And the right to change lives. Let your actions seem unreasonable close, but this is your life and only you are responsible for it. So follow your heart and look for new ones

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Vkratsii, thanks to those who respond.
25 years. I can not live normally, find peace of mind, find myself.
It so happened that I was born in a large family, I am the middle son, I have an older sister and a younger one. All my life, my parents instill in me that I behave differently than everyone else, supposedly everyone is like that, but I’m not like that, etc. From childhood, they imposed interests, clothes, hairstyle, it was also the case that I was forbidden to go to the sports section, but they forced me to attend a music school. They constantly climbed into my affairs, and everywhere - all my personal records, some photos, videos, all this was carefully looked through. It even happened that when I was a teenager, in my computers they even found a hidden folder with an intimate video with my girlfriend, and it was not something that they looked at, they also extensively recalled it in any quarrel, they tried to shame it, etc. They got into any of my boyish conflicts or personal relationships, it got to the point that even outsiders knew that if my parents were informed, they would immediately clamp me down, etc. on this basis, a lot of complexes developed in myself and there was no uncertainty in general a sense of self-confidence
I constantly felt like a hamster who would only equip his house, and he would be turned inside out and start all over again. It is the same with studies, contrary to my aspirations, I was not allowed to go to study, but was sent to a local bursa. In general, everything goes downhill. I tried to leave for another, I just settled down, a serious relationship appeared, I was going to buy a room, my parents, it was my mother (she always manipulates me) who told me to go home, supposedly go on vacation with us and we will buy you an apartment. As a result, they didn’t buy anything, besides, they actually kept me at home by force - they hid all my documents, naturally my friends and the girl didn’t understand any of this and thought that I just pulled away like a fool. I left again, ran away from home, and so for 4 years, in which I left the winter things on me and still. in general, I wandered, nothing naturally happened to me, and behind me it’s like a trail of these unfavorable events stretches and I have lost the ability to simply enjoy life.
A series of girls was replaced by a girl (in general, I had 72 contacts with girls, but I only had 2 relationships, that is, I don’t strive for meaningless relationships without development) they began to live together, my parents called me home alone or with a girl to to discuss the issue of my future life and the alleged acquisition of an apartment for me. Finally arrived and history repeated itself. Now I am being blackmailed by the fact that either I am moving to live in the city where I originally left (because my older sister got married and her family is there and her parents themselves are moving there) or I am staying here with my parents and will not go anywhere. And so for 5 months, I don’t even go out to the entrance, I sit in my room. My parents just don't want to see me seriously. I think I'll go crazy and that's it. Yes, my relationship, of course, collapsed for the absence of 5 months, Like my contacts, but at home they only say - oh, these are not friends, this is not a girl, in general, everything that forms with me is all wrong, everything is wrong. In general, crash again. I no longer know what to do, how to live. I have more and more desires to disengage completely from my life. I don’t see myself in the city where my parents offer to go and my burden, inner pain, memories of a failed life in this city, I can’t return to where I experience mental stress. Yes, the sisters have a radically different situation, everything is absolutely possible for them. They even tell me - you lived there for the last years and what you have achieved, and as an example, they put the youngest who is studying in St. Petersburg. But there is nothing to compare here, she is fully provided, she does not work, she only goes to concerts, etc. what can I say, he doesn’t even have a clue what it means to live on 500 rubles a week or earn money yourself without help. It’s the same with phones in school years - yes, anything, for me - it’s not necessary yet, you can do it later and so all your life, for the eldest right away, for the little one - a little something will come into fashion - right away, she’s only 19, she I have already changed 3 or 4 iPhones in a row, it just breaks something else, everything is ready on a silver platter. I even look at me like this and they don’t let me live how I want to live, and they blame me that the years go by and I don’t try to do anything, they say, I just walk. I don't know what to do at all. It turns out that the way I live alone is completely one person, and with my parents and family I seem to be suppressed. Everything that is considered in me as unique qualities, due to which I somehow get criticized by my family, supposedly I should be such and such. And yes, I learned a year ago that my mother was married to my father before marriage and she had a son who died at an early age. So I think maybe it's because of this that they don't let me arrange my life as I see it. I honestly don't know what to do. And I know that from the outside, If you don’t know the whole story at all, it seems like I’m really sitting and not striving for anything. Even now, my mother drives me to go there - the apartment will be right away, live for 5 years, you won’t like it, then you’ll leave wherever you want. And in 5 years I won't need anything at all. And they don’t take into account at all that I’m a person, I have some contacts and something else, just take it and erase everything and do as we say. I was recently in shock when my mother says here (the city where she says to go now and there was also the first girl with a relationship) you had a girl there, maybe you will get along with her again, in general, by any means she tries to impose her own and this changes from manipulation to open blackmail in the style of "you still won't go anywhere, either way or no way". The main problem is that I simply do not know how to behave and what to do in general, the consequences of such interventions in my life are collected in a bag of cargo that interferes with life.

Hello. I don't really have anyone to talk to, so I'm writing here. For 3 months I have been living with my nightmare, it's just hell for me. Life is wildly limited, fear simply paralyzes, because of this everything is painted in gray, constant dressing up. I think you will understand me. 3 months ago, I lay late at night (there were weekends and I sat at the computer until late, and now I couldn’t fall asleep from thoughts) and thought. And suddenly something clicked in my head, some kind of fear, a wild feeling of loneliness, an unfounded fear that I might become ill and no one would help me! And then it seemed to me that I was sick, some kind of vomiting. I jumped up in fright and went to the kitchen, trembling all over, preparing mentally for vomiting ... And I tried to mentally block it or something, to avoid it in short. I took a pill and went to bed in the morning. She fell asleep with difficulty, the fear that she would vomit was spinning in her head. And actually, there was a riot in the stomach because of these thoughts. I slept for 2 hours, and in the morning the fear remained, i.e. I was constantly haunted by the fear that I could vomit only from these thoughts. Since then, this fear has not left me, inside everything was shrinking in the stomach, it was just that for some period it was easier. And 4 days ago I was lying at night, I couldn’t fall asleep and my brain went in cycles again and it seemed to me that I would vomit a little more. Panic seized me, I went cold all over, jumped. But the worst thing is that when the brain gets hung up on these thoughts, then some kind of tension, nausea and vomiting appear inside in the region of the esophagus or stomach, as well as hyperventilation and a lump in the throat! And it doesn't pass. That is, from some of these obsessive thoughts I can vomit! And at any time, as soon as the brain gets hung up on them! And now he is constantly obsessed, every now and then I just fight these urges, I try not to think or restrain, relax this tension ... Probably this all sounds like nonsense, at night I often cry because of this fear, I am very afraid of losing control over thoughts and what can throw me out because of them. It's horrible. I can’t imagine how I lived without it before, didn’t feel this hell. Was there such a time? How can I deal with this, I have no idea what kind of disorder it is. The most interesting thing is that when I get distracted, everything goes away, and then the brain thinks like: oh, I got distracted from obsessive thoughts and they come back again. I'm afraid that there are no more people with such fears and with such obsessive thoughts and feelings... Is it generally treated??? I'm scared, why is this happening? How can I stop this?? I can’t fall asleep either, I jump in a panic when I feel that vomiting is close, I drink validol, I fall asleep when it gets lighter. ..I don't even want to live...What should I do? What is happening to me?? I am very afraid to go crazy from all this ... I am afraid that this is not treated ... It's terrible in my soul ...