There are probably certain times when you want to make a brilliant first impression. Of course, this does not mean that the rest of the time you do not give the impression of a confident interlocutor, just in some situations you would like to be flawless.

Such moments can sometimes be turning points in life, for example:
interview for a new position
date;
meeting with an extremely important client;
negotiations about a share in the business;
meeting the parents of the groom / bride.

The tips below are taken from Coach Extraordinary Emma Sargent's book Learning to Converse in Any Situation

Secret 1: Your strength is in preparation

Whether you're going on a date, to a client's office, or to visit the bride/groom's parents, it doesn't matter. Here is a plan for your successful preparation.

• Find out everything you can about the place you are going so that you can mentally rehearse the meeting in detail.
• Decide how you want to be perceived, what impression you want to make.
• Find out everything you can about what is interesting, what is important to the person or people you are meeting.
• If you go on a "blind date" (a date with a stranger) and find out that the person you're on a date with is interested in mountain climbing, research information about the sport. By showing your knowledge and using the right terminology, you will quickly establish contact. (If you hate physical activity, you may decide to cancel the date.)
• Decide what is important to you in this meeting and what outcome you want.
• This may seem obvious, but if you're going for an interview or a business share, make sure you know everything about the company and the people you're meeting.

Secret 2: The strength of your body

Remember how quickly people make judgments about a person. To help you be judged favorably, use this checklist:

Dress appropriately;
make sure you have a neat elegant look;
make sure you are neat;
walk purposefully;
greet people with a smile;
the handshake should be firm;
speak clearly and loudly enough;
look people in the eye;
stand still when others are talking;
do not touch anything with your hands;
listen carefully.

When you want to make a brilliant impression, some things are especially important:

Eye contact. Remember, of all the non-verbal cues we use, eye contact is the one people pay the most attention to when they unconsciously judge how confident you are. This applies to one-on-one meetings as well as with a group. There's no better way to gain someone's trust than by making good eye contact. Even more than confidence, it shows our interest and is one of the main proofs that we are listening. If you want to make the desired impression on your interlocutor, use active eye contact. Make the interlocutor the only, exclusive object of your attention.

Smile. Smiles open doors. Doors to conversation and hearts. Never underestimate the power of a sincere smile. When you want to make contact at the first meeting, shake hands firmly, make eye contact and let a smile appear on your face.

Pose. Let your posture be "open". By this we mean a posture that greets people. Stand with your feet slightly apart and your toes pointing out slightly. Keep your arms loose, do not cross them. It may be comfortable to stand with your arms crossed over your chest, but it gives the impression of being "closed".

Secret 3: The power of "synchronized step"

Try to repeat the rhythm of breathing, the posture of the interlocutor. Use his speech expressions. Adjust to the intonation and topic of speech. Always remember that "people like people like them." The deeper you get into their world, the more they will be drawn to you. And most of it happens on an unconscious level.

Secret 4: The Power of the Affirmative Speech

Confident people use confident language. And that means positive language.
Listen to your speech and determine what language you are speaking unconsciously. This will be a good exercise. Listen also to other people's speech. Try to hear how their speech reflects their inner self-confidence and determine the level of this confidence.

Example of positive language:

"We can do it" - vs - "We can probably do it"
"I'm sure the party will be cool" - vs - "I hope it will be good there"
"You look wonderful!" - vs - “I love this dress. Nicely"

Words to avoid:

“I try, I try” - these words imply the possibility of failure.
"But". In one company where we consulted employees, there was a saying: “Anything that comes before the word “but” is ... (profanity).” The most brilliant strategy here is to turn the "but" into an "and". Try it and see what happens. For example, notice the difference between these phrases:

"I understand you, but I think we need to look at it again."
“I understand you, and I think if we look at it again, then we will find even more options.”

Secret 5: The power of the word "we"

If you want to connect with a person quickly, one of the most powerful words for this is "we". People who understand each other start saying "we" because "we" understand each other, don't they? So if you want to take a shortcut to understanding, go straight to "we," which suggests that you've already reached a certain level of understanding and relationship, even if you may have only met once. Naturally, in this case you will use other pronouns: “our”, “us”, “us”.

Secret 6: The Power of Listening and Asking Questions

Your interest in others makes you interesting to them! Open and closed questions have become second nature to you now, so it's time to develop these skills further so you can talk to anyone with total confidence. You will always know what the next question to ask will make you irresistible.

As you move towards the end of the conversation, you need to pay close attention to what the other person is saying. The table below provides examples of words and phrases to help you ask clarifying questions. This will give you the opportunity to show interest and make a great impression.

Secret 7: The Power of Confidence

You know what? You have learned enough ways and techniques to talk to anyone in any situation. At you have everything you need to make a brilliant impression.

The only additional advice is to just confidently apply all this in life. And then: “Putting these skills into practice will give you the confidence you need.”

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Make an impression to make/impress Book. More often 3 l. present, bud. temp. or past. temp. To evoke, to generate a strong feeling in someone, to have an impact on someone. From noun. with meaning faces or distractions. subject: writer, artist, speech, performance ... produces what? huge, good, unforgettable… impression; impress who? on the audience, on those present, on the audience ...; impress with what? originality, architecture...

How often the most insignificant things make a greater impression on people than the most important ones. (I. Turgenev.)

This music [Mozart's Don Giovanni] was the first music that made a tremendous impression on me. (P. Tchaikovsky.)

Do as you like, but I'm telling you that this man makes a repulsive impression on me. (M. Bulgakov.)

Educational phraseological dictionary. - M.: AST. E. A. Bystrova, A. P. Okuneva, N. M. Shansky. 1997 .

See what "impress" is in other dictionaries:

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trying to impress- adj., number of synonyms: 4 seduced (23) tried to fall in love with himself (4) ... Synonym dictionary

produce- impress to make an action to make a favorable impression action to make a great impression action to impress action to make state registration action to make a replacement action ... ...

PRODUCE- PRODUCE, PRODUCE Profound and varied semantic changes in the use of the verb produce produce. In the Dictionary of the Russian Academy of 1822, only four meanings of this word are noted, and two of them are officially business: 1) raise in ... ... History of words

impression- the impression arises existence / creation, subject, the beginning the impression arises existence / creation, the subject, the beginning of the impression to leave the action the impression remains the existence / creation, the subject, the continuation of the impression ... ... Verbal compatibility of non-objective names

PRODUCE- PRODUCE, I will produce, you will produce, past. temp. produced, produced; produced, sov. (to produce). 1. what. Do, do, do. Make experience. Make a calculation. Make repairs. Carry out excavations. Make an arrest... Explanatory Dictionary of Ushakov

IMPRESSION- IMPRESSION, impressions, cf. 1. Image, reflection, trace left in the mind of a person by surrounding objects, persons, events. Childhood impressions. Travel impressions. Look for new experiences. eyewitness impressions. This impression is not... Explanatory Dictionary of Ushakov

PRODUCE- PRODUCE, food, you eat; ate, ate; eaten; eaten (yon, ena); eating; sovereign 1. what. Make, do, arrange. P. products. P. reconstruction. P. repair. 2. what. Cause, carry out (what is called the next noun). P.… … Explanatory dictionary of Ozhegov

IMPRESSION- IMPRESSION, I, cf. 1. A trace left in the mind, in the soul than n. experienced, perceived. Childhood impressions. Road impressions. 2. Influence, impact. Be inspired by the conversation. 3. Opinion, assessment, formed after meeting ... Explanatory dictionary of Ozhegov

produce- lead, lead; produced, led, lo; produced; produced; day, day, day; St. 1. what. to do, to do; conduct. P. shot. P. calculation. P. repair. P. search. P. calculation of someone l. 2. what. Create wealth, release, manufacture ... ... encyclopedic Dictionary

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The first impression is of great importance in every situation: at least at an interview, at least on a date or at any meeting. By the way, it is already compiled within the first seven seconds, when you first see a person and mutually decide for yourself whether the interlocutor evokes sympathy or not. For this, every detail counts! How to do it with very simple and reasonable steps?

1. Be yourself

The first and most important thing is to be yourself, and we don't mean panic. The person may feel that you are under stress, and this is definitely not the first impression that you probably want to leave about yourself.

2. Smile

Smiling is the best way to win over and show your goodwill. By smiling, you demonstrate to another person that you do not experience any, and you do not have bad thoughts. Friendly people always seem much more pleasant and easy to talk to.

3. Look good

Whether it's an important meeting or a blind date, you should always look your best. Choose clothes according to the situation and remember that the first thing that inevitably attracts a person's attention is how you look. In addition, it will give you the opportunity to feel comfortable and confident.

4. Collect the necessary information in advance

Think of it like an exam! You need to present yourself in the best possible way, right? The more you know about the person, the easier it is for you to avoid uncomfortable moments of silence and awkward pauses. If this is an interview, then study the company and its top executives, as well as find out what their expectations of employees are and what your possible responsibilities are. If this is a first date, come up with a list of interesting topics to talk about.

5. Listen more

Being an attentive listener is one of the most important requirements. Keep it short and to the point, letting yours lead the conversation. Everyone loves to be listened to, and appreciates it very much. You need to look engaged and interested in order to be able to carry on your conversation.

6. Compliment

Saying nice words to people, you increase their self-esteem. They will feel more confident and open with you, so it will be easier for you to communicate with them. One very important point - don't flatter or make false compliments, because people can feel insincerity, and this is very disrespectful of you.

7. Show a sense of humor

You know how we all feel good and relaxed in the company of cheerful and positive people. Relevant jokes from time to time relieve stress and tension, and you look like a confident and optimistic person. However, humor should be in moderation, and the jokes themselves should not sound like ridicule.

8. Turn off your cell phone

Or put it on silent mode. If you become constantly distracted by him, then it is unlikely that this will make a good impression on the interlocutor. Nothing kills the mood more than someone's constantly working phone. Don't answer calls if the person you're currently talking to is sitting right in front of you.

The first impression of a person is made in 7 seconds. Whether it's a party, a date, a job interview or a meeting with business partners, always be fully prepared, because there will be no other chance to make a good first impression.

How to leave a good impression of yourself?

Do you chronically make a bad impression on people or have trouble communicating when you see a person for the first time? It doesn’t matter - in this material we will tell you how to win over any person with whom chance brings you.

Others are shy too

Shyness is the main reason why an acquaintance may not go the way you expected. But it works both ways - you have no idea how many people consider themselves shy. In 1995, 40% of respondents surveyed by extras identified themselves as "shy", by 2007 their number had grown to 58%. Remember that most people feel out of place when they are in a room with strangers.

Down with selfishness

Thinking about the first contact, many ask questions: “How to avoid embarrassing situations? How to turn the situation in your favor? Psychologists advise before the first dialogue with new acquaintances to change this setting to “What can I do for these people?”. Having to think of others first will distract you from your insecurities and defuse the situation.

smile

Peter Mende-Sedlecki, a doctor of social psychology at New York University, has shown that people generally trust “friendly” faces and reject “hostile” ones. At the same time, it takes only 34 milliseconds for a person to read facial expressions from the face of the interlocutor and decide whether he is trustworthy. So smile and make eye contact.

fit the occasion

Each event has its own atmosphere. Before you go somewhere where you will definitely have to communicate with strangers, analyze the nature of the event. This will help you tune in the right way, not to make a mistake with the choice of clothes and topics for conversation.

Prepare a 7-second story about yourself

You don't have to write your biography from toddler age, just tell a couple of things about yourself: “Hi! I'm Christina, sister of your friend Mitya. I came from Moscow to St. Petersburg this weekend, glad to meet you.” The main goal is to help the interlocutor find common ground and start a dialogue (see point 2). “Who do you work for?” – perhaps the most popular question when meeting after the question about the name. Try to interest the interlocutor with your answer and make him delve into the questions.

Instead of “I am a realtor,” say “I help people find peace and a roof over their heads,” instead of “I edit school textbooks,” say “I show the younger generation the vector of development.” Don't be afraid to sound overly pompous, everything can be reduced to a joke after all.

Four magic words

Suppose a conversation about your work took a minute and a half. A start has been made - what to do next? Show interest in the life of the interlocutor: “What about you?”. Find out about his work, hobbies, main activities. Attention is always nice. But you should not pretend to be interested if there is none: you risk being branded a hypocrite in the eyes of another person.

Use "body language"

You can treat the body language theory in different ways, but you should not deny the influence of non-verbal cues on the impression of a person. If the interlocutor “mirrors” your mannerisms and postures, the speed and rhythm of speech, you unconsciously feel acceptance towards him - “Yes, he is his own on the board! We are similar, and he sympathizes with me. At the same time, mirroring should not be obvious - this can cause rejection. Also watch your posture, facial expressions and gestures: the back should be straight, the face should be friendly, the gestures should be relaxed.

Wear what you like

Fact: You feel more confident in comfortable clothes. This doesn't mean you have to show up to a business meeting in stretchy sweatpants and a sweatshirt, but don't wear a tight suit or tight, oversized heels. It is important to find a balance between the dress code established at the event and your comfort.

Compliment with continuation

“Amazing shoes!”, - undoubtedly, your interlocutor will be pleased to hear this. But a much better “investment” for further conversation will be the phrase “Awesome shoes! I have long dreamed of something like this. Where did you get them, if not a secret?

Read as much as possible

As a rule, well-read people are excellent conversationalists. Always stay up to date with the latest major events - from the release of the remake of "Blade Runner" to the armed uprisings in Venezuela.

Don't wait to be interested

This is a common mistake many introverts make: "Wait until someone starts talking to me." Luck smiles at the fact that it takes the first step. Get in touch first. Smile, stand straight and look straight in the eyes - these are three things that inspire confidence.

Talk to outsiders

Do you see a person standing alone at a busy party? Get to know him! Most likely, he cannot overcome shyness and will be very pleased with your attention. “You look like an interesting person,” says such an act.

Give all your attention

When talking with a person, do not be distracted by calls, messages and social networks, do not look behind his back in search of acquaintances with whom you would communicate more willingly. It's just plain ugly.

Don't be afraid of groups

A group of three or more people is more open to new "members" than two tête-à-tête conversations. A large company rarely talks about something personal, but by intervening in a conversation between two people, you can become a “third wheel”.

Be sensitive

If you are chatting with friends and you see someone trying to join him, take a half step back and invite him. Both this person and your friends will appreciate the nobility of this gesture.

End the conversation gracefully

Ending a conversation correctly is no less difficult than starting it. We offer the following scheme:

• Interrupt yourself, not the other person.
• Smile. Let them know that it was a pleasure to meet you and that you are grateful for your time.
• “But, I beg your pardon, I need to…” pick up a friend from work, pick up a child from school, have time to go to the store. The main thing is to make it clear that you are ending the conversation for an important reason, and not because you got bored.

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We hope that these tips will help you feel more confident at any event and not be afraid to make new acquaintances. Below we will talk about how to behave on a date to impress a girl or guy.

How to make a first impression on a girl or a guy?

If you suddenly read these lines in some cozy cafe and an attractive representative of the opposite sex has come into your field of vision, we offer a few tips that will help you smoothly turn an acquaintance into a first date.

Give me a compliment

But don't overdo it. Think about what good things you can say about him / her so that the words sound sincere. You can compliment clothing or appearance, but it's too predictable. If you have a good sense of humor, don't be afraid to make a joke. Avoid vulgar jokes and hackneyed "tackles" like "I got a call from heaven and they said that their most beautiful angel was missing."

Take care of your appearance

Alas, the phrase about a meeting on clothes is more relevant than ever. Even if you shine with wit, and with your eloquence plug Cicero into the belt, all your efforts will go down the drain if you are conniving with appearance.

Watch your manners

Girls really appreciate respectful signs of attention. In no case do not violate her personal space in the first minutes of meeting, but you can hold the door for her, give her a hand in front of the step or treat her with a drink. Do not allow rude and obscene jokes, foul language. You should not wash the bones of others, even if the woman at the next table is munching very unpleasantly. Be polite to everyone around you.

Feel confident

Even if a fire is raging inside you, stay calm and confident. In no case do not slouch, do not look from under your brows, do not take closed postures (crossed arms) and do not use insincere gestures (hands to the face, shifty eyes).

Lead the conversation in the right direction

Do not reveal too personal details too soon. Let your first conversation take place within the framework of things that are relevant, but general. Ask more questions than tell about yourself: what your interlocutor does, where he studied, how he likes to spend time, in a word, try to find common interests. Try to avoid awkward pauses: at this moment, both you and your interlocutor feel out of place, and who wants to continue communication on such terms?

Don't brag

Nobody likes a braggart, especially a woman. It is not necessary from the first minutes of acquaintance to boast of connections, a highly paid position or a luxurious car. By this you declare yourself as a selfish and mercantile person.

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Don't know how to impress others? We present effective advice from psychologists that will make you stand out from the gray mass!

Everyone probably knows that our body is able to give out any information about us, even against our will.

Body language tells the truth, even if we are lying.

Knowing this feature, many employees of recruitment companies have the basics of body language.

Such people know perfectly well whether we are afraid or nervous!

Often we feel awkward in an unfamiliar environment or in a responsible situation.

And wondering how to impress, we start looking for ways to change body language.

In fact, there are certain gestures that are conducive to conversation, as well as convincing the opponent of your self-confidence.

How to impress - instructions

To make an impression, you need:

• smile
• look into the eyes
• stop slouching
• don't put your hands in your pockets
• be well dressed
• don't close
• be calm
• stop flickering.

And now we will analyze it all in more detail.

A smile always impresses

A smile is a symbol of a happy person.

A smile, as it were, indicates that you are not afraid of anything, you feel like a fish in water, it comes from you.

Smiling people radiate from the inside and win you over.

Stop shrinking

A confident person will never slouch or hunch over.

He will also never drag his feet.

Try to straighten your shoulders, straighten up and smile.

You will immediately see how the world will change and sparkle with colors.

Let the interlocutor look away, not you

Confident and impressing person never hides anything.

He does not hide his eyes, but calmly withstands any glance of the opponent.

Looking your opponent in the eyes, you convince him of the sincerity of your intentions.

Impressive people keep their hands in plain sight

Always keep your hands in sight.

By hiding your hands behind your back, you give your opponent a reason to doubt your words.

The best way out is to keep your hands on your knees or in a calm and relaxed state.

Be sure to take care of your appearance

Tell me, do you like unwashed people with unkempt hair and dirty clothes?

That's what other people don't like!

Of course, now you can argue that American women don't even comb their hair in the morning.

Now tell me, how successful are such American women?

Do not know?

So never look back at anyone.

Take care of yourself and watch your wardrobe!

Tranquility is the best friend of a good experience

90% of people often twitch their leg during an important conversation.

They may also swing their arms too actively. All these gestures distract from uncertainty, but they do not make the best impression on the interlocutor.

Any person by such gestures will immediately guess about the nervousness of the interlocutor and may begin to get nervous himself.

In such a situation, it certainly will not work to impress!

Always be open

Arms crossed on the chest signal that a person is closed, or that the topic of conversation may be unpleasant.

When interviewing or communicating with a client, you should not take a similar pose.

It will not bring benefits, but it can push a person away from you.

Stop flickering

The bulk of people during a conversation tries to turn something in their hands, constantly straightens their hair or grabs their face.

All these gestures signal a person's insecurity.

Therefore, during any important conversation, it will be more correct to take control of your hands.

You can not?

Grab a folder!

This little trick will help you look more serious and confident.

For girls!

In order to impress a guy- be versatile!

A person who constantly develops, keeps up with the times, attends various trainings and seminars, learns to cook deliciously (to surprise others with different goodies every day), or takes vocal lessons - will ALWAYS have an interest in his personality!

And finally, I want to offer a useful video,

where only 5 tips are given on how to make a good impression on people!

In conclusion, I would like to tell you that it is simply impossible to please absolutely everyone.

However, in some situations, we just need to impress the interlocutor.

It is in such situations that you tune in to the positive, smile, and the scales will definitely tip in your favor.

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