Positive emotions in the autumn period. How to free yourself from disappointment and failed goals, restore yourself and find the joy of life again

How to find the joy of life

I noticed that many people find it very difficult to learn to truly enjoy life. In fact, people sometimes do very strange things to have fun. Some jump from completely intact planes, although these planes are not going to fall at all. Others, for fun, sit for hours on the banks of the river with a fishing rod.

People have come up with a lot of ball games. They run around the field and kick the ball with their feet. They try to hit a small ball with clubs into small holes. They throw big balls into baskets. They chase the oval-shaped ball around the field. People play cards and find a lot of activities for themselves that are not interesting in themselves, but a person is able to find in them not only something interesting, but also funny.

Wouldn't it be nice if you could make something that doesn't seem fun, more enjoyable and interesting? This is quite learnable. Focus on what you do best. If you take an activity that you really like and another that does not give you any pleasure, it becomes clear that the submodalities of these processes are different. This is true by definition. Therefore, these activities evoke different feelings in you.

Remember a pleasant pastime. Focus on your feelings and amplify them. You can make it so that you will receive not just pleasure, but very great pleasure from the process. This is very easy to do - just use the gain technique. Imagine an image of what gives you pleasure. Looking at a mental image, zoom in on it, double its size. Increase the brightness of the image. Speed ​​up his movement. You must also hear the corresponding sounds in order for the feelings to become stronger.

Once the feelings are strong enough, literally unwind them inside of you, faster and faster. Feelings should cover the center of your body. Spin this feeling even more so that it affects you completely - from the top of your head to your heels. Visualize this picture vividly and in detail.

The faster your sensations unwind, the stronger the feeling will become. Now think about what you need to do, what you would like to make fun, what you would like to achieve - and achieve quickly.

HOW TO GET THE JOY OF LIFE

1. Think of an activity that gives you a lot of pleasure. Note all the submodalities of this state.

2. Relive this feeling and increase the feeling of pleasure. To do this, play with the submodalities and tune them in such a way that the sensations become stronger and more intense.

3. Unwind the sensations within your body. Keep strengthening them. Now imagine an activity that you would like to enjoy more. As you continue to spin the feeling of pleasure in your body faster and faster, imagine this activity.

There are a lot of really fun and interesting activities in our life, but for some reason people have difficulty with them. One of these activities, of course, is sex. I always wonder why partners can't just look at each other and say, " Let's go to another room and have sex". They get into bed and think about it, and neither of them says a word. Psychologists find many explanations for this condition. They explain that people are afraid of failure, afraid of being rejected. They find a lot of different explanations. But in fact, partners simply do not experience strong enough motivation.

People spend too much time on long, serious quarrels in bed, and they regret the time to please and enjoy each other. If they looked deep into themselves and spun the desired state quickly enough, and then just smiled at the partner and asked if he would like to have sex, their life would become much happier. Sometimes in response they would hear "Yes", sometimes - "No". The more you ask, the more chances you have to hear the answer. And the more firmly you remember this, the more pleasure you will get.

THE WAY TO GREAT SEX

1. Think about your loved one.

2. Remember when he looked the sexiest, when you were irresistibly drawn to him.

3. You must see what you saw then, hear what you heard then, feel what you felt then. Feel the desire. Unwind this feeling in yourself faster and faster.

4. Smile at your partner and seduce him. Try to make him feel as good as possible. Think back to all the wonderful moments you shared together. Being close to a partner, unwind the feeling of pleasure in yourself faster and faster.

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Joy inspires and gives a sense of the fullness of life. But suddenly something breaks - and she leaves. Do you know the feeling of hopelessness and apathy? To deal with it, you need to understand its true cause.

Fatigue is the simplest and most common reason why the world around us ceases to be enjoyable. Feelings are dulled, everything seems gray and monotonous. And the only recipe in this case is how to relax.

Sometimes it seems to us that we live a very boring life. Here, artists (showmen, politicians, journalists ...) have an interesting and eventful life, not like mine, we think. The paradox is that writers, artists, actors, and pop stars are all equally tired of what they do every day. Whoever you are, from time to time you need to break out of everyday reality and change the picture. Take a vacation and go away - to another city, another country. Free yourself from your usual routine. Breathe in the air of freedom. Learn new things. Often this step is able to restore strength and bring back the joy of each day.

The simplest and most common reason that the world around you ceases to be enjoyable is fatigue. Feelings are dulled, everything seems gray and monotonous. And the only recipe in this case is how to relax.

But it happens that the blues becomes chronic. Complete disappointment, unwillingness to do anything, awareness of the meaninglessness of life - these are the symptoms of this state. We lose joy in one case: when we cannot use life to satisfy our needs, says psychoanalytic therapist Eduard Livinsky. - A person perceives the world through the prism of what he can influence. And if he satisfies other people's desires and sacrifices his own, he feels frustration. And that's how we're raised! You go to work where no one is going to think about your personal needs. You live in a society that is focused on the accumulation of capital, and if you have other values, you have to break yourself. Joy is always the joy of one's own doing, activity for oneself among like-minded people.

6 ways to shake things up and want to live

If everyday life has become insipid, you need to look for a way to diversify them. Just do not sit back: apathy does not go away on its own!

  1. Go on a trip. Change of environment and new experiences expand the boundaries of perception. All sensations become several times sharper. And there is time to think about what, in fact, is important to you.
  2. Get a pet. Caring for a small defenseless creature - even a turtle - gives each of us the necessary feeling of being needed. The animal depends entirely on the owner: you will begin to receive joy when you feed it, stroke it, communicate with it.
  3. Go to church for a service. Even if you are not a religious person, try to stand the service, listen to prayers and understand yourself better. People often find peace and harmony after attending church. It's not even about the ceremony, but about returning to yourself.
  4. Think of a new hobby. Ask yourself: what is important for you, what have you always wanted to do and what have you denied yourself? And take this step: sign up for a dance or theater studio, start learning professional photography. There is nowhere else to put it off.
  5. Start a mini-repair at home. At least rearrange the furniture and re-paste the wallpaper. Firstly, you will undoubtedly be distracted, and secondly, transforming and renewing your home, you yourself will want to renew yourself internally.
  6. Help someone who is in trouble. When we do good, we always feel joy. We are changing, becoming cleaner and brighter. A visit to a sick friend, helping her mother, a few kind words to a neighbor ... And, maybe, volunteer work.

Pamper the body - thaw the soul

Bodily pleasures can be excellent therapy for apathy. To do this, turn ordinary procedures into a pleasant ritual. The simplest things that we often do in a hurry can give moments of genuine joy. For example, peeling: there is so much bliss and sensuality in the treatment of the body with a fragrant scrub! The same can be said about Ayurveda's favorite oiling ritual, for which any slightly warmed oil will do (you can take olive oil and add a few drops of essential oil to your taste). It makes sense to take a course of oil massage or several sessions of stone therapy - massage with heated stones. During such procedures, we focus on our sensations and learn to enjoy touch and tactile contact. The body relaxes, unnecessary thoughts go away along with tension. We take care of ourselves - and this gives us confidence!

There are times when sadness just rolls over. Psychologists advise not to hide from her under fake fun, but to fully experience emotions.

  • Listen to yourself

If at this moment you feel sadness and longing, surrender to these difficult feelings in full. You are entitled to them.

  • Find the right job

Maybe it's time to watch a sentimental movie or flip through your ten-year-old diary. Or just cry into your pillow. By the way, tears act cleansing.

  • Think that it will pass

No matter how bad it is, you should always look for a thread that you can cling to. This thread is our hope for tomorrow, that everything will change for the better and we will be in great shape. Think about the good even in the most difficult periods - and it will certainly happen to you!

Pick up a brush

To express your feelings in creativity and to understand the essence of the problem that worries you, makes it possible to art therapy (healing by art) - a method of psychotherapy that has become popular in recent years. Spleen, apathy, lack of interest in life are direct indications for her. The simplest technique is to try to express your emotions in a drawing.

Depict, for example, your longing, and then your joy - and compare these two pictures, mentally transferring yourself to the field of joy. If you are overwhelmed with negative emotions, you can even create a sculpture from paper, old newspapers, pieces of wallpaper, and then paint it in sunny colors - try to transform the negative into a positive. How good is art therapy? Firstly, you express your emotions, which means that they do not accumulate inside you. Secondly, you pull the problem out and distance yourself from it. And thirdly, the creative process itself is healing, which will capture you entirely! In addition to isotherapy, there are many other techniques: music, dance, fairy tale, photo, game, drama and even sand therapy.

Where to look for life energy

To return the world of color, you need to start doing something. Not for someone else - for yourself. Find the area where your efforts will be fruitless. Seeing the result of your work, you will want to live again!

Work that does not bring joy and serves only to earn money, relationships in which the sharpness of feelings has long been dulled, constant employment and haste, many small household chores ... How to break this vicious circle? You need to find an area where you can fully realize your abilities - and the perception of life will change.

The main task of any of us is to allow our self to do something valuable for ourselves. Therefore, any activity that brings you pleasure can get rid of the blues! The most difficult thing remains: to find something for the soul. The trouble is that often we deactivate our own self so much that it loses the ability to create desires. Psychologists recommend in this case to remember what brought you joy in childhood. Sewing outfits for dolls, creating collages, sculpting, drawing - after all, it was definitely an exciting activity. And then cast aside doubts and false shame (say, I'm no longer a child) and indulge in your favorite business! Even if you don't feel inspired at first.

It is very important not to withdraw into yourself. Find people with similar problems so that you have someone to talk to. Search for those who share your hobbies, since now it is easy to do using the Internet. But communication should not be limited to the virtual world: it is imperative to go out into reality!

Each of us needs to be appreciated and accepted by others. Therefore, find an opportunity to participate in those collective events where your activity will be welcomed! A lonely person can go on a group tour of the city: a friendly atmosphere, an exchange of opinions - and now you are no longer alone! It is enough for a young mother, who thinks that life is passing her by, to organize a holiday at home, invite friends with children - and she will perk up, advises Eduard Livinsky. - A life without meaning is a sure road to depression.

Set goals for yourself and achieve them, and this activity will bring you out of an emotional stupor. Write down five goals focused on your own needs - what you will do for the soul and good mood.

IMPORTANT! Any communication with children will bring you pleasure and sincere joy if you put aside all business and completely devote some time to the child. Teach him something, discover a new meaning for his favorite activities. Nothing makes us more happy than the success of our children.

Give children joy

The most common cause of apathy and depression is infantilism. A person expects that life will give him all the joys, not wanting to act on his own. Meanwhile, life requires effort, otherwise it turns into a swamp. Look for new meanings of existence for yourself. One of them may be caring for children who have no parents. If you are single and not too happy right now, give some warmth to those who really need it! Coming to the nearest orphanage on a weekend and reading a fairy tale to the kids, talking to older children - this will not require any special expenses. But the return can be very strong. You will feel that someone needs you, that someone is happy for you, someone is waiting for you. So, there is a meaning to life!

The Art of Gratitude

Any person feels happy when his efforts are accepted, whether at work, in the family. Imagine that you prepared a delicious dinner, having spent the whole day at the stove, and your relatives ate it with lean faces and did not even thank you - where is there to rejoice? Therefore, at home - in our microcosm, where we ourselves establish orders - we need to cultivate a culture of gratitude.

Teach your children, your husband, and learn to appreciate what you have done for yourself. Say thank you!, feeling this warm feeling inside yourself. And thank life for what it gives you.

Experience difficulties. And with honor to overcome!

Everything is fine, but everything is tired - the spleen of satiety, you can’t say otherwise. She is being treated!

Live in extreme conditions. For example, go camping with tents. The world will turn upside down. You will start to notice things that you didn't notice before. And many problems will be unimportant.

Learn another language. Communication on the courses greatly broadens one's horizons. And the head will be busy - not to apathy.

Start running. At least 3 km per day. It is not easy to break away from the TV - the favorite pastime of all the blues. But what joy you will feel every time after the end of the run! Including the fact that while running, endorphins are released into the bloodstream.

History from life

My niece brought me out of apathy

Two years ago Diana from Poltava (26 years old) was in a serious depression. She, pregnant, was left by a loved one. She lost her child from frustration. And these were not all the trials that fell to her lot!

At first everything went great. Upon learning that I was expecting a child, Denis proposed to me. We had already invited guests to the wedding, when suddenly at night we quarreled over a trifle. And Denis ... disappeared. And I soon ended up in the hospital. The baby was not saved.

I hated men. She lived in chronic apathy. Nothing made me happy. I went to work only because I had to live on something. One day I was walking home tired and thought: I want to go to the hospital with a sore throat. Our negative attitudes come true: I slipped unsuccessfully and ended up in intensive care. I was paralyzed, the doctors said that now I will lie down. But a miracle happened: I got to my feet. I was discharged from the hospital, knowing that for three years I could not get pregnant.

My sister just had a daughter. And she called me to her place in Kyiv.

She offered to change her life and stay with her, help with Karina. At first I refused, and six months later I quit my job and moved in with my sister. At first I was afraid to touch the baby. But soon she easily changed her diapers and could stay with her for the whole day. Communication with this sun energized me. We walked with her for a long time, played, I read books to her. Somehow I caught myself thinking that I want the same miracle! Karina taught me to smile again. The depression has passed. Now I am looking for a job in the capital and I hope to arrange a personal life.

By caring, we find harmony

Caring for plants and animals is a guaranteed way to love the world again. In Haruki Murakami's acclaimed book "Norwegian Forest", the main character, Naoko, finds herself in a closed medical institution in the mountains years after the loss of a loved one. People who have lost their taste for life - people like her - are treated there not with medicines, but with simple activities: growing vegetables, floriculture and poultry farming.

Working near the earth, in contact with its creations, watching how sprouts break through, how fruits ripen, a person draws strength and is charged with vital energy, forgetting about his mental traumas. This primitive activity, despite all the achievements of scientific and technological progress, remains the most natural for us. But where can a city dweller look for a vegetable garden or a farm? A good way out is growing flowers. This hobby does not require a lot of money, but allows you to fully experience the joy of communicating with nature. Flowers are beautiful, they awaken in us a sense of beauty. Caring for them, we free our heads from annoying thoughts, relax and rest from the hustle and bustle.

Your sources of inspiration

We are sad when we lack something. And we rejoice when we feel connected with the world and other people. And for this you need not to engage in self-digging, but to strive to learn new things, to see the world in all its colors. And feel that you are alive!

Watching nature brings joy, because it is alive. And depression is nothing more than a loss of life dynamics. Therefore, the contemplation of nature restores. You watch how the trees bloom, clouds float, insects swarm, and you understand: life flows regardless of our petty everyday misfortunes. Against this bewitching background, their problems seem insignificant. And nature also instills faith that you can do something as important and natural as a blooming flower or a bee carrying nectar.

Art inspires and demonstrates the diversity of life, showing that not everything around us is gray and monotonous. And it also allows you to have your own emotions, pushing us to feel, experience, catch fire. Indeed, in essence, art is emotions poured into sounds, colors, movements. Depression always starts with fear of your feelings.

Books and films with a positive story, dedicated to overcoming obstacles, instill confidence in one's own strength. If the hero coped with the difficulties, then you can do it too! Joy goes away because we cannot process the situation, we get stuck in it. And someone else's example shows: there is a way out, you have to look for it! And the only question is how to do it. If you can’t find a way out yourself, you should talk with a friend, a psychologist, any person who will help you look at the problem from the outside. And make sure: there is something to rejoice in life!

Beautiful landscapes cause unconscious joy, so use every opportunity to be in nature. Alternate active rest with meditation or contemplation of awakening nature. Rejoice in spring!

4 books that will set you up for positive

  • Osho. Hsin Hsin Ming: The Book of Nothing

Our mind creates dreams. To wake up and experience true joy, you need to go beyond the mind. Osho tells how to turn off the stereotypes imposed by culture, free yourself from the need for choice and start living an authentic life.

  • Anna Gavalda. Just together

A kind, wise and life-affirming novel about love and how to find joy in everyday life. All the characters, at first lonely, find their happiness at the end of the story. And one of its important components is to help another in difficult times.

  • Sue Townsend. The Diaries of Adrian Mole

Incredibly funny book, not leaving the bestseller list, about the adventures of an English teenager prone to blues and who considers himself an intellectual and a talented poet. Sparkling!

  • Viktor Frankl. Man in search of meaning

An Austrian psychiatrist describes his personal experience of surviving in a concentration camp and shows that even in the most terrible conditions, one can find an incentive to continue life. A serious book that can turn your worldview upside down.

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Everyone can become happy and no circumstances can interfere with this. What is the recipe? The tip is simple: look for happiness in yourself!

Try to be imbued with one simple thought: "Joy is within us." Repeat these three words a few times to yourself. Do you understand what they are about? What does it actually mean? And if you emotionally responded to this statement, if it touched your soul, causing some pleasant memories, then you are able to realize one of the greatest truths: you can be happy. You have been given to understand that happiness does not depend on how others treat you, that it does not matter whether your childhood was terrible or wonderful. Happiness will not interfere with career failures, the successes of friends and even illness.

Now think about the meaning of the word "joy."

Is it just a pleasant feeling for you or something more? The morning sun, a romantic date, Sunday football with friends, a successful yoga lesson, at last - all these are certainly important pleasant moments. But if you delve into it, it turns out that all of them do not depend on you yourself, but on certain events, people or situations that you need to rejoice. And it seems to you that you can become happy only with a successful combination of all circumstances: in the morning the sun shone in the sky, in the afternoon you successfully negotiated, in the evening you mastered a new asana, and at home dinner with your loved one was waiting for you. So you run the risk of becoming a frantic seeker of pleasant sensations. To believe that it is necessary to create all the conditions for oneself in order to always be in a good mood is one of the most common misconceptions of our time.

But inner joy is of a different nature. There are four words in Sanskrit - sukha, santosha, mudita and ananda, each of which means a different level of happiness. Together they are the path leading to joy that nothing can shake.

Sukha

fleeting pleasure

Sukha is the happiness we experience when we are inside our comfort zone. The word "sukha" is translated as "lightness", "convenience", "pleasure". When we go outside on a warm summer day, we experience an unexpected surge of joy. Sukha - this so-called ordinary happiness - is by its nature fleeting. All states that depend on external conditions can disappear at any moment.

Sukha is directly related to its opposite, duhkha, or suffering. Like hot and cold, birth and death - sukha and duhkha - are always inseparably together: if our well-being depends on external conditions, it will always be unsteady.

Santosha

Satisfaction

The Yoga Sutras consider the practice of santoshi to be extremely important, as it is the fastest way to get rid of the excitement and anxiety that results from disappointments and unsatisfied desires.

Santosha is contentment with what you have. To feel happy, you do not need anything, no special conditions. We can only be truly satisfied if we give up chasing the unreachable, giving up high expectations of life. We must get away from stereotypes and learn not to compare our abilities, character traits, property, and even spiritual achievements with what others have.

Mudita

spiritual happiness

The practice of santoshi has a calming effect on our mind - and unbeknownst to ourselves, we can move to the next level of happiness. Mudita arises spontaneously, out of nowhere, like a message from the depths of consciousness that can change our state in an instant. It evokes various feelings: gratitude, delight, calmness, the ability to see beauty where we have never seen it before, such as in the garbage on the sidewalks or hamburgers.

Mudita can be developed in oneself - spiritual practice is mainly aimed at finding the joy of just such a quality in oneself. For example, mudita causes spiritual singing. Perform certain postures and meditate while repeating mantras. Some religious traditions, such as bhakti yoga and Sufism, specialize in the art of developing mudita, which helps us move into more subtle states of our consciousness.

Ananda

Happiness beyond understanding

When mudita most fully influences our perception of the world, we comprehend the deepest level of joy - ananda. It is usually translated as "happiness", "complete bliss". This is ecstasy, delight, ecstasy, emanating from the very center of the universe. When you contact it, you realize that you have comprehended previously unknown levels of reality.

Some teachers believe that at the moment of such ecstasy, running in waves through our veins, we communicate with God. You will find a similar comparison of joy with a touch of the divine in Sufi poetry, in the Kabbalah and in the works of Christian mystics. Clive Lewis titled his spiritual autobiography Overtaken by Joy because his entire communion with God was a feeling of absolute happiness. By cultivating joy in ourselves, we pave a direct path to self-knowledge. Start by taking the sayings of the great gurus seriously and without irony. Try to understand their words about the joy that is material and nearby - inside you and in the world around you. Then find those practices that will help you open up. Joy may come to you unexpectedly. But you yourself can approach it step by step.

From sadness to joy

It is easier to believe that the source of happiness is within us than to know it. You may agree that the joy lies within yourself, but not feel it. What needs to be done to find the strength to change something in relation to the world? How to choose a practice that can help?

The most important thing is not to be afraid of the fact that you are unable to find joy here and now, at your first request. Once, Siddha Gurumayi Chidvilasananda compared joy to a butterfly, which one day will definitely fly in and land on your hand, but it is impossible to catch and plant it by force, much less hold it. Instead of trying to get joy, it will be much more effective to find practices that attract it to you - mainly those that relate to working with consciousness. Try to cure yourself of the cynicism that inevitably infects any inhabitant of a big city.

Mercy, the ability to be grateful to ourselves and those around us for all the good things that happen to us in life, and even for the problems that fall on us, the conscious rejection of offenses - all this helps to break down the barrier that forms around the heart and does not allow joy to come to it. And be sure to pay attention to the mental conversation with yourself, which you, like all people, are constantly having. The thought is material.

I want to please myself today

The next step is a form of mudita, such as chanting, praying, talking directly to your heart and expanding the energy in it, meditation with visualization, praying for the well-being of loved ones, or any practice of which there are countless.

One of the very good practices described in tantric texts. Perhaps it underlies all of the above. We will very conditionally call it "In Pursuit". This simple exercise can be done at any time - when you are riding public transport, washing dishes, and even when listening to the radio. In a very short time, it can change your consciousness.

Close your eyes and remember a time when you were truly happy. Mentally transport yourself to that moment. Remember how you felt then. You can imagine images - remember the scene, what you were wearing, who was present at the same time. Ask yourself: “What exactly did I feel then?” After asking yourself this question, wait until the feeling of happiness returns to you again. Try to hold it in yourself, even if it can be done for only a few moments.

Then, after removing the place or situation from your memory, determine the point on your body where the center of the feeling of happiness is located, and try to expand the feeling of joy until it fills you completely. If you have a good visual memory, then try to endow the feeling with some warm color, such as gold or pink. You can also work with the breath by expanding the sensation you find in your memories as you exhale.

Try to keep the feeling of happiness in yourself for as long as possible. Try to make it so that at least for a moment it becomes the most important thing. But this is just a glimpse of the newfound reality - imagine how much happiness is actually hiding inside you.

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Sometimes it is quite difficult to enjoy a completely bleak occupation. Fortunately, life can become much happier, just change your view of the world. With a few tricks, you can find joy in literally everything.

Steps

Put joy at the forefront

    Have fun. Adults often think that their life should be serious, consisting of work and family obligations. With age, the time of rest and entertainment does not lose its importance compared to childhood. Adults play to learn and expand their horizons, to feel the competitive spirit, to indulge in fun and forget about joyful activities. Don't wait for a good mood to find you. You need to actively incorporate activities that are enjoyable for you into your daily routine or weekly plan.

    • Examples include a new art hobby, regular hangouts with friends to watch movies or play games, and time spent with the kids.
  1. Learn to see the positives. You can enjoy any activity if you can see the light at the end of the tunnel. Even exhausting affairs give us valuable results; you just need to consider the positive moments and let them into your life.

    • You can find positive every day using the following method. Set aside 10 minutes every day for three weeks. Start by listing 5 things that make you happy (like "watching the sunrise in the morning" or "hearing the laughter of loved ones"). Now think about times when things didn't go well. Describe the situation. After that, you need to find three ways that will help you see the positives in this test.
    • For example, your car breaks down on your way to work. You are devastated and irritably waiting for the arrival of the mechanic. But waiting time can be used in another way: it is an opportunity to read that verse that your friend has been talking about for a long time. You also have a couple of minutes to call your mother and inquire about her health. Finally, waiting will allow you to collect your thoughts before diving into a new work day. The ability to notice positive moments will help you see the positive even in unpleasant situations.
  2. Celebrate any success. Perhaps you don't find joy in life because you don't take advantage of small miracles and successes. Have you recently reached your goal? It's time to celebrate it. Has your friend found a new job or lost weight? Celebrate together. Find ways to celebrate all the little victories.

    Change the environment. Bring some fun into your environment at home, work or school. Repaint your office or bedroom in stimulating bright colors that will make you smile. Get house plants. Use new lighting, fabrics, colors and other decorations, and books that lift your spirits.

    Enjoy the little things

    1. Find pleasure in pleasant sounds. Sounds can have a huge impact on how you feel about what you're doing right now. For example, you need to clean your bedroom or kitchen. This is a boring activity, but if you turn on one of your favorite songs, then cleaning will immediately turn into a joyful concert.

      Notice pleasant touches. People need warmth and physical touch as it is the primary expression of empathy. In the digital age, all touch has become even more important. They enhance feelings of security and safety, enhance overall well-being, build trust, strengthen bonds, and reduce the likelihood of illness.

      • While doing your current affairs, try to surround yourself with those people whose touches give you joy. In this way, you will fill almost all aspects of your life with satisfaction.
    2. Enjoy your favorite food. Even eating can give joy, if you treat it thoughtfully. For many people, food can make you feel guilty. Perhaps sometimes it's better to forego a slice of chocolate cake at a corporate party or a second bucket of popcorn while watching a movie. However, by mindful eating versus mindless snacking, you can enjoy your favorite meals without feeling guilty.

      Smile. If you have recently experienced stress, then only the use of a band-aid can bring a smile to your face, since the effects of stress do not allow you to relax. According to the Greater Good Project at Berkeley, any smile (even a forced one) has a positive effect on our health. It accelerates the recovery of the heart after intense experiences.

      • Try to smile even during unpleasant activities to improve your mood and well-being. You will immediately feel better.

      Change your view of the world

      1. Become a tourist for a day. If we live in one place for months and years, then we cease to perceive it as unusual or inspiring. Restore the lost attachment to your place of residence and turn into a tourist for one day.

The legendary announcer of the central television of the USSR Igor Kirillov has always been handsome, elegant and collected in the frame. Thousands of fans fell in love with him, but he could be given an order for loyalty. For more than half a century, he lived in perfect harmony with his wife Irina. And then trouble came to his house. He suffered the loss of his wife and son. It was difficult for Igor Leonidovich, but he never complained. And fate gave a chance to become happy again.

Loyalty

Igor Kirillov in his youth. / Photo: www.justmedia.ru

Igor and Irina met in childhood. They lived in neighboring houses, and little Igor became friends with three sisters: Tatyana, Irina and Natalya. Igor and Irina were then 10 years old.

Mutual feelings between Igor and Irina arose a little later, in the seventh grade. They spent more and more time together. And even during the summer holidays, when everyone went to a dacha in the suburbs, they did not part. They had dachas in one place, only on opposite sides of the railway. This did not stop Igor from visiting his girlfriend, first on a bicycle, then on a motorcycle.

Igor and Irina Kirillov on their wedding day. / Photo: www.dayonline.ru

Igor and Irina got married in 1953, when both were still students. In 1961, a daughter, Anna, was born in the Kirillov family, and 10 years later, a son, Vsevolod.

Igor Leonidovich always listened to the opinion of his wife. Irina Vsevolodovna was for him not only a beloved woman, but also a friend, adviser, and first critic. It was she who prevented him from contracting the "star disease" virus. She was always strict and meticulous about herself and what her husband did.

Igor Kirillov with his daughter and son. / Photo: www.smotret-onlain.net

When the audience attributed to him novels with all the partners on television, Igor Leonidovich only smiled. On television, everyone knew about his reverent attitude towards his wife. Everyone knew and loved Irina Vsevolodovna on television. She herself worked for 33 years at Ostankino as a sound engineer. The wife of Igor Kirillov surprised everyone with her gentleness and at the same time her ability to support in difficult times, to come to the aid of everyone who needed her.

Igor and Irina Kirillov. / Photo: www.mtdata.ru

And the announcer did not forget to emphasize that his wife has a very strong character. When someone expressed doubt, he only shrugged: how could a weak woman withstand all his shortcomings? When Irina Vsevolodovna passed away in 2004, Igor Kirillovich could not recover from the loss for a long time. Despite the fact that his wife was ill for a long time, he was not at all ready for her departure. And then he looked after Irina's younger sister, Natalya, who at one time helped the announcer's wife during her illness. After the death of Natalia, Igor Leonidovich was left completely alone.

Loneliness

Kirillov's daughter Anna lived in Germany for a long time, son Vsevolod, after a family conflict with his parents and sister, stopped communicating, even changing phone numbers. In 2011, the son died suddenly from pancreatitis. Only after his death did Igor Kirillov meet his son's widow and his children.

Igor Leonidovich endured loneliness very hard, but he was not used to complaining. The world seemed to turn gray. He continued to go to work when he was invited to take part in the filming, went to the store for shopping. And then fate gave him a chance to become happy again.

happiness as a reward

Igor Kirillov with his wife Tatyana. / Photo: www.kpcdn.net

They met in 2008 in a store near the house of Igor Kirillov. He often went there for groceries. Tatyana at first did not even believe herself when, standing behind the counter, she heard the voice of a famous announcer familiar from childhood.

He looked confused and sad. Benevolent Tatyana wholeheartedly tried to cheer up Igor Leonidovich. She always had a kind word for him. And once he asked her a question, from which she was simply confused. He asked if she knew how to cook pasta. And there was so much longing in the look of this handsome middle-aged man that her heart sank.

Igor Kirillov with his wife Tatyana. / Photo: www.tricolortvmag.ru

In the evening she hurried to his house. I fed him dinner, tried to put things in order in the apartment. And then she began to often run to him after work. She cooked meals, helped as much as she could with the housework. On one of these evenings, she received a call from work and was told that she had been fired. Tatyana Alexandrovna could not hide her grief. The loss of her job entailed for her, a native of Moldova, an automatic loss of housing, since there would simply be nothing to pay for a rented apartment.

That day, he invited her to spend the night in her daughter's empty room. And in the morning he simply offered to stay and live with him in a huge apartment. Tatyana Alexandrovna became his friend and his guardian angel. She helped him cope with another blow of fate when the news of the death of his son came.

Igor Leonidovich and Tatyana Alexandrovna. / Photo: www.starhit.ru

When Igor Kirillov proposed to her, she agreed without hesitation. But at first they had a hard time. There were acquaintances who considered it their duty to sympathize with Kirillov, to open their eyes to the commercialism of his second wife. And she, along with him, went to look after the grave of Irina Vsevolodovna and daily wiped the dust from her portraits, which still hang in their house.

She considers it her duty and a tribute to her husband's past. Tatyana Alexandrovna has become a real friend for Anna, her husband's daughter, with whom they communicate daily via the Internet.

Igor Kirillov. / Photo: www.vokrug.tv

Quite a bit of time passed, and the announcer's friends saw how not only Kirillov himself, but also his house had changed. It became cozy and warm again, and happy lights shone in Igor Leonidovich's eyes.