It is paradoxical, but it is precisely in this way that trampling on the faith of loved ones that people sin most often. Not thinking about the soul - neither about your own, nor about the soul of a loved one.

Betraying someone who is initially set to trust you and therefore does not expect a catch is much easier than someone else's. To paraphrase a classic, someone close to him is glad to be deceived. The meaner such a deception, the more difficult it is to forgive him.

For those who have been betrayed, the question may arise - is it worth it to forgive? Is it possible to risk trusting again, overcoming resentment, or is it better not to?

On the one hand, a person who lied once can easily do it again. Therefore, it is safer not to mess with him and break off all relationships.

But on the other hand, it is also impossible to put an end to a person: everyone should have a chance for forgiveness and redemption, because anyone can stumble.

Yes, a lot depends on the situation. Only in childhood for us the world is either black or white. In fact, it is full of undertones and uncertainty. View Full Version : Is it possible to trust a person who has already deceived you once?

Not! Serious deception is already a property of the individual and will not be one-time. If only we ourselves want to continue to be deceived, then we can give a chance and ... be deceived again and again.

Sometimes people slip up! It’s impossible to say for sure, of course, but everyone should have a chance to correct, a chance for forgiveness !!!

You can believe, but if it's a lie. Sometimes there are lies to the rescue. But if this is a betrayal, then you involuntarily expect a repetition. It's human nature(U)

Hello. Why are scammers and manipulators attracted to us in life, those who lead us astray? We all ask ourselves this question when faced with any form of deception or disappointment.

Quite recently, an incident happened to me ... I ended up in an unfamiliar part of the city on business and got lost. I asked for directions from a woman who, it seemed to me, lives somewhere here and is worthy of trust. She pointed out, I went that direction and got even more lost. What is the reason for my delusion? Most likely, I did not know where to go and went at random, using the advice of a stranger. You can even exaggerate - she trusted a stranger with her life for a while.

This is one possible answer to your question.

It happens that we are sure that we know where we are going and why we are doing this, but this is not so. And then there is someone who directs us in the wrong direction, leads us astray. And as in my case, to find an answer, it is worth reformulating the question.

Relationships without deceit: why it is impossible to forgive deceit?

In a relationship, “the main thing” is trust ... Or maybe in a relationship, “the main thing” is honesty, or maybe the “main thing” is not to change, or, in a relationship, “the main thing” is love?

There are so many "big things" in a relationship that it's hard to figure them all out. In any case, everyone chooses for himself what is most important for him. Because everything important is very relative, and if applicable in one case, it is highly undesirable in another.

I don't know what is the main thing in a relationship. This I know for sure. If I were asked to write instructions for an ideal relationship, I probably would not have coped. But I know why I would start writing it. I would start with advice, and this advice would lay the foundation for an ideal relationship. I would write in capital letters: "The strongest poison that poisons any relationship is DECEPTION." And put a big exclamation point at the end.
Why cheat? Have you ever wondered how nice it is to fully trust a person?

Today we will be interested in trust relationships. This is a very important moment in the life of every person, because the lack of trust is a sign of far from the best relationship. How to line them up correctly? What does that require? Can trusting relationships negatively affect a person? Read about all the features of the relationship between people.

What it is

The first step is to understand what a relationship of trust is. After all, without this it will not be possible to fully understand what is at stake. And even more so to build relationships of this type.

Trusted contacts are people in which citizens can trust and trust each other. For example, you are not afraid to tell someone your secrets and secrets. This is a kind of faith in mutual integrity, sincerity, honesty.

This is the type of relationship that should be in families and couples. It allows you to maintain a friendly and favorable atmosphere.

A lie is a conscious statement that is not true. Lies are so common in communication between people that we sometimes do not attach importance to them.

There are no spheres of life in which there is no place for deception. Children and adults, men and women almost constantly deceive each other on trifles, and sometimes on more weighty reasons. After all, it is not in vain that people say that only fools and angels do not lie. But are lies always harmless?

First of all, it is necessary to understand the motivation of lies. The main reasons for lying are:

fear of punishment - that is why many schoolchildren hide diaries with marks from their parents; the desire to prove their independence and independence - leads to the fact that teenagers secretly start smoking from their parents; verbal aggression - with the aim of slandering and slandering someone who does not like, causing him trouble; get what you want or benefit - the student lies to the teacher that he is ill so that he is not called.

Whatever the topic is - about choosing a new tablet, a movie, a maternity hospital or a decent hotel in Turkey - the first reaction is to see what they write about it on the Internet. It seems that this bad habit is long overdue.

“It should be borne in mind that 70% of all reviews in any industry are written to order,” says Roman Usov, director of Kraftwork, which specializes in creating and promoting websites. - And this is only if you do not take politics: politics (comments on political topics on the Internet. - Ed.) - this is a contract in 95% of cases.

“Paid reviews are available on any site where you can leave a comment,” says Andrey N., an account manager for a marketing agency, who asked not to be identified by his last name and place of work. When was the last time you wrote a review yourself? People don't write reviews.

About dead souls from Belarus

Shame on you if you fooled me once.
Shame on me if you fooled me twice.

Never trust someone who has deceived you twice...

Kisses.
not for all eternity.
didn't sleep.
hands that thought they were theirs
other people's hands
kept.

knew.
knew not to believe.
no more
believe.
enduring
pause, as if on fire,
as if on fire
hesitate.

I am completely disillusioned with life. Nothing can be trusted. She opened the door, on which was the inscription "men", and there was a toilet.

You can't trust anyone in this world, trust me.

Burning bridges
I believe that no one can be trusted
And believe me, it was easy to draw a conclusion
No one should be allowed closer
You can't let anyone get closer.

Sometimes you can't even trust yourself.
What to say about others

There is such a thing as verbiage.
And there are people like you. verbiage?

Have you ever thought about how important role Do superstitions play in our lives? It all starts from childhood, when black cats seem to be real fiends, constantly crossing our path, and a neighbor with an empty bucket automatically becomes a witch, a meeting with which does not bode well. And who hasn't put a nickel in their shoe in the vain hope of getting an A on a test? Having matured, we, not even believing in omens, still do not start important things from Monday, and even more so we do not celebrate forty years. Because it's an omen. Bad.

Especially a lot of signs, at first glance, for no reason forbidding certain actions. So let's figure out where all these strange, and often ridiculous superstitions came from?

Why can't you do anything on Friday the 13th?

“On this day, people are afraid to go outside once again and, if possible, do not plan anything important”

Will you be happy if they deceive you? conscience then torments the Law of sowing and reaping.
What you plant, you will grow. who told you such nonsense?. And this is not a theorem, this is an axiom. proof is not needed here, it is impossible, and that's it. I don't think it's impossible, so I'm cheating without regrets. One cannot intuitively assume what a person thinks. You won't get inside his head? you tell the government this (which is impossible), so they will be surprised. That's just what you can do. If you do not deceive, then you. You have to be able to deceive. And these are just your teenage arguments. You can deceive another person, tell a lie, but it will only make it worse for you. After all, it’s very disgusting to lie and deceive, you definitely won’t experience any pleasant and bright feelings after that. So the choice is yours. Teeth may fall out, prematurely and irreparably ... Actually, this is not prohibited by law.

Why is it so easy to fool me? This question is probably asked by thousands of people all over the world, once again falling for the bait of cheaters. How many were in the life of these deceptions: from childhood to the present day. Constantly the same thing: once again I am deceived, I am deceived. And once again, I give myself a vow - never again to believe in people, in honesty and decency. And again, and again - everyone deceives me. And it's easy, without any problems. Like a real sucker. Why? For what? Yes, after all, why do people lie?

Why do people lie and deceive each other? After all, a lie is comparable to betrayal, the biggest crime ... Why does everyone constantly deceive me? Why do I fall for deceit, although I have been taught many times by bad experience? Why am I once again deceived in a person in the same situations? Why does a person seem to be good, and then turn out to be the other way around? And why is it so painful to be deceived in a person? How to trust people? How to live and not be afraid to be deceived?

Why do people lie

Why do people lie? Think about how often you have to lie or just embellish a little recent events? Is there any serious reason for this? Do you cheat, only in extreme cases and only with good intentions, or has it become the norm of life and sometimes you yourself believe in your lies? Each person has his own view on this problem and there are no criteria by which to determine whether the lie was really necessary and justified.

Note that not one of our days is complete without deceit. And we still wonder: why do people lie? It becomes something ordinary and is no longer perceived negatively. It's easier to lie than to be able to say no and take responsibility. At least until it concerns us personally.

And what can we say about adults, when among children a lie has ceased to be something bad. On the contrary, it helps to have a good time. After all, you can come up with a tragic situation and “cry” to someone, and when a person believes you.

Trust is not an abstract feeling, it is the confidence of each of us in the actions and behavior of other people, as well as confidence in certain phenomena, and it is aimed at specific objects. Each person is constantly faced with this question: is it possible to trust others, is it worth trusting this or that person? It is about trust that will be discussed further.

Can people be trusted

Have you ever wondered why children are so gullible? They almost always believe in the word, believe in the promises, but why? Yes, because they have not yet been deceived, betrayed in their lives, or they simply do not yet know that this has happened. Therefore, it is very difficult for parents to convey to the child that strangers cannot be trusted. But it is very important to teach the baby to be vigilant, this does not mean that all parents from childhood should instill in their children that no one can be trusted, it is simply necessary to convey to them who can be trusted and who cannot.

Who can be trusted?

Do you sometimes feel that you do not trust strangers or unfamiliar people. It would seem that you do not even know them, but you already feel some kind of threat from them. Why is this happening, why do we not trust people, what is the reason for our distrust? Let's try to answer these questions.

Our distrust of unfamiliar people has roots since our childhood. Remember, weren't you told when you were growing up not to trust strangers? Remember? Then you know exactly what is the reason for your distrust. The feeling programmed in us in childhood that strangers cannot be trusted lasts all our lives, and already in adulthood we are so used to distrust that we simply cannot get rid of it.

Very often distrust of people also arises from the fact that they are not like us. Agree, what do we trust more, what is familiar and close, or what keeps a secret in itself? Of course, in the first case, we are open and go into relationship.

Why can't people be trusted? Why, as soon as you start to trust
Man, does this have to end badly? Primarily,
of course, for you. After all, trust makes you too vulnerable (if
the one you trust, on whom you rely as on yourself, suddenly
justifies your trust), too vulnerable (if the action or
the inaction of someone you trusted harmed you), extremely
emotional (after all, at first you have trust in a person, and it
implies sympathy, and in case the object of sympathy is not
justifies, then he is automatically doomed in the future to mistrust - in
at best and / or antipathy - at worst) ... Simply put, unnecessary
trust is quite dialectically fraught with its opposite. And so
already the person with whom you were in good (friendly, friendly,
just respectful) relationship is perceived by you as a traitor
(although, quite possibly, from his point of view, he is nothing reprehensible
didn't do it). Feeling a sudden deterioration in your attitude towards yourself (and not
it is impossible to feel this, no matter how superobjective you consider yourself),
he, accordingly, also begins (consciously or subconsciously - without
difference) to avoid you. Or, worse, try to find out from you
reasons for cooling down (alternatively, you are the first to attempt
explain to him exactly where he "screwed up"). The result is natural: your
relationships are completely spoiled: they become at best
defiantly neutral, at worst - emphatically hostile. But at
In any case, they are NOT friendly, NOT friendly, NOT respectful...

What follows from the above? The conclusion is simple: how much could you
avoid if he initially kept people at a distance ... This is the same
dialectic: if you are emphatically polite to everyone, but at the same time
equally removed from all who make up (or could make up) your
social circle, if you don’t bring them closer to you, you don’t give reasons
to assume that you trust them so much that you can forgive a lot,
then you will not become the object of their manipulations, you will not be disappointed in them, you will not
you will consider yourself (sometimes, by the way, without reason) betrayed by those to whom
you trusted. And this means that your relationship will not deteriorate, they will always
remain even, cool and polite...

It seems to me that this is a completely workable model of human relations (for a work team it is generally ideal: after all, how many troubles happen in
institutions, when employees who have worked together for many years get used to
to each other so much that they feel almost like a single family ... And
then all of a sudden - BAM!!! - any interpersonal or group conflict,
seemingly out of nowhere!)... Keep people at a distance - and they
will be closer to you! Bring them closer to you, start trusting them - and, in
in the end, they will be as far away from you as possible! Like this
dialectics proven by life experience...

Of course, this conclusion does not apply to relatives ... We must trust someone ... After all, we are still people, social animals (in the distant past - herd animals).

These are such interesting thoughts ... By and large, of course,
thoughts are banal, but ... Each individual learns life not by
hints of the ancient Stoics, but in their own skin. So, in some
degree, this banality is justified on a personal level :)))

Can't trust anyone

It is very easy to advise you not to trust anyone in life. I have met people who do just that. All of them are unbalanced, restless, always ready for trouble and, as a rule, even they themselves do not seem particularly worthy of trust.

The fact is that people in life try to pay others with the same that they themselves receive from them. If you can be trusted and relied upon, you will usually get the same from others. Of course, provided that you do not communicate with drug lords, mafiosi and members of underground gangs, although it is possible that one of them is also quite trustworthy. People tend to be nice and prefer to be loved. Therefore, they do not deceive someone's trust without a special reason. Of course, it doesn't always work that way, but that's what everyone strives for.

If you don't give a person a chance to show that they can be trusted, they will be on their guard, and your lack of trust will turn them off. In this case, it is less likely that he will treat you well. So why not assume by default that you can rely on a person and give him the opportunity to live up to your expectations? Trust is a compliment that is pleasant for everyone and encourages you to respond in kind.

Yes, with this approach, you will sometimes experience disappointment, but I guarantee that there will be many more such unpleasant moments if you, by definition, begin to believe that everyone wants to deceive and offend you. Because then people will do that to you.

You may not realize it, but you are the same. If people consider you a trustworthy person, I suppose you will go out of your way to justify such an opinion of you. And if someone does not trust you, then it will become much easier for you to offend him. Sounds familiar?

To live without trusting other people means to drag out a miserable existence. You will never be able to relax, you will always be disappointed and offended by everyone. The need for trust is not so much about whether the other person will live up to your expectations, but about what will happen to you if you become a person who does not trust anyone.

Trust is a wonderful feeling that gives you love and protection, so why deprive yourself of it? It's just crazy.

The joy you feel when someone proves worthy of your trust against all odds is worth a hundred mistakes. I once read in the newspaper about a man who befriended a homeless man, fed him, clothed him, and eventually even found him a job. How many of us are able to trust people so much? However, the former bum turned out to be worthy of such trust and was able to return to normal life. What a great feeling of inner satisfaction must have been experienced by this magnanimous man who unselfishly helped another. In the end, the only way to know if someone is worthy of your trust is to try and see.

Rule 83

trust people

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Some people have the ability to influence our energy field, causing irritation, stress and overwork. Avoiding such people is simply necessary for personal health and well-being.

There are several types of people who can poison our daily lives. For the most part, they “feed” on strong emotions and literally enjoy our helplessness. If, by the nature of your work, you constantly have to contact with such people, then the first rule of your own safety is control of emotions. You must learn to manage them in order not to give a single chance to energy vampires to take advantage of you for selfish purposes. Site site experts recommend using biofield strengthening exercises, with which you will strengthen your protection. So how to recognize among the environment people who pose a real threat? Scientists have identified several types of personalities, contacts with which are best limited.

Gossips

A characteristic feature of gossipers is excitement and joy when discussing other people's problems and experiences. Such people rarely think about the tact of their questions and are able to importunately ask you about the details of their personal lives. In order not to fall into the clutches of such an energy vampire, you should communicate with him as little as possible. If contact is inevitable, then remember that your life concerns only you, so provocative questions should be answered in monosyllables, or the conversation should be taken in another direction. Avoid aggression towards gossipers so as not to provoke their wild imagination and a new stream of unwanted questions.

Temperamental personalities

Such people can rarely control their own emotions and literally turn us on with their stories. Their peculiarity is to blame everyone around for their troubles. They press with their negativity, creating a feeling of guilt and forcing the opponent's energy field to undergo colossal energy attacks. They can easily make you a “vessel” into which they will drain excess negative energy, provoking you to constant irritation and anger.

Victim people

These energy vampires are difficult to recognize at first. You can sympathize with them, show emotions and help the victims without knowing that you have fallen into a trap. But after a while, you will realize that their life seems to consist of misfortunes and difficult cases that, in their opinion, only you can solve. Use the Laws of the Universe to prevent such people from manipulating you. Otherwise, you run the risk of living not your own, but their life, solving other people's problems.

Self-centered people

These people have a negative impact on a positive attitude, forcing us to be a tool to increase their self-esteem and confidence. They are often outcasts of companies and spend time alone and waiting for the next victim. Often this type of energy vampirism provokes a decrease in self-esteem, isolation, dissatisfaction with ourselves and the world around us.

envious people

Envious people can distort your opinion of yourself. They negatively affect self-esteem by constantly leaving snide comments about you. They are always and not satisfied with everything in the lives of the people around them, and they take out their anger from their failures on the chosen victims.

manipulative people

Manipulators often "rub" us into trust, hide behind friendship, arousing in us a sense of duty. They do not leave their victim alone, forcing her to do the necessary work for them, while not feeling guilty. On the contrary, they arouse in their "subordinates" a sense of duty and use it freely.

Dementor people

This type of energy vampire is not a fairy tale. They are distinguished by a special negative energy, thanks to which they influence their victims. The presence of such a person in our environment betrays sharp mood swings, a feeling of loneliness and often cold or even chills. The Dementors' pessimistic mood is quickly transferred to the victim, causing them to experience negative feelings and even depression.

quarrelsome people

Such individuals are initially negative and literally crave a showdown. They are straightforward and will never beat around the bush. These people are easy to identify. Stay away from them without provoking aggression towards you.

People critics

Such individuals are distinguished by the presence of their opinion on each issue. They will definitely tell you about what you are doing in negative terms and will not stop criticizing your actions under any circumstances. These vampires take away positive energy, forcing us to give up bold ideas and desires.

haughty people

This type is visible from afar. Energy vampirism, which arrogant personalities "hunt" for, carries a real threat to our energy field. Such people most often try to pretend not to be who they really are, and choose a victim who is not strong in spirit. Due to it, arrogant personalities try to become leaders, leaving behind people disappointed in life, prone to frequent mood swings and depression.

To avoid harm from such people, it is necessary to devote time daily to your development. Do not forget that strong-willed people are the least susceptible to attacks by energy vampires, and the most effective weapon is often a smile and a good mood. Exclude such manipulators from your social circle, live happily and do not forget to press the buttons and

A person is a social being that lives in society and interacts with various people on a daily basis, entering into certain relationships with them. It's always hard to build relationships with people. Some relationships make a person happy, contribute to his personal and spiritual development, while others cause pain, make him harden and make him unhappy.

Much depends on a person's ability to understand people and on the degree of his trust in others. After all, one person can be kept at a distance, not giving him the opportunity to become closer, and another can be brought closer to the heart and reveal to him the most intimate. Man has to pay dearly for his mistakes. He can be betrayed, deceived, framed, his heart broken, his life broken. Sometimes the most dear and close people whom a person unconditionally trusted can do this. Is it necessary to trust people and who can be trusted?

Who can't be trusted

Truth is the basis of trust, and only on it should people be built. You can not trust people who are prone to deceit. If this lie concerned the person himself and was invented with the aim of somehow preventing him, then the person urgently needs to draw conclusions.

idle talk

Trust also should not be those who do not know how to keep their promises, for whom words are just an empty phrase. Such a person can swear to do something, promise, justify himself, throw beautiful words, but very soon he forgets all his oaths and promises. It must be remembered that it is better to appreciate a person not for his words, but for his actions.

Inadequate people

Unbalanced people who have a very shaky nervous system and are not able to control themselves do not deserve trust. You never know what to expect from someone who at any moment can break loose, become furious, behave inappropriately. People in this state do unthinkable things, so it is advisable to stay as far away from unbalanced personalities as possible.

Envious

The ability to feel people and see their hidden intentions, desires and, most importantly, attitude towards oneself needs to be studied long and hard. People who are prone to envy, those who feel bad when others feel good, do not deserve trust. One who does not know how to be happy for another will always be full of negativity and evil, so you should not get close to such a person. Also not worthy of trust are those people who make mistakes, act dishonestly, unfairly, cruelly, but do not realize what they have done. For example, a person cheated, but does not believe that he acted badly, does not repent.

What kind of people are trustworthy

Still, it is hard to live without trust and it is even harder to communicate with people. without trust, they are so weak that they will burst at the first difficulty in life. Trustworthy are people who always tell the truth, no matter how bitter it may be. You can also trust those who keep their word, who will think a hundred times before making a promise. Such people take their promise seriously and, if they cannot fulfill it, they will not promise anything.

Calm, balanced people who show tact, correctness, and respect for another person are also worthy of trust. You can also trust those who sincerely wish a person well, rejoice in his victories and achievements, as if they were their own. Trustworthy are those people who are constantly improving, working on their shortcomings, realizing their mistakes and trying to correct them.

Confidence is not born by itself, it becomes a consequence of human words, deeds, attitudes. Learn to trust it is difficult for others, but it is necessary to do it in order to become a happy person.