Ecology of life. Psychology: She - the soul - does not immediately rot. At first, a scratch or wound, if small and insignificant, then healed and healed on its own. But if it was deeper and remained untreated, then the infection has already developed

Our body is an amazing mechanism. How everything is thought out, and how amazingly everything in it works!

Our body is also a great illustrator of how a less visible but even more amazing phenomenon works - the human soul.

It is on examples of the functioning of the body that it is very accessible to explain to the client what can also happen to his soul.

Notes of a psychologist

But despite the illustrative examples and talk about psychosomatics, we, I dare say, pay little attention to emotional health.

After all, you must admit that if you experience pain, damage something, get hurt, or face a physical injury, you will have no doubt that a scratch or wound needs to be treated, otherwise infection may begin and it will rot.

We know that the injury must be examined, and the cause of the pain must be sought without delay, so that the acute stage does not turn into a chronic one.

Despite the fact that the psychological dynamics of the disease is identical to the physical one, we are not inclined to take the process of healing the soul, much less prevention, as seriously.

And I wish, you know, that we had morepsychological hygiene.

To begin with, simply more information about disorders in the state of mind, about what manifestations should be alarm bells for us, and then more knowledge about providing first psychological aid to ourselves, and as a result of awareness - more openness to the fact that in this area turn to professionals.

Because first - ignorance, then - the inability to provide oneself with psychological help, and even more so the lack of openness and complexes regarding obtaining professional help lead to a deplorable result - the soul begins to rot.

This is without excessive pathos and drama. This is a real life fact.

She - the soul - does not immediately rot.

At first, a scratch or wound, if small and insignificant, then healed and healed on its own. But if it was deeper and remained untreated, then the infection has already developed. If the infection was ignored, then the infection process went further - and this process, believe me, already interferes with life not only for its carrier, but also for the people around it.

Let's look at this whole picture on a specific example from a person's life.

Here, for example, there lived a boy named Gleb. He was born into a decent family, but his parents are busy people and worked hard.

As a teenager, Gleb began to get involved in football and spend more and more time with those guys who shared this hobby. And so, at training matches, Gleb, for reasons unknown to him, began to be left on the bench, and then, due to his “undertraining”, he did not take part in the decisive games. This hurt the boy very much - there was a sharp pain inside.

Then, at 13, he could not clearly identify this pain. But in childhood, he experienced a similar experience from time to time, when his parents said that they were busy and at the moment they did not have time to sit up with Gleb for a long time at his game or lessons. Even then, the boy experienced this painful feeling - a feeling of REJECTION.

Gleb had a closer relationship with his godfather and his wife than with his parents. In this family, he felt valued and listened to. But he saw them infrequently, this communication was a rarity and a kind of delicacy, so he also did not expect to express his feelings in these relations.

In this case, there was no one to talk to about football - the parents, as always, are busy. This time he “swallowed” the pain from the rejection of his comrades, the wound in his soul healed over time.

The guy, already a student, made friends with the guys from the university. Friendship developed well, only recently he began to notice that some friends began to avoid him more and more often, and recently they were not invited to a general party, which they had planned together the day before. And here it is again the familiar feeling of rejection ... Painful, caustic, disgusting.

I would like to somehow ignore it, but it turned out to be impossible to step over this feeling - it sat down deeply and very stubbornly reminded of itself. It felt like a deep hole had been drilled into the soul, which was left open and unprotected.

Along with this pain of rejection that accompanied Gleb, the consequences of an untreated and untreated wound also came - more and more anger and resentment against those who rejected him began to appear in the soul. Simply put, the anger is real at those who treated him unfairly.

Of course, I would like to pour this feeling on the offenders, but they were not around. Therefore, anger and anger were directed at himself.And as this anger was suppressed inside or expressed in self-flagellation, it seemed to Gleb more and more that he himself was to blame for what was happening. There's something wrong with me, he thought, if I keep getting rejected.

And then it was quite a logical continuation that guy's self esteem plummeted to zero. Now it was almost impossible for him to believe that he was “normal”, that it was interesting with him and that his social circle of friends would expand. After all, his entire experience to date has shown otherwise.

In the life history of our hero, there are many other facts confirming the occurrence of consequences from an untreated and neglected wound. Namely, an unexpected and inexplicable dismissal from work, as well as a seemingly promising relationship with his girlfriend, who eventually left him.

Rejection seemed to follow him around.

The pain only got worse.

And actually unbearable suffering after another experience of rejection led Gleb to the psychologist's office.

At the time of his request for help, it was no longer just a bleeding wound, but a specific injury that prevented him from fully functioning and continuing to live.

For rejection, unresolved and prolonged, has also such a consequence as insulation when there is no more faith that you will not be rejected again.

She - isolation - drives a person into a dead corner - it seems that you need to go and communicate, you want relationships and socialization, and this traumatic experience does not allow you to go beyond yourself. Isolation only gets worse, and in this state a person already does not let people close to him who would like to build relationships with him that are the opposite of rejection.

What could Gleb do in the early stages of the process, when the first traces of rejection made themselves felt, while repeating the same scenario?

The very first the most important thing to do isdon't ignore. Do not say to yourself “Come on, it happens”, do not shift the responsibility for the feelings that are choking inside to someone, but accept them and try to figure it out. Ask yourself the right question, “Is it about me or is it about friends who, for their own reasons, did not want to communicate?”.

Like this elementary introspection and self-awareness could already help.

It was possible to prevent the wound from festering by resorting to first aid in the form of a disinfectant and a protective plaster.

And such, in the case of Gleb, could be communication with loving and accepting godparents. This is a way out of isolation and the choice of a vulnerable position towards a new relationship, where there is an opportunity to experience acceptance, not rejection.

In each specific case of psychological trauma, or ill health in general, from a wound to a neglected illness, the approach, of course, will be individual.

The help that a person can give himself will also be based on context, personality characteristics and life history. Therapy of self-awareness is important - understanding myself as to what and why I feel, why certain cases occur in my life, turning into trends.

This self-awareness and analysis of the state of your soul will already be a huge self-help.

And then, if this is not enough and it is still difficult to figure it out alone, do not be afraid to open up to someone who can help you get out of the consequences of a neglected, untreated and once unhealed wound.

If our souls are well-groomed, believe me, our body will follow this state of hers!

Life flows and spills out from the inside out. And not vice versa. What a person has inside will always be reflected in his external actions, behavior and attitude.

Take care of your soul, take care of its health - in fact, it is it that determines the whole quality of your life!

There is such folk wisdom: the word is rotten from the rottenness of the heart. On the one hand, the meaning of the proverb is clear. The word "rotten" speaks for itself, no further explanation is required. And only once again you are amazed at how subtly, capaciously and precisely everything is noticed. On the other hand, it is interesting to “get to the very essence”, to figure out what “rotten” is and who is called a rotten person ...

Dictionary

In search of answers to exciting questions, one must first of all turn to oneself. We will return to this later, but now we will rush to the explanatory dictionary. What will he tell us about the lexical unit "rotten"? Will he give a helping hand in understanding the phrase "rotten people"?

So, according to the "Explanatory Dictionary of the Russian Language" edited by Ozhegov, the adjective "rotten" has several meanings. The direct meaning is that which succumbed to the process of decay, became musty, spoiled, decaying. Anything can become rotten: apples, fallen leaves, and threads. The list can be continued indefinitely, since everything material is not eternal and sooner or later dies. The second is raw, devoid of sun, heat, causing various ailments. As an example, such phrases can be given: rotten weather, rotten November, rotten water. And, finally, the last one is a figurative meaning, according to which the lexeme we are interested in means the absence, loss of the inner core, immorality, depravity. It is in such combinations as rotten people, rotten heart, rotten soul, rotten blood that a secondary meaning manifests itself.

Bible

What do other sources of information say about this? The Brockhaus Bible Encyclopedia, one of the most serious reference publications on biblical studies, provides the following material. Jesus asks his disciples to beware of false prophets, for a good tree cannot bring forth rotten (per. “bad”) fruit, just as a rotten tree cannot bear good fruit (Matthew 7:17). However, a person in faith can also sin if he allows the “rotten word” to come out of his mouth. Only a kind word has the power to deliver grace to those who hear (Eph. 4:29). In other words, a rotten person is a false prophet who preaches the truth for the sake of his vanity and self-interest. Truth of this kind cannot bring good not for the broadcaster himself, not for those who listen to him. She can only poison.

Parable

And now the parable: how without it? After all, a good parable opens your eyes to what a second ago seemed ordinary or, on the contrary, obscure. And she does it simply, easily and beautifully. Let him tell us who the rotten people are.

So, the first parable. Once a student came to his teacher for advice: what he needs to do in order to be just like him - wise, always in harmony with himself and the world. The teacher willingly agreed to help him and asked him to bring a bag and potatoes.

If you offend someone, get angry with him or hold a grudge, take one potato and throw it into the bag. And do so whenever there is a slightest conflict.

And it's all? How can such absurdity help me in such a great cause? - the student asked in bewilderment.

No, - the sage hurried to explain, - you must always carry this bag with you. The student agreed.

heavy burden

Time has passed. Unfortunately, the bag was full. It became difficult and inconvenient to carry it always with you. Yes, and those potatoes that were thrown at the very beginning began to rot, and already emitted an unpleasant odor. What to do? Again the student came to the teacher. But this time with resentment. The sage listened to him calmly and said: “But the same thing is happening inside you. You just don’t see, you don’t notice how much heaviness is in your soul, and how your misdeeds gradually turn into fetid vices. A rotten vegetable is a rotten person. I I gave you the opportunity to observe this process from the sidelines.

two lakes

And here is another one - no less interesting and no less instructive.

A long time ago, two underground sources gave rise to two beautiful reservoirs. But everything flows, everything changes, and the water kept coming and coming. And then the day came when they needed to think about their future fate. God offered them to choose one of two options. Either decrease in size, but at the same time become deeper, or, conversely, spread widely, but be small.

Two lakes thought about it and decided as follows: one will be shallow, but wide, so that the bird can see it from the height of its flight, and the other, sacrificing its size, will preserve its depth and purity. Well, as decided - and so it happened.

Tests

The first body of water enjoyed its greatness. After all, so many birds, so many animals came to him to drink. The second one became so small that it was not easy to find it among the dense greenery. However, the time of the great solstice has come. The water in the huge but shallow lake turned cloudy, covered with greenery and slime. She smelled of rot every now and then. All living things turned away from her. The water in a small but deep lake was not afraid of the hot sun, received its rays with grace, and became even more pure, transparent, crystal. And no matter how hard it was, all those who suffer found their way to it.

Not wonderful weather, but the scorching sun - a real test, reveals the true essence of things: the rotten quickly rots, the clean is cleansed.

What follows from all this?

One thing follows: a person with a rotten soul is trash, unreliable, rotten, gloomy. But it's hidden deep inside. It seems that no one will ever get it, see it, or even guess about the possible rottenness. After all, everything is wonderful outside, right, beautiful, like a ripe, ruddy apple in the picture. However, it only costs and the taste of rot is immediately felt. And it happens even worse - you just have to touch it, and it will fall apart, crumble, spread. As Shakespeare wrote, "The rotten cannot bear to be touched." However, not only the great English poet wrote about such people. Sayings about rotten people can be found in many writers. For example, Oscar Wilde devoted a whole work to this topic - “The Picture of Dorian Gray”, which tells how the image of a young man from high society took on all the vices of a rotten soul. The face in the portrait was distorted, covered with ulcers and moss, and Dorian himself was still young, charming, handsome.

It is impossible not to mention the quote of another Englishman - Jack London. He said that there are a great many rotten people in the den of traders, and it is impossible to preserve their moral health among them. They are corrupting. Everyone only has a stomach, and they have spiritual needs, like an amoeba. That's what a rotten person means. Perhaps this is the most complete feature.

Is it possible to avoid meeting such personalities? First of all, you need to start with the smallest and most difficult thing - to monitor yourself, your thoughts, feelings, desires, words, actions. Every time I stop and ask myself if there is any rottenness in my actions. And then look around, listen to others and even sniff. After all, rotten people smell bad. And as Fazil Iskander noted, they do not feel their smell at all.

Stupid, you didn't even try to escape. But you had no idea how tightly I shackled your mind in my chains, how quickly and imperceptibly I tamed and tamed it. It is unreasonable to run away from the future, it is always ahead anyway. It is foolish to deceive the past, it still remembers everything better than you. I thought you had a mental disorder or worse - schizophrenia, don't worry, it always feels like that when someone other than you is digging into your head. Just don't worry, I'll try to carefully sort out your thoughts and memories, I'll try not to hurt your already rumpled psyche.

Now it seems to you that you are running along a long corridor, there are many doors and a dim, cold electric light is on. You're afraid that one of the doors will open and you won't be able to stand being taken away or entering the labyrinth. I understand that it is very difficult when one's own mind becomes someone else's. I'm sorry, but I can't get you out of this nightmare, you just have to run on, and hope that you will see the light at the end of the tunnel, and believe that it will be salvation. It’s a pity, but I can’t even pray, because no one will listen to a creature like me. There were too many lies to believe my prayers, too often I denied Him to ask for help. I silently sit near your bed and look into your open, but completely empty eyes. I'm scared. It’s scary that I did this to you, even if inadvertently, but it doesn’t matter, my fear cannot be compared to yours. And my eyes, reddened from tears, should not touch anyone, should not cause sympathy, only disgust and anger. Looking at me, there should be only one desire ... to kill, to kill mercilessly ... Someone who does not know the truth may ask: “For what?”. But it is better to remain silent about this, this truth is not worth another soul ...

How wrong you were in trusting me, but how irresponsibly I acted in opening up to you. Only I should have lived in this darkness, but you so temptingly offered help, this sweet path of salvation. I tried to resist all those human things that remained, but the thirst to see suffering took over, so I wanted to share this fear with someone.

Doctors have long diagnosed - schizophrenia. But I do not believe them, they call everything that they cannot understand, control, and even more so treat. They just isolate you and leave you alone in this horror, they don’t care what you feel, but looking into their eyes, you feel a repulsive cold, and you desperately understand that they have not considered you a person for a long time. They probably didn’t prepare you, didn’t teach you how to react, that you don’t need to talk, listen and believe. And you so wanted to help, to bring everyone out of the darkness, to save. You thought that you could endure this horror, exorcise these “diseases” like demons, you thought that with sincere conversation, kind, shining eyes and an irresistible smile, you would save fallen souls. You made it worse, worse for yourself, you messed up your life and let this evil out of me.

By killing me, by killing everyone out there, you would be of much greater benefit to everyone. And you showed sympathy, loved something that no one should have loved. So naively you believed that love would awaken a mind in me, awaken a person.

Now I'm sitting on the floor, and I can smell your pain, so strong, acrid, cloyingly sweet, warm and thick. I was so desperate to fight it that now I can’t even stop everything. Just take and destroy this evil, this vile, viscous creature - yourself.

Instead of snow, it would be better if rotten people melted before our eyes.

A rotten person as a quality of personality - a tendency to show internal decay, moral decay, degradation of the personality.

The student asked the teacher: - You are so wise. You are always in a good mood, never angry. Help me to be like that too. The teacher agreed and asked the student to bring potatoes and a transparent bag. - If you get angry at someone and hold a grudge, - said the teacher, - then take this potato. On one side, write your name, on the other side, the name of the person with whom the conflict occurred, and put these potatoes in a bag. - And it's all? the student asked in bewilderment. “No,” the teacher replied. You should always carry this bag with you. And every time you take offense at someone, add potatoes to it. Student agrees...

Some time has passed. The student's bag was replenished with a few more potatoes and became already quite heavy. It was very inconvenient to always carry it with you. In addition, the potatoes that he put at the very beginning began to deteriorate. It was covered with a slippery, nasty coating, some sprouted, some bloomed and began to emit a sharp unpleasant odor. The student came to the teacher and said: - It is no longer possible to carry with you. Firstly, the package is too heavy, and secondly, the potatoes have gone bad. Suggest something else. But the teacher answered: - The same thing happens in your soul. When you are angry at someone, offended, then a heavy stone appears in your soul. You just don't notice it right away. Then the stones become more and more. Actions turn into habits, habits into character, which gives rise to fetid vices. And it is very easy to forget about this load, because it is too heavy to carry it with you all the time. I gave you the opportunity to observe the whole process from the outside. Every time you decide to be offended or, conversely, offend someone, think about whether you need this stone.

A rotten person is under the influence of the energy of ignorance and degradation. His soul is polluted with vices. At the same time, if it is freed from the conditionality of the negative qualities of the personality, it will manifest the qualities familiar to us: eternity, knowledge and bliss. A rotten person should be treated as a kindred spirit, without pride and arrogance in the heart. For the millions of lives we have lived, who we just were not. They were both rotten, and ignorant, and degrading. And they were lying in a puddle, in the mud, in a word, there was nothing special to be proud of.

Rotten man - man - gangrene. Folk wisdom says: "The word is rotten from the rottenness of the heart." When we say: “This is a rotten person,” others perceive such a characteristic as a warning about a possible betrayal, meanness, “scam” on his part. A rotten person is trash, he is unreliable and dishonest. It may make a good impression on the outside, but it's rotten on the inside. You touch it and only all the abomination and vileness will climb. The great William Shakespeare wrote: "The rotten cannot bear to be touched."

Take, for example, rotten fruit. Outwardly, he may look like himself, you can’t tell without looking, but the internal structure is already lost. It is worth pressing lightly, as it immediately deforms and emits a disgusting smell.

A girl with white bows came to the market. She has a big teddy bear in her hands. The girl walks between the shelves and looks at the goods. The assortment is ordinary - vegetables, fruits, greens ... Only strange qualities. Tomatoes shriveled, in some places sour, lie in an indistinct heap. Overripe bananas burst and ooze black mucus. The apples, all wormy, turned gray from the beatings. And everything around is also touched by damage and rot.

At least henna is for sellers - they stand, beckon buyers, praise the goods and swear among themselves. By the way, only one girl with bows is observed among the buyers at the bazaar. The girl gets tired of looking at this disgrace, and she climbs a pile of empty boxes. “End the rotten bazaar!” she shouts at the top of her lungs. The hubbub in the bazaar immediately subsides. All the salespeople look at the girl with the teddy bear, look with mute admiration and hope, as they look at miracle workers and prophets... In the hanging silence, the girl slowly and solemnly raises the toy above her head. - Bear. Plush. BOO. Inexpensive!

A rotten person is deprived of an inner core, if he faces the challenges of life, he falls down: he will buy, sell, buy and sell again. By his actions, he causes disgust and a feeling of disgust. In a word, outside is a man, but inside, when pressed from the outside, he is rotten.

In Panama they say: “Your soul smells bad.” Fazil Iskander in his book "Sandro from Chegem" writes: "A rotten person does not feel his own smell." He spoils for any reason on the sly, hypocrites, shows deceit and treachery, venality and lies, cynicism and selfishness, toadying and flattery. In other words, Judas, who will always betray you for 30 pieces of silver.

You can change your face, appearance, but it is impossible to fundamentally change a rotten soul for the better. A fish rots from the head, but a man rots from the soul. Associating with a rotten person is as absurd as eating only rotten fruit.

One Woman was very fond of the warmth, the sea and tender, juicy, with a gentle fluff on the barrels, pink peaches. Once in the summer, having saved up money, she was going on vacation. The woman lived far away, in the Urals, to go to the sea for almost three days. I had a great rest, bathed, tanned, and, leaving, I decided to treat myself and bought a whole box of ripe peaches. She rides on the train, dreaming about how at home, slowly, she will start eating her incomparable fruits. She looked into the box, and one began to rot. What to do? It's a pity! And the Woman decides to eat it. Goes further - another one has gone bad! She ate him too. And then another, and another ... As a result, having reached the house, she concluded for herself: - I ate a box of rotten peaches!

Petr Kovalev 2016