“How many people - so many characters,” we often repeat. And this is true, there are no two identical people, and even twins, so indistinguishable at first glance, turn out to be completely different people at the second. People have different value systems, hobbies, principles and worldviews, they react differently to external stimuli. The nature of a person determines his actions, from which life is made up. MirSovetov invites you to trace together what character is made of and whether it is possible to change it.

Psychologists call character an individual combination of those personality traits that are manifested in a person’s actions and determine his attitude to the environment.

Translated from Greek, the word "character" - Charakter - means "imprint", "chasing". Already from the name itself it is clear that in all ages the character was considered as a stable system of personality traits of a person, such a kind of inner core, on which other properties are strung like rings.

Character is closely related to his abilities. To some extent, he is one of the constituent parts of the character, because. determines the form of manifestation of human reactions, the dynamics of his mental processes. The type of temperament cannot be changed, but a person with a strong will can control and correct its negative traits. The concept of abilities is also included in the definition of character. For example, while developing the ability to work, we simultaneously develop diligence as a character trait.
Types of temperament, as a rule, are inherited by a child from one of the parents. But temperament is only the basis for the education of various character traits. For example, you can cultivate perseverance in both the choleric and the phlegmatic, but it will manifest itself in vigorous activity in one and methodical work in the other. Character is not an innate and immutable property, it is formed under the influence of life experience, upbringing, environment.

There is a branch of psychology devoted to the study of human character. It's called characterology. Characterology emerged as a separate discipline not so long ago, but already in ancient times, attempts were made to study and predict the character of a person. So, for example, the study of the influence of a person's name on his character, the selection of favorable combinations of a name and patronymic. Physiognomy is the study of the connection between a person's appearance and his character. Even graphology, the science that establishes the connection between a person's handwriting and his character, can also be attributed to one of the forerunners of characterology.

Character traits

In the character of each person, common groups of traits can be distinguished. Different scientists offer a different division of character traits into groups. There are many classifications, from highly specialized to popular science. One of the most obvious ways of dividing into groups is the system of B.M. Teplov.
In the first group, this scientist singled out common character traits, those that are the mental basis of the personality. These are such qualities as adherence to principles, honesty, courage and, of course, their antipodes: cowardice, insincerity.
The second group includes those character traits in which a person's attitude towards other people is manifested. Those. sociability and isolation, kindness and hostility, attentiveness and indifference.
The third group of character traits are those traits that express a person's attitude towards himself. It is this group that includes pride and conceit, vanity, arrogance and self-esteem, adequate pride.
The fourth large group of traits reflects a person's attitude to work. Diligence and laziness, fear of difficulties and perseverance in overcoming them, activity and lack of initiative are included in this group.
In the typologies of character traits of other scientists, it is worth highlighting two very important groups of character traits, normal and abnormal. Normal are those traits that are inherent in mentally healthy people, and abnormal - traits of people with mental illness.

Interestingly, the same character traits can apply to both normal and abnormal. It's all about the extent to which it is expressed in the character of a person. For example, suspiciousness can be absolutely healthy, but when it dominates, one can speak of paranoia.

Classification of human characters

Having dealt with the main distinguished groups of character traits, it would be reasonable to move on to the typology of characters. But here in modern psychology there is no general classification. And how can characters be classified given the richness of the compatibility of their traits in different people? However, such attempts have been made by scientists for a very long time.

For example, there is a division of characters according to their dominant volitional and emotional qualities. As a result, a volitional type of character is distinguished (effective, with a dominant will), emotional (guided by an emotional background) and rational (sober-minded, based on the arguments of reason).

At one time, the German psychiatrist Kretschmer classified people according to their constitution and hypothesized that certain character traits are also inherent in people of a certain constitution.
So asthenics, people of thin build, with thin bones and weak muscles, are characterized by weak emotionality, love of philosophy and introspection, and a tendency to loneliness.
People of the athletic type (medium or tall, broad chest, excellent muscles) are characterized by a strong will, perseverance and even stubbornness.
The third type of constitution is picnic, it is distinguished by medium height, well-developed adipose tissue, weak muscles. People of this type are emotional, they strive to enjoy life.
And although later this typology of characters was not recognized as absolutely correct, there is a grain of truth in it. People with a certain body structure are more likely to suffer from similar ones. The type of human constitution is innate, it is influenced by a genetic factor, which also causes some ailments. Which makes the hypothesis about the general traits of character probable. MirSovetov once again emphasizes that we are talking only about some traits, and not about the character completely.

character building

A person's character changes somewhat throughout his life. These changes occur most often unconsciously, but sometimes a person consciously changes some features. But the main, basic features are laid down in early childhood, and it can be said with confidence that by the age of 5-6, the child already has his own character. Already by the second year of life, the child demonstrates strong-willed character traits, and by the age of 3-4 business traits are formed. Obvious signs of communicative character traits appear by the age of 4-5, when the child begins to take an active part in group role-playing games.

During this age period, the character of the child is strongly influenced by adults, the way parents treat the baby. If parents pay attention to the child, talk to him and are interested in his desires, then such a child is most likely to develop trust in people, sociability and cheerfulness. Otherwise, the appearance of such traits as isolation, closeness is likely.

During the school years, the formation of the character of the child continues, but in the lower grades, the opinion of parents and teachers is a priority, and in the middle grades, peers have a greater influence on the character. In the upper grades, the picture changes again: the opinion of adults again becomes more significant. But the influence of elders becomes more indirect, the respect of a person as a person and the self-esteem of a young person. Also during this period, the mass media acquire a greater influence on the character of a person.
In the future, character changes will be made up of personal life events, meetings with bright charismatic personalities, and also under the influence of age-related changes. The most notable of the latter are changes in the character of the individual at an older age. At 50, a person finds himself, as it were, at the junction of the past and the future. He no longer has the habit of making plans and living in the future, but it is too early to indulge in memories. After 60 years, a new stage in a person's life begins, when the past and present acquire an extraordinary value. Such character traits as slowness, regularity are manifested. It also somewhat changes the character and beginning health problems.

How to change your character

As a rule, new character traits are most quickly and fully manifested in a person if they are similar to existing ones. After the age of thirty, cardinal changes in character occur extremely rarely. Yet it is never too late to change.
A person can always change character traits that he does not like. There are many methods for this, but they are all based on one thing: the desire to change must be internal and conscious.
A good helper in changing character will be a systematic approach. Write down on a separate sheet of character traits that you want to get rid of. Next to each trait, write how it manifests itself. Knowing this, it will be easier for you to control yourself and prevent actions that are unpleasant for you. The character of a person is created for a long time, it is difficult to get rid of unpleasant features, this requires painstaking and long work. But this is not impossible, and literally the first week is a particular difficulty. When control over the manifestation of the “dark” side of your character becomes a habit, it will become much easier to monitor your behavior. And very soon, what you did not like in your character will no longer complicate your life and communication with loved ones.

For example, your negative trait is anger. It manifests itself in the fact that you, without listening to the interlocutor, manage to be rude to him. You should start to control your actions: try to listen to the interlocutor to the end, count to five or ten before saying harshness.

Also good results in changing your character gives a role model. Having chosen some sample (it can be either a real or a fictional person), you begin to equal it. And ask yourself what he would do in your place. By copying the desired behavior, you will also develop the correct ones and minimize the manifestations of negative character traits. Here MirSovetov will make only such a remark: do not try to copy someone's behavior exactly as it is, superficially. Yes, and you probably won't. You need to understand that you are individual in your own way, and therefore some feature will appear with its own shade peculiar only to you.

For example, you want to be as firm in dealing with clients as your work colleague. This does not mean at all that you should copy his actions exactly. Those. if you see from the outside how your colleague calmly and confidently communicates with each of the clients, then, following him, it is somewhat wrong to put on a “mask of equanimity and confidence”, completely imitating his facial expressions and intonation. Rather, this alone will not be enough. It is better if you also try to figure out how he manages to be so. Surely, your colleague is well versed in his subject, has a great deal and this gives him confidence in the conversation. Perhaps he is more, sifting out personal, any unfounded claims and highlighting only really problematic points, thereby avoiding unnecessary disputes and conflicts. Those. you must sort out the character of the person who serves as a role model for you, and try to develop these qualities in yourself.

It doesn't matter which self-correction system you use. It is important that you sincerely want to change for the better, then nothing will be impossible for you. Remember that there is no limit to perfection, develop all the best in yourself, and MirSovetov wishes you good luck in this!

Studying the personality of a person, whether it be a woman, a man or a child, one can always reveal a bad inclination to unseemly behavior due, for example, to mistakes in education, psychological trauma. But even bad heredity can be secured. Consider the main negative traits of human character.

Authoritarianism

The desire to dominate everything, ignoring any needs of other people. Explicit or implicit demand for submission and discipline from everyone with whom a person intersects. Someone else's opinion is not taken into account, any disobedience is stopped without an attempt to find a mutually beneficial solution. It is believed that this is a typical negative trait of the Russian character.

Aggressiveness

The desire to conflict with others. In early childhood, this is an obligatory negative character trait of a child who is learning ways to protect his interests. For an aggressive adult, provocative, sometimes deliberately false statements, raised tone, and insults are typical. Sometimes attempts are made to influence the opponent physically.

gambling

A painful desire to achieve the set goal, regardless of the size of the risks, ignoring one's own and others' logical arguments about the excess of spending over the value of the desired result. Often becomes the cause of situations leading to death, loss of health or significant financial losses.

Greed

Pathological desire for personal material gain in any situation. Gaining profit at any cost becomes the only source of positive emotions in life. At the same time, the duration of pleasant sensations from the benefits received is extremely short-lived - due to the uncontrolled constant desire to enrich oneself even more.

apathy

The absence of an emotional reaction to most external stimuli due to a particular temperament or due to the body's defensive reaction to stress. It is one of the reasons for the impossibility of achieving even simple goals due to the inability or unwillingness to concentrate, to make strong-willed efforts.

carelessness

Careless fulfillment of obligations due to unwillingness to act according to the rules already known to all or misunderstanding of the algorithms necessary for the quick and least costly achievement of existing goals. Often this is a typical negative character trait of a woman who has just escaped from excessive parental care.

Indifference

Real or consciously demonstrated lack of interest in a particular subject, object, event, duties due to innate emotional coldness, experienced severe stress or, instilled from infancy, a sense of superiority over people with a different social status, different faith, nationality, race.

Irresponsibility

Consciously chosen, imposed during upbringing or due to moral immaturity, the position of refusal from a real awareness of the consequences of one's own actions, unwillingness to make decisions that affect one's own and others' quality of life. In difficult everyday situations, active actions are not carried out because of the expectation that the problem will resolve itself.

Facelessness

The absence of individual traits, because of which an individual subject is easily “lost” in the general mass of people like him. In the process of communication, the “gray man” does not arouse sympathy because of his obsession with uninteresting topics, in the team he is uninitiative, boring, afraid of innovations and opposes them in every possible way.

Ruthlessness

Emotional indifference to other people's troubles, inability or unwillingness to sympathize, sympathize with people in particular and living beings in general, experiencing physical or emotional pain. Sometimes it is deliberate inhumanity in actions that cause suffering and even death of the objects chosen as victims.

impudence

Intentional or unconscious violation of the norms, the sequence of actions adopted in a given society in relation to a particular situation. The reason for intentional swagger may be the desire to provoke a conflict or draw attention to one's own person, unconscious - errors in education, emotional immaturity.

talkativeness

A painful need to constantly participate in a dialogue with one or more interlocutors, regardless of the content of the conversation, the degree of enthusiasm for it by other participants, the relevance of the conversation. The main purpose of such an interlocutor is not to obtain new information, but the role of the narrator when in contact with someone. At the same time, he can disseminate information that others would prefer to keep secret.

Windiness

The inability to keep any promises and take into account the interests of others, the lack of the ability to move for a long time in order to achieve one goal, the desire for a constant change in the circle of friends, partners. The absence of principles and clear behavioral boundaries, the rapid fading of interest in a particular occupation, a person.

lust for power

Passionate desire for control over all and the expectation of unquestioning obedience, the desire for unlimited power, especially over the more educated and skillful. Intoxication with one's own superior position in situations where others are forced to seek help or seek protection, material support.

Suggestibility

In a pathological form, this is a subconscious tendency to perceive behavior imposed from outside without one's own conscious understanding and weighing the results of one's actions performed under the influence of someone else's authority. However, reduced suggestibility can cause learning difficulties.

Vulgarity

The inability to find a balance between originality and vulgarity in communication, when choosing clothes, social guidelines, and so on. For example, during a dialogue, the interlocutor communicates in raised tones, mannerisms, and does not disdain greasy jokes. When choosing an outfit, she prefers catchy things, and the constituent elements often do not fit well with each other.

stupidity

The inability or unwillingness to determine logically correct conclusions even from the simplest everyday problems, the tendency to see a healthy grain in pseudo-scientific and populist statements, the inability to subject information from sources that are independently elevated to the status of authoritative to a reasonable critical analysis.

Pride

Confidence in the social, moral, mental insignificance of others, the inability to forgive for personal and other people's mistakes, the denial of the possibility of having worthy features in other subjects of society. It develops against the background of distortions made in education, degradation of the personality due to illness, immaturity of the personality, coupled with a high social status.

Coarseness

Unwillingness to adhere to a polite, accepted in a normal society format of communication with interlocutors due to personality deformation against the background of illness, injury, stress, or the frequent need to take a defensive position when encroaching on territory and rights. Typical manifestations: communication in raised tones, rudeness, obscene language.

Greed, avarice

The desire to minimize costs even to the detriment of health, basic hygiene and common sense. The pathological pursuit of material stability can manifest itself in the form of a refusal to get rid of garbage, rubbish, ignoring the reasonable requests of a loved one to purchase essentials.

Cruelty

The desire to cause discomfort to living subjects for the sake of personal moral satisfaction. The impact on the victim can be both intangible - in the form of insults and refusal to satisfy some important emotional needs, and physical - through causing pain, torment, encroachment on life.

Forgetfulness

Inability to remember some data necessary in everyday life, a combination of actions to achieve a specific goal, an algorithm for starting or turning off the device. It occurs due to age-related changes in the brain, information overload. May be the result of a stressful situation that you want to forget.

Addiction

The desire to enjoy the performance of actions or the use of a certain substance, even if the source of pleasant emotions is harmful to health, relationships with others, leads to large amounts of money, pushes to a crime because of the desire to achieve a "high", in the absence of legal access to it.

Envy

Inability to enjoy any personal benefits, achievements, qualities. The tendency to constantly compare the values ​​of oneself and others. Moreover, the “crumbs” on the other side always seem larger, tastier and more desirable than their own “placers”. In a pathological form, it deprives of cheerfulness, the ability to soberly assess one's own and other people's merits.

Complexity

Constant belittling in one's own eyes of one's own natural talents, trained abilities, denial of the value of personal developments, inability to force oneself to declare personal achievements in a circle of authoritative persons. It is formed due to excessively strict upbringing, psychological trauma or a disease of the nervous system.

boredom

The habit of teaching everyone and everywhere, repeatedly discussing the same topic, despite the obvious lack of interest in it among people who are trying to be drawn into a dialogue. The reason lies in the pathological love of attention and endless conversations on any topic, even if the instigator of the conversation is a complete layman in the topic under discussion.

Anger

An emotional manifestation of strong dissatisfaction with something, a landmark indicating the presence of conditions that are clearly uncomfortable for a person. In the absence of actions that eliminate the cause of the formation of feelings, over time it can push to commit an offense, so you should not ignore the manifestations of anger.

pampered

It is a bad habit to demand the fulfillment of one's desire as soon as possible, without taking into account the capabilities of the one to whom the claim is made. The refusal to control and restrain one's own needs, to endure the slightest inconvenience, and to personally make emotional and physical efforts to achieve what one wants.

Laziness

Lack of desire to strain for personal needs, a tendency to idle pastime all day long. In behavior, there is a desire to obtain comfort at the expense of the work of others, a deep aversion to useful activity, even in minimal volumes. When applying for a job, this negative character trait for a resume should not be indicated.

deceit

Conscious systematic statement of unreliable information to interlocutors for slanderous purposes, for their own benefit or masking personal mistakes in some activity. The pathological form is inherent in self-doubt individuals who try to impress others with fictional stories about themselves.

Hypocrisy

Feigned assurances of love, sincere admiration and goodwill towards the interlocutor during a conversation with him. The purpose of such behavior is fawning and the desire to flatter for one's own benefit, while hiding the true, perhaps even malicious, moods towards the participant in the dialogue or the object of the conversation.

Flattery

The tendency to excessive constant praise aloud of other people's real and imaginary virtues, virtues, for the sake of their own self-interest. Knowingly negative actions, the actions of an influential person, specially whitewashed by a flatterer and voiced by him as the only right decision in the situation under consideration, can also turn out to be an object of exaltation.

Curiosity

In a pathological form, this is the desire to find out the information of interest, regardless of decency, personal feelings of the interrogated and the situation of the situation in which communication takes place. The cause of unhealthy curiosity is a painful desire to be aware of even those events that are not related to the person showing interest.

Pettiness

The habit of attaching great importance to their insignificant statements, actions. The widespread sticking out of their imaginary achievements as opposed to the really important and heroic deeds of the people around them. Attention to mediocre details at the expense of values, the desire for reporting on household expenses up to "one thousandth".

revenge

The tendency to focus personal attention on all minor and major turmoil, worldly conflicts, far-fetched grievances, so that over time it is imperative to pay handsomely to each of the offenders. At the same time, the duration of the time period from the moment of receiving a real or imaginary insult does not matter.

Impudence

Unceremonious behavior in any situation, the desire to achieve what you want at minimal cost and "over the heads" of others. Such behavior is formed due to improper upbringing, because of a difficult childhood, or, conversely, because of spoiledness, which has consolidated the habit of always getting what you want at any cost.

Arrogance

The perception of the majority of others as subjects of a deliberately lower category due to a fictitious difference in social status or a real difference in material, national, racial or other grounds. The reason may be a defensive reaction to the wounding of pride in the past or distortions in education.

Annoyance

Inability or unwillingness to independently deal with emerging problems, have fun or relax. The reason may lie in emotional immaturity, fear of loneliness, the desire to increase self-esteem through active participation in the lives of other people, even if they experience obvious discomfort from this and openly declare it.

narcissism

Unreasonable and unreasonable self-praise, narcissism under any circumstances, the desire to embellish the results of their actions and the actions taken themselves, selfishness, indifference not only to strangers, but also to close people, only interested in personal comfort and benefit.

Negligence

Unwillingness to qualitatively fulfill the obligations taken or assigned, neglect in behavior with people in domestic or professional relations, insufficient attention to entrusted values, inability - due to poor education or personal deformation, to understand the importance of diligence when working on something.

Touchiness

An increased negative reaction to everyday troubles due to hypertrophied egoism. It is because of him that you want the world to spin at your feet, and those around you, forgetting about your own needs, meet your expectations around the clock and all year round: they are polite, generous and caring, striving to provide someone else's comfort.

Limitation

Confidence that the true picture of the world is available only to you, and other explanations of the structure of the universe and the principles of interaction between man and the environment are a complete invention of narrow-minded dorks. It arises due to insufficient education, a congenital developmental defect that prevents adequate assimilation of educational information.

Alarmism

The tendency to accept as reality the imaginary catastrophic consequences of any, even minor incidents in one's own life and the world as a whole. It is a manifestation of a bad upbringing by a reinsurer, an overly violent fantasy or a disorder of the nervous system due to stress, illness.

vulgarity

A penchant for frilly outfits, demonstrating real or ostentatious material security through the acquisition of unnecessary luxury items. Or, and sometimes both, passion for sebaceous jokes, obscene anecdotes, often voiced in an absolutely inappropriate environment for the sake of causing a feeling of embarrassment in the majority of listeners.

Irritability

A negative reaction to a stimulus, expressed in an excessive manifestation of emotions, the saturation of which does not correspond to the strength of the impact of an unpleasant factor for some reason. The cause of irritability can be external or internal, caused by congestion of the nervous system or exhaustion of the body by a disease.

extravagance

The inability to rationally spend income, including the desire to systematically or constantly make acquisitions for the sake of the process itself, and not for the purpose of exploiting the purchased item or thing. It is based on the desire to feel like a "master of the world", to correspond to the status of a financially secure person.

Jealousy

Showing dissatisfaction or distrust of the subject, which has a certain value for the jealous. It is expressed as a suspicion of infidelity or a greater emotional predisposition to another person (in the place of the accused there may be not only a spouse, but also a mother, sister, friend - the list can be endless).

Samoyedism

The habit of justifiably and unreasonably accusing oneself of a multitude of sins of various magnitudes. For example, in insufficient attention to the performance of duties, although in reality at work or in relationships a person gives all the best. Possible reasons: low self-esteem, actively supporting an interested environment, perfectionism.

self-confidence

Unreasonable exaltation of one's abilities, supposedly allowing one to cope with a certain or any task. It is the cause of bragging and risky acts, often committed with a rejection of the rules of safety, the laws of physics and the arguments of logic. It is based on inexperience, dependence on the desire to live on the verge of a foul.

weak will

Lack of ability to perform an effort of will for the sake of a desired goal or to resist dangerous, illegal temptations, morally degraded individuals. The tendency to submit to other people's decisions, even when they require serious sacrifices. Such a negative character trait of a man can make him the object of ridicule in the team.

Cowardice

The inability to resist the opponent due to insufficiently developed willpower, susceptibility to a phobia. It can be expressed as a flight from the scene of some events due to an imaginary or real danger to one's own health, life, despite the fact that other possible participants in the incident are left in danger.

Vanity

The desire to receive praise for real and imaginary merits. The desire to first of all have a positive image, and not be worthy of compliments. Illegibility in the quality of voiced approvals - flattery is also perceived favorably. Moreover, it is not always possible to distinguish it from sincere statements.

Stubbornness

The desire to act only according to one's own ideas about the correctness of the chosen path, the rejection of authorities, ignoring the well-known rules, purely because of the habit of acting the way one has decided. Lack of ability to be flexible in the face of a conflict of interests, unwillingness or inability to take into account the goals and capabilities of others.

selfishness

Conscious selfishness, the desire to live in comfort, regardless of the possible inconvenience that follows from this for others. Their interests are always exalted above the desires of other people, the opinions of the latter on this and other occasions are never taken into account. All decisions are based solely on self-interest.

A person's character is an important part of his life. The individual exists in society. Interacting with other people, we learn to understand each other, show our essence, develop our individuality. By the age of two or three, a child already has his own character and is ready to defend it. Just try to tell him something that does not match his ideas about himself, and you will see manifestations of a person who wants to be heard.

Often people, wondering what kind of characters there are, do not understand that each of us is unique, and therefore even the pronounced personality traits of each will be manifested in their own way. Character cannot be good or bad.

General character traits

We all have the ability to respond in a certain way to changing conditions. General traits of a person's character are the basis of the human psyche. These include courage, honesty, openness, secrecy, gullibility, isolation. If a person is open to interaction with other people, we can talk about his sociability, if he knows how to enjoy life, he is called cheerful, cheerful. The way a person acts in various situations, and shows his features of the psyche.

In relation to oneself

A person can treat his own person in different ways: love himself, consider himself a complete loser, ugly, critically look at his reflection in the mirror, try to change himself in every possible way. All these manifestations of personality can form an appropriate character: insecure, passive, closed, trusting, suspicious, purposeful, active.

Many people ask how to know the character of a person? The answer may be his unconscious attitude towards his personality. If a person does not love and respect himself, he simply cannot love others. In life, such a person will behave as discreetly as possible and not attempt to achieve a greater and better result.

In relation to other people

Depending on what personality traits prevail in a person, the following characters can be distinguished: sympathetic, noble, kind, generous, sensitive, attentive, devoted, independent, self-willed, selfish, cruel. By the way a person relates to other people, one can understand his attitude towards the world and himself.

Individual traits of a person's character are necessarily reflected in the interaction in the family, the team. A person who feels the need to suppress others ends up defeated, dissatisfied with her own life and actions taken to achieve a certain goal.

In relation to work and activity

Daily employment also leaves its mark on the character of a person. Being at the workplace, a person is forced to communicate with a large number of people, solve certain problems, overcome his own shortcomings, expressed in laziness, lack of awareness, competence, inability to do something.

in this case, they can be: lazy, hardworking, enthusiastic, indifferent, persistent, self-sufficient. The more and more effectively a person works on himself, the better his results. By studying this or that activity, each of us is able to reach the “ceiling” in it, reach the limit, become a real pro. The difference lies only in the fact that a person who is called lucky always strives forward and enthusiastically passes through obstacles, while an obvious loser is afraid to take risks, invents worthy excuses for himself in order not to act, but only to contemplate what is happening to him. . Often people who lack the strength to make their own decisions blame others for their own failures and losses.

How is character formed?

Modern psychological science claims that a person's character is laid in early childhood. Around the age of two or three, the child begins to show individual character traits. A person is formed both by social attitudes and the attitude of parents to his personality. If parents are attentive to his mood, take into account the needs and desires of the baby, take into account his personality, then the child grows open to the world around him, trusts the Universe and time, and treats people positively. When trust, for whatever reason, is lost, the little child is left with a fragmented sense of emptiness within. He can no longer blindly, unconditionally trust, as before, but begins to look for reasons, tricks, disappointments in everything.

Finally, the character completes its formation by the age of four or five. If the parents until this time have not paid enough attention to the child, have not understood his pressing problems, why he does this and not otherwise, then it will be more difficult to correct the situation further. A child who is constantly criticized becomes timid, insecure, indecisive. The one who is often scolded does not believe in himself, treats everything with suspicion. A child, surrounded by care and attention, becomes trusting and open, ready to learn about the surrounding reality. There are different types of people. The list is endless.

Character accentuations

Accentuations of character are pronounced manifestations of certain personality traits, on which a person gets hung up, before which he is too vulnerable. For example, a shy person may suffer if others do not pay attention to him, but he still does not dare to prove himself in society. The merry fellow and the soul of the company may be offended by friends due to the fact that his ideas have not received due attention. In both cases, the person focuses on himself, his feelings about what others will say and think about him, needs the approval of his actions. What are the characters in general, so there are different accentuations.

Typology of characters

The Swedish psychiatrist Carl Gustav Jung in the last century empirically deduced the types of human character. The essence of his concept is that he conditionally divided all people into introverts and extroverts, depending on the predominant mental functions.

An introvert is a person immersed in himself, his own thoughts, feelings, experiences. The basis of his existence is his own personality. An introvert experiences failures for a long time, often accumulates resentment and fears, loves to be alone. Time spent with himself is as essential to him as air. Reflections can make up a whole world for him, full of mysteries and secrets. Among people of this category there are many thinkers, writers, poets. Some immersion in themselves, isolation from the outside world allows them to create their own reality. An introvert highly appreciates solitude, the opportunity to reflect, emotional support from other people (as he is often unsure of himself).

An extrovert is a person whose thoughts and energy are directed to the outside world. A person of this type loves the company of people and is extremely difficult to endure loneliness. If he is left alone for a long time, he may even become depressed. An extrovert needs self-expression in the outer space. This is a prerequisite for the development of his personality. An extrovert is in dire need of communication, emotional confirmation of his own rightness and significance.

Temperament types

Answering the question of what kind of characters there are, it is impossible not to touch on the theory of four types of temperament. This classification is known to every person from school. Mostly there are people with a mixed type of temperament, in which one type prevails.

Choleric is a person of mood, the frequent change of which is due to the mobility of the nervous system. He is easily carried away by anything, but cools down very quickly. Thus, energy resources are often wasted. Choleric does everything quickly, sometimes forgetting about quality. Often he does not have time to do the work before she ceases to interest him.

Sanguine is a person with a stable type of nervous activity. He quite easily releases failures and disappointments from himself, switching to external circumstances. Easy to get carried away, work productively. A lively interesting person who needs a community of like-minded people.

Phlegmatic - a person of a calm, balanced disposition. From the outside, it may seem that it is difficult to anger or hurt a phlegmatic person. However, he is quite vulnerable, but he knows how to hide it well. Under the outer "thick-skinned" is a sensitive and sincere person. Phlegmatic is responsible and a good performer. However, the organizer will not come out of it.

A melancholic is an extremely emotional, vulnerable, vulnerable person. He takes injustice hard, often looks too closed and distrustful.

It should be noted that there are no bad or good types of temperament. Each type carries its own personality and each has strengths and weaknesses.

Typology of Kretschmer's characters

A psychologist from Germany, Ernst Kretschmer, proposed a classification that allows you to determine the character by the face of a person, as well as by his physique. He called people of a thin type asthenics and characterized them as closed personalities, prone to serious feelings. He defined overweight people as picnics. Picnics are often obese, easily adapt to changing conditions, and are in great need of society. People of the athletic type are practical, purposeful, calm, unflappable character.

The science of graphology deals with the study of the characteristics of human behavior, its personality traits in the shape of letters. Everything matters here: the position of the letters on the line, their height and width, and how elegantly and beautifully they are written. For example, in a person with low self-esteem, the lines are directed downwards. The one who keeps himself confident, the lines go up. Large letters indicate the breadth of the soul and the desire to be a leader, small letters characterize a person who doubts everything. Currently, there is more than one test for the character of a person, which allows you to determine which group he belongs to.

Is it possible for a person to change his character on his own?

For those who dream of changing their character for objective reasons, I would like to say that nothing is impossible. Just consciously take the necessary steps, control yourself. Of course, it will not be possible to radically change oneself, but one should not strive for this, because each of us is unique and unrepeatable. It is better to improve your best qualities of character than to constantly think about the shortcomings and find out what kind of characters there are and why you do not fit them. Learn to love yourself the way you really are, and then your own shortcomings will stop worrying you. Everyone has them, believe me. Your task is to develop yourself, to reveal the fullness of your possibilities for self-realization.

Thus, there are many options for how to determine the character of a person. The main thing is that you accept your own personality and learn to live in harmony with it and the world around you.

Today we will continue to study the positive traits of a person's character, by developing which we can become a harmonious personality.

Let me remind you once again that one cannot neglect some character traits in favor of others, since in the long run this will only bring harm. In other words, it is necessary to polish all facets of character without exception, and then one or another trait will help us in every situation of life.

By developing only our “favorite” traits, we use a one-sided approach, avoiding work on ourselves and not using the entire arsenal of character traits that we have.

• Certainty

Set goals in life, no matter the difficulties. Make sure your goals are correct. Ignore distractions. Don't get frustrated if there are a lot of problems to solve.

• industriousness

Invest your time and energy to complete every task you set. Finish all your projects. Do the job right, not just to. Follow the instructions. Concentrate fully on your work. Don't be lazy.

• Vigilance

Be aware of what is happening around you so that you can have the right idea. Keep your eyes and ears open. Recognize and heed warning signals. Tell others about the danger. Stay away from dangerous places yourself.

• Caution

Think before you act. Follow the safety rules. Ask permission. Communicate at the right time.

• Endurance

Gather inner strength to withstand stress. Do your best. Don't be a "bitch". Do not waste your time, energy and talents on meaningless pursuits. Put your whole soul into what you do.

• Flexibility

Change plans or ideas if you really need to. Don't be discouraged when plans change. Respect the decisions of your superiors. Don't be stubborn. Look for the good in change. Be flexible, but don't compromise on what's right.

• Generosity

Manage your resources wisely so you can freely give to those in need. Share with others. Don't expect anything in return for your generosity. Give away your time and talents sometimes. Praise the good things you see in others.

• Tenderness

Take care of others. Show good manners. Reject violence as a solution to your problems. Look for ways to ease the pain of others. Do not get angry and not others. Be a peacemaker.

• Joy

Maintain a good attitude even when you face unpleasant conditions. Try to look for the good in everything. Smile at adversity. Don't give in to discouragement. Don't let your emotions control your mind. Take time out, laugh and sing every day.

• distinction

Understand more deeply the reasons why things happen. Ask questions. Don't judge hastily. Take lessons from your own experience. Don't repeat mistakes. Look for the cause of the problem.

• Humility

Recognize that achieving your success and results also depends on the investment of others in your life. Praise your parents, teachers, teammates and coaches. Don't think more highly of yourself than you should. Take responsibility for all your actions. Try again after every defeat. Give credit to those who made you.

• Gratitude

Let others know through your words and actions that you appreciate them. Show your parents and teachers that you appreciate them. Say and write "thank you". Take care of other people's things. Be content with what you have.

• Honour

Respect leaders and higher authorities. Don't laugh at them. Be considerate of those who lead you. Show loyalty to your superiors. Speak only the truth. Obey not with compulsion, but cheerfully. Make way for the elders. Honor your country.

• Initiative

Recognize and do what needs to be done before you are asked to do it. Do something before talking about it. Don't put off until tomorrow what you can do today. Contribute to the success of the entire team. Be part of the solution, not the problem. Look for ways to help others.

• Hospitality

Use food, shelter and fellowship for the benefit of others. Greet guests and visitors. Make others feel important. Cook for guests. Feel free to share your stuff. Don't expect anything in return.

• Justice

Stand up for what is pure and honest. Respect the rule of law. Stand up for what is right. Never hurt others. Always stay open. Keep your conscience clear.

In the next article, we will finish looking at the positive character traits of a person. Stay with us.

For those who do not like their own "psychological portrait", there is consolation: the shortcomings of temperament can be made up for by positive character traits.

It is the understanding that one can change oneself for the better that is the most attractive feature as a science.

So, if temperament is an innate personality trait, then a person educates the character himself. When we perform an act, each time we strengthen or weaken some of its traits.

In this way, even the most bad temper can be corrected.

Regarding temperament, we can only recall that Hippocrates divided it into four types that are still used today:

1. Phlegmatic - unhurried and unperturbed;
2. Cholerics - quick-tempered and unbalanced;
3. Melancholic - impressionable and vulnerable;
4. Sanguine people are lively, mobile and cheerful.

1. Fixing the results

It is better to write down the results of your struggle. You can make a table, and record successes and failures there every day. Or do this: mark two cities on a geographical map. One will conditionally denote your current state, the second - the goal.

Every time you do something to improve your character, put a new point on the path between these cities. And if you miss something, go back a point.

In terms of very interesting it seems. Be sure to read about this great man, whose experience can be of invaluable help to you.

Surely the reader may have a question: do they influence the formation of personality and its individual features?

It is rather difficult to give an unambiguous answer to this question. A certain connection in the inclinations and characteristics of behavior between children and parents, of course, can be traced.

However, to claim that “I am like this and I can’t be different, because this is my mom or dad”, for an adult, at least not seriously.

It is believed that it is impossible to change the temperament, but character traits are within the power of anyone who wishes. You just need to be determined to do it.

character accentuation

Character accentuation is a character trait that is within the clinical norm, in which some of its traits are excessively enhanced, as a result of which selective vulnerability is found in relation to some psychogenic influences while maintaining good resistance to others.

You may find the definition of accentuation a bit complicated, but it's actually quite simple.

The very word "accentuation" (from Latin accentus - stress) denotes a pronounced emphasis on something.

In other words, this feature lies in the fact that some character traits are unusually developed, which causes the inferiority of other, less developed traits.

Probably everyone saw how small children, at the sight of strangers, settle down to one and begin to smile, and at the sight of others they frown and run away.

This is due to the fact that facial features are very closely related to our character traits. Children intuitively feel this, "scanning" the face of a stranger.

Yes, and adults at a deeply subconscious level can “feel” a good or bad person in front of them. This also happens because our brain is able to "read" information from the characteristic features of a person's face.

It is important to understand that the character of a person largely determines how his life will turn out, whether he will succeed.

The 19th-century English writer William Thackeray wrote:

"Sow an act and you reap a habit; sow a habit and you reap a character; sow a character and you reap a destiny."

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