How to respond to insults from your husband, work colleagues, superiors, on the Internet, at school and other places? To answer this question, you need to find out how to behave in certain circumstances.

We live in an age of speed and radical change. People have stopped communicating, and if they do, it is only in their free time, which is becoming less and less. No, we are not talking about the fact that people do not talk, do not solve problems, labor issues. You can sit next to an employee for years, but still not understand who his family is, whether he has a wife, children. We are now talking about something else - people have ceased to understand each other. Everyone is in the position of a racer - for money, for fame, wealth, status, recognition, authority, etc. and in the heat of the chase, we do not notice important moments.

Let's remember the last trip on public transport - metro, bus, trolleybus, tram. Let's visually imagine the faces of the passengers - everyone looks in "their" direction, thinks about something and looks more like a bundle of "nerves". And it’s worth the slightest provocation - he didn’t sit down like that, accidentally stepped on his toe, touched his hand. A conflict immediately arises, moreover, more like a fierce fight between animals - screams, insults, humiliation, up to physical assault.

It is not in vain that the old people say that people have lost something important, a thin thread that contributes to complete mutual understanding and harmony. In the old days, things were different. And this is not a myth, but the truth. There were warm words, people supported each other, talked with neighbors, invited colleagues home for the holidays.

And how wonderfully solemn events were held - May 1, May 9 and other holidays. Tables were lined up in a row in the courtyard, covered with clean and white tablecloths, on top of which each tenant of the house brought something of his own, homemade and tasty. And what now - there is a feeling that people are trying to look for the worst words and expressions, they are trying to make their counterpart as painful as possible, to strike in the very heart, to plunge a knife into the back.

How to understand - offend or do not know how to joke

Be that as it may, you should not assume that everyone around you is waiting to inflict insults. Fortunately, there is still Life on this planet, that is, people who are able to behave adequately and not be rude to their neighbors and others have survived. But still, there are moments when you do not expect anything bad, one of your colleagues says something that causes resentment, pain. But do not rush to draw conclusions. Maybe he didn't want to be rude? Or you misunderstood. How to figure it out?

1. Before you get offended, remember if this person has a reason to offend you?
2. Are his words really perceived only as a deliberate infliction of moral insult? Can they be attributed to an unsuccessful joke.
3. Does the person have a reason to insult you?
4. How a rude person behaves - aggressively or smiling sweetly. Does he try to make you look stupid in front of others.
5. And finally, the best method, but it concerns the clarification of relationships between close, familiar people. Talk to him and find out what you did wrong, what he wanted to say in his own words. You may be able to clarify the situation and put an end to your own doubts.

But even if it was a joke and not entirely successful, stop them immediately. Don't let someone put you down or insult you, even if it's in a casual tone. No one has the right to inflict moral pain.

Why people are rude: the reasons for the growth of aggression

Every day we ask ourselves what is happening to people. Why do they turn into a flock of animals, capable of tearing a person apart. The answers are given by experienced psychologists who study the interaction between people in society. Everything, as it turned out, begins in childhood. Yes, and what is there to be surprised. If someone raises their eyebrows, then they are clearly being disingenuous. All the blame for the aggravation of anger in society lies with adults - parents.

We don't have much free time. We are chasing earnings, we want to buy an apartment, it is better to equip it, buy a car, wear expensive clothes, go on vacation to the best places. What about a child? Even a fairy tale to read at night and then the problem is - there is no time. So that he does not demand attention to himself, we pay off - we give expensive gifts, sweets, then a car, separate apartments. As a result, a natural consumer grows up, into whose ears words about honor, dignity, good breeding, decency, respect for others, etc. were not whispered in a gentle motherly voice.

School. Here already there is a community of people of interest. And as soon as the child gets into a flock of small "animals", he immediately tries to adopt their habits. That's right - who wants to stand out from the crowd. You need to be with those who are more, so there are more chances to stay "alive". That is, children dissolve in the mass of rude people, since, unfortunately, there are more of them - after all, we are growing a society of consumers.

We don't evolve culturally, but good examples of our parents, grandparents were goodies: Martin Eden, Jen Eyre, Don Quixote, Robinson Crusoe and other characters of popular works. What now? The maximum that young people are capable of is to watch a film on the Internet. But for the most part, children spend time in nightclubs, drink a huge amount of alcohol, smoke tirelessly, and fill themselves with energy drinks. You can’t look at their comments on the network without tears in a continuous obscenity, abuse and 5 errors in a word of 4 letters. It seems that Russian lessons at school have been completely canceled.

Being evil is fashionable! Yes, this statement is true. We have repeatedly witnessed showdowns in live broadcasts of classmates, students, young guys. Now there are a huge number of videos on the network - reports with a beating of a bad girlfriend, a classmate who did not like it. Violence breaks records.

Television, films. The main attribute of every house is a TV, a computer. Films with rude and boorish characters are constantly shown on it, because of which a cult of arrogance, aggression and enmity has arisen.

How to respond to an insult

And now let's move on to the analysis of specific situations that almost everyone faces without exception. After all, both close people - dad, mom, spouse, children, and strangers can inflict moral pain, insult. This is evidenced by the mass of unpleasant stories from school, institute, from work. What should be done in such circumstances? After all, few people are able to openly express aggression, much less defend themselves against rudeness and rudeness, which in recent years simply knows no boundaries. Advice is given by experienced professionals.

Humiliates and insults husband

As a rule, when a husband begins to offend and morally suppress, to speak insulting and humiliating words, a woman does not remain in debt. And so there are squabbles, quarrels, up to a complete break in relations. But this is not a solution to the problem. Why destroy the family, if you can find a way to suppress the aggression of the spouse. But first you need to find out why he does this.

Causes of the aggression of the spouse

He's just an evil person. Spoiled by his parents, demanding attention, he is not used to being denied something. You will have to either re-educate, or endure or break off relations. It is better to try to re-educate, but slowly, without breaking on the "knee".

There are accumulated problems at work. Talk to him, apparently you have a distrust, since he does not talk about his disagreements in relations with employees and superiors.

You are misbehaving. Pay attention, maybe your spouse still has a reason for dissatisfaction. Of course, insulting and humiliating is the last thing. But it also happens that, not knowing how to influence you, the husband lashes out with unpleasant words and expressions.

Are you tired of each other or he doesn't want to be around you anymore. Talk, find out the reason for his anger. If there is no passion and love that before, you are doomed to be annoyed. Try to get some rest separately. If this does not help, you are infuriated by his presence, and he - yours - get a divorce.

He got another one. This occasion will not keep you waiting long. He will definitely compare you with the one on the side. It is still fresh there, passions are blazing, he wants to plunge into a new relationship with his head. And here you are the same wife, in the usual dressing gown, with the usual conversations, dishes, etc. Here you need to choose - (which is very difficult) or let him go on all four sides, why endure insults and humiliation.

How to behave if your husband insults you

1. Try to pretend that you don't care about his insults. This is not easy to do, but you still need to try. Usually, uttering unpleasant words, a man is waiting for an answer - there must be a scandal. Maybe it's silly, but many people get pleasure from the heat of the relationship. And then a complete ignore - it turns out, there is no point in scolding, it does not give anything. No continuation!
2. Talk - maybe there is a reason. Find out the relationship, but try to agree in advance - without raising the tone. Quite often, such conversations help to align the union and not create the conditions for the development of a larger conflict.
3. Never be rude to him. It will only get worse - someone has to be smarter, someone has to give in. Then, when his passions subside, you will have a talk.
4. If you can’t talk, get away from his eyes, you can go to another room, or for a walk. Do not give him a chance for further insults and insults against you.

How to respond to bullying at work

We spend most of our lives at work. And, of course, no one is immune from problems in the relationship between employees. Therefore, you need to prepare in advance for the fact that unpleasant situations will arise. How to solve them. Well, do not leave after every quarrel or offensive words from work. Believe me, the next place of employment will be no better, if you don’t know how to cooperate, communicate with society, sit at home and complete orders from the Internet. But you should understand that in this way you will be deprived of normal, human communication and will very quickly get tired of loneliness, monotony and routine. Work from home should be done only under the circumstances. And it's time for you to gain your mind and learn how to respond to insults from colleagues and superiors.

Try to remain silent. This is especially true of situations on the roads, in public transport, in crowded places. In order to control yourself, you need to think carefully, you need to draw the attention of others to offensive language addressed to you.

If the situation arose at work, among classmates and colleagues, silence can play a cruel joke. This is a kind of signal to the offender - you can continue to behave like this and further, and nothing will happen for it. Therefore, it is categorically impossible to remain silent in this situation - put the aggressive comrade "in place" and no longer allow him such behavior. Repeat again - answer the same way, draw everyone's attention to his behavior. Let everyone see how disgusting he is in his ugly behavior.

Before responding to rudeness, you should understand with whom you are in conflict. And think about whether your answer is worth losing your job, your student ID. But even in this case, a self-respecting person should at least do something to stop the insults. At least to talk, as a maximum to involve third parties and not allow the offender to inflict a moral blow again.

Try to "understand" the offender. This situation concerns those who have been offended by management or a person on whom much depends. Yes, it is not easy, but you need to do this “procedure”. Approach the offender and talk as if you understand that he had no idea of ​​offending your person. Indeed, in most cases this is what happens - a person cannot always understand that he did something wrong, said the wrong words, or said too much in a fit of anger. It is necessary to give time - let it “cool down” and have a conversation. Remind him that you yourself have often found yourself in a position where reluctantly insulted someone. The main thing is to realize your guilt, identify the causes of the conflict and put an end to mistrust, doubts and quarrels.

How to respond to online harassment

The World Wide Web The Internet is the worst place ever! In it you can run into such insults that the mind is incomprehensible. And they can offend for no reason. It’s just that there are such “idiots” who spend all their time on social networks and strive to insult someone. They even have the nickname "troll", and they "troll" people, cause conflict. What to do in such situations for those who did not even think of entering into an argument with anyone?

1. Don't waste time on fools and don't make contact with them. They are waiting for this! Otherwise, their activities are simply meaningless. Do not answer - it will go crazy, suffer, that is, get "what it deserves." And you have only one thing left - to laugh at him and not pay attention to his short-sighted, stupid actions.
2. If the abuse continues, contact law enforcement. There is an article that brings trolls to justice, causing a clear insult to the honor and dignity of a person.

How to do it:

• take a screenshot, fix the moment of insults;
• try to collect as much information about the troll as possible;
• work with an experienced lawyer;
• write a statement to the authorities and attach everything that you have from the evidence and information about the offender.

How to respond to bullying at school

In childhood, we hear the first unpleasant things addressed to us. No one can get around this situation, especially those who do not know how to defend themselves steadfastly. We remember our school years with affection, but as soon as moments of humiliation and insults from classmates, high school students arise in our memory, our face immediately darkens. Experts say that children's grievances are experienced by people very hard. Often they accompany a person until the end of his days. What to do to stop bullying at school:

1. Try not to pay attention, but only once. Repeated humiliation must be answered. Talk to this person and ask what he wants from you. Perhaps there is a misunderstanding between you that needs to be cleared up.
2. It is not possible to resolve the issue peacefully - try to answer. As a rule, boors are sure of their impunity. They create more noise around themselves, although in fact they are cowards by nature. Answer rudely, but do not turn into the same idiot. It does not help, he has gathered a group, they continue to put pressure on you - talk to your parents.

Important: never be shy about asking your parents for help. School problems can have serious psychological and mental consequences. They must be stopped, and the offenders must know - for every rude word there is another word!

Parents whose children are humiliated need to communicate with the child more often, to have frank conversations. Pay attention to whether your beloved child has become withdrawn, nervous. If it happens that he abruptly fell out of love with school, does not want to participate in school events, spend time with classmates, does not have friends in the class, one should be wary. He has very serious problems. The child is hiding everything, talk to his teacher. In any case, do your best to clarify the situation and take action.

In cases where the conflict at school is associated with a group of very aggressive teenagers behaving threateningly - do not be shy, do not be afraid - write a statement to the police, since insults for such "types" are only the beginning, then the moment of assault may come.

How to respond to insults from your wife

Paradoxical, as it seems to someone, the situation. The wife humiliates and insults her husband. You will laugh, but this happens quite often. This can happen both publicly and alone with your spouse. The first is a rare case, the second is all the time. Of course, what man wants to admit that he is under the yoke of a fragile woman - no one! The reason for this behavior may be:

1. You made a bad deed, changed. She may have forgiven, but she has not forgotten and is unlikely to forget! At every opportunity, it will remind you of your sin and continue to insult and humiliate.
2. She grew up a spoiled, inadequate girl, her parents indulged in everything and encouraged her ugly behavior.
3. From the very beginning, the man did not make it clear that he was the head of the family, and she was the keeper of the hearth, creating comfort. But this does not mean that a man has the right to humiliate his wife.
4. Your significant other is too tired from the endless circle of duties. She simply cannot withstand physical exertion and cannot wait for your help. She has no other choice but to express humiliating words, insults to you - this is how she gets rid of accumulated negative emotions. Help her, participate in family life, especially if there are children.
5. A man has stopped paying attention to his wife, he no longer sees a woman in her. Yes, worries and troubles play a cruel joke on a woman's appearance. Give her rest, let her clean herself up and remember her other destinations.
6. The wife grew up in a family where her parents had the same relationship - her mother humiliated and covered her husband with offensive phrases. Now he copies his former life and projects it onto his relationship with his husband.
7. Your wife is jealous of your children. You began to spend more time with them, although she deserves support, communication. She is also annoyed by the fact that a softer, compassionate daddy attracts children more than an overbearing and strict mother.
8. Problems with the hormonal background. Negative behavior of the spouse can also be observed during diseases associated with the endocrine system. During pregnancy, during illnesses, she simply does not control her behavior. An appeal to the doctor is required, and in the case of pregnancy, patience to the husband.

What to do if a child is abusive

Building relationships with children is not easy. As soon as he reaches adolescence, the desire for independence immediately arises. Children want to break away from their parents and show that they are able to solve their own problems, to find contacts with the outside world. It is this world that most often becomes a provocateur of the negative behavior of the child. A small person's own "I" is being formed, and the biggest mistake of parents is a misunderstanding of the situation. The fact that their child does something without them, ceases to ask permission for all actions, to share the innermost, simply does not fit in their head. This is how conflict situations arise. What to do?

1. First of all, forget that your child is your property. First of all, you have produced an individual, not a free app!
2. Do not lose touch with your child. Do not stop close contact for a day - chat, talk, share secrets (available).
3. You do not need to indulge the child in everything - fulfill only those requests that you can afford.
4. Good deeds should be encouraged - your child honestly deserves it. If something is wrong - talk, blame, but do not pretend that nothing happened. He should know that any negative offense entails punishment.
5. Help them to realize their desires, participate in his aspirations, support him with support and let him know that you believe in all his undertakings, talents and opportunities.

The main thing is to look for common ground and conduct a dialogue with the child, husband, wife. Be not only a parent, soul mate, but also the best friend of your beloved child, husband, wife. And it is desirable that you maintain friendships for life - and this requires constant work.

All for now.
Sincerely, Vyacheslav.

In the life of every person it happened at least once to listen to insults. Intentionally or through negligence, but desecrated dignity and honor! Insult carries a surge of negative emotions caused by various factors. Knowing these reasons, you can competently respond to an insult or respond correctly to it. People are characterized by various manifestations of certain emotions, but it is not always possible to restrain such manifestations. And then, in a rough form, a negative assessment of the personality is given. But if you know how to properly respond to insults, then the offender himself will be the victim.

Why do people turn to insults?
Before reacting to insults and starting to respond to them, you need to determine what caused the aggression.

1. Self-assertion. By insulting an opponent, a person thereby wants to exalt himself. Aggression is a sign of internal fears, experiences, complexes and self-doubt. Therefore, wanting to increase self-esteem, a person resorts to various kinds of insults. You should show pity to such a person and make it clear that he will not be established at your expense.
   
2. Outburst of emotions. Sometimes a person accumulates too much negativity. And to get under a hot hand is an opportunity to hear a lot of new things about yourself. In this case, the person later apologizes himself, he only needs help to calm down.
   
3. Public play. Such people receive a huge energy boost from scandals in public. The main thing here is to let the person understand that you are not the hero of his action comedy. To remain indifferent in this case means to remain a winner.
   
4. Upbringing. More precisely, its absence. The causes of aggressive behavior go back to early childhood, characterized by permissiveness and indulgence. To an ill-mannered person - only a squeamish attitude.
   
5. Bad day or Monday syndrome. In the life of every person there are Mondays, and not necessarily on the first day of the week. A difficult day is accompanied by emotional disorders, which provokes the release of the negative accumulated during the day to the outside. The best option is to say that you understand what caused the aggression, and ask the person not to take out the negativity on you.
   
6. Rivalry. It gives rise to the strongest insults, discrediting honor and dignity. It is impossible to ignore such insults, it is necessary to give a person a worthy rebuff.
   

The status and position of the offender
The reaction to an insult also depends on who the offender is.

• Husband/wife, relative. If these are people from the inner circle, then you need to try as much as possible to maintain a warm relationship between you. Family quarrels are temporary and are accompanied by accumulated claims and are resolved at a round table.
  
• Friend. If a friend did this, then you should definitely find out the reason that prompted him to insult. As soon as the details come up, you will have to decide: to forgive or is it better to refuse such a friend ?!
  
• Boss. Insults from superiors are heard by most office workers. This is either a form of communication, or personal hostility. In any case, the first is self-recognised, but the second needs to be found out. But you should never react violently to the aggression of the boss. You can imagine him in funny and ridiculous situations or just use a smile, this will give confidence. The boss will see your resilience and recognize your psychological advantage.
  
• Unfamiliar people. Here is a great opportunity to show calmness, upbringing and intelligence.
  

In any case, you should not be like the offender and accept the rules of his game. The best weapon is calmness and adequacy, ignoring or humor.

How to correctly respond to an insult in various situations?

1. Have you encountered a troll? The best weapon against him is to ignore. The "trolls" aggressive attack is a way of life. Therefore, in order to prevent them from bringing discord into society, it is enough just to ignore them or direct all the power of the intellect to them. For example, you can answer that you would say a lot, but you are worried that it is unlikely that his limited mind will realize and accept this information.
   
2. Unfounded criticism of your work. Thank the person for their opinion and say what it means that others will definitely like it.
   
3. Appearance criticism. Appearance-related remarks can seriously damage self-esteem if taken to heart. To the attack: "What bruises under your eyes! Just terrible!", You can answer that this is a consequence of a stormy night, adding a satisfied smile.
   
4. Notes on clothing. Such injections often concern the financial situation of your family or you personally and can be very hurtful. To the statement: “You dress only in cheap stores!”, you can answer that any thing looks beautiful and profitable on your figure.
   

When the situation comes to insults, you should not take the side of the offender and turn into his copy, shouting offensive words and curses at him. After all, the winner will not be the one who knows a lot of offensive words, but the one who finds a constructive way to resolve this conflict.

Options to get nasty, humiliate and insult with smart words.

Very often you can encounter arrogance and lack of patience. It would seem that even in the safest places you can encounter a boor. In this case, you should not respond to rudeness with your fists. It is enough to put a bad person in his place with the help of words. For this, it is not necessary to swear.

In general, there are many options for how to humiliate a boor, with the help of caustic phrases.

Ideas for insult:

• Humiliate male potency. There are enough options here, you just need to hint at a weak potency and connect it with the brains.
• Point out failure. People who earn little, react very painfully to the fact that they are pointed to small incomes.
• Show ignorance. Well, here you can tease a relatively low level of education. Show that the person speaks incorrectly and makes mistakes.

Options to offend a person:

• You are a spiritual impotent
• You are not able to earn even for matches
• You can't buy your dinner

You can offend a woman by pointing out the flaws in her appearance. There is no need to say that she is ugly. You can hint at it. Hidden subtext is always more humiliating than direct words.

Examples:

• I would offend you, but I think the mirror offends you every day
• It happens that there is no mind, but God did not endow beauty
• When God created you, apparently he used a heel instead of a rib

You can also hint to a woman about her not quite right lifestyle. This will be most welcome for her husband's mistress or homeowner.

Examples:

• Contact someone like you - disgrace yourself
• You lost beauty 20 more men ago
• You are a disgrace to your parents
• Yes, not a single standing man will look in your direction
• Who needs you. Only a lazy man did not hang out with you
• You are a man's bedding under your feet

Young and beautiful girls are often faced with rudeness and very intrusive advances. Some men don't understand the word "no".

Options:

• Do you want to go to me or to yours? Then let's do this: you to yourself, and I to myself
• Do you want to pass? Well, you can keep me company and go to the leather dispensary
• Do you want to meet with me? Do you know what to do if you have an epileptic seizure?
• Ready to go with me to the end of the world? Well, go, it's free there
• Do you want to meet? You can chat with my boyfriend first

There are many options to besiege a person without the use of fists and swear words.

Options:

• Did you accidentally scare Babai as a child?
• Oh, apparently you don't know that it's better to be friends with me?
• You need to lead a special column that goes to ...
• If you don't call me today, then I will call, but not you.
• I'm interested in the opinion of those I ask. I didn't ask you
• If you want to be rude, go to the trash can, talk to the dogs
• You need to have it to go crazy
• Don't touch my virtues with your flaws

If someone beat you up or does it all the time, don't be discouraged. Repay the offender with his coin.

Options:

• When God created men, you were last in line. Mind didn't get it
• If you were a decent man, your wife would be happy
• No, you are not a woman, but a little thing for frequent hire.
• You have not yet taken place in the womb, so you cannot be strong

If you do not want to send obscenities, you can simply make the person not want to communicate with you.

Receptions:

• Say "yeah", "of course". Don't keep up the conversation
• Try to translate the topic in an uninteresting direction for the interlocutor
• Another good technique is to talk only about yourself and constantly interrupt your partner.

How to respond to rudeness, resentment and insults without a mat with clever words?

You can see more about this in the video.

You can answer with quotes from famous people. There is no need to humiliate or insult. It is enough to correctly lead a person to what he says is wrong. Below are quotes from famous people.

Here are a few options to avoid swear words:

Instead of: OH… SHIT!
I have to say: I'M AMAZED!

Instead: THESE P….GIFTS!
We must say: IN THIS CASE THEY ARE NOT RIGHT!

Instead: WHAT THE FUCK….TH DIFFERENCE!
I must say: THE DIFFERENCE IS NOT PRINCIPAL ...

Instead of: F…HERE!
I must say: oops, a LITTLE COLLAPSE IS OUT...

Instead of: FUCK FUCK….Y!
You have to say: PLEASE DON'T DISTRACT ME!

Instead: FOR ... BALI!
We must say: SORRY, BUT YOU ARE TOO INTERRUPTIVE!

Instead of: WHAT THE HELL….YNYA?!
It is necessary to say: I SEEMS SOMETHING ERROR!

Instead of: BL...SH!
I must say: I AM OVERFLOWED WITH EMOTIONS!

Instead: DISCOVER….ZDYAI!
I must say: YOUR DEGREE OF RESPONSIBILITY LEAVES MUCH BETTER!

If you know psychology well and have a decent vocabulary, then there will be no need to use fists. Everything can be solved by talking.

VIDEO: Get nasty without a mat

Faced with rudeness, many are lost, some answer “adequately”, the smartest do not react in any way. And what to do if a colleague, boss, loved one offends? Quick response tactics depend on the type of rudeness and the situation.

Many had and still have to deal with outright rudeness. Painful experience, to say the least. How to behave in such situations? Whether to repulse the offender, and if so, in what form. Let's consider the problem in more detail.

A bit of theory

What is an insult? This is a deliberate infliction of insult, humiliation of the honor and dignity of a person, and in a rude form, with the violation of all the rules of conduct and morality accepted in society. Insult can be inflicted orally, in writing, and even actions.

And you can sue

Yes, the offender can be put in his place in this way. In Russia, insult is an administrative offense, liability for which is provided for in Article 5.61 of the Code of Administrative Offenses. But the court, as you understand, is better to save as a last resort, and now let's see how to stand up for ourselves on our own.

How do we react

Usually the reaction to rudeness, rudeness is twofold.

The first option: at first we are perplexed (how can this be in a civilized society?!), then the blood rushes to the face, the heartbeat quickens (because adrenaline is released!) and finally we are overcome by anger, we are ready for a verbal or physical fight.

The second option: all the same bewilderment, then the blood drains from the face, because the manifestation of someone else's rudeness frightens us, and it is impossible to adequately answer.

According to experts, both options are unproductive. And that's why.

Who is he, the offender?

It turns out that the offender is the victim. A victim of a difficult childhood, or an intolerable temper, or bad manners. That is the most unfortunate person. Also, weak. Or stupid or jealous. Or maybe someone humiliated. Here he is at the first opportunity and pours out his negative emotions on you.

Now tell me, is it worth it to be offended? Not to mention letting in the negative expression generated by it.

If the abuser is a stranger

The words of a stranger that hurt you, just ignore. Pretend that you do not notice him, that he is an empty place for you. Turn away if the scene happened in a vehicle, or step aside. Such a reaction would be ... insulting to the offender himself, especially if he is a demonstrative psychopath.

If the offender is a colleague or boss

In a work environment, deliberately ignoring offensive attacks against you is also a reasonable decision, especially if the source of the negative is an employee of equal rank with you. But if he still doesn’t calm down in response to your silence, try to respond with a barb or reduce the incident to a joke.

But you shouldn't joke with your boss. Try to keep a serene expression on your face, not to show that you are unpleasant, hurt, offended. And so that everything does not begin to bubble inside, psychologists advise presenting the offender in some funny position: for example, on all fours. They say it helps a lot. The main thing at the same time is not to laugh in his face. But the presumptuous boss will certainly feel the confidence and strength emanating from you.

If the offender is a loved one

No one, as you know, can hurt us as painfully as our loved ones. If one of them allows himself taunts, hints, or even direct speech that offend you, do not tolerate and do not suffer in silence. Immediately say what topic in your communication you consider taboo, what remarks you do not want to hear, what opinion you are not interested in.

You don't need to make a loud showdown. What is said in a quiet voice is much more effective than any tantrums. And if a person really values ​​you, he will understand how not to behave with you. If he envies you, or even simply does not like you, consider whether it is worth maintaining a relationship with him.

Peace, only peace...

So, train a calm reaction to the unwanted words and actions of others. Calmness, the absence of sharp emotions in response is a kind of shield that does not allow someone else's aggression to destroy your psyche, and hence your health in general.

In any critical situation, it is important to maintain self-esteem, self-confidence and peace of mind. And it doesn’t matter whether you answer the offender or ignore him, he will be disarmed and will think about whether it is worth behaving like this with you.

Don't be like a boor

You can not respond to verbal aggression in the same way. Sometimes it's hard not to succumb to the temptation to humiliate, trample, shout down the boor, but it's better not to. Because, firstly, as a result, you will feel inner devastation and resentment will not go anywhere. Secondly, from the outside you will look ridiculous at best, and at worst ... just as rude as your offender. And thirdly, according to psychologists, this will indicate that he is simply manipulating you.

Don't make excuses

Sometimes, in response to unfair criticism, you want to explain your actions and, thus, justify yourself. You shouldn't do it. First, by trying to prove something to "criticism", you will put yourself in a humiliating position. And secondly, no one will listen to your arguments. Because the main goal of a critic is to emotionally hurt you and thereby assert yourself.

If you can’t ignore unfair attacks, just say: I have a different opinion on this matter, and in general I don’t need comments and advice. But remember to keep your cool. Excessive passion can lead you to an argument in which you get bogged down to the great joy of the offender.

Keep a sense of humor

Humor is known to be a sharp weapon. Some attacks should be answered with a witty joke. Thanks to this reaction, defuse the situation and disarm the offender. He thought that he struck you, but it turned out that you are invulnerable, you don't care, mockery does not reach the goal. And the offender, like an energy vampire, will quickly lose interest in you and go looking for another victim.

think fast

How often, when faced with a boor and heard unpleasant words addressed to us, we literally go dumb, unable to quickly and witty answer in order to put the presumptuous type in their place. But then great answers come to mind. How to develop the ability to quickly adequate reaction?

Experts suggest honing your wits in a friendly circle. That is, you meet with friends and start comic duels. A very useful exercise for the mind. And the more often training, the more experience and skill.

When you can not be silent or laugh it off

If the offender is trying to offend your honor and dignity, then you should not remain silent or get off with a joke. Especially if offensive remarks are heard in the presence of witnesses. Collect your thoughts and give a decent answer: calmly, coolly, in a low voice. So that everyone understands that you cannot be rude with impunity.

How not to become a victim

Some people seem to be made to be bullied. By the way, in psychology there is even such a thing as the psychology of the victim. The human victim looks and behaves in a way that literally provokes insults from all kinds of boors.

Fearfulness, self-doubt, low self-esteem, painful shyness, fearfulness - these are the main character traits of this unfortunate. Hearing swearing addressed to him, he is frightened, numb and cannot bring himself to utter a single sound. In this case, a psychologist or independent work on oneself will help.