Each of us faces rudeness every day. In shops, in transport, on the street, in hospitals - everywhere there are people who can spoil the mood for the whole day.

offend and anyone can ruin a person's mood, especially born rude ones. On the them antics need to be properly responded to. To it needs to be prepared and know what to answer in order to save yourself nerves and deserve to get out the situation.

Of course, there are situations when the answer to not worth the insult

• on the insulting strangers in shop, transport or other public place worth paying attention to. It is unlikely that anyone but the police will be able to calm them down;
• not worth answering the rudeness of strangers if they provoke a fight. True, if someone wants to fight, they won’t just let you go, but if there is a chance to avoid a fight, use it;
• on the rudeness can be bumped into the Internet on different forums or in the comments. provoking people to I bet a lot of people do this to make money or just play their egos. On the rudeness in social networks are not costs answer to save time and nerves.

When we still have to answer, we upset that we don't managed to properly fight back, and even if it seemed that you you answer with dignity, after the fact phrases come up that fit better would. Not to upset yourself, you can learn in advance to respond to the offender.

What a funny answer insult

Many people make the mistake of insults are responded with rudeness. Of course, when we are offended, it's annoying, but if you gather your strength and do not honor the boor with attention, you will definitely win the argument. Howsoever it was difficult, make it clear that you are indifferent to the words of a person who is rude. The best way- respond to rudeness with humor.

If you are in stock will be witty phrases, then you you can get out of any situation.

Immediately forget about the drums hung around the neck of the offenders so that they lead the column going somewhere. This is an unconstructive reaction, albeit with a share of sarcasm. In response to an insult, it is better to use intellectual humor to show your superiority over a rude person:

• "WITH I ask for more details at this moment...”;
• "Like you beautifully turn out to come up with nasty things ”;
• "I see you all night they were preparing a speech”;
• “Maybe we should call an ambulance? You must be feeling bad, since you started talking such nonsense”;
• “I want to thank your parents for raising such a good person”;
• “Thank God, you are talking nonsense again! And I already thought that you are a smart person.

If the offender is not understands humor and continues to speak badly in your side, try to correctly explain to the person in clever words that he behaves in a rude manner. On the smart phrases rude can not find the right answer and will simply leave you. Do not shout and swear - polite enough intelligently explain that someone not right. Such composure will knock the boor out of the rut.

How to get out with dignity such situations? There is a wise way. agree with rude words and thank you for what he found your shortcomings. This method is very efficient- you don’t be rude in response, but you put the boor in awkward position. Ill-mannered people need to be made to understand that they are behaving ugly. On the tactful remark they will react and think about it.

If someone pedals your appearance (blonde, bespectacled, fat), bring this feature to the fore and thank the interlocutor for being observant. “Yes, I'm blonde, we've been talking for an hour, and you just noticed! For a long time it comes to you! ”,“ Do I need to remind you that glasses have always been considered a sign of intelligence. That's why I see that your glasses do not shine.

Best answers for insults

Not on all insults can be answered with one memorized phrase. If ham with seemingly illiterate, then clever maxims will come in handy. Beautiful and correct answers to rudeness:

• "Not want to get away from such an interesting conversation, but I'm in a hurry";
• "How to answer you so as not to offend";
• “No, what are you, I always yawn when I am interested in a conversation with an interlocutor”;
• "You you know, my friend is conducting an experiment on studying primate intelligence, you just need to get involved.”

To be ready for any insults, you need to know what a provocateur might look like. Ham's face:

• more often these are weak personalities who try to defend themselves with their insults;
• brutes are energy vampires who enjoy getting people out of myself;
• Aggressive people who love to argue. This is Y they become a habit;
• foolish people.

How to speak smartly answer to rudeness

To be ready to answer insults, learn a few smart phrases that might come in handy. True, keep in mind that some smart words are not enough. You need to show the offender that you- self-confident person it's hard to get you out myself. Therefore, all words should be pronounced clearly, in a calm tone.

Examples of phrases that can be used in response to abuse:

• "Not it's worth being so angry, and then your eyes will now take on the color of your red blouse”;
• "If a fools would fly, you b not here now stood";
• "Not know your preferences food, but products that you use in food, clearly reduce intelligence”;
• "It's easy for you to surprise me just say something smart”;
• “You must have been hugged a little in childhood, so you so evil. Let me I'll hug you..."

Costs whether to answer at all insults

Should I answer insults, you decide you. Keep in mind that the reciprocal insult in the address of loved ones can lead to that the relationship will be ruined. Therefore, in order not to allow a scandal, try, on the contrary, to defuse the situation.

Do not forget that rude people are usually people offended by fate who are simply unable to argue their opinion. Therefore, do not be rude yourself and do not respond to the antics of strangers.

And one moment. When an insult touches you, you decide how to respond to it. But if someone is rude to people close to you - offends a girl, mother, laughs at a brother or sister - a reaction is already needed here. Again: no need to get involved in a fight, it’s enough just to show that you are intellectually superior to the interlocutor, and that the one at whom the rudeness was directed has a patron.

What to say in answer to rudeness of strangers

If you were rude to a stranger and you decide whatever began to fight back, use the repetition method. On the answer the words of a rude person with phrases: “What are you doing!", "AND what's next?", "Everything? And now everything? So you quickly get rid of unpleasant person.

Use the surprise method: when insulted, sneeze and say that you are allergic to rudeness. BUT in general, when strangers begin to be rude, find out the reason for this behavior. If his insults are unfounded, let him know and that they are unpleasant to you. In rare cases, of course, the offender is right, and the remarks hit the mark. In such cases, you will have to agree with the speaker, but reproach him for pointing out your shortcomings so rudely.

AT in most cases the person is not ready to that he might be offended. Not know what to answer? Just improvise. Be calm, don't it's worth going near the emotions on about. Before you say anything, think about what answer to tell the interlocutor. When you learn to control your thoughts and emotions, you roll out easily any situation.

84 523 0 Hello! In this article, we will talk about how to respond to an insult. When we hear negative statements addressed to us, insults, the first thing that happens is a defensive reaction, we want to snap back and respond with “reciprocity” to the offender. Usually that's what it's supposed to be. The one who offends is trying to throw the other person out of emotional balance. How do you respond appropriately to maintain self-respect? Is it possible to remain unperturbed when they want to humiliate you?

Insult is usually delivered with words, either verbally or in writing. And also it can be expressed in actions (spit, blow, indecent gesture, etc.).

Insults include:

• coarseness;
• rudeness;
• unfounded criticism;
• joking, sarcasm;
• the use of physical force against the will of another person.

How do we feel when we are insulted

• Resentment
• Anger
• Disturbance
• Hatred
• Sadness, despondency
• Despair
• annoyance
• Fear
• Guilt
• Confusion
• Contempt.

A whole host of negative feelings. Each of us is visited by one of them or several at once, when we hear insults addressed to us. And these feelings more determine what our response will be in a given situation. Therefore, their awareness is important in order to learn how to respond correctly to any attacks of others addressed to us.

Why do people insult others

1. Dissatisfaction with one's own life. When a person is unhappy, dissatisfied with his own personality, achievements, his environment, etc., he splashes out his anger on others. They do not even always realize why they offend others (both close people and strangers).
2. Features of temperament, strong excitability. It is not uncommon for people to offend someone or commit a hurtful act towards another person in a fit of anger when they are no longer in control of their emotions. This often happens in a situation of quarrel. When emotions subside and reason returns, many regret what they said or did and ask for forgiveness.
3. Arrogance. There are people who unreasonably believe that some people around them are lower in status. Respectful and friendly communication is not their forte.
4. Self-affirmation at the expense of others. Humiliating others, some feel stronger. Although this is just self-deception. Behind such self-affirmation, as a rule, is self-doubt and an inferiority complex.
5. Lack of culture and education. If the rules of politeness and tolerance were not instilled in childhood, then in adulthood this can result in rudeness and not respectful attitude to other people. And the children, who grew up mostly on the street, were exposed to the adverse influence of the environment and got used to communicate unkindly.
6. Insult for the purpose of provocation. This method is resorted to when they want to piss off a person in order to put him in a bad light in front of others, to drop his reputation. And all this usually happens in front of eyewitnesses.

Analyzing the causes of rudeness, we understand that almost always behind it are self-doubt, many complexes and hidden dissatisfaction with the offender. Such people deserve nothing but pity. After all, they are deeply unhappy. But unfortunately, when we are suddenly confronted with rudeness and insults, we cannot immediately realize this and remain unperturbed. Most often, we react in some way that is familiar to us, far from always effective.

Unsuccessful ways to respond to rudeness and insults

1. Insult in response . This is one of the most common reactions to rudeness, rudeness. Of course, this technique is sometimes justified, and it even happens that you can emerge victorious from the situation. But still, you can’t know for sure at what point your offender will stop and whether he will stop at all. Perhaps his resources will last for a long time, and yours are already running out. So is it worth the risk? Moreover, most likely, an unpleasant aftertaste will remain because they were forced to say all sorts of nasty things.
2. Ingratiation, subordination of the will to the offender . Never allow as an answer to outright rudeness and insult phrases in the style of: “Yes, I agree with you, this is my flaw”, “I’m sorry that I make you nervous with my behavior”, “I myself (myself) don’t like it myself”, “Okay, I will improve” and so on. So you completely lose your face and agree to depend on the one who attacks you. It's better to be quiet for a while. Although with a delay, but a more worthy answer is sure to be found.
3. Use of physical force . Some are so offended by the words or actions of others that they are ready to settle the issue with their fists. But here, you understand, the police are not far away.
4. Try to convince, appeal to the human mind. Behind rudeness, rudeness, there are always some emotions. First, they need to calm down, and only then logic and constructive thinking will return. Therefore, it is useless to immediately try to "reason" the attacker.

These methods fail because:

• They require a lot of energy from us, it is emotionally difficult for us in moments of confrontation with a boor.
• We are dissatisfied with ourselves, because we could not adequately respond to the insult.
• The situation of rudeness haunts us for a long time, we plunge into stress.
• There is a strong desire to take revenge on the offender, we feel hatred for him.
• There is no feeling of inner glee, indicating that we emerged victorious from the situation.
• Over time, it begins to seem that everyone around is rude and asserts itself at the expense of us.

Do not forget that in any interaction with someone, the interlocutor is more influenced not by what we say, but by how we do it and how we look at the same time. When our face turns red with rage, our whole body is tense, our voice is at the limit of its volume - the offender feels a personal victory, ticking that he pissed us off. Or when we withdraw into ourselves, lower our gaze, mumble something quietly and feel that we are about to cry - the boor rejoices again that he managed to suppress us with his pressure.

3 principles that contribute to the successful confrontation of rudeness and insults

1. Respect and love yourself. People around you feel your attitude towards them. It is those who are dissatisfied with their own personality that attract harsh attacks and insults. And when we are in harmony with ourselves, understand and accept ourselves, then it is much more difficult to “drop” us, to piss us off.

Self-respect and self-love create an invisible but tangible defense against rudeness and rudeness. We advise you to read:.

1. Believe in yourself, you have them. With your attitude to successfully overcome conflict situations and inner confidence, you attract positive energy to yourself and strengthen personal resources. You will notice that even outwardly you become more impressive and bolder.
2. Let yourself be. After all, you know a lot. You have those who make you smile. And there are many pleasant moments around that are worth rejoicing. It is important to realize that happiness is in our hands and we must accept it.

Happiness is a process, not some distant goal.

These are the three pillars of your inner harmony and success in relationships with others.

How to respond to rudeness

Task number 1 is to monitor your behavior at the time of the “collision” and learn to at least outwardly demonstrate self-confidence and equanimity when this happens.

1. Ignore rudeness, keep silent. Quite often, this can discourage the opponent. After all, he is counting on the fact that you will be indignant, nervous, enter into an argument with him. And if this does not happen, then his further attacks are meaningless, and the offender can quickly calm down. In addition, you will save your emotions and health. We advise you to read:
   

   Do not think that you look weak at this moment. Feel your inner strength and superiority, and others will feel it.

2. Verbalization of feelings. Rudeness is usually associated with the experience of various negative emotions. Most often, it manifests without mind control. It is important to voice these emotions.
   - a) To direct the offender to realize his feelings, you can say to him: "Are you upset?" or "I understand that this makes you angry".
   b) Express your feelings: "I hate it when you say that". It is important to use the "I-statement" in this case.

Usually this method allows you to reduce the pressure of the rude and slow down his offensive expressions.

1. Ask a Question. If the situation has not yet gotten out of control, and the person has allowed himself a little rudeness, you can ask a question: "Why are you telling me this?" or "Why are you acting like this?" This tactic is effective only in relation to close people and friends.
2. Gather all your inner strength and respond without words with external cues, for example, with the help of a close, strong look into the eyes of the interlocutor for several seconds.
3. If the situation allows, then you can simply stop communicating with the rude person. Phrase example: “I find such communication unpleasant, and I am forced to this moment stop it!" Say it emphatically and leave or hang up if the conversation was on the phone. Often the offender cools down after such words, apologizes and asks to continue the conversation.

How to respond to insults

The responses listed above will also be appropriate in situations where you are offended. Here are some more options for effective answers.

1. Feel sorry for the offender. As we have already found out, those who insult others are unhappy people, dissatisfied with themselves in the first place. If the interlocutor speaks negatively towards you, mentally pity him and feel how aggression and anger towards him are reduced. After all, why get annoyed when he is so miserable and unhappy? You don't even want to waste your precious energy on this person.
2. Connecting fantasy. To make the image of the offender even more miserable, use the visualization technique. At the moment when he spews his insults, imagine him in some ridiculous form (clown, midget, cockroach, bug, in a funny headdress, etc.) You can also mentally fence off your opponent with a glass wall: you see him, but that’s all what he says cannot penetrate your side.
3. Can respond nicely to insults. For example, to thank for the attention to your person: "Thank you for your interest in me". Or if you hear insults from a familiar person, then you can answer him with a smile: "I'm crazy about you too!" or "Your words won't stop me from loving you!"
4. Make the offender answer for his words. Ask for examples to back up the criticism. You can tell him: “What exactly is this manifested in?” or "Prove that I..."
5. You can answer your opponent with smart words. Clarifying questions often help to interrupt the endless stream of insults. For example: "What do you want from me?", "Can you suggest something?" Usually these phrases confuse the offender.
6. Humor also in this case can work in your favor. The ability to witty answer is always a good defense weapon.
   Examples: “But from now on, I’ll ask you in more detail, please,” “Listen, how can you come up with nasty things so quickly? Or have you been preparing all night?”, “It’s really very hot here - your brain is already boiling!”
7. Call to conscience. You can openly ask the interlocutor: “How would you yourself respond if you were insulted like that?” This will discourage him, and turn his thoughts into a constructive direction.

All answers must be spoken calmly and confidently. You can do this both seriously and with a smile (depending on the situation and the type of reaction). Try to look directly into your opponent's eyes. This is an indicator of your courage.

How to respond to rudeness - examples of phrases

If we distinguish between rudeness, insults, rudeness, then the latter most often comes from strangers, unfamiliar or not particularly significant people for us. Therefore, we must always have such an attitude: everything that is pronounced by those with whom we have no relationship should not drive us crazy.

Feeling sorry for the boor or presenting him in a funny way, as in previous cases, are also effective techniques for coping with your own negative emotions at the time of a psychological attack.

The main rule is in no case to stoop to the level of a boor and not to use his own methods in response.

1. Ignoring fits perfectly in this case. You can not look at the offender at all (he is an empty place). Mentally imagine yourself, for example, as a stone or a mighty oak, the stability of which cannot be broken.
2. Don't take everything said personally. After all, quite often it turns out that you just fell under the “hot hand” (or rather, under the “hot” tongue) of the boor. And he, in turn, is angry at the whole world and his life in particular. But expresses anger in such an uncivilized way. It remains only to pity this unfortunate boor and sympathize with him.
3. Reduce the importance of what was said. For example: “Do you really think I care about your opinion?” or "Probably a very valuable remark, but I'm purple!"
4. Smile. A smile will strengthen your internal resources and will cause bewilderment in a boor.
5. It will be appropriate answer funny and sarcastic. This will defuse the situation and give you the opportunity to become the master of the situation. “You must be feeling a lot better! Congratulations!" or “The audience is thrilled! Are you working for her?"
6. direct question: “You are rude to me. Do you want to hurt me or do you have another goal?
7. You can make the offender think: “Be careful with your expressions. They say that everything said can come back to you in double size..
8. Bold answer. For example: “You are unoriginal, come up with something better next time”.
9. Rate the offender: “Rudeness does not suit you”, “I hope that rudeness is just your mask, and in fact you are better.”
10. Release in peace:“Don't worry, and happiness will come to you. Less negativity - and everything will work out!

It is important not only to prepare for situations of rudeness and be able to correctly respond to rudeness and insults, but also in general to pay attention to your approach to life and, if necessary, change it. Be positive in everything and do not expect “kicks” from life and others. Appreciate and love yourself, and other people will treat you the same way. Do not take everything very close to your heart, because it is one. Better let him fight at full strength, enjoy life and breathe deeply!

How to respond to an insult

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At school, college, or on the street, we often have to engage in verbal duels. Against this background, it is necessary to understand how to respond wittily to an insult of a serious or humorous nature. With the help of such answers, you can become literate and popular. But even the greatest physical strength will not help in a situation of "non-contact" combat in tongues.

How to intelligently respond to a serious insult?

If you are being insulted in all seriousness, then you should respond as smartly as possible. So you will automatically break the position of the aggressor, making him miserable.

And here are a few phrases that can be used in a conflict situation:

• I look like a prostitute because I have nothing to hide. And I see you are well disguised;
• After what nature has done to you, you should just hate Greenpeace;
• I don't know what makes you stupid, but it really works;
• If my health were like your figure, then I would have died long ago;
• You are so smart, as if you graduated from a madhouse with honors;
• You should probably go. The zoo closes early. Again you will spend the night near the cage;
• You can think badly of me, but I'm afraid that the "RAM" is not enough.

Remember that when responding to an insult like “stupid”, “ugly”, or even “whore”, you should not use forbidden tricks. Do not go over to the parents of the offender, do not try to hurt the aggressor to the quick. The more angry you are, the worse you make yourself feel. And this is the ultimate goal of insults against you.

What's a fun way to respond to a joking insult?

In many youth companies, it is customary to talk with funny insults. And to always be on top, you must be able to laugh it off perfectly.

Otherwise, you can become a gloomy old man in the eyes of your friends. At the same time, it is important not only to put friends in their place, but also to show self-irony.

And here are some interesting phrases that will help you respond cheerfully to jokes addressed to you:

1. I used to be a genius. Just as a child, I got into a boiler with brake fluid;
2. My acne is another sign that I'm not a faggot;
3. I dress so poorly because last full moon I was bitten by a bum;
4. I would love to go to a psychiatric hospital, but I'm afraid they won't let me into your house;
5. Your jokes are like geometry. Not understandable crap, but you have to listen;
6. If you could die from stupidity, then you would die 200 times.

The main thing is not to translate the playful "battle" into a serious channel. If you feel that humorous insults are stressing you out, tell your friends about it. The continuation of the duel from the side is a sure sign that you need to change friends.

Answering an insult with a question

Often the aggressors do not understand their words. Some simply say too much, forgetting about any morality.

To stop this thread, ask what he means. You can also ask about the reason for the attacks. In addition, you can ask the abuser to stop. This will not be a manifestation of weakness, and it will work quite well.

Some people are not aware of their speech until they hear it from the outside. Repeat the insults and ask why they called you that. There is a high probability that the aggressor will declare that he was not understood. This is a sign that the person was speaking on emotion.

It is important to remember that many boors are provocateurs. They wait until physical force is applied to them. And then they act as an innocent victim. So there is no point in using fists. This will only make their job easier.

Why do we insult each other?

Not always boors have specific goals. Often swearing is a sign of a person's problems and helplessness. This is how we try to draw attention to ourselves.

Aggressive behavior can be caused by:

• personal problem;
• Envy;
• dissatisfaction with life;
• Low self-esteem;
• Mental problems.

If you are a girl, and guys insult you, then this may be a sign of special attention. Through physical and mental abuse, teenagers show their spiritual and sexual attraction. Such an “animal” tradition is connected with the fact that the banal manifestation of feelings in our world is perceived as softness and weakness.

To understand how to respond wittily to an insult and mate, you should have a good imagination and a sense of humor. Then you can quickly select expressions for specific situations. But don't get hung up on those answers. After all, life has many aspects, except for enmity and anger.

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So, how does communication (communication) take place in general - a diagram
Every person has three 'I's in their head (three Ego states: "R"- parental or stereotypical; "AT"- adult or rational; "D"- childish or emotional), and when two people communicate, in fact 6 people communicate (one RAD and another RAD).

At one point in time, a person can only be in one “I”, and perceive and transmit information only from it. See the communication scheme, using the example of a buyer and a seller (where, just like that, you can often find rudeness, rudeness, and even insults).


The diagram shows parallel (direct), conflict-free transactions (communication units - one asked, the other answered, while both, at the moment of question-answer, are in the same Ego-states).
Here, a priori, insults, rudeness and rudeness are excluded.


In this example, the buyer is asking an "Adult", a rational question, subconsciously referring to the "Adult Self" of the seller. And the latter, perhaps due to his irritability or bad mood, crosses the transaction, answering, as it were, “from top to bottom”, from his “Parental Self” to the “Childish, emotional “Self” of the buyer, which can provoke emotionality (affect) in the latter , for example, first resentment, and then anger.

If the buyer responds to rudeness and insult with rudeness, then there will be a conflict, because. transactions will specifically intersect (see the figure below).

Similar pre-conflict and conflict situations, where rudeness and rudeness reign, and sometimes even insults, can be observed in the relationship between husband and wife, and in any other interpersonal relationship, where transactions intersect, leading to quarrels and conflicts, and then to a break in relations and sometimes to psychological disorders.


Here, the wife, to the “adult” question of her husband, answers either from the “Parental Self” (with a “collision”), or from the “Childish Self” (with resentment, as if she was “run over”), which crosses the transaction, provoking angry, possibly abusive ("Parental") response of the husband and conflict in the family.

What to do, how to properly respond to rudeness, rudeness and insults?

As you already understood, if you respond to rudeness and rudeness with insults, then nothing good will come of it - problems have never been solved in conflicts, neither in everyday life, nor in business, nor in politics (you always need a dialogue at the level of “Adults, rational selves).

To begin with, you don’t have to delve into the essence of why they are rude and rude to you (these are their psychological problems), the main thing here is to realize why you want to respond to rudeness with rudeness and even insults, or, be offended and then take revenge (whatever to whom - the offender himself, someone close, or a beloved dog), the main thing is to work out a negative emotion).

And for this you need to learn to be clearly aware of yourself, your inner "I", when and in what "Ego-state" you are (Ego-state). For example (all about the same seller), you were aware of yourself in a rational (adult) I-state, because you really wanted to know (clarify) the cost of the goods before buying.

But instead of the same “Adult” answer, you were rude and even indirectly insulted. What to do, how to respond to rudeness?

After all, for a second you switched to the “Childish, emotional I” and for a moment felt, let's say, resentment or injustice ... (this must be realized). And then your psychological defense automatically worked, and you switched again, but already to the “Parental Self”, you already felt “righteous anger” and you wanted to be rude in response - this is a mistake.

If you can be aware of your switching in ego states, then you can always respond to any rudeness, rudeness or insult smartly and beautifully, just using the so-called psychological sambo (judo, aikido - whatever you like).

Your task, having realized yourself in the “childish, emotional I” at the time of the psychological attack (rudeness, rudeness, insults addressed to you), is not to switch, at least immediately, to the “Parental I”, but to complete the situation in the emotional ego state , since the message, the insulting transaction (see the figure above) is directed exactly down to your “childish self”, where, in fact, you felt resentment, guilt or injustice.

From this, childish ego-state, you need to end the situation - if you are offended, briefly pretend that you are offended; if they blame - temporarily feel guilty (show it), etc.

And without letting the opponent say more than a word, continue the conversation from any, better than the “adult”, ego state.

Remember, when you are in the “rational self” (there are no emotions), your intellect is working at full capacity, which means you can easily find any necessary, smart and beautiful words to correctly respond to insult, rudeness and rudeness in any situation.

Your "adult", rational and conscious goal (in the example of the seller) is to buy a product, and not to make a fuss with it, ruining your mood for the whole day. Therefore, realizing the feeling of injustice in the “childish self”, during rudeness and rudeness, and realizing that in fact you are accused of not being able to see prices (in not knowing them) - the mistake of the seller’s thinking - you need to answer from that ego state ( children's), to which the vector of the accusation “what is oblique, you don’t see the price tag” is directed - like, “yes, sorry, I didn’t take my glasses.” (why would you need to prove to some upset person that you are not oblique ... you yourself know this ...).

Similarly, you can act in any pre-conflict situations, responding beautifully and intelligently to rudeness, rudeness and any insults. This way you keep your good mood, do the job, maintain and improve relationships, and do not accumulate negativity in your head, which then needs to be worked out on your internal organs (if you are an introvert) or on other people (if you are an extrovert) ...

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Such situations occur suddenly and sometimes there is no way to prepare answers in advance. This collection of tips and answer options will help you in an emergency to correctly navigate and fight back.

Situations are different and before you start answering you should evaluate it from the outside. This skill is difficult to develop, especially if the stressful situation arose unexpectedly and your first reaction, of course, is to respond to the offender in the same way. But still, before you do this, think about the following:

1. It happens that you yourself could serve as the beginning of this situation, even if you didn’t want to do it at all. Perhaps you touched a personal person and his words are just a reaction to your behavior.
2. When you are absolutely not to blame for a person’s behavior, and the reason for it may simply be that he is in a bad mood and he decided to recoup you, of course, it is simply necessary to fight back.
3. If at the moment the interlocutor is in an abnormal state, he is drunk or does not understand what he is doing, then the best way out of this situation is to get away from him as soon as possible and not try to answer.

4. There are times when the abuser is your boss. Such situations are, of course, very unpleasant, but unfortunately, no matter how much one wants, there is simply no way to answer him the way you want.
5. It is also better not to get into quarrels with colleagues, because this can only aggravate the situation. In this situation, it is advisable to simply leave.

How to respond to an insult

If you are offended by a well-known person who, simply due to circumstances, is now irritated, then in this situation you can act wiser and remain silent.

But there are situations when you are offended by a person who simply finds fault with every little thing and is looking for a reason to start a scandal in everything. In this case, it is worth answering the offender.

1. At the moment when a person insults you, his main goal is to provoke a response from you. For your part, you can discourage and disarm him by remaining absolutely calm and simply agreeing with his words. And after that, thank him for taking the time to look for your shortcomings and point them out to you. He definitely does not expect such behavior from you and he will understand that it is simply useless to continue doing this.
2. The method can also help to get out of the situation with dignity when you answer the interlocutor with the same phrases, for example: “So what?”; "So what?" etc. Such a reaction of yours will allow you to remain calm and will infuriate your interlocutor.
3. An unexpected reaction to his words on your part will also help to disarm the interlocutor. For example, if you take and laugh at the moment when he insults you.

In any case, try at such moments to learn how to behave competently and not get involved in mutual insults. Try not to let your opponent get what he is trying to achieve by creating this situation. Of course, it’s not easy to pull yourself together, but this is what will help you get out of the situation as a winner.

How funny to respond to an insult, example

• Do you like playing in public? Not Enough PR Opportunities?
• Thank you of course for moralizing, but it is better to help me with money.
• Are you missing hugs? Do you want me to hug you?
• You talk so interestingly, but say something clever better.
• Of course, I heard that nature has a wonderful sense of humor, but looking at you, I was also convinced of this.
• I certainly appreciate your advice. But why judge everyone by themselves?
• Have you ever thought about saving nature? I can suggest a surgeon and arrange for him to sterilize you.
• You look so stupid now that I'm not even offended at all. Rather, even funny.
• Oh, I always dreamed of meeting Shrek live! Finally my dream came true!
• It's so funny to me that I can't even adequately answer you. Have you thought about a career as a comedian?

How to respond to an insult with sarcasm

• I read somewhere that insulting other people hides their complexes. Don't you think it's really true?
• Of course, I would listen to you more, but somehow you are boring.
• You think so primitively that you don't even want to answer.
• If suddenly I want to know your opinion, I will ask you.
• You go on, go on. Maybe you can come up with something smarter?
• Is your imagination limited or is your vocabulary exhausted?
• What an amazing talent you have! You don't even have to pretend to be stupid!
• Perhaps your parents were happy when you moved out of them?
• Your behavior makes me very sad. I thought you were smarter.
• If you want to appear smarter, shut up.

How to respond to an insult witty

• After your birth, nature must have realized its mistake.
• How well you manage to remain stupid no matter what!
• It looks like you just lost your dignity. Help you find him?
• And where did you get so smart? You probably graduated from a madhouse with a red diploma?
• It's a shame they don't die of stupidity. Then you wouldn't be around.
• Yes, of course I can go to a psychiatric hospital. But are strangers allowed into your house?
• Looks like it's time for you to hurry. As far as I know, the psychiatric hospital closes early.
• You are so much like the ocean. You make me sick just the same.
• Now that's self-confidence! Do you consider yourself completely invulnerable?
• Your brains are only enough to turn a cigarette into ashes.

How to respond to an insult with smart words

• Your primitive phrases depress me. Could you be smarter?
• Do you want to hear from me a polite answer, or a truthful one?
• Sounds like you need to rethink your diet. Carcinogens accumulated from junk food began to destroy your brain.
• Do not try to hurt my dignity by using your shortcomings.
• Well, nothing, you just have to be patient a little. After all, they have already learned to increase their lips and breasts. Surely soon learn and increase brains.
• I'd love to talk to you, but I need to lie down to be on the same level as you.
• What a pity that you know how to assert yourself only with the help of insults.
• You are a living confirmation of the phrase that if there is no mind, then it begins to sink even lower with the help of insults.
• Apchi! I think I'm allergic to your stupidity!
• I don't associate with people who try to cover up their low IQ with insults.

How to respond to a person with rude words

• You do know that restoring teeth is very expensive these days, don't you? I wouldn't risk it like that if I were you!
• Go sterilize! People like you just can't reproduce!
• You should not climb under a hot hand, otherwise you can run into a hot foot!
• I would like to offend you now, but judging by you, nature has already done it for me.
• Run up and kiss me while I'm standing behind a tree.
• Instead of this tirade, better decorate our world with your absence from it!
• I would very much like to send you, but judging by the appearance you just got back from there!
• Opposite my house there is a cemetery, and you apparently really want to become my neighbor.
• You would be of great benefit to the world if you hung yourself in the corner.
• What a pity that one thought cannot kill. Otherwise, you would already be dead.

How to respond gracefully to an insult

• Don't worry like that! I don't have the pleasure of seeing you!
• Unfortunately, you cannot save the world with beauty and intelligence!
• Look, do you see this plinth? Here he is on the same level with you, insult him!
• Please restrict me from communicating with you.
• How interesting to watch you, otherwise I have not been to the circus for so long!
• Let's agree that you won't tell lies about me. For this, I will not tell anyone the truth about you!
• Of course, you are not smart. But I didn't even think it was that much.
• To communicate with people like you is not in my competence. Therefore, talk better to the nightstand.
• I would like to explain where you are wrong. But your little brain will not be able to withstand such a flow of information.
• Unfortunately, all that you have is positive - it's only the Rh factor.

How to adequately respond to an insult

• Are you trying to convince yourself now?
• I will not even try to think about the set of words that you are now pronouncing!
• From your lips, these words sound like compliments.
• If you don't like me that much, then no one forbids you to cry about it in the corner.
• It is very foolish of you to hide your own failure behind rudeness.
• Your words do not offend me at all, it would be more insulting to hear them from an intelligent person!
• Aren't you afraid that fate will one day answer you the same?
• I have absolutely no desire to associate with primitive man!
• Spreading such words, do not forget that fate makes us one day pay for all our actions!
• Unfortunately, I thought much better of you.

How to respond to an insult with humor

• Don't be so angry! And then the pimples will start to burst!
• I don't even need to scare you! For me, this mirror does every day!
• Stop croaking, otherwise you will suddenly swallow your tongue!
• You are like a slime, just as vile and nasty.
• I thought clowns were only found in the circus!
• For people like you, Mario players jump from above!
• Are you the main actor in the movie Dumb and Dumber?
• Looks like a monkey escaped from the zoo. Stay here, the zoologists will come for you.
• How hard it must be to live with such a small intellect. Well, at least try to make the bone marrow work.
• Looks like you got bitten by a bee on your tongue. I can't find any other explanation for your terrible smell from your mouth.

How to respond to a boor for an insult

• I thought you were only not beautiful on the outside, but you were also rotten on the inside.
• I am well aware that you are entitled to your own opinion. But this right does not oblige me to listen to him.
• I'm so interested in what you're talking about that I even wanted to sleep.
• Well, try to think at least using the bone marrow!
• How fearless you are, just throwing words like that. Aren't you afraid that you will have to answer later?
• I would like to hit you, but I'm afraid that the animal rights activists will accuse me of mistreating animals.
• When you start talking, I look so smart against your background! Go on!
• It must be very difficult for you to live. Don't want to talk about it?
• Go make a fuss to the landfill, to the society of people like you!
• Save our world from your presence!

How insulting to respond to an insult

• Your words fully reflect your level of intelligence!
• If I wanted to hear the barking of dogs, I would get myself a mongrel.
• If a appearance Terrible, it doesn't give you the right to behave in the same way!
• Probably, when the stork brought you, mother wanted to take a better stork for herself.
• Did you just come up with all this now or did you rehearse for a week?
• It seems your pot hasn't been cooking for a long time.
• Your mental development completely coincides with the level of the shell.
• In your case, there is only one good trait. The one that separates the buttocks.
• It seems that at the time of the disaster you did not have time to escape from Chernobyl in time.
• It seems that in your body the absence of a head is replaced by the fifth point.

How to respond to an insult to a man

• They say when the dignity is too small, they try to cover it with another part of the body. In your case - a long language.
• Is it hard for you to find a mate? Because as soon as the mongrels agree to live with you.
• Your dignity has just sunk to the bottom.
• I don't even want to look at you.
• You can only drag the family down.
• I do not want to know even such a low entity as you.
• Unfortunately, you don't even realize how low you've fallen. But the people around see it.
• Probably your woman is very ashamed of her choice.
• Judging by your words, you are just a moral impotent.
• You hide a small dignity with a sharp tongue.

How to boldly respond to an insult

• Alas, you are not distinguished by a rich imagination.
• You can't even get any dumber.
• You probably think that I'm really interested in your opinion.
• Yes, you should definitely not expect the best from you.
• Apparently when you were created, God ran out of materials and had to use the leftovers.
• Go wash off all your idiocy.
• You don't seem to think at all.
• You can't really prove that you have a mind.
• You just have an endless stream of stupidity, maybe splashing it out will at least find the remnants of the mind.
• Looking at you, I want to go back in time and persuade your parents to have an abortion.

How to rudely respond to an insult

• In your case, it is better to open your mouth only at the dentist.
• Let's play hide and seek. You will hide away from me, but I will not look.
• But until I opened my mouth, it seemed to me that a decent person was standing in front of me!
• Don't scare the crows with your appearance!
• Communicating with you means sinking to the same level, and I'm not interested!
• Run back to your madhouse before I call the orderlies!
• Go graze with other cows, don't blather!
• Save this world by crashing against the wall with a running start.
• It must be hard to live being a mistake of nature.
• Shut up, maybe you can even look smarter!

How cool to respond to an insult

• Even arguing with you is pointless. Your brain just can't take it.
• It will be difficult for me to offend a person on whom nature has already recouped itself.
• You go on, go on. Maybe you can come up with something interesting.
• A woman who is older and reproaches her age can be answered: “We are the same age. I just know how to take care of myself and maintain beauty.
• Unfortunately, your mental development causes me only boredom.
• Why are you leaving so slowly?
• Congratulations! It seems you just managed to cross the threshold of all human stupidity.
• You are trying to answer questions that I did not ask.
• You are a unique specimen! You are the embodiment of a complete misunderstanding!
• Unfortunately, you do not differ in the ability to maintain a conversation.

How to respond harshly to an insult

• Well, at least you're lucky with your looks. It fully reflects your ugly inner world!
• Such a smelly creature only communicates with flies.
• What a fine fellow you are, let me shake your throat!
• Before insulting me, say goodbye to your family.
• It's time for you to decide what gender you are.
• Do you feel bad or do you always look like this?
• Even the horoscope laughs at you.
• It would be better if your parents planted a tree, although maybe that's what they did!
• Here is a paradox: your head is big, but there is no brain in it.
• It looks like your parents dropped you in brake fluid as a child.

How to answer a woman to an insult

• Alas, but your dignity ended 7 more men ago.
• To mess with someone like you, only to dishonor yourself.
• You have such behavior as if you were raised in a brothel.
• Your mouth stinks worse than we do.
• Men can only look at you with pity.
• Outwardly, you fully reflect your inner world.
• Of course, I understand that you are beautiful, but it is much more interesting to communicate with smart people.
• You not only squandered your beauty on men, but also lost the remnants of your mind.
• If nature has cheated on appearance, then it will not work to hide it with a sharp tongue.
• Inflated lips and chest are not yet proof of intelligence and beauty.