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Today I want to tell you how to correctly answer the question that is often present on a first date: where do you work?

Where do you work?

It would seem that the question is banal. Well, he wants to know how you make a living. So what?

If you answer something flashy in the style of “I have my own business” or “I am the director of blah blah blah”, you will attract men who care about your money.

Remember, attracting any man at any cost is not your goal.

On the first date it is important to determine who is in front of you -, or the one who should be bypassed on the tenth road. And how to do this by answering the question "Where do you work?", I'll tell you now.

The correct answer to the question about the place of work

Even if you have a managerial position or you are a successful businesswoman, you should not brag and boast about it.

Moreover, you should not invent if the situation with income is so-so.

Calmly, gently, without challenge. In this case, you need to carefully look at the reaction of the man.

Bad response from a man

Yes, it is likely that after such an answer, the man’s eyes will turn red, the veins in his neck will swell and steam will come out of his ears.

Because, how is it at all - a woman does not work?

He grew up in a family where his mother was strong woman who worked three jobs to provide for her family. And borscht managed to cook. And here on you - "I do not work".

“What kind of woman is this? Is it that I will have to support her if we get together? No, it won't work like that."

After “digesting” the information received, such a man can even say something like “You mean you don’t work? Like this? What do you live on?" It may offend that you are almost a girl of easy virtue.

In general, you will immediately understand that this is not the one you need.

If a man believes that a woman should be independent and earn her living, there is no need to try to convince him, and even more so, there is no need to argue with him. Just politely thank you for your openness and leave.

Therefore, the reaction will be calm. There will be no bulging eyes and expressions of bewilderment on the face.

Yes, he can purely formally clarify: “So, what do you do?”. To which you can answer something like: “Well, I take care of myself”, “I have a hobby”, “I am a freelancer”. Although it won't matter to him.

This will be the first sign that in front of you is a worthy man. A man who earns enough or strives for it does not worry if a woman has a job.

The answer to "Where do you work" - the detector of "normal"

This is such a simple, but effective feature for a first date, which few people know about.

But you're in luck. Now it is in your arsenal. This means that the probability again getting involved in a relationship with the “wrong” man becomes much less.

Let me remind you that if you often come across on dates rogue people with the thinking described in the first “bad” option, then it may be worth considering how you manage to attract them.

After all, we get exactly what we get in life. The universe works that way.

Finding the right man is not the most important thing. Continuous improvement - .

Glad you took the time to check out my blog.

With faith in you and your success,
Yaroslav Samoilov.

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Every day we hear “How are you?”, “How are you?” and “What are you doing?” several times. These questions are most often asked out of politeness or to keep the conversation going.

We say something in response, not thinking about the meaning of what was said. In fact, there is a really correct answer to all these questions, which depends on the real situation and on the interlocutor. Consider a variety of options for answering the question "How are you?"

Standard responses

When all is well

• "I'm fine, and you?". By doing this, you give the opportunity to the interlocutor to tell about yourself.
• "Excellent!". Charge the interlocutor good mood, tactfully making it clear that they do not intend to listen to the negative.
• "Normal" A neutral, non-committal response.

When everything is bad

Here the answer depends on how ready you are to share information about your personal (work) affairs with the interlocutor, and whether he will be interested in listening to your spiritual outpourings.

• "Not really" Hints at the next question - "What's wrong?"
• "No matter…." Further details follow.
• "Bad, but I don't want to talk about it." Next, the interlocutor is waiting for you to ask, “What news do you have?”.

Subtleties of etiquette

It is not customary to give answers that may be misunderstood or poorly interpreted by the rules of etiquette. A person asks this question out of politeness, and does not wait at all long story about your problems.

If guided by etiquette, the most optimal answer would be “Wonderful” or “Normal”.

You can only practice wit when communicating with people you know well, otherwise your sense of humor may be misinterpreted.

The answer to the most popular question is dictated primarily by those who ask it. When communicating with peers, caustic, sometimes vulgar phrases such as “I haven’t given birth yet”, “the case with the prosecutor”, will be unacceptable to the older generation, bosses, parents. In these cases, the answer should be short and concise.

Parents— separate topic. These are the only people who are genuinely interested in what you do. Therefore, the answer must be specific and exhaustive to the smallest detail. Do not forget to ask about the health of mom or dad in response.

Boss. Your personal affairs are of absolutely no interest to him. By asking the question "How are you?" he means work. Therefore, as an answer, he expects a detailed report on recent achievements. AT exceptional cases(for example, corporate event) you can limit yourself to the banal “Good”, be sure to add “Thank you”. It's enough.

How to answer the question "How are you?"

witty

Joking and funny answers are most appropriate on the Internet (SMS) - correspondence and when communicating with young people. Friends will always find something to talk about, so here you can give yourself free rein.

• While alive and rejoice therefore.
• Now I'll tell you, you'll start to envy, I'd better keep silent.
• Like in a horror movie - the further, the stronger spirit captures.
• On the letter X (do not think it's good).
• Get crazy.

At work

The main thing here is subordination and corporate ethics. The answer should be short, without irony and sarcasm.

• Fine, but how are you (what news).
• Everything is old.
• Thank you, OK.

On the personal front

Not everyone is interested in knowing all the details of the interlocutor's personal life. And if you are not going to dedicate someone to all the details, then such options are suitable here.

• Thanks, nothing new.
• Everything is fine.
• How about you (you)?
• Not complaining.

Rough

Rude statements are used in cases where the very question “how are you” comes from the lips of an unpleasant person. This is a kind of protective reflex that works in those moments when you want to protect yourself from annoying communication.

• Back off
• Go to hell
• None of your business

To a stranger

This question is the most popular for the first acquaintance - in correspondence or a chance meeting. The answer should make it clear to the stranger whether you intend to continue the conversation or not.

To continue dating, you can answer something like this:

• Everything is great, as usual.
• Thanks, great.
• Just like others.

To shine with wit in this case is inappropriate. Answers like “Like on Mars - there is no life”, “Things are going, but past”, “It could be worse” are better saved for a more suitable occasion.

If your intentions are not to continue communication, then it is better right away, in polite manner make it clear.

The best answers in this situation would be:

• I am married (boyfriend).
• I am married (to a girl).
• None of your business (rude, but it works).
• You won't be interested.
• You recognized.

How to respond nicely to a question

"What's up?"

• Life is like a striped zebra.
• Today is better than yesterday.
• Great, and I wish you the same.
• Best of all, but no one is jealous.
• You're doing great, looking forward to the next question.
• As you asked, it got better (a bit rough).
• It depends on what you compare it to.
• It hits with a fountain, but everything is on the head.

"What are you doing?"

• Improving (or degrading), come on together.
• I surf the Internet and chat.
• I like to listen to others.
• Guess! You have the opportunity to ask leading questions.
• I ignore.
• I'm trying to cross you off my contact list.
• Meditate (live, breathe, etc.)
• I fly on a hang glider (parachute, airship).
• I read the report (pass the exam, test).
• Sorry, I'm underwater, I can't speak.

In correspondence, the question “How are you?” is most often followed by the no less banal “What are you doing?” Here you can finally show your imagination. The person who asked this question usually waits for the answer “I work”, to which he will ask the counter question “Where and by whom?”.

You can turn the conversation in a different direction with a cool and extraordinary answer, depending on whether you want to “send” the interlocutor in an original way, or are set up for a friendly conversation in a positive way.

Video: What to say in response

How to originally answer the question: "Where do you work?"?

In my youth, I often joked that I worked in the administration of President Boris Nikolayevich Yeltsin and explained that I was now here with the task of collecting information on the number of free logs in the area of ​​the local White House. Another couple of questions and answers, and I could not help laughing, because people were led and believed, and my fantasy was ending with further nonsense. If there was no appropriate entourage around me, of course, few people would believe. Or she pretended to be a translator while watching foreign films. Along the way, I came up with phrases for the main characters, it also rolled.

It always amuses me to see the reaction of the person who asks this tactless question when he hears the answer:

• On Sukharevskaya! Quote ;.

Sukharevskaya is a metro station in the center of Moscow, that is, instead of the name of the company, the questioner receives a very approximate answer about its location.

When asked where my husband works, I answered mysteriously and seriously - as the head of the wrestling department. Let them think about the fight against whom or what. but in fact he worked in a taxi.

So, imagine the situation: the conversation is already fizzled out and then an old acquaintance asks - Where do you work? quot ;, and you tell him:

1. At the table.
2. At the boss.
3. But it's all right there.
4. Where others rest (this is if in the service sector).
5. At the zoo (well, if you are an MP).
6. On the career ladder My office is on the third step.
7. Where there is a lot of money. In general, people really need me - they line up for me in queues (this is if somewhere at the checkout or in a bank).

• Due to the fact that many tactless interlocutors want to calculate our income, they constantly ask: Where do you work?. I really don’t want to tell them in detail what and how. It is better to get off with some half-joking phrase. We offer several modified options suitable for the answer:

  1. And what, where do I rest, are you not interested at all?

  2. I work for the FBI, so be careful with me!

  3. State secret.

  4. In LLC AAA.

  5. In the service of control over the presidential administration.

  I hope that these answers will not offend our curious acquaintances and will make them smile.

  You can work anywhere, but it can be presented in different ways.

• 1. I collect bottles.
  2. I work as a thief for the Bureau of Restoration of Justice, taking from the rich and giving to the poor.
  3. I work on the planet Earth, which is located there and there, in a row from the Sun. Working for the good of our planet.
  4. I work as a loader, only I don’t carry, but load: do you want me to load you?

• Where do you work? :

  • I rob banks.
  • As I studied, so I work.
  • In the bureau Stupid questionsquot ;.
  • I am still studying at school.
  • There are no more places where I work.
  • Such valuable employee at any job will be happy.

  If you don’t feel like answering a question about work, it’s better to say:

  • I am a creative person, in this moment looking for inspiration.

  And then let them think about the meaning of this phrase. Each of us is creative to some extent.

  If the question is too annoying, we will answer correctly, but very categorically:

  • Where ... I will not say. Then you torment with the question: How much do you earn? quot ;.

  You can answer calmly and truthfully:

  • Enough for bread and butter. And still remain on the diamond necklace.

  

  Be careful when asking others similar question otherwise, in response to

  Where do you work? hear:

  • In your place I will put a sword.
  • I am a professional in my business. Professionals don't give away their secrets.
  • I'm too stupid to explain the meaning of my work in a nutshell.
  • I collect bottles.
  • Tired of working, it's time to earn.

  

  You can come up with something anecdotal (on the verge of absurdity).

  • My job makes me get up early in the morning and envy my cat.
  • Every time I read my resume... I realize that I'm unimaginably cool.
  • Anyone who does not work is a scoundrel. I am a rascal.
  • Capable of any job. Provided that it does not need to start right now.

  Where do you work?

  • I am a terrible careerist.
  • I hire people who will do my job.
  • Work is work, but you also have to do something useful.
  • I work at the cottage.
  • My work will be inherited and it is not customary to talk about it.
  • I can’t brag just because then there will be no rest from envious people.
  • I'm a big bumpquot ;. Just don’t shake me, the bumps tend to fall painfully on the forehead.

• Your answer, of course, depends largely on who is asking and for what purpose. In any case, we are interested in the original, comic answers.

  You can answer with these words or phrases like this:

  • If I tell you/you this, I will be fired;
  • It is not important where, it is important by whom and how;
  • I don't work, I enjoy;
  • What kind of work is this, this is my hobby;
  • I change water in coolers;
  • Where they haven't been fired yet;
  • Where they took me, I work there.

It would be nice to know what you will be asked at the next interview, right?

Of course, we do not recommend memorizing all the answers, but it does not hurt to think through them. Once you understand exactly what the representative of the company wants to hear, you can easily prove your suitability in a professional way.

Use this list when preparing for an interview.

1. Tell us about yourself

It's very simple but important question which many applicants forget about. Here's the catch: no one wants to endlessly listen to your career or personal history. Instead, you need to demonstrate in a few words that you are the best fit for the position in question. Tell us about your achievements or work-related experience that allows you to judge your professional suitability.

2. How did you hear about the vacancy?

By answering this innocent question, you have the opportunity to stand out from the crowd and show your interest in the employer. For example, if you hear about a job from a friend or colleague, mention their name and then talk about what they specifically said and how they inspired you. If you see a job opening in a trade publication or on your local job board, tell us what it was that appealed to you.

3. What do you know about our company?

Any applicant is able to look at the "About Us" page on the organization's website. It is unlikely that the interlocutor asking this question is trying to find out how clearly you understand the goals and objectives described there. He should understand that you took care to read them. Use in your speech keywords from the site, but don't quote it verbatim, for example: "I like the goal...because..." or "I believe this approach will be useful because..." Be sure to provide examples from personal experience.

4. Why do you want this job?

Again, companies need people who have a passion for what they do, and the answer to this question should be given in a similar vein. (If you don't have a passion for what you do, you may want to submit your resume elsewhere.) Identify key points that indicate that the job is right for you (for example, "I enjoy working in support, communicating with different people and help them solve problems. After that, tell us what you are interested in the company ("I love to learn new things, and you manage to do amazing things, and I just want to participate in this").

5. Why should we hire you?

This straightforward question in most cases sounds tactless, but if you are asked it, consider yourself lucky. This is perhaps the best reason to profitably sell your personal and professional quality. In your answer, try to cover three points: a.) you are not only capable of doing your job, but you can also achieve unsurpassed results; b.) you fit corporate culture and are able to fit into the team; c.) you outperform all other applicants.

6. List your professional strengths

When answering this question, career consultant Pamela Skillings advises telling the truth (i.e. talking about real, not fictional virtues), describing qualities that correspond to the position in question, and avoiding lengthy reasoning (for example, "the ability to persuade" instead of " excellent communication skills). Don't forget to talk about real situations in which you were able to demonstrate these virtues.

7. Name your main weakness

This question is primarily intended to determine how honest and open the candidate is. Despite this, it is not worth saying that you are able to meet deadlines, even if your life depends on it. You should also not pathetically exclaim that you are devoid of any shortcomings. Choose the quality that you lack and that you are trying your best to acquire. For example, say you're not a great public speaker, but recently volunteered to host general meetings to feel more confident.

8. What is your main professional achievement?

Nothing speaks of professional fitness better than a list of past accomplishments. When answering this question, don't be shy! Build your response as follows: describe the situation and problem you needed to solve so that the interviewer has the context (for example: "I worked as a junior analyst and managed the invoicing process"), emphasize the steps you took and the results that was achieved (e.g., "I ran process upgrades for a month and as a result saved 10 man-hours with a 25% reduction in errors").

9. Tell us about a work conflict or difficult situation you had to deal with. Describe the issue resolution process

By asking this question, the interlocutor wants to know how you behave in difficult situations. “In interviews, all applicants want to appear sweet and accommodating, but some magically transform as soon as you sign a contract with them,” says Skillings. As you formulate your answer, focus on your behavior. If possible, describe the situation in which you managed to come to common decision or compromise.

10. Where do you see yourself in five years?

When answering this question, be honest about your goals, but remember: the interviewee wants to make sure that your expectations and ambitions are realistic, and the vacancy in question corresponds to them. If the position is contrary to your ideas, say that you still cannot formulate ultimate goal, but want to get a positive experience that will help you decide.

11. Describe your ideal job

In this and similar questions lies the desire to find out how the position being discussed corresponds to your career aspirations. Of course, if you want to make the interlocutor laugh, you can say that you want to become an NBA star, but it's better to talk about your goals and correlate them with what the employer offers.

12. Have you been interviewed by other companies?

Employers ask this question for a thousand different reasons- for example, they want to know if competitors are applying for you, or how interested you are in working in their industry. "As a rule of thumb, I encourage my clients to say they're considering a few more options in the same field," says job search expert Alison Doyle. - "In addition, you can mention that all vacancies have similar characteristics and provide an opportunity to apply your existing skills and knowledge." For example: "I applied for jobs in IT consulting companies because I could analyze the needs of clients and communicate them to technical specialists who can solve the problem."

13. Why are you leaving your current job?

A difficult question that is currently encountered at every turn. Maintain a positive tone and don't gossip about your previous employer. Say that you want to develop and take advantage of new opportunities that you currently do not have. For example: "I would like to participate in the development process software products from beginning to end, and I see that you provide such an opportunity. "And if you were politely asked to leave the previous place? So say: "Unfortunately, the employer no longer requires my services."

14. Why were you fired?

If, in answering the previous question, you honestly admitted that you were fired, be honest to the end, even if the truth is not very attractive. An honest answer doesn't always lead to rejection! Show that you have learned and grown a lot since then. In most cases, the ability to learn from mistakes is considered an advantage, not a disadvantage.

15. What do you expect from the new job?

Obviously what she has to offer. Don't get into lengthy discussions. Be extremely precise.

16. What working conditions do you find acceptable?

Obviously, those that are similar to the conditions offered by a potential employer. Don't get into lengthy discussions. Be extremely precise.

17. Describe your management style

The best leaders are strong and flexible leaders. It is these qualities that need to be emphasized in the answer. For example: "Despite the fact that each team member usually requires individual approach, I prefer to act as a mentor for my subordinates. " After that, give examples of successful management decisions and the results they led to (for example, how the worst sales person under your leadership became the star of the whole team).

18. Tell us about a situation in which you were able to show your leadership qualities.

Depending on the position you're applying for, the answer might be a story about successfully managing processes or people. Skillings states that "the best answers include memorable and believable details." "Choose an example that gives an idea of ​​your experience and reveals your full potential," she advises.

19. Describe a time when you disagreed with a decision your manager made.

These situations happen to all of us from time to time. By asking this question, your interlocutor wants to know if you can solve problems constructively and professionally. "You shouldn't talk about the manager's mistake and your tacit agreement to keep the peace. Also, don't talk about the situation in which you were wrong," advises Peggy McKee of Career Confidential. - "Remember a case in which your disagreement really played some role and influenced the outcome of the case."

20. How would your colleagues and supervisors describe you?

Remember that the answer to this question must be honest, because. the employer has the opportunity to call your former colleagues and leaders. Talk about strengths and qualities that have not yet been mentioned during the conversation (for example, strict observance internal regulations or readiness, if necessary, to join the work of neighboring departments).

21. Why did you take breaks from work?

If you've been unemployed for a while, be honest about what you've been doing Of course, these activities should be useful (training, professional blogging, or volunteering). Emphasize that you are now ready to contribute to the common cause: "I decided to take a break, but now I am full of energy and can benefit the company."

22. Can you explain your decision to change career direction?

Questions like this are often confusing. Take a deep breath and explain to the other person why you had to make this or that career decision. Give examples to show that previous experience helped you in new position. The connection may not be obvious. In this case, you can make a strong impression by talking about non-standard situations from which you managed to come out with honor.

23. How do you deal with stress?

"Demonstrate your ability to work productively in critical situation. Emphasize that stress can't stop you from achieving your goals," McKee says. Describe your ways of coping with stress (making lists, deep breathing etc.) and then give examples of their effective use.

24. Describe your first 30/60/90 days in a new position

Tell me what you need for quick start. What information do you need? What departments would you like to see? What specialists will you interact with? Choose a few activities that will pay off in the short term (for example, "As a first project, I plan to delve into the processes of email marketing and create an email tracking system"). Of course, if you get a job, plans may change, but the interlocutor should see that you are ready to make a profit, and you can not wait to start your duties.

25. Please state your salary expectations

Before formulating an answer, it is necessary to conduct a study on the average level wages through Payscale or Glassdoor based on your education, skills and experience. However, experts recommend calling the top number of the range, and then being flexible if necessary. Let the interlocutor understand that you know your worth, but at the same time you want to get a job and are ready for discussion.

26. What do you do after hours?

"Employers ask personal questions to make sure that the applicant fits the corporate culture of the company," says experienced human resources specialist Mitch Fortner. "In other words, if you're asked a question about a hobby, feel free to tell it like it is. Remember to keep your face. When reporting a habit of drinking beer with friends, don't mention the hangover that haunts you on Mondays."

27. If you were an animal, what would it be?

At first glance, this question seems ridiculous, and therefore is used to confuse the applicant and see how he will extricate himself. There are no right or wrong answers, but you will earn extra points if you manage to talk about your benefits. Tip: If you need to think a bit, fill in the pause with "Great question! I must say..."

28. How many tennis balls will fit in a limousine?

One thousand? Ten thousand? One hundred thousand? And really, how much?

If you're applying for a tech job, be prepared for puzzle questions. Remember that the interlocutor is unlikely to expect to hear a specific number. He needs to know that you understand the question and are ready to analyze it. Take a deep breath and do the calculations. It's okay to ask for a pen and paper for this!

29. Do you have children? Do you plan to add to the family in the next few years?

Strictly speaking, personal questions about marital status, gender ("Could you manage a department that employs only men?"), nationality ("Where were you born?"), religion and age are illegal, but employers continue to ask them. Not all questions are asked malice However, they must be dealt with tactfully. In this case, it is recommended to answer: "I think I'm not quite ready yet ... But I'm very interested in ways career development in your company. Could you tell us more about them?"

30. What do you think we could improve or do differently?

This question is most often asked by representatives of startups. With it, the interlocutor not only wants to make sure that you have bothered to collect information about potential employer but also trying to get new ideas. Give them these ideas! What kind Additional services could the company provide? How could you increase profits or improve customer service? In order to put forward a reasonable proposal, it is not necessary to study the detailed plan of the company for the next four years. Just show your interest and expertise.

31. Do you have any questions for us?

This is your chance to make sure that the position offered by the company suits you. What do you want to know about the job? About the company as a whole? About the department you might be working in? About a team of potential colleagues?

You will learn a considerable share during the conversation, so the questions should be non-trivial. In particular, you can ask a company representative to express personal opinion("Why do you like working here?") or discuss prospects ("Are you planning to release new products?").

themuse.com, translation: Airapetova Olga

Hello colleagues,
I have been asking this question for several years now, and now it has become aggravated. The first year on the market did not ask such a question, as I was impressed by the book about Jesse Livermore, traders seemed to me cool peppers and it was not a shame to say that I am a trader.
And I spoke)
What do you think the reaction was?

"Is it like forex?"
“My friend did this until he lost X rubles”
“And how much do you earn? What car?"
"Do you know how risky that is?"
"Didn't think to find a normal job?"

90% of people said all this in response to the fact that I am a trader. Do you also? After listening to all this, I stopped saying that I am a trader.
And now I say...
… blah, I started to be afraid and avoid people and now I don't say anything.
What to do?

I stopped saying that I am a trader because I saw in my eyes and faces that people were disappointed in me after that, they were more disappointed than when I came up with all sorts of strange things about myself, like that I am a big fan of the cartoon my little pony.
I stopped talking when I spent enough time on trading websites and realized that being a trader really doesn't sound cool.

Say that the investor? Not better. Every schoolchild knows that being an investor means being patient and earning money for donuts, and if you earn a lot, then the capital must be mega-huge, and then questions again.
To say that you are an algorithmic trader? It’s also a terrible option, when you say that you have robots, then I directly see how the interlocutor in front of me materializes the Deciptecons and that uyovin that defeated Godzilla.
Say that the programmer? It's not sexy for me.

Now I understand why people buy Mercedes, if it were, then perhaps there would be no such problems. But there is also such a moment that I don’t want people to know how much I earn, I don’t want to be a dude in a Mercedes, and in general the car is somehow not at all mine. So what can I say so that it does not sound pale and so that it is clear that I am cool and there are no unnecessary questions about work?

update. Hooray, I got a comment right on the topic.
“But I’m telling the truth… I’m not shy about my profession… I’ll explain to those who need to be told in more detail, who needs to be pinned up, pinned up with any answer, and someone will become interested and will be your investor. if you yourself are embarrassed by your profession, then you, somewhere in the depths, understand about the same as the majority. and therefore the moment will come when you will be disappointed and quit ... this is a psychological moment ”

Now I will say that I am an asset manager, the ideal option, and here you don’t even need to tell how much money you have, because like they are all strangers anyway;)

update2.
AAAAAAAA, it turns out that if you say “asset manager”, then some will think that you are a pimp, as they wrote in the comments.
Haven't cried like that in a long time.