What is the result of not having a purpose in life?
(direction "Aims and means")
Life goes breathless without an aim.
F. M. Dostoevsky
Life is a movement endless road being with persecution specific purpose. Someone sets this goal clearly and achieves it, getting confused, making mistakes, suffering or rejoicing, reaching the pinnacle of truth. And someone lives life carelessly, aimlessly, without thinking about its meaning. However, both those and others sooner or later ask themselves the question “Why did I live? And for what purpose was he born? ”, Like Lermontov’s Pechorin. Then comes the comprehension of those deeds and actions that you did or did not do on the path of life.
The absence of a goal in life in all religions is considered one of the deadly sins, because it leads a person to moral and physical death: either a person burns his life (“Eugene Onegin”), or hurries to his favorite sofa to hide from worldly storms (“Oblomov”).
In fiction, the search for the meaning of life by heroes, or the lack of such actions, is one of the main themes. No less interesting to writers of research human soul in the absence of a goal in life: what are the consequences of such an existence of a person, that is, what does it all lead to?
Here in Alexander Sergeevich Pushkin, Evgeny Onegin is a vivid example of such an aimless existence of a personality. And why set goals for a person who has practically “everything”: not a poor father who “gave two balls annually”, hired tutors to educate and raise his son. Yes, and uncle "on time" died, leaving Eugene a considerable legacy. Young, educated, "very nice", in conclusion high society, human. He sleeps until almost noon, "walks on the boulevard." He visits trendy restaurants and goes to the theater just to draw attention to himself - this, perhaps, is the circle of the main "occupations" of the hero. A.S. Pushkin shows what this aimless existence of the hero leads to: to apathy (spleen), to the loss of friendship (and even the unjustified murder of a friend in a duel), to the loss true love(Tatyana Larina), the absence of a family. And even a trip abroad does not save Onegin from mental suffering.
No less interesting in terms of research is another literary hero- Ilya Oblomov from the novel by I.A. Goncharova. His existence, as he himself explains to his friend Andrei Stolz, began “with extinction”: well, it was not customary in the Oblomov family to work, let alone set goals. Ilyusha and formed in this "Oblomov" like a chick in an egg. Even love could not lift him off the couch (Olga Ilyinskaya succeeded for a short time). Neither the family later nor
born son - nothing revived Oblomov to life, did not become the goal of existence. Writer researching state of mind hero, shows the reasons for this, and most importantly the result - death is not only mental, but also physical.
The person who doesn't bet life goals is like an out of control boat going nowhere. And there is a risk of being washed ashore or stranded. Only a conscious existence with clear goals, according to psychologist Nikolai Kozlov (the book "Correct Clear Life"), makes us get up from the couch, give up useless deeds and run to fulfill our plans and dreams. Otherwise, spiritual and physical death.
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Lack of goals in life- this is a hidden unwillingness to live! The sadness that religious beliefs considered one of terrible sins. A man without a goal is like a ship without a rudder, drifting aimlessly and constantly at risk of hitting the reefs. The man who has a goal and knows how to set goals, is like a ship under the control of an experienced captain, using a map and a compass to determine the destination and leading the ship directly to the port of his choice.
An aimless life kills
A person who lives without a goal dies in literally words, according to researchers from the Japanese Medical University.
For seven years, they monitored a group of 43,000 men and women aged 40 to 79. In periodic surveys, approximately 59% said they had a specific goal in life and were busy life. 5% reported that they have no goals in life.
During the observation period, 3 thousand observed died due to illness or as a result of suicide. The proportion of deaths among those who did not have clear purpose in life and avoided strenuous activities, was approximately 1.5 times higher than among the "purposeful". Among those who died from diseases of the vessels of the brain, there were twice as many of them.
If a person is not able to pave the way in his head from clear steps from his present to the desired future, he is doomed. He will die. Disappear as a person. If not physically, then mentally. alcohol, drugs, computer games. aimless life kills both physically and spiritually.
Reasons for not having a purpose in life
Goal setting is a topic for a separate article, but at least in order to understand the vector of movement, I advise you to perform a simple exercise.
How to stop an aimless existence, and find out in which direction it is worth moving:
Take a break from everything for a moment. Be alone. Let yourself fantasize. Imagine, as if it happened that all the important components of your life are gradually disappearing from your life. One by one, all parts of life. I don't know what it is specifically. Maybe work, family, vacation… Imagine it in as much detail and detail as possible. How do you consistently, one by one, lose important aspects life. It might not be easy, but go for it!
And now, when the last important part of it has passed away, imagine that a magic wand fell into your hands !!! And at the behest magic wand YOU CAN RETURN THE IMPORTANT COMPONENTS OF YOUR LIFE back!! But only in sequence. One by one. What will you return first?.. What is second?.. What is third?.. What's next??.. Return sequence is important. What is returned first is most important to you on this moment. And so on. And you can understand that the most important aspects of life are the area in which your goals lie.
« When we go beyond those desires that could be immediately satisfied, we find that open society suffers from what might be called a lack of purpose. By this, I do not mean that the goal cannot be found, but only that each person is obliged to seek and find it in himself and for himself.." George Soros
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An aimless life is a primitive existence, unworthy reasonable person! Develop, follow the recommendations of psychologists, find your goal!
I have always been amazed at the existence of half-humans, half-plants, who lead an absolutely worthless lifestyle.
They are driven by primitive instincts: to eat, sleep, thump, are content with small things, and it seems that they have no life purpose at all.
They do not strive for anything, they do not want to develop themselves.
Sometimes I even think: why do they live at all?
aimless life- that's just terrible.
It's not even life in full meaning this word.
This is a primitive existence, unworthy of a rational person!
The aimless life of my aunt's neighbors
My aunt lives in the private sector.
To the right of her live comrades who love to drink, but to the left - a seemingly normal, at first glance, average family: a couple of 60 years old and their adult unmarried son.
They live, like many others, special problems, like the same alcoholics on the right, they don’t create, it seems - quiet, but here they are - the brightest illustration to the material " aimless life' is just a classic example.
The three of them huddle in two rooms, for 30 years none of the neighbors have seen them do any repairs, they have not even run water into the house yet.
Their 40-year-old son never married, moreover, no one even saw him accompanied by a girl.
They don’t read books, there’s nothing to talk about with them, though they watch TV: mostly stupidly humorous series, such as the Bukins, that are very educational and useful for the brain.
Sometimes it seems to me that they are not people at all.
So, robots created by someone by mistake, which are burdened by their existence.
Yes, even the drunkards who live to the right of my aunt have some goals in life: to find money, get drunk, beat each other's faces. 🙂
Why do people lead aimless lives?
Do you know what unites people who do not live, but exist?
They do not even realize the primitiveness of their being.
If I dared to talk to my aunt's neighbors and tell them about what they have - aimless life, they would be surprised, offended, but they did not believe.
The main reasons for such human behavior are:
Misunderstanding that a person is given one life, and he simply has no right to waste it.
There will be no rehearsals!
There will be no spare lives, as in computer games!
Therefore, you need to live in such a way as to have time to enjoy this world, to see as much as possible, to learn different things.
You need to live in such a way that you do not grieve before your departure to another world and a bunch of wasted opportunities.
Cowardice.
To accept even the simplest life decision it takes courage. The more serious the choice, the more courageous you must be.
Cowards do not want to take responsibility even for their own lives, let alone someone else's, and therefore resemble a hermit crab that never crawls out of its shell into the light of day.
He seems to be living, but the only thing he does in his life is cowardly hiding in the house, because he is afraid of failure, pain, criticism, yes - everything in the world.
If a person has been instilled with the idea from childhood that he is worthless and will not be able to achieve anything, then sooner or later he will certainly believe in it and grow up as a useless layman who drags out a miserable life. aimless life.
Lack of vital qualities important for the winner.
Yes, not everyone is born great scientists, generals, politicians, writers, etc.
There are many boys and girls who find it rather difficult to study.
But, if they and their parents made more efforts, set goals for themselves and worked hard to achieve them, then there would be much fewer losers on our planet.
Behind any success is 10% of the personal qualities given by nature, 10% of luck and 80% of colossal work, perseverance and the desire to self-develop.
The inability to set life goals and achieve their implementation.
In order to comprehend this skill, read as much as possible. psychological literature, recommendations of successful people.
How to avoid an aimless life?
The sooner you realize that you are living a miserable existence instead of living a bright full life, all the better.
It is much easier for young people to change their lives than for old people, so do not delay assessing yourself and your being.
Count how many goals you set for yourself over the past year.
If less than 10 - then it's time to change something in your aimless life!
To avoid the mistakes of people who waste their lives, you can if:
You will not miss the signals that the stars send you.
People simply do not see that promising opportunities come across at every turn, preferring to whine: "I'm out of luck."
You are invited for an interview at a new firm, but you seem to be satisfied with your old job?
Go to the interview anyway, listen to what the new employer offers you.
And suddenly - this is the chance that you have been waiting for so long.
Let love into your life.
Love your family, your soul mate, what you do, life, after all.
People who know how to love always have something to set goals for and achieve them.
Do not be afraid to change something in your life if you no longer feel happy.
You can’t stick around for decades at one job if it doesn’t bring you either money or pleasure.
You can't live with someone you don't love just because you have to.
It is fear that kills our chances for happiness and success.
Set specific goals for yourself.
A trip to Italy, a new car, a position as head of a department, a refurbishment of an apartment, a study abroad are goals that can be achieved with the right effort.
But a star from the sky or an overseas prince this minute - children's dreams.
You plan your life.
To-do lists for every day, a collage of desires, a plan for the year will help you identify your goals.
Create not banal lists, but describe the time for the implementation of a particular goal, intermediate stages of its implementation, important components of success, etc.
The question remains: how to find your purpose in life?
Do a simple exercise from Alexander Kuskov
and understand what you really want.
Forward! 😉
From aimless life many people suffer, but because of their own stupidity, laziness, cowardice, they do not want to change.
Do not repeat their mistakes, because no one will return the lost time to you!
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Every person in life should have a goal. By nature, people need to strive for something that will lead them to the best, in their opinion, future. But what happens when a person has no specific purpose in life? It is very dangerous for his soul, his inner peace, because without aspirations, human development stops and degradation begins. Let's look at examples from fiction to prove it.
Thinking about a person who has a goal in life, we often recall the novel by F.M. Dostoevsky "Crime and Punishment". But the work shows not only purposeful characters, but also heroes who exist aimlessly. The brightest of them is the father of the Marmeladov family. He is a rather kind person, not stupid, but his way of life is a consequence of the fact that he has no goal. He drinks in cheap pubs, drinks the last thing his family has. But once he served and made good money.
He was given a second chance, the opportunity to restart his career ... But all the efforts of his wife went nowhere. He left the service, drank his suit and died drunk, crushed by horses on the road. This is the end to which Marmeladov's aimless existence has led. A person without a goal "decomposes" spiritually and turns the life of his loved ones into a catastrophe. Of course, all this does not happen immediately, but gradually, but the result is the same.
Where does the lack of purpose lead? To the bottom of life. In such places and conditions, getting out of which is almost impossible. This is exactly what Maxim Gorky shows in the drama "At the Bottom". Vaska Pepel is at the bottom of his life from birth, because he was born in the family of a thief. He thinks that due to the pressure of the environment, he did not have a choice of what he would become, but in fact, if he had a goal, he could avoid the fate of a thief. After consoling Luka, he begins to think about that. to go to Siberia with his beloved woman, but this is not destined to come true. Dreams and goals are completely different concepts. If he really wanted to, he would have left. But in the end, following the lead of Vasilisa, he kills Kostylev in a fight. His aimless existence leads to the commission of an even more serious crime, for which he will be punished.
Everything in nature evolves in one way or another. And if this is not a movement forward, then this is a gradual simplification. The same happens with human soul. Without a goal, or at least its search - spiritual development man is reversed. That is why an aimless existence is so dangerous. It destroys, destroys not only the person himself, but often his loved ones, who depend on him.
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Can you guess the mood of a passerby? Of course, you are not an expert, but, most likely, you felt those around you “with a dead battery”. Usually, these are gloomy, lethargic people who most often sleep or stare blankly at one point. They are “not interested” and this is evidenced not only by the expression on their face, but also by the whole body.
This is how our body reacts to an aimless existence. He begins to save that miserable part of the energy that supports the most necessary vital functions. Laziness, apathy sets in, against the background of a decrease in vital activity, various physiological disorders can occur.
In order not to become walking dead» A person needs goals. Any! Small, medium, large, giant - the most important thing is that they associate it with own life and pleased even at the mere thought that “it will be!”
What needs to be done to turn life from an aimless existence into heavenly pleasure?
1. Find a source of energy.
You “do not want anything” when a lot of things have accumulated under the word “must”. And you are punishing yourself for your “negligence” by not allowing you to do what you really like. You can often hear: “How can I think about myself when my apartment is not cleaned, the project is not completed, the letter is not written ...”
No strength to wash a cup, no strength to call, no strength to finish the job, and you are sitting at a hateful occupation with full confidence that you must first redo the “important things”, and then think about yourself and your plans. And now imagine that at this very moment you are informed that you have been on vacation since Monday and are handed a ticket to the country of your dreams with accommodation in the most luxurious hotel. After dinner, there will be no trace of your blues. You will have a mountain of plans, you will immediately “sort out” all your affairs and in the evening rush to buy a suitcase and prepare all sorts of little things. Thus, in half a day you redid what you could not clean up for a week. Mood lifts, energy increases, you see the goal, you want to go, you like to prepare for the trip and look forward to new places and experiences. All your actions are gaining momentum and become purposeful.
It is extremely important not only to “know” about the existence of your goals, but to allow them to come into your life, energize you and bring you happiness. Most of the time, you simply have to "live in joy" and do what you really want and like.
If you are now in a state of “I don’t want anything”, then you will especially clearly feel the result of our mini-experiment. Put aside what bothers you or does not want to do. Ask yourself what you would like now... this minute. Go through in your head all the possible desires that you can fulfill here ... right now. Call Mom? Walk? Favorite book chapter? Tea? Favourite song? As soon as you find your true desire, you will immediately have energy. Grab it and do what you have in mind ...
2. Learn to distinguish goals by feelings.
Finding true goals is a skill. It needs to be developed. For your true purpose will occur, the so-called "aha-reflex". Remember how a child looks at a toy he wants? His eyes are wide open, he smiles, jumps up and down, claps his hands, his breath hitches. He is delighted: “I want! Yes! YES! I want it!" Adults are outwardly more restrained, but natural reactions have not disappeared. In your body, you will immediately feel that your desire comes from within, from you. Approximately the same state comes at the moment when you have not yet reached the desired goal, but mentally already “hold” it in your hands. It should be noted that when thinking about larger goals, you may get nervous, but this is more of a "breathtaking" series. Listen to yourself, and you will understand that your excitement is positive and does not at all look like a fear for life, and even more so, a “zero state”.
Remember how you felt in your body when you were happy with the gift you dreamed about and how you reacted to receiving a “useless thing”. Think about your goals, imagine that you already have it and compare your feelings.
3. Choose your path. There are three ways to move towards the goal.
- WHAT do I want to get? The easiest way that most people go. This is the collection of information, information, tools and their application to achieve the goal. For example, you want to get a "working site". You add services, learn how to edit content, download various plugins, and finally have fun. Goal achieved!
- WHAT and HOW do I want to receive? Those who ask themselves the question “What do I want?” rise one step higher. and for their purpose they collect knowledge, information and look for opportunities for implementation. To the question "How?" you are not limited to one algorithm. Allowed various options, are calculated different circumstances. But even in this case, your goal remains insufficiently conscious and, therefore, there is a possibility that you will “miss”.
- WHY, WHAT and HOW do I want to receive? This is the most reliable way, but not everyone sees it. Strong, cheerful, internally formed people move along it. This path is for those who know themselves well, feel their desires and have a flexible worldview. In this case, you start with the question “Why do I need this?” This allows you to "download" your goal into the subconscious. Emotional reasoning allows you to enlist inner support and receive a constant source of energy. Then you answer the question "What do I need for this?" and think over what resources, conditions, materials you will need. And only after that, ask yourself the question “How?”. You consider the circumstances, use your contacts, perhaps enter into a partnership, you will hire employees and other assistants from outside.
When you plan your goal, it is very important to think about it. "Why?" is a meaningful question. Until you have an answer to it, you will slow yourself down and form internal conflicts.
So, we found out that the main source of energy is in your desires. Your desires form goals. If there is a goal, there is energy, if there is no goal, then laziness, apathy, weakness appear. So that your goals do not disappoint you, it is important to represent final result and listen to your body. If you rejoice like a child, then it is worth moving on, and now only you choose your path. Your happiness and satisfaction with life depends on the correctness of the choice, optimism, the desire to take responsibility and, of course, on the love of life itself.
Inspire yourself with new plans, allow yourself daily happiness and every minute joys. Remember, you live to enjoy life! And may the energy never leave you, and your goals become bigger and more beautiful.
