But what does it look like on the outside? confident man in himself? Psychologists say that confident can only be the one human who loves himself. Of course, it must be healthy, adequate love to himself. You can't be selfish. However, you need to feel love for yourself, please yourself. And only after that you will gain confidence and will freely communicate with others.

But how can this be achieved?

Now we will formulate the main characteristics inherent in a confident person, and based on this, we will try to understand how to achieve a confident external image.

In the arsenal confident person required attributes- this is:

1. confident look.

A person who is self-confident has a special look. He is calm and sincere. It has self-confidence and self-righteousness, intelligence, healthy pride, lightness.

Insecure people may look confident on the outside, but their eyes give them away. They have fear, shyness, timidity.

There is a question. How to learn such a look? There are tricks that can do this.

Go to the mirror and take a good look at yourself. Try to remember those events in your life that you are proud of. Maybe it's a victory in a competition or a successful defense of a diploma, or maybe everyone admires your culinary skills. Remember and look at yourself in the mirror, you will feel a surge of joy and pride. The eyes will light up, and the look will become brighter and bolder. This is the look of a self-confident person. Try to remember it.

If later during the conversation you suddenly feel that confidence is slipping away, begin to intensively recall the most successful things in your life and a confident look will appear again.

2. Calm expression.

The face of a self-confident person is calm, friendly, harmonious.

Let us dwell separately on harmony. A person who is confident in himself rarely resorts to methods that do not suit him. life principles. Therefore, his words and emotions are always true. There is no disharmony on his face.

In the facial expressions of a confident person there are no halftones and hints, which are not uncommon in Everyday life. Of course, it would be wrong to assume that a confident person is always uncompromising and straightforward, but basically, on his face there is one certain emotion and it is always clear what he intends to say.

To learn how to manage your emotions, you need to train in front of a mirror. But to consolidate the result, it is necessary that mimic expressions are based on inner confidence.

3. Style that emphasizes confidence.

How should a confident person dress? In a strict business suit, haute couture clothes, fashionable and always out of place?

This is not what should be emphasized, although all this, of course, is important. Most importantly, the style of clothing should carry valuable information about your essence. So that looking at you, you can give an adequate assessment.

Moreover, the style of clothing should push you to improve your image.

So, shy person it is better to dress as brightly as possible. This will draw attention to him. Although at first it will not be easy, but gradually the shyness will go away.

If a person is timid in actions, then a strict business suit will push him to decisiveness in actions.
4. Open and fluid gestures.

By the gestures demonstrated by a person, you can tell a lot about his confidence. So, a confident person shows his hands to the interlocutor. This is a sign that he is not hiding anything. It is known that arms crossed on the chest are a sign of closeness, fenced off from the world.

He is also not inherent imposing and swagger. He doesn't wave his arms.

To give the impression of a confident person, you need to be precise in gestures and use them only when necessary.

5. Simplicity, constancy, truthfulness.

A confident person looks natural. But naturalness does not contradict originality. If you overdo it when trying to create an image of a confident person, you may look too bland, without bright features. Here it is necessary to find the golden mean.

You should not focus on the shortcomings, on the contrary, you should behave in such a way that your advantages are more clearly visible.

Many people play someone all the time. They often change their image. It is not right. The information that a person carries must be constant for at least some time. For example, if you are playing an image today business man, tomorrow a self-confident person from the world of bohemia, and the day after tomorrow - from the world of politics, then because of frequent shift nothing will remain of your confidence.

To train the magnetic gaze, do the following exercises.

EYE STRENGTH EXERCISE #1(I did exactly that)

On a sheet of white paper, draw a black circle the size of a fifty-kopeck coin and shade it. Fix the sheet on the wall, and stand up yourself or better sit down so that the point is at eye level at a distance of one and a half to two meters from the wall. Look at this black dot and imagine how your eyes radiate two rays that are parallel and join at this point. Be sure to imagine the movement of the outgoing energy that your eyes radiate. Try to hypnotize this black circle. It is equally important not to blink or look away from this point and look at it for a minute. After resting, spend a few more approaches.
You can vary your activities. Move the paper to the right and direct your gaze straight ahead, without turning your head, move your gaze to the right and also look stubbornly at the spot for one minute. Do this three or four times. Then, move the paper to the left of the original place, again look intently at the spot for one minute. Repeat this three or four times.
Do these exercises for three days, and then increase the time of looking up to two minutes. After another three days, increase the time to three minutes, and so on, increase the time every three days by one minute.
There are people who can stare stubbornly without blinking for 30 minutes, but I think it will be enough to bring this time to 10-15 minutes. One who can hold his gaze for 10 minutes will be able to direct his gaze with the same strong and intent gaze as one who has reached 30 minutes.

EXERCISE FOR THE DEVELOPMENT OF THE FORCE OF THE LOOK №2

Stand or sit in front of a mirror and stare at the reflection of your eyes (same as in the first exercise). As before, the time should be increased gradually. As you do this exercise, you will notice the development of a characteristic expression in your eyes. Some people prefer this exercise over the previous one, but my opinion is best results you will achieve by combining both of these exercises.

EXERCISE FOR DEVELOPING THE STRENGTH OF LOOK #3

Stand at a distance of one meter from the wall, on which a sheet of paper with a black spot is attached at eye level. Without taking your eyes off the spot, do circular motions head, left and right. By keeping your gaze fixed on one spot while your eyes roll along with your head, you develop the eye nerves and muscles. The exercise must first be done without tiring the eyes, very moderately.

EXERCISE FOR THE DEVELOPMENT OF THE FORCE OF THE LOOK №4

This exercise is also designed to strengthen the nerves and muscles of the eyes. Stand with your back to the wall, looking directly at the opposite one, and start running quickly with your eyes from one point of the wall to another - to the right, to the left, up, down, in zigzags, in a circle (this exercise is similar to the usual gymnastics for the eyes, which must be done every day and in detail which you can learn about from the article - "Do your eyes hurt from the computer?").

EXERCISE FOR THE DEVELOPMENT OF THE FORCE OF THE LOOK №5

Place a candle on the table and light it. Sit opposite. Put your hands on the table so that the candle is between them. Look at the flame. Unlike the first exercise, now your energy is no longer directed at the object, but the candle flame fills your eyes with radiant energy, nourishes your strength, gives your eyes power and warmth, strength and passion, rigor and tenderness. Through the same channels (rays), but only in reverse direction there is a perceptible movement of energy. Your eyes seem to absorb special kind energy - plasma, which will be used by you in the future under other circumstances. Surely you have heard the expression "a light flashed in the eyes." It is this glow as a result of this exercise that your emerging magnetic gaze.

What do these exercises give?

Many rulers and leaders of the past owned this view and were indebted to it. for the most part your success. When you acquire a solid magnetic look, you will not exchange this gift for any wealth. Your gaze will become firm and determined. You will be able to look directly into the eyes of anyone with whom you communicate confidently and without embarrassment.
You will be able to cast a gaze that few people can bear. Who would you be, public speaker, manager, educator or police officer, any activity will receive great benefit from this art of sight. The entrepreneur, if he possesses this view sufficiently, will easily overcome harmful competition; great benefit than his competitor with a shifty and nervous look. Not a single criminal can resist the trained power of the gaze of the investigator. The power of such a look is sometimes quite enough to bring an inveterate swindler to a frank confession.
Your gaze will become more expressive, and your eyes will appear larger by increasing the distance between the eyelids.

Warnings and parting words

Set aside for exercise certain time, develop your strength gradually and take your time.
Performing exercises, you can not unnaturally expand the eyelids, blink and squint. And if your eyes get tired, then rinse them with cool water, and there will be relief. After three to four days of exercise, you will notice that your eyes will be less tired.
It is worth distinguishing a shamelessly impudent look from a calmly intent look. The first is more characteristic of scoundrels than decent people, the second indicates a person with powerful psychic power.
First you will find that your magnetic gaze confuses those you look at, confuses those with whom you come in contact, making them awkward and restless. But soon you'll get used to the power own view, and you will use it carefully, without embarrassing others, but at the same time, making a strong impression and impact on them.
The duration of the magnetic gaze largely depends on the situation in which you are, but it should not be intent and defiant, and certainly not too long. Remember that it is unlikely that anyone will be pleased with a very hard and intent look. Too long a central gaze can cause irritation, or your interlocutor may understand that you are trying to somehow influence him.
You can use the power of the gaze all the time, but basically it should be used in situations where you need to influence someone, evoke certain feelings and sensations in a person, inspire the desires and thoughts you need. To do this, looking at the bridge of your interlocutor's nose, you must experience those emotions and feelings that you want to arise in the one you are looking at. Therefore, the central gaze cannot always be the same. You can modify it while in different situations, to make it the most suitable for each specific case.
Avoid all kinds of talk about your exercises in developing the power of the eye, as this will only arouse suspicion in people and create a serious obstacle to your application of your knowledge. Keep your activities secret so that your strength will be manifested in deeds and not in words. (With)

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I will add from myself - everything is not so scary as described, in terms of suppression. A strong look really confuses people, but it also attracts just as much. strong people. It displays willpower and inner self, people pass in front of him who hide negativity in your address. Having developed a magnetic gaze, you will also feel changes inside yourself, flows flow through your eyes and this is another channel of communication with the worlds - physical and subtle. You will develop the sensitivity of perception. In general, there are much more positive bonuses. True, be prepared that people may begin to perceive you ambiguously, some - to avoid, some, on the contrary, to be attracted.

Instruction

Self-confidence - character, but it depends on several factors. First, pay attention to your appearance. When you look good, it gives confidence. Therefore, you should wear the clothes that suit you, which emphasize the dignity of the figure. If you yourself can not cope with the problem of your appearance, seek help from people whose profession is to create and improve the style of clothing. They will help you change a worn sweater for a stylish and nice clothes that suits you. Do not spare money for a new wardrobe, because appearance- this is what people around pay attention to first of all.

It is equally important to always monitor your face, figure, hair. A beautiful, fit figure attracts attention, which means it makes you more confident. Also, you should be able to use cosmetics to enhance your beauty. And clean hair is the basis of hairstyles. Take care of your hair to keep it looking healthy and shiny. Such a neat and finished image will undoubtedly make you more confident.

Often, confidence is indicated not only by the appearance, but also by the look of a person, his gait and posture. Straighten your shoulders, raise your head, walk through life with an easy but firm gait. Your gaze should be straight and clear. Downcast eyes, a hunched figure and drooping shoulders speak of self-doubt. Look people in the eye, smile casually, laugh if it's fun, argue openly if you're sure you're right. A confident look can be easily trained. Look at your reflection in the mirror every day for 3-5 minutes, trying not to blink for as long as possible. Your gaze should be open and confident. After a week of such training, you can beat anyone in the "peepers".

Connecting with people helps build self-confidence. If you have no friends, then there is no one to calm you down, cheer you up and cheer you up. You can consult with friends, they will always honestly point out your strengths and weaknesses. Therefore, you should not be afraid of people, because it is useful and interesting to communicate and make friends.

Very simple can increase self-confidence, but effective exercise. Every morning, when you get ready for work, set aside 5 minutes to praise yourself and admire yourself. Stand in front of the mirror and say that you look great, that you are the best and most beautiful girl in the world, that you will have a great day full of joyful events that you attract to yourself. All doors are open only for you! Such a cheerful morning setting will not only give you self-confidence, but also cheer you up and charge you with vigor and optimism for the whole day.

The look of a person is a powerful tool that can impress any interlocutor. It can charm, it can attract or reject, it enhances the possibility of manipulative influence. Negativity directed at a person can be neutralized by him. Magnetic, odic, central - these are all characteristics of that very strong gaze that only a few have.

The power of the gaze from the point of view of psychology

Everyone met people who, with their resolute, concentrated, almost unbearable look, "drew into a corner" because it seemed that a person sees through us. Such people can subjugate anyone, they are familiar with the power that an ordinary eye can have.

Psychology may not understand the mechanisms of influence of a look on a person, but numerous studies show that there is such an impact. For example, there was an experiment in which participants with eyes closed it was proposed to feel someone else's gaze from the back. And in most cases, this was determined accurately.

It is believed that a look can send a thought wave to the interlocutor directly to the brain. In this case, you should look at the bridge of your nose, where the eyebrows converge. There, a person has nerve center. In Eastern philosophy, there is a "third eye". Desires, feelings or commands sent to this center will be surely perceived if the gaze has that very power. To give a look special properties you need to develop certain skills.

Development of the power of the gaze

Training is required to develop the required skills. They will develop their skills, and after a while the result will be noticed: the interlocutors will begin to behave a little differently during the conversation, requests of any plan will increasingly be fulfilled unquestioningly.

Exercise with a sheet of paper

Take a piece of paper white color, preferably dense. Draw a circle with a diameter of 3 cm in its center with a black felt-tip pen and fix it on the wall so that it is at eye level. Next, you should sit opposite this circle at a distance of 1 meter and peer into the center, focusing your eyes. Do not blink or look away for one minute. Concentration is required: it is very important to imagine that energy or a beam is coming from the eyes. After a short rest, you can do a few more of these approaches.

Then you need to move the sheet a meter to the left and look at it without turning your head (with peripheral vision) for 1 minute. Hang the paper a meter to the right, look with peripheral vision in that direction. The exercise is repeated several times.

It is desirable to perform these exercises every day, and when they become easy (usually after 4-5 days), you should increase the exercise time to 2 minutes per approach. Then reduce the approaches to one, prolonging the execution. Ultimately, you need to ensure that the concentration of vision is not lost for 15 minutes at a time. Exercise will help develop a strong look.

Using a mirror

Set up a mirror in front of you and peer into the reflection of your own eyes. Then you need to draw on the mirror, between the eyebrows, a small dot and look at it. You should act according to the principle of the first exercise, increasing the peering time to 15 minutes per approach. This exercise will help you withstand the strong gaze of others and sharpen your own gaze.

More advanced eye exercises

There are more difficult exercises, which can be carried out only after one of the previous ones has been completed:

1) A sheet of paper, the same as in the first exercise, is attached to the wall. You need to stand near the wall at a distance of 1 meter so that the circle is at eye level. The gaze is fixed on a point, and the head is made in circular movements clockwise, and then, after 1 minute, counterclockwise. You can't get out of the circle. This is how the optic nerves develop and the muscles of the eyes are strengthened.

2) You should stand with your back to the wall, look at the other wall, which is in front. The gaze is translated left-right, up-down, zigzag, in circles. Each option is one minute long. This exercise will strengthen your eye muscles.

3) The exercise requires a candle. It is necessary to light it, sit opposite so that it stands between straightened arms. You need to look at the flame without taking your eyes off for 1 minute with 3 repetitions. Energy waves from the flame will convey strength, severity, fill the look with warmth. In this exercise, energy is not given, but received.

Each of the exercises will strengthen the look, ultimately give confidence, rigidity, steadfastness. It is important not to squint, look straight, eyelids do not expand very much. If the eyes get tired when performing, they can be washed cold water for a quick break.

This look lasts depending on the situation. Most often, you should not look extremely closely and for a long time at the interlocutor. You need a calm and confident look that will make you obey.

You should not use the acquired skills for evil purposes, because evil returns like a boomerang.

The magic of the look

A magical look is considered a gift that appears from birth. Most likely, it cannot be learned, it can only be possessed. Some people do not realize how powerful a tool they have under their control. The magical look is fully used by clairvoyants, healers, sorcerers.

It is lucky if the magical look is directed at a person with good positive energy with a desire to help. But it negatively affects the state of a person if they begin to scan him, pump out energy, want to harm, jinx or spoil. But you can protect yourself from it if you learn to resist the flow of negative energy.

Exercises for the development of protective properties:

A black dot is drawn on a sheet of paper. The sheet is hung at eye height. You need to step back 2 meters and look at the point without blinking for as long as possible until your eyes get tired. Then you should stop the exercise, rest for a couple of minutes. When performing, it is important to imagine an evil look, other people's eyes that can do harm. The main thing is to inspire yourself when doing the exercise that no one can harm with a glance, that is, damage. It is important to see the thin threads that connect the gaze with this point on the wall and understand that these threads do not harm, but only protect against adverse influences.

The exercise will allow you to quickly take away the energy that someone has taken. A white candle is placed on the table and lit. It is required to sit in front of her and with an instant glance try to take the energy of fire, and then give it back. The exercise is repeated several times and ends at the stage of taking energy.

Some facts

• A lingering gaze between men can be interpreted as aggression, so be careful.
• If a man and a woman look intently at each other and the woman is the first to look away, then the position of subordination to this man is fixed in her.
• If a woman is not indifferent to a man, this can be determined by her dilated pupils. However, do not confuse this with a reaction to the lack of lighting.

The look of a person is a powerful tool that can impress any interlocutor. It can charm, it can attract or reject, it enhances the possibility of manipulative influence. Negativity directed at a person can be neutralized by him. Magnetic, odic, central - these are all characteristics of that very strong gaze that only a few have.

Everyone met people who, with their resolute, concentrated, almost unbearable look, "drew into a corner" because it seemed that a person sees through us. Such people can subjugate anyone, they are familiar with the power that an ordinary eye can have.

Psychology may not understand the mechanisms of influence of a look on a person, but numerous studies show that there is such an impact. For example, an experiment was conducted in which participants with their eyes closed were asked to feel someone else's gaze from the back. And in most cases, this was determined accurately.

It is believed that a look can send a thought wave to the interlocutor directly to the brain. In this case, you should look at the bridge of your nose, where the eyebrows converge. This is where the nerve center is located. In Eastern philosophy, there is a "third eye". Desires, feelings or commands sent to this center will be surely perceived if the gaze has that very power. To give the eye special properties, you need to develop certain skills.

Development of the power of the gaze

Training is required to develop the required skills. They will develop their skills, and after a while the result will be noticed: the interlocutors will begin to behave a little differently during the conversation, requests of any plan will increasingly be fulfilled unquestioningly.

Afghan girl Sharbat Gula

Exercise with a sheet of paper

Take a sheet of white paper, preferably thick. Draw a circle with a diameter of 3 cm in its center with a black felt-tip pen and fix it on the wall so that it is at eye level. Next, you should sit opposite this circle at a distance of 1 meter and peer into the center, focusing your eyes. Do not blink or look away for one minute. Concentration is required: it is very important to imagine that energy or a beam is coming from the eyes. After a short rest, you can do a few more of these approaches.

Then you need to move the sheet a meter to the left and look at it without turning your head (with peripheral vision) for 1 minute. Hang the paper a meter to the right, look with peripheral vision in that direction. The exercise is repeated several times.

It is desirable to perform these exercises every day, and when they become easy (usually after 4-5 days), you should increase the exercise time to 2 minutes per approach. Then reduce the approaches to one, prolonging the execution. Ultimately, you need to ensure that the concentration of vision is not lost for 15 minutes at a time. Exercise will help develop a strong look.

Blue-eyed African boy

Using a mirror

Set up a mirror in front of you and peer into the reflection of your own eyes. Then you need to draw on the mirror, between the eyebrows, a small dot and look at it. You should act according to the principle of the first exercise, increasing the peering time to 15 minutes per approach. This exercise will help you withstand the strong gaze of others and sharpen your own gaze.

More advanced eye exercises

There are more complex exercises that can be performed only after completing one of the previous ones:

1. A sheet of paper, the same as in the first exercise, is attached to the wall. You need to stand near the wall at a distance of 1 meter so that the circle is at eye level. The gaze is fixed on a point, and the head is made in circular movements clockwise, and then, after 1 minute, counterclockwise. You can't get out of the circle. This is how the optic nerves develop and the muscles of the eyes are strengthened.
2. You should stand with your back to the wall, look at the other wall, which is in front. The gaze is translated left-right, up-down, zigzag, in circles. Each option is one minute long. This exercise will strengthen your eye muscles.
3. The exercise requires a candle. It is necessary to light it, sit opposite so that it stands between straightened arms. You need to look at the flame without taking your eyes off for 1 minute with 3 repetitions. Energy waves from the flame will convey strength, severity, fill the look with warmth. In this exercise, energy is not given, but received.

Each of the exercises will strengthen the look, ultimately give confidence, rigidity, steadfastness. It is important not to squint, look straight, eyelids do not expand very much. If the eyes get tired while performing, they can be washed with cold water for a quick rest.

This look lasts depending on the situation. Most often, you should not look extremely closely and for a long time at the interlocutor. You need a calm and confident look that will make you obey.

You should not use the acquired skills for evil purposes, because evil returns like a boomerang.

The magic of the look

A magical look is considered a gift that appears from birth. Most likely, it cannot be learned, it can only be possessed. Some people do not realize how powerful a tool they have under their control. The magical look is fully used by clairvoyants, healers, sorcerers.

It is lucky if the magical look is directed at a person with good positive energy, a desire to help. But it negatively affects the state of a person if they begin to scan him, pump out energy, want to harm, jinx or spoil. But you can protect yourself from it if you learn to resist the flow of negative energy.

Exercises for the development of protective properties:

1. A black dot is drawn on a sheet of paper. The sheet is hung at eye height. You need to step back 2 meters and look at the point without blinking for as long as possible until your eyes get tired. Then you should stop the exercise, rest for a couple of minutes. When performing, it is important to imagine an evil look, other people's eyes that can do harm. The main thing is to inspire yourself when doing the exercise that no one can harm with a glance, that is, damage. It is important to see the thin threads that connect the gaze with this point on the wall and understand that these threads do not harm, but only protect against adverse influences.

1. The exercise will allow you to quickly take away the energy that someone has taken. A white candle is placed on the table and lit. It is required to sit in front of her and with an instant glance try to take the energy of fire, and then give it back. The exercise is repeated several times and ends at the stage of taking energy.

Some facts

• A lingering gaze between men can be interpreted as aggression, so be careful.
• If a man and a woman look intently at each other and the woman is the first to look away, then the position of subordination to this man is fixed in her.
• If a woman is not indifferent to a man, this can be determined by her dilated pupils. However, do not confuse this with a reaction to the lack of lighting.