How do you become a person? Why is this needed at all? The answers to these questions will be given below.

Why become a person?

How do you become a person? This question is becoming more and more more people. The reason for this is the usual stagnation. Stagnation in personal life, at work, in creativity, etc. The average citizen, who is quite well settled in life, has a family, a good, well-paid profession, and several hobbies, begins to notice that he does not represent anything significant. It does not bring almost any benefit to society, and if it does, then it is minimal. People do not notice him, and it is not at all possible to influence something serious.

What can be done here? Is it really worth it to keep on living In a similar way? A person begins to think about how to improve himself, how to become a more significant and valuable figure. This is how the individual becomes a person.

Where to begin?

The question of what exactly to start with is almost decisive in the development of a person as a person. The first thing to understand is one simple fact: one is not born a person, one becomes a person.

And so everyone around common man "tough guys"They were hardly born like that. Naturally, they worked hard and worked on themselves in order to achieve a real result.

Unfortunately, many people take their first steps towards self-improvement completely wrong. As a simple example we can cite the following situation: a simple, modest office worker suddenly begins to be rude and insolent to everyone. He enters into a confrontation with superiors, spoils all relations with colleagues, swears with his family. The reason for this is the unwillingness to live as before. The person to whom a certain moment everyone pushed around, splashes out the accumulated negative emotions outside in the hope of fulfilling the desire to "become a person in society."

Is he doing the right thing? Of course not. Next, it will be told about how, nevertheless, it is true and competent to change yourself and your character.

mirror rule

The first rule to consider is this: treat people the way you would like them to treat you. Everyone has long known the rule of mirroring: if an individual behaves rudely and arrogantly with others, then similar attitude will show up for him. However, this rule does not always work in the opposite direction.

Yes, friendly and polite people receive endless reproaches. What is it connected with? The thing is that people who are treated badly and unfairly, as a rule, allow themselves to be treated this way. Others see weak individuals and begin to control them as puppets.

What is the way out here? As usual, it's all about golden mean. A person should be friendly and polite with everyone, but not driven. In certain cases, especially impudent people Still, it's worth fighting back. However, this should be done delicately and culturally. Do not be offended, and even more rude. People around should not notice instability in human behavior: on the contrary, a strong inner rod, which is not so easy to break.

openness rule

As you know, personality is a very abstract and relative concept. This concept is formed only by the immediate environment of a person. Therefore, an individual who wants to become a personality must work on himself in such a way that this is noticeably reflected in the people around him. One of highlights which is worth highlighting here is honesty and openness. But how to achieve these qualities?

We all make mistakes. Almost everyone knows from childhood that it is not so terrible to make mistakes, it is much more terrible not to be able to admit one's mistakes. Why is it so important in society to leave open one's imperfection? The answer is very simple. This enables people to understand how honest a person is with others. And this is really important. After all, those individuals who do not know how to admit their mistakes are considered weak. Moreover, many are not at all willing to give up their wrong views and beliefs. An open, honest person with everyone is considered incredibly strong and strong in character. This is what can be called a personality.

Independence rule

Above, an example of a person who wants to show himself as a person with the help of rudeness and arrogance has already been given. Some people go even further. The question of how one becomes a person, they understand completely wrong. One fundamentally wrong thesis follows from this: "Everyone owes me."

The worst thing here is that similar people consider such a belief logically justified and true. And indeed: earlier the individual was led by the majority, many pushed him around as best they could. And so, the time has come when everyone owes it to him. Of course, this is fundamentally wrong.

A strong personality is always independent. This is one of the fundamental rules that all people who want to become something more than they are must remember. Dependency is always feedback. Needless to say, how much this connection hinders the path to self-improvement?

Presence Rule

Finally, it is worth highlighting the most important rule for people wondering how they become a person. It sounds very simple and familiar to many: you need to be here and now.

Each person should understand how important it is to improve in the area where he is, where he is comfortable. It is impossible to do something impossible, too grandiose and unbearable. It would seem that everything is clear. And yet many people do.

You can become a person only by stepping over yourself, instantly and abruptly. It's deep erroneous belief which needs to be disposed of. The path to personality is very long, difficult and thorny. There are always difficulties and obstacles. However, there are simply no other options.

Rule of Optimism

This is the simplest and most important rule. It is impossible to achieve something if there is a gloomy grimace on the face, and anger and negativity in the soul. A strong and courageous personality is always optimistic, and therefore strong. She looks fear in the face and smiles. That is why people who are going to work on themselves should take into account that it is impossible to change yourself without a drop of joy and optimism.

A person becomes a personality of society only when he leaves the comfort zone, but this does not seem to him something terrible. On the contrary, he rejoices in taking the first step.

Starting from the 7th grade, in social studies lessons, children begin to study who is called a personality. The concept of personality is the basis of psychology, social science, the beginning of the child's approach to science, to its understanding. The knowledge of children may be enough to understand who such a person is. However, it is not always easy for a child to understand and accept the concept of personality. In this article we will analyze who can be called a person.

Basic concepts about personality

Personality is every person who is individually different from others. Consider this definition in details.

Basically, people are naturally given a single mind, then the same age (in general case), must be equally developed, have common ideas about primitive things. So who is called a person? You can notice, comparing the same in terms of memory, physical and mental capacity, imagination, people that they behave in completely different ways. These differences are almost impossible to explain. But these differences make each person an individual.

Personality is a person with individual qualities. Absolutely every person can be a personality, for example, a person with some psychological, physical, mental characteristics.

Strong personality

And who is called - this is a person who puts himself above all circumstances, perceives all doubts and difficulties in a different way. This person does not adopt the style of dressing from anyone, may not follow fashion, but give himself only to his own preferences. The main thing that makes a person is his own behavior. Who is called a person? Togo, behaves as his own convictions tell him to. He is not afraid that he will scare someone away with his behavior, but he only acts as his heart tells him.

Unfortunately, in today's world you can meet not so many strong personalities. Everyone is trying to learn something from the other, to do as the others do. Fear and prejudice - that's what prevents a person from stepping back from the imposed norms and doing what he needs.

personality?

Who is called a person? A person who has integrity inner world. But even a person can turn into a copy of someone, that is, lose their individual qualities and features, become part of the crowd. But vice versa, a person can turn into a strong person.

The very person who can be called a person must make the first big step on the way to overcoming unnecessary principles and norms. He can defeat tendentiousness, stop following others. A person who can openly stand up against the whole society directed against him, defend his own views for life, its foundations - this is a person who is strong personality.

History shows that, unfortunately, being a strong personality does not always mean being a good man. In social studies lessons, they talk about such a strong personality as Adolf Hitler. However, Coco Chanel was also a strong personality, who not only achieved tremendous success in her business, but also convinced people who at first did not understand her that she was doing everything right.

Most often, students have to write essays on this subject. At leisure, I wrote an essay on social studies, maybe this example will be useful to someone.

Social Studies Essay:

According to L. Feuerbach, man is a part of nature, a biological, sensual-bodily being. It is impossible not to agree with his opinion. Man, whose development process - anthropogenesis began more than 2 million years ago, really combines the biological and spiritual principles.

Exist various theories his appearance. The largest number adherents has evolutionary. In accordance with this theory, developed by the naturalist Ch. Darwin, modern people come from great apes. Some are of the opinion that life came to the planet from outer space. According to theological theory, man was created by God, and the basis for this was the dust of the earth. After its appearance, anthropogenesis begins.

This process combines the formation of society and man as an individual and personality. All these concepts characterize it from different positions, but prove the combination of natural and spiritual features in it. Man is a biological being, first of all, because he is a part of nature. In addition, he has instincts, base needs. The products of the activity of nature in the human body are the body and the brain. All these characteristics support Feuerbach's idea of ​​biological traits.

As a spiritual being, a person is characterized by the ability to suppress and control instincts. Many qualities, such as the ability to communicate, speech, thinking and a number of other skills, appear only among people. A person does not imagine himself outside of society. This is evidenced by the concept of N.M. Karamzin personality. It includes the definition of man as a social being. In other words, a person is formed only in society and functions most effectively there. It is no coincidence that people who grew up outside of society among animals are qualitatively different from individuals who were brought up among their own kind.

The ability to control instincts is the most striking argument confirming that a person is a sensual-bodily being. social norms, upbringing, morality - all this does not allow individuals to act, focusing solely on their desires. Important role feelings play in the actions of people. The proof of this is the behavior of people in difficult situations. Mercy for the wounded, compassion, for example, became stronger feelings self-preservation of nurses who rescued soldiers under bullets during the Great Patriotic War.

In conclusion, it is worth noting that Feuerbach is absolutely right in characterizing man as both a natural and sensual-corporeal being. From birth, possessing exclusively biological features, the individual in the process of socialization becomes a personality, in which his spiritual principle is manifested.

Every person has the ability to choose their own path in life. Any step is a choice of internal dispute between good and evil, high feeling and base thoughts. Consider what makes a person a person - briefly? love for life and environment, merging with a society with pure thoughts and reason. Every man is born a man, but life principles and his ability to adapt to any situation, along with other factors, create morality in a person, one of the main criteria in the life of a social being.

How does a person become a person?

Alone with his thinking, a person himself educates and forms in himself those qualities that make a person a person. What is needed for this, first of all:

• to love and create;
• forgive and believe
• respect and protect others;
• be able to thank and be grateful;
• be responsible and fair;
• be honest and conscientious.

These are perhaps the most important advantages in the development and self-education of a person. Wisdom can also be attributed, but it comes to a person over the years. In addition, each person is initially capable of:

• to have thinking, reason, articulate speech and consciousness;
• to conscious purposeful activity;
• model your behavior
• express a value attitude to reality;
• anticipate further consequences their actions;
• satisfy needs, both spiritual and material.

It is inherent in each person to develop human values ​​and qualities in himself in the process of communicating with his own kind.

Each person has the right to express their emotions and feelings, it is these qualities that complement the complete image of a person. Among other things, it is necessary to have a family for the sake of which a person is ready to create and complete all undertakings.

The simplest requirements for a person is to keep clean appearance and creating in your life comfortable conditions throughout its life path. A person should be ready to help anyone in need, in trouble or difficult situation. He should instill in himself and his children such qualities as kindness, sincerity, compassion and responsiveness.

• It is interesting -

As for modern children, they, gaining maturity, only then become a person when they “absorb” the experience of their fathers. This is important for the new generation - this is their life example. They should feel the obligation to preserve and enrich themselves, to pass on to their children everything that was left to them. older generation up to grateful memory. The endless heredity of generations, held together by spiritual kinship, courageous readiness for self-denial for the sake of those who will live on earth, is the force that makes a person a person.

Mar 13, 2007, 01:26 AM

Personality is born or is it acquired? Do you need to work on this? Can not interesting person become a person?

Mar 13, 2007 at 08:53 AM

Oh, Masha, psychologists argue SO MUCH about what a personality is.
What do you mean by "personality"? In other words: tell me what you understand by the word "personality" and I can answer your question

Mar 13, 2007 at 10:31 am

There are no uninteresting people in the world.
Their fates are like the histories of the planets.
Each has everything special, its own,
and there are no planets like it.

And if someone lived unnoticed
and was friends with this invisibility,
he was interesting among people
by its very lack of interest.

Everyone has their own secret private world.
There is the best moment in this world.
There is the most terrible hour in this world,
but all this is unknown to us.

And if a person dies
with him his first snow dies,
and the first kiss, and the first fight...
He takes all this with him.

Yes, books and bridges remain
machines and artists canvases,
yes, much is destined to stay,
but something is still missing!

Such is the law of the ruthless game.
Not people die, but worlds.
We remember people, sinful and earthly.
And what did we really know about them?

What do we know about brothers, about friends,
what do we know about our only one?
And about his own father
we, knowing everything, know nothing.

People are leaving... They cannot be returned.
Them secret worlds not revive.
And every time I want again
from this irreversibility to scream.
Yevgeny Yevtushenko.

Mar 13 2007, 12:00 PM

Katya, thanks for Yevtushenko's poem, I like them ... very

Ksyusha, well .. for me, a person is when a person is something, not necessarily an academician and a talent right away .... but just a person, in the most expanded sense of the word - he has interests, and likes to listen to others, he has his own point of view on everything, he thinks himself ..... You can continue for a long time ....

And Temko created - because she began to doubt ... what if I'm wrong? and SUDDENLY THERE IS NO SUCH A CONCEPT IN GENERAL .... AND ALL PEOPLE AND PERSONALITIES - FROM BIRTH?

Pasha's mom

Mar 13, 2007 12:40 PM

QUOTE(MARASA @ Mar 13 2007, 12:00 PM)

AND ALL PEOPLE AND PERSONS - FROM BIRTH?

You almost answered your own question here. Your son is six months old. Can you call him a person? Does he have something he likes, something he doesn't like? Any interests already? Yes, he still cannot express his opinion in words, but he can show at the level he likes it with a smile, he doesn’t like it with tears. Is this not a manifestation of personality?

Mar 13, 2007 12:43 PM

I understand you. Those. By personality you understand the originality of a person, his individuality, uniqueness. Of course, in this context, IMHO, people are not just not born like that, not everyone dies as individuals. Learning to listen to others, to have a broad outlook, the ability to look at the world through the eyes of another person, to think for yourself - all this requires painstaking work, hard work above oneself. By itself, a person will not develop, that's for sure. It if to look in your context of concept "personality".

A small educational program Now I'm getting ready for the State Educational Standards at the Psychological Faculty, all these personalities are spinning in my head, I even dream at night. So. It counts in science. A person is born into the world as a representative of the species, i.e. as a purely biological being. That is, as an individual. Then he begins to be brought up, enters society, socializes in general. Becomes a PERSON. And his uniqueness, unusualness is individuality, it appears on the basis of personality. That is, the scheme is as follows: individual-personality-individuality. The problem is so significant that there is even such a question on the exam. At the same time, the concept of "personality" is still being debated.
Is it okay that I'm so itchy?

At the same time and repeated

Mar 13, 2007 12:47 PM

I think that these are manifestations of humanity and he is a little man ... but a personality .... his desires and interests are so fleeting ....

budush "ayamama, no .. on the contrary ... gathered my thoughts in a pile and arranged them in more correct words ... Well ... I somehow relate to this!

Mar 13, 2007 12:52 PM

Grey Cardinal.
I am an observer. A gray cardinal.
Others will be condemned... And such people,
like me, put kings on the throne
and run the show.
But NO ONE ever loves them.

Pasha's mom

Mar 13 2007, 01:01 PM

Mar 13 2007, 01:04 PM

Tex, I understood correctly, you don't consider your child to be a person?

Pasha's mom

Mar 13 2007, 01:11 PM

Tex, I understood correctly, you don't consider your child to be a person?

I think that his personality has not yet been formed, that's when he tells me - "Mom, I want to hear this and this music, look at this and that" .... In short, he will show his taste, interest ... and this already a personality ... And now he doesn’t even realize .. that he is HE ...

No, but no one forbids thinking like that, on the one hand, and on the other hand, the child physically cannot yet say what he wants. But that doesn't mean he doesn't want anything. I'm trying to remember my baby at six months. He likes one toy and categorically dislikes another, he likes one melody, and does not even react to another. In the end, people liked some, couldn’t stand others. And after all, in order to be a person, it is absolutely not necessary to tell everyone around, to show what you love and what you don’t. To explain something to someone, well, etc .....

Mar 13 2007, 01:16 PM

This is all clear ... But these emotions are at the level of instincts .. I think that if children could speak, it would still be unlikely that they could explain why this, and not that .... in any case ... It's just that, most likely, your concept of personality is a little different from mine ... What is a person for you, for me - a person .... And for a person, I set other criteria ...

Mar 13, 2007 01:18 PM

For me, too, personality is from birth. Each person is different, no two the same people, even children. But an interesting person or not, whether he knows how to think independently, etc. - this is another thing - this is a formed personality, with its own principles, foundations, thoughts.

Mar 13 2007, 01:31 PM

Psychological definition of personality.
V.M. Bekhterev

For psychiatrists, it seems like a completely hackneyed truth that mental illness and states of degeneration are illnesses of the personality. In view of this, it is natural that the protection of the health of the individual and its correct development is the immediate goal to which, above all, every doctor who devotes himself to the study of mental disorders should strive. Based on this, I believe that those gathered here will not complain about me if I occupy their attention with issues related to the person and the protection of her health and proper development from the point of view of a psychiatrist.

First of all, we must find out for ourselves what is meant by the name of personality?

It must be borne in mind that with regard to psychological definition personality, we meet with even greater contradictions in science. Indeed, with regard to the concept of personality, different views and opinions, depending on the direction in their basic views, which was held by various psychological schools.

We believe that in addition to the unifying principle, personality should also be understood as the guiding principle that guides the thoughts, actions and deeds of a person.

Thus, apart from internal association and coordination, the personality, as a concept, also contains an active attitude to the world around, based on the individual processing of external influences.

In this definition, along with the subjective side, it is easy to see that objective side personality. We think that in psychological questions we should not now use only subjective definitions. mental life is not only a series of subjective experiences, but at the same time it is always expressed and a certain number objective phenomena.

In fact, these objective phenomena contain the enrichment that the personality brings to its environment. external world. We'll say more! Only objective manifestations of personality are accessible to external observation, and they alone constitute an objective value.

According to Ribot, " real person- this is the organism and its highest representative - the brain, which contains the remains of everything that we were, and the makings of everything that we will be. It is inscribed individual character with all their activities and passive abilities and dislikes, their genius, talent and stupidity, virtues and vices, immobility and activity.

We will not sin against the truth if we say in short: from an objective point of view, a personality is a mental individual, which appears to be an independent being in relation to the surrounding external conditions.

It must be borne in mind that neither the originality of the mind nor Creative skills, nor what is known as the will, nothing in isolation constitutes a person, but total population mental phenomena with all their features, which distinguishes a given person from others and determines its independent activity, characterizes a person from its objective side.

The mental horizon does not seem to be the same between differently educated persons, but none of them loses the right to be recognized as a person in it, if only he manifests to one degree or another his individual attitude to the surrounding conditions, presenting himself as an amateur being. Only the loss of this self-activity makes a person completely impersonal; with a weak manifestation of self-activity, we can talk about a poorly developed or passive personality.

So, from an objective point of view, a person is nothing more than an amateur individual with his own mental structure and with an individual attitude to the world around him.

Conclusion: the mouse is a person.

Mar 13, 2007 01:43 PM

Pasha's mom

Mar 13, 2007 01:54 PM

No, it's interesting. Not everything you like or dislike can be explained. For example, I can’t stand pineapples, I can’t even stand the smell, well, I don’t like it and that’s it, and I can’t explain why I don’t like it. And that's not the only thing I can't explain.

Aleksandrochka

Mar 13 2007, 03:09 PM

Bravo!)

Mar 13 2007, 03:36 PM

Bravo!)

Pasha's mom

Mar 13 2007, 03:40 PM

Bravo!)

I will send you the account separately.

Mar 13, 2007 03:44 PM

Hmmm... maybe not "what makes a person a personality", but what makes a person "a bright, interesting (and so on, etc.) personality?
....
I just think that individuals are not made, but born, that is, that individual set of emotions, feelings, worldview - which is given initially, at the gene level, so to speak ...

What does uninteresting mean? ... maybe it's when the interests simply do not coincide?
Each one is interesting in its own way.

Mar 13 2007, 03:45 PM

AAAAA, I forgot to express my opinion on Temko.
Well, in general, how to become a person.
Well, they woke up, stretched, turned from side to side, sat on the pillow, sang a song.
It is necessary, it is necessary to wash in the mornings and evenings, and unclean chimney sweeps - shame and shame, shame and shame.
Eat early in the morning, hare, bagel.
Well ... all will heal, heal kind doctor Aibolit.

Mar 13 2007, 03:46 PM

Girls .. convinced!

Let's now taxi in the other direction ... Is a lowered person a personality?

Mar 13 2007, 03:48 PM

Mar 13 2007, 03:56 PM

Well, how about. Personality. Only crushed.

And a trampled personality is a personality? And who rattled her?

Pasha's mom

Mar 13 2007, 03:57 PM

Excuse me, what kind of person? Maybe lowered, not lowered? Some prison jargon poper. Shall we work on the hair dryer?

Mar 13 2007, 04:00 PM

Mar 13 2007, 04:01 PM

Excuse me, what kind of person? Maybe lowered, but not lowered? Some prison jargon popper. Shall we work on the hair dryer?

Exactly, I didn’t put it correctly .. of course - descended ... myself ....

"What makes a person a PERSON?"

I would initially put WHO and how, and then, when the baby is born, WHO and what ...
After all, even at the moment of feeling by a child whether he is desired or not, a program is being laid for the future.

In the process of life he will become a "Light personality" or ...

Mar 13 2007, 04:03 PM

How do I type slowly?

Mashul, what convinced you?

Pasha's mom

Mar 13 2007, 04:04 PM

Excuse me, what kind of person? Maybe lowered, but not lowered? Some prison jargon popper. Shall we work on the hair dryer?

MamPash, I'll go to the hospital right now. This is a threat.
And what do they usually trample on? Rhetorical question.

Wow, what a nimble one. Do you have a DVD in the hospital, if not, then I'm not raked

Pasha's mom

Mar 13 2007, 04:06 PM

I was really scared, honestly Personality, personality, only with a mental disorder or something like that.