I don't know what I want to do. Nothing burns in life

If you have ever been interested in the topic of fulfilling your desires, then you probably already know that the bulk of trainings, various tips and methods are guided by a ready-made clear picture. It is assumed that you know very well what you want. But what to do if the desire is still too vague, “not ripe”, you don’t want to give it up, but there is no clarity?

Don't worry if you visualize a direction but don't see it final result, this is not a reason to abandon your path. Nature itself is ready to take care of you and bring clarity to your thoughts. Let's take a look at how this can happen simple example.

Imagine that you are going to the store with the intention of buying yourself a new thing. While you have no idea what exactly you want and spend a lot of time among a variety of things, look at the price tags, try on something, or just walk among the colorful windows. There is no clarity. Finally, the forces leave you, and you leave with nothing. Before going to bed, you close your eyes, and before your mind's eye, hangers with clothes again float, things that you tried on or that you only lightly touched. Now you mentally apply a variety of styles to yourself, one thing replaces another, your thoughts flow smoothly, slowly, you imagine yourself in a variety of outfits, nothing limits you. And suddenly... Stop! Here it is! Yours! You recognized him. So here's what you want! Everything is clear and understandable. The dream vanished. There was a joyful excitement inside. More like morning! Yes! I want it!

How did you get it? What prompted you? Of course, this is your wise and caring unconscious. As soon as you relax, let go of thoughts, and it immediately came to your aid. While the conscious mind is sleeping, the unconscious can tell you the most The best decision. By willpower, by reason, you can only find a rational, practical option, but it will not bring you the expected joy.

Returning to our example, you can imagine the consequences of an exclusively "reasonable approach". Many women at least once, but faced with a situation where their conscious arguments, in the end, turned into disappointment and the question - "why did I buy this." It all starts with the thought - "there is nothing to wear, I need to buy something", in the fitting room she struggles with doubts: "it seems to be nothing, but ... the price", or "it seems to be so-so, but the price", "and where you’ll find better”, “nothing, I’ll cut it, I’ll shorten it”. Finally, the purchase is "forced"! Goal achieved! You bring home the purchased item. There is no strength, the mood is depressed. Something inside is resisting. You put on your new thing and immediately realize that the style is not the same, the color is not yours, the price is not at all pleasing, and, in general, this is not at all what you wanted. And imagine what the consequences would be if you bought a house or planned a move.

Therefore, when making decisions, making choices, deciding on desires, it is necessary to take into account not only conscious arguments, but also consult with your intuition. You cannot deceive yourself, your body. Your true desires always find a way to get out. Your task is to hear and receive this signal. By the way, if we are already talking about shopping, then you can spend right now a little research and find out how strong your connection with the unconscious is. Remember how many things you bought, and then realized that you do not want to wear or use it. The more “unnecessary things” accumulated in your house, the weaker your relationship with intuition. However, this applies not only to shopping, so you can appreciate any area of your life.

To make communication with the unconscious more manageable and predictable, there are special techniques. Of course, in order to get more effective result skills are needed. But do not deny yourself the opportunity to learn a little more about this world, remember, academics also once could not read. You can learn everything, feel free to take your first step.

This technique is based on visualization and assumes the presence of at least primary skills of entering into a trance. If you don’t own them yet, then be sure to find an opportunity to learn this, but for now ...

Decide on a question. What desire would you like to clarify for yourself? What exactly do you not know what you want?
Relax, close your eyes. Take a deep breath and exhale. Leave the fuss, worries and problems in the outside world.
Determine starting point. From it you will repel. Provide an approximate image of what you want. If you are looking for where to go on vacation, then imagine a city or area, if you want to buy a thing, then without effort on yourself, just let the first thought come and leave this image as a starting point.
Allow the image to "spin", transform, flow from one to another. Your eyes will still be closed. Dream. No conscious effort is needed, let your images and thoughts flow at your own pace.
Wait until something from the stream of images stabilizes, stops changing. You will have a desire to slow down, there will be a feeling of joy and confidence that this is really "it". A warm wave can run through the body. You will feel emotional uplift, delight, inspiration. Pay Special attention to bodily reactions. If there is even slightest doubt, you feel tension, so do not stop, continue to follow the flow of images. When you find "your own", you will have no doubts, you will bathe in positive emotions.
When you receive an answer, thank yourself and the unconscious for help and support. This will help you to strengthen your further relationship with your inner self and will help you gain communication skills faster.

Over time, with regular training, you will learn to easily understand your unconscious and you will receive answers much faster and more accurately, and sometimes right in the process of action related to your intention. Perhaps some of the answers will surprise you. But keep in mind that the unconscious is guided not only by your desires, but also has access to information not available to most people. His answer will be dictated, first of all, by the desire for your well-being, even if it seems to you that this is not quite what you expected. Learn to trust yourself, and you will have at your disposal a round-the-clock opportunity to live a happy and joyful life!

But what to do if the desire is still too vague, “not ripe”, you don’t want to give it up, but there is no clarity? Don't worry if you're imagining a direction but not seeing the end result, that's no reason to abandon your path. Nature itself is ready to take care of you and bring clarity to your thoughts.

Let's see how this can happen with a simple example. Imagine that you are going to the store with the intention of buying yourself a new thing. While you have no idea what exactly you want, and spend a lot of time among a variety of things, look at the price tags, try on something, or just walk among the colorful windows. There is no clarity. Finally, the forces leave you, and you leave with nothing.

Before going to sleep, you close your eyes, and hangers with clothes float before your mind's eye, things that you tried on or that you only lightly touched. Now you mentally apply a variety of styles to yourself, one thing replaces another, your thoughts flow smoothly, slowly, you imagine yourself in a variety of outfits, nothing limits you. And suddenly…

Stop! Here it is! Yours! You recognized him. So that's what you want! Everything is clear and understandable. The dream vanished. There was a joyful excitement inside. More like morning! Yes! I want it! How did you get it? What prompted you? Of course, this is your wise and caring unconscious. As soon as you relax, let go of thoughts - and it immediately came to your aid. While the conscious mind is sleeping, the unconscious can suggest the best solution.

By willpower, by reason, you can only find a rational, practical option, but it will not bring you the expected joy. Returning to our example, you can imagine the consequences of an exclusively "reasonable approach."

Many women at least once, but faced with a situation where their conscious arguments, in the end, turned into disappointment and the question "why did I buy this." It all starts with the thought “I have nothing to wear, I need to buy something”, in the fitting room she struggles with doubts: “it seems to be nothing, but ... the price” or “it seems to be so-so, but the price”, “where can you find better "," Nothing, I'll cut it, I'll shorten it.

Finally, the purchase is "forced out"! Goal achieved! You bring home the purchased item. There is no strength, the mood is depressed. Something inside is resisting. You put on your new thing and immediately understand: the style is not the same, the color is not yours, the price is not at all pleasing, and in general this is not at all what you wanted. And imagine what the consequences would be if you bought a house or planned a move.

By the way, if we are talking about shopping, then you can do a little research right now and find out how strong your connection with the unconscious is. Remember how many things you bought, and then realized that you do not want to wear or use it. The more “unnecessary things” accumulated in your house, the weaker your relationship with intuition. However, this applies not only to shopping, so you can appreciate any area of your life.

But, as mentioned above, the clues of the unconscious most often come chaotically, before going to bed or during a light daytime nap. This is not very convenient, especially when you need to get an answer to a burning question. To make communication with the unconscious more manageable and predictable, there are special techniques.

Of course, skills are required to obtain a more effective result. But do not deny yourself the opportunity to learn a little more about this world, remember, academics also once could not read. You can learn everything, feel free to take your first step. This technique is based on visualization and assumes the presence of at least the primary skills of entering a trance. If you don’t own them yet, then be sure to find an opportunity to learn this, but for now ...

1. Decide on a question. What desire would you like to clarify for yourself? You don't know what you want?

2. Relax, close your eyes. Take a deep breath and exhale. Leave the fuss, worries and problems in the outside world.

3. Define a starting point. From it you will repel. Provide an approximate image of what you want. If you are looking for where to go on vacation, then imagine a city or locality; if you want to buy a thing, then without effort on yourself, just let the first thought come and leave this image as a starting point.

4. Allow the image to "spin", transform, flow from one to another. Your eyes will still be closed. Dream. No conscious effort is needed, let your images and thoughts flow at your own pace.

5. Wait until something from the stream of images stabilizes, stops changing. You will have a desire to slow down, there will be a feeling of joy and confidence that this is really “it”. A warm wave can run through the body. You will feel emotional uplift, delight, inspiration. Pay special attention to bodily reactions. If even the slightest doubt arises, you feel tension, then do not stop, continue to follow the flow of images. When you find "your own", you will have no doubts, you will bathe in positive emotions.

6. After receiving the answer, thank yourself and the unconscious for help and support. This will help you strengthen your further relationship with your inner self and will help you gain communication skills faster.

But keep in mind that the unconscious is guided not only by your desires, but also has access to information that is not available to most people. His answer will be dictated, first of all, by the desire for your well-being, even if it seems to you that this is not quite what you expected. Learn to trust yourself, and you will have at your disposal a round-the-clock opportunity to live a happy and joyful life!

"Find yourself without searching", .

Hi dear

I often write and talk about purpose and how to find yourself. I get a lot positive feedback and thanks for his and Fr. But once I received a letter that I always remember.

One beautiful girl wrote that she couldn't answer 90% of the questions in the workbook. And this is not a test of knowledge in trigonometry, this is a way to remember what I like, what I love, how it is to be myself.

Therefore, a great solution is to study your body. How? For example like this:

Yoga. It is only important to choose a good instructor. How to do this, I wrote. A good instructor will always teach you to feel how, during an asana, some muscles are completely relaxed, others tense, and some are stretched.
If yoga for some reason is not suitable, you can choose pilates or stretching. Slow workouts, when it is important not to rush, but to take care of yourself in detail, pull, work with your boundaries, breathe in the place where the pain awakens, let go of this pain on a slow exhale.
Daily attention to the body. You don't have to go to the gym to learn to understand yourself. It's even better to combine these points. Just during the day, constantly pay attention to the body: you may feel a pinch or pain somewhere, cold in the feet or heat in the cheeks. Where are the feelings? Do you like them or not? If not, what can you do to make yourself more comfortable: put on warm socks, drink hot tea, stretch, or just lie down for 5 minutes? Every day. Constantly.

WHAT WRITING PRACTICES CAN HELP:

Target writing practices is also aimed at remembering who I am, through understanding what I like and what I don’t, what I am currently experiencing and whether I want to prolong it.

Buy a nice notebook and start writing in it every day. For example, you can write answers to such seemingly simple questions:

what ?;
the most beautiful and good thought per day;
three things that lifted my spirits;
that's what got on my nerves;
three things that made me nervous today;
how satisfied I am with life;
What color is my mood?

I can also offer some ready-made results:

The topic of this post is not easy. And what is described above are the conclusions that I was able to draw on my path of development and understanding of myself. Although I believe that there is much more to come, and in time I will be able to write another post with new insights and recommendations.

And of course, I really want to get feedback from you to better understand this interesting question. Do you understand yourself and your desires? What helps you stay in touch with yourself?

I'm glad the post was helpful. If so, share it on social networks;)

I wish each of us to feel strong inner rod who will not allow himself to be changed.

With a wish of happiness,

This post is one of the most popular. What can I say, this is the most frequently asked question I have consultations. More than 50 thousand have read the post, and how many of these thousand have started to do something and change?

I know that sometimes we need someone to lend a helping hand, or even better hug and support on the way to us. For this I created a marathon "Find yourself without searching", the second stream of which starts on February 25, 2019. More about it.

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- And this is our Kuzenka with fat rages.
It happens to everyone when there are no problems.

- We need to look at the people
they are full of problems and help someone.

What to do for those who do not know how to fill themselves, and turned into the wrong path? Who does not know how to become that person living in joy and happiness? How to find out your desires? These and other questions will be covered in this article.

Mistakes when searching for my desires, or I don't know what I want in life

Finding answers to pressing issues what to do with your life and how to find something you like, sometimes takes half a lifetime. Often this path to yourself is strewn with a series of obstacles and mistakes. And it happens that these moments plunge a person into an unpleasant state: one wants to be sad, then whine and complain, and sometimes it is senseless to diagnose everything.

How does it happen?

She wants to become a music teacher, and her father dissuades her, arguing that it is not prestigious, unprofitable.

- On what to live? Who needs your intelligence? And how to live on those pennies that a representative of the intelligentsia receives? Girl, be practical! The world is material! You can’t earn money for an apartment in Moscow, and you can’t earn money for the “goodies” that a prosperous life gives, either. So get that nonsense out of your head! Do you want my business partners to think that I am a rogue and cannot educate my daughter in a prestigious place? It's decided. Enter the Faculty of Business and Management.

“Well, why is that? Why isn't he interested?" she sighs softly. However, being an exemplary and obedient daughter, she, swallowing her tears, cancels herself for the umpteenth time, following the desires of others. But how else, if you are not heard by such important people in your life?

As Yuri Burlan's system-vector psychology describes, people with the anal-visual ligament tend to make such mistakes in the process of searching for their destiny. People with very diligent, assiduous, obedient, medalists and class leaders. And it gives a person the highest emotional amplitude. These are people who have sparkle, love, joy, warmth in their eyes. These are drawn to people. Create with them emotional connections: with grandmother, child, man. These are people-magnets, to which everyone is drawn.

The combination of both vectors gives us the golden child in total! Obedient from childhood, strives to do everything impeccably. The little owner of the anal vector really needs the praise of his parents. “I did everything very well, and my mother praised me” It's fun for a child. Sometimes these qualities are the object of manipulation for parents. "Do this or I won't love you", “If you don’t do this, you are a bad girl, you will upset your mother.”

Such manipulation can form a complex of a good girl (boy) in a child, which will affect his whole life. Instead of realizing his natural talents, such a person will do everything to “not upset”, “not offend”, in order to remain “loved and good”.

Consider another example

"Take a risk!" wives shout to their husbands

The wife drives her husband to the success training "How to make a million", and he goes. He sits, writes word for word evenly, line by line, Robert Kiyosaki's money quadrant. Tries to study well, as always.

He promised his wife this month on new job get settled. But just recently he was a furniture maker - a master of golden hands. His wife insisted on his leaving. “Stop hunchbacking for a penny! she said. - You have such potential! Tomorrow you go to training. I've even bought a seat for you. Go listen. That's where the real money can be made."

The man sighs. He is unhappy: I myself do not know what I want, but my wife knows. But does the wife know the desire of her husband, or does she push him to where she herself likes?

What to do if you don't know what you want from life

Considering systematically both of the above examples from the life of a person with an anal vector, one can find out that a person does not know himself. And our parents, relatives, people around us look at the world through themselves. They evaluate it according to their value system. In order not to have to complain later, accumulate resentment, get stuck in the past, or be led by other people's desires, you need to get to know yourself as true.

Ask yourself what makes me happy? Because I have a right to know. What do I want in life? What business should you dedicate yourself to? You can find answers to these and other questions, you just need to risk looking into the depths. To know your mental that lives as a person, and find an inner answer. It is very useful to play sometimes why - this is not a question for a psychologist, it is orders of magnitude more productive. Understanding mental properties- what talents are given to a person, what he is predisposed to - makes his life better, more interesting, fuller. A person gets the ability to realize himself as much as possible. A person becomes more confident in making decisions, and no one is able to lead him away from the right path that suits him.

So in the case of a wife who, through the prism of her properties, drove her husband into business, but he cannot enjoy it. The properties are different. People with an anal vector are not businessmen. What makes them happy is the best masters, teachers, husbands with golden hands, the most faithful and devoted. Or a girl who dreamed of becoming a music teacher - being engaged in a family business, she is unlikely to experience pleasure. After all, her talents will remain unrealized.

Understanding your properties allows you to find a business that makes a person happy.

What to do to start wanting something

And it happens. He is such a mysterious silent man ... a look fixed on infinity. Such depth! He is concerned with: "What is the sense of life? What is behind all this? Where does everything come from and where does it go? Who is in control of all this? After all, there must be an answer! Otherwise, what is all this for?

“Sometimes it seems that I don’t know what I want from life, because I have tried everything that is in this world and I’m not interested. Yachts, villas, family, love, sex. These are all stupid desires. I don't know what I want..." In my head, someone beats out a false melody with a hammer, and it seems there is no escape. Hell in which the body is forced to be. The body that holds him in a vice on this Earth and still holds him ... For a while, a dream helps to forget.

For days on end, he can lie face to the wall, so that no one touches, does not talk to him ... They just left him alone with himself, where no one prevents him from immersing himself in himself and his thoughts. Finally something to think about!

It is unbearable to live and not find an answer to the question - what am I living for? What is the sense of life? Is there any slightest sense in my forced stay here?

The carriers say - I don't know what I want, I don't want anything - because their desires are beyond material values. They are aimed at understanding the metaphysical world, which cannot be felt and touched. But you can know, reveal. After all, sound engineers, without realizing it, want to expand their consciousness, where there are no time and space limits. Want to know everyone governing force, creator, God. What laws of nature govern everyone. Even the question - what exactly do I want? - they have a completely different order, the abstract intellect is eager to get what is hidden in the unconscious. In order to satisfy the mental hunger, the sound engineer goes from one "teaching" to another, trying to reveal the meaning of life.

It is a person with a sound vector who can find answers in the process of cognition. But the answers lie not within himself, but in all people connected by invisible threads of the common eight-dimensional matrix of the psychic.

How to change your life

According to system-vector psychology, each person is a whole palette of desires. Our thoughts serve our very “I WANT”, which come from the unconscious. It lives with us and rules the ball.

The task of each of us- realize your innate desires. The more we are able to understand ourselves, our desires and undertake right action to fill them, the brighter and happier our life is. After training System-Vector Psychology reported by thousands of people.

We invite you on a date with yourself. Get to know your own Self and find out, filling every day with meaning. "System-Vector Psychology" by Yuri Burlan.

Proofreader: Natalia Konovalova

The article was written based on the materials of the training " System-Vector Psychology»

Everything today more people imbued with the idea that working at a routine job for "uncle" is a boring and inferior life, and they want to do what they love. Moreover, there is plenty of literature on self-improvement and starting a business. But even when the circumstances are favorable and they have the opportunity to do whatever they want, they do not know what to take on. How do I determine which business is my favourite?

Or another case when life seems to have everything that is needed for happiness - family, home, and work, but somehow boring and empty, and something is still missing, and what is not clear. And then the person asks the question - what do I really want from life?

Such situations show us that emotional sphere man and his inner world is a complex area, and it can be controversial and difficult to manage. growing up process and personal realization is impossible without mastering one's emotional world, the ability to control one's mood, to control the expression of one's emotions. When an adult, and even at the workplace, begins to lose his temper, raise his voice, throw objects or cry - this is perceived as a manifestation of infantilism.

But very it is important to see the difference between mastering your emotional processes and their destruction, or displacement.

If this happens, a person ceases to hear himself, alienates himself from himself and loses his inner guide, the voice of his heart. And then freedom turns into a curse for a person, because he does not understand how to live without external indicators and constraints. However, there is a vague knowledge that this should not be so, and a person turns to psychology with the intention of "knowing himself better." And under this veiled expression lies a frightening meaning: “Help. I do not know what I want".

When asked by one of the members of the group how to find out what she wants, one coach I know answered this way: “I will give you an account number, you transfer your apartment, car to it, and then come and I will tell you what you want” . You might think that in such an ironic way, he wanted to push the woman to start appreciating what she actually has now - and she wants it. When a person does not understand what he really needs from life, then he easily becomes a subject for manipulation and use by other people in own interests- from going into a sect to eternal service to one's closest relatives. When a person does not catch messages from within himself, he begins to believe what others tell him about his life. And then he lives not his own own life, but the one that is beneficial to someone else, society.

More Leo Tolstoy Yasnaya Polyana began to teach peasant children, confirming the idea that they had the same talents as noble children. That is, ability is a property human nature, but not social status. Today, the idea that each person is born with special inclinations, predispositions to a certain field of activity has already become generally accepted, and if he determines accurately enough what his soul is for and what is his destiny, then he can achieve great things in this. success or even invent something new. Or by at least live a good, fulfilling life that brings him joy and satisfaction. And not necessarily his area will be music, science or art - you can be a genius in something ordinary, even in darning socks. This shows the uniqueness of the individual, and there are no two people in the world with exactly the same set of abilities.

How to find and reveal in yourself these most unique special abilities?

Very simple. That which is the most joyful and interesting for a person, that which makes him forget about time, get carried away - and there is his destiny. And it begins to manifest itself from childhood.

If you carefully observe the child, then with enough early years one can distinguish in it preferences for certain games, environments, people, objects. This is often seen in biographies. famous people. For example, child psychologist Julia Gippenreiter published a book where she showed how parental encouragement, attention to the interests of the child helped to ensure that in the future the talent of such personalities as Stanislavsky, Prokofiev, physicist Richard Feynman and others, flourished to a world level.

Sometimes a child does not need parental encouragement, but simply a benevolent acceptance of the child's hobby is enough to create a favorable environment in which delicate flower nascent talent could calmly mature and be nourished by inner interest.

The frequency with which favorite children's games in the future coincide or are close in the type of activity of those people who have found a favorite thing for themselves is very high. The only thing is that these should be games that the child plays while being alone with himself. Noisy group games are unlikely to provide information about a unique inner world each of their members. Constant employment, socialization, supervision can make it difficult for a child to contact his inner world. It happens best when the love of significant adults is not like a directional light, but like a diffuse light bulb. That is, the child, on the one hand, knows that his mother is nearby and she is available, but at the same time he can do whatever he chooses. Parental warmth and acceptance are those rays, in the light and warmth of which the seeds of his interests, desires, curiosity, and imagination begin to sprout in a child.

What does your inner child want?

When a person grows up, the child that he was does not disappear, as is commonly believed, but continues to live inside him as special condition, or archetype. And it is this inner child owns the key to questions about vocation, creative discoveries and answers to fundamental question"What do I want?" Wanting is the prerogative of a child, but while a personality is being formed, another inner figure is nurtured in us - an Adult.

The task of the Adult is to provide the Child with the embodiment of his desire in a social acceptable form. On the one hand, to agree with the Child about the rules and conditions, and on the other hand, to find his place in the human community, where he could be himself and do what he is interested in. We have both the one and the other, the main thing is to recognize them, to provide between them effective interaction and do not confuse their functions. When a person stops hearing himself, then “what do I want?” he begins to decide not with his heart, but with his head, coaxing himself, looking for arguments or allowing himself to be directed by others.

What stops us from doing what we want?

Some people don't know what they want, nothing sparkles in their eyes; they feel like they don't want anything. This may be because the person early age often met with the unfulfillment of his desires, which causes discomfort, and for relief, he used to force his desires out of consciousness so that they would not bother him. The state when “you don’t need anything” is energetically less expensive than the state when you want it, but “they won’t give you anyway”. However, in this state, the soul languishes and gets bored, and gradually falls asleep. She sends her signals less and less often, because she is still not heard. And then it needs to be gradually “awakened” with the help of special techniques.

Other people know what they love but don't believe it's worth doing because they feel like the world doesn't want their work, or because economic or other obstacles are insurmountable. Such people need to revive or create in themselves inner voice a belief in themselves that they most likely didn't hear from significant adults when they were growing up.

Belief in yourself is the energy that infuses the actions necessary to overcome the obstacles that always stand in the way of the goal, whatever it may be. If there is not enough faith in oneself, a person can very easily become discouraged or constantly depend on someone else's assessment and someone else's will and help. But we need obstacles because they force us to mobilize all our abilities to overcome them and develop in ourselves those skills, abilities and qualities that we still lack. And through this happens the growth and development of personality. As the saying goes, "what stretches, it develops."

Someone loves a lot of things, gets carried away, but then he gets bored. This usually happens after reaching a certain social status or skill level. Most likely, this person likes to achieve results and receive praise, and not at all this activity itself.

After all main criterion favorite business - immersion in a process that brings pleasure, regardless of the result.

There are also many myths about what you love, and one of them is that inspiration and uplift will accompany you all your life. But it's not. And in your favorite business there are periods of stagnation, repetition, and creative crises, and devaluation by others. But if a person really likes the process itself, then the joy returns, the expended energy is restored, and the flow resumes, deepening more and more, with an unlimited growth of skill.

Thus, for each of us there is some kind of own path. The main thing, and often the most difficult thing, is to find it. After all, I repeat, our inner world is very complex, and in addition to the voice of the soul, we hear many other voices in ourselves.

For example, sometimes a person has a desire to leave people to be left alone. Most likely, this is the voice of his injured part. As already mentioned, inside there is also a strong need for social acceptance, recognition, praise, respect. And it is also not the voice of the soul. It is easiest to confuse our true desires with superficial, instinctive desires to satisfy our fleeting whims and whims, which are immediately replaced by new ones. Despite the fact that pampering yourself sometimes in something is necessary condition inner harmony, a person also needs the ability to postpone momentary pleasure for the sake of a future significant goal.

Putting things in order in your inner world and getting to know all these voices is a difficult and slow process, but it is real and allows everyone who wants to work on himself to improve the quality of his life and start doing what he really wants.

Nadezhda Baranova,
psychologist at the center successful relationship from 2011 to 2016

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