subpersonality (English) subpersonality) - perceived by consciousness as something separate from itself, as well as an internal image attached to these elements. Subpersonalities arise at different stages of a person's development and provide his protection, the realization of his needs and allow him to live the way he lives. The base representation of the method psychological research Personality "Dialogue with voices" (eng. Voice Dialogue, authors: Sidra and Hal Stones) is the position that a person's personality is not one, but consists of many separate "I", which are called subpersonalities. (fig.1)
Subpersonalities can be at enmity, talk, negotiate, make friends...
The concept of subpersonality was introduced into scientific use within the framework of psychosynthesis (psychotherapeutic system) developed by the Italian psychiatrist and psychologist R. Assagioli. In accordance with his ideas, a subpersonality is a dynamic substructure of a personality that has a relatively independent existence. The most typical subpersonalities of a person are those associated with the social (family or professional) roles that he takes on in life, for example, with the roles of a daughter, mother, son, father, grandmother, beloved, doctor, teacher, etc.
Subpersonalities manifest themselves indirectly, for example, in the case when a person talks to himself, leads internal dialogue. The voices that speak at the same time ask questions and answer in the inner world of a person, and there is a manifestation of his subpersonalities. The qualities, abilities and skills of a person that he demonstrates in his life are also manifestations of his subpersonalities.
In the structure of consciousness, the creators of "Dialogue with Voices" distinguish three levels:
- The level of observation, or awareness.
- subpersonality level.
- ego level - golden mean, which lies between the "primary I" (subpersonalities) and "detached I" (observation) of a person.
Observation differs from the mind in that when perceiving the surrounding world at this level, a person does not give any assessments, does not draw any conclusions.
According to the theory of Sidra and Hal Stone, subpersonalities that have arisen in the process of maturation of the human psyche serve to protect " inner child"from vulnerability and defenselessness and allow you to achieve your goals in life. (Fig. 2)
Subpersonality is a popular psychological metaphor for what is inside your big personality there are many small living beings, many small personalities. naming personality traits subpersonalities makes it possible to work with them as with living beings: fight with them, talk with them, negotiate ... Subpersonalities are another name for personal characteristics, desires, aspirations and habits.
In therapeutic practice, subpersonalities are usually endowed with abilities and virtues that greatly exceed those of the client. Namely, by the will of psychologists and psychotherapists, the subpersonality is a very lively, active and creative being, able to run into the past, get deep into the Unconscious, establish informal and active contacts with other subpersonalities, able to know what the client himself does not know, able to take care of a client who always has only positive intentions and is able (sometimes) to act according to the principle "In order, not Because ...".
"Subpersonality is a convenient model that allows us to deal with driving forces personality, but we must not forget that this is just a model that does not claim to be the original. When they talk about subpersonality, they mean a certain set of attitudes, behavioral stereotypes, beliefs, drives, etc., which takes on a holistic, distinguishable form only in our minds.
Roberto Assagioli.
The number and characteristics of subpersonalities can be different for different people, and this depends both on the actual personal characteristics and on the person’s fantasy, the person’s readiness to assume one or another subpersonality.
The use of such a working metaphor as "subpersonality" has taken root in psychotherapeutic work. Such naming of habits and personality traits as subpersonalities for people with developed metaphorical thinking makes it possible to briefly and concisely describe a rich behavioral set in one word. A developed subpersonality has its own ethics and aesthetics, as well as peculiarities of physiology, posture, movements, intonations and facial expressions peculiar only to it. This gives the client more serious attitude to what is happening and more motivates.
So what are subpersonalities? In some simplified sense, this is “a person’s inner community of selves”, which can be translated as follows: “the many inner “I” of a person”.
It is still difficult for me to detect them in myself, but (as usual) it is easy in others. In general, everything is seen more clearly from the outside. You can notice the drastic changes that occur with a person. I was just a Modest, and now an Exhibitionist, subpersonalities are rapidly replacing one another.
The concept of subpersonality was introduced into scientific use within the framework of psychosynthesis (psychotherapeutic system), which was developed by psychiatrist R. Assagioli. According to his theory, a subpersonality is a substructure of a personality that has an independent existence.
Here is an example of how different subpersonalities manifest: when I wake up, I think about how good it would be to get up early. But the next day, the alarm rings, and I understand that the person who is now deciding whether to get up or not to get up has a different attitude to this. He has a different life.
If you use the theory of subpersonalities, you can find your own approach to others. Roughly speaking, instead of "he is a boor" - "he is in this moment treats me like a boor."
One psychologist explains the phenomenon of subpersonalities this way: “I agree that the term “subpersonalities” sounds somewhat confusing. That is, it looks like some strange anthill from the devil knows who lives inside you. In fact, all these subpersonalities are neural networks that operate in the usual mode. How many such schemes do we have? It's impossible to say. Presumably, every skill we have, and even new insight, is a new schema.”
In general, each person has his own set of subpersonalities that differ from the subpersonalities of other people. It is important to name each subpersonality, for example: Adventurer, Prudent, Defenseless Girl, Smart Guy, Lone Wolf, "What will people think", Critic, Wrecker, Accountant and so on.
An example of internal confusion and disagreement of subpersonalities in the internal dialogue:
VOICE FIRST: - Sasha, you have to work today. Do you want to receive an award?
VOICE SECOND: — Spending the whole evening on work?! Yes, I'd better call Lenka, chat or hang out! I haven't had fun in such a long time.
VOICE THREE: — I don't want to see this Lenka! She teases me all the time and “gracefully” humiliates me. I feel humiliated next to her.
Since the psyche is not its own enemy (in most cases), it can be assumed that each subpersonality has its own desires, its own goals, even its own mission. For example, to protect a person from something that the subpersonality considers dangerous. You can conduct such a dialogue with subpersonalities (having previously found them and given names).
Parent, Adult or Child
The American psychologist and psychiatrist Eric Berne singled out three subpersonalities - three states of "I", which in turn interact with the same members of the triad of other people. These subpersonalities - Parent, Child and Adult, according to Bern, are in everyone, and everyone behaves in a similar way.
The Child is desires and emotions, its sphere includes joy and sincerity, spontaneous creativity and at the same time impulsive crimes, because the power of desires of the Child is difficult to resist. The parent, on the contrary, is duty, morality, norms and rules. He is responsible for himself and for others, knows how to do it, but does not think why, evaluates and demands. Both are opposed by an Adult who shares his personal opinion and the surrounding reality. The Adult works with facts, thinks logically, knows how to restrain the impulses of the Child and question the prejudices and memorized rules of the Parent.
Naturally, each of the subpersonalities can have a specific character (the Child can be both cheerful and aggressive, the Parent can be both caring and punishing). Subpersonalities can be different strength and expression, and each of them may try to seize complete power over a person.
In this concept, subpersonalities are important not by themselves, but, first of all, by their communicative function - therefore, the method that works with them is called transactional analysis. When two people meet, in fact, not two, but as many as six personalities are talking, that is, two sets of Parents, Children and Adults, and success or failure in communication will depend on who they choose as their representatives. So, for example, in a serious conversation, an Adult of one person with his logical layouts will find it difficult with the Parent of another, who can only reproach and punish, or with a Child who is capricious or fooling around. Normally, the owner of three subpersonalities easily switches between them for effective business or personal communication. And all failures happen either when stuck in only one role, or when the combination of “representatives” chosen for communication is unsuccessful.
Between Persona and Shadow
A much greater variety of inner inhabitants is found in the theory of Carl Gustav Jung and his followers. In this concept, everyone has not only a personal, but also a collective unconscious, which is made up of universal mental structures - archetypes. Jung himself spoke about the fact that everyone has a Persona, a subpersonality that is shown to the world; Shadow, consisting of shameful and rejected qualities; divine baby, Wise old man, as well as Animus and Anima, the inner man in a woman and inner woman at the man.
Post-Jungians began to "inhabit" a person's personality with an increasing number of characters and talk about their positive and negative qualities. Robert Johnson, in He, She, and Us, described the danger that people in romantic relationships actually love not real person, but his inner man or a woman. Marie-Louise von Franz devoted her research to “The Eternal Youth. Puer Aeternus" to modern young men, captured by the beautiful and infantile archetype of the Eternal Boy. And Clarissa Pinkola Estes in the book "Running with the Wolves" in more poetically than scientifically substantiated the urgent need to actualize the archetype of the Wild Woman.
Escape from oneself: what is a dissociative fugue?
Due to the infinite extensibility of the collective unconscious, some authors have created entire systems of role archetypes that make up a person's personality. In the Russian school of fairy tale therapy, it is believed that depersonalized characters of fairy tales live in everyone - the Tsar / Queen, Peasant / Peasant Woman, Warrior / Warrior Woman, and so on, strengths which a person needs to learn how to use correctly. So, the peasant needs to be “turned on” for patient work, the Warrior for healthy aggression, the Tsar for management and responsibility, the Merchant for making money for pleasure, and the Monk for self-immersion and reflection. The group of subpersonalities of Jin Shinoda Bolen and Galina Bednenko, who showed the inner world of a person inhabited by images of gods and goddesses of ancient Greek mythology, is arranged in a similar way. Apollo and Athena, Poseidon or Hera, in all the diversity of their qualities and functions, can manifest themselves with different strengths in a person and in equally lead him to success or failure.
Similar visualization human qualities, aspirations and needs are quite convenient way understand your feelings and desires. For example, if you notice the perfectionism and snobbery in yourself - the properties of Apollo, you can immediately remember his opposite Dionysus and think about how to bring more spontaneity and fun into your life. Bohlen compares the system of role archetypes with a committee, where normally everyone is allowed to speak and where the process is led by a healthy ego. That is, normally a person sees all the wealth of his social roles, motivations and characteristics, and also knows how to manage them: let someone go ahead, hold someone back, reconcile someone. However, when weak ego- the chairman of the committee (you can think of him as a will or as awareness) can start endless conflicts or there will be a sole seizure of power. Therefore, a person who in all situations behaves, for example, like a Warrior (speaking in terms of fairy tale therapy), for the most part will act to the detriment of himself and others, despite the certainly bright image.
How do you deal with your inner critic?
Finally, a separate direction of psychotherapy is even devoted to the subpersonalities of a person. Richard K. Schwartz in System family therapy of subpersonalities” talks about the Personality Center (somewhat similar to Jung’s Self), which is always healthy and must manage subpersonalities, and gives his classification of subpersonalities that can be traumatized and with which you can work in the process of therapy. This is the Manager and the Exile, the Protector and the Pessimist, the Critic and, again, the Child. These subpersonalities can fight for power, interfere with each other, and also take care or help. Schwartz looks at subpersonalities as a family whose members are connected shared memory and pretty difficult relationship. Each member of the family is needed and useful, if he does not seize power or simply does not begin to behave unconstructively. For example, for a traumatized Child, that is, for a wounded creative and sincere component of the personality, the Protector can stand up, but this protection can be expressed in the erection of boundaries and a ban on further active actions and new contacts. At the human level, this will be expressed in creative stagnation and impoverishment of emotions, therefore, during psychotherapy or even during simple introspection, you will have to negotiate with the Defender to let the Child go free.
Two other ambiguous sub-personalities, the inner Censor and the inner Critic, Special attention creative self-help icons Julia Cameron (“The Artist's Way”), Barbara Sher (“It's Good to Dream”) and Ann Lamott (“Bird to Bird”) are giving. Normally, they, like other subpersonalities, allow a person to be more adaptive and better cope with life tasks. The censor allows you to control what, where and to whom you can say and what not; and the Critic shows where you can improve your results, and does not stop there. However, having received too much power (here hello to the Bernese Parent of our entire culture, pointing to problematic rather than successful moments), the Critic and the Censor do not even let the creative process begin, all the while squabbling and finding fault. And if at least some business is brought to an end, then it will instantly depreciate. So useful skills of self-control and self-criticism can only lead to neurosis and procrastination, because why start a business if it is impossible to do it perfectly. However, it is possible to negotiate with subpersonalities, as well as with living people, and if it doesn’t work out, then deceive them. So, to interact with the Critic, you can use special techniques, for example, set yourself the task of writing or drawing as much as possible in a limited time - during such a time the Critic does not have time to “wake up”. By the way, the painful topic of work in the most last moment before the deadline can be turned for good and used to combat this subpersonality.
It is important to remember that "the deception of the inner critic", "the revival inner hero” or a simple desire to reason aloud on different voices should not be considered as a light version of dissociative disorder. With it, subpersonalities often do not know about each other, and, in addition, quite a serious trauma is necessary for its development, most likely in childhood, and possibly an initial predisposition. And letters to yourself-Child or leadership of a team of internal fairy-tale characters - understandable ways self-help through working metaphors.
For each situation, we, often without realizing it, develop an appropriate image of ourselves, a system of postures and gestures, feelings and actions, words, habits and opinions. This set of elements in each specific situation forms something like a personality in miniature. R. Assagioli called such patterns subpersonalities.
By P. Ferrucci's definition, subpersonalities are psychological education like living beings coexisting in common space our personality. Each subpersonality leads its own lifestyle and has its own driving motives, often different from the lifestyle and motives of other subpersonalities. There is a crowd in each of us. There can be a rebel and a thinker, a seducer and a housewife, an organizer and a kind person, etc. And often they treat each other not in the best way.
In the context of transpersonal psychology, "personal self" and "spiritual self" are innate, an integral part of human nature. Working with subpersonalities is a process of awareness, acceptance and transformation various parts personality, through which it becomes possible the real disclosure of personal potential. Every problem is seen as an opportunity. internal growth, but actually working with the problem - how direct involvement in revealing our internal capacity. This approach significantly changes the perception of our own suffering and allows us to develop a more positive attitude towards it.
Subpersonalities perform the function of personal self-expression tools. Being energetic psychodynamic structures, they seek self-expression in outside world. Through self-expression, subpersonalities reveal our inner roles that affect each other. Changing the transformation of at least one subpersonality affects the entire psyche of the individual as a whole.
According to G. Speaker, the formation of subpersonalities occurs already in the first months of a child's life. Moreover, there is also an opinion, based on empirical experience, that they are generally our mental heritage, rooted in our parents, their ancestors, and to more distant generations. In a one-year-old child, these psychological structures already exist in a formalized state. They manifest themselves in the form of typical behavior and are associated with various desires and needs. Over time, depending on experience and memory, subpersonalities become more multidimensional and complex.
Subpersonalities crystallize by repeating acquired reactions. Having become a formed part of the personality, subpersonalities seek to satisfy their own needs and realize desires, and since different subpersonalities have different desires, often they come into conflict with each other. Then the subpersonality tries to realize its constructive or destructive qualities by force. This process usually proceeds unconsciously and is accompanied by the familiar feeling: "I didn't want to do this, and yet I did it again!"
In order to manifest themselves, subpersonalities need such tools as the body, emotions and thought patterns, and each subpersonality, coming to the fore in certain circumstances, tends to act on behalf of the whole personality. A person hears thoughts in himself: "I want ..., ... I will do ..., I love ..." and mistakenly thinks that he, as a whole person, really wants this, loves, etc. In fact, it is controlled only by a small part of the psyche that has received relative autonomy.
Almost all of us can remember life situations when he acted in a way that he would not like to do, but could not change his behavior in any way. This is often accompanied internal struggle between two conflicting voices, where each tries to convince of his own rightness. For a relatively balanced person, this process is felt as an internal hesitation, doubt, weighing pros and cons. He does not hear "voices" separate from himself, because identifies himself with his mental apparatus. Therefore, he is sure that he makes decisions. Even if this decision is unsuccessful, he is inclined to blame it on best case yourself, considering yourself whole person, and at worst - he is looking for someone to blame on the side.
The technique of working with subpersonalities at the first stage of psychosynthesis involves the study of only those of them that fall into the field of our consciousness from the middle unconscious, which means that by communicating with them we can keep the situation under control. The content of this area is "drawn" into the field of consciousness most easily. However, it is advisable to master and conduct the appropriate exercises under the guidance of an experienced trainer.
M.Brown and K.Basquin propose to consider each subpersonality, in turn, consisting of three levels. Following the example of the structure of the entire psyche as a whole, they single out subconsciousness, consciousness and superconsciousness in each subpersonality. Each subpersonality has a Higher Self and animal energy, the energy of life, located in its lower part.
When we identify a subpersonality, we have the opportunity to step back from it and observe from the outside. Often, disidentification with one or another subpersonality is accompanied by a feeling of enlightenment and liberation. In some cases, the identification of subpersonality causes anxiety or fear. For example, when one woman suddenly discovered in herself the subpersonality of the Victim, she exclaimed: “If I stop complaining, then what else will I have?”” In fact, it was the Victim herself who spoke from her.
However, whatever the initial emotional reaction, awareness of the actual state of affairs increases and, consequently, the degree of freedom increases.
Looking at a flat diagram of the structure of the psyche, one may get the impression that something is “higher” and something is “lower”, something is “better” and something is “worse” But it should be remembered that in reality it is simply there is a kind of environment, an environment from which we draw any content. There are no bad or good subpersonalities, they all express some vital components of our being, although at first these components may seem negative to us. Subpersonalities become harmful only when they control us. Then they impose their own stereotypes on us.
The ultimate goal in working with subpersonalities is to feel more strongly as "I", as the center of personality. Deepening our acquaintance with subpersonalities, we strive to become a single whole again, and not to break up into many opposing sub-selves. The center of personality can be compared to a place where complete silence is maintained, while it can be very noisy around. From the center we can address one or another subpersonality, manage it, correct it, take care of it. You need to be able to sympathize with subpersonalities, and, if possible, not ignore their needs.
There is a danger that a person may embark on an endless search for subpersonalities. As a result, instead of feeling stronger and richer from the experience, he gets a sense of losing his own unity. There comes a moment when a person begins to build new labyrinths for himself instead of looking for a way out of the existing ones. Therefore, it is necessary to develop a fundamental sense of proportion. The task is not to find as many subpersonalities as possible, but first of all to become their master, gradually contributing to the coordination of interests within the living whole.
Before we started working with them, subpersonalities are worlds that are not interconnected, unaware of the existence of others. But as soon as awareness connects them, connections begin to be established between them, they merge, unite, creating new formations. This releases a large number of energy that can be used for further work.
P. Ferrucci sees in subpersonalities "fallen manifestations of archetypes superior qualities". Subpersonalities are fallen or perverted manifestations of transient qualities that exist at the highest levels of our psyche. Thus, a hyperactive subpersonality can be considered as a perversion of the energy archetype, a stubborn subpersonality as a perverted form of will, etc. But how far subpersonality from its source, it can serve as a means to reunite with the latter.
By condemning the subpersonality, we impede its progress towards the source. By not accepting it, we contribute to its degeneration. Subpersonalities are like people. In order for them to open up and show their best sides, they must be treated with understanding.
The following exercise will introduce you to the concept of subpersonalities in your personal experience.
1. Consider one of your characteristics, attitudes, or motives.
2. Close your eyes and become aware of that part of you. Let the image that represents it arise. You should not try to consciously look for some kind of image. Let it appear by itself, as if you were looking at the screen and did not know what would soon appear on it. It can be absolutely anything creature, or a fantastic image, or an inanimate object.
3. As soon as the image appears, let it reveal itself to you without interfering in any way and without giving any assessments. Remember that even a seemingly inanimate object in this situation can become a living being capable of change. Let him change if he wants to. Feel how it makes you feel general feeling.
4. Now let him speak and express himself in some way. Talk to him, ask about his needs (in this world even inanimate objects able to speak). Before you is your subpersonality - a rational being living its own life.
5 Now open your eyes and write down everything that just happened. Give this subpersonality suitable name, which will help you define it in the future: Whiner, Artist, Gad, Santa Claus, Skeptic, "I know", "I told you" ", etc. Describe her characteristic features, habits, features.
6. After you name and exhaustively describe one subpersonality, you can move on to others.
It is not always possible to give a subpersonality any independence the first time. Often the expectation of some specific image slows down the real manifestation of subpersonality and a person sees a frozen picture created by an effort of will. It happens that the image does not appear at all and we declare that we are not capable of this kind of exercise. In these cases, it can be assumed that our "I" puts up, for some reason, protection from intrusion new information. Sometimes it is useful to imagine the subpersonality that we associate with this protection, and first try to find out from her the reasons for such behavior and, as far as possible, agree with her.
In any case, you should not despair. If you try to do this exercise again and again, day after day, you can get the desired result pretty quickly. In addition, the technique “if I saw:” can be effective. It consists in the following: a person who claims that he is not able to see a moving independent image of a subpersonality begins the description with the words: “If I saw my subpersonality, for example, fear , then I would see:; what follows is a description of what is presented to the person. As the description progresses, the setting: "I can't see..." fades into the background, or completely disappears. A person himself may not notice how his subpersonality "comes to life".
In the field of work with subpersonalities, an extensive arsenal of various exercises has been accumulated. But in each case, the coach has to use his creative abilities to help if necessary, because. it is difficult to predict how this or that subpersonality will behave.
For more effective interaction with other people, for a better understanding of oneself, it is desirable to highlight certain facets in one's personality, which are called subpersonalities. Subpersonalities are programs that are created in the subconscious to solve repetitive similar tasks, to perform certain roles (Housewife, Athlete, Daughter, Sluggish, Lazy Me, Great Combinator, Intelligent Locksmith with a secondary education). Facets of personality are tools that are used by a person for more effective and harmonious behavior in a particular life situation.
A person has several key subpersonalities associated with important areas of life in which a large amount of time is spent. For example, a few at work ("accountant" and "the soul of the company"), a few at home ("strict father" and " loving husband”), a few with friends (“like to talk” and “joker”). And there are many accessory facets of the personality that are used less often and are activated for rarer tasks. Each subpersonality can be distinguished shades, states in which it most often happens. For example, "dad" can be strict, gentle, loving, protective, master.
Example "Student"
Here is a schoolboy sitting at his desk. He has an active "trembling loser", the teenager timidly hides behind the backs of other guys, afraid that he will be asked unlearned lesson, and then from an angry mother will receive a scolding. He is lucky, the bell sounds from the lesson, the danger has passed. The “computer lover” starts to turn on, a joyful teenager runs home, where a level 65 hero is waiting for him - a rare achievement in this game. At the computer, he plays the role of a "clan leader", his sense of self and interaction with other people are greatly rebuilt - he behaves like a leader: he is confident in himself, knows what and how to do, leads people (it is quite possible that some of the followers will be adults from 20 years old, who have a different level in the game and a different sense of self). Or an “all-knowing excellent student”, who feels like an authority and a winner in a physics lesson, and in physical education, all his agility disappears, he turns into a “weakling, whom everyone laughs at.” An example from a later stage of life is a "violent director" at work, and at home - a "gentle henpecked" who unquestioningly fulfills all his wife's orders.
In the examples above, when active subpersonalities change, completely different people, with its history, skills, posture, manner of speaking and preferences. The memory of one's former subpersonalities and what happened to them in a person can be temporarily wiped out. You can watch the children how they play and how much they can identify with their role, completely immerse themselves in it, during the game they are in their own separate world. Adults play no less selflessly, only their roles are sometimes called differently.
Each subpersonality says “I”, and therefore, without giving them names and determining the spheres of their manifestation, it is difficult to understand one’s inner world, behavior and motives for actions, it is difficult to build a system of values and achieve the intended goals, because different subpersonalities can lead a person in different directions.
Work and home example
Sitting at work at 6 pm, the "responsible employee" who did not complete the report and "amateur hearth» completely different perception of the situation, they have different goals and when activated, subpersonalities will behave differently. The “responsible employee” will think that the report has not been completed and you can stay late for a couple of hours once a month (and close your eyes, as if forgetting that this is not the first time you have been late), and the “lover of the hearth” will remember that an interesting film is being shown today and wife cooked a good dinner, turn off the computer with the words: "you can't redo all the work."
More often than not, the usual work of making lists of goals is ineffective because the list is formed from one subpersonality, and completely different subpersonalities are included in life, which have their own goals and their own opinion. A person simply does not want and cannot fulfill the obligations that he assumed before. Therefore, it is important to remember the needs of other subpersonalities, as well as to be able, when necessary, to change your state, leave some roles and include others. When you change roles, your outlook on the world will change, as well as your abilities, desires and level of motivation.
Example "Jog"
Boastful Self says he will go for a run tomorrow. When tomorrow comes, a person, seeing that the weather is nasty, a cold rain is falling, activates the "Comfort Lover", who finds "good reasons" (can, for example, use sayings famous people, choose something suitable from the repertoire of sayings or come up with something of your own: “life is given to us for pleasure!”) Or simply forgets about the previous decision, with pleasure and a little unclear inner feeling(here lies a lie to calm and divert eyes from undesirable facts) sits down to drink hot aromatic tea in a soft enveloping chair).
A person, as a rule, does not know what subpersonalities he has and therefore does not control their activation at all. In this case, subpersonalities are unconsciously activated under the influence of external shocks, for example, from egregors or through other people (see the example of “Consultation with a psychologist”). And as a result, conscious control a person by himself is at a very low level, his behavior can be very inconsistent, inconsistent, contradictory and harmful for the goals that he once set for himself (see the article “Identification, awareness, free will and choice”). At the same time, organization and consistency are far from necessarily a sign of consciousness - a person can be led by some egregor, as he moves, forming the necessary shocks to which the person reacts in the right way. The latter can sincerely believe that he himself invented everything, planned, organized and implemented it.
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Putting on some role, a person in a certain way rebuilds the energy flows going through him. The reaction of another person to the energy coming from outside is often automatic and therefore he unconsciously puts on the most suitable role, his former state can quickly disappear. Accordingly, the goals, behavior, desire and worldview will change. This can be clearly observed during constellations, when a person is told, for example: "Please, be my husband's deputy." Implicitly, this happens all the time - if a director approaches a person from the “Work and Home” example at the moment of his thoughts, then it is likely that the man will move into the role of “responsible employee” and will complete the report. |
Roles can also be dressed up by egregors with unconscious connivance on the part of a person. In Hellinger constellations, there is often work with cases where the family system imposes an unnatural role on the client (for example, a daughter is identified with her father’s former love, plays the role of a rival for mom and lover for dad. See also the article “Hellinger Constellations. The influence of systems on a person). The main thing is that a person perceives the induced state, thoughts, impulses to action as his own, and therefore, without hesitation, he puts into action.
People are completely immersed in the game, follow a certain scenario, which, most likely, has already been played out more than once (see the article "Archetype" and in the section " Higher archetypes" of the article " Loss and return of the soul") and an attentive observer knows how and by what everything will end (E. Berne in the book “Games People Play” analyzed the frequent forms of human interaction, what lies on the surface, the hidden benefits that are not realized by the participants and the negative consequences that the players do not notice, as well as ways to get out of these games, destroy scenarios). Accordingly, if a person remembers himself during the game, he knows at what points there will be a fork in the course of the scenario, where and how it is necessary to make a push so that the game turns in the right direction and ends more favorably.
A person who is oriented in his subpersonalities, and can also determine which subpersonalities are launched by a partner, will find it easier to track what is happening, more flexibly and accurately manage the game. It is advisable to learn to track the key points where you need to push. Under the influence of point impulses, a person begins to unconsciously roll in the right direction, to work out the scenario in which he was sent. Often a person does not take care of himself and the impulses coming from outside, plays everything indiscriminately: they put an aggressive record on him - he aggresses, they changed him to a gentle one - he is gentle, the leader was activated - he selflessly plays the leader, commands.
Example "Wise Woman"
An angry husband comes home, his wife can, depending on the goals, turn on different subpersonalities (I want to spend the evening in the form of a scandal or so that it somehow ends well, in a warm way). To some words of the husband and actions, the wife may feel strong impulses to react negatively, something inside her beckons to explode. Here it is easy to succumb and immerse yourself in a ready-made scenario of a skirmish in which both sides scream, consider themselves absolutely right and do not understand what is happening at all.
But let's say a woman remembers herself and activates a "caring wife" or "mother." These subpersonalities modulate the outgoing energy in a certain way. Such a state of the wife invites (or rather, imperceptibly hypnotizes, shifts the assemblage point) the husband to gradually reorganize, put on a different mask, more adequate situation. A man can gradually leave his angry state and begin to play the role of an "affectionate husband." The transition process is usually smooth, the fire gradually fades. There is also a tougher version of the change, when the wife does something that goes far beyond the script, the man can fall into a stupor, trance, and from this state he can be pushed into the right direction. As a result, communication develops the way the woman wanted it, although, perhaps, the man did not notice anything. Then you can turn on your “mistress”, and first, through subtle hints, flirting, a thawed, softened husband is gradually transferred to the state of a “male”, or from a “loving mother” to feed and put to sleep a sweet dream.
A person through a conscious change in his state can change the atmosphere around him. Switching the active subpersonality, he changes his radiation that affects the world (or in another way: by shifting the position of the assemblage point, a person moves to another world, with slightly different characteristics).
Example "Transformation of the world"
If a person used to constantly play the role of a disgruntled aggressive person, regularly got into conflicts and quarreled with someone (people and the subtle plan reacted accordingly to him, mirrored him internal state, mood), and now it has become softer and more welcoming, then the environment around him is gradually changing, becoming more friendly and welcoming, potentially conflict situations are less common, occur in a milder form and fade faster.
In addition to the "aggressor", people often play the role of "offended", "helpless", "unfortunate", "victim" and thereby form the corresponding environment. You can set yourself the task of tracking the initial stages of launching these roles and try to get out of them as quickly as possible (until you plunge headlong and forget yourself in the game), “change the record” for a more suitable one (see the technique for getting out of obsessive states in the article "The invisible world and its impact on man"). It is important to remember that states can come from outside, from someone else, and there is no need to act them out.