Anna Aksenovskaya, presenter women's practices and bodily Zen therapy, consultant of the Academy of Color Therapy (ASIACT, Aura-Soma, UK), psychologist:
There is no black color in the color therapy system. There is a close to it - dark magenta. And if you mix all the colors together, you get a shade very similar to it. White also contains the whole rainbow of colors. It seems that the simplest at first glance - black and white - contain the whole secret of color!
White
The main quality of white is equality. It equally contains all the existing colors of the spectrum. It has a significant meaning, since it simultaneously conveys both the brilliance of light and the coldness of ice. And white is also innocence, air, sun, purity, insight, purity.
Favorite color
You are characterized by simplicity and modesty. And also - naivety and gullibility, which are often used by others. You are an optimist. Despite the losses and disappointments, continue to believe in the best. Those who prefer white are usually very careful in everything, cautious and insightful, critical and somewhat fussy. They do not seek to lead and are always ready to make concessions.
Unloved color
You are not very organized, a little prone to order - both in your head and in life. Asymmetry is closer to you than ideal proportions. You call the mess in the apartment creative mess and you don't care what others say about it. Do not believe in selflessness and altruism, often accumulate resentment and claims against fate for the fact that it treated you (in your opinion) unfairly.
in clothes
White, like no other, emphasizes all the flaws of the figure. If you decide to wear clothes of this color, be prepared: most likely, you will be perceived as prim and pedantic person. And it's not always bad! At the same time, white gives its owner balance, self-confidence, readiness for any accomplishments.
White color in clothes also says that you do not accept compromises, and you have your own opinion on everything. Wearing white, be prepared for the fact that you will not be left without attention!
In the interior
Light, clean, effective. White color in the interior is always a good move. It can be used as a base for bright accents. Any vase, picture, photograph on a snow-white wall acquires a new, amazing sound.
White visually expands the space. Therefore, if you have a small apartment, in the interior of this color. Let the walls, furniture or curtains be white. But don't overdo it! In white space it is easy to "freeze".
Impeccably white, like black and white interior - an option for special daredevils. This is the most contrasting of the possible color combinations, which can depress with its severity. But in general, the combination of white and black creates a positive, dynamic impression, like the alternation of day and night, light and dark. Such approaches have always been considered win-win stylish and relevant at any time.
Black
Black is not really a color, but the absence of it. However, he has an unusually large number of adherents. This is the color of rebellion, the elements, but not a voluntary feeling, but inspired by circumstances or other people.
Favorite color
Choose black? It means that you are always ready to fight, full of fire and passion.
But at the same time, they are prone to depression, doubt themselves and have difficulty coping with their emotions. In addition, you are not always able to correctly assess the situation and accept the right decision. From this you often lose, which depresses you even more.
If you want to change something in your life, you don’t have to give up black at all. Start small with bright, complementary shades. Let it be a black cloak, but with a bright brooch and a colorful scarf!
Even such small nuances can affect your mood and worldview.
Unloved color
Perhaps, as a child, you were very afraid of the dark, and the feeling of discomfort still does not leave you. Black color can be associated with mystery, abyss, death and seem too heavy and oppressive to you. If you completely reject black, it is likely that you live in your own "perfect" world and are afraid that this illusion may be destroyed.
Another desire to abandon black suggests that you feel more comfortable in the company of simple, sincere people who do not burden themselves with the conventions of social status.
in clothes
If you do not take into account the various youth subcultures and turn to adulthood, then black is chosen by direct, strong people with above average intelligence.
Black is considered the most stylish color. It well emphasizes the figure, creates a clear, sharp silhouette. In addition, this color is a win-win option for a discreet and sophisticated look. At the same time, those around you will feel the distance that the black color visually creates.
If you are going to perform in public, black is not the best option. There is a danger that you will simply “get lost”, merging with the surrounding space.
In the interior
The predominant black in the interior is the choice of the bold. AT large quantities it creates a gloomy and depressive mood, causes melancholy, puts pressure on nervous system. It is important to remember that black literally eats up space, therefore, it is hardly suitable for small spaces.
From a practical point of view, black interiors are good - walls, floors, curtains, keep a fresh look for a long time. But this color also has its drawbacks: dust is clearly visible on it, and if the furniture or accessories are glossy, scuffs and scratches will be noticeable. However, with the help of black you can abstract from outside world and focus on solving their internal problems.
Read about the meaning of colors in our previous materials.
Text: Natalia TYUMENSEVA
Photo: Igor MAZUTSKY
- perhaps the most popular and fashionable French director of the middle generation - presented at the last film festival in Cannes his New film"", which Russian viewers will be able to see on August 29.
At the Cannes review of this year there were three works that in one way or another touch on the topic of gender identity - maybe you can’t call this a trend, rather a coincidence, but the relevance of the issue in modern society undeniable.
At the Cannes review this year there were three works that in one way or another touch on the topic of gender identity - maybe you can’t call this a trend, rather a coincidence, but the relevance of the issue in modern society is undeniable. One of the paintings, which tells about a teenage girl in love with an older girl with an unusual appearance - "" - received the Palme d'Or. shoots the biographical tape "", where he plays the cult person of the 50s, the outrageous pianist Liberace, and his lover. And, finally, a story from Francois Ozon about 17-year-old Isabelle, who leads a double life: she combines admission to the lyceum with risky sexual experiments. Under the pseudonym Lea, she meets men in chats and makes appointments in hotels, sleeps with them, but she does it not at all for the sake of money. Everything is successfully hidden, until one of Isabelle's clients, to whom she is very attached, dies ... Her lifestyle is not from promiscuity, everything is more difficult - this is an attempt to awaken own feelings, understand them and find yourself. Ozon says he “wanted to make a film about how a person feels at the age when his body is transformed. Youth is often idealized in movies. In my opinion, this is the most painful period, I have no nostalgia for this time.”
The role of Isabelle went to an aspiring actress and model who, after participating in the film, became known to the whole world. By the way, her face can be seen in the advertising campaign of the new fragrance from Yves Saint Laurent. The film also plays the famous one, with whom Ozon has been working for a long time, since the time of the film "" (2000), where her heroine cannot go from a sudden and very mysterious disappearance husband.
François Ozon: No. Source: François Ozon: “Not.
A scene from the movie Young and Beautiful.
Ozone's career, the envy of anyone creative person is developing extremely successfully - by the age of 30 he became famous thanks to his frank short films, the brightest of them in Russia were published in a collection called Narcissus at the Edge of Summer.
In a feature film, the director made his debut with the scandalous sitcom "", where he combined all his crazy fantasies. When the father of the family brings home a lab rat, with all the members previously prosperous family terrible metamorphoses begin to occur: the son becomes a homosexual, the daughter becomes a sadomasochist, and the mother tries to seduce her son, in the hope that he will feel the female attractiveness.
The transformation of the concept of "family" in general occupies Ozon, which can be seen in many of the director's films: although he does not claim that this form of coexistence of people has become obsolete, he is convinced that he is rapidly moving towards this.
Ozone does not hide his orientation, so almost every film contains homosexual lines. In particular, the film "", based on the play of the same name by Rainer Werner Fassbinder, was awarded the Teddy Award at the Berlin Film Festival (the award is given to films dedicated to gender issues). Here, the story focuses on the relationship between an adult man and a young man who are trying to live together, but over time it becomes impossible...
(for children 6 - 13 years old)
This well-known children's game is useful for many children, not only shy ones. It helps to increase concentration (which is very important, for example, for disinhibited children) and develops flexibility of thinking (useful for children with a delay). intellectual development and just slow). Well, this game, firstly, forces shy boys and girls to conduct a dialogue, from which they often prefer to avoid in life. Secondly, in the role of a leader who must invent tricky questions, they get the opportunity for much-needed self-expression and no less necessary revenge. After all, they themselves sat down in a puddle so many times, not finding what to answer the interlocutor's question, and now they can plant others! Yes, that was reality, and this is a game, but for children, the game is one of the most important components of reality. No wonder they are so worried, losing. And so they love those with whom it is interesting to play. Well, and thirdly, intellectually, “don’t say yes and no” teaches shy guys how to dodge a blow like a boxer. Do not pass, do not rush to your mother for help, but deftly avoid danger (departure from the game) with the help of workarounds (turns of speech that allow you to do without forbidden words).
Just in case - although I said that the game is widely known, but in the last ten years, many traditional games are rapidly falling into disuse, so it is likely that young parents have already played it - I will briefly recall the rules. Two or more players. The host says: “The lady sent a hundred rubles. Do not take black and white, and do not say no. Are you going to the ball?" Then he asks any questions, and the player must answer them, in no case uttering the words "black", "white", "yes" and "no". Accordingly, the task of the presenter is to catch him on this. The one who says the forbidden word by mistake is out of the game.
PRIMARY TRIB
(for children 10 - 14 years old)
Before starting, I must say that the plot of this game is taken from life. In some tribes, there are still, as it were, two languages - female and male. Women are forbidden to use certain words, and men - others. Although, of course, living side by side, they perfectly understand what the representative of the opposite sex wants to tell them. Moreover, most of the words they still have in common.
Members of the opposing teams exchange questions concerning the life and way of life of the members of the "tribe". Moreover, older children can be encouraged to respond in detail. For example: “Tell me, how do you make a fire? How do you defend yourself from enemies? But you shouldn't overcomplicate the game either.
If there are many players, it is better to choose a special jury that will monitor whether any forbidden word slips into the speech of the "representative of the tribe".
THE WORDS
(for children 5 - 9 years old)
It is also a very common children's game. Someone says the first word (any noun in nominative case, for example "cat"), the second player must name the word, initial letter which will be the last letter of the previous word ("tractor") and so on ("river" - "orange" - "burrow" ...).
EDIBLE - INEDIBLE
(for children 5 - 8 years old)
The host calls any item, and the player he addresses answers whether the item is edible or not. There should be no pauses when answering. The game is popular with children. Mistakes are usually accompanied by outbursts of merry laughter, which is very helpful for shy children. It often seems to them that the whole world is laughing only at them, and here they will have the opportunity to make sure that this is not so.
WRITING A STORY
(for children 7 - 14 years old)
The first player pronounces any phrase (for example, "it was a cold, rainy day ..."). The next one composes a continuation (“it rained in the morning” ...). Everyone contributes by adding a phrase, and the result is a story or a fairy tale. With older guys, you can discuss the topic in advance (boys love detective, adventure and fantasy stories, girls prefer fairy tales, stories about animals and school).
HOW TO CONNECT TWO WORDS
(for children 7 - 14 years old)
This game requires the participation of an adult who would organize it and act as a referee. An adult or one of the players calls any two words, and the other players take turns coming up with what the connection could be between them. For example, "cucumbers" and "boy". There can be many options: “The boy eats cucumbers”, “the boy has an oblong head like a cucumber”, etc. For each answer, the player receives a point. The one who collects wins the largest number points. If prizes are given out in the game, encourage the guys for the most original, non-standard, but at the same time internally justified answer.
ACQUAINTANCE
(for children 4 - 7 years old)
Each participant must say his name and offer other guys something that helps to start a conversation. For example: “Let's play cars (robots, Lego, dolls, some specific board game etc.)”, “Do you want candy? (cookies, apples, etc.)”, “Let me tell you what we saw at the zoo (how bananas grow, how snow is made, who are tadpoles, etc.)”. The one who names the most options wins. Even passive participation in this game is important for a shy child, as it allows you to subtly give him many "recipes" for overcoming a traumatic situation.
ORIGINAL ACQUAINTANCE
(for children 7 - 12 years old)
The players become in a circle. Everyone is called the hero of some fairy tale, film or cartoon and depicts him either with pantomime or with some characteristic exclamations. And you can appear in front of friends in the form of an animal. The second player must repeat the name and gestures of the first, and then introduce himself. The third repeats the names of the two previous players (respectively, passing on their gestures), and calls his pseudonym. And so on in a circle, until someone makes a mistake. Then the game starts again, the one who made a mistake gets a penalty point, and the one who managed to remember the longest chain gets a bonus point. There may be only two or three players. In this case, when the turn comes to them again, they will have to repeat the entire previous chain and invent a new pseudonym for themselves.
KALEIDOSCOPE
(for children 7 - 11 years old)
The players become a semicircle and call the driver in front of them the color that each of them prefers. Then the driver turns away, the players quickly change places, and he, turning around, must remember which player likes which color. If the game gets boring, next time, instead of a color, you can name an animal or a flower, or a book, or something else by joint agreement with the guys.
STIRLITS
(for children 7 - 12 years old)
The players are frozen. The child who drives must memorize their postures and clothes, and then leave. During his absence, the players make five changes in posture and clothing. Not every five, but only five! Returning, the child must find these changes. If he didn't guess right, he drives again.
The above three games, of course, develop observation. But in a shy child, they first of all remove the barrier that arises during communication. (Although he doesn’t need to be told this. Experience shows that with children it is much easier to achieve the desired result if the emphasis is not on them main problem, but on something secondary.) Shy children often give the impression of absent-mindedness. They do not remember well the first time, who is called, they often “count the crows” in the classroom. But this does not come from the fact that their attention is actually reduced, immature, but from the horror of communication. When the barrier is removed, it turns out that everything is in order with their attention.
DRAW THE DRAWING
(for children 5 - 8 years old)
A game loved by many psychologists who work with groups. But in general - it can be played together. She will help a shy child become more proactive, overcome the fear of self-expression.
The conditions are as follows: children take turns drawing on a piece of paper, trying to guess and develop the meaning of each other. This intention is not made public. When the drawing is finished, the child who started drawing first says what he has in mind, and the players compare his idea with the result.
SQUILT
(for children 9 - 14 years old)
The rules are similar to those in the previous game, but not quite. At an older age, it is better to bring more humor to the games. Therefore, the players take turns drawing small squiggles, and their task is not so much to remove the intention of others, but to make the drawing as funny as possible.
RUN!
(for children 5 - 12 years old)
Shy children benefit from outdoor games, and they need to be slowly introduced to this. It is especially simple and natural to do this in the summer at the dacha, where there are usually a lot of guys and they will join you with pleasure, just invite them.
The condition of the game is running a race. But not simple, but "with frills." Here indicative list options:
J run sideways
J walk backwards like a cancer
J run on all fours,
J quickly go goose step,
J jump to the finish line on one leg,
J jump on your haunches,
J crawl in a plastunsky way,
J get to the finish line by somersaulting over your head.
Starting these games, be sure to figure out physical abilities your child and do not put him in a deliberately disadvantageous position.
MEETING WITH FOREIGNERS
(for children 7 - 13 years old)
You can play alone, or you can play in a large company, divided into two teams. Locals meet foreigners who know only a few words in Russian. The rest they express with gestures and exclamations on their mother tongue(it is not necessary to pronounce the real foreign words, but you can add an additional element of humor to the game by asking children aged 11-13 to imitate the intonations of the Japanese, Italians, Americans or French). Local citizens also, of course, switch mainly to sign language. From the simple, as always, we go to the complex. First, foreigners ask for directions, then they can ask about the local cuisine and talk about what they eat in their homeland. Then let them describe the nature and the most famous sights of their country and listen to the stories of the "natives". And then you can completely delve into the wilds - talk about some fantastic joint projects(exploration of space or the seabed, the creation of an extraordinary robot, a miraculous medicine, amazing mechanisms that make life easier for a person, etc., etc. The players must constantly ask questions, clarifying whether they understood the explanation correctly, and at the end of the game summarize what the other side got right, and what they misunderstood.
Adults should in every possible way emphasize the funny moments in the game, encouraging the children to free improvisation. If you see that the game is going a little sluggishly and the children are not liberated in any way, become one of its active participants. (Suppose the "Italians" gestures that they eat pasta; you guessed it, but, wanting to spice up the game, you exclaim: "Ah ... Tricks? A circus? And, without waiting for an answer, you start imitating jugglers, and then - if, of course, you can - lion). You can be sure the kids will love it. In junior and middle school age such misunderstandings always cause outbursts of laughter.
Naughty Doppelgänger
(for children 4 - 7 years old)
The host agrees with the children that they repeat all his gestures, except for one, instead of which they make their own, also a pre-agreed gesture (for example, when he jumps, they will have to sit down). The one who makes a mistake is out of the game.
With children 6-7 years old, it is possible, firstly, to increase the number of unique gestures, and secondly, to individualize them. Each child will have to do something different. That is, he will have the goal of not succumbing not only to the suggestion of the leader, but also to the influence of other players. And this is not so - it is simple, given that truly shy children are very suggestible.
MIRROR DISPLAY
(for children 7 - 10 years old)
The rules, it would seem, are even simpler than in the previous game: repeat the host's gestures - and that's it. But just portray his double in the mirror. Whoever makes a mistake is out of the game.
However, despite the seeming simplicity of this game, it is not easy to win it. Children are sure to get confused when necessary, say leaning to the left when the leader is leaning to the right. Therefore, tasks need to be complicated gradually. First, the ratio of gestures that are completely copied and movements that require mental adjustment should be approximately 7:1. For example: sat down, straightened up, jumped up, leaned forward, straightened up, stood up on tiptoe, lowered, raised RIGHT hand("reflection" raises the left). Then it should shrink. But keep in mind that the most difficult thing is not when the ratio is set to 1:7, but when “mirror” and “non-mirror” movements are interspersed. (1:1 or 2:1).
LATE MIRROR
(for children 8 - 14 years old)
The players sit in a circle. They need to imagine that they are preening in front of a mirror. They made one movement - lingered for a second, looked in the mirror. Another movement is a pause, the third is a pause. The neighbor on the left must repeat the movement of the leader, not only when he starts the second movement. The third from the left will also repeat this, but already two steps late (that is, when his right neighbor starts to reproduce the second movement of the leader, and the leader himself will make the third movement already). Thus, the last player will have to keep in mind quite a lot of previous movements, so children of 8-9 years old should not play in a large squad, they cannot handle such a load.
TYPEWRITER
(for children 6 - 14 years old)
The adult leader distributes the letters of the alphabet among the children. Then the leader pronounces a word, and the players “print out” it on “ typewriter”: first the first “letter” claps, then the second, etc. If the children are small and there are not many of them, distribute not all, but a few letters, and add short words from them.
stubborn donkey
(for children 4-5 years old)
Truly shy children are accommodating. Parents almost never complain about their stubbornness and negativism. A child of a different warehouse begins to rebel when pressure is put on him. And the "invisibles" endure, although the pressure exerted on them by their parents is usually greater than in other families.
Therefore, it is useful for a truly shy child to be stubborn at least in the game. Don't be afraid, he won't take bad habits, but just loosen up a little more. Moreover, according to the plot, the donkey will get into funny and ridiculous situations. The game is played on the screen.
Everything should revolve around the donkey's unwillingness to obey the owner. Here he is, loaded from the bazaar, and halfway lies down on the road, refusing to go further. So he saw a delicious thorn and runs to her, not succumbing to the persuasion of the owner. And then he is silent when he needs to scream, and vice versa, he screams when he needs to be silent, and so on. Take an interest in the opinion of the child (but not at the very beginning of the game, but a little later), whether the owner of the donkey is kind, whether he loads the donkey too much different tasks. Maybe the donkey is just tired and therefore stubborn? Change roles as you play.
DAUGHTERS - MOTHERS
(for children 5 - 8 years old)
It is useful for a shy girl to play with her mother, who will play the role of a daughter. And in this case Mom shouldn't run the game. Her task is exactly the opposite: to completely obey the will of her daughter, trying not to bring into the game habitual stereotypes family relationships. I warn you in advance, it's not an easy task. So watch out for both!
WHO HAS MORE REASONS?
(for children 7 - 14 years old)
The host makes a statement, and the players confirm it. You can cite as arguments and some examples from life. (Sometimes it's easier for kids.) If many children take part in the game, shy child runs the risk of remaining in the shadows, so it's worth playing with three, or even better - together. Noticing that the child is at a loss, tactfully help him with leading questions.
J It's bad to quarrel, (because...).
J Lessons should be done quickly.
J It's better to have many friends than few.
J Having a dog is great!
J A five is better than a four.
THIS IS HOW TO SAY...
(for children 10 - 14 years old)
This time, not so indisputable statements are selected, and the players will have to not only confirm them, but also refute them.
For example:
It’s good to have a lot of money (someone will probably mention thieves and the mafia, and an older child, especially who loves to read, will probably remember the motif of the experiences of rich people, quite common in literature, who suspect others that they love not him, but only his capital ).
J It's always good to win.
J When people make remarks to you, it is unpleasant.
J Sitting at home alone is boring.
J Adults are always right.
J Watching TV is harmful.
A CLEAN DEBATOR
(for children 10 - 14 years old)
With older children, you can try to complicate the game “Who has more reasons?” and try to come up with counterarguments to the above (and similar) statements.
For example, the statement “Reading is useful” will not be perceived at all as an axiom for people with severe myopia (and depending on which books to read, and even depending on what time - reading at one in the morning will do the child more harm than good!).
Quarreling, of course, is bad, but having quarreled with a person who offended either you or your friend, you will feel right. And with the lessons in general - it's better to finish quickly, but if they are done naughty - go ahead, it is unlikely that the teacher will be delighted. A four in Russian is better than a five in physical education. By at least This is the opinion of the vast majority of parents. And with a dog, it's not so clear ...
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At the end of last year, changes took place in the troops performing tasks in Chechnya: the Vedensky and Nozhay-Yurt operational battalions were disbanded, military commandant's offices ceased to exist. However, the bandit groups remained, and battalion and company tactical groups from the regiments were deployed to fight them. internal troops from Gudermes and Urus-Martan.
During the business trip, I had a chance to visit almost all the outposts scattered in the Argun and Vedeno gorges. One of them was especially memorable. The point is not how the outposts are equipped - you have to rely only on own hands. I was struck by something else: here, in the Vedeno district, among the forests and mountains, where the telephone hardly works, where there is no Internet and sometimes electricity, where life and service are an endless series of trips to perform combat missions and difficult physical work for the improvement of their field life, the servicemen have not forgotten how to appreciate the beautiful. On the bedside table there are collections of poems by Akhmatova and Yesenin, a notebook with his poems is carefully stored in the safe, and during the afternoon rest, the sounds of Beethoven's piano sonatas, Tchaikovsky's symphonies and Chopin's waltzes come from the tents ...
Are there really people today who, in spite of difficulties, have enough strength to maintain real officer nobility and spiritual beauty? It's hard to believe, but they really are.
The commander of the battalion tactical group, Major Viktor S.:
About service in the Caucasus.
At the end Combined Arms Academy I myself asked to go to the Caucasus. Previously served in the internal troops in Moscow. He was a platoon, company, deputy battalion commander. I wanted to change the situation, gain experience in working with units that are fully staffed by contract soldiers, try my hand in a hot region - it was not in vain that they taught me at the academy.
When I arrived in Chechnya, I saw that many things that I had heard a lot about before actually look a little different. Not everything here is as calm as it seems. There seems to be no war here, and at the same time it is. It is not always clear here who is your friend and who is your enemy. There is no black and white here. Whenever making a decision, you need to include not only the brain, but also the flair, intuition. It is interesting.
It is important to find mutual language With local residents try to assess the situation from their point of view in order to understand true position of things. Everyone has their own truth. Some say: “Russians, go away! Don't let us live!" Others, on the contrary: "If you leave, lawlessness will begin here, as it was in the 90s." I also have my own truth: I swore an oath and I am not going to turn off the chosen path.
At the same time, we have much to learn. In remote villages, the highlanders live very close together. Help not only relatives, but also neighbors. This is a very strong bond and a very powerful force. We, especially in Moscow and other major cities, is long lost. People do not know who lives in the next apartment, but communicate via the Internet in in social networks. There is more conservatism, loyalty to traditions and worldly wisdom, probably more here too.
If we talk about the service, then it is associated primarily with certain domestic inconveniences. The outpost is lost among the hills and cut off from civilization. It was especially difficult in winter, when a battalion tactical group was formed, but they did not have time to properly establish a life. A lot has already been done: the observation posts have been strengthened, the barracks have been repaired, and a canteen has been built. This is now our home, which should be comfortable, cozy and safe until further notice.
About the motherland.
Home is considered to be the place of birth. I was born in Tashkent, where my father served at that time. But I do not consider Uzbekistan my homeland. Being the son of a military man, I lived in different parts of Russia. It is difficult to say which place, which city is closer to me. When I entered the Novosibirsk Military Institute of Internal Troops, I swore an oath to the people and the Fatherland. This means that my homeland is where my people are, where people who are close to me in spirit live. The Vedensky district is also my homeland, because the Caucasus is inseparable from Russia. Every piece of land in the vicinity of my outpost in different periods was watered with the blood of Russian peasants. Today I and my battalion are here. We are not here for war, but for peace and tranquility.
About war.
I know people who cannot live without war. It somehow distracts them from problems and difficult life circumstances. I am of a different opinion and rather agree with Tolstoy, who said that "war is not a courtesy, but the most disgusting thing on earth." What can be attractive for a person with a healthy psyche, when there is dirt, blood, hunger, diseases, corpses, groans of the wounded all around ... Another thing is that we have such a profession - to defend our homeland, which means to fight. But fight not for the sake of war, but for the sake of peace. Peace, not war, is the goal of our work.
War has positive aspects. She sweeps aside all superfluous, superficial. It is immediately clear what a person is like: a scoundrel or a true friend ... But still, our grandfathers and grandmothers, who survived the horrors of World War II, were right when, talking about the future, they always added: "If only there was no war."
About the profession.
Being an officer is not a job. It is a lifestyle that a person chooses for himself. Now I serve on the outpost. I command personnel, I make efforts to somehow improve the territory, here I eat, sleep, I don’t know the weekend. I live by this, and I do not need another life. Here I feel at home. I have the ability to take independent solutions and take full responsibility for their implementation. When I see the result of my work, it gives me pleasure. At the same time, it is not always important whether the authorities praise you. Sometimes, honestly fulfilling your military duty, you turn out to be objectionable to someone ...
When I was graduating from the institute, there were only thoughts and views. Over time, experience has been added to them, and now you are no longer so unambiguous about many things that you encounter during the service. Those qualities that were laid down from childhood remain unchanged: honesty, courage, justice. In my understanding, an officer should not be a cog in a huge mechanism, but a person who can inspire subordinates own example. And a real officer a real man must know a lot. And build a house with your own hands, and cook porridge.
About the beautiful.
Even in the field, among worries and combat missions, one can find time to communicate with art. Classical music has long been everyday life our outpost. it good tradition. A beautiful melody relieves stress, makes it possible to understand one's feelings and experiences, tune in to a working mood, and simply raises the cultural level.
Our officers also love poetry. My deputy has more than one collection of poetry in his tent. I also have Eugene Onegin. Once in his youth, training his memory, he learned several chapters by heart. A unique novel - there are quotes for all occasions. Yes, and sometimes I myself, no, no, yes, and I will write something. You sit down in the evening to draw up an action plan for tomorrow, finish with official papers and think for five minutes about something intimate - you look, and a poem is born ...
About love.
This year I will be thirty years old, during this time a lot has been experienced - there were both happy moments and disappointments. We condemn Muslims for polygamy, but do not notice the immorality of our modern life. Now in vogue free relationship without obligation and responsibility. I don't like this approach. I still believe that the key to success and individual person, and the state as a whole is a strong family with strong traditions and healthy values. Of course, there is no escape from quarrels and domestic troubles, but the views of a man and a woman on major issues should coincide. Exupery wrote: "Lovers are not those who look at each other, but those who look in the same direction." What is also important is understanding between people, mutual reliability, fidelity and trust. There should be no undercurrents in the family. Coming home, a person should know that there are close people nearby who will always support him. I’ll say well-known things, but nowhere without them: a military man needs a strong rear, care and warmth that will warm you in the dank Caucasian winters, when it’s cold in the house, there is plasticine dirt on the parade ground, and a disgruntled boss swears into the telephone receiver. In a word, thoughts about love in recent times I take on a purely practical connotation. But the romance hasn't completely faded yet. After all, what could be more romantic than a wedding at an outpost in the mountains of the Vedeno Gorge!
