Attachment to someone or something brings us both pleasure and suffering, and sometimes it seems that there is much more suffering, and then the question arises: how to get rid of our attachments?

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How to get rid of attachment

Take a look at the life of little children, but it's better if you remember
your own childhood.

I remember one incident from my childhood. One day with my mother
walking around the children's toy store and I saw a toy transformer. This
the transformer was quite expensive for the price, but it is so strong to me
I liked that I was ready for anything, for any tricks and tricks to make him
get! Mom promised that in two weeks, after payday, this
the transformer will be mine. I had no choice and I agreed. These two weeks
were living hell!) I waited with such trepidation and impatience and finally waited. I
fell in love with this toy. I was so delighted and happy that I have her
there is ... Happiness knew no bounds. I took it with me everywhere - to the kindergarten, for walks,
I went to bed with him, played in every possible way, fiddled with him. I thought I couldn't
fall out of love never. I didn't waste a minute not to enjoy his presence.
me, I seemed to be immersed in all my vibrations in him, it was
indescribable and at that time - it was a big buzz for me.

It was a week, a second, a month, and one day I realized -
that I no longer have any interest. At the time, I didn't even think about it.
not try to understand and realize what happened, I just lost every
interest.

In fact, that's all, all you need to know. At all
the rest, and with life itself on Earth, the situation is exactly the same.

There is only one single reason that attracts us
to any objects, people, events, and this reason is a mystery, suspense, misunderstanding!
You are always attracted only when you are absolutely unaware of the object of attraction.
nothing. You do not have this object at your disposal, you have no knowledge of
German And that one reason is the mystery that makes you
be attracted to something that arouses interest and curiosity within you
something. Until you have a physical, sensual, mental and spiritual
experience with something - it will always attract you, it will not give you
rest. Inside you will want to comprehend what is still a secret from you!

Now we need to understand what is associated with such a property as
attachment to something. For myself, by attachment I mean that
a person wants to have something, to possess something for a relatively long period of time.
Let it be material attachments or spiritual attachments. Attachment -
this is opposite effect indifference to anything. Attachment to an object
arises when a person longs to know something, but cannot do it
make it to the end. And indifference arises precisely when a person
striving wholeheartedly to comprehend the secret of the object, jumps headlong into this comprehension
and eventually comprehends it.

Think for yourself, what do you want most in your life?
Of money? Love? Happiness? Beloved person? Prestige? Sex? Look at
your life and you will see that you are craving exactly what you never had in
their lives in abundance, than they could not fully get enough of.

And now, perhaps, I will surprise you greatly by saying that
you have never in your life even thought about the most IMPORTANT and most important
things. Tell me, have you ever wanted to see the Sun? Have you ever regretted
breathe oxygen, did you yearn for your parents or for your job?)
boldly say that air is the most important thing for any person. If without
food you can live for a few weeks, without water you can live a few
days, without love you can live a very long time, without joy you can live a long time ... but
you won't last ten minutes without air. Have you ever paid attention
the most important thing in your life? Have you ever wished you had this
air, have you been thirsty for it? Not! Because you absolutely know about it
everything, he is not interesting for you, he is always with you, he is always at your disposal.

Have you ever wondered why you crave money? Why
you such an inadequate and unconscious attachment to them? And the answer is
precisely in the fact that you never had enough of them to get enough
them, and to comprehend them completely! Do you think rich people care about money?)
Personally, when I had periods in my life, and I had a lot of money, including
quantity in which I could afford to buy anything I want with them, in this
time I never thought about them.

Why am I writing this. To the fact that the only thing
which makes you want something, become attached to something - this is your
insatiation with this thing! When you desire something but don't dive into it
wholeheartedly, do not begin to enjoy this object - inside you arise
attachment to this object. When you meet something that you are drawn to, that you
want to receive, and if you, like a child, immerse yourself with your whole being in
object of desire, then be sure that there will come a moment when you are completely
feed on it when the mystery is revealed and the interest disappears completely! All!
There have never been and never will be other ways to remove attachment. The more complete you
immersed in the object of their desire with all their levels - physical,
sensual, mental, spiritual, the faster you will become indifferent to
this object!

Any stiffness, restraint, any internal control
will inevitably lead to dissatisfaction, incompleteness of comprehension - and this
will inevitably lead you to attachment to what you are trying to limit yourself to
Or what do you want to protect yourself from?

No fasting, no austerities, restrictions or hard
control over yourself will never give you spiritual insight and freedom!! How
the more you restrain and protect yourself from worldly goods, the more you
bind yourself to them! One the only way find freedom to something -
it is to completely immerse yourself in it, to fully live and let your soul through the knowable desired object.

A person who has achieved freedom from worldly attachments
through control has a very shaky freedom! Such a person has to
keep your mind under control all the time... The slightest relaxation of the mind can
lead to ruin, to a sharp temptation by those from which he is fleeing!

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Good mood, happiness and freedom from excessive attachments!

Each of us feels an emotional attachment to someone. However, in addition to psychological bindings, there are energy channels that connect the auras of two or more people. Such a connection built in the wrong way, can bring a lot of trouble and completely destroy your life.

Everyone has energy bindings: for example, the connection between mother and child exists both on the physical and on the subtle plane and begins to form from the moment of conception. The relationship between spouses is also formed at the energy level, born with the help of empathy and a sense of respect for each other.

But it happens that the connection begins its formation with the wrong message, based on envy, a sense of benefit or deceit. There are people with innate ability take away vital energy others through the formation of energy channels: such people are called energy vampires, and the connection with them must be removed in order to avoid serious illnesses.

However, even initially positive connection can become an energy binding that ruins your life. Esotericists call several common cases of such a “rebirth” of an absolutely harmonious connection into a devastating energy binding.

Painful breakup. When two people love each other, the world around seems like a paradise, full of harmony and beauty. But, unfortunately, not everyone love happens once and for all: there are frequent cases of parting, after which one partner cannot forget the other. In this case, a “healthy” emotional and energetic connection develops into an unhealthy attachment that interferes with normal life suffering person.

emotional manipulation. This way of interaction between two or more people, alas, is not uncommon: emotional manipulation occurs both between barely familiar people, and in the family, among close relatives. This kind energy connection blocks the yellow chakra, responsible for the will and independence. Even if manipulation has become a means to achieve the “right” goal, it still turns free man into some kind of energy puppet.

Excessive emotions. Even in good relations between lovers, spouses or relatives, a negative energy binding may appear. Its appearance means that one of the participants in the relationship cannot control their emotions and “splashes out” them on the partner, giving rise to an unhealthy attachment. Subsequently, such relationships can quickly exhaust themselves: a calmer partner will not withstand the emotional onslaught and will close, causing a storm of negative emotions and a subsequent break.

How to get rid of negative energy attachments

If you often experience a breakdown, emotional swings from tears to laughter, and also have a hard time falling asleep and waking up, you probably have a lot of aggravating energy bindings from past. Practitioners in the field of bioenergy consider the most in an efficient way getting rid of negative channels the method of "burning out".

In order to “burn out” all energy bindings on a subtle plane, you will need:

• thin wax candle;
• new knife.

To begin with, you need to be alone: ​​alone with yourself, it will be easier to focus on your thoughts. Install and light a candle. As you gaze into her flames, relax and let your thoughts flow freely. A similar practice is used in candle flame meditation, so you can use it for preparation.

Imagine next to you all the people whose memories evoke in you negative emotions. Don't chase away their images, let them become more material. After some time, you may feel discomfort in some part of the body or see how “ropes” of luminous energy stretch from you to them.

After the understanding of the connections comes, take a knife and chop off each binding at a distance of 30-40 cm from you, while saying:

“With the original fire, metallic ringing, pure thought, I free myself, I cut you off, I let go of myself!”

Repeat these words for each new binding until you cut them all off. After that, mentally imagine yourself in the center of a flame that does not cripple you, but wraps you in a warm veil, protecting and finally burning out all traces of negative energy bindings. Hold this state for as long as possible, and then slowly return to reality.

With the help of the practice of release from bindings, you can strengthen your biofield and free yourself from someone else's negative impact. We wish you health and happiness. Take care of yourself and don't forget to press the buttons and

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Emotional dependence can persist for many years, although the person may not even be aware of it.

"Kill" the romance in yourself

romance and real life– are incompatible. A lifestyle full of romance is exploited by all and sundry. These those who are not too lazy, clearly understand what they are doing and why. But the one who falls under the charm of this image, get emotional dependence as a result.

The more romantic a person is, the less adequate he is, as he is tuned to a certain energy exchange with the world. Moreover, he may not have a partner, but the mood for a “long, joint, romantic life” is already there.

A person comes to this mood, to whom the romantic has an emotional dependence. But the romantic calls it "love" and behaves accordingly. Until it is faced with the fact of a deafening and painful break.

Only when he comes to his senses after many months does the romantic realize that Pushkin was right when he said, “what less woman we love, the easier she likes us.” Everyone who is familiar with such a relationship intuitively guesses about it, but stop "loving" by force of will few succeed.

Therefore, this article is for those who would like to “fall out of love”, but cannot. Especially for those who were put before the fact of a break in relations. And also for those who can not forget the former love / partner / spouse.

The mechanism of the emergence of "love" and the emotional channel.

Where does love begin?

Love starts with uncontrolled outbreak sympathy, it seems to be out of the blue. So it is, but not really. Such outbursts of sympathy are initially MUTUAL, and cannot occur without a mood for a certain energy exchange of each of the two.

This mood is so quickly read by the subconscious that the consciousness does not have time to react and give a digestible form to this flash. If the mood is "wrong", such an outbreak has no continuation. 99.9% of them have no continuation and are quickly forgotten.

But, if one "sees" the potential of the other, "reads" the mood as "that one", the flash of sympathy passes into a material-verbal-tangible phase. In life, it looks like an attempt to talk to a person you like, invite you for a cup of coffee, for a walk, to the cinema. Even a smile is already an invitation to go further, to translate a still virtual acquaintance into a closer relationship. Already at this level, an energy exchange CHANNEL appears, through which energy flows from one to another. The channel is opened by the one who is more interested in continuing the acquaintance.

If the other reciprocates, the energy exchange goes into new form, as yet unclear for either one or the other. At this stage, the energy exchange is unstable, and can stop at any moment when one decides that "I did not like him / her." The consequences of the appearance and disappearance of the channel are usually not noticed. Well, really, who hasn’t happened when the first meeting turned out to be the last.

But if the energy exchange suits both, the flash of sympathy develops into a closer acquaintance, into close relationships, and in some cases into love and family.

Each phase is characterized by its own state of energy exchange between partners, and is determined only by the quality and quantity of energy that partners put into the channel.

If each partner invests in the relationship real action, a piece of soul, strength, feelings and emotions is equivalent, then such couples live happily ever after.

But if one of the partners begins to pull the “blanket over himself”, giving energy of the wrong quality and in the wrong quantity to the channel, then such relationships become dependent. This happens due to the fact that the other partner is more romantic than the first. A romantic lives with illusions, dreams and builds a virtual reality in his mind. happy life with a partner, wishful thinking.

Simultaneously one who more adequately perceives reality, who is interested in relationships in lesser degree- becomes the lead partner in the pair. The lead partner gives less energy to the channel, while the other, the follower, in order to restore balance, needs to be given energy “for two”.

As soon as one feels the imbalance of energy exchange is not in his favor, his Ego begins to rebel, realizing that, by the will of the "owner", he fell into an energy trap. And the "owner" is busy pumping the channel with his energy, in the hope of restoring the elusive interest of the leading partner.

It turns out that a person himself, voluntarily, having the hope of returning "love", does not find his energy to be better used than pushing it into the channel formed when sympathy arises. And on the other side of the channel, there is almost always complete satisfaction with life.

Emotional dependence.

So, the less interested a partner is in a relationship, the more dependent the other partner is in that relationship. With dependence, personal autonomy is lost, and in order to restore it, the consciousness of a person pushes him to do some action that rehabilitates the Ego.

Consciousness tries to start despising the partner so much that it would be a shame to admire him in front of himself. But for this you need to suppress that part of the Ego that sympathizes with the partner. And it hurts a lot. After all, in fact, you need to kill a part of yourself.

On the external level it is expressed as going from one extreme to another: from love to hate, from forgiveness to revenge, from admiration to contempt. A person “swings” himself, such “swings” lead to the fact that the slave partner pumps more and more energy into the channel, putting a part of his Personality into the leading partner, endowing it with his energy in him. These are energy "investments" that are invested in the hope of receiving emotional and energy "dividends". A person simply does not understand that he will never receive “dividends”, since he is already at a lower energy level than his partner.

I'll digress here:

Any relationship is built on the principle of emotional-energetic "investment-dividends", and romance is an attempt to give these "commodity-money" relations a decent look. To whitewash yourself, first of all, in front of yourself. Like, I'm not an egoist, I'm everything for him / her, I'm all sublime spiritual and other crap.

So if you hear about a romantic boy or girl, and even a man and a woman, then this says one thing. People hide behind romance in the hope that no one will see their "mercantile" impulses. And the fact that impulses are “mercantile” is known and intuitively understood by everyone.

Simply because it is consistent with the principle of energy exchange. Which says that a person, in order to survive and procreate, takes care, first of all, about himself, and then about others. it evolutionary program with which it is foolish to argue. Well, if anyone wants to argue, I propose to think about where you would be if your distant ancestor would have chosen someone else's life instead of his own.

Romance, as it is presented, implies the rejection of a person from his personality, from his Ego for the sake of another person. Veiled suicide.

But if you abandon romance and live according to the laws of energy, then the motives of people's behavior become visible "at a glance", and this applies not only to relations between a man and a woman, but also to any interpersonal ones.

Skating rink on romance I propose to walk those who are dependent in a relationship. Those who were confronted with a fact, who had a “fatal” break in relations, but emotional dependence on a partner persists.

But, back to the emotional swing

Emotional dependence on a partner always remains with the slave partner, since the channel between partners continues to work as long as one of them continues to drain energy there. It doesn’t matter if the relationship has a place to be or has already been destroyed. While one wants to return the “investment” and receive energy-emotional “dividends”, part of his personality is captured by the lead partner, although he doesn’t need it. Dependent partner continues to emotionally burn himself out and often cannot stop it on his own.

But there are still ways to get out of addiction!

Technique of getting rid of emotional dependence.

The first thing to do in a dependent relationship, or after a "fatal" break is block the energy channel between partners .

In philosophy, identity is the complete coincidence of the properties of objects.

In psychology, to identify oneself with a person is to consider oneself with him as a single whole, an inseparable union of two, which will be inseparable under any conditions and circumstances.

The lead partner does not identify much with the other person, and that is why he is the lead partner. He knows that in addition to a partner, there are many interesting things in the world and does not focus only on relationships with a partner.

The driven partner, on the contrary, identifies himself with another person, makes plans for life and for a brighter future. He does not see anyone and nothing around him.

Stage 1. Channel overlap.

So, the first step to get out of a relationship of dependence and after a hard break should be to disidentify yourself with a partner and block the channel.

Actions are key here. It is necessary to redirect the energy drained into the channel into some kind of action. Helps to go "in sports" and strain the body to the point of stupefaction. Or to direct attention to those areas of life that failed due to dependent relationships.

This is the most difficult stage, although in fact the most "stupid" and all it takes is donkey stubbornness. To load yourself on the dome with what there was not enough time for while there was a relationship.

This also needs to be done while continuing to remain in a dependent relationship. With the same donkey stubbornness.

Without action - no matter how much you push, no matter how much you strain your willpower, no matter how much you persuade yourself - nothing will come of it.

Actions are an obligatory and necessary attribute of “recovery”.

It is clear that after a relationship that promises incessant happiness and "golden mountains" of new emotions and impressions, it is difficult to do the banal and familiar. But only this way and nothing else.

In addition to actions, carry out emotional "work" to disidentify yourself with a partner.

This means that you need to consciously destroy the "castles in the air" of your illusions, aimed at the fact that it is with him that you will live happily ever after, bathing in love and joy every day, give birth to children, plant cucumbers, buy a dog, and fly on a trip. . No. Don't fly. Don't give birth. No cucumbers. No children. Not a dog.

To disidentify is to begin to realize oneself separately from a person, to kill hope for the future with him, to stop believing that everything will work out. That he will come / return / change / love / appreciate. No. You have already missed your chance for another markup of relationships. It remains only not to let yourself be driven into a corner completely.

I will deliberately keep silent about some of the effects that may follow attempts to block the channel and disidentify.

Would I say that it would be a mistake at this stage to look for another partner in order to switch thoughts and actions to him. New partner will help to close the “old hole”, but your Ego will not perceive the new partner as a Personality, and will despise him.

The main thing at this stage is to redirect energy to some other actions.

Stage 2. "Empty chair"

It is possible to return part of the invested energy, to receive, if not energy-emotional "dividends", but a part of your Personality integrated into a partner, using emotional-figurative therapy or the "empty chair" technique.

To do this, we imagine that the partner is sitting opposite on a chair and we pronounce those experiences that bother. This action releases blocked emotions. We talk until the devastation comes. You can't do this all at once.

This is still the same channel that still exists, since at the first stage, with due effort, the channel is blocked, but not destroyed.

You can destroy the channel only by getting a part of your Personality back.

Energy also works here, but through images.

How to get back a part of yourself?

Further, when performing the “empty chair” technique, you need to imagine that energy was constantly flowing from you through the channel to the leading partner and this energy has an image . What is he? A blue ball, a bouquet of flowers, a torn, bloodied heart, balloon? This Image is an image of your own energy invested in another person, a part of your personality that was given to another person.

All you have to do is mentally either/or:

1. Abandon forever from this Image;
2. Accept it into yourself as part of your personality - take your own.

Mentally imagine how this Image melts / disappears / flies away / breaks / disappears or returns to you and you take it back. It happens that part of the personality and the invested energy are so great (for example, your part of the personality has the image of a huge rock or big ball), that a person cannot accept it into himself, then you need to “go into” the image yourself.

At this stage, some difficulties are possible, when it is not possible to refuse or accept. A person cannot make a decisive choice.

This happens because:

1. in the first case, the Ego of a person ceases to “trust” a person who so ridiculously squanders parts of the Personality “right and left” and resists refusal;
2. in the second case, a person is afraid of the return of a part of the personality, fearing that it will let him down or control him. There is an internal split and fear of unsuccessful control over oneself.

This means that the person in emotional dependence experiences self-doubt, does not value himself, does not trust his feelings or abilities. He resists breaking free from the addiction he complains about because he fears that he will make more mistakes when he is free.

This is solved PHYSICAL actions. If you can’t refuse or accept on your own, then you should seek help from real people by explaining the situation.

People have to pull you in different sides by the hand. One pulls in the direction of “refuse”, the other in the direction of “accept”, persuading you and giving arguments. This must be done until a decision is made.

Often the decision is made to return the "investment", and this best strategy exit from dependent relationships. The return of this Image to own body allows you to return the lost resources, even if not of the same quality and quantity as was invested, but even the return of part of the energy gives a person freedom.

And only then there is a “letting go” of what a person no longer needs, while it is possible to merge into this “letting go” even before the heap what can be drained. This will be a small "revenge" on the former partner.

Psychosomatics in dependent relationships.

Psychosomatics develops when a certain "value" outweighs the psycho-emotional health of a person.

Often mothers, wives of alcoholics, drug addicts suffer from this. Their "duty as wives and mothers" outweighs own health leading to dependent relationships. They understand that they will not be able to save anyone, that they are sacrificing their health and fate, but they “cannot” do it differently. Because their "value" is stronger.

Because they do not understand that "an alcoholic, a drug addict" does not need salvation, and his further fall is a foregone conclusion. own desire they are not responsible for this.

Often psychosomatics shows such people that they are dragging a person on “their hump” against their will.

Emotional dependence can persist for many years, although the person may not even be aware of it. Moreover, he does not suspect that his physical ailment is a consequence of this addiction.

As soon as a person realizes, with the help of the technique of emotional-image therapy, the meaninglessness of his "feat" - this leads to disappointment, and investments are taken away automatically. And for this you need to ask the Image and answer on behalf of the Image to the question: “Does he need to be rescued and dragged on his back somewhere, where, perhaps, he is not going to?”

The answer often frees the person from psychosomatics.

So, with the correct execution of the "Empty Chair" technique, the invested "capitals" are returned back, the object of dependence is released and neutralized.

Let me summarize. In order not to voluntarily run into dependent relationship need to kill the romance in yourself , adequately assess what is happening, not build illusions and "castles in the air", take a sober look at the behavior and motives of people's actions. Respect, first of all, yourself, your interests and desires. Correctly evaluate the actions of a partner, without inventing meanings for him.published

To understand that you are tied to a satellite, practical recommendations will help.

1. A girl who is dependent on a man (attached to him) constantly wants to be close to her partner. She is suffering obsessive thoughts where and with whom he is.
2. Eccentric natures are "led" to the appearance of a man. They are fascinated only by his inflated torso, white-toothed smile, dimples on his cheeks, and not by the spiritual component. This aspect characterizes affection, not love.
3. It is easy to distinguish between two feelings by observing general condition. If you notice that at first you begin to be interested in a man, and the next moment you practically forget about him - this is attachment.
4. Many girls who are in a relationship experience a lack of love and tenderness all the time. If you truly love, feelings literally begin to warm from the inside. Such couples can overcome everything.
5. To understand that you have become attached to a man, brief observations will help. If you have abandoned hobbies, work, and other stages of personal growth, feelings are not love. You plunged (attached) not to your own "I", but to the gentleman.
6. Attachment is also characterized by a sharp decrease in the number of people with whom close contacts were maintained yesterday. Often a girl cannot experience positive emotions in communication with friends and colleagues, because she is completely passionate about her betrothed.
7. As mentioned earlier, love helps to overcome all obstacles without developing depression. Attachment, in turn, causes excessively negative emotions during separation. Many girls experience tremendous stress when a partner is not around for 2-3 hours.
8. Distinguishing affection from love will help sober look on behavior in a quarrel. If you only want to quarrel, and not find a compromise, the relationship is doomed to failure. Balanced couples always have constructive dialogues.
9. If you and your boyfriend do not sit in cozy evenings with a bottle of wine, discussing plans for the future, we can assume that there is no love. strong ties imply constant discussions and desires, common dreams.
10. Symbiotic attachment is characterized by a complete dissatisfaction with one's own needs, even the most elementary ones. At this time, the needs of the vampire partner are fully realized.

Important! It should be emphasized that the actions a la “I love you!”, Performed at the beginning of a relationship, are the norm. In this case, people are still getting used to each other, so attachment is not considered painful, dependent. The main difference is that a lover finds a place in his life for connection, while an attached partner replaces his own being with new relationships.

Attachment has a detrimental effect on the human essence. When a girl experiences violent feelings towards a man, she forgets about herself. This is where the problems start personal growth(spiritual and material), apathy and uncertainty appear.

Method number 1. Find a passion

1. Hobby - powerful tool, which allows for a short time gain peace of mind. Go to nature, sit down and think about what you dreamed about long years? Have you wanted to go to the gym for a long time, but did not have enough money? Take the savings set aside for the next present to your partner, go in for sports.
2. Haven't been on vacation in over a year? Get together with your friends, go to Europe for a week. Set goals for yourself, don't stop there. Start attending a Spanish or English course, these languages ​​are the world's leading spoken and written languages.
3. An excellent option for distraction and complete concentration on yourself is the choice of an active hobby. This includes absolutely everything: snowboarding, skiing, skating, cycling, karting, climbing, swimming. If you consider yourself to be brave, jump with a parachute or a rope.
4. Live your life, take care of own well-being Learn to invest in the future. Sign up for popular courses, it can be manicure and pedicure, cutting and sewing, photography and woodcarving courses.
5. On the this stage your main task is to think about yourself and fill the day to the maximum. If you get very tired, thoughts about a man will begin to fade into the background.
6. Gather with friends more often, visit cinemas, bowling, water park. Make it a habit to regularly go for walks, go out of town for barbecues, go on excursions.

Method number 2. Get a pet

1. As mentioned earlier, attachment is driven by the fear of being alone. The girl directs all her love, tenderness and care to the man, forgetting about her own needs. To avoid a disastrous outcome of events, get a pet.
2. The choice depends on individual preferences. A dog takes time, care and patience. A cat can be at home alone, she also needs affection and constant care. If we talk about parrots, they are cheerful, talkative and unpretentious.
3. A new companion will save you from loneliness, especially at first, which is what you want to achieve. It is important to direct feelings to those who need it. In this case, you will not lose yourself, gaining peace of mind.

Method number 3. Travel more

1. Ask your boss for a vacation. Spend it not with a young man, but with friends or colleagues. You can also go abroad in splendid isolation.
2. Consider beach resorts if you haven't swum in the sea for a long time. Lovers of sights and small streets are advised to purchase sightseeing tours.
3. You don’t need to invest all your money on vacation, just choose a last-minute ticket on the Internet, pack your suitcase 3 hours before departure and hit the road.
4. Many girls don't have foreign passport. In this case, go on a mini-tour of the cities of your country. Visit distant relatives, visit friends in a nearby town.
5. Take a camera, take a lot of pictures, print them out when you arrive and decorate the walls. At this stage main task is the search for new experiences and inspiration.

Method number 4. Analyze thoughts

1. Take up meditation. Take a hot herbal bath calm music close your eyes and relax. Think about what exactly you want to receive from a partner? Many people cannot interpret own thoughts which is considered a serious omission.
2. If you are in harmony with the mind, the answer will not be long in coming. Tied to a man girl fills with current relationship spiritual emptiness. She is looking for any ways of dependence, sending herself into chains voluntarily.
3. Such an attitude towards a man does not characterize love. Try to fill in the gaps in the other available ways described above. Fight apathy, do not go on about uncertainty and boredom.
4. Many girls want to break up with a man, but cannot do it. In such situations, addiction requires the intervention of a qualified specialist.

Method number 5. take care of yourself

1. It's time to take care of your appearance. Go to the mirror, evaluate the figure, hairstyle, makeup, smile and posture. Are you satisfied with everything? Maybe you don’t like the lack of proper hair and nail care? Or do you not like the condition of the skin, extra folds at the waist? It's time to fix the situation!
2. Sign up for a gym or sports school. Consider interesting sections (again, as a hobby). Latin American dances are considered effective directions, breathing exercises, stretching, martial arts, pool, yoga.
3. Review your wardrobe. Throw in the trash or give friends those things that do not sit well. Get rid of old shoes, bags, cosmetics. Choose a beautiful outfit, sexy lingerie, high heels. Such small purchases will inspire you and make you feel like a woman.
4. Pay attention to the perfume you use. It should not be repulsive and harsh. Give preference to light, barely perceptible aromas. Tidy up your hair, recolor your hair, change the image.
5. It is important to understand that investing in your appearance will remind you of old days when you lived only for yourself. It is always worth having a bit of selfishness so as not to infringe own interests. Make the most of your time by shopping every month.

It is quite difficult to get rid of attachment to a person if it is caused nearby. psychological aspects. To begin with, analyze your own thoughts, learn to say goodbye to people. Invest in your spiritual component, watch your appearance. Develop financially, get a pet, travel more.

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Read the article and draw your own conclusions about all the written words.

Until we understand and feel what attachment is, we will not be able to understand how to get rid of attachment to a person or object.

Attachment can be so strong and imperceptible at the same time that it really affects our whole life.

Attachment is an emotional feed from a person or object in order to improve their own well-being.

We can only be attached to good emotions and good feelings. very many people become attached to their “soul mate”, alcohol, tobacco, tasty and unhealthy food, laziness. Some become attached to the Internet, to TV, because they are sources good emotions, security.

There is nothing wrong with affection or love. That's why no need to beat yourself up or scold yourself because of this. This is how it happened. You become attached, and there is nothing wrong with your attention being focused on enjoying something or someone. We enjoy life and this is completely normal.

Dependence on time

In life, many have had attachments, for example, to the opposite sex.

We become attached, and we feel good as long as the object to which we are attached allows us to receive from it those emotions, pleasures and feelings that we like. But absolutely every person and every object in this world is temporary. This means that it is now and tomorrow it may not be.

And the problem is that ATTACHMENT = DEPENDENCE.

Of course, we don't want to be dependent. We don't want to depend on anything, but we still want to enjoy what is temporary. Any relationship is temporary.. Money, job, favorite TV show, favorite clothes, car are temporary. Having lost all this, we are upset and want to learn more about how to get rid of love addiction.

Sooner or later the object will disappear. Entire cities and people disappear, new ones appear. Or people just leave, do not want to have a relationship with a person and new ones appear.

Everything in this world comes and goes. Therefore, initially treat everything as temporary.

Analysis and self-examination

When you look inside yourself, you can see the source and the place that allows you to enjoy.

Ask these questions right now in relation to your loved one, car or apartment.

Imagine this object or person and ask yourself:

1. What happens if this person does not exist? Will I worry, suffer and be afraid of this?
2. Why will I worry? Why am I afraid to lose this in my life?

Answer - it is the fear of losing comfort, pleasure, fear of not feeling loved and being alone. This is the fear of not receiving the pleasures that we are now receiving with this person.

This happens because if we lose all these external things, we will not feel so good. Our mood will drop because we internally look for sources of pleasure.

This happens because our society does not take care of itself. Our society has other tendencies, other fashions. People live on money, they live on the idea of ​​fame, popularity, security, but it doesn't bring happiness does not bring independence and tranquility. It does not give anything to the most important person. And at the level of feelings, all this translates into inner emptiness, depression, addiction, worries, fears of losing. A hasty search begins for a way to help get rid of attachment to a person or object.

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Relinquishing Attachments: Stop Taking Your State From Outside

Externally, people can be very rich, but internally they are very empty.! I'm not saying to drop everything external, let it be - it doesn't bother anyone.

Just stop raising your mood thanks to external objects, external paraphernalia.

For example, the idea that a guy has a girlfriend makes him feel better every day. He needs to stop thinking about the fact that he has a girlfriend from the very beginning of the day. Maximum let go of the idea that you have something in this world. Find a small moment in your head that allows you to enjoy and discard it. Just stop thinking about it. Just stop enjoying it.

Do it all slowly, not all at once. It's like a diet.

At first you will feel worse. But it is necessary. Drop attachments from your life, no matter how hard it may be at first.

Live with the idea that you're already okay. You keep dropping and removing attachments from your life.

You have a loved one, but you should not draw emotions out of him in order to increase your condition.

Over time, you will learn not to think about what you have. At the same time, you will not be afraid to lose it. Ultimately, you will be able to get rid of love addiction. You no longer need to suck out fortunes from somewhere, because your condition is already better. Thanks to self-development, you find the reasons why you depend on something, discard them - this increases your internal state, your inner self-esteem. You begin to love yourself more, to be more independent.

Why condition is not important

"Happiness is a state, and the person has no control over the state.

Freedom is understanding, to which by chance and desire you can come.

When you're free, you can't be unhappy and you are no longer interested in experiencing happiness - as this will be another sensation against the backdrop of your freedom.

Therefore, freedom is much more fundamental and boundless than any happiness.

And it is precisely this freedom that is happiness.”.©

Attachment is a habit receive good condition from the outside. But condition shouldn't be your priority. The state is always changing and always different. You should not depend on it and get too hung up on it.

State comes and goes. You don't have to take it from outside, take it from within. The state should not be based on external factors.

Everything is temporary: you are already filled and independent on your own

Then you will notice that everything in your life is no longer yours. Even the wife or husband is no longer yours, because you no longer want him to be yours.

You no longer suck feelings out of your partner. You are still there, you still love each other.

Through this understanding, your relationship improves.. But you are no longer afraid of losing a person. Therefore, you know that now your state does not depend on a person or an object in this world.

Nothing in this world can make you feel better.

Not because you become insensitive. On the contrary, because you fill yourself with such feelings and states, which do not depend on anything external.

You begin to truly love yourself, becoming an independent and happy person.

Realize that pleasure is not happiness!

Someday you will lose everything anyway. Everything is subject to time.

Therefore, everything will definitely leave you. Either we or our loved ones will leave.

In 100 years there will be no us and all that we use now. So what's the point of getting attached and expecting it to be with us forever?

You don't have to be stupid no need to seek external pleasures.

We are just living this life now, enjoying it. We see how it all happens, we create, we love, we do things, we have a rest.

The meaning of life is love! And love is the meaning of life. But love is not attachment, it is not fear! This is independence! Love is first and foremost love for yourself.

And any fears and experiences appear primarily due to a lack of love in relation to oneself!

Love yourself more than you love yourself now.