First, about aggression as such in general, I think you will be interested. Aggression is inherent in every human being as internal energy. It is also a way, a form of reacting internal conflict, tension, stress, physical and mental discomfort. This is also behavior aimed at destruction, infliction on the future, including oneself. You probably know something about its negative aspects even from your own experience. But there is nothing unambiguous, absolutely good or bad in anything - neither in phenomena, nor in events, nor in people, a coin always has 2 sides. Aggression also has its own positive: since ancient times, it has played important role in survival, procreation, conflicts between tribes and nations, where victory meant life, and it was simply impossible for a kind, compliant clan to find, win back, or take its place in the world. But there are tribes on our planet who are not aware of aggression at all, they have other methods and principles of functioning. Now the meaning of aggression in this regard has somewhat transformed and smoothed out, but it allows you to protect yourself, your opinion, and sometimes life. Aggressiveness is a personality trait, a willingness to react in this way to the environment and oneself. The level of aggressiveness lends itself to psychodiagnostic measurement, everyone is different. Adolescents, due to age-related psychophysiological characteristics, are characterized by such behavior. In our culture, aggressive behavior is not approved, it is considered a sign of bad manners. There are many techniques for removing aggression. Keeping aggression inside, constantly holding back impulses, is not recommended, you need to find acceptable ways to drop negative emotions to direct this energy in a constructive direction. The elementary and simplest are physical exercises pleasant and accessible to you. Another way is to write on a piece of paper everything that you don’t like, worries, in terms of relationships, the current situation, work, person, yourself and tear this leaf, destroy it with other active in an emotional way, so you will also get rid of the very image of the problem, plus discard the negative. You can scream, break something that is not a pity, beat a pillow or get rid of surging emotions to others in moderation in a destructive way. In addition, there are techniques for getting rid of negative emotions. Find one that suits you, I like those related to breathing. Perfectly balance the emotions of walking in nature (you need to merge with it, feel it), physical exercises associated with vestibular apparatus(roller skating, skating) yoga classes, you can try dancing lessons. And you can also chat in the chat - I invite you. The most important thing is to listen to yourself, give yourself pleasure and enjoy life, live with it, do what you like - this is the prevention of internal aggressive attacks. Do constantly, every day what brings you joy (at least 2 times a day for 20 minutes, at least doing nothing but with pleasure) - this is the most important thing, what you need to put all your efforts on now, because happy people do not experience negative emotions, they have no time, they enjoy life. It is a stable feeling of joy that will allow you to perceive things differently. the world, people, yourself. It is not a shame to experience aggression inside in itself, but you need to learn how to show it correctly. The ability to manage oneself is a sign of a mature, competent, developed, adapted modern civilized man. There is such a concept mental self-regulation”- it can be mastered and then aggression will not bother you, and both your internal and alien to certain limits, because calm harmonious people perceive another person in a completely different way, they don’t care much at all, they know the reasons for behavior. Well, I already got too carried away. I hope to some extent your interest is satisfied. If you want more details about everything and about you too - write to the chat. I will gladly help. Good luck. Don't forget to rate the answers.

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"Listen to your own annoyance"

Aggression is present in every person. This is a completely natural emotion. We need it in order to change something in life. This is both a signal that indicates that there is a problem, and an incentive to act, and an energy that helps to transform the situation.

Aggression, as a rule, occurs in two cases:

• your personal boundaries are violated;
• worries about unmet needs.

Anger comes when there is an urgent need to change something in life. Without it, it would be difficult even in the most seemingly mundane situations.

Let's say you stepped on your foot. You got angry, asked to remove your leg, or distanced yourself, that is, through anger, you changed the situation in order to regain your comfort. What if you didn't care? Or does it matter, but would you be embarrassed to tell about your discomfort to the one who delivers it to you, being afraid to offend? After all, so often we feel uncomfortable showing our anger. Many prefer to remain silent and endure, which leads to a depressed state and different kind problems.

Irritation and anger are wonderful litmus tests of the inner state. These feelings cannot be ignored. Instead, listen. They do not hint, but make it clear that something is in your life goes not this way.

“From childhood we were taught to push anger deep inside ourselves”

“Today, there are more overwhelming factors: growing megacities, a fast pace of life, competition, and so on. However, I do not agree that people have become more aggressive because of this. On the contrary, I notice that more and more men and women began to think about the nature of their emotions. Fear and shame to turn to a psychologist for help has greatly decreased over the past 10 years, in free access a lot of literature and useful articles which help to understand personal problems, to understand oneself. Now there are many seminars, trainings, lectures on the topic of raising the level emotional awareness. Every person can put things in order in his soul if he wishes. And, if he can’t cope on his own, he turns to a qualified specialist for help.

Do not look for excuses, do not throw responsibility on what is happening outside. It is important to be able to be in adequate contact with your anger. This does not mean that you can yell at other people or destroy everything around. It is necessary to recognize that very feeling, understand that it exists, and accept it, and not push it much deeper, so that, God forbid, someone does not notice it.

It is not customary in our mentality to openly demonstrate anger. From childhood, they were taught that being angry is bad, you should not show your emotions, you need to restrain yourself. Especially often this is said to the fair sex: “Well, you're a girl! When you get angry, you become ugly. No one will marry such a wicked one, ”and so on. However, in equally both men and women should be aware of the legality of this feeling in themselves and not be afraid of its manifestations.

"Negative emotions are contagious"

To deal with our own anger, we can do the following:

• solve a problem that causes negative emotions;
• distance yourself from those factors that cause you strong irritation, for example, cut off contact with a conflicting person.
• sublimate aggression into creativity, work, sports, some vigorous activity. But this is a temporary measure, since it does not solve the problem itself, but only allows you to “let off steam”.

- The worst thing is to accumulate aggression inside. Many psychologists will tell you that the most dangerous person is not the one who always speaks out sharply, loudly proves his point of view, actively waving his arms, but the one who is able to silently swallow grievances for a long time.

If aggression does not find a way out, it turns inward and wears away the body, transforming into diseases. This mechanism is called autoaggression. Believe me, it can be very dangerous. But it’s no less scary when anger spreads to those who are not to blame for anything.

Let's compose a simple chain events. The boss at work constantly yells at the man. He endures, gritting his teeth, then comes home and yells at his wife, because during the day he has accumulated a lot of irritation. Suppose the wife does not defend herself, is silent, afraid to anger her husband even more with her answer. BUT! Most likely, in the end it will break on the child. And then the parents will wonder why their good and kind son kicks the dog?! Aggression can be transmitted, it is contagious. This is such an unpleasant relay race.

What to do with this situation? A man may not yell at his wife. But if he doesn't deal with working situation(that is, will not resolve the conflict or leave the company), he will need to somehow deal with the constantly accumulating anger. The easiest way for many is to console themselves with alcohol. But this is a destructive option. There are other ways. You can go to the gym, go hunting, go to the forest to shout. All these methods are good, but only in order to be discharged for a while. If you like, it is the suppression of symptoms without eliminating the cause of the ailment.

"Don't make yourself angry!"

Our aggressive feelings have a certain gradation.

1. Irritation. When a person begins to feel discomfort. He is uncomfortable with some situation or the behavior of others. Perhaps even he himself does not yet understand that he does not like something. Irritation is a feeling of low intensity.

2. Anger. Here, as a rule, the reason is already clear. Or the person simply refuses to recognize it. If anger has covered, it's too late to retreat. You need to merge with it, feel it, explain to yourself: "I'm angry, I'm unpleasant and offended, I'm just bursting with injustice." Don't give up on this feeling. She gives the necessary energy for action. And, if you understand how to fix an unpleasant situation, then act immediately, while there is strength and desire for it. If you have not yet decided what to do, or it seems that any action now will be wrong, try to calm down. To do this, you can take a walk, run, knead a pear, tear paper into shreds, and so on.

When it becomes easier, sit down and calmly think about what exactly infuriates you, what is the root of evil and how you can fix everything. Try not to bring yourself to the next stage.

3. Fury. Most affective state. It is in uncontrolled rage that we can do things that we later regret. Feelings overwhelm, emotions overwhelm, and the cry of reason is not heard at all.

If you have frequent outbreaks rage for a long time is a reason to seek help from a psychologist. Most likely, in the earlier stages, when you felt just angry or annoyed, you did nothing to change the situation, but ignored your emotions. And at some point, this snowball grew into a rage, where it becomes difficult to restrain oneself and act adequately.

The transition to rage can be sudden. A person saves, saves, saves, and then someone nearby dropped a careless phrase or a mug fell from the table, and the person explodes. It is very difficult to stop this storm without loss.

In addition, rage often arises in our partners when we do not resist aggression from their side. The above example of a husband who comes home from work and yells at his wife is very revealing. Most likely, this did not always happen, but it began gradually. At first, the husband probably just talked irritably to his wife, saying that he did not like borscht, her figure and the mess in the house. She, in response, was silent, tried to somehow please and thereby fixed in the mind of her husband the idea that it was possible to treat her like that. And the more she endured, the more the husband could aggress against his wife. After a year of such a relationship, he already allows himself not only to irritably criticize, but to yell. In another year or earlier, she may start beating her. And in this situation, we see a clear imbalance in the relationship - the husband does not control his aggression, and the wife, on the contrary, suppresses it in herself.

- Suppressed aggression sometimes transforms into apathy. When you don’t want anything, when you have no strength for anything, no goals and desires. And get stuck in given state possible for a long time. If nothing is done, it is not far from depression. You need to figure out where you lost your anger, at what stage you began to ignore it. It is better, of course, to do this together with a psychologist.

“Aggression is our internal reserve, our hidden power»

- It is necessary to learn how to interact with aggression correctly from childhood. Parents can help this child when they do not forbid anger, and at the moment when the baby stamps his foot and screams, they calmly say: “Yes, I see that you are unhappy. This feeling is called anger. I understand that you are uncomfortable. But I still can't buy you a toy right now." And then explain why you can't get it Teddy bear or a robot, whether it will be possible to postpone the purchase until later, or what the baby can do to deserve the coveted prize. Forbidding a child to express anger is easier and more convenient, but not more beneficial for his development.

Once again, anger releases energy reserves. You can't even imagine what incredible resources it opens up!

I know of a case in which a group did one thing during therapy. psychological exercise, in which the situation with the trauma of violence was recreated. The client, an adult but fragile, short woman, has felt “frozen”, insecure, unprotected all her life. But when, with the help of a psychologist and a group, she managed to get out of her repressed anger and release it, she finally showed such physical and emotional strength, thanks to which she was able to stand alone against eleven adults who kept her under the conditions of the exercise! In just a couple of seconds, the woman managed to connect with her strength and push away all the participants who fixed her back, arms and legs. This experience helped the client rewrite the situation of abuse and feel like a winner, not a victim. New sensations later favorably affected all areas of her life.

Why not make friends with your anger and learn to use that power to your advantage? There is a way out of any situation. I wish you always choose the most efficient one.

Aggression can be external and internal. Absolutely in any form, an aggressive state has a bad effect on fate and health. About true reasons many do not realize aggression. That is why it is difficult for most people to deal with it.

How does external and internal aggression affect

There is a significant difference in the influence of this emotion (aggression, this is a manifestation of negative emotions) on a person. At external aggression , a person splashes out all the negativity on others. Thus, he frees his body from negative energy.

If you do not get rid of this energy, then it will begin to destroy the body from the inside. Those people who do not show their anger and aggression begin to get sick.

So that a person does not destroy himself and does not splash out this destructive energy on others, they use different methods. For example, in Japan, enterprises and organizations make "pears" for beating. When a person accumulates negative emotions, he gets rid of them with the help of this “pear”. Just hitting her until she feels relieved.

Can you do some physical activity, emotionally directing their inner tension there.

For office workers a well-suited write-out option. A sheet of paper is taken and everything that has boiled up is written out on it with negative emotions. You can write abra katabra or just emotionally scratch on paper. When emotions are written out, the paper is burned.

External aggression affects fate more than health.

Internal aggression destroys person from within. He becomes a hypocrite. Outwardly, such a person may smile at you, but at the level of thoughts and emotions, he may hate you.

With internal aggression, many diseases can occur. Types of diseases depend on the type and nature of aggression.

Internal aggression affects health more, but can also have such negative impact to fate.

What happens when a person is aggressive

During aggression, a dark energy ball appears on the subtle plane. Depending on the type of aggression, the ball may be in different bodies. For example, if this is a clot dark energy appears in the liver.

If it is associated with the opposite sex, then the ball appears in the area. If emotions are at the level of communication - in the throat area, etc. To understand which problems are associated with which organs, read the material « ».

If this energetic dark ball remains in an organ, it begins to destroy that organ. For a person to get sick, a single powerful aggression may be enough. Everything depends on the strength of this energy and energy force biofields.

Why does aggression appear?

A person has programs laid down by society, upbringing, and the media. Depending on these programs, each person perceives life in his own way. Depending on the environment of a person and his character, there may be more or less negative energies in him.

When there is a violation of the usual picture of the world and at the same time there are a lot of negative energies in a person, aggression appears. An aggressive state is the impact of negative energies that are in the person himself.. These energies of the self are the cause of aggression.

How to get rid of aggression

The simplest and most efficient technique getting rid of aggression is observation. As soon as you feel unpleasant feeling from aggression, you begin to observe this sensation. When observing, immerse yourself in a state of aggression as much as possible. you dive into it negative state even deeper, but already as an outside observer.

At first, an unpleasant state will begin to grow, but upon observation, aggression will not come out. Then it starts to burn out. The more you internally immerse yourself in an aggressive state AS AN OUTSIDE OBSERVER, the less aggression will become. Do this exercise until the aggression leaves you completely.

For some people, doing this exercise once is enough, but for most people, this practice needs to be done multiple times. It usually takes 1-2 minutes, and with each practice, the aggressive state will decrease.

Is it possible to help an aggressive person?

If he wants it, yes. If he doesn't want to, no. It is impossible to interfere in the biofield and the fate of a person without his permission.

If someone annoys you, but the person himself does not want to correct himself, then you need to work on yourself. Someone can annoy you only if you have the same qualities . By removing these negative energies in yourself, you will not be annoyed. Practically, to work with any negative emotions, the practice of observation is suitable.

Peace and tranquility to you! Sincerely, .

Aggression is a dangerous form of behavior. This is a huge, destructive force. By at least so accustomed to count. However, aggression can be used to your advantage and directed towards achieving success, overcoming obstacles. But more often it really happens the other way around: aggression uses a person.

We encounter aggression at almost every step: aggressive and rude people in transport or a store, "skirmishes" at school or work. If we ourselves are not participants in situations, then we become unwitting witnesses.

Why do people show aggression? They protect themselves. Z. Freud believed that a person destroys everything around in order not to destroy himself. That is, the causes of aggression are internal in nature, but first things first.

Aggression is any form of behavior aimed at insulting or harming another living being who does not want such treatment. Aggression is a form with a pronounced emotional coloring. At aggressive behavior a person is motivated to harm (moral or physical) or capture another person (people).

In psychology, there are several approaches to the study of the problem of aggression:

1. Aggression is based on natural, innate instincts.
2. Aggressive behavior becomes under the influence biological factors(hormones and mental disorders).
3. Aggression is motivated by external motives of the personality ( social factors, influence of the environment).
4. Aggression is the result of a person's learning through someone else's and own experience, example.
5. The basis of aggression complex interaction cognitive processes(, attention, imagination and more) and previous experience person.

Animals have aggression defensive reaction. The same fundamentals are noted in human psychology. Aggression is a sign of weakness, insecurity, defenselessness.

Without training, human socialization, aggression remains an animal instinct. Why can we conclude that it is characteristic of immature, maladaptive personalities.

Aggression begins with the irritation that comes when we feel that someone has encroached on our safety, personal space, physical or mental "I".

Causes of aggression in children

In children, even early age There are two forms of aggression: non-destructive and innate destructiveness:

• Non-destructive aggression is a form of defensive behavior aimed at achieving a goal, self-assertion, gaining experience.
• Congenital destructiveness - malicious and dangerous behavior for others. Interestingly, inborn destructiveness does not appear immediately after birth, unlike non-destructive aggression. Innate behavior is activated after severe stress or pain.

The main reason for aggression in children is an example from the environment. Neither games nor movies have such an impact. Violence against the child is especially destructive. Those who have experienced violence and aggression become aggressive towards others.

Causes of aggression in adolescents and adults

Causes of aggression in adults include:

• aggression in the family;
• the nature of relationships with peers.

Scientifically proven Negative influence punishment for the child. Parental punishment is fraught with the following dangers:

• an example of aggression;
• avoiding or resisting parents;
• punishment that is too emotional for the child will eventually remain in memory as causeless;
• a child, under pain of punishment, can change his behavior, but these norms are unlikely to become his inner convictions.

Social factors also contribute:

• obstacles to satisfaction that cause frustration;
• provocations from outside;
• promotion of cruelty and violence in the media;
• increased excitement and unrest in society;
• excessive emotionality of a person, which makes it difficult to make adequate decisions and predict the results.

As I said, by and large, we can assume that a person is aggressive towards himself. But sometimes such dissatisfaction with oneself pours out on others. Especially on those who, in the opinion of the aggressor, are guilty of his failure.

Types of aggression

There are 5 types of aggression:

• physical (direct infliction of moral or physical harm);
• verbal (verbal aggression);
• expressive (expression through non-verbal means);
• indirect (directed and undirected aggression towards not the true object of irritation, but more accessible);
• direct (impact on the object of irritation);
• irritation (willingness to show aggression);
• negativism (opposition, passive resistance before active struggle).

There are other classifications of aggression. They can be summarized through the description key properties aggressions around which the classifications are built:

• orientation (on oneself, on an object, on a living object);
• observability (hidden or open aggression);
• measure of severity (frequency, duration);
• manifestation space (house, street);
• the nature of mental actions (physical, in dreams, in words);
• on social danger (legally punishable or non-punishable aggressive actions).

In addition, aggression can be individual or collective. Hatred, envy, resentment is also a variant of aggression.

Aggression can also be directed at external world(heteroaggression) or on, that is, the person himself (autoaggression). Depending on the cause of the appearance, aggression can be reactive (response to irritation from a quarrel,) and spontaneous (unexpected outbursts as a result of mental problems or the cumulative effect of patience). In terms of direction, aggression can be targeted (causing harm) or instrumental (winning competitions, the work of a physician).

Psychological aggression

Separately, I want to consider psychological aggression as the most popular view. It includes:

• imposing goods, services, someone's society, beliefs on us;
• unsolicited advice;
• shifting responsibility;
• intimidation;
• addiction formation;
• emotional deprivation;
• slander;
• inducing feelings of guilt;
• infringement of self-esteem;
• compulsion;
• unfair demands;
• importunate requests;
• insults and rudeness.

Sometimes true purpose is not recognized even by the aggressor himself. And often this goal is self-affirmation, coercion. For example, the same aggression in order to influence, to achieve one's own.

Forms of aggression

The forms of aggression include rage, irritation, anger, hatred.

• Rage is an affective state that is as close as possible to aggression. Aggression without rage is impossible.
• Irritation is a weak manifestation of aggression, a signal of its potential.
• Anger is a more intense feeling than irritation, but more private. The object of anger is always more clearly expressed in nature and content.
• Hatred is the heaviest manifestation of aggression. More often it is a character trait, it quickly becomes chronic and takes root.

Correction of aggressive behavior

In psychology, there is the concept of "socialization of aggression." This implies the conscious subjugation of aggression to oneself, gaining control over it, the expression of aggression in forms that are permissible and acceptable in a particular society. The success of the socialization of aggression is influenced by the model (example) and reinforcement (praise, encouragement).

To correct aggression, you need to consciously relate to the world and yourself, see cause-and-effect relationships and be able to control situations, know your capabilities. Working on yourself is not easy. But you can overcome aggression if you really want it.

1. Take control of your life. If you are confident in yourself, you will know that the result depends only on you, then you will be able to adequately respond to difficulties.
2. Determine why you are angry or annoyed. Which of your needs is not being met? How can you solve this problem?
3. Think: why are you aggressive? What do you want to achieve with this? What other ways can you get what you want?
4. Find . You must have a clear life plan, motives. Then there will simply be no time, no strength, no desire for aggression.
5. Learn to express anger in socially acceptable ways.
6. Master the techniques.
7. If you can’t cope with aggression yourself, ask your loved ones for help, contact a specialist.
8. Do not look for the guilty, do not console yourself with hopes and expectations. Take full responsibility for your own life.
9. Forgive and forget.
10. Practice and more practice. Regularly repeat the mastered techniques of self-regulation, reflect on your behavior and its results, put it into practice alternative ways goal achievement.
11. Developed self-awareness and adequate perception peace is the key to mental balance.

Aggression is justified only if it is the only way keep your safety. If aggression is a way of obtaining pleasure, then we are talking about a destructive, abnormal feeling that needs to be disposed of.

If you don't learn to control yourself, others will control you.

Many people have internal aggression to one degree or another. If a lot of it has accumulated, then the manifestations will be bright and painful for the person himself - conflict, nit-picking, hostility, these people are always dissatisfied with something, they quickly start up, slowly cool down. And, as a rule, they get sick, because aggression, which has no way out, destroys from the inside. For example, stomach ulcers, gallstones are the result of repressed aggression.

Scientists call several reasons for the appearance of aggression, this is alcohol, and love for thrillers and computer games, and personal disorder, and childhood trauma, and overwork, but, in my opinion, main reason Aggression is the inability to control one's emotions.

Fear contributes greatly to the emergence of aggression. If fear takes over, the person feels cornered and becomes aggressive. Also, aggression gives rise to claims, the so-called tails (underlived and unresolved situations are usually small), other negative emotions that a person does not know what to do with. As a result, all this is forced out into the subconscious and gives rise to an increase in discontent, resulting in aggression. It happens that a person is “evil from childhood”. By and large, the reason is catastrophic dislike, but if you dig deeper, it can be both generic and karmic reasons, causing low level positivity. That is, a person from childhood is immersed in negativity, lives in a state of compressed spring.

How to get rid of internal aggression and how to live so that it no longer accumulates? As with any problem, aggression must, first of all, be accepted. She is, and this, albeit unpleasant, but a fact, just look him in the face without judgment, from a position of love and self-respect. In every person there is both good and bad, both are manifested in varying degrees, therefore, if he has more developed positive qualities, it is considered that he has good character, if vice versa, then - "complex". That is, there is something negative in everyone, and it is unreasonable to pretend that we do not have it. Say: "Aggression, I see you, I recognize you, I agree with you." “I agree” is not that we agree to live with it until the end of time, it is an agreement that it exists now, i.e. recognition of the fact of its existence, nothing more.

Further, it is important to realize that aggression is not some kind of extraneous creature that clings to and spoils our lives, but we have nothing to do with it. We ourselves gave birth to it, it is the accumulated negative energy(the same slags, only on a subtle plane), and it was we who accumulated it, and not it - “accumulated”, i.e. we take our responsibility.

Next - the longest and most painstaking work of raking the rubble. Ideally, it is best to do this with a mentor, if you need my help, write. Need to understand what specifically, it gives rise to aggression - these are insults or critical mass tails, or some permanent fears? And with each of the reasons to work separately.

At the same time, you need to learn how to manage emotions. What does it mean? In my opinion, most negative emotions appear when we share responsibility incorrectly. For example, conflicts in married couple, Husband And Wife Dissatisfied With Each Other. From the position of a wife, the husband devotes little time to children, everything is with friends, at the TV, does not help, etc. Where is her responsibility here, let's see together: this is the choice of just such, and not another, husband; her expectations for her, her children, her family commitments, and that she decided to take on the upbringing of the children herself, believing that she would be better at it. That is, the husband should not be responsible for the expectations of his wife if he did not give her any specific promises. He can be very responsible person, but he has his own view of the family and the male role, etc. A woman often creates in her head a certain ideal scenario family life, seeing himself in him as an ideal wife, mother, mistress, and seeing her husband also in ideal roles. She herself realizes her ideas (sometimes paying too much for it). high price), and expects her husband to do the same, but the husband does not even know that he has these roles, and he certainly did not agree to their performance, but for some reason he must be responsible for this. In this situation mature people sit down at the negotiating table and say everything that is “wrong”.

Learning to take responsibility is what it means to start managing your emotions. There are other aspects, a full-fledged workshop on managing thoughts and emotions can be taken in my « School of self-love.

Sometimes, with all efforts, internal aggression decreases, but does not go away, in this case the reason may be of an energetic nature, and in order to eliminate it, the help of a specialist is needed. But even in this case, it is necessary to carry out all the above procedures and learn how to manage your emotional background. The main thing that I wanted to convey today is that aggression is not a sentence, you can and should work with it, the main condition here is a sincere desire and willingness to make efforts. Even a very aggressive person can become open and friendly. If you have any questions, write to me.

With love,
Julia Solomonova