How to create the right mental attitude?

You should not keep a bad mood, for whatever reason it visits you. To begin with, look around - how many people who are many times, ten times harder than you!

There is such little parable: “A man fell to the very bottom, lies, cries - and suddenly someone knocked from below!” Look at your difficulties or problems objectively - whether they are far-fetched, whether you have "wound" yourself - especially if you are prone to a pessimistic mood.

Our mental attitude inseparable from what happens to us in life. We are accustomed to perceive success as a combination of fortunate circumstances, the result of long and hard work, the presence the right connections and much more. Yes, it's all true. But success is also a consequence of a deep faith in the favorable outcome of one's plans.

Cultivating the right psychological attitude for success is one of the tasks of our self-development. We must clearly realize that the mood is relatively long and stable. mental condition person.

To the extent that sensations of daily fluctuations corresponding to biorhythms are normal for us internal energy, the inflow and outflow of hormones, and even the huge energy decline that we call sleep - we have the right to consider periodic changes in mood as normal.

How could we imagine the essence of pleasure if we were not able to compare it with the opposite sensation. Or, how would we know we were happy if we weren't ever unhappy.

At the same time, our obsessive desire to find the boundless happiness inherent in all contemporary culture, distorted real life. Such pursuit of happiness can lead straight to hell.

“When a thing, even a very good one, becomes one-sided and excludes the other side, the devil enters into it” © James Hollis

In the life of any person, there may be “ordinary” adversities or mood swings. Here you need to learn how to overcome them, with the help of the formation of a positive psychological attitude.

How to get a positive mental attitude?

A positive mental attitude is achieved in two steps:

Step one- get yourself out of a negative mood by at least for a while.

step two- start working on the problem, drawing up a plan to solve it.

Change your thoughts first

It is quite obvious that positively directed thoughts, such as “I will succeed!”, “Fate will smile at me!” etc. will help you much more than thoughts like: “I don’t think I can handle it”, “I don’t have enough money, connections, skills”, etc.

“Man is the product of his own thoughts. What he thinks, he becomes.” — Mahatma Gandhi

Watch your words

Compare the usual expressions: “Life is wonderful and amazing!”, “I have a lot creative plans!”, “We’ll break through” and the expressions: “Life is longing”, “Some are unlucky in life”, rude abuse. Which person do you think will reach the goal first?

Change Your Habits

A healthy lifestyle is a habit, careful planning is a habit, and hard work, self-development, purposefulness, and many other qualities are also properly developed habits.

But there are other habits, for example, sleeping before dinner, wasting time watching TV, talking on the phone for hours, doing your job poorly, etc. For the future: it is worth developing the habit of always thinking positively and not losing your good mood.

Stay away from complaining, pessimistic people - their mood can be contagious

Remember the "rule of five": you are the average of the five people you interact with the most.

Associate with happy and positive people, with those who share your aspirations, interests and dreams. Conversely, avoid negative impact pessimists who lost faith in life.

your pastime

What are you doing in free time? What films do you watch? What books do you read? Where do you visit? What mood do you bring into your life? Everything we do, watch, read, listen - everything becomes a part of us and our reality. So be selective about what you fill your life with. Beauty makes our life even more beautiful and vice versa.

Map out a plan of action

Start developing a plan to address the causes that are troubling you in this moment. Compose step by step algorithm exit from negative situation and describe everything in as much detail as possible: what do you want to get rid of first, second, and so on.

Secrets of psychologists for the formation of a positive psychological attitude

The first secret is this: Call a smile purely mechanically. Awake in a state of smiling until you feel that it ceases to be mechanical and begins to be real.

It turns out that not only the brain controls the muscles, but also the muscles control the brain - they give signals Have a good mood.

The second secret of psychologists is how to find a positive psychological attitude? You need to remember any good moment in your life when you felt truly joyful, happy, successful. Remember your state at that moment and do not let it go, feel it, enter it and experience it again.

Positive memories will make bad mood give crack.

Psychologists have another cool technique of psychological mood- make a fly out of an elephant, and an elephant out of a fly. That is, everything good, no matter how insignificant it is, needs to be inflated to an incredible scale, and everything bad, on the contrary, must be reduced.

For example,
“I did 5 push-ups! What a fine fellow, wow!”.
“A car wrecked in the trash is such a trifle! The main thing is that I am alive and happy!

Finally, I would like to note that a person with a designated goal, to which he aspires, does not linger in a bad mood. Unless, minute misunderstandings that only help to establish themselves in the chosen goal and correct the path to achieve it. Usually, those who have nothing to do, who do not have aspirations and dreams are prone to depression, bad mood.

If you have a clear goal that you are striving for, there will simply be no time to be bored or sad. Always remember where you are going, take small and large steps towards the goal and remember that for all your efforts you will be rewarded many times over.

And over time, your psychological mood will become consistently positive and conducive to the fulfillment of your plans, and you yourself will change incredibly in better side just like your life!

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Proper self-tuning

Proper self-tuning

And the brain can be an erogenous zone.

Raquel Welch

Well, why did you immediately climb into this section? Do you think I accidentally put it at the end? Or do you think that everything in life is worth getting through the bed? Perhaps you think that everything written earlier is for scary old aunts, and you flip through the missing pages somehow at your leisure. Or ... oh, this is the eternal female curiosity!

Yes, a career is made through bed, and an office romance can end in marriage. Yes, close acquaintance with those in power makes it easier to climb the career ladder. If you have a cute face and a good figure, it will make your career start easier. If you have everything else, it will help you reach the finish line, and not fall down the road as a driven horse, which, as you know, is easier to shoot.

So, what do we have at this very start? A rather self-confident and ambitious bitch who wants to achieve something in a structure that is almost certainly created and run by men. Sad as it may seem, but this is how everything works in business - there are much more smart and successful men, and they treat you much more loyally than female sharks “swimming” in the same waters. It's a sin not to use it. There is only one big "but". One possession of the female genital organ in this game is clearly not enough. For beautiful eyes and a good blowjob, you can get a seat in the reception, but not at the conference table. In addition, as my experience shows, young ladies who are far from being model-looking, stupid, not too neat and well-dressed, and most importantly, DO NOT CORRESPOND TO THE LIFE AND WORK FOR WHICH THEY APPLY FOR.

There was such a curious experience in my biography: it was necessary to create a VIP escort group for one large company, which was constantly visited by partners from other cities. Partners needed something to occupy, feed, show the city and please in every possible way. The management of the company did not force the girls to sleep with clients, but in any case they had to completely satisfy them - on their own or by calling a prostitute - at their discretion. And that is not all! AT ordinary life escort girls had to work as ordinary managers, and 2-3 times a month to play the role of "hostesses" who take care of the guests and protect the boss from drunken guests wandering around the office. This arrangement had another advantage - the visitors were handed over not to some girls of easy virtue or guides, but to the employees of the company, therefore, the proximity for guests with such employees is not at all the same as with prostitutes called by phone, whom many wealthy gentlemen are afraid of and they scoff. The salary offered was more than decent, but the requirements were quite high: taller than average, bright appearance, manners, ability to speak different topics and knowledge of etiquette. By the way, higher education how required condition was not required. In the course of the emergence and development of the idea of ​​\u200b\u200bcreating, as we called it, the Sonder Team, several more companies joined the project, having similar problems - how to entertain visiting guests.

I took up this business not for the sake of money, but out of eternal female curiosity and even a desire to help smart girls find themselves, because if you wanted and having experience, it would not be necessary to sleep with visiting oligarchs, especially since most of them (oligarchs) were no longer at that age and more in need of beautifully hanging ears, and not in another ... unique opportunity, or rather, as many as two possibilities - to communicate with the mighty of the world of this, and not as "boys from the district" and get a job in large companies, where, having applied their strength and brains, in a few months they could prove themselves and earn decent money, no longer being engaged in escorting guests. Even if you take worst case and to assume that every girl will have to sleep with guests once or twice a month, I didn’t see anything terrible in this, since everyone was honestly warned about this possibility, and the collective farm, as you know, is a voluntary matter.

True, nothing came of the idea. Of the fifty girls who came to the interview for the selection of three, whom I was to teach the “subtleties of the profession”, only two came up, and even then, at the time of the interview, both worked in large firms and made decent money, and the idea of ​​being toys for loose businessmen was theirs. obviously not impressed. On the other hand, the bulk - girls of a skanky appearance, resented only by the fact that “you still have to work!” - were ready for anything, only for our purpose they were completely unsuitable and for people of the level to which our guests belonged, no interest did not represent. Any decently earning man can afford to buy a cool prostitute. He can even buy it every day. But only a few do this, most have permanent mistresses - one proven and “long-playing” and several “weekly hobbies”. Here's the first problem for you - think about why?

Yes, men rule the world, but in America, for example, women own most of money circulating in the country, 65 percent of savings accounts, 57 percent valuable papers and 75 percent of homes in the suburbs of American cities. Yes, I almost forgot, women make 90 percent of all purchases. Reassuring statistics, right? That's just encouraging it for us, not for men. In fact, women have always had power, and it was based on the house, family, children. Most men value their family very much and are not ready to part with their children even because of the “big cockroaches” in their wife’s head.

The life of many men is daily proof that they are good for something other than fertilization, that they are fathers, and not a gene pool, they need to be proud, cherish, protect, cherish and cherish in every possible way. In my bitchy opinion, only a few deserve such treatment, and a large gray mass of eternally preoccupied and actually good for nothing men are really good for nothing and deserve the right to reproduce only because of the stupidity of many women, for some reason - those seeking marriage. Well, okay, this is not about that, although for me it’s better to give birth from smart and beautiful, even if you later raise the child yourself. This is what my grandmother did at one time, returning with a handsome baby to an average ex-husband.

The whole question is that a Man, and even more so a leader and a businessman, feels almost every day how women step on his heels, how cheeky, unfeminine and rude they have become, how they boast of masculine manners and achievements. It's annoying. Many men even choose a bachelor lifestyle, forever believing that families in the version that you now only find in old films and history books are gone, and a woman is a source of endless spending, hassle and stupidity, which, using her childbearing function, lures men to hell. Such a man only needs sex, and he can get sex without marriage.

Thus, on your way, if you decide to choose a bed career option, a man will appear who is closer to one of the described options - either an exemplary family man who is afraid to start novels at work and rarely cheats on his wife, only on business trips and with prostitutes, or a seasoned womanizer who fucked everything that moves around the office, and is sure that only this option of communication is possible with women, and it is better to keep them at a distance of the length of an erect organ. There is such good joke, surprisingly accurately characterizing men in general and bosses in particular:

A young girl comes to a fortune-teller and consults with her whom to marry. She shows the first photo, the fortuneteller looked and said: “This one does not love anyone, and he will not love you,” then the girl took out the second photo. The fortune-teller looked and said: "This one loves everyone and will love you."

There is nothing wrong with either option - both are easy to spud, and as a result, they begin to sing those songs that are pleasant to us. But only on one condition: the relationship on your part will be sincere, long-term, disinterested and aimed, first of all, at LEARNING everything that this person can do. Of course, you can be very lucky - he will fall in love and allow you to twist the ropes out of yourself, you will become the favorite and mistress of the office, instantly slipping a few steps career ladder, but this scenario is not ideal. Firstly, you will have a bad reputation for a woman who, not representing anything, just prompted the director “one place” in time and achieved everything with this. Naturally, there can be no talk of any respect from colleagues. The second point is not really a career, because if you quit this company, it will not be so easy for you to take a similar position in another company if you do not live in the capital, where word of mouth works with less intensity and speed, and for bed professionalism on Not all institutions take jobs. There is also a third point - a rich man does not part with his favorite toys so easily. And if you fall in love with another and want to break the vicious circle?

Why do I highlight the word learn to and I insist on this approach to this kind of career? For purely practical reasons. Being a lifelong kept mistress is not a career and a topic for a completely different book, becoming an oligarch's wife is a career, but having nothing to do with one's own business and self-realization in professional field. As you already know, I think that any woman can fulfill herself as a beloved woman, mother and leader of capitalist production, and you should not deny yourself anything and sacrifice something. Therefore, let's agree to talk about the same things - you need to learn how to earn a lot and move up the hierarchical ladder as quickly as possible. Not a career one, but a hierarchical one, because in the understanding of ordinary inhabitants, often a lady who is brought to the entrance in a Mercedes takes a social hierarchy more high place than an honest worker with great prospects career development and prestigious education, confirmed with a red diploma. Becoming the mistress of the rich and successful person, you combine two images - an expensive whore and an excellent student with ambitious thoughts, ready to pore over textbooks for the sake of fives.

And that is not all. This approach saves a lot of effort, time and nerves, because falling in love with a rich man strong in spirit and smart man simply, and more than a dozen butterflies have already burned their wings on this fire. If you perceive a man not as goal, but as means, everything is simplified to disgrace: you give him your beautiful young body, skillful hands and sponges, cheerfulness, always widely spaced legs, energy of youth and freshness, and he is engaged in your education - lays out all his professional secrets, introduces you to influential friends, forgives non-fatal mistakes at work, and most importantly - TEACHES YOU TO THINK LIKE A SUCCESSFUL PERSON.

If we accept such an exchange as starting point, only one thing is important: to be his mistress for as long as possible and to make communication as close and intense as possible in order to gain access to informal meetings in restaurants, accompany him on business trips and be able to get acquainted with all the affairs of the company. Let's leave aside women's snot and romance - they have not yet made anyone richer or happier. Do not confuse an office romance for a career and personal life.

If you approach the relationship from this side, you will not have to suffer from the fact that there are no declarations of love and gifts, there will be no painful expectations in loneliness and an empty apartment and thoughts about how he treats you. You will not even be upset by the presence of "rivals", or rather, other sexual partners. I'm not talking about the showdown (my practice shows that as soon as the relationship begins to "sort it out", it only says that they are no longer there), scenes of jealousy, requests for new fur coats and cars. Be taller and take more - then you can buy clothes for yourself. Yes, and your "love" is completely useless to him. Firstly, it’s easier for him in every way, and secondly, the less we love a man ... Emotions are very exhausting, and therefore leave them for another time, place and person, it’s better to think about how to win attention (about love for now and out of the question!) rich man.

Bosses are busy people, and therefore they try to reduce relations with women to a pleasant and relaxed minimum, that is, there is already pleasure, but there are no headaches yet. Many young ladies with the inflated conceit characteristic of youth, as soon as the boss pays attention to them, begin to build castles in the air and plans almost to raise grandchildren. Stop, otherwise nothing will work. Men have affairs at work not because you are so wonderful and he could not resist, was subdued by a wave of your eyelashes ... Leave this nonsense for women's novels, which are written by terrifying virgins of pre-retirement age. Men approach life more pragmatically: a lover (s) at work is cheap and convenient. You can pull it out anywhere at any time, and without listening to a bunch of reproaches, because the women who are subordinate are very accommodating and nice - he turns out to be the boss in bed !!! And there will be a desire to scratch your tongue - you don’t need to painfully come up with a topic - you can also hold a planning meeting, right there, in bed.

Or here's another little plus of an office romance and you have a "hook for catching" - all bosses love gossip and are very interested in what they say about them in the team. Being a lover, you can easily play on this, and the topic of conversation is inexhaustible - intrigue is easy to empty place weave if you need it.

So a mistress in submission is convenient, cheap, simple and exciting. You can even arrange a whole competition - "Miss Office-200 ..." This is how rich men restore the collapsing balance of the sexes, which for centuries kept a woman at the cradle stove and forced to endure all the antics of a man just because he is "a breadwinner-drinker, and from people ashamed". Love affair at work in this situation for a man - a heavenly paradise. He gets a sexual partner who agrees to everything and does not spend a penny on winning and keeping her - she is kept better than any candy bouquets by the fear of losing her job and the hope of becoming the main favorite.

But a week or several months pass, and the favorite changes. And for the most part, not because the man is tired of this “hole”, but because of the female stupidity, which makes us believe that everything that has been inside us should be forever and immensely grateful to us for this. A modest employee gradually turns into a capricious girl who works worse and behaves more and more impudently, and here it is time to change her.

I offer you a completely different scenario, in which it will not matter whether HE loves you or not, and who HE does not really matter. You will simply become the height of convenience and comfort for him - no scenes and scandals for you, continuous achievements in work, a cozy house in which you can look "for a glass of tea" after a hard labor day, and the company of an outstanding, always cheerful and ready for sex woman. They don’t change THIS, they don’t refuse SUCH, and if they “leave for a walk”, then for a short time they return with gifts and a guilty head.

Being a mistress is an art that hetaeras and geishas taught almost from the cradle. But no one bothers you to do self-education - think in advance how to make a man laugh or distract him from thoughts about work (one of the most important skills!), what topics he is interested in talking about, and what do you understand about it. It would be nice not only to become a know-it-all, but also to show that you are a person with your own views and "theories" - as I call them. As you can see, having one vagina is clearly not enough for such a role, and you still need to look like a doll, so that his friends look at you with oily eyes and secretly slip their business cards under the glass in a restaurant.

There is nothing complicated in all this, if you do not behave like a fool in love, but go step by step towards the intended goal. At the beginning of a relationship, it's important not to spoil everything with silly chatter about girlfriends, movies, or new clothes. For men, especially businessmen and big bosses, these conversations, to put it mildly, are of little interest. So first talk ... about work! In the end, this is what you understand, which he is probably interested in, which will increase his assessment of you as a specialist. And, of course, listen more. All big bosses are used to "round the clock", so just learn to say yes in time and forget about all the womanish tinsel that your head is stuffed with. Imagine yourself as the Scarecrow who came to the Great and Terrible Goodwin for brains.

The other extreme is blind reverence and admiration. It's not your fault, but low self-esteem, which drags you for life to take a knee-elbow pose. This is not good. I recall an anecdote that I often use for self-tuning when I have a conversation with some very famous or cool comrade. I apologize in advance for the obscenity, otherwise the whole anecdote loses its zest.

Forest animals come to the Serpent Gorynych and ask for his protection from a little donkey, who fucked them randomly, in different places and, of course, against consent. The Serpent was surprised, but flew to the showdown.

Arrives at a clearing where a small donkey is standing. The legs are cowardly, the ears are hanging, the eyes are frightened.

– What's scary? - asks the Serpent Gorynych with three heads at once.

– It's scary, you haven't fucked such terrible ones yet.

In principle, everything in life and business is like this - at first it’s scary, and then it’s pleasant. And so we move on to next question- how to choose the right lover so that with his help you become one of the key figures in a large firm or organize your own business.

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You, and only you, are the most important person in your life. But what about loved ones, children, relatives, friends? Believe me, the more happiness shines in the eyes, the more often you “spoil” your own ego (in good sense), the brighter and happier the world around you is. Give a good mood to your loved ones and relatives, which will return to you with a sincere smile, warm hugs of a child, enthusiastic compliments (and not only) from your husband, joy and warmth of your parental home.

Positive thoughts, attitude will give the desire not only to exist, but to feel, rejoice and experience every day amazing life. 7 surprisingly simple, soulful affirmations will help you find pieces of happiness in any event:

1. I believe in my dreams

   Belief in yourself is that little “perpetual” motion machine that leads you through life, not letting you turn off the path. Dreams tend to come true, so you need to be prepared for the chance that Lady Fate will give you.

2. I do my best everyday

   One step on the way to a dream - small or big - is already a huge victory over yourself. Remind yourself constantly that all actions, thoughts, feelings lead you to the goal. Learn from mistakes - your own or others', perceiving them as a chance for continuous development.

3. I love myself the way I am

   Looking at yourself in the mirror in the morning, smile at your own reflection and say: "I love you." Remember, as in the cartoon about Little Raccoon: life will definitely give you its smile. Accept yourself with all the shortcomings, be proud of the virtues. Only a happy, self-sufficient woman is able to give love, joy to others.
   

4. I am responsible for my own happiness

   No one can come and give you a positive, great mood and harmony. You are responsible for your own happiness. Dissolving, sometimes, in her beloved, giving her soul and heart to children, a woman loses herself, forgetting about the truth: the search for happiness will not bring success as long as they are aimed at external world.

5. I accept responsibility for own life

   Problems, worries and sorrows make you stronger. Remember that the Universe gives us a feasible burden, offering us to think and do correct conclusions. Whining and complaining: "Well, why, for what?" - will not bring success. Get used to being responsible decisions made weighing the consequences of their actions, thoughts, actions.
   

6. The best is yet to come

   Repeat these words often. Believe that even if today the day did not turn out the way you planned, it means that for some reason it was necessary. Faith in the best, confidence, positive attitude will begin to attract positive, unexpected and very pleasant surprises into your life.

7. I'm grateful for every day

   Appreciate every day for what you have in your life. Change own attitude to what you cannot influence by making efforts to achieve those goals that are subject to you. Thank the Universe for the miracle of feeling and enjoying the gentle sun, the first flowers or the pouring rain; to love loved ones, feeling their warmth and care, to live at last! After all, life is so multifaceted and interesting.

What helps a person cope with difficult situations in life, experience failures with less emotional upheaval? What makes you think of any obstacles that arise on the way as feasible and easily overcome? What draws a smile on a person's face that remains even in difficult moments of his life? A positive attitude, a positive mood - that's the answer to these questions.

A positive mood is manifested in a deep belief in oneself, in the confidence that luck will not leave us, that no matter what the obstacle, we will still overcome it.

optimistic mood carries a lot good points! positive attitude improves performance and affects both the physical and mental well-being of a person. Positive mood creates self confidence(however, vice versa, a high self-evaluation sets us up for positive tone- vicious circle)). Positive people are drawn to others.

To create and maintain a positive mood in any life situation, do the following exercises:

1. The first exercise in creating a positive mindset is to keep the good things in your life in mind. Memories, life episodes, thinking about which a smile appears on your face, should always be at hand. When a positive mood leaves you, when it seems to you that the whole world is against you, remember these pleasant moments and laugh heartily.
2. Look for the good even where it would seem that it cannot be, change your attitude towards failure. Even from the most difficult and unpleasant situations, extract positive moments. For example, by solving a problem that has arisen, you learn, acquire knowledge, life experience. And if a similar situation arises in the future, you will deal with it more effectively. Without losing self-control crisis situations we build character. The proverb - “For one beaten they give two unbeaten”, just says this.
3. In moments of weakness, when a positive attitude leaves you, communication with a cheerful, cheerful person will return you to right direction. And vice versa, if a tense situation arose in your environment (in a work team, in a circle of friends, in a family), skillfully dilute it with positive, because your good mood depends not only on personal well-being, but also on the mood of all those around you.
4. Praise yourself for a job well done. Praise should not be empty, it should be justified. Those who keep a diary can be advised to write down their victories and achievements in it, and in moments of doubt and emerging uncertainty, look inside. it great way cope with low self-esteem and cheer yourself up.
5. Huge boost of energy and positive mood occurs after morning exercise. If you barely got up and woke up at your desk only in the afternoon, then it is difficult to count on a positive attitude. Do morning exercises, take a contrast shower, make small runs.
6. Smile more often. Even by forcing yourself to smile, you will experience a surge of positive mood. A sincere smile contributes to the production of endorphins (hormone of joy), which allows you to cope with stress and pessimistic moods.
7. A positive mood often arises from contemplating the views of nature around us: enjoy the movement of clouds, the rustle of trees, the sunrise, the rainbow, the surf ...

Naturally, problems cannot be solved by a positive attitude alone, and with this article I do not want to say that we must always wear rose-colored glasses. But even if the world around us does not live according to the laws of our positive mood (here one could argue, but what about the power of thought, visualization, etc.), all the same, this mood affects us and our success in life.

If we can create a positive attitude for every day we will achieve amazing results! Let's see, a positive attitude - what it is, how to be positive and set yourself up for it. A positive attitude needs to be created by ourselves, unlike a pessimistic one, which has a habit of forming automatically in our minds.

Positive attitude - what is it and how is it formed?

Ours instruct our thoughts and then our body to act in a certain way. Thanks to them, we perceive the world from a certain point of view. In the end, all our success in life depends on which point of view to look at this world to choose.

A positive attitude is a state when a person is confident in the positive outcome of a business or the occurrence of an event.

Our beliefs are so rooted in our consciousness that changing them is a rather long and painstaking process of working on ourselves, unlike changing our mood. If you believe in something, then you will act in accordance with your belief. If you are convinced that the goal is real for you, that you deserve it, then you are guaranteed to achieve it.

How to be positive every day?

Many of you are interested in how to always be positive. Let's see how to do it.

A daily positive attitude will help us create and deeply imprint positive beliefs, give us faith in our strength, in the achievability of plans and intentions. The negative that was planted in our minds in childhood due to pain or negative experience, can be replaced by a positive one. To do this, every day you need to force yourself to believe that all your plans are up to you!

Faith in your own strength, in your abilities and ability to achieve what you want means much more to achieve success than luck, circumstances, consultations with a coach combined. The positive belief that there is a way out in any situation makes you look for options, appeals to the subconscious, intuition, memory, thereby activating your nervous system taking her out of her comfort zone to the next level.

Remember: “According to your faith, be it to you!”?

Believe in yourself! Be positive!

If you want to become a successful person, think positively, believe in yourself. The way you see yourself, how you evaluate yourself, how you evaluate your talents, human qualities, knowledge and experience, yours - all this determines your behavior, and hence the results of your work, and hence your success in life. Confidence and frequent repetition of thoughts such as “I am a good salesperson”, “I am a great organizer” strongest impact on our subconscious, then on actions, and in the end - on results.

There are very good example the impact of our beliefs on a person. Imagine an iceberg floating in the ocean. The tip of the iceberg is our behavior, and its underwater, hidden part is our beliefs, which are not visible and whose load carries us in a certain direction. Moreover, there is a direct relationship: the deeper our belief is rooted, the stronger it has an impact on our subconscious.

How to be positive day by day? instill in yourself positive thoughts, faith in your own strength or let everything take its course - it's up to you. Just do not forget that beliefs have a habit of unexpectedly coming true. Therefore, it will be better if beliefs are directed in the right direction, in the direction we need, helping to achieve the goal in short time and without much effort.

People tend to seek confirmation of their beliefs. Just think, if you think badly of yourself, then you yourself will create situations where you will prove yourself with bad side!!! And the more sensory experience we have that confirms the belief, the stronger the belief becomes.

How to understand yourself?

To understand in which direction you are moving and what needs to be changed, follow these steps:

• Be clear about your core beliefs.
• Analyze beliefs one by one. To what extent do your beliefs help you achieve your goals?
• Analyze what behaviors the chosen beliefs entail.
• If the beliefs seem negative to you, replace them with positive ones that are most relevant to your goals.

So, to define your own negative beliefs and create a positive attitude for every day, you need to write down on a piece of paper all the actions that you did during the day. Then think about what prompted you to commit these acts and remember what you were thinking at that moment - what internal dialogue you heard. Write everything down on paper.

The next day, write down your actions again. Do their analysis. Repeat for a few more days.

After a while, you will notice that your beliefs are repeated and cause similar actions. Beliefs can be different, for example:

• “I don’t feel comfortable in companies where there are a lot of people”
• "I suffer from my loneliness."
• "I have a bad memory"
• "I concentrate with great difficulty"
• "I will never get a promotion"
• "I don't understand math because I'm a humanist"
• "I do everything slowly"
• "I will never succeed like my parents"
• "I'm late all the time."

Now ask yourself if your beliefs match yours. life goals? If not, then you need to urgently change your mood to a positive one, otherwise your beliefs will influence your will more and more strongly and weaken it day by day.

Now let's transform the will-debilitating negative statement into a positive one with the help of the following exercise.

Belief Substitution Exercise

1. We start by deciding what belief we will work on and how exactly it prevents you from moving towards your goal.
2. Come up with something new positive belief instead of the previous one. Ask your inner voice do you really want it? State the statement in dynamic form, i.e. in the form of an action (learning, selling, getting slimmer ...), and not a statement.
3. Take 6 sheets of A4 paper and on each of them write one line: 1 - current belief, 2 - ready for criticism, 3 - museum of outdated beliefs, 4 - desirable beliefs (what beliefs are needed), 5 - ready to accept new beliefs (life lessons), 6-holy (high significance).
4. Lay the sheets on the floor in a counterclockwise direction.
5. Stepping on each of the pieces of paper, try to remember your experiences in each of these situations.
6. Going to the “current belief” sheet, think about how exactly this belief weakens your will.
7. Go to the “ready for criticism” sheet and look for at least 3 judgmental remarks about the current belief.
8. Go to the "museum of obsolete beliefs" and imagine how your belief is transferred to the museum. Now it is in the past.
9. Go to the "desirable beliefs" sheet. Think about the belief as it should be. Now imagine that you have this belief.
10. Now go to the “Ready to Adopt a New Belief” sheet and imagine yourself ready for a life change due to a change in belief.
11. Then go to the “holy” sheet and think about how important and meaningful the new belief is to you.
12. Now move back to the “current beliefs” sheet and note the changes that have happened to you.

This exercise is especially effective if you can feel strong feelings. It can be used to change any beliefs, both individually and in groups.